623. Seven Ways to Save Your Day!

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And that's how things happen for people. They don't wake up happy. They don't wake up full of perfect opportunity every single day. They do the right things, and they make the right decisions in very small little moves that add up to very big wins.

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Hey, everyone, we're back with another episode of he said, she said. And I'm so grateful, actually, for this podcast. Why is that with us together? Because I think it's so important for people to hear, like, the highs and lows and how you work through it as a human being and as a couple.

Well, speaking of, that's what we're talking about today. So you woke up just kind of blue today, right?

Yeah, very.

I woke up like Cloud 9, ready to go over the top happy today. And here's the crazy thing. I woke up happier than usual for no reason that I can pinpoint. You woke up bluer than usual for no reason that you can pinpoint now? No.

Had a great, great weekend. I'm excited for my week. Like, I have good things lined up. I'm overwhelmed, for sure, because I'm living in the future, so I definitely think that equates to it.

Well, the bottom line is there's always something that's overwhelming us, and there's always something to celebrate. Why do we wake up the way that we wake up? And you and I. Now, this is not official science talk, but we call it the random chemical cocktail, meaning it's this random chemical cocktail in our body that is like, you are totally full of happiness today, or you are waking up a little more blue today. And the whole point of this podcast is I watched our morning routine. I watched our habits slowly take you from waking up blue to pointing you in the right direction, to saving your day from what could have been maybe going in the wrong direction. And all of a sudden, I had this aha moment. I'm like, oh, my God, we can tell everybody about this. It's not how you wake up. It's not your. You know, it's not the day you had before or the day you have in front of you. It's the habits you have that are either going to take you from good to great or from blue to ready to make a difference.

Yeah. And, you know, I think about this all the time. You don't know what version of yourself you're going to wake up with. You have a million different versions of yourself inside of you that it's like, dependent upon. Who knows, Mercury in retrograde.

Whether it was a full moon, I can't.

Who knows, if I just had to drop it because we're in California. So, you know, but. But that's real too. Like, who knows with the. We don't know what's going on externally. We have no idea except we wake up and we blame ourselves or we blame, like, oh, I just. Why can't I feel good? Maybe I'm a depressed person. Maybe it's just that this is called the human experience. And you just need really strong rituals to make sure that you can make yourself feel better. And I have to be honest, like right now, I still don't feel great yet. Like, I have read my book, I've meditated, I've said multiple prayers. And it's not necessarily that it's gonna change you immediately. It's that the consistency of doing these things will eventually pull you out and they make you feel proud of yourself. Like, at least now I feel proud that I'm doing them and that I'm not sitting like a lump on the couch, like I'm slowly shifting.

You may say that you don't feel fully great yet, but that's not the point. Because I've watched you go from I could tell you were blue to now I can tell you ready for the day. You're far more positive. You've got a different energy about you. So imagine that trickle down effect. Even if you just recover that far, the people that you deal with today, the people that you strike deals with today, everyone you come in contact, you're. You're now creating a little bit more positive trickle down effect than you would have if you didn't have these rituals. So I think the whole dang point is let's stop analyzing why the hell we wake up the way we wake up. And let's make sure that we have the habits or the rituals in place in order to recover from anything that we may need to recover from. So I know the minute we woke up, we woke up the same time today to no alarm, which was nice. And when we woke up, I Rolled over, and I said, I'm happier, healthier, wealthier, more fit than I was yesterday. Like I do every single morning of our life. And you said it back to me.

You said, I'm happier, healthier, wealthier, more fit than I was yesterday.

And that right there is at least starting to control the first thoughts of your day. When you're forced to say some kind of mantra. And then we set a prayer right away. Remember, you reached your hand over. You're like, all right, let's say a prayer. And that first. What is that? 120 seconds of the day, whatever that is powerful for shaping your next. Let's say one hour of thoughts, even your next 15 minutes of thoughts. And this is about stacking small wins. And we stacked a couple of small wins in order to start to turn the ship a little bit.

Yeah, I. I feel like you just can't. Well, you know, one of the biggest things that I am so grateful for about you is. And it's so funny. It's just. It's like whenever I feel bad or when I felt bad in the past, I'm like, oh, I feel depressed today. You're like, good. Feel it. That's okay. It's okay to feel that way. Great. Feel it. It's like, okay, great, great. It's okay to feel this way. And I think sometimes when we give ourselves that grace around, like, awesome. You feel depressed today. That's totally fine. That's totally normal. But, like, keep moving or support yourself around it. You know, what is. What is supporting yourself around that look like. And some days supporting yourself around, it looks like staying in bed and pulling the covers over your head. But if that. What you have to do is know if that's really serving you or not. Like, go down the road and see if that's really what you need. Do you actually need more sleep? So, yes, then you do, like, stay under the covers. But if you absolutely don't need more sleep, and maybe you were drinking the night before, maybe you were binge eating. Like, maybe you really need a walk. Like, maybe you need to support yourself with a walk and lots of water and healthy food.

Well, so to that point, I want to keep dissecting your day so people can truly understand what you did to start to write the ship, Woke up to mantra, said a quick prayer together in the morning, which was really taking account for everything that we were grateful for and asking for anything that we needed. Then what was the very next thing I saw you do besides grab your coffee?

I don't know.

You grabbed your book.

Oh, my book. Yeah.

Yeah. And you dove into reading.

Yeah.

This is another thing. You could have gotten on Instagram. You could have done anything else, but you had the habit.

I did pick up Instagram. Then I put it down because it made me feel worse.

How many books, how many days in a row have you read right now?

I think a couple months now, maybe.

Yeah. Every hour?

Not every day, but during the week.

Every damn day. I haven't seen you not do one for the last month easily. And so because you built that muscle, because you built that habit, that was the thing you turn to right away today, after your book, then what'd you do?

