470: Questionably Awesome - Your burning questions about COMMUNICATION answered

But I always think that when people, you know, and this goes for anybody who has an Instagram or anything in life or people are giving you criticism, that's maybe not the best. It's just. It's coming from a place where they can't love themselves, so they don't know how to do it in a loving way. Welcome to the earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of The Bliss Project, 3 Time Fitness World champion, fitness expert and cover model, turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur and author. Each week I'll bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears, connect to your soul and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life, business and relationships. We don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough. We take what we want and we anoint ourselves. Get ready to earn, own and unapologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are you with me? Here we go. Welcome back to questionably awesome, where I have my amazing co host Evans sitting across from me and we're both drinking coffee out of our. Is that your favorite coffee mug?

I really do like this one. It's not my top one, but it's up there.

Is it like a top five? I would say it's a top five. What makes a good mug, in your opinion?

I like. I really think the thickness of the rim matters because her lip is curved.

Out on her mug. So do you like that?

I do like a curved lip.

Interesting.

Do you like a curved lip?

I don't. I feel as though the shape of my mouth might make it like it just. There's too many scenarios with a curved lip where it could slide into my face.

That's a great point. How about your handle? How do you like your coffee handle?

It's gotta be big.

Mm.

I've got to be able to like, really be able to hold onto that handle. Like when they. When there's those little ones for like one or two fingers, I'm like, yes. So frustrated.

Who has the. Those delicate hands.

If you want to cause frustration in my morning, you're going to give me a mug with a one looper. Wait, like where you have to hold it like this? It's a little index finger. Like, who wants to apply that much pressure to their middle finger in the morning?

Absolutely not.

And too much performance.

You know, some of the nicer coffee shops, I feel like I'm going to sound so ridiculous right now, but they have no handles.

It's too much for me, no handles on your mug.

Like, you just sip it. Yeah.

It's strange. How do you feel about that?

I. I would. I like a handle for security.

Everybody wants a handle. Everybody needs a handle.

You need a handle.

If you don't need a handle, I want to know where you were raised that it feels as though you don't need one.

Oh, yeah. It could be, like, kind of like soft drink and Coke. Like, you know how people call them different things. Maybe there's a coffee mug trend that we don't know about.

Have you been to La Paine where you get, like, a bowl of coffee, and at first you're like, this is so cool. And then you realize you have to use two hands for it the whole time while you're on, like, a new friend date or something. And you're like, hold on. I'm gonna just slap this up like a kitten in front of you. So. Yeah. But I love Le Pain.

Me too.

If you don't know what it is, it is a really cute, like, French cafe. Yeah. Good Lord. They have the best, like, salmon and poached egg.

Didn't we go there one time and do work one day? And it was really fun.

We did.

That was really nice.

That was nice. And they usually play, like, French music. It's very.

Yeah.

Like, quaint.

And I think it's nationwide. Right. So a lot of people could go there. Or is it just here?

Well, I think it's, like, on the coast potentially, but I don't. It's not in the middle of the country yet.

Someday.

Someday, I hope, because it is really a special little place. So how you been, Evans? How's your January shaping up?

You know what? January is going to be a really good month.

You feel that way? I feel great about it. So I know last week you were kind of like, what's going on in my life?

Yeah, I still feel that way, but I feel more confident about the confusion.

Like, grounded.

Yeah.

How come? What's changed?

I think just making the choice to say it's a really weird transition right now, so you're gonna have to just suck it up and be comfortable with that.

I love that I'm totally in the exact same place, to be honest. Like, just. I think you're either in and you're like, are we ready for this conclusion on life? Everybody buckle up. Here's. I'm gonna sum up life right now. Here we go. You've been waiting for this your whole life. You're either in where you're. You know, where you think you're supposed to be, or you're in your groove and you're probably, like, stressed or overwhelmed or looking for change, or you're in transition and you're wishing that you had a little more stability and boredom. Because humans are. Unless you decide to mentally and emotionally decide to be good with where you are right now in this moment, no matter what, you will always, like, find something to not be happy about.

Exactly.

Because transition is just another thing.

Yeah, it's just what happens.

It's literally a part of life. If you're not going through frequent transitions, you're probably feeling restless.

Yeah. You ain't living.

You ain't living if you ain't transitioning.

