476. Questionably Awesome - Your burning questions about COURAGE answered

How do you support someone to be courageous? Tell them that you're here for them, but also push them out of the nest. You have to kind of pull yourself away once in a while and let them just feel the pain. Let them feel what it feels like to lean into their own face, but let them know you're there. Welcome to the earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of The Bliss Project, 3 Time Fitness World champion, fitness expert and cover model turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur and author. Each week I'll bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears, connect to your soul, and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life, business and relationships. We don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough. We take what we want and we anoint ourselves. Get ready to earn, own and unapologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are you with me? Here we go, foreign. Welcome back to another episode of questionably awesome, where we answer your questions. My co host, Evans Craddock and I. Hello. Hello. She brought me coffee this morning. We answer your questions. Here's the deal. We are not looking to talk about science.

No.

We're not looking to be the most intellectual people we know. Although clearly this brings it out in us without even realizing it.

Yes.

So if you're looking for interview style, if you're looking for something that you don't want to laugh, if that's not your mood, this is not for you.

Yeah. If you're in serious mood, we want.

To make you laugh. It's like our number one goal on here.

Yeah. I feel good about it. Yeah.

And we might make you cry, too. I don't know. Depending on the week. Depending on the week. And we just might test your patience. Yeah.

Which is also a good skill to have, isn't it?

Oh, my God. Like, if you can stay on here throughout, you get a blue ribbon. Yeah.

You can do anything.

If you can do anything. Oh, I swear to you, I. This is embarrassing. But not at all. I have totally listened to our episodes back and laughed.

You have? Oh.

Laughed hard. And I was like, clearly I shouldn't be sharing this with people. But.

Yeah, we do share some things.

Yeah. We share some.

There's a lot of poop and there's.

It's great.

It's just. Just, you know, what are you gonna do?

What are you gonna do? How was your week?

It was. It's been good. I went to the great state of Indiana last week.

That's right.

It was cool. What was that for? Adam's cousin's wedding. And it was lovely. And those people can dance.

Really? Yeah. I was like, Adam's family.

Oh, yeah.

They were really. The Adams family.

The Adams family really gets into it.

Well, like, why can they dance so well? I think Adam can dance too. Right.

He loves dancing. I think they just have this thing in their DNA where they feel really free on the dance floor.

Wow. I could see that. I feel like Adam feels pretty free in his life.

He feels free all the time.

Like, he frees himself with his shorts.

With his shorts.

He's like, my knees will not be in pants. These are freedom knees. He just. He won't. He's like, have you seen these knees? These look so good. He loves. Why would I cover these up?

I agree. He does have nice legs.

Great legs.

He's like the Diane.

Who's.

The.

Who's the Tina Turner? He's the Tina Turner. Of men.

Of men. I just keep showing those legs till you're 90 big wheels keep on turning Small knees keep on burning all right.

Yeah.

You don't have small knees. You have large knees.

Yeah.

You have whatever knees you feel are sexy. Adam. Yeah. So your family can dance? They can dance in Indiana.

They dance in Indiana.

Wow. Did they do any. This is what I really want to know. Do they do any, like, group dances there? Like, do they do some sort of shuffle, or do they do the electric slide?

I was expecting that, but they didn't have one single group dance.

You're kidding. They just all. Are all individual dancers who think that they are freaking amazing. Because they are.

It's crazy.

They're like, we don't abide by the rules of group dance. Right.

No rules. Just.

And it.

There are a lot of lessons there.

Yeah. You know what? If you're a good dancer, you don't need to lean. Yeah. On a group dance.

No. You just get out there and you do your own thing.

Wow. Interesting.

You're welcome.

I really think there is a lot of wisdom that we could turn that whole thing into a podcast.

I think so too.

Like, they don't feel they need to lean on the electric slide because they're like, no, no.

We got this.

God gave me this uniqueness.

Yeah.

We're not gonna mess it up with a group dance.

We're just gonna do it on our own.

I love me a good group dance, though.

Me too. Well, actually, I don't.

I never. I never. I was gonna say, but I never know how to do them. And always when you get it wrong, guess what? You're the only person facing them.

Oh, yeah.

Didn't we do a group dance on our Oprah cruise together? I feel like there were definitely some.

Group dances on that cruise.