Meditated.

Yeah. So you didn't skip that either. And it wasn't long, what was it.

Eight minutes today?

Yep. So records here. But it was just enough to make a loop. Right. We're stacking winds. Then what did we do the minute that you were done meditating?

Went for a walk.

Yes. And we went for a three and a half mile walk this morning. And I saw that's where I really started to see a little bit of a difference in you. Again, stacking wins. And when we, you know, it's weird.

Even on the walk, I noticed I was looking down a lot and I was like, look up. I told him to look up.

She startled me. She also said she's like, look up. Like what? Like, I thought something was wrong.

I was like, you were just looking down. We were both looking down. And, you know, it's interesting because if you look at how much during the day when you don't feel well that you like, or when you feel depressed or anxious or overwhelmed, that you look down, what we do is we close out all of the opportunities in the world around us and create a very individualistic type of thinking. And that type of thinking, when you think of the one, it can be very separated and it can feel really isolating and your problem starts to seem bigger. And when you look up, you start to think of the whole and you open yourself up to opportunities and ideas. It's just the truth.

And right when we got home, actually, it was right before we left for the walk so we could walk back into it. What did you put on in the house?

Christmas music.

Christmas music. Like our happiest music on the planet. Today is day one of playing Christmas music at this house.

I'm very excited.

Seems small and insignificant, but it's stacking. Another win.

Yep.

And on the walk, what did we talk about the whole time?

I don't know what did we talk.

About things that are coming up that we're really grateful for and excited? Like, we kept choosing our conversation. I'd say, okay, you know, I'm excited for about Christmas. We're going to be here and you know, I'm excited for about this. We're going to be doing this.

Yeah.

You know, I don't want to reveal everything that we're talking about yet because we got some pretty big announcements coming up. But we start talking about things we were looking forward to instead of talking about problems.

Yeah. And it's just like, sometimes you should reserve that time. Like your walks, sometimes they are important to work out problems, but if you're already not feeling great and you know working out problems is not going to go well because you're coming from a bad place. Like, just use that time for you. Like, what do you need to get energy? Like, we've definitely had those walks where it's like, I need this walk just to have this needs to be empty space. Just saying gratitudes, looking at nature. Like, I literally need this as a break. And then other times you use walking for problems. Right. But I, I think at the end of the day, what you should. We hope that you get out of this is like, you are so normal. Oh, my gosh. Like, it doesn't, it's never going to go away. This is how you're going to wake up every fourth day. If you're like me, some people every, you know, three months or six months. But like having so much grace on yourself and knowing that you can still be a really happy, successful, highly functioning person even if you struggle with your emotions or you're going through a tough time right now.

So let me put a quick recap on this day. You know what, we always title these things at the end. We should title this how to save your day. Because that's literally what I watched you do. You woke up to the mantra, said a quick prayer of things you were grateful for, and asked for what you needed. You grabbed your book, you grabbed caffeine, Maybe that should be part of it. You grabbed your book, you did your meditation even though it was only seven or eight minutes long. You moved your body and you talked about things that you were looking forward to instead of trying to solve problems when you're already in a bad place.

Yes.

And then you put on, you created your atmosphere, you put on Christmas music. So for anyone that could be anything, could be your pump up music, could be anything. Right. But you took control of your atmosphere. That's seven things that anybody can do mantra prayer of what you're grateful for and what you need reading, even if it's an audiobook, meditation or just, you know, still in silence, moving your body, talking about things that excite you, and that's coming up. Still trying to solve problems from a bad place and controlling your atmosphere, putting on whatever music, whatever mood, whatever setting that you need. The seven things that anybody can do to save their day.

Yeah, I love that. It's. It's so funny because I was just picturing. I don't know why I was picturing two fires. You're always choosing between, like, which fire you're going to stoke. Like, which fire are you going to build? Like, are you going to throw fuel on the depression fire? Are you going to have sugar and, you know, wake up and make pancakes and whipped cream when you don't feel good because you're comforting yourself? And if, you know, sugar affects you, like, there you go. You just threw propane on. On the depression fire. Are you going to go turn on television and just be like, o. Whatever you know about your day? It's. It's like, which fire are you building? Because that's the one that's going to burn and consume you.

Oh, I love that. Because we always have two fires burning, even if the other one is barely smoldering.

There's always.

You can choose to add fuel to one of those two fires. Your habits, your routines, these seven things. This is choosing to add fuel to the right fire, not to fuel the wrong one. I never thought about that.

Yeah, there's an old, actually Native American tale about two wolves. Like that. You always have two wolves, the good and the bad wolf. I'm being surreal to it.

I know I'm laughing for a different reason. Keep going.

And it's like, which one are you feeding? It's the same exact thing. Because the one that you're feeding is the one that's going to take over. I don't know why you're laughing.

I'm giggling because remember when your book came out, A Tribe Called Bliss? And everyone's like, how dare you write about Native Americans? I'm like, Lori is 25% Native American.

Yeah, I'm. I'm.

You just don't look the part.

No, I don't. I dye my hair blonde.

Yep. All right, guys, so hopefully these are seven things that will save the day for you. You know, mix and match your seven things. But the whole point is, it's routine, is what habit is, what habits you built that will save the day. It's not how you wake up, it's what you do the moment you wake up that'll make or break. And then imagine stacking these wins during the day and imagine stacking winning days. At that point you're on a winning streak. And that's how things happen for people. They don't wake up happy. They don't wake up full of perfect opportunity every single day. They do the right things and they make the right decisions in very small little moves that add up to very big wins. This is literally what we have done. This is not like we just started doing this. This is literally what we have done. For how many years now would you say that we've had great habits in the morning?

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Yeah.

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Yes.

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