That's right.

Ooh, Evans, it's a shirt for you. Everyday transition.

Speaking of transitions. Yes. Do you have a quote that you like to share?

You know what? That was a nice transition.

That, wasn't it?

I really like what you did there. Let me just unlock my phone. Here we go. This is from Teresa Collins, and she says, you can never meet your potential until you truly learn to love yourself. And I think this really goes into what we were just saying. You'll never actually be happy with your life if you don't learn to be happy with just the transitions and the parts that aren't great. And it doesn't mean happy. Right. I just said this to Chris on a walk the other day. I was like, you know what? Like, trying to chase happiness every day is so challenging. So I just wanna chase, like, being okay with wherever I'm at. And it's just, like, such an epiphany to be like, I'm gonna chase having a good day and doing things that are fulfilling and connecting with people and, like, being grateful for good food and, you know, a house and just whatever. Gonna be grateful for it. Because we are. So we've been watching, like, a lot of movies lately, and a lot of them have been, like, not they're awesome, but they're, like, depressing. Like war movies. And I watched Midway and so many different things where you're like, whoa, we have not. Even though this can feel like a somewhat unstable time in history, our day to day, if you're not, like, soaking things in, if you're not on social media can feel somewhat normal. Yes. So it's not like we, you know, I just think of all of these different war movies I've been watching. I'm like, it's not like we are, you know, going around with.

Hungry.

Yeah, going hungry. Like, we don't have A lot of, you know, I know some people have people away at. At war in the army or, you know, in the Navy or whatever, but we don't have a ton of that where we're worried constantly.

Right.

Don't get me wrong. There are some people for sure, but, you know, our day to day is pretty, like, status quo for the most part.

Yeah. We can go to Whole Foods. I mean, that's ridiculous.

Exact. Go to Whole Foods and pick out amazing organic peanut butter cups.

Yeah.

So when life gets you down, go to Whole Foods and remember how freaking normal your life is.

Yeah. And get that Justin's peanut butter cup.

And open it while you're in the aisle. And they won't even, like, stop you because you'll be like, I'm saving the wrapper and I'm gonna check out with it. What are you gonna do about it?

Do you know at Trader Joe's you can sample things. They'll, like, open them up for you if you've never tried them. Really? Seriously, they're really nice there.

So what do you do? You, like, go up to some rice crackers and you're like, I don't know if I like this brand.

Can I try these? And they'll open them up for you.

What if you want to try it with cheese as well?

Like, make your own charcuterie platter. Be like, I want to make this. Yeah.

If you're like, you know what? I've never tried this type of gruyere, but I need it on this rice cracker that I've never tried and want to be like, but no, I feel.

Like they would be open to it. You know, I'll try it out.

You know, in California that if you put up a stink, they would just be like, ma', am, what other rice cracker do you want?

Yeah, ma', am, whatever you want. It's fine.

And then you're like, wait, are these gluten free?

How many calories? Where were these made?

Where were these? Is this sustainable?

Yeah. Packaging, California eating. It's a whole new world out here.

We gotta make a song about it.

Yeah.

Oh, do you have a quote?

Oh, yeah. It's from Marianne Williamson, and she says, joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are. Wow. Oh, that's weird that we picked the things. They're very in line with each other.

We're kind of just picking quotes about, like, settling in. Yeah. You know, it's. I just think it's like, I don't know, I put this quote up about like my age recently. Like, hey, I'm 39. And some days I'm great with that. And then other days I'm like, what the holy.

What is this?

What is this? What is life reflecting back to me? And you're going to find and see what you're looking for. And I just have been really focusing on why, like, aging as a female is such a freaking awesome thing.

Yes.

And like how you can just get better and better and better in your life or find the joy or whatever that looks like. But putting things into perspective because, man, if you let other people tell you what's up, I don't care if you're 15, 20 or 50, you're gonna get answers that you don't want.

Right. You gotta listen to.

You only gotta listen to you. And you gotta surround yourself with people that you love.

Amen.

Because at the end of the day it's like, do I have relationships in my life that just. I can be at ease, I can be myself?

Yep.

Yeah.

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So you got a question, Evans? Oh yeah, we're gonna do a mashup too. Heck yeah. Let's do a review.

It's really nice. It's from Mandy Suday.

Mandy Sue Day.