I'm pretty sure we did. And I'm pretty sure I faced everybody. Like, I was just like, oh, like, you nail it for, like, 0.25 seconds, and then you totally don't.

Yeah. Was it the last night when everyone was dancing?

It was the last night. Were we having cocktails?

Is that why I feel like there were cocktails involved?

It probably was. It probably is what helped me through that group dance. Yes. I just face him and be like, hey, it's okay. No worries. Oh, boy. Do you have your quote? I do.

This is actually from Hoda Kotb's new book. Quote book. She has.

Oh, I didn't know she had one.

Yeah, she has a quote for every day. This is for April, but I'll just. I just went ahead. It says, today, I want you to think about all that you are instead of all that you are not. Mmm, I like that.

Why'd you pick that one?

Because it's easy to focus on. Especially when you have, like, resolutions and you're kicking off things. You're like, oh, I'm not in shape. I'm not this. I haven't done this with my business. Well, that's a terrible attitude, I think.

Yeah.

I'm just talking girl for myself. What am I doing? Why am I talking to myself like that?

It's only January 16th.

Yeah, I know. I know. Cut it out and be nice.

Cut it out.

Cut it out.

In the words of the guy from Full House.

Uncle. Who's the uncle? Not Uncle Jesse.

Oh, I can't remember. Everybody right now is thinking the name and yelling it in their car, but mad. He had quite the haircut. Those haircuts. Hockey haircuts, man, they're intense. They are intense. Okay, my quote is on friendship and support. Friend. This is Jim Morrison. Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself and especially to feel or not to feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to. Letting a person be what he or she really is. How beautiful is that?

I love that so much.

I chose this quote because losing Waffles this last week, I would have never made it without friends. And just, like, allowing. I've never allowed myself to feel like that ever forever. Or cry on Someone or any of the things and just all of the people and all of the emotions. And even when you walked in and you were crying because Waffles wasn't here, that's so beautiful and so perfect, allowing just wherever you're at, having the people that you don't suppress it or say, oh, it was just a dog. Like, no, I'm not taking that road. I don't care if people don't understand, like, feel all the feelings. It's so beautiful. And it helps you move through so much in your life. So wherever you're at, like, lean on people, let them. The person who hugs you, who, like, wants to help you through a rough day or maybe you heard some rough news about work or about someone in your life, like, hug those people and let yourself cry. Don't be like, oh, oh, it's okay. No, it doesn't feel okay right now.

Yeah, let it out.

Let it out. It's what we're supposed to do. And it's literally game changing to let that come up because it opens something up for you. It actually expands the amount that you're capable of holding emotion wise, which also means happiness wise. So I've just even grown to. I've grown a whole other level of what I think is possible for experiencing joy. So that's really pretty. Yeah. Thank you so much.

I don't know why I said it was pretty.

Like, a painting I liked was because I painted an experience for you and you.

No, you did. I think I just love that. And I so, so often we're like, oh, no, I'm fine. I don't need anything. It's.

I do it all the time.

Just let. Let it go.

Yeah. I don't really care if people think I'm a burden or they're like, oh, that's not the phase I'm at in my life. I'm gonna avoid that. That's great, too. Yeah, that's great too, if that's what you want to do. Because I get it. Like, I've totally been the person who's like, I'm scared to even go over there and say something to them. Like, say something to people. It's been really. It's been really beautiful to now have people in my life who are like, hey, I just want to say, blah, blah, blah, thank you for that. Like, those pretending it's not there is, like, not fun. So.

Right.

Yeah. You can't worry. Yeah.

Those little words. Sometimes I think people are afraid because it's like, oh, I don't know. What to say. So I think I'm just not gonna not say anything.

That is hard.

I've so been there where I'm like, I don't know what to say to people. And even just honestly, little emojis for people hearts and things like that, just, they feel good. They're really supportive. So, yeah, you don't have to know what to say. They don't expect you to say something. And they're not definitely not getting offended with what you're saying and what you're not saying. All of it, all of it feels like support.

So maybe just saying, hey, I really don't know what to say.

But here for you had so many people say that and I'm like, that was enough. So beautiful.

So, yeah, thanks, Lori.

Little life lessons.

I like that. Life waffles. Do you want to hear an. Wait, what? Oh, wait, you already did your quote. Do you want to hear a review of the week?

I would love to hear a review of the week.

Well, buckle up, ladies and gentlemen. This is from Amanda Lee, Southern Soul.

