460: Be the greatest you with Trent Shelton

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Your past can actually ruin your future. So I always say take the good out of it, learn the lesson, move forward, you know, use the mistake that you might have made to make you even a greater person.

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Thanks for having me. I appreciate you.

You know, it's so crazy because I got to meet you backstage at Powerful you and you are. I'm sure that, you know, people say this to you all the time, but you're such a normal, down to earth, nice person.

Yeah, I'm just like, I guess I.

Wouldn'T expect anything else, but I'm.

Yeah, exactly. I'm like, what about supposed to be. But I take that as a compliment in today's agent because I get what people are saying. So, you know, I would just pride myself on, you know, being. Being normal. Just showing people that, you know, you don't have to be something or not to get what you want.

Like, so approachable. I think that was it. I was like, wow. I feel just completely like you make people feel like you are both, I don't know, just humans on the same level. Which is probably the coolest thing, I think, when you meet someone to be able to drop right in with them. So. So, yeah, that's pretty awesome. I so appreciate that. You know, I was just telling you that I was in literally the rabbit hole of motivational videos on your page. And I was like, you know what? I'm just gonna. I'm gonna spend an hour here and look at everything. And then, like the hour flew by and I am. I'm literally ready for more. So part of me wanted to jump into number one before. We just talk a little bit about, you know, your past and where you came from. But first of all, where do you personally find the motivation every day to Talk to People?

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Yeah, you know, I just. I think it's a. That's a. And I can answer that in a lot of ways. The first thing that comes to my heart is I know that there's people out there that haven't heard my message, that needs it. Whether it be the simplest thing I'm big on. I talk about every day protecting your peace and things like that. Or it could be even a deeper message on how to heal your heart. I just know there's people out there that haven't heard the message. And then also on the other side, we all need someone. I mean, even myself at times. We all need someone to help us realize that the storm will be over. No storm lasts forever. And so that always motivates me to keep going. And the why behind everything I do was a promise that I made to one of my friends that committed suicide about eight years ago. And so that always keeps me going because that's something I can never give up on because it was a promise I made to him. So that keeps me going.

So do you. When you're. When you're, you know, coaching, when you're talking, when you're speaking, when you're on stage, are you. Is there a part of you that's like coaching yourself and talking to yourself?

Absolutely. All the time. All the time. I mean, every message that I have. I wouldn't say every message, but I always, you know, evaluate whatever I tell someone. I've already probably told it to myself or I lived it, or I've been through it, or I'm going through it, you know, I don't talk from a place of inexperience. Like, I'm not just going to say something that sounds good because people will love it. I'm going to talk about it because maybe I'm very transparent and vulnerable right now. I'm in a season of just being honest, just overwhelmed, and not in a bad way. But I have a baby coming. I have a business on the way. I have all these things going on right now. My mom is sick with cancer, so it's a lot. And in this moment, I know that there's other people that are dealing with things worse than I am. So I like to share how I deal with it and what I Go through and why do I get up every single morning and go to the trails and protect my piece and run? It's not just for the physical activity, but it's for the stress reliever. I want to start my day off with positive energy, create the energy that I need. So everything that I do comes from a real place.

So I want to ask about that because in your life you have so many different things going on. So you've got all of these different places where you're experiencing joy. You have all of these different places where I'm sure you're experiencing reaching goals and feeling fulfilled in success. And then you have all these different places where you're also feeling pain and probably a bit helpless or wanting to help a lot more people. How do you compartmentalize all of that? What does your brain like? What does the process actually look like when certain things try to enter and interrupt the joy or.

Well, I evaluate it. And the thing about me, I don't stay in moments too long. Storms are gonna happen. But I feel like a lot of times we create our own storms or we keep storms in our life longer than they should be there. So I evaluate it. I always, I'm a big believer on definitions and the definitions you give give certain things, you always have the choice. That's the beautiful thing about life is we have a choice to define whatever happens to us either in a power or a prison way. I love to say your perspective need to be your power, your prison. And so I'm always trying to. It doesn't mean that I ignore the reality of it, but I'm always saying, okay, how can this, how can I allow this situation that's not going good, or how can I allow this stress or how can I allow this overwhelm to serve me better? How can I change the way I look at things? And that's the way I look at life. I mean, even the worst moments, I'm just like, I mean I can have a flat tire, you know, I was like, okay, well maybe this flat tire is preventing something from happening. If I would have been dropped. You know, I just look at life like that because I want life to serve me. And that's how I deal with it.

It just happened to me. I was in, I was driving to Phoenix and it's, it was like, you know what I thought was going to be like a five and a half hour drive turned into like seven and a half hours because I couldn't get out of la. And I was like, you know what? This is Keeping me from something ahead on the road. I'm sure that could go wrong, so.

Exactly.

I'll just relax into this traffic. No, it's so, so powerful shifting your perspective like that. So I want to know, because you are former NFL athlete, which, you know, there takes a certain mindset to get to that place, but then also shifting outside of that and doing what you're doing now, you've had to completely, I'm sure, shift your mindset from that. So I want to know what it was like growing up that, you know, did you always have a dream to do that or was that implanted later on? What was it like growing up for.

You as far as a dream to play football?

NFL, Just like a dream, you know, like some people have goals growing up, other people are not clear on it, or they're not planted in their mind or they're not really going for anything. So what was it that actually started moving you towards goals?

