628. Rest Or Cry, But Don't Quit

So if we're only going for semi easy things or cushy things and we're not taking that leap, we're living a halfway life. You don't get another chance.

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Here we go. Welcome back to the show. It's time for another quickie because there's always time to fit in inspiration and I want to share a thought with you. Those who do not have dreams for their lives tend to be the killers of others dreams. How many times has this happened in your life where you've shared a dream that might seem way out there or outside of your realm with maybe someone that you are closest to and they crush it or they laugh or they say, you know how, how you are. You don't ever finish anything, right? It's the people that you feel like know you the most who are the ones typically who are going to get in your way. Because the universe has a crazy way of testing us and seeing how bad we want that dream. So many people are going to quit right before the finish line. But you're not going to, you're not going to quit this time because you can't. There is no other option for you. You have to burn the boats. And you have to decide. You literally have to do this or your dream is going to eat you alive. And you know it.

It already is.

It woke you up last night, it's going to wake you up every single night from here on out. And you can either live that nudge life or you can live the two by four life, right? You can live that nudge where God is tapping you and saying, hey, you have a bigger purpose. Hey, you know that there's something special in you. Hey, you know you're supposed to keep going even though other people can't see what the hell you're supposed to be, right? But you got the glimpse of the vision. Those without vision shall perish, right? That scripture is so true. It rings so true in my life that when I do not hold a really high vision for my life and when I do not get hopeful about something or put something to look forward to in my future that is so big and so outside of me and so challenging that I don't feel this drive and this energy to wake up and do something with myself, you have to create that for yourself and you have to keep stretching yourself and putting yourselves in situations where you create resistance that is healthy, where you create challenges that are actually healthy for your life. If you are not challenged, you are not going to be expanding. And if you're not expanding, you are contracting. And if you are contracting, you certainly are not happy with yourself or other people. So how can you put yourself in situations that are going to create powerful resistance for yourself in order to gain the strength that you need? Because we know without resistance we have no way of gaining strength. So if we're only going for self semi easy things or cushy things and we're not taking that leap, we're living a halfway life. You don't get another chance. You don't get a do over, you don't get to go back. You have to decide right now that you are choosing pain and you are choosing resistance with a reward on the other side. I'm not saying to choose pain. That's not going to give you a reward. I'm saying choose the tough conversations, right? I'm saying choose to do the thing that scares you. Choose to fail. Choose to put yourself out there, all of those things. And if some of you are like, yeah, but I'm scared. Yeah, but my family doesn't like that. Yeah, but what do you do when you get criticism from your best friends or your family? I don't care. You have to stop caring so much and you have to move forward with what your call is in this world. You have to have more faith in God than you do fear of your family and your friends. You have to move forward.

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It may not be easy right now prioritizing yourself, but it is the most important time to do so. Investing in your mental health has long term benefits. And you know, if you listen to this podcast, one of the main reasons I started it is because I really feel that mental health is one of the most important things that we can focus on for our well being. Between constant news about the pandemic right now and the election, there's a lot to be anxious about. So if you're feeling overwhelmed, I'm right there with you. I think Most people are. And I'm so excited about Talkspace because it is affordable. It's a fraction of the cost of in person therapy. And instead of waiting for an appointment, you can send unlimited text messages to your therapist 247 and they're going to engage daily, five days a week. So Talk Space Network is composed of thousands of licensed therapists who have experience in over 40 specialties, including, but not limited to treating depression, anxiety, substance abuse, trauma, relationship issues, food and eating, and much more. The bottom line is that we all need someone to talk to. Talkspace wants to give us the support we deserve at a price we can afford. As a listener of this podcast, you get 100 off your first month on Talkspace. To match with your perfect therapist, go to talkspace.com or download the app. Make sure to use the code lori to get $100 off your first month and show your support for the show. That's lori and talkspace.com foreign it's not that I don't care about you. It's not that I don't care that you're afraid. But you have to actually care less about what people think of you and more about what you think of you and what your creator thinks of you. Everybody is afraid. You're not that special. I am not that special. I don't have some traumatic thing that is holding me back any more or less than you do. It is a choice. It is a choice to make that thing that happened to you that you think stifled you, to actually make that thing the reason why you must. You have to be the example for those people who have gone through something similar as you. As crazy or traumatic, as painful, as much as your family has never done the thing. As much as you don't have an example, you have to choose to find the examples and then be the examples for those other people. Yes, you can. Today is the day to keep going. Today is the day to keep failing. Today is the day to put one foot in front of the other. Today is the day to choose you. Today is the day to bet on you. Today is the day to break the family pattern that has historically held back everybody in your family and your life. It's up to you. Don't look around. No one's coming for you. No one's going to help you figure something out. You're smart enough, you can literally do anything and you can do it poorly. And it's still better than not doing it.

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You can do it terribly and it's still better than not doing it. You can cry while you're doing it and it's still better than not doing it. Let me tell you, there's a lot of things I've been crying through lately. A lot, and I'm just continuing to go. Don't quit. Rest, cry, call a friend, freak out if you need to, but do not quit. You are made from the same thing that all of those people that you look up to are made of. They just decided to do it with tears in their eyes. They just decided to do it with a panic attack. They just decided to do it with all the fear. I'm so freaking proud of you. You show up for yourself, even in small ways. I'm so freaking proud of you. I am such a cheerleader of you and I pray that you just put one foot in front of the other one today. Or if you need to rest and hide under the covers for a day and then start again tomorrow, do that. That works too. I have a lot of days like that. You're still moving forward. You guys, I'm sending you so much love today. Today is the day that I move out of my California home, my beloved California state that I'm so obsessed with. I'm feeling all the feels. I have a lump in my throat. And I also know that my belief that whatever I do, whatever I choose, there is no wrong. There's only right and there's only strength from every lesson. And that's going to carry me into a place that's even more positive than I can ever imagine. And I'm so excited about that. So I'm sending you guys so much love. And until next time, earn your happy. Bye, everyone.

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