Mandy Sue Day.

Love it.

Lori's heartfelt and motivating messages are top of her game. When her co host Evans joined the podcast gained a playful, witty spirit that I absolutely adore. While listening to this podcast, I gained my first client.

Oh my God.

I also gained more self appreciation and a big old healthy dose of laughter. This is my weekly bliss. Thank you Lori and Evans. You have truly blessed my life. I love you guys.

Wow.

Wait, did I read that one before?

I don't get it. Okay, never heard it. I think you read it to yourself like 20 times on a bad day.

I'll read this again. Thanks Mandy.

Aren't those the best?

That was real. And congratulations on your first Client. First of many.

That is so amazing. And I think that goes back to the quote of, like, you can't fulfill your purpose till you love yourself. Way to go, Mandy. Seriously, like, finding things to be grateful for and just happy about and, you know, give yourself that time, and then all of a sudden, look at that. You feel good. You're appreciating other people.

Yep.

I think that a lot with, like, you know, because Evans, we both know, like, just in general and in life, like, some people don't leave awesome reviews. And I always. Now I'm at a place where I'm like, whoa, if you do that and it's not done in a constructive way, it's different. When it's constructive.

Yes. Love construction.

Love construction. I love summers full of construction.

I love cranes.

Yeah. Love cranes. There's nothing like a good old crane.

Yeah. But constructive criticism.

Constructive criticism. But I always think that when people, you know, and this goes for anybody, you know, who has an Instagram or anything in life or people are giving you criticism, that's maybe not the best. It's just. It's coming from a place where they can't love themselves, so they don't know how to do it in a loving way. And so I actually feel more compassion after the stinging. After the bee sting, I'm like, mother bee. Then I'm like, okay, yeah, that was done by an angry bee. That's fine.

That person is just upset about something.

Just upset. This is happening everywhere in their life.

Yes.

So that makes it better. It's like, okay, it's not just me.

Yes.

Everywhere.

And I know I've said things that I really wish I hadn't in the past.

Same.

You know those times when you've gossiped or something like that, and you're like.

Oh, I'll never forget this one time. I was really young and we had one of my. This is such a random thought, but it's very much like it was just burned into my soul.

Yeah.

It was one of those moments where I'm like, I'm never doing that again. Oh, I hate those. Like, I just remember and you can't take it back and you just know you just hurt somebody to. You just might have changed the way they view the world.

Yes. Yes.

I was really young, and my sister had this girl who was living with us for a while because she had. Was like, moving states. And our family was always that family who, like, adopted people for, like, a couple months. And one of our friends came to live with us for a few months while she was, like, transitioning to a new state. Like, I think she was probably 18 at the time. 17 or. No, she was 18. And, you know, being a younger sibling, I was, like, annoyed that someone was living with us.

Yeah.

And I was saying these things to a friend who had come over, like, she always needs attention and blah, blah, like, really mean things. And I really loved her. I actually loved the girl. But I think you're just like, upset about the attention dispersion, if that's a word.

Yes.

And anyway, I had talked all this smack for like five minutes and opened the door and she was standing there and just bawling. And she was like, I didn't know you felt that way. And it just hit me in the gut, like, I didn't even mean what I was saying. I was just saying it because I was feeling upset and wanted attention and didn't know how to communicate yet.

Right.

And you're a teenager, and I was a teenager. I was probably 13 years old. And I just remember I was like, wow, I'm not ever gonna do that again. It was the worst. And she just bawled her eyes out. And it was just weird after that.

Yeah.

Like, nothing seemed to make it better. Even though I. Which I'm really proud of looking back, I was like. I had said to her, like, you know, I did this out of attention, like, for myself.

Dang, that's really wise.

Yeah. I actually can't believe that looking back. But I just remember, you know, why you're doing it when you're doing it. So anyway, yeah. If I can. If I can stop one person from those moments.

Yeah.

To be a little more conscious, but I think we've all had them. And that's how you learn. You learn from the burn.

Yeah. And it hurts. And there's nothing worse than knowing you've hurt someone from saying something stupid.

Oh, it's like hot stove syndrome. People are like, no, it's hot. You're gonna burn yourself. You're like, but is it.

Yeah, it all help breaks. It is.

Well, at least now I know.

Yeah.