Shut your face. What a great last name.

Southern Soul.

This is your spirit animal.

Oh my gosh.

Oh my God.

Oh my God.

Are you gonna read in a Southern accent?

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I love that.

Like, if we really understood what was walking by our side and holding us and had our back, then we would never be afraid. I think the biggest thing that I'm learning is, you know, so many parts of me was afraid of losing something in the pain that I would feel. And so I have. You can avoid actually experiencing the biggest capacity of joy with whatever that person or thing is because you're so afraid of losing it. And. Or you are afraid of the pain and the, you know, the failure that comes with starting a business. And if you stay afraid of that, you're never going to experience the capacity, the highest capacity of the celebration of joy, of like being so proud of yourself because you're just sitting in fear of what could happen. And the pain. And I'll tell you, like, yeah, the pain's going to happen, but it's not half as bad as you think. That's what your friends are for, right? That's what, that's when you actually get closer to the people in your life that you didn't realize you could even be that close to. So everything's going to be okay.

You're supported.

Yeah, you're so supported.

Even if you feel like there's no one in your life, you're supported.

You're. You're more supported than, you know. Like, yes, I had people in my life, but I didn't understand how much closer actually going. Sharing your, Your pain or your, Your trials or whatever that looks like makes you to a friend. So the thing that you're avoiding Is actually the thing that's going to freaking bond you with all the people in your life.

Dang, you're dropping some really good stuff this morning.

This is Waffles talking for sure.

Well, waffles keep talking.

Waffles is like, thank God I can now express myself because I didn't have a voice before and the one you gave me was completely ridiculous. We always joke because her voice was an 80 year old smoker. She was like, rom, yo, Rom. I need some more reets. Get your SRO rass rover here. Put your hands in the rookie. Rawr. Get your slow ass over here and put your hands in the cookie jar. That's what she just said. And so now she's. And then we always joke that she was like, that's not. That's not my voice, mom. My voice is actually like this.

And I'm the sweetest and I would.

Never swear, but we all know that's not true.

No, she totally would swear.

Waffles. Oh, are you kidding me? Waffles did not know how to complete a sentence without dropping the F bomb three times. I was like, we have someone new coming over for dinner. Please don't swear. She's like, rock ram. If they have hands, they're rocking, using those rans and putting them in the rookie bar. It's not even a room in. It's just a set of rans rocking in. It's just a setup. She does. Do you know, do you know that she ended up calling us hands at the end like this? She wouldn't even say mom or dad. She would just be like, hey, brands.

Hands.

As in use your hands for the cookie jar or food. Hey, Hands. Like, so I'd call Chris and I'd be like, hey, hands.

What's amazing about this is it's true.

It's so true. I know it's true. You'd walk through the door, she's like, hey, hands. Belly.

She'd immediately just show you her belly what she wanted.

She was a woman after my own heart. Like, she was so independent. She would cuddle us at night for like 5, 10 minutes and then literally be like, enough and go down to the ground. I was like, okay, she knows what she wants. It's like, I have had some massages where I've literally been like, this is enough. Yeah, you're not doing it right. And what if I just was like, enough. Walk out. Like, we'll bring me some of those spa treats, eh? Hey, Hands, be done with this. Bring me spa treats. Okay, we're Good. Okay.

Hey. It takes courage to do those things.

She's courageous, let me tell you. She just has no. There's nothing stopped. There's no opinions. There's no if. Honestly, I just.

The.

The things that have come forward are these beautiful quotes about, like, dogs. Dogs don't need to live as long because they just experience, like, the pure essence of what life is. And it's so true. She had no. She didn't have a story in her mind about, you know, what she looked like. The fluffier the better. Like, she didn't have a story in her mind about, like, you know, taking something personal and not wanting to love you in a certain area. Like, she just was always just her. And how she felt and expressed how she felt. And I just thought that was freaking awesome.

So I think that's an amazing lesson. And I want to be more like Waffles.

I do, too. So that's moving forward. We're just going to be like, screw it. If you want something, you do it.

Yeah. Be like Yohans.

Yo Hands. Yohans.

It's a great.

Give me this.

Yohans. Who is this? Yohans.

Yohans.

See, they're like a famous classical. Yeah.

This was.

This is written by Johannes. I just had to say it so I could sound like I was funny, too. Thanks. That's what I do. I'm like, oh, Evans is funny. I'm gonna repeat everything she says.

