594. Success Comes When You Believe This One Thing

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What if I would have kept going on this path of over drinking, drugs, hanging out with crazy people, you know, really throwing my life away? If that wouldn't have woken me up the way that it did, I don't know where I would be right now.

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I'm Lori Harder, founder of The Bliss.

Project, 3 Time Fitness World champion, fitness.

Expert and cover model turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur and author.

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Here we go. Welcome back to the Earn youn Happy Podcast. And it's time for another quickie because there's always time to fit in.

Inspiration.

I've been thinking a lot about decisions and the decision making process.

And I think that we get really.

Stuck in going back and forth because of the one big fear. I think the one big fear that we all have is what if I make the wrong decision? What if I get stuck in something I don't want to be in? What if this absolutely isn't what I'm supposed to be doing and it all goes wrong? Now, all of those questions that I just said are not the questions that are going to get you to the place that you want to be. I have a belief that I can't make a wrong decision.

What?

Like that's a little bit. Like that's crazy, right? Like, that's actually a way that a crazy person thinks. Like, that's not logical. That's not a good way to be. That feels like really unsteady. That feels really crazy. But let's dig into this. If I believe that I can't make a bad decision, where in the world is that coming from and what does that actually mean? So you're not going to make every perfect decision in your life, But I do believe that the decisions that you decide on, right, wrong, bad, didn't turn out the way that you wanted. You married that guy, that girl went totally awry. But let's really look into this. If you're making decisions and you feel like you made a bad decision, maybe let's talk about that one. Maybe you married the wrong person, you got a divorce, you had some kids together, and now you're like, wow, I didn't make a good decision on marrying this person. What were the good things that actually came out of it? What were the lessons that actually came out of it? Who would you be if you hadn't done that?

Right?

And if you focus on all of the things like, oh, I could have done this, I could have done that instead of saying, wow, what did I learn from this? Who did I become? Who was I able to realize that I was, was This a massive self discovery process of me saying that's who I used to be. I really made this decision from a fear place. I really noticed that when I was about to get Marri or in the middle of the marriage, that I was not speaking up, that I was really settling, that I was allowing somebody else to control my life. All of these incredible realizations that now moving into the future, you're not going to be doing and you know better now, but you would have never learned that, whether it was from a lesson in your marriage to how that is now going to impact you in your business. So there have been so many things in friendships that I have learned in a really tough way. Right? Like, oh, I made a bad decision on that friend. I can't believe I got into that crazy ordeal with this person that now I not only use those lessons in friendships moving forward and in relationships, but I use them in business. They apply to business, they apply to life. They apply to so many different things. So looking back, can I say that I made a million wrong decisions? Absolutely. But I can tell you that all of those bad decisions, whether it was people I hung around, decisions that I made about my life, things that I've done, whatever it is, things that I've been ashamed of in the past, all of those things that I have done that I used to regret, I no longer regret at all. Because they are the very things that give me topics to talk about with all of you. They're the very things that make me relate to the person who feels terrible about a decision they made right now or who feels so bad or so shameful that actually allows me to say, hey, I've been there. You're not alone. You need to let that go. Your amazing trajectory and path and purpose for your life is in front of you. And without that lesson and without you doing that thing, you would have zero compassion for people. You would have no way to help people. You would have no story. All of these things that feel wrong or bad or tough or awful, they are all happening for you if you believe that is the case. Yes, there are terrible things that have happened. I can absolutely say if you haven't listened to this podcast or know my story, that getting kidnapped in Mexico and beaten and sexually assaulted wasn't the greatest thing that has ever happened in my life. But for sure that happened for me because I was on a path where I was destroying and sabotaging my life. And when that happened and it woke me up, it woke me up to am I on the right path? What if that would have been the end? What if that night I would have gotten beaten to death? Or who knows what could have happened? What if that wouldn't have happened to me? What if I would have kept going on this path of over drinking, drugs, hanging out with crazy people, really throwing my life away? If that wouldn't have been woken me up the way that it did, I don't know where I would be right now.

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How did it make me better?

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You guys, the fact that I believe that I can't make a bad decision is allowing me to have the fastest comeback rate, right? If I make a bad decision or lose a lot of money, I say, okay, I don't want to sit in. Poor me, I don't want to sit in. I can't believe I did this. I want to sit in.

The question of now what?

Now how do I come back? How would I make more money to solve this problem? How do I get bigger than this problem? Right? That is what success is made of. That is the difference between a successful mindset, that is a successful person. You have access to that. If you're telling yourself that you can't. If you're telling yourself that you don't have that, that is a choice. That is a choice that you are making. There are people with far more challenging circumstances than any of you listening to this right now. Because if you're listening to this, it means you either have a car, an iPhone, or access to this, which makes this a huge luxury compared to what a lot of people have. It is your responsibility to choose happiness in this moment. To choose to be better, to choose. Choose not to sit in shame or pain or that old story, or you don't have what it takes or you're not worthy. You have to lean in even when it doesn't feel like that is the truth. And that is how faith is made. That is how confidence is created. You have to lean in and say, okay, I'm going to choose to feel better about this. I'm going to choose to let it go. I'm going to choose to do something better. I'm going to choose to not feel bad about this. And that choice is going to be done a thousand times a day. I'm telling you, I lean in a thousand times a day. Because right now, for a thousand times, I am doubting myself. It would be so easy for me to be like, you know what? I give up. This is too hard. This person said this. Maybe they're right. Maybe I shouldn't think this. Maybe I'm not worthy. Maybe I'm not smart enough. Maybe I should just give up and give in, because that would be easier. You got to choose it every single day. Because the other choice is to settle, to have regret for me to potentially at the end of my life, meet my maker and say, you know what? You're right. I didn't live into everything that you gave me. I didn't live into the gifts, the tools. I didn't have the face that I know that I was supposed to have. I didn't use it. And I'm sorry. Hopefully I get another chance. Maybe you don't. Maybe we don't get another chance. Maybe this isn't a dress rehearsal. Maybe we don't have another lifetime after this. Maybe living into our purpose and our happiness and having faith is the very reason that we're here. It's up to you to decide. That's always our decision, right? Is it happening for you or is it happening to you? You guys, I hope that this helped. I hope that this makes you leap into your dreams. I hope that this makes you realize that you really can't fail and you can't go wrong. And yes, there's gonna be hard times, and people may not like you, and you might feel totally alone, but we're never alone. It's always a choice to lean back in, to say a prayer, to know that whenever we feel like we're alone, we've just turned our back on faith. We've turned our back on God. We've turned our back on the fact that people do want to help us. But we have to be the lifeline to that. We have to ask, we have to pray. We have to find those people. We have to put in the work to be able to have a good life. And that's just how it works. Wish it was different, but it's just how it works. You guys, I love you so much. Thank you for always tuning in. Thanks for listening. These are coming from the rv, so hopefully the sound quality is working for you in this, and I'm sending you guys so much love. And until next time, earn your happy.

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