So, like, since I was. I started playing football, I probably started playing football before I even could remember. I have two older brothers, and they were, you know, they played sports. So as long as I can remember, I was always playing sports. And then I got an organized sports. Probably think the age of five years old, even four years old with T ball, but five years old, six years old, I'm playing tackle football. And literally at that moment is when I made up my mind that this is what I wanted to do in my life in some way, whether it's baseball, basketball, football, it will really help me. And this is why I love to. You know, I'm a youth coach right now. I coach my son's team. I love to talk to the youth. I love to, you know, even bring people in that's professional athletes, you know, to talk to certain. Or just bring somebody that's at where a kid wants to be, whether it be a doctor or whatever, because it makes it obtainable. You know, growing up, I was blessed to be able to have. I lived across the street from a. We lived in New Orleans. So I lived across the street from a New Orleans Saints player. And so he was, you know, me. And actually his son is Geno Atkins. He plays for the Bengals now, but I used to babysit them. And I would see. His name was Gene Atkins. I would see Gene running in the streets. I would talk to him. And so he became humanized. I humanized him. He wasn't an idol that you just see on tv. So I was like, oh, this can really happen. And then my uncle, who coaches for the Chargers. Now he was coaching even back then. When I was little, he talked to me. And so at a very young age, I saw that this dream could very well be a reality. And that always stuck with me. And I just worked my way through it. I mean, all the way to. I made it to the NFL. So I think that's very big to get around people who are at where you want to be. Because a lot of people, I feel like, have a dream, but a lot of people don't really feel that dream is attainable. They might say it is. And so when you surround yourself around people that are actually living the dream, to me, it becomes very obtainable. You're like, oh, okay, these people are normal. Like, I just gotta put in the hard work to make it happen. So I think that was probably the biggest thing and helped me achieve that NFL dream.

Oh, my God. So I literally, as you're speaking, can. And this is such a big thing, too. I talk about this all the time. Like, I can trace back moments where it became possible for me because I was either at events or I went to things or I hired a coach or something, where they brought that vision closer to me where I was never able to see it before. So is that what you would say to somebody who maybe has kids right now or who is achieving a dream? Like, just get in the rooms or go. What would your advice be?

Yeah, just try your best to get in those environments. You know, try your best. Like you said, get in those rooms, whatever it is, like, find someone that has been there, you know, they don't have to be. You know, if it's a kid wanting to play in NFL, have to be a. It might be hard to find an NFL player, but maybe you find someone who's a former NFL player or someone who play college just. Or bring them to high school football. Like, just get them in the environment of their next step and so they can realize, oh, this is actually attainable. Like you said, it's actually possible. So with Tristan, I mean, blessed enough, you know, I was able to have these connections now. So he gets to. When I speak to the Cowboys, he gets to see and see Dak and all these Bears, Bryant, and he's like, oh, it just. Like, I don't want to say it takes away from the superstardomness of them because he's still obviously like, oh, my God. But he didn't realize, like, wait, they drink power just like me. Oh, wait, they eat the same food I eat. And so he realized, like, this is really possible of Course with, you know, hard work and dedication. So, yeah, just get yourself in those environments, and I think that will open up the possibility in the lives of your children.

Wow. I want to know some of the lessons that you've extracted just from, you know, playing in the NFL and team sports, because I will tell you, I don't know. Did you watch Monday Night Football last night?

I did, I did, yeah.

Did you see the end? What was it? The Help me, because I'm not even good with teams. In the Texans, yeah, I watched, like, the last 20 minutes, and I was like, what the. Like. Like what human potential is. Is. It's like all of a sudden they rose to, like, their highest potential at the very end of the game. And it was like two of the highest potentials, like, playing together. And I was just watching, like, what was happening between. Obviously, when you do self development as well. I was watching the possibility, possible stories that were being told by the kicker and then by the guy who, like, ran into the. Ran into the kicker. And I was like, right now we're playing with two possible scenarios of if these people don't have a good tribe or personal development, like, they can blame, like, losing the game all on themselves. Like, I was really invested into. What is the mindset? Like, how do you come back from those moments where you feel like, and this isn't just sports, like, this is in life where you feel like you did something horrible or you disappointed so many people? Like, what is the mindset? And how do people come back from that? And what did you use when you were in sports that you also use now?

Well, that's hard because you just pointed something out that a lot of people understand. I mean, there's times in my sports career, I mean, you see it. I mean, even, you know, yesterday, that guy missed that field goal. You know, just from a psychology standpoint, it really can mess you up and you. And if you just look back over history in sports, there are a lot of players who have made one mistake like that and never bounced back. And so one technique that my college coach used to do with me, and I still think about this to this day, even in life. So I remember we were playing a game, and I just had just a bad beginning of the game. I dropped two balls. I was a receiver. I dropped two balls, and I ran to the sideline, and I was like, man, my bad, coach. My bad for dropping those balls. He was like, what dropped? And I was like, the one I just dropped. And he was like, what drops? He's like, Next play. And so he taught me right then that you can't do nothing about the balls that you just dropped. You can't change that. So, but if you keep worrying about that, guess what? You're gonna drop the next one. And so he said, focus on moving forward. He's like, you've trained for this. You know how to catch the football. You know, things happen like that. And so I always take that with life that I know I can't change anything that I've done in the past. And first of all, everybody's gonna make mistakes, right? But like the kicker yesterday in the game, he missed a 56 yarder before halftime and he came back. If he would have just been stuck on that, he probably would have missed the next one. But he had another opportunity. The next opportunity, he made it. And guess what? Nobody's talking about the missed field goal anymore. And so that's how you have to move on. You have to know that life is always going to give you another try. It might not be in the same situation, but you can use your past to actually build your future. In a positive way or in a negative way, your past can actually ruin your future. So I always say, take the good out of it. Learn the lesson, move forward. Use the mistake that you might have made to make you even a greater person. I mean, even in my life, I look back all the things that I've done wrong, the things that I wasn't proud of, now has helped me become a person that a lot of people are proud of, including myself to myself. Day.