I like it. Do you want a question about courage?

I do.

Okay, I'm gonna give you one.

Okay.

This is from Oodvibeschelsea. Great name.

Great name.

What are some tools that helped you to be courageous?

Hmm. What are some tools that help me be courageous? The reason I took a long pause is I was thinking of something humorous, and nothing came to me.

So.

I was like, no jokes there. Okay. Gotta move into the actual answer. Yeah. You know, the answers for this courage thing is probably gonna be a lot the same. And some of you are not gonna like the answer, and some of you are gonna love it, because there's gonna be some work to do. Because in order to be courageous, you need people. You need people, and you need to strengthen your faith. I always feel when I'm not courageous, it's because I'm not actually leaning on the power that I know is there for me from above or from the universe, Whatever you believe for me, it's because I'm not trusting that God has my back. And it's so funny. I'll say this in my mind. I know I've said this on the podcast before, but I say it in a funny way. Like that scripture. That's like, ye of little faith.

Yeah.

Like, I just say it in a funny way to myself, like, ye of little faith. Like, if you actually knew, and we just said this, if you actually knew what you were connected to, you would never not do the thing. So courage doesn't mean you're gonna be like, wow, God's got my back. I feel great about this. You look up and you're kind of like, are you sure? Yeah, that's how it feels. I'm doing this. But are you sure? Because if I fall, like, I really need you to catch me. Or. Here's the thing. Sometimes he. Depending on what you need in your life, sometimes he. It won't catch you. Mm. It'll let you fall. Because you need to really trust that even if you fall, there's gonna be something bigger to clean up. To clean up the mess. Or to make it even better, to turn that into a lesson that's so profound, you could have never got it without, you know, breaking your tailbone for sure.

Oh, man. That would be hard.

Yeah, it would be hard. It'd be a hard surface.

But there's a lesson.

But there's a lesson, because here's what happens. Sally, who wants to meet the man of her dreams, meets the man of her dreams at the hospital who is putting bandages on her tailbone.

I love that story.

Turns into a love story, and then Sally now gets to wag part of her tail because they had to. They had to put a new one in, and it's too big. So Sally now gets to have a tail and the man of her dreams. What's that? Is it shallow?

Hell, yes.

With the tailbone that wiggles.

Oh.

If you haven't seen it, it's one of my faves.

Shallow Hell is a great movie, but.

If Sally wouldn't have trusted the fall, she would have never gotten a wiggling tailbone.

Exactly.

The man of her dreams.

Because she was going after something she wanted because she was like, I can do this. And then that's when she broke her tailbone.

Absolutely.

Which happens.

Does happen. And if you ever want to write movies with me, we should definitely. They're like, this movie was already made. Kind of like.

No, no, it's different.

It's different. Sally falls and breaks her tailbone.

So one of your tools is that you repeat after yourself things like, ye of little faith.

Yeah. And to trust your friends and to trust that. However, the thing is Looking like you think you want one message in one lesson. And the funny thing is, us humans are like, oh, I want this lesson to do this thing. And for it to be a win. Guys, that's not a lesson. Yeah, that's a win. That's, like, easy. That is not how humans grow. And you wouldn't actually like it. Like, of course you. Of course you'd like it, but it wouldn't last because you'd be over and on with it. You'd be like, okay, now what? I've seen it. I've seen how the world plays out. It's really, really crazy. Like, some people who got. Who I used to just be so upset at, like, the universe, because I would watch people get things easy, and I was like, oh, my God, why are they getting things easy? And I'm not. Like, this is taking me three years longer, six years longer, whatever. That's really what I was thinking in my mind, if I'm being totally honest. And I look now how things even played out for them. And they got lessons in a totally different way. They got lessons in, like, a. Whoa. This category of my life was easy, but now I'm going in this. And they don't understand why it's not easy. So a lot of people struggle or can't make it through, and then they're getting lessons in that realm. So it's not that I wish lessons upon people who had it have it easy, but they. They might have it easy right now, but in other areas of their life, it's not easy. So nothing is as it seems, number one. Number two, sometimes if things are easy, you're gonna get the same message of, like, things need to be worthwhile. Things need to be like. It's like a grape that the more that a grape struggles, the better the wine is. Like, it's just. It's crazy. It really. It really is. Like, the grapes that turn out the best wine truly have more of a struggle. They typically have to grow up between rocks, and they have to. Yeah, it's. It's. It's nuts. So anyone who knows about wine can share a little bit. Why? Because I don't really know.