Knowing's half the battle. You have a question? Yeah, let's do it.

It's about communication, ironically. This is from Al Lands. What are your struggles with communication and how have you moved on from those? Well, we know one. Well, we know one from.

We know one.

Okay.

Oh, you know, I think communication is. It's going to be your. It's going to be the thing that's going to get you the furthest in life, and it's going to Be the thing that's going to hold you back from everything that you want. Yeah. Because communication. Lack of communication in relationships will be the demise of your relationship. Friend, lover, everything.

Yes.

Job, team. Holy crap. Let me tell you. I am in communication right now, and I'm really, really, like, it's so fun once you start it, though. It's so fun once you can say, hey, this is how I'm communicating. I'm just thinking of this with my team. Like, we are really adopting the idea of radical candor. And it is like not letting one resentment or resistant thing go by without you saying it out loud in a loving way. And also three loving things to one thing that is either needing to be critical or put out in the air, whatever that is.

Yeah.

That's been so powerful because I would notice, like, little things where I'd be irritated and not say things, and they just add up and you don't look at the good things about that person or that thing that's happening. If you kind of, like, are just adding up and taking score of the things they're doing wrong, in your opinion, they can't do the right things without you telling them. And they appre. Like, I'm just noticing the cohesiveness and the. The joy and the love that's happening between all of the people that I'm committ. Communicating with more openly.

Yes.

And it's such a cool thing when you sit across from someone and you're like, oh, my God, this is so cool that we just had a tough conversation. We both feel better, and now we can move forward.

So what brought you to that point of. Was it just practice of just years of, like, you know what? I just need to bite the bullet and get better at communicating.

What brought me to that point is knowing that all of my success and, like, fulfillment in relationships is only going to happen when I have tough conversations a lot. Right. And they don't seem tough anymore once you start this. They do, but they just seem like you're not gonna not have them. It'd be like now that you have communication with Adam in the way that you want and you have a therapist to also help you communicate right now.

Yes.

It would be like having all of these ways of having, you know, being able to put out in the open how you're actually feeling and deciding to go back to resentment and not talking about that.

Sounds awful.

Yeah. You're like, no, no. Once you know what a clear channel feels like, it's like, there's no blocks. There's no Things blocked up anymore. So, you know, read books on communication. Read Radical Candor, anybody who has a question on communication, or go listen to the 20 minute TED talk. Because, come on, I know that 2% of you are going to go read Radical Candor. So I'm going to stop right now. I'm going to order that book. Okay, maybe.

You know what?

This is a pretty awesome crowd, so I'd say like 30% are gonna read it. So go listen to the TED Talk. Kim Scott. Radical Candor adopted into your life. Have the people that you love listen to it and be like, hey, I really want to try this. Is this a safe space for us to start communicating so that I don't, you know, hate you in my mind?

I love it.

Don't say that.

Yeah, but I know what you mean.

But you know what I'm saying?

Candor is really important. There's this book I always listen to. You know those books that you just.

Keep on keeping on with.

Keeping on.

Yeah. What is it? I need to know.

It's called Eight Habits of Love.

Oh, I've never.

It's my. I think it's one of my favorite books.

Oh, my God.

It's by this. It's actually a Reverend Ed Bacon. He was on Oprah.

Like, his name already, right?

Ed Bacon. What a name. And he has a really soothing voice too. So if you want to listen to something soothing. But one of his habits of love is candor and talking. He talks about, like, how he can use it at work, how he can use it with a partner.

Wow.

And it's just kind of being honest, but also kind and doing.

Baconator.

The Baconator. I'm telling you, that book is amazing.

I need to listen to that.

Really?

Is it good on. Do you listen on audio or.

Yes.

Okay, cool. I'm gonna have to listen.

And it's not. I know. Even though it's 8 Habits of Love sounds like it's like a marriage book or something, but it's not.

It's like a life relationship.

Yes.

Yeah, totally. Because love is. Love needs to be infused in everything you do. Like literally to the stranger in the Starbucks line.

Exactly.

Because there are. Everybody's going through their own thing. Everyone thinks we're so separate. It's. We're such freaks. Like, we walk around and we look at people, like, obstacle in my way.

Yeah. Idiot.