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And it's funny. Like watching things like that as we can watch it with another person, you know, it's harder to have grace with ourselves sometimes times my husband and I were both like, don't get in your head, you're still amazing. Come on, this is going to make you better. And so I think of that because what can happen, you know, I can see this in my life and a lot of different things. Like I will be psyching myself out to go speak somewhere. Like, what if I say something that offends someone? You know, what if, whatever. And I'm like, you have to hold a belief, right? So I want to know what some of your beliefs are. And I know one of mine is like, I can come back from anything. I can apologize for anything. I can admit where I'm wrong and move on. I can handle hard things. Like what happens when you think about, like, what if I offend someone, what if I really hurt someone or say the wrong thing or you know, what if I write this book and I find out a year later that I'm not right and something I said in there isn't how I feel anymore. Like, how do you. What's a belief that you hold in order to just keep showing up, up?

Well, my main thing is this. And I don't know, this sounds, I don't think it's insensitive. But I love to tell people, like, you have to stop trying to be perfect for imperfect people. And so that's my whole thing. Like I don't try to show up with perfection. I don't. I know my heart. I know the place that I come from. And yeah, people might take it wrong. There's people in the world right now that, that probably have a problem with what I do, you know, and that's just their perspective. But I'm not going to allow their perspective to take away from what I'm doing when I know it's coming from a pure place. And I think the More confident you are when you know you're coming from a pure place, that your heart is pure, and you're really trying to help people or grow something, then you don't allow the people who disagree with you, the people who might take something wrong, to tear you down. Because the first step to being unhappy is trying to please everybody. Like, period. There's going to be somebody somewhere. I mean, you can find the most perfect person in the world. There's gonna be somebody that doesn't like that person. Now, I think we lose ourselves a lot trying to worry about what people are gonna think. There's a quote I'm probably gonna butcher and not say this, right, but it's. Forgot who it's by, but they. You can Google if you're listening to it. But it's like, if you don't want to receive any criticism, say nothing, do nothing, or be nothing.

Oh, I love that.

And it's exactly. It's exactly true. And so I live by that. But that thing like, that I said before about perfection, like, stop trying to be perfect for imperfect people. Everybody has their imperfections. And I'm very vulnerable on stage and very vulnerable in my videos. Very vulnerable just with myself to say, listen, I'm gonna make mistakes. I might not say the right things, whatever. It always comes from a pure place. And I'm also willing, like you said, to apologize if I offend someone. And I said something I shouldn't have said, et cetera. So just gotta be real with yourself and real with others. And I think, you know, everything else will take care of itself.

Oh, my God, I love that. And my friend Patrice Washington has a quote that I love that talks about that, too. She says, you have the right to reject advice that's not in alignment with your assignment. And I'm like, oh, I love that.

That's dope.

Oh, my God. So good. So talking about that, I think that we can sometimes be, like, resisting our upgrade or resisting the next level of life, because it can be. We might know that we have to break through, let go of people, leave people. And I think this is. This has been, like, one of my biggest life lessons. And it's what I teach on and talk about because I'm so passionate about what that actually looks like and feels like when you have to leave people, when you have to go and seek out a new group, a new tribe, a new, you know, a new level of people, in order for those past people to maybe not pull you back and take you. Whatever. Take you back to that place. So tell me what that, what that feels like when you know you're in the beginning of that place where you are going to have to possibly completely change a group of friends or not spend as much time with even your own family.

Yeah, I mean, I think I said it, I forgot what spoken word it was, but I said in order to move up, there's some things you must be willing to give up. And it's just true. It's gonna happen. Growth requires separation. And your growth is going to make, first of all, it's going to make you uncomfortable, but it's going to make other people uncomfortable. And you're going to start to realize who really is for you. It doesn't mean that they're bad people. Because I received, I mean it happened with my life plenty of times, but I received so many questions about this. It's like I'm growing my life, I'm doing better, but it seems like I'm losing so much. I used to have a fear of success because I tied success and growth to pain. Because every time in my life where, especially with sports, every time I went to, so from high school to college, when I got a full athletic scholarship and none of my friends got it, I lost friends. And so when I went to the NFL and most, I mean very nobody, none of my friends really, my close friends, maybe one of my other friends made it it. I lost a lot of friends. And so I was so afraid, I had like success guilt. I was so afraid to push myself to another level because I knew some type of pain was going to come with it. And so I was teaching myself just to be comfortable and settle until I realized that I'm sitting here settling for people that probably won't be there for me anyway at the end of the day. And so I had that conversation with my 80 year old self and my 80 year old self said, you better go grow right now and get it. Because when you get to my age, it might be too late. You know, you get to 90 years old, it might be too late. You're gonna look back on your whole life of regret, realize that you lived a life for other people instead of living your life for yourself. And I believe if I'm not wrong, that's the number one regret. When people are about to die, they regret that they didn't live life, not in a selfish way, but live life doing the things that they wanted to do instead of living life pleasing other people. And I just really think about that moving forward. So if a person listening to this Right now is in that position. You have to grow. You have to realize your growth is going to attract the right people in your life. You're going to go through a period of loneliness. You're going to go through a period where you feel like you're isolated. You're going to go through a period where you feel like the people around you closest to you should be supporting you and they don't. It's okay, because I know you want their support, but you don't always need their support. I'll tell you that right now. Any successful company, entrepreneurs, speakers, you know, anything, their community is made up more of strangers than people that they know, I can guarantee. And so just know the strangers will be placed in your life to take your life to another level. And you will have people around you that get it. And if you have those 1, 2, 3 people that see the greatness inside of you, those people are very, very special. And make sure you keep those people close.

