449: Questionably Awesome - Your burning questions about RELATIONSHIPS answered

You can still support your spouse and partner without being at all the events or not having the same interests. And I feel like those non negotiable things are kind of like the little things that you do for you to set yourself up to be a better partner.

Welcome to the Earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of The Bliss Project, 3 Time Fitness World champion, fitness expert and cover model, turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur and author. Each week I'll bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears, connect to your soul and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life, business and relationships. We don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough. We take what we want and we anoint ourselves, get ready to earn, own and unapologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are you with me? Here we go, foreign. Welcome back to another episode of Questionably awesome where I'm here with my not so questionable sidekick, Evans. How are you this morning?

I am great. How are you?

You know, I am so awesome. And you have just the hugest, most life changing thing coming up this weekend.

Yes.

What is that?

I am going to get married.

Is that the craziest? Okay, so you know those moments where before you met Adam, you were like, oh my God, when is this? Like, what were you doing to attract somebody? Were you like going out with nipple tassels? Constantly?

Nipple tassels? Just naked. Just going out naked to bars and seeing what was happening, like flashing people.

If you get me an amaretto sour, I'll show you what's underneath here.

An amaretto sour. The things we do.

I know, to attract a mate, you know. Clearly it worked.

Let me tell you. Amaretto sours are the way.

Seven amaretto sours later and you got yourself a partner.

It is weird though, being back home and like, like last night we went to this restaurant and I went to the bathroom in there and I was like, whoa, I've been on dates and used this bathroom. You know what I mean?

And now I'm really used it or like you.

This date? No, just, just, just a TT Just your standard TT and handle.

That is crazy. So you're in Charleston?

Yes.

Okay. Back in Charleston. So you probably. It's just the craziest thing, you know, I don't know if this ever happened to you, but before I was married, I would have dreams about getting married and like I could not see his face or it would be somebody that I like didn't like, at all. And I'm like, why am I marrying this person? And it was so weird because it was always in the. This church that I grew up in. And I was always, like, walking down the aisle with someone that I did not like at all. And I was like. I'd wake up and be like, oh, my God, like, what is gonna happen? Happen?

No way.

And now you have Adam.

He's the best. I love him.

You should change your name to Eve. Maybe not.

I'm g. To do that. I am. How's your week? What's new?

No, we weren't going anywhere good. I always know. How's my week? What's new? My week is awesome. We have aligned this weekend. Otherwise, I'd be at your wedding, which is our event, which was making me a while back, made me very sad. I'm like, how did we book an event on this? The same weekend as our wedding. But now we're spending. Thanks. You and I, as all couples are spending Thanksgiving together. So I kind of feel like I get to, like, celebrate the nuptials coming up right after you're married. But this is really exciting that I get to spend, like, this brief amount of time with you before your wedding. But back to that really quick. Like, are you. Is the whole fam just so excited?

We're so excited. And it's. It was nice to get here early because the first couple days, we're just relaxing and doing our little errands, and now people are in town, and it. I can't believe it. It's weird that they're coming for us.

Yeah, it is quite crazy. You're like, whoa, all these people really show up. Where is your rehearsal dinner going to be?

It is actually going to be out on Kewa, which is this magical place. Everyone should go there. It's right outside of Charleston, and that's where our wedding is, too. And it's going to be just like a. It was going to be outside, but the weather's kind of crummy, so now it's going to be inside.

How exciting. And are you giving a speech that night? Are you going to say anything? I was so nervous about that.

I know. I think we decided we're going to say a little something on the wedding night at the reception. Just a little like, thanks for coming. Let's dance. Just something like that.

Oh, I like that. Just leave it simple. The guests don't really care. You know, honestly, whenever I'm at a wedding, I'm like, hey, do you think maybe this wedding we could Save the speeches. Just kidding. You know what? This would be a great segue for some quotes. What's going on?

I completely agree. I'm staying on the Dolly Parton train.

You know what? Safe.

It's very safe. It's a safe choice. But this. This quote made me laugh because she said, I'm not offended by all the dumb blonde jokes because I know I'm not dumb, and I also know that I'm not blonde.

Oh, my God, I love that. That's, like, how I feel. If I hear anything, I'm like, well, I'm really none of those things. So same here.

