483. The three things that will make you successful

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There is positive pressure that you need in your life or you just don't show up to become your highest self. Welcome to the earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of The Bliss Project, 3 Time Fitness World champion, fitness expert and cover model, turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur and author. Each week, I'll bring you a guest or a thought that will help you bust through your fears, connect to your soul, and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life, business, and relationships. We don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough. We take what we want and we anoint ourselves, get ready to earn, own, and unapologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are you with me? Here we go.

Hey, everyone.

Welcome back to the podcast. And it's time for another quickie, because there's always time to fit in inspiration. And on this quickie, I have invited my husband. It's a good plan, right? So, you guys, we are talking about some three things that we know have made us successful. So let's get started.

All right, babe, here we are. One of the things that we heard the most from both your listeners and my listeners is that they wanted you and I to do more quickies together.

I'm so glad that they're concerned about our sex life.

Yeah, exactly. I don't know if we're supposed to film these or just record them via podcast.

Hey, this is a different type of quickie.

Downloads might go through the roof if.

We do it the other way.

Okay, so anyhow, you guys asked for more Lori and I together, and we made the commitment to do more of that this year for you. So here we go. Lori and I wanted to chat about three things that we really think make us successful, because one of the questions, let's say we're on a panel, let's say that we are talking to somebody. Let's say we're speaking at an event. One of the most common questions is, what do you think you do differently than other people that make you successful? We sat down, we really tried to think of, like, okay, what are three things that truly set us apart? So, babe, what's the first one?

The first one is, I think that we do this. I've done this from day one on goals, and without this, I did not do anything. And the number one is to create your own accountability.

Totally.

And I mean, I'm thinking back to my fitness days of like, oh, I wanted to get in shape. I wanted to be a mentor. I Wanted to be in magazines. Like, none of that was happening until I went to. I saw in Oxygen magazine, I saw that there was something called camp where they trained people how to compete in fitness and do different fitness competitions. And I had never flown on a plane before by myself. I think I'd only flown, like, one or two other times before that. And I was like, oh, my God, I have to do this. Because I knew I had to do it because I wasn't showing up before that. I had tried to set all the goals. I was 26 years old. I had not yet done the thing, even though I talked about it for five years prior. And I still had not done the thing because I did not have accountability for myself. So I had to put money down. We weren't in a great financial situation at all. We weren't really in a great spot in our marriage either, because I was not like, I wasn't creating accountability for myself. And I was just moping and feeling sad, and I just. You were coming home every day, and I was whining to you about how I didn't, you know, I was a victim, and I didn't have it like the other girls had it. I didn't get to go to high school or college or. I wasn't someone who was super fit. I didn't get, you know, those advantages. I wasn't an athlete. I would just stay in that mode over and over and over again. And it wasn't until I created that accountability for myself, put the money down, did the scary thing, got on the plane. Do you know how many times I tried to talk myself out of that?

Oh, yeah, I remember. And by the way, I hope people are catching what you're saying. Cause this is the first big breakthrough. I talk to so many talented people, and I give so many talented people advice. And I'm talking people that could absolutely crush it in whatever it is that they want to do. Like, I'm blown away when I talk to them, and then I talk to them six months or a year later, and they haven't moved the needle. And I've been there before, and you've been there before, and I want people to catch what you just said. You invested money and you invested in a coach, right? Camp Savage. Kathy Savage was your coach at the time. It was the combination of those two things that made you get on that airplane, that made you show up. Do you remember how scared you were?

Oh, my.

Go to that camp to begin with.

Well, think about it. I was homeschooled. I've never been around large groups of girls ever in my entire life. And here I am going to a fitness camp where all of these girls are, like, half of them are already all competing and were, like, stars in my mind. And they were. You know, it was Boston, so I'm from the Midwest. And there was a clear difference in our personalities. I was so shy. I had panic attacks. I was, like, sitting in the back the entire time. Kathy didn't even know I was there until, like, the very last day. It was. It was horrible and amazing all at once. And I can say, like, while I was there, it felt not good. And then when I was done, I was so proud of myself. Like, that was the first time I proved to myself that if you just show up, things will start to happen. Like, I met so many people. She made us set a date to compete. I had a partner who technically dragged me. There's someone I knew who was gonna meet me there. She ended up being there, but us not hanging out that much. And we set a date together to compete at the same time. She ended up backing out and not doing it. And I was like, well, shit, now I have to do this on my own. But it was the accountability now that I had with that entire group that really, really honestly launched everything for me.

