444: Learn the success triangle

That's going to be one of the things that's going to separate you from the pack, is your ability to execute in a timely manner. So even if someone is smarter than you, if they're not executing, you're actually going to win through your execution. Because even if it's the wrong decision, you are getting feedback. So you're getting feedback faster, which is the whole point. Welcome to the Earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of The Bliss Project, 3 Time Fitness World champion, fitness expert and cover model, turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur, entrepreneur and author. Each week I'll bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears, connect to your soul and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life, business and relationships. We don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough. We take what we want and we anoint ourselves, get ready to earn, own and unapologetically rock your happiness every single day. 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So instead I walk away and I go do something that you know, because resistance is pushing me away from it. So I go listen to the resistance and I go do something to kind of either numb out or you want to know what us smart entrepreneurs do? The smart not so smart. What we do is we can be so good at telling ourselves what we want to know and what we want to be thinking that I can actually go and tell my I can actually go and do something that I'm good at to make me feel like I'm doing something productive. And I'm still okay, even though I'm avoiding making a tough decision or a new turn or a new pivot or a new step that I need to make or learn something new. So there's a lot of things that I know in my business that I need to get better at, such as implementing some really good systems, doing a really good onboarding process. And instead of doing those things or instead of doing the things that I need to know in my business, I'll be like, okay, well, I'm gonna go focus on this or I'll go record a podcast or I'll go book something over here that I'm great at because it's a distraction to the thing that actually needs to get done. So indecision is A decision to suffer. And I noticed that feeling of like, yeah, but you still haven't done this and you need to make time for it is actually this horrible feeling of like, oh my gosh, I'm choosing suffering by putting something off that I know needs to happen. And you guys, we do this all the time. Like indecision over a tough conversation we have to have. Well, I don't know what I'm going to say. I don't know when it's going to be. Well, sit and plan those things then. Because if you are in indecision over something, you're in suffering. So I came up with, and I came up with sort of these words that are really helping me to move forward and execute. So I want you to picture this as a triangle. And it's an ever. Like this is an ever moving triangle. Literally it's like a triangle of flow. So why don't we picture like soft corners on this triangle and at the top it'll say ask. To the right it'll say execute. To the bottom left it says analyze. And whenever, I don't know, something that I do is ask. And ask can also include Google. So ask, figure out, get as much data as you can on the thing that you are questioning. So oh my God, I don't know where to start with systems. I don't know where to start with proced. Okay, is there a book Ask everything and exhaust it. Ask and exhaust. So actually just ask and exhaust at the top. If you have not asked and exhausted, you can't yet move on to the next. So ask, exhaust, get all of your answers and then when you get one that's a little bit more clear. You guys, an answer, an answer doesn't mean you ever feel 100%, you're never going to ever. So ask and get as much data as you can until you can be like, okay, I feel fairly educated on this. Now I'm going to execute. So execute. And here's the thing, you guys, time is of the essence. A lot of us, like that is our. That's going to be one of the things that's going to separate you from the pack is your ability to execute in a timely manner. So even if someone is smarter than you, if they're not executing, you're actually going to win through your execution. Because even if it's the wrong decision, you are getting feedback. So you're getting feedback faster, which is the whole point. So of course you want to make really smart decisions, especially if you are dealing in an area with Either a lot of money or, you know, it could be something that could really affect your team or your structure or your company or whatever that is. Those are going to take a lot more time as far as asking and exhausting. But you still, time is of the essence even with that. So you're still going to have to execute. And I believe that you don't like your business or your life or those like whatever you are doing will not collapse until you've decided to collapse. So I believe that until the last breath is gone, until the last dollar is gone, until you can't pay your people, until you can't figure it out, until you haven't talked to everyone, you are not done yet. Like, if you're done, it's because you've decided to be done, not because you've asked, exhausted, gotten coaching, used everything that you could to do it. And then there are also smart decisions sometimes when it is time to decide to be done. But that usually doesn't come until you are just like, have I literally actually tried everything? So at the top of the triangle we have ask and exhaust. So the next, bottom right, is the execute. And that's the only place where you are going to get your feedback. That's it. That's it. So if you are not there yet, you actually don't know what your audience wants, you actually don't know what's good for the company, you actually don't know what's gonna get your results. So you have to take this step. So you're moving down to that step as fast as you can. And in the next left, what you're gonna do then is analyze what came out of executing. So you wanna look and you wanna get the feedback and you wanna say what was good, what was bad, what worked. Okay, moving on. So you're gonna take that lesson and you're gonna move to the next decision or the next problem or the next thing you're solving. Problems have a bad rap. Problems are amazing. Problems are the way through. Problems are the building blocks in which a strong, powerful company is built. Without problems, you're actually not getting to grow and make that structure stronger. So look at them and say, this is great. This is a beautiful way to start learning to grow and have your team embrace that culture too. If you have a team partner, embrace that culture. If you have a partner, like within your marriage, within your friendship, whatever that is. Like, problems are actually beautiful because they strengthen you at the core. If you move through this triangle quickly. So analyze what came out of it, what do you need to know? What can you do better next time? What did it work? What didn't work? And then you move to that triangle again. Next problem. Ask and exhaust. Execute. Analyze.