So for people just to build even more faith on, yes, those right people will come. What, like, what's, what are the characteristics of quote unquote, like the right people when they come into. What does that type of relationship feel like? Because some people don't even have a reference point of like, how should I be treated? What should I expect? How do I teach people, you know, how do I teach people how to treat me? Like that whole scenario of these relationships will come and you'll, it will feel so much better and they'll get it.

Well, I think any relationship, it's a relationship, right? It's a ship. So I believe it's a two way street. And so I mean everybody has their own definitions. But if you have a genuine relationship with somebody and you have to break it down. See, I break down my relationships in three levels. I have family, which isn't always blood. Family are people that I know that literally I would die for. And I know that they would probably die for me. Like it's that type, you know, then I have friends where friends are people that, you know, I trust them, you know, and they trust me. You know, we might not talk all the time. And then I have associates, you know, sometimes it's business relationships and business relationships, you know, I know, I know that at the end of the day I probably can't depend on this person. But we still can build something special and the expectations aren't there. So you have to understand your levels that I feel like relationships in your life because sometimes we give people positions that they don't deserve in our life, you know, we. And it's not fair to them because you're placing an unfair expectation on them and you're expecting to live up to something that they don't want to be. And so that's a big, big part. But I think to backtrack to your question, it's about, first of all, you have to, and I want to say this, you have to be the friend or whatever it is that you wish to receive. And so you have to make sure, if you want support, you got to make sure you give support. And you said something about like, how people should treat you. I'm big on this. It's about how you treat yourself first. I feel like loving yourself is a very important component of that because if you don't, you set the tone for. You set the tone for how other people are going to treat you. And so the more you respect yourself, the more you love yourself, you set a level of expectations. When people come into your life and friends and relationships and partnerships, they should want to see you in, that's one thing of it. They should be there for you, you should be there for them. When you need them, they're there for you. When they need you, you're there for them. So I think it's pretty self explanatory with that. But if you always have to question their loyalty, you always have to question their support, they always say they're proud of you, but never support you, you, then I would just reconsider the level of friendship or the level of placement in your life that you're giving them. You know, because like I said before, sometimes we put unfair expectations on people.

Wow. Yes. I absolutely love that. And just how you have the different levels, I think that's so powerful that there are, you know, the more that I think people start tuning into podcasts and different books and really hearing that there's like actual methodology to how you can think in order to move through your different problems or whatever you're dealing with. So something that I want to know is if I were to have been able to get a glimpse inside of your head from the second that you woke up this morning, what was some of the narrative that was going on and then how did you notice and observe and be an observer of it and perhaps where did you start working through that or what are some of the rituals that you do to of start going in the direction that you want to go each morning?

Yeah. So the first thing is, the first thing I'm telling myself is don't Grab your phone, don't do it.

Same, same.

So I'm like fighting that urge to like grab it, you know, so. And working on that self control. Sometimes the bat, I lose that battle. But this week I've told myself I'm not going to lose the battle I made up in my mind. So. So I just know being around high level people when I say that, I don't want people to think that it's some person with a lot of followers or just the high level stay at home mom or the high level father or whoever. When I'm around high level people that are super focused on the things they want to do with their life, I realize that everybody that lives at a high level is very intentional. They start their day off very intentional. And my friend Dean Graziosi, I got this from him, he talks about playing on the defense. A lot of people wake up playing on defense. And he's like, he's like, trent, I know you're offensive player. He's like. And I know people say defense wins championships, but I like, I play offense. I always say offense was championships. He's like, think about that mindset when it comes to your life. Because if you grab your phone and check your email, you're on defense. Or if you grab your phone and somebody says something negative to you, you're on defense and it messes up your whole routine. So the first thing I do is, is a lot of people know about it. I do my 4As and my 4As literally are for my brain. Like if you can research the oxytocin, all the things that it releases. But my four A's stands for this. The first A is appreciation. Wake up and give thanks. Because in gratitude, as we know, gratitude relieves stress, right? Gratitude relieves depression. So I'm doing that. The second A is affection. I always say a hug a day keeps depression away. So whether it's my dog, whether it's my baby girl, my wife, my son, I'm giving that affection. The third thing I do is accomplishment. I think this is very important and I think you should do this accomplishment having nothing to do with your business, like just something that small that you can accomplish. How you start your day will influence your day. So I want to set my day up with a win, a small one, to get that momentum going, to get that dopamine release, to put me in a better state after I won something today. So I'm ready to keep that momentum going. And the fourth thing I do, which is very important, is activity, movement influences mood, and so when I wake up, obviously every single day, I'm not feeling like I want to conquer the world. I want to press snooze. I want to roll back over. I tell myself, if I just get out the bed and just move around, I know my movement will change my mood. So I go protect my peace. Protecting my peace is that foray. But it's disconnecting from the world. So I go out on trails. People see me do it every single day. And I go run my five miles. And so you don't have to run five miles, go walk a mile, go walk around the block, whatever you want to do. But I get out those trails and I disconnect. I disconnect from the world, and I reconnect to my soul. When I finish my run, I can tell you this. I'm ready to show up in the world in a way of. Of conquering any struggle, period. And so that's what I do. And you know, before we got on the phone, I told you, like, this is like, like my start of my business. Day before 12pm for me is all for me. My wife knows that, you know, it's me working out. It's me taking time for myself. It's me getting myself ready to show up to the world. And it works. So I call it my self care process. So self care before 12, I don't eat intermittent fast, and I get my day going.