This isn't real.

Yeah. No. So I know who I am. I'm very clear. All right, so you know what? I. I took this one right off the good old Good Vibes Only page. So it is called GV O, as in Good Vibes Only Quotes. GVO Quotes right off Instagram, guys. So we know this is historically accurate.

Yes.

So this says, being patient and trusting the process means that you believe you'll receive blessings based on the seeds you've sowed. And I love that so much because I feel like in order to know that you are going to. In order to trust the process, like, you also have to show up. Like, so many of us are like, oh, but how can I just, like, let go of the outcome? And you never. It's like, I'm able to let go of the outcome now in certain things because I know that I'm doing the work. So if you are consistent and do the work, it's like, if you're literally going to the gym every single day and eating well, and you have an infinite mindset of, like, there's no end point. Like, you will end up reaping those rewards because you know you are being consistent. So it's trusting the process and knowing, like, there's actually no end date to sowing seeds and reaping rewards. And I think in the beginning, we can be like, okay, I'm gonna do this thing, and if it doesn't happen by this date, then I'm giving up. And you know what's so crazy is I think that a lot with sometimes people in, like, the dating world, and I see a lot of people who are like, that's it. Okay, I'm gonna put myself out there one last time, and if it doesn't work, that's it. Well, of course that's gonna be it. Because the attitude, that is not gonna get you anywhere. No, it's the same with all of your goals. It's like you have to just keep putting yourself into that position at all times in order to get any sort of reward. So consistency, you know, consistency, it's such.

A hard one, but we need to all do it.

It's. I was just listening to a podcast with, let's see, Simon Sinek and Lewis Howes and he. Simon Sinek came out with a new book called I can't remember the name but it has infinite in the titles, talking about how like our choices in our thoughts and pretty much our actions have to be based on an infinite mindset. Meaning like whatever you choose to start doing, if you want to see the outcomes, just like what we talked about you, there is no end date like you are. It has to be something. It has to be a lifestyle. It has to be something that you're choosing. So absolutely. It's like you in yoga, if you want to get flexible, you can't just be like, look, if I am not doing the splits by 20, September 2020, then I'm like, I'm never looking at yoga again.

Yeah, that's a terrible attitude.

Sure is. Screw that attitude.

Yeah, get out of here with that attitude. It's going to take years, decades.

It really is. Do we have a review?

Oh, yeah. And it's really nice. Oh, man. Okay. This is from Lexi. Underscore Bean.

Lexi Bean.

That's Lexi Bean. I agree. She says you two are the fun teachers Lori and I are. You two are match made in podcast seven. You two are the fun teachers that we all loved in school but still learn so much in the process. You make both. You both make self development fun, exciting and funny. Everything clicks so much faster when I listen to. Questionably awesome. I also love all your other episodes, Lori. You choose the best guests and I love that you have something for every mood I'm in. Hands down, my favorite podcast ever. Love and blessings to you both.

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Lexi Bean sounds like a really cool person.

You know what? If you have any point where you are even remotely below a hundred percent this week, all you need to do is be like, what did Lexi Bean say about me?

What did Lexi Bean say?

Lixi Bean.

Lexi Bean. I just called her Lexi. Sorry, Lexi.

It's all right. She might adopt that. She might actually be like, you know what? I feel like my life suits Lexi much more than Lexi. Would you have a made up name when you were little?

Oh, like my nickname?

Your pretend name. Like whenever you'd play, like, whatever, house or office or whatever, I feel like.

I chose like, just normal names, like I'm the mom, like Joan or something.

Oh, boy. That's real normal. It's okay, because mine was Becky Leaves. I literally remember. And I was in a. I was in a backyard and we were playing something amazing, I'm sure, and very intellectual. And we. They were like, okay, well, what's your made up name? And I was like, oh, Becky is a great name. And then I was looking at leaves on the ground and I was like, leaves? And there it was. I was born Becky Leaves. And ever since then, I was Becky Leaves in the office playing house. Yeah, I don't know when I dropped that name, but maybe you should start.

An Instagram handle of Becky Leaves and just let that side of you grow.