There's three pieces of accountability that you just named, and all three are crucial. Number one, your skin in the game, your investment. Number two, your coach that you sought out. Number three, a deadline that you set. I'm going to compete on this date at this place. And you set that date before you left from that camp. And those are the three pieces of accountability that if you don't have these in your life, you're not going to succeed. It's got to be the investment, the skin in the game, in whatever form that is for you, something that, you know, it hurts that you put it into the game. So now you have to show up for it. It has to be the guide, the person, the coach, the tribe that holds you accountable and tells you where to go and when to go there. And it has to be the deadline that you set for yourself and that you live up to. You know what's funny? You said one of the people that agreed to compete with you didn't follow through, and you did.

Yeah.

I can't even remember who this is, to be honest with you, but I wonder where they are in life. By not showing up for a deadline and not being held accountable versus where you are in life.

Oh, my God. Because you showed up, she Wrote me like four years after that. She was literally like, I can't believe it. I'm kicking myself. And I was like, I didn't even know what to say.

Oh, my gosh, that's crazy because it.

Was her dream too. And it was just. She just was in the exact same spot.

Accountability is so important at every level. We're not just talking about people getting started. We're talking at a very elite level, too. So, you know, we run this elite level Mastermind, and it's mostly million dollar earners and up in there. And at the end of every time that we get together, we get together three times each year. At the end of every time we get together, they have to stand up and say one thing that they're going to accomplish by the next time we get together. Then they have to wager something that really hurts. And I give them a choice. It can be positive reinforcement, like if I hit it, I get this. Or it can be negative reinforcement, like if I don't do it, I have to do X, Y and Z. And it works so good for people.

Yeah, they know themselves.

It's like a triple threat. Here's why. Number one, they know themselves, so they're choosing things that are going to make them do it. Number two, they've now told the rest of the Mastermind. In other words, they told the public that I'm going to do this, and that holds them accountable. Number three, they've put themselves into a group of people of other high performers. And when you put yourself into a group of other high performers, let me tell you, you do not want to be the one person who shows up and doesn't perform. So it's like three forms of accountability in one right there.

And if that just made you sweat, that's kind of the, that's the accountability that you're looking for. So something that I want to point out, some of you are listening to this and you're like, oh, I would, I would be too nervous. You already counted yourself out. We talk about this at the Masterminds all the time. Like, sometimes we'll say something that's challenging, or sometimes we'll have a competition for something in there. And I always acknowledge, I ask for a show of hands. I'm like, who already counted themselves out just by us saying this? And that's the mindset that has to start shifting. You have to start noticing when you've already counted yourself out. Some of you want to join one of our masterminds, Some of you want to go and go to a camp or go to an event that you see online. Some of you want to join someone else's mastermind, some of you want to do Marie Forleo's B school. Some of you want to be doing all of these different things, but you're not. You're counting yourself out because you're like, I don't know how I'm going to do that. It's because you're missing the fact that once you show up in the room and you commit to different accountability and you get money in the game, then all of a sudden there's a lot of pressure. And here's the thing, I can't remember. It's a famous tennis player and she says, pressure is a privilege. Pressure is a privilege. And you have to remember that there is something such there, there is positive pressure that you need in your life or you just don't show up to become your highest self. So you're actually trading, here's what I think. You're trading suppression, depression and anxiety for, yes, pressure. But it's positive stress if you can manage it. And believe me, we also share a lot of tools in our masterminds and there's a lot of tool out there, you know, podcast different things like that to deal with the positive pressure of moving forward. But I'll tell you that growth and expansion always, always, if you choose the a positive perspective around it, it's going to feel better than stagnation.

Yeah, I always call it manufacturing pain points. Here's the thing, so many of you listening to this right now, your life is pretty good. Like, you may not be where you want to be, your business, not, may not be going the way you want to go or your marriage, your relationship or whatever. But let's be honest, if you take a step outside and look in, your life is pretty good. But that's the problem, is when things are pretty good, there's no pain point that is painful enough for you to do what it takes to be great. Good is the enemy of great. We've heard that before. So what you have to do is I call it manufacturing pain points. And you do that through accountability. Lori and I seek accountability like a heat seeking missile. Like, we surround ourselves with these different forms of accountability all the time. And that's why we move the needle so quickly. It's not comfortable.