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Here's the thing about the triangle. None of those points, none of those spots are meant to be home base. They are literally meant to be vacation spots. It's where you are visiting at different times and at different lengths. But it is never permanent. So if you start to feel like you are taking up residence somewhere, it's that you are deciding to be an indecision and you're deciding to suffer. So move through faster. This triangle, like I said, has soft edges. It's flowing. It's literally made of water. So nothing is stopping you. Nothing is stopping. This is an actionable triangle. Get a tattoo, whatever you need to do to move forward. And this is gonna be the thing that's gonna propel you forward, you guys. So I'm so grateful for you. I hope that this really helped you understand, like, don't get stuck anywhere. Don't build a home there. This is flowing. This is great. That energy of even frustration is powerful. Let it fuel you.

Let it.

You guys, I don't do anything without asking for help. If I'm stuck, I'm like, who can I ask? Who can I ask? Who can I ask? Who can I ask? Who can I ask? And I write that all down and I make the calls and I put them in my calendar and I get the help that I need as quickly as I possibly can. Because I'm not gonna sit in that place and be like, well, I don't. I don't know is a decision to suffer. I don't know is a decision to suffer. I don't know is a decision to suffer. Don't choose that. Do not choose that. Go and ask ask stupid questions. I ask so many stupid questions. And you know what? My stupid questions are the most brilliant questions I've ever asked in my entire life. So every time I hear that, I'm like, you know what if I was to stay stuck. It's because of my own ego that says this is not a good question. How are you supposed to have good question if you don't ask every single question? You don't even know what a good question is yet. You guys, like, have some grace on yourself. You are a freaking rock star. You are so amazing for taking something on like this. You are, like, literally doing things that other people won't. I want you to get so damn proud of yourself that maybe some tears fill your eyes right now because you are just doing it. You are in the fire. You are getting expanded. You are recognizing your brilliance. You're recognizing your weaknesses. Oh, my God. It is the coolest place to recognize your weaknesses and realize that you are finding the people to help you, because your dream is not an individual sport. Your dream is going to take a dream team, and they're going to be so grateful that you have this dream and that you needed help because you're enlisting your dream players and it's helping their dreams come true. So we have to get over any part of the ego that's like, you know, oh, this is. This is, like, not feeling good. I'm not feeling very great about this. I'm not smart. I'm asking stupid questions, you guys. That is where it's gonna. That is where the magic unfolds like that. Being unsure, that uncertainty. That is where all of the magic is going to happen. That is where you start asking deeper questions, better questions, where you get new people into your life who have totally different answers. New people that you would never enlist in your life unless you had these questions or these struggles. And you're gonna be like, oh, my God, this person totally isn't like me. I don't even know if we have common ground. And then you're gonna just have this moment of we're all humans, and this is so powerful to, like, be connecting with these completely opposite people that I would never connect with and learning these new strengths and learning communication and learning that, oh, my God, the bad stuff is the good stuff. The bad stuff is where we grow. Like, you won't even have these feelings around the stuff that used to be negative, because you learn that's where the strength comes in. So, you guys, I'm sending you so much love today. Let me know what your takeaways were from this podcast. I'm just gonna tell you, like, in order for this podcast to grow, it's when you guys share. It's when you text it, especially to your friends who, you know, need it. So if you know somebody who is in this place of indecision or suffering or I'm not sure if you text them this podcast right now, that would mean the absolute world to not only me, but I'm sure to them and you guys. Sending you so much love. Thank you for always sharing. You are the ones getting this out there because it's legit. I'm not doing anything else with this podcast besides your voice right now, so thank you so much. And until next time, earn your happy. Bye everyone. Thank you guys so much for spending this time with me on the earn your happy podcast. I am so glad that you stopped by. If you could take one second to share this episode with someone you think would love it, that would be absolutely amazing and we would be forever grateful. Also, please leave us a review if you feel so moved by going to itunes and leaving us an honest thought, an honest comment. Tell us what you think, tell us what you want to hear more of. It would really help us out on our journey to helping thousands and thousands of people. Until then, don't forget to earn your happy. Thanks again guys. Bye bye.