And then if you look at them, like, dang, like people are out in the world. Like somebody who is in line, who's annoying you or taking too long might be the person who, like, engineered your vehicle that you're obsessed with serious. And they just have trouble ordering because their mind is too big to take in the small, like, decision of ordering between Blonde Roast and Pike Place.

Yeah, Pike Placer Blonde. A very tricky decision.

And they're like, this is too simple. I need more complexity. And you're like, come on, it's not rocket science. And they're like, but that's what I do. I do rocket science.

Yeah, I actually do rocket science.

Like, I made your car and you're annoyed with them and you're just like, blonde roast 2%, basic.

2%.

I was just reading or listening. I don't know what it was, but it was like somebody was saying, like, I pray for the basic. I don't know what that.

Yeah, I like that.

Like, oh, they're praying for me.

I am. I was just going to say, I think that's me.

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What's our next cue?

Okay, the next cue is from CBello4410. How do you balance life, work, working on yourself and making sure you have time for others?

It's a great question. I really love that her parents went with just numbers naming her. They're like, you know What? We have 10 kids. I can't even keep track of you. You are C. Bellow 4410.

4410.

Yeah. And they were huge. 4, 4, 11. Huge Star Trek fans. They make them Wear Star Trek pins around the house.

Yeah.

And they're like. Before you talk, you touch this pin.

That's my dad. Okay. So I'm from a blended family, but I have three half sisters and my dad calls us like daughter one, daughter two, daughter three, daughter.

Smart man.

Right?

Fixes up our names all the time.

Smart man. And he doesn't want to show favoritism. You know, that's what I'm going to do with my kids.

1, 2, 3 or 4.

Number one. Actually there is a. It's so interesting. You read. This isn't just from reading this. Are you ready for some basicness? Because it's coming out of my mouth right now.

Yes. Let it pour.

Here we go.

Let it out.

This is not just from reading this book, but it is. Was my first initial contact with this concept. Eat, Pray Love.

Love that book.

How in India when she went. And they have, you know, a firstborn, second and third, they all have the same names for firstborn, second and third. So you know.

Oh, that's right.

So they all have like the same. I don't know if it's a partial name or full name. And I was like, that's so interesting. So when you meet someone, you know, if that's a firstborn, a second born or you know, whatever role they play in the family. And that just blew my mind.

That is crazy. I. I completely forgot about that part.

Well, gotta go back and just immerse yourself.

That's a great book. I really like that movie as well.

If you just need to go see that. But I don't think they talk about it in the movie. Well, they should. You know, I loved that movie, but the book was just. You can't compare to the book. So just read the book.

Yeah, read the book. Because it's a really good book.

Everybody loves a good Julia Roberts.

Okay, but how do you balance. How do you balance life, work, friends, self love? So I think that we can get.

Better and better at this. And I know that we get this question every single podcast. We really do. This is the question of every year of the century. Of the century of life in general. Yeah. And I think it's just learning what works for you because you're gonna to balance in your mind. You're gonna have to go against status quo. So you first. I think you're gonna have to let go of what the mainstream idea of balance should look like. So, you know, I think a lot of us are breaking family patterns right now. And whatever that looks like, whether that's one Person staying home with the kids or whether that's making sure you have two days off or whether that's. I. I don't know what that looks like for you. Some. For some people, balance. They're like. You know, my family worked seven days a week, and they owned, you know, a liquor store or a grocery store. And I didn't. You know, balance to us was just all working together in the store every day.

Yeah.

So it's. You have to just decide what your balance is and then plan it. So Chris and I were just in, and I think we talked about this last time, but we were just in Laguna doing, like, our 2020 planning. And it's like, what is balance to us? Like, what's important? So what is balance to you?

I think I'm trying to get to a point where things like working out, for instance, or eating healthy, those are just automatics in my life.

Yes.

So they don't feel like I have to do extra to balance them. Does that make sense?

Oh, a million percent. I'm totally there. I'm actually just like, this is a part of my life. If you. So I talk to myself in the third person all the time because actually, it works really well. I don't know if you know this, but, like, it is proven to actually work to talk to yourself as if you're talking to a friend. And sometimes when I'm, like, making decisions, I'm like, okay, Lori, and it works. So try it.

I am.

Like, you need to do it in a loving way. Like, okay, Evans, you know what? You know that in order for you to have a good day and to feel good, you have to support yourself with what you eat.

Yes.