That is amazing. And I'm really creeped out because we have the exact same. Our Protected time is 11, but we intermittent fast. And I like, literally really am a different person because I ran my six miles this morning and yeah, so that's what's up. So there you go. Yeah, I was literally just like, it's my prayer time, my podcast time, my meditation time, my stay off the phone time. And let me tell you, this morning, I was in a battle of staying off my phone. I was like, what am I doing? Like, you know, that you. It's so crazy. Like, we know what we want and we actually know we're like, kind of sabotaging or harming or like interrupting the way that we want our brain to function. And there's that little piece that it's like feeding that you are like, in this, you know, sometimes in this battle with. So what happens when I think people can get stuck when that other battle wins?

Right?

Yeah, they can. They can, like, start beating themselves up and go back to an old story. Like, I can't believe you're doing this again. And you say you want this. But this is what you do. Like, how. How do you. Does that voice ever come in for you? And how do you. You coach yourself through that?

Yeah, I mean, just. Even. Even the days that don't go right. I mean, I. This is so funny. You asked this question. I actually did a store on my Instagram story. I think it was maybe, what's today? Tuesday. Last week, I had a day where the day didn't start in my protect my piece. I didn't. And it got to, like, 11 o', clock, and I'm just in a funk. I just don't feel like doing anything. I'm tired, you know, emotionally drained. And I had a choice at that moment. And that choice could have been like, okay, I can start tomorrow. I can just chop this day up as a loss and lay in my bed and just waste it. Or I say, you know what? I can do something about it. And what I did was I made a decision to do something about it. Because a lot of times I think we say tomorrow. And listen, sometimes it is tomorrow, and that's okay. But you still have that choice in that moment to say, you know what? Let me just do something today. Let me make some progression. And. And to be real with you, I feel like I got stronger that day than I do on any other day, because opposition, obstacles, that moment of weakness was there. But instead of caving to it, I decided to rise above. And I think that type of. If you're able to push through, struggle like that, that obviously makes you stronger. It's like with sports, you know, if you ask any professional team that's won a Super bowl, as long as they didn't go undefeated, which I don't think nobody has besides the Dolphins. If you ask them, they'll tell you that the game that shifted the whole season, I promise you, is probably the game that they lost. Not the game that they won, but the game that they lost. And then you talk to people with their lives. I guarantee you it's not the happy moments that people say, oh, this changed my life. It's those moments of me getting cut from the NFL or someone losing a relationship or whatever. That was the moment that actually made the change. And so you have to realize this, that something still can be. Still can. Something can still grow out of something that maybe wasn't beautiful at that time, but it can turn into something that's way more beautiful, you know, in the future. So that's just the way I think about things. And I said, I can make a choice, and I made that choice and I changed my day around and that momentum has been pushing all throughout this week.

That's. And this is those places where I think that it's. That's the easy part to be able to be like, maybe I'll just go to the fridge and eat all the, you know, sandwiches and food that are in there. Yeah, exactly where it's so easy to go and do that. But I just, I love hearing about, like, what the actual self talk is because I, I even heard myself, I say things out loud to myself. I'm like, people don't realize the extent of what you have to do in order to really shift. Like, I had to say to myself, like, this is where change happens, is when you don't want to go. Like, this is where it matters the best most. Because I was so close to not going running this morning. I was just feeling really blah. And I think that sometimes you have to do those things to like, change your state or say things out loud or, you know, are there like, are there any things like right before in that moment where you don't want to go and you know that everything is going to like, change if you just do this? Is there any, like, kind of go to phrase that you use or is it just, okay, let's hear it.

Yeah, well, I'll just tell you because I'm always telling people to live and breathe and be it. And so I'm big on accountability. I'm just like, I can't preach it if I'm not practicing it. So the thing I tell myself is, trent, you better go live it. And that's what I tell myself. And it gets me going because it's so easy with social media, you know, not to live it. It's so easy to preach it. It's so easy to post it. It's so easy to, you know, I wouldn't even say pretend it, but yeah, kind of like that to filter it. And so for me, it's, it's really. I say live it, breathe it, be it. It's like, trin, you better go live. Like you telling people to push through their stuff, you better go push through your stuff. And that right there ignites a fire in me that makes me go, oh.

Man, I'm gonna steal that one. Okay, so when you talk about really protecting your piece, I know that you do that now with your morning routine and everything like that, but what are some other, like what. Tell me exactly the definition for you of protecting your piece and where that can all get interrupted and what you do to do that throughout the entire day?