Yeah.

But I just know that's the case from visiting wineries. And then when I try to learn about the extended version of why, I'm usually already, like, four samplings in, and I'm like, cheers to that. Cheers to the struggle.

Cheers to raisins.

Cheers to raisins that became water juice. I don't know.

Oh, I love it.

Cheers to Raisins.

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Do you want another one?

Yeah, well, yeah, because I'm gonna have you weigh in on this next one.

Okay. This is from Al Lands. What gives you courage to jump into the fear?

What gives you courage to jump in the fear? Evans.

How do you jump into that?

Thanks, Al.

Thanks, Al. I guess having faith. Faith that it'll turn out okay no matter what. And I don't know, sometimes you just have to buck up with just like you're like, I don't know what's gonna happen. I can't really explain it. That's not a really good explanation.

Well, how about. Cause I know you've done really courageous things in your life, like moving. Oh yeah.

Moving was scary.

Like starting different jobs that you just like don't know anything about and you do it. And to be quite honest with you, getting married and trusting.

Oh yeah.

Like even when things, you know, even when in our relationship sometimes like don't have or don't. They might like. I know you guys went to therapy beforehand. Oh yeah. And for some people they would have ran the other way. Like if at the first sign of a problem or whatever that looks like.

Right.

So what's giving you the courage to do all of those things? Those are huge, life changing things.

Oh, I didn't realize that they were, but thank you for.

Oh, there's people who are like, I would never move to California. I would never wing in a prayer with that job. I would never just up and quit or go apply for that thing. You do it all the time. You're like one of the most courageous people I know. What the willingness to shift quickly when your gut is like, I'm just not sure. It may seem slow to you, but it's not. Like I'm looking at your trajectory and I'm like, what, did I just meet you like three years ago? Yeah.

How does it. How's it already been?

Three years? Look how much has changed and passed in three years.

A lot.

I know.

Yeah. I think like with moving, I was really scared and I knew it was gonna be hard, but just knowing that there's going to be a lesson or experience and what would, what would the alternative look like? Like, okay, what would happen if I didn't move? I would be doing the same thing. I don't know. Am I going to do a. Cool. I just, I don't know. I like.

You like adventures, but they're also scary.

Yeah, they're really scary.

I can't honestly say in the midst of seeing you do scary things that you were like, oh, I just like adventures.

This is easy.

I'm like, oh, I'm pretty sure there was a lot of tears at home in the midst of that. So what does that look like? I mean, really, I want to know. Like, when you moved, it is not easy moving to California especially.

No, I cried the first year.

So did I.

One whole year.

One whole year. That's why when people are like, I don't know if it's for me, I'm like, give it. Actually, it took me about two years to even find people. I agree.

Totally agree.

I was just like such a loner the first year and then the second year I started finding people and I was like, yeah, but they don't really feel like my soul fam yet at all. And it's not even that I have a huge soul family here. I have quite a few people who are epic here, actually. I really do now.

Yeah.

Yeah.

But it's taken time.

Yeah.

But is this my eighth year?

I know. I feel like I'm just starting.

This is the first Year. Not even shitting you. This is the first year that I'm like, oh, wow. I feel so. Like, I have freaking amazing friends here. You're eight, so welcome.

I know. I'm at year three, and I feel like I just now have the ability to, like, if Adam was gone, I'm like, okay. I think I know someone I could call if, like, my car broke down and I was really scared.

Yeah. Oh, my God. Totally, Totally. Like, I'm just starting to, like, meet neighbors.

Exactly. It's so hard. So I guess you have to know that. Know with courage that it's going to take time.

It's going to take. It's going to take so much time. And that's the faith part. And use. Use people. Use friends. Use their hands.

Use their hands.

Be a waffles and be like, yo, hands. My car is broken. My rar is broken.

That's true, too. It takes courage to ask for help.

It does. And to let people help. I want to be the helper. Oh, my gosh. Sometimes I'm looking for people to help, like, on the road. I'm like, if they're like, car is stalled. I'm not even kidding, Chris. And I just did this and I was, like, so excited. Someone's car was, like, stalled on Montana. And I'm like, let's go push it. So we were so excited. She was like, oh, my God. You don't have to. Thank you so much. I'm like, no, let me push your car. That's what I did in the Midwest. I felt so proud. I was like, I'm a hero right now.