And you know that as a human, you need to move or you're gonna not feel good. You're gonna treat the people you love poorly. So I'm just kind of, like, really talking to myself. Like, what do you need today? Yeah, how about you give that to yourself as, like, a gift so that you can, like, gift other people and be the best version. And also just feel happy tonight. Because life is long and it's short, but for the most part, life can be really long. So you better make sure that you're, you know, taking good care of yourself. Because nobody else is.

Nope. Because you gotta. You gotta.

Nobody. You.

You're your number one.

Listen to me, moms, because someday I hope to be a mom, and someday I hope to just, like, have you throw this back in my face.

Yeah.

Nobody else is gonna take care of you. And you have to show everybody else how to do it. We have to show our kids how to do it. We have to show our friends how to do it. Like, I may not be a mom, but I think that I am, you know, hopefully an example to people of how to take care of yourself while you are doing the things that you want to do in your life.

Yes.

And that requires me to really mother myself. Like, I'm constantly mothering myself in a loving tone and a loving voice. Don't get me wrong, I have my moments where my mom is very abusive. Meaning not my mother, not my actual mom. The mom that is speaking to me in my head. But yeah, just a more like motherly, nurturing, best friend voice.

Yes.

Yeah. Can't wait to hear that voice in Evan's head. Me too.

I can't wait to talk to myself. Yeah.

Try it today. I'm serious. Like, I can't wait to hear about it. Amp it up.

Yeah. I'm just gonna make it nicer.

I am, too. I'm amping mine up so we can hold each other to it. I'll ask you. I'll try to ask you on the next podcast.

Oh, yeah. Okay.

Okay. Okay. Yeah. So do you plan. You plan it in as well? Like you plan in your.

My workouts and stuff? Yeah.

Like your balance?

Yeah, my balance. It helps me if I have to pay for something. So I will have to go or else I lose money.

Yep.

So that helps me balance working out.

It's huge.

It's huge.

It is.

And just making dates with people, which I really trying to be better about being the person who asks, rather the person who.

You know what I mean? Oh, totally.

I gotta. I gotta ask.

Yeah. I have it on my list right now, like, to set in couples dates and friend dates. So as soon as I get a moment, which truly, I'm not putting it off. It's on my list.

Yes.

But really, when I get a moment to like, sit and be really intentional with, like, oh, I want to connect with this couple or these people or whatever. And then get them on the calendar.

Exactly.

And keep them.

Keep it, I guess, balance, you're always. You're always trying to keep balance. It's a constant thing that you're going to have to struggle with. And I feel like it's impossible.

You can't be.

Especially for women. You can't go to work, you can't run your business. You can't be a mom to eight amazing children and show up to all their things and be an amazing partner and look amazing. How Are you Spot you. I feel like that's impossible, you know? Is it? I don't know.

We gotta get octo mom on here.

You can't have your eight children. I don't know why I said eight.

You know, eight was a very popular number of children back in the day, too.

Yeah.

So that's probably. You're probably channeling Octomom.

Yeah, Adam.

I wonder how she's one of eight.

Seriously? Really? Yeah. He has. He has eight. Seven uncles.

Good Lord.

I know. Sounds like a movie.

It's a great movie.

Adam should make a movie called seven uncles. Get on it, Adam. I want to watch it. Use our amazing videographer. Let him know.

Okay, I'll tell him.

Do you think it'd be a boring movie or, like, a really spicy one?

I think it'd be really spicy.

I have to tell you this. This is hilarious.

What?

So my parents, like, saw us making vision boards, and they know we do it every year, and they're like, let's make some vision boards.

What did they put on theirs?

My dad. My mom is like, george, why do you have a jalapeno in the middle of your vision board?

Why?

He said, because I want to spice up my life. Stop it. I literally, like, laugh. I. I was like, that is the cutest thing. And let's get a little more clear, because you might somehow just, like. Just like, I don't know, like, inherit a jalapeno farm on accident.

He's not wrong.

No. He might be at a restaurant and just, like, get some spicy jalapeno and.

Be like, nuts on the jalapeno.

No, I manifested this anyway, I had to share that. So, Evans, we're closing up shop today.

Yep. Talk to yourself.

Talk to yourself in a loving way. Your best friend, your most motherly voice. What should we leave them with?

Spice up your life.

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