You know, I feel like the Instagram for Becky Leaves would be like, Becky walking out on people. Like, bye. Like, it'd be like all of these instances when we want to walk out and our alter ego Becky Leaves, like, literally is like, she does it.

She's like, I don't have to deal with this. Becky Leaves.

Hashtag Becky Leaves. I like that. I really do. I could get.

I really do that this weekend. Okay.

Be like, Becky. You can be hashtag Becky has arrived.

So Becky stays.

Becky stays. Oh, and then if I had a kid, I'd name him Bucky.

Yeah, Bucky leaves.

Bucky stays. All right, so do you have a question?

Yes. And what's great about these questions is they're about relationships.

That is so great, since you're heading right into one.

So great. Okay, what did I highlight here? It said it's from Underscore. Aaron Jean. I'd love to know how to balance between compromise and non negotiables in a relationship. In a Relationship.

Oh, well, you know, I pretty much just say, in a relationship, all you have to say is what I say goes or hit the highway. That's a quick ticket to divorce. Land of a best friend or a spouse. Okay, so how do I manage between compromise and non negotiables? All right, well, non negotiables are interesting in a relationship because it's kind of like there are certain things that if they are non negotiable for you, that's, that's the tough conversation, right? Like if you're like, hey, I absolutely need to. Maybe you have a partner who doesn't understand why you go to yoga or go to the gym. And if that is a huge part of your life and that's what makes you feel like you and that's what makes you feel good, then. And they, they are not necessarily supportive or understanding. Yeah, that's going to probably create a problem and be like, I need you to fast forward 5 or 10 or 20 years with this partner. And if they're completely not understanding and it's causing a problem, then you're either going to, you're either going to have that problem and it's going to grow or you're going to compromise part of yourself. And you need to fast forward and say, if I let this part of my personality go, who will I be? And will I actually even show up in this relationship the way that I want to? Like, will this actually even be a good relationship fit for me still? And whatever that answer is is what you have to do in the present moment. So because guess what, the future's coming. So you have to fast forward and look at, is this something that I'm willing to let go of in my personality? Like, will I still be okay? So, you know, whether that's the gym or whether that is your life's purpose. Like, if they don't understand why you're doing self development or why you are going for this side hustle that you want to turn into your main thing or whatever that looks like because you have such a passionate purpose and you're being pulled towards it, if they don't get it or don't support it for a long period of time, even after you start doing it. So here's something that I want to say. Some people think that they need to get the support now before they've even started the thing. And support comes in many different ways. It doesn't mean that they have to do the thing with you. It doesn't mean that they have to go to all the personal development things with you, but it does mean that they need to be okay, and they need to support you, whether verbally or whatever. Like, hey, babe, I love that you're doing that. That's great. But that's gonna be your thing. But I fully support you, and I'm not gonna detract your energy from it. So that's actually a version of really great support. Some people get really confused and think that be together. And sometimes we just need our partners to be the people who hold down the fort at home or who show up in a different way for us, a completely different, you know, outside of what we think we need. So I think in the beginning, it's like you just have to keep showing up for yourself and doing the thing, and you don't need your partners, like, they don't need to be holding your hand or, like, with you the entire time. Do you know what I'm saying? I feel like I'm going in a circle, but completely. If your partner is not, like, with you 100% by your side on something, that doesn't mean they're not supportive. It means they can still be cheering you on and be a coach for you, even if they're not doing it. But you have to go and do that thing, and you're going to find other people who support you within that thing. And you might find that you don't actually need or want your partner by your side while you're doing this other thing, because your partner is doing something completely different, you know, and playing a different role in your life. That's super, super important. So go and do the thing you don't need your partner right next to you. And to get on the same track in life, that takes some time. Like, you have to go down the path on your own sometimes before you guys find how you meet up in the future. So don't give up on it right away. Go. I mean, you know, I just think of those train tracks that, like, eventually they're going to merge, but they're side by side. You don't even realize that. You're like, but you're not on the same train. I need you on the same train. And they're like, dude, I'm literally right next to. To you, and we're gonna meet up in Charleston, you know?

Yes. They're different seasons. Sometimes you're compromising a little bit more. They're compromising a little bit more.

And we just want to throw the baby out with the bath water.

Yeah.

And we can't, because you shouldn't throw babies out. You should probably keep. You have to keep them and you need to take care of them. Bath water is what you need.