Yeah. So protecting. So this is what protecting my peace, like, ultimately means to me. In certain times, it means disconnected from the world, especially in the morning, but just throughout the whole day and probably throughout my life, it's prioritizing peace. And so for me, that's probably the biggest shift I've made in the last, I don't know, a year or two, is I make peace my priority. So peace is my decision. And so if it goes against my peace, I'm not gonna do it. Or if it goes against my peace, I'm not going to be around it. It could be a great opportunity. I'm not going to. And I want to be clear, you know, maybe, you know, there's going to be times where, you know, it's a pull on your piece, you know, but at the same time, if I know at the end of the day that this is going to bring more chaos in my life than anything else, I'm not going to do it. And so also, I prepare my day. Like, I know my day and I know what. What interruptions can show up or what things can show up to take away from my piece. And I'm already prepared for it. So it's like going into battle. You know, I go in every single day, to me, is a battle. And I'll sit down, I'll be like, okay, well, I'm doing this today. It's going to be a time where my peace has a chance to be disrupted. Oh, I'm around this person today. Okay, I know how I'm going to respond. And so I already have a scheme going into my day. Therefore, when it shows up, I know how to respond. I know how to protect my peace. And I'm going to just be real. Sometimes it doesn't work. Sometimes my peace is disrupted. But I just remind myself at the end of the day, how is this serving my life? Is this adding stress to my life? Is this really moving me forward? And so I kind of reel back. Whether it be social, a lot of times it is social media. I might have someone say something. And that's one of the things that I prepare myself for when I open my phone and go into my messages, because that's me in my dm, I know that it might be a person in there that's gonna be like, trent, I don't like you, you know, or whatever they wanna say. And I'm already prepared to respond to that, you know, and me just seeing it and then me wanting to go to my human side and say something back, you know, So I. I just prepare myself every single day.

Can I ask what your response is to that? It's funny. Cause when my. It's, you know, when you have a whip. I think what people don't see is they're, like, waiting for that success, and they. They don't realize that the lessons they're getting right now are actually preparing them for those. Those inboxes when you become successful. Like, when my book first came out, it was like an influx of all these new people, which also meant an influx of a lot of DMS I did not love. And I. I was getting really rocked. Like, my world was really rocked because I was not yet prepared to handle it. But I became prepared really quickly. But I would love to know how. How do you handle that? Like, do you respond back? Do you not respond? Like, when do you know what's worth your energy?

Yeah, I want to say I always respond pretty much. But now somebody's gonna hear like, okay, I'm gonna send Trent a message like this on purpose. So you respond. But this. This is the thing. Like, I'm not saying I always respond, but to me, like, those are the people that need it most. So for me to just ignore them, it's times where, you know, ignoring is the best thing, depending on what they're saying. But for me to just ignore them, to me, it's like. Like I'm taking the easy way out because those are the people, and I know these facts. If somebody's following you, as I always say, confused supporters, right? Like, they are there because it's something maybe they're. And I understand that they're probably going through pain. So most of the people that follow me are people who are dealing with stuff, right? Like dealing with emotional battles and things like that. So if they don't get their way, sometimes they get angry. So the most message. Most of the time, the message that I get are from people saying, oh, tren, you didn't respond to me. You don't care about people. You're fake. Because you didn't respond to me in two minutes, you know, whatever. It may be two hours. And so I understand that. So what I do, I send them audio back and my response, and it would be, hey, man, like, I get it, you know, I know you want me to respond, but you gotta realize there's. You know, I have a million, 2 million followers on here, and I can't respond to everybody. So I know you get that and understand that. And so, you know, and then I'LL respond like, what's going on with your life? And then their whole mood shifts every single time. 99% of the time, people shift every single time. And so I respond with that. Or I would just respond like, God bless you. I'm praying for you, or, I love you. I'll literally say, I appreciate the love. And they're like, what? I said, I just appreciate the love. Because I know that if somebody's on my page, like I said, they support me. But a lot of times we have envy, you have pain, that love turns into hate, you know, So I just say that. And literally, either their mood changes and they say, okay, I was trying to get your attention, or they just don't respond back. And so I just realized, like, that's the way to handle. I'm not going to give them the response that they want. I'm not going to argue with them. I'm not going to, you know, sit there and fight with them and waste my energy with that. So that's what I do.

Oh, that's so good. And I have. I have a lot of people who listen to this who are either coaches or they, you know, something that they do is either to, like, give back or help shift people. Typically, who is listening to this podcast? So I have a question around that. Like, when you're responding back, how do you. How do you draw boundaries? Whether it's responding back or just in your life. Draw boundaries in your life. Like, you want to, you know, ask people how they are, but you can open up this can of worms that never ends. Yeah. And you also, like, we can all be recovering people pleasers sometimes in this work of wanting to help people. So how do you, like, draw that boundary for mental health, for your own mental health?

You're right, because you will get drained. And there were times where, you know, I was taking pride of, like, I'm gonna respond to everybody.

Yeah.

And literally, I got burned out. So what I do is I at least give an hour of my day to those that support me. I feel like that's the least I can do because these are people that share my videos. These are people that grew rehab time. You know, I call them rehabbers. So I give an hour of my time. And I know for me, I know even though I couldn't respond to everyone, I gave an hour, and I let them know, like, I'll send an email out with an audio, like, hey, or on any of my videos, I'll tell them, like, man, I wish I could respond to all y'. All. I spent an hour a day. And they start to understand that because in their mind, like, even though they know it, they don't really understand it. Like they don't understand that there's probably thousands of them that are reaching out. And so once I bring it to the forefront, they get it. And so, and I tell them, like, this is why I make these videos. This is why I come on live. This is why I do all these things to help you. Because I can't respond to you personally. And. And if I did respond to you personally, everything I would tell you, I've already told you, you know, so I just do that for our day. And then like, if I send an audio message, I'll just send one, you know, I won't keep the conversation going unless it's somebody that might be on the verge of committing suicide. It's a whole different thing. But I'm good with sending one minute audio message to them and then moving on from there.

I love that. So making peace, like, you have to make up your own mind and your own decisions for what you are content with and what you can make peace with and then let that be that even it flares up on the other side. Like, I did my thing, I did my due diligence.