No, it's not.

That's manufacturing that pain point because you and I have a great life, babe, or a really good life. But we know that we have other levels. We haven't tapped into and we wouldn't bother tapping into those things because it's painful without creating these pain points of accountability. So that's number one.

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Yeah.

And that's what I call our environment. You and I control our environment. This is number two. Number one is accountability. Number two is we control our environment like ninjas.

Now I wanna be super clear on this. Cause some people just said in their mind, well I don't have access to those people, so I wouldn't even be able to do that. That we didn't either you guys did. Are we forgetting we're from the Midwest? Like nobody lived there that we can really. That we were really hanging or that was like a putting on events at the time. Nobody had masterminds for us at the time. We had to travel to go by these high level.

We were, if we're being honest, we felt like a bigger fish in a smaller pond at the time. So once again, we weren't surrounded by any levels that were challenging us to get bigger. Yeah.

I mean not until later. Because we were actually small fish in a very small pond for a long time. Like when we had. Some of you don't know, we lost everything. We lost our home. We were like $300,000 in debt. So that's when we actually. That was our first move. We moved into the smallest apartment in the wealthiest building in a wealthy building. Like this apartment was actually created. It was made for the penthouse people's children to come and stay with them when they came back to visit.

That's the one we rente.

We'll take that one. Because we wanted to surround our. And that was. That was like really high on our price range.

Massive accountability too.

Oh my God. So accountability to show up and be like, well shit, we have to make this money. And also now we're around these people who are really, really successful. So that was one way we were like, we're gonna put ourselves in an environment that is bigger than us, that we have to grow into.

This is a beautiful example. Let's talk about this apartment that we barely squeaked our way into that really was just supposed to be extra accommodations for the wealthier people in the building. That is an ultimate example of controlling our environment. So look at that environment. Number one, it was an inspiring environment. Every time I'd walk Waffles, our dog, I'd talk to somebody else who was out there walking their dog, and they've already done a hundred times what we've done. So I was inspired. Number two, it was accountability, like we just talked about, because when you tell people that you live in the same building that you're going to do something, you're going to see them next week or the week after that, and you have to be held accountable to actually taking action, or they start to think that you're just a talker. So there was accountability in that environment. Number three, it was really a beautiful place. So I was inspired. We were inspired to create a life. Remember we kept saying we wanted to move upstairs?

Yes.

We literally meant it, but it was really in an analogy that we were inspired by this idea of being able to move upstairs into that building. Yep.

We'd be like, move it on up. Move it on up.

That building was a great analogy of controlling our environment.

Yeah. Here's the deal also is just getting in the room. So we're not telling you to go move apartments, but actually, sure, if you can go stretch yourself and move for real. But I am saying, get in the rooms. This was an example of we're getting into an environment where the conversations. When you're just bumping into someone, taking out your trash or, like he said, walking your dog, you now share with them what your vision is. And they're like, oh, my friend does this. Oh, this person does this. You are accessing different contacts. And that. That's what happens, you guys, when you get into rooms and masterminds or you go to events. Because Chr and I started going to different events. And that is where we were like, okay, we're super introverted, you guys. It's so easy for us to go to events and be like, we're going up to our room on lunch break. We're going up to our room afterward. And we were like, this is not the time or the place to play small. Like, we came here to go and meet people. So what we did is we're like, we have to force ourselves to connect with people that make us nervous or go over there and say hello to that person or oh my God, I think I know who that is. Or that's that podcast. Or that's that author. That's that. I. Yes, I. I have to do that fan girl moment where I have to go over and meet this person and just get on their radar. So that's something that I want to tell you. A lot of times in the beginning, you're just getting on the radar. You're just meeting them. It's not all hinging on this single moment. That's way too much pressure. So what happens a lot is you can be like, you know, then you can contact their assistant after you've met them. Maybe you're trying to get them on their. Your podcast. Maybe you just want to go enroll in their coaching program. And now you're a person who they remember because you show up. That's how so many people get on our radar is they come to our events, they're in our masterminds. Like, those are the people who are going, we're going to use first for all the different things that we do. Those are the people that we are willing to stick our necks out for because they are showing up. Like, think about that. Hey, guys, this is the perfect spot to take a break because I have to tell you some exciting news. Our famous Fast Foundations mastermind is open again for enrollment. This is a mastermind that my husband, Chris Harder and I put on for entry level early stage entrepreneurs. And this is the only way to be able to work with Chris and I together in a room, in person. I can promise you that this is literally one of the best masterminds out there for half the price. But I want you to listen in to some of these transformations that happen when you are in the room. And you guys know if you listen to this podcast that I always tell you, you just show up for yourself and get your butt in the room. So listen into these. My name is Kat golden and not only did FAST Foundations help me scale to a multiple six figure income in under a year, I was able to establish myself as an authority. Thank you so much, Chris and Lori, truly forever grateful.