Yes.

I don't even know where that came from. Do you know where that saying came from?

It's like an old saying, but I don't remember what it really means.

Like, did any. Was anybody ever, like, this bathwater is bad and this baby's bugging me.

Let's get them all out of here.

Yeah. All right. So what do you think? Do tell. Because I know that you guys have had experiences and Chris and I have had experiences in our life, in the beginning of our relationship. Not even in the beginning. Like, smack dab in the middle. Smack dab right now, where it's like he has moments where he's like, that's your thing. But I don't want to go to that. Or I'm not doing that. That's not where I'm at right now. And I just have to move forward. Even though he's not on board for certain things, and I'm like, well, maybe he'll get on board later.

Yeah, exactly. You can still support your spouse and partner without being at all the events or not having the same interests. And I feel like those non negotiable things are kind of like the little things that you do for you to set yourself up to be a better partner. And then your compromise is like, okay, he's really. Or he or she is really hustling hard with their craft right now. So maybe I'm a backseat right now, but I know that we're still loved and we support each other, but there's just. We're focusing on this one thing right now. I don't know. That's what comes to mind.

Oh, I love that. And you just totally brought up a moment for me of like, so all of those things that you just said are so important. And so okay if you have open communication every day.

Yes.

I feel like sometimes when people are to the point of asking the question of, like, when is this okay and when is it not? Is. There's probably not a lot of conversation around it in the relationship. So I would say giving yourself a good three to six months of learning how to even have a conversation around how you feel, you know, and letting it be okay, like, hey, there's some things that I'm not expressing that I really need to express that don't mean anything either way right now. We just need to get them on the table and see where we are at in Our relationship. And what's crazy to me is so many people do not even discuss that they're feeling off in their relationship. Like, it's like, oh my God, that's there. And I'm gonna ignore it. I'm gonna pretend like this is not happening. And all of a sudden, until you can't pretend anymore and you're like, oh, my God, I hate my partner because I'm so resentful because of something you're actually not sharing and you're afraid to share.

Right?

And we blame our partner. Like, yeah, but you're not letting me talk about it. Well, you have to create that space. And you know, when you know that you're the one evolving faster, the one who has the non negotiables, and you're aware, you're aware first. It's your responsibility to create the space first. Then.

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Completely agree. I know it's hard to take that initial step, to actually say things to your partner like, hey, I'm not feeling great about us. That's a hard conversation to have. But once you do it, you feel so much better.

And I know that you've done that a lot and it's changed everything.

It changes everything. And you can just call a couples counselor and they will guide you through that process.

It's so true. So how does one call a couples counselor? Like, did you just look it up in the yellow pages?

You can look it up in the Yellow Pages.

Google. Is that what you did? Did you literally Google?

Adam actually had been seeing this particular counselor, and so we both went to her together, and she's just given us a lot of tools. And I know a lot of people worry about, like, insurance, not. Not having insurance or payment, but I. I know at least with my experience with counselors, I've been able to. You can kind of get on a sliding scale with them, too. Like, a lot of them are open to different payment plans.

Oh, that's amazing. And sometimes all people need is one. I mean, don't get me wrong. Sometimes people need 20, but sometimes all you need is one to have somebody kind of, like, sit in, you know, help you with the conversation.

Exactly.

Because we didn't watch our. Our parents did not teach us how to have with a partner. Like, many of us did not have, you know, parents who maybe communicated the best. And so we don't even know what to model it after. So you guys, like, give yourself some slack and learn how to. Chris And I did not know how to communicate. Do you know what? I do know what I knew how to do, which is so funny that my name was Becky Leaves. I left every situation. I was like, oh, yeah? Well, I'm leaving. Like, I would just freaking leave. Until one day he said, hey, if you leave this fight, he said, do not come back. I'm not doing this again. And he was serious. And I was like.

And you knew?

I knew. And I was so mad. Do you know what I did? I was like, oh, yeah. Nobody can tell me what to do. So I left, and I sat in the driveway, and I almost left the driveway, but I never left the driveway. And I was like, shit. So I sat in my car like a fool for probably an hour, and he just probably watched me. And I should ask him, yeah, did you just watch me in the driveway where you.