Exactly. I mean, you can't save the world, you know, that's the thing, really. You can't save people. You know, I mean, people have to make that decision themselves. And so I realized that only that I can do is plant seeds and give encouragement or lead them to the right place. And that's what I do.

So I want to know about levels in life because there's always levels, no matter where you're at. I'm sure you're working on another level right now. I'm sure there's something ready to break through. I'm sure you feel another level coming on. So how do you be content with what's going on right now while also striving to be better, to reach your highest potential, but just be content with what is while also wanting more?

That's very tough question and I don't know if I know how to answer that. So we're going to work through this one because that's actually something that I struggle with. I've always have struggled with it just from the standpoint of trying to put. Put the figure, the best way to put this, from procrastinating. I'll go through these moments to where it's like, am I protecting my peace? These are questions that I ask myself. Am I protecting my peace by not burning out. Because I'll see people that go hard, right? And it's like 24 7, 365, blah, blah, blah, you know, go, go, go, go, go. And then I'll see them and I see burnout, you know, And I'm like, I don't want that. That. Like, I don't care how much success, how much money. Like, I don't want that because I'm not going to enjoy that. Then I get to the point of, okay, am I protecting my piece too much? Where I'm procrastination, procrastinating, you know, where I'm not pushing myself. And so these are conversations that I have with myself a lot. And again, I always go back to this, and this might not be the best advice for people out there because we're all in different places. And I feel like you have to ask yourself this question. What really matters to you in life? I feel like when you get to the end of life, what's really going to matter? For some of us, it's going to be the accolades. For some of us, it's going to be success. For some of us, it's going to be how big our company grew, which is fine. But for some of us, it's going to be, was I here for these moments with my kids? Was I this or was that? And I think you have to make your decisions based upon. And so for me, the success part doesn't really, like, drive me. You know, what drives me is being able to create moments with my children, with my family, being able to inspire people and impact people. So I always go back to that question, like, what's really going to matter when you get 90 years old? Are you going to live with regret? Bob Goff has a quote, and I always paraphrase it and mess it up, but. But I'm gonna try to put this in the best way I can put it, but look it up. He says that. He said, I used to be afraid of failing at things that I cared about, but now I'm more afraid of. Let me rephrase. He said, I used to be afraid of failing at things that mattered to me. Now I'm more afraid at succeeding at the things that don't matter. And I think that sums up me, you know, like, that's where I'm at. And I've been there for a while. And so I always think about, okay, what's going to matter, you know, at the end of my life? And so, yeah, we can have a conversation around that. But that's. That's where I'm at with things. And I always lean more towards, you know, with me having three kids and with me having rehab time, I want to impact, impact, impact. It's not. I don't want people to be like, oh, Trent had millions of followers. He had all these videos, and he had all this money. Like, I don't want to be. If those things are there, great. But I don't want that to be the narrative of who I was. I wanted to be. Man, Trent really served the impact lives. He was there for his family. You know, he wasn't just successful to the world, but he was successful to his world. Those are things that really matter to me. So I guess you got to find that balance as best as you can.

Oh, my God. That was. That's. That just brought so much insight into my life. That's literally. I asked you that question because it's. I think. Think it's the thing that I struggle with. I. There are those points where I'm like, I'm not going to die with regret, blah, blah, blah. And then all of a sudden, I'm doing something that I'm like, I can't even. I can't even, like, hear my soul anymore. Like, I'm so burnt out. So that you just gave me my answer, actually, while you were talking was, you know, I think the reason. The. The point that I know I'm starting to get burnt out or something needs to shift or I'm in the wrong direction or I'm going too hard, is I stopped for long periods of time, like, hearing God or my soul, like, it just, like, to tune out. And that's when either something needs to shift or I need to slow way down to, like, get clear again. So I want to know what matters. Like, what. What's mattering to you when you're. When you're putting your, you know, asking yourself this list on your runs every day, like, what do you. What's mattering right now? That you're like, what could I do? What does that look like? What's being created around?

So what matters to me? And this. I'm gonna try to wrap this up as best as I can, but, you know, obviously, like, family. I mean, I just. That's my heart, you know. You know, just family, friends, people around, those memories and moments, you know, I just, you know, with my mom being sick with cancer, like, it just brings you. You know, like, there's no amount of followers that could, you know, that could change that around. And I've seen that. Not just with my mother, just with losing people in my life over years. And just I'm sure everybody has experienced that. It's like the one thing you think about is like, dang, I wish I had to create more memories in time. And so for me, that matters. First just create memories with my family and people, and then with rehab time, it's literally to impact. And what I mean by saying that, it's whether it's a video, whether it's a book, whether it's, whatever, I just want to be able to let people know that they're going to be okay. I want to help people turn their pain into their power. You know, I'm just the guy that just cares, you know? You know, I'm sure, you know, kind of my story with why I started, but, you know, my college roommate committed suicide and my best friend. And so it was my promise to him, him that when. And the reason I believe, you know, obviously I don't know the whole truth, you know, I can't hear from his mouth. But the reason I believe that he took his life is because he lost certain things, right? And he felt like, well, my life is over now. And so I promised him that I would make sure to be a voice for people, that when someone loses something. So you hear a lot of my message, like, hey, if this person leaves you or this situation happens, or I told him also, if you lose a job or a sport. And so that's why a lot of my messages are based around that, because I don't want people to lose their life because they lost something. So that's my other thing I care about. I care about, really people being able to overcome their depression, to be able to overcome their losses in life and not take their life. And ultimately, with my faith, I'm a believer. And so I want to lead people closer to him, and I don't want to lead people closer to me because I don't have all the answers. And so that's what matters. You know, everything else is cool. Like, it comes with it. Okay, cool. But it was never about. And it's still never about how many people follow me. It was still never about how many people come to my events. Like, when I first started, it was literally like five people. And I was excited and it was 15 people. And I still have that same excitement now. Like, I just went and spoke at an event. It was like 30 people there. And I was super excited to do it. I spoke to some kids. And so I know in my Heart. When I do these things, like go to elementary school or go speak to a football team, and I still have that same excitement. I'm in the place I need to be. Because for some of us at times, you know, we get so tied up into the celebrity part, and we get so tied up into how many people are there. Like, I had a conversation with a guy, and I'm not gonna say his name, but I had a conversation. We were backstage. It was like, oh, it's on only. It's only 100 people out there. And I'm just like, what? I was like, that's 100 people to impact. You know, I don't care how many people are there. I care about how many people need help that's out there. And so, yeah, to kind of wrap it all up, those are the things that I really care about. And, you know, I guess if you looked at it like a vehicle, I think for. I can really speak for myself. At a point in my life, I had the wrong thing in the driver's seat. In my life, I had the wrong. Had all these external things right, like, whether it be money, whether it be significance, I had all these things in the driver's seat, and that was controlling my life, and I was becoming a slave to that. I made a video not too long ago. I felt like I was a puppet. That was puppet masters, right? It was, like, pulling my life. I was like a puppet. And once I cut the strings and I put, I feel, like, the right things in that driver's seat, while those things might still be in the car heart, they're not controlling my life. And so that's just where I'm at.