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Another thing that we do really well when it comes to our environment, I have to add this in, is our. We control our physical environment because we've been talking about the people environment pretty much this whole time. But our physical environment, you and I know that if we have any kind of bad food in the house, we'll eat it until it's gone in sitting. So we literally make it so that we have to order out or go out to get food. You and I just did it 10 minutes ago, went out and got our lunch for today because we'll eat everything in sight. That's one example of controlling our physical environment. We also make sure that we have the music on all day, every day that we want in our home because it's the physical environment that inspires us to keep going.

I'm huge on clutter. I cannot do it. You know, I just get. So when you're. I just had Tanya, who wrote Tanya Dalton, who wrote Jomo on my podcast, and we talked so much about this. I need you to take a look around your house right now. Your physical environment is most likely matching what your brain feels like every day. If there is clutter in the corners, if you have closets that are bursting at the seams, you know, that might mean that you're shoving everything down. That might mean that you're not actually taking care of things. You're putting band aids on everything. If you have clutter everywhere, it means that you might be be super disorganized in your emails, in your life. Like, no clarity on anything because your life just feels like chaos. Your car feels like chaos. You're not dealing with things. So sometimes the fastest way to start dealing with things is literally to set aside time, get someone to help you, hire an organizer if you can, even for a couple hours, or watch some YouTube stuff. Marie Kwondo your way into clearing out your house. This was huge for me. And you know this, Chris, when you. Even when your closet, even for men, when, when his closet was like bursting at the seams, he was like, I can't. I literally. This is driving me nuts. I'm like, yeah, because it's how you're feeling in your life. Like things are, oh my God, you were bursting at the seams.

I was at that time, like business wise and mentally at the same time that my closet was.

Clear it up. And you will notice how what happens is you walk into your home and it's such a reflection back to how you're feeling. So if you have shit piled everywhere, it just adds to the mounting shit in your brain. And if it's clear and you're dealing with stuff, once you deal with your it's really funny how that concept starts moving into your life. Like, start getting rid of things. And I will tell you, this also is all about abundance mindset. Because a lot of people can't clear out their house or clear the clutter when they're in a really big lack mindset. So just watch how when you start clearing things and be really honestly ask yourself, do I need this? And what is the fear around me getting rid of it? Do I believe that I won't get another one? Do I believe that I don't deserve another one? Do I believe that I'm never gonna be able to make enough money to be able to, you know, upgrade something like this or, you know, hire someone out for this? Like, start thinking, looking at those thoughts and the more abundant that I started to feel. And this was long before I made money. I cleared things out long before I made money. I was like let go. You're not using this. This is such a lack mentality. You do not need this. I have faith that something better will come in and fill this space. But if you do not give your dreams or those other things that you are desiring in your life space, they will never enter because you are gripping onto the old, making no room for the new.

There are so many challenges to business that I don't want starting to be.

One of them for you.

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Yeah. It's so true. Okay, so number three, if number one was we create accountability in all those different forms we talked about, number two is we control our environment. I mean, like ninjas, we control the. Both the people in our environment and the physical space in our environment. The number three, we do this so well. We make sure that we think about the big picture or the other phrase we always use. I literally think this phrase came from rehab. By the way. Neither Lori or I were in rehab. I think that's where this came from is it's called playing the movie to the the end. And I think it came from the concept of when somebody wants a drink again, before they grab it, they say, play the movie to the end. You have the drink. What happens next? How do you feel? How do you feel tomorrow when you wake up? What could be the end result? Right. So you and I do this so well. We think about the big picture, and here's the truth. In your journey to creating the life of your dreams, there are a lot of moments, a lot of days, a lot of weeks, sometimes a lot of months where you are not doing what you enjoy doing. And here's the problem. People feel like it's supposed to feel good all the time. And when you feel like it's supposed to feel good all the time, it's actually the most disempowering belief ever. Because now you feel like, oh, I must be doing it wrong or I'm not gonna keep doing. But what do you and I do? We constantly go back to the big picture. What's the end goal? Why are we doing this in a broad sense? And then that adds value to that hour, that day, that week, or that month that's kind of painful or feel. Feels kind of icky because it immediately reframes it from, this sucks. Whatever I'm doing right now, this sucks. It reframes it to. No. This is one small step in the big picture. And the big picture is what keeps me going.