Yeah. I wonder what he was doing.

He probably because of how men can be, like, how they can just switch their brain off. I guarantee he just, like, turned on football and was like, oh, yeah, Packers.

I could totally see Adam doing that. Just like, okay, if you're gonna sit on the driveway, I'm gonna continue on with my day.

They just are so good at that that it's literally. My husband has taught me so much about that that I distraught over something that's happened maybe in our business. And I'll come back in an hour later. And I'm like, oh, what are you thinking? He's like, oh, you know what? I'm Thinking about booking tickets to the super bowl this year. I'm like, what? I am so upset right now.

It's so true.

And I'm just, like, taking. Honestly, I used to be so mad because for some reason, I think I thought we, like, stored up points in heaven for, like, feeling guilt, shame, or bad about something. And now I've realized there are no points there. God's like, hey, you forgave you a long time ago. You're actually stealing from the joy basket over here that I'm trying to have you eat from. And I'm like, oh, I am ruining my own life. So now I'm like, you know what? Fast forward. Here's what you do. If you're ever sad or, like, pissed about something, Fast forward to your deathbed and be like, will I care about this when I'm about to die? Nope. Will not care, guys. You will not care what I'll care about. I'll be like, pass me that bottle of wine, and let's sing some Italian songs.

Yes, you really will, you love song in your life?

I will. I will have everyone around my deathbed is singing that's amore and saying words of affirmation to each other.

What a beautiful gift. I think that's lovely.

And someone feeding me spaghetti. Maybe a dog from lady and the tramp.

Yeah, I love that.

All right, you got. You got one more question in you.

I got one more question to me. Oh, wait, this one's from mandai Barkley. Amanda barkley. I'm so self conscious in relationships, I can never tell if they actually like me. Help.

You know, Evans and I feel the.

Same way every dang day sometimes.

I like Evans leaves. And I'm like, does she really like me, or is she just doing this for me? That's how weird I am.

Me too. Me too. I think the same thing. I'm like, when is Lori just gonna be like, this is over, but this is true.

And I'm such a weirdo. And I'm like, but I really like it. It's like, the best part of my week. And then I'm like, you are so insecure. You need to get over yourself.

I know. Why do we do that? Why do women do that so much?

I don't know. Were we abandoned by friends or something?

I don't know.

I don't think everybody has this. But I do think that people maybe who had. I wasn't popular, and I also had friends who were like, you know, they leave me for more exciting things, which I think a lot of People had.

Sure.

And that is definitely still a thing for me. Like, when is. When's the ball gonna drop and I have to go back to, like. No, like, people can be your friend. Like, you can have an amazing relationship for, like, your whole life and you don't have to be texting all the time. And you don't. Like, you can redefine what you want as a relationship and, oh, my God, you can speak it out loud. Like, even just saying it out loud. And I know that we say this to each other, like, actually quite often. Like, we'll give each other a little text. Like, hey, still love this? Yeah. Because we need to hear it. So if you know that about your friend, like, that's the thing. So, Amanda Barkley, I think that you just need to speak how you feel. And if it's a true friend, you know, and somebody that you really want to keep in your life and who wants to go deeper in a relationship, just be like, hey, I know this is so weird, but sometimes I fear that, like, I'm, you know, like, maybe this relationship is like, you know, maybe we're not. Help me, Evans. Help me.

Maybe it's like, once. I'm just worried that you're not going to be my friend forever. And I really cherish our friendship and it's something I'm working on, my self consciousness. So totally.

So just share when I let it out. Yeah, I love that. Because, you know, if someone thinks you're weird and it's who you are, then they don't really need to be. They don't get invited back to your soiree.

Exactly. And everyone feels self conscious. You are not alone.

No. And that's where the soft feeling, like, that comes in. Right. Like, that's literally where it's like, oh, this is so much of the work that I have been doing for a while now is like, can I love me even if other people don't love me? Like, can I love me even if something went weird on the Internet and, like, bullies broke out and the world was going crazy and everyone was like, let's. I don't know, dude. I was gonna say, like, let's stone Lori. Like, that sounds terrible.

No, Lori, no one is gonna do that.

No.

Hey, I'm going to worst case scenario and see if I can still love me.