Well, I just want to thank you for just sharing so much of the way your mind works, the way that you think, sharing about your faith, sharing about your family, sharing about what matters, because I really. These are, you know, the principles that can make up a really great life. Like, this life is a gift. Not somewhere else, not waiting for something else. So thank you for just bringing us back to the present moment and just making us realize that this is really up to us to create this gift for ourselves. And I know that you have. You literally are one of those people who just puts your whole self out there because you want to help people. So you have so much wisdom online, you have so much wisdom on Instagram, you have so much wisdom in your books. And I just found out that you have another book. Can you tell me a little bit about that one and what it's called?

Yeah, I'M super excited. So my book is called. My new book is called Straight Up. And I always said it in every single video. So I felt it was, it was appropriate to name it Straight up. And this book is actually, it's actually targeted to young adults, but it's for everybody. Like, I feel like when you pick up the Greatest shoe, which is my book I just released in May, it was more of a reader's book. You know, if you're a reader, it's for you. It's more of a lot of principles. This book, if you are, you know, in this era of social media where you don't like to read, you know, like 10 chapter, I mean, 10 page chapters, you just need to pick up a book and get a dose of it. So I'm being straight up about different stuff, right? Straight up about relationships, straight up about mindset. And you literally can pick up the book and read it in five minutes and get a very big, you know, a very big dose of inspiration and impact in your life. And I feel like this book is more of me. I feel like when you pick this up and read it, like, this is Trent, like, to the table. And so I'm super excited. Comes out in May, but you can pre order right now on Amazon. And like I said, not just for young adults. I believe that adults will find this very, very highly impactful. Also.

I love that. I'm not gonna lie. Those are some of my favorite types of books for the morning. Because my brain's just like, give me something good.

Yeah, exactly.

Please help me. So that is amazing. You guys definitely go and check that out. And I always end on one last question. But first, before I ask that question, want to. If there's anything, like, left on your heart that you want to leave with the listeners. Is there anything that's coming up for you right now?

You know, the thought that just came to me, you know, I don't know who it's for out there, but just keep driving through your storm. You know, I just remember coming back from my grandma's funeral and from Arkansas to Texas, and it was a really bad storm and my dad was following behind me and I actually didn't have my contacts on, so I was like, barely seeing. Like, I had my family in the car. I was like, I was man, just trying to make it. Of course, of course I didn't let them know that, but I was just trying to make it. It was a bad storm, like tornadoes. And, you know, we were in Texas, so tornado alleys. And on the Radar. And I remember checking the gps, and the GPS is like, you know, we kept driving. Then, you know, the storm went in. So my dad was like, we're stopping and pulling over. And I was like, man, I'm gonna keep driving. And to make a long story short, and within five to 10 minutes, I was out the storm. But my dad's sitting in the storm. He was there for another whole hour. Hour. Wow. So just think about that with your life. Sometimes, yes, it's gonna rain, but no storm lasts forever. And all it takes is you just to move forward and eventually that storm will end. And it takes the storm to produce growth. It takes rain to produce growth. So I always remember that.

So beautiful. So ending on one last question. And you guys go find him, Go follow him. Can you just tell us where we can do all that good stuff?

Yeah, just. Just at Trent Shelton. Facebook, YouTube, Instagram, any of those sites and you'll find me.

Honestly, if you're not a book reader, just go and watch one of his videos every morning. You'll be good for real. So you are in an elevator, in passing with someone on a street, but it's a total stranger, and it's like a 30 second interaction. And they just look at you and say, how do I make myself happy? What do you say?

How do I make myself happy? You accept everything about yourself. You accept the imperfections, you accept the perfections, you accept the mistakes, you accept the success. You accept everything about yourself. And I would tell you, how you don't make yourself happy is depending on external things to do that. So all your happiness comes from the inside. And it starts with appreciation for your life. And I think once you start to appreciate your life, you'll start to elevate your life.

Well, if anyone's ever going to get stuck in an elevator, they're going to want to get stuck with you.

So thank you.

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