Oh, my God. You just made me think about, number one, money and number two, fitness. So bring me back to fitness, because I'm Going to talk about money because this is. I was in fitness forever and now we're in masterminds and entrepreneurs and all that of these things. And the, the thing that holds people back the most is they are looking too short term.

Yep.

They look at the investment on things, they look at the investment on events, they look at you guys.

This is.

I see women hold themselves back from coming to Bliss Project every year, and it would be something that would accelerate them so quickly. I see people holding themselves back from the mastermind every, every year. And it's because they're just looking at the amount they're putting in. They're not thinking about what will happen if. If they just made a different decision from here, got in that room with people who taught them how to make their money back instantly. Sometimes for some people, it's literally instant. For some people it takes a year. For some people it's two years. And then it grows to whatever, you know. But we always, always see this is that people are thinking way too short term and they want to be entrepreneurs. But the only way to be an entrepreneur is to understand that you will constantly be investing in your business if you want it to grow. There will never be a time when your business grows that you did not do something to invest in it. Whether that was bringing someone new onto your salary, paying for different ads in your business, whether that's, you know, marketing, whether that's investing in your product. There will never be a time that you will grow without investing in yourself or your business.

Lori is so freaking true. Like, I want to give real examples. Every time that our income goes up exponentially, I'm like, yay, extra income. We're riding off in the sunset. But then we'll hire a couple more people and commit to those salaries. Then income, income goes up again. And I'll be like, yay, we're riding off into Sunset. Then we'll each join $50,000 masterminds. Then income goes up again. Yay. Riding off in Sunset. And we'll double our ad spend. There's never a time. Please get used to this. If you think you want to be an entrepreneur at any level, there is never a time where you're not continuing to invest in yourself, invest in your business, invest in your infrastructure as your income goes up. And quite honestly, the investment comes first. Everybody thinks, I'm going to do this once I'm making blank. Yeah, that's what's holding you back. It's ass backwards. I promise any one of you who's listening that flips it on its head. You will join Lori and I as we ride off into the sunset. Meaning when you flip it on its head to once I invest in blank, that's when my income goes up. You are the one who's going to be successful. Anyone who keeps saying I will invest in blank once my income goes up, you're the one that's going to continue to be held back. And that's what you and I do so well is we think about that big picture. There's so many times we don't want to spend money on things like, and you and I now we're to the point where we're making six figure expenditures all the time. So we're like, oh, I don't want to part with this six figures for this or that. But we go back to the big picture and that's what this point number three was. And it reminds us, oh, if we do this commitment, it brings us this much closer or it's this key cog in the big picture and that's how we follow through with making the investments that are sometimes tough to make.

And I just, I, I kind of want to point out, and Chris, I'd love your opinion on this too. I think some people may have just gotten like discouraged, like, why would I ever do this then? And you know, like, because I do think people think entrepreneurs start a business, I'm going to make all this money and it's going to be easier. And I don't think it's easier. I think it's more purposeful.

And it's got a higher ceiling.

It's got a higher ceiling and you're doing it on your own terms. But, but the workload, I mean, you guys, that's all I've been listening to is business podcasts lately. You're going to be sweating, you're going to be working hard, but you also, once you figure different things out, we also now have gotten to build in a lot of time together and we get to build this business or our businesses together, even though we both have separate things going on as well. So there's that, but there's also also so much freaking purpose. And you can build businesses that help other people with their purposes and also help give back. So the fulfillment, the amount of fulfillment that I experience daily that I'm able to shift into in comparison to what I potentially could be doing is so, so huge. And I have to tell you, honestly, Chris, you and I have had times when we were doing network marketing where technically for a while we could have just not worked.

Oh, yeah.

And when we first moved to California, we kind of were like, on autopilot. Like, we were working, but we didn't have all of this obligation and purpose. And you and I got pretty depressed.