You are.

So please let people be the hero of your life or you're robbing them of their X Men moment. Yeah.

Kind of learned about and that this is an old school book, but the men are from Mars, women are from Venus.

Yeah.

Learning about that. Oh, man, it's.

I know about it, but I haven't read it.

Some things I like, some things I didn't. But I did learn a little bit about how I. This is just a general statement, but men like to. They want to help you. They want to feel like a totally.

Like a provider.

Like saving the day.

Yep.

And yeah. And I think a lot of people feel it that way. And so let them help you.

Yeah, absolutely.

What do you have to lose?

Absolutely. Do you have one more cue? Oh, yeah.

It's from Meg. Underscore Cole. Underscore. Meg, what's up? How do you support others to be courageous?

Oh. So what just came to me was an Interesting answer. And that is you can't do it for them. So this is opposite of what we're talking about. So this is. There's gonna be a couple answers to this, but the first one that got downloaded to me, how do you support someone to be courageous? Tell them that you're here for them, but also push them out of the nest? Like, I think so many of us try to, like, hold someone's hand the whole time. You have to kind of pull yourself away once in a while and let them just feel the pain. Let them feel what it feels like to lean into their own faith, but let them know you're there. Another way is to really support them, to be like, hey, how would you support yourself? To ask them these questions? How would you support yourself around this? Like, what is something that you could do for yourself to make sure that you feel better? Like, how can you support yourself around the sphere? And then, how can I support you around the sphere? And then let's make a date for you to do this sphere. And then do you need more people around you? Can you tap into your community to help support you on this? Can you tell people about it? Like, all of those things? And also just not taking it on as your own, but letting them know that you're there for them? 100. How about you?

I love that.

How could you be supported right now in something that is, in your mind, Accountability. Oh, I'd love to be that person for you.

Yeah. Like, I need an accountability partner.

I would love to be that person.

Okay, great, Great.

What kind of accountability do you need?

That's how easy it is.

Yeah.

Just setting a deadline on taking action.

Okay. I can't wait to hear about it.

Yeah.

I'm not gonna ask you on here what it is.

Okay.

But I'll ask you right after this. Okay. And then we'll share when the time is ready.

Yeah.

When the. When the red thing pops out of the turkey.

Yeah. With the thermometer.

The thermometer. And then it'll be ready to go.

When it gets hot.

When it gets hot. All right. So, Evans, I feel like I need to end on some of your wisdom.

Oh, man. Boy, do I have a lot.

I know. That's why we end this way so much.

I would just say you just. If you think that someone needs to hear from you, you should probably contact them.

Wow. I'm serious. That is like. That's the most beautiful thing. That's called channeling, Evans, because somebody literally just said, I. My gut was telling me to call this Friend.

Yeah.

And they're avoiding it, so. That's so beautiful.

So much. Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. Like, oh, I need to call so and so. Well, then call them.

Call them. Or. Or start with a text. Yeah.

Or leave a voicemail.

Hey, you just. You were on my heart today. I just wanted to say I'm thinking of you wherever you're at, whatever you're doing, and sometimes you just have no idea what that does for people. Seriously, that is from the inner core of the world.

Let them use your hands.

Use your hands however you choose. All right, you guys, until next time, please make sure that you upload a story tag. Evans and I. Evans, what's your handle? And ecradcrad.

Ecrad.

It's really cool. Ecrad. She's on a park bench. She probably won't approve your. She probably won't approve your. What is it called? Friend request.

Yep. You're just gonna sit in that queue.

Sit in the queue. But you can stare at that picture on the park bench. When I made. Just real quick, like, I literally pretty much made Evans do this podcast with me, so. And she's more of a private person, and I was like, oh, get ready. Get ready for that cue to come up. So she's just like, nope, I'm keeping that to myself, so you can go look at her. But that's all you get.

It's not that exciting, guys.

It really is. Really is. Really is. So tag us in a story. We want to know what you took away from this, and we just love, like, seeing where you're at and what you're doing and how you're maybe snorting coffee through your nose.

Yeah, coffee beans.

Be careful with that. Be careful with the coffee beans.

Okay.

All right, you guys, until next time, earn your happy and keep it questionably awesome.

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