And yes, there will be no stones throw.

Stones thrown. Yeah, right when I was saying it.

Flower petals.

That has gone too far.

But just flower petals.

Flower petals. But, like, can you still love you if you woke up and Everybody left you, like, could you still be like, it's okay because I'm, you know, like, so connected to my creator. I still have prayer, I still have whatever. And I know that I'm going to be like, I really. The belief that helps me is like. Like, I don't think we're going to be ever given something that we can't handle and that isn't for evol. Evolution. So it's kind of like if people leave you, it means that you are meant to meet a new tribe of people. And yeah, it's not going to be fun in the process, but it does mean that something is happening for you. People are getting removed for you, so.

Totally agree.

I just think you have to be yourself and let them know. And I think sometimes you'd be so surprised by what people will say when you're yourself. Like how Evans and I are like, I feel that way too. Extra words of affirmation.

It's the best feeling when you. When you hear someone say something and you're like, hey, wait, I feel like that too. I'm not. I'm not a crazy person.

We're all. You would be so shocked how alike every single one of us are. Even the most successful, secure people sometimes. Sometimes the most successful people are actually the most insecure people because we are like trying to do. Like I said, we as in myself.

Yep.

Number one, I love that. I think that I'm very successful. Number two, you are very successful. Number two. Part of it is because I'm like, okay, will you love me now? Do you love me now? Do you love me now? Because I did this. Okay, do. Are you gonna be here? Okay. If I stop being successful, will you love me? That is the scary question. If I stop doing these things, will you still love me?

And guess what?

What?

We will.

That is just. That feels good. See, I have it on a recording.

Yeah, we will. Stuck.

All right.

Evans. Yeah.

Go ahead, say what you're gonna say. Say what you need to say. This is cool.

We went to this meditation on Tuesday night. A full moon meditation.

Amazing. Was that in LA or Charleston?

It was in Charleston.

Oh my gosh.

Yeah, they have this really cute place. Place, it's called Still Studio, if anyone lives here. And one of the things I really like she said was we were in child's pose and she was talking about, this is gonna sound very woo woo. But how the earth always has you. Like if you touch the ground and you're like, oh, this, this is so woo woo. But you're always Kind of.

You're on the right podcast. Yeah.

Something has you. So if you're at your lowest, just, like, lay on the ground and know the earth's got you.

It is true. And there is a lot of. There's actually. You can measure it. There's so much energy coming through the earth, and it helps regulate our energy. So it's actually quite true. And it is science and it is measurable, so it's not woo woo at all. It is science and science. It's like, you know what? If you want to question science, you go right ahead and science absolutely come back and do some sciency thing to you.

Yes, it will.

It's gonna give you static cling when you want it. Least you'll be like, what is this? I can't see it, but it's happening. Yeah. Like, maybe I should trust things that I can't see. Whoa.

All that from static cling?

Yep. Learn. Learn about it. You know, every week we make people smarter. Don't you ever question it.

Yeah. Becky leaves.

Becky leaves is out. Okay, so you're about. Next time I talk to you, you're gonna be married. Could you please do a better job with your Instagram stories right now?

Yes, I will.

So hard for me to stalk you right now. I'm like. I can't even. Like, who. Who are her friends back there that maybe do Instagram? Could you make me. Hook me up with her?

Yes. I promise I'll do better on my story.

Send me. Send me someone who does stories of your life. Because then I watch those. I'm like, how am I supposed to be AV year?

Right?

That's what. That's the right word, right?

Yeah. We need to get you, like, live streaming.

Yeah. Could you set up a computer? Just live stream all weekend?

Yes.

Okay.

Yes.

Because we all want to know. Inquiring minds want to know. All right, well, I'm sending you so much love. I'm so excited, and thank you so much. You're gonna be a Mrs.

I can't believe it.

I know. I'm like, I literally can't wait. Is it on Friday or Saturday? Saturday.

It's on Saturday.

Okay. All right. I'm gonna be saying, here we go. That's a marital bliss on Saturday.

Thank you, Lori. And I'm gonna be sending y' all bliss for aligned.

Oh, yeah. I can't wait. Okay, you guys, we're so, so always grateful to have you listen in to a full episode. And until next time, earn your happy.

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