Yeah, it was bored. It was boring. Every day I'd be like, ooh, what are we gonna do? Like, go buy some more tennis shoes today. Go on another walk today. There really becomes. I get that you need breaks once in a while, but once you have a long enough break, you realize it's the purpose and the doing that makes you happy. Happy, not the getting there.

Like, at that point, we needed a break. And so we're like, yeah, we're gonna take a break. And we were working, but we weren't work. Like, you and I are made. We're workhorses. We prefer to work a good portion of the day and work hard. Like, it feels really good, especially when it's in your purpose. But I just was to this point where I'm like, I. I gotta do more. I need to do more. Because I was not feeling as on purpose as I knew my potential was.

And we're living a huge part of our big picture. So let's describe our morning really quick to everyone. Literally right now as we record this Already today, we woke up together and didn't have to rush off to jobs. We had coffee together. We read books together. We went to Soul Cycle together. We stopped at one of our favorite places, creation, and got our green juices and some other things together. Now we're sitting up here in the podcast studio recording together. And this is the big picture. This is the life we wanted to design. This life didn't happen without staying attached to the big picture of what we're trying to design. And working backwards. And working backwards means who do I need in my life to make this happen? What do I need in my life to make this happen? Where do I need to invest in my life to make this happen? What do I need to give up up in my life to make this happen? And those very tough questions. Because a lot of times you don't like the answers to those questions. I'll be honest, those very tough questions individually suck as a whole. Make up the big picture that give you the beautiful day that you desire.

I just want to point out some people might be listening and like, yeah, but I don't have a partner to do this with or I don't know what that big picture is. And in our mastermind, we have so many people who are in a relationship but their other partner is not in it. And they're like, you know what? This isn't. We're not meant to be on the same path of building a business together. So what I do is I get all of my partners and accountability and people I'm gonna run with my business with in this mastermind or elsewhere. You need to find those people because your partner can't be everything for you. And a lot of you aren't meant to work together. I just wanna really clarify that a lot of you aren't meant to work together. And for people who are single, they go in all the time because they're. That's, you know, 50% of our group because they are. They just need that accountability for themselves. So it's not an excuse to be like, I don't have the support because you and I were on totally different trajectories for a while.

Yeah. You know, I was literally. You don't even know this. I was literally telling somebody about this. Yesterday at the gym, another guy. I was saying, one of the best things for our marriage is that you're part of another woman's mastermind that meets regularly and you bring a lot of your challenges and problems and quandaries to them instead of bringing them to me. Because when I had to be all things for you or when you had to be all things for me, that was not a happy marriage. No, it was too much.

Too much.

You're not meant to be all things to each other. You have to find that outside tribe, whether you build it, whether you invest in it, whether it's your duty, it's your freaking duty to seek out that outside tribe where you can go solve some of your problems and not bring everything to your partner.

Yeah. And you guys, if you're listening to this, like, you gotta get out of your own way and it's gonna feel so crazy and so scary and you're not gonna feel ready. I know when people show up in our mastermind, everyone gets up in front of the room and they say, I just. Just, I. I did not feel ready. I still don't feel ready, but I'm here and I'm going to show up. And then at the end of every weekend, I was like, oh, my God.

This is like every answer that I.

Could have ever wanted. And then what happens again? I just want to point this out. They go through that time and they even work together and they come back to the next one, they're like, I'm in my head again. Oh, my God. I'm So grateful for this group because I was about to like, quit everything and back down. I'm like, yep, that is what it's called. That is why you have to have these people and these places that you show up to. Because. Because I feel you. Like just this morning, Chris, like, I was in my emails, which I shouldn't be in my emails first thing in the morning, but building this business, I kind of have to be right now. Things are shifting a bit. So I was in my emails and I'm like, oh, my God, I'm so discouraged. Like, I was just beyond discouraged. And it wasn't until I start, you know, talking to people, talking to you, talking to different people who are building businesses. I'm like, duh, this is a part of it. Get over over it, Move forward, find an answer. This is like the fun part of entrepreneurship is the challenges.

By the way, you keep mentioning our mastermind. Is it tacky to throw it in there really quick that fast? Foundations is our entry level and early stage mastermind for entrepreneurship.

Tacky. I'm like so freaking proud of it. That's what we're talking about.

Okay, so shameless Plug. Here we go. If you are making less than $499,000 a year as an entrepreneur and you have much bigger dreams than that, literally, if you're making, making 50, 100, $200,000 and you want the tribe and you want the secrets, because we lift the curtain on everything. If you want to work hand in hand in person and online with Lori and I and our team and our very talented friends, then this is totally what's calling your name. And here's the best part. We always price things for an agenda, not for their value. And this one we priced to make accessible to anyone who's ready to roll up their sleeves and find. Oh my God. What we talked about. Accountability. Whoever's ready to control their environment and whoever's ready to really attach themselves to the big picture, actually accomplish the big picture. Because it's less than half, I get to see inside everyone else's masterminds. It's less than half the investment of everyone else's masterminds. And that's because our agenda was to make it accessible. This is almost our give back in a way. One of our give backs that you and I do.

Honestly, one of my favorite things is the truly the people that are in there in the testimonials like it. We've now been doing this for how long?

This will be the third round. We're doing this one third Round.

Like you and I sat in the back of the third round, this last one, and I was like, this is. This is so tried and true. Like, I can't not sit here and hear every people. Everybody stood up and gave a testimonial at the end. Like they shared their win and I just sat there. Every single person had an insane win. Whether it was personally that they just broke through something and mostly their business, massive win. Some people doubled their income. Some people. Did I see someone like 10x their income?

Yeah, totally. It was amazing. Somebody had a hundred thousand dollar day.

Yeah, that's you guys. You cannot get that until you're in the rooms. And I'm telling you, you just have to trust and take the leap. And just like Chris said, it is half the price of most people's masterminds and it works. I'm so proud of. I'm so freaking proud of it, Chris. Like, it's mind blowing. It's one of the most beautiful things that you and I get to do because we get to move the needle so much in this room and bring in just epic guests and bring in incredible speakers and connect. The biggest thing is the accountability with the tribe, the connection to the tribe and just getting in and hearing these conversations. That's what we heard the most, is these conversations you cannot get anywhere else. They're mind blowing. You're like, I didn't even know people were doing this. I didn't know you could do this. I didn't understand that we could charge this much. What are you talking about? Like, how is this working? So you get the inside of so many people's businesses. That cuts out years and years. Year cuts out years and years and years.

It does. Honestly. Here's what it is. You and I are lucky. We live in one of the wealthiest neighborhoods in Los Angeles where everything is being built, meaning businesses. So unless you're living in New York or unless you're living in Los Angeles, I'm just going to be very frank and say you're probably having a hard time finding the doers with all the secrets and all the connections to what you are trying to figure out. This is the way to plug into what you are trying to figure out. If they're not in your backyard, then you got to go where they're at. And that's exactly what this is.

All right, you guys, so we're just gonna put a bow on this and invite you to go check it out@fastfoundations.com because I want to be in the room with the people who are already listening to our podcast who already are super hungry for more purpose and more fulfillment and connection. And I truly believe that's you, and we'd love to work with you. So go check it out right now.

And there's a couple of Specials. So number one, if you join, it's already 30%. We just opened it up. It's already 30% sold out at the time we're recording this. But special number one is you get two bonus group coaching calls that nobody else gets. So it's really intimate, really hands on with Lori and I and our team if you join by February 13th. And the second one is, we're in early bird right Now. It saves $1,000, and it's already half price of everyone else's masterminds out there, but it saves $1,000 if you join before February 24th. So February 13th, two bonus coaching calls. Real small group intimate, where it's literally just Q and A about your business. And February 24, if there's spots left by then, we're still an early bird. Saves you a thousand dollars. Go check it out@fastfoundations.com. all right, let's put a bow in the story because really, the important thing is I don't want people to miss the point of this podcast. And that was the three things that you and I do so well differently than what most people are doing if they're struggling out there. It's. Number one, we create massive accountability. I call it manufacturing pain points. Number two, we control our environment, both the tribe part of our environment and the physical part of our environment, as well as anyone I've ever met in my life. And that's been a game changer. And number three, you and I stay attached to the big picture. There's. There's hours, there's days, there's weeks, there's months that we're doing things we don't want to do, but we're able to do them and able to find the purpose in them because we keep bringing it back to the big picture.

All right, you guys, so grateful for you definitely go check it out. We'd love to spend the next five months with you. It is also just so much fun. So until next time, earn your happy. And what else? Chris, on your podcast, I think I.

Always just say goodbye. This is what happens when Lori and I record together and kick them out on both of our platforms. Like, how should we start it? How should we end it?

All right, thank you so much, you guys. And we'll see you next time.

Love you babe.

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