641. Lori Turns 40!

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Welcome to the Earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of the Bliss Project. Three time fitness world champion, fitness expert and cover model turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur and author. Each week I'll bring you a guest.

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And we're back with another episode of He Said, she Said. How are you?

Well, I'm good, but the better question is, how are you? Because this is the first episode together since you have turned 40 years old.

Well, I'm here. You know, I think when you're young, you're like, am I going to make it to 40? I often question that.

Let me start by saying you're a gorgeous, beautiful, sexy, hot, amazing, youthful, full of life. 40 and age is just a number. But I do know that these milestones will make you think about things, and they'll make you either give you a sense of urgency or reflect and say, I should have done, or I could have done all these things. So I feel like just asking you questions about your little journey around 40.

I mean, I think I've had so many thoughts that I could never. I was trying to write a post about being 40, right? And I was just like, I could write a book about it because there's so much, like, I don't feel any older and there's so much stigma for a woman around turning 40. It's almost like I didn't realize that even something that I had been programmed, you know, growing up is like, when you're 40, you're just. You're. Yeah, you might be wise, but you're just not like that youthful attractive anymore. And that's just something that I think I had in my head. And I'm like, wait, what made me yesterday feel okay and today feel like, whoa, you know, why. Why did that pop into my head? But also, there were so many great things that came into my mind, too. But I just. I know that everyone else has this on their mind. And I remember. You know, I've talked about this before, but I remember, like, being in my 20s, counting down the years until I turned 30, because I.

That's what I thought it was all over.

I thought it was all over. Cause that's what everybody made it seem like. That's what every woman made it sound like. Um, and then, you know, in my 30s, I was kind of like privately doing it, counting down the years until my 40s. And here I am. And I'm like, this is so interesting because it's. Here it is. And I don't really feel any different. But at the same time, there's just a lot of things that change in your life because now you are working on, like, I think all of a sudden, in one day, I was like, whoa. Instead of looking at, like, what I'm building and growing, it's like, what legacy do I want to leave?

Let me ask you a few very pointed questions about turning 40. Okay, so first one, what is your. I can't say your most because this will probably be tough, but what is one of your most proud accomplishments in your first 40?

My first 40 years?

Yeah. No, your first 40 minutes.

This is weird for me because there's been so many little things that I haven't let myself, like, go, wow, I accomplished that. So I guess I looked around at just the people in my life who were showing up for me and wishing me happy birthday and all of the people who just really are the solid people in my life. And I would say my relationships, I'm most proud of. That's a good one for sure. Just because they're the people who, at the end of the day, they're the ones you're celebrating with and doing things with and building and growing and having great conversations with. But. But I wouldn't have been able to get those relationships, I think, without becoming and doing the things that I've done. Not because they're people who would only hang around certain people, but because they're people who have standards for themselves of the conversations and types of energy and go getters that they want to surround themselves with. So I think I had this moment of, like, whoa, I've got really epic people in my life who are my ride or dies who, like, really are doing incredible things. And that must mean that I've done some pretty awesome things. Things as well.

That's a really cool thing to. That's a good answer. All right, next question. What is one thing you wish you would have done by 40 that you.

Didn'T, I think, start a company.

But wait, you have, like, a lot of companies?

I mean, like a. A product company.

Yeah.

You know, I've always been interested in, like, clothing and products, and, like, I'm such a consumer that I don't have regrets around it, but I'm just like, oh, wow, I'm 40 and I'm just now starting this. And to some people, they're like, that's crazy. That's still really young. But you Know, we have. It's just a million different thoughts. But I don't have regrets around it because I'm glad I'm doing it now.

Yeah, not regrets, but we all have things where we're like, I wish I would have done this by now. And I think that's a really good answer. Okay, what is one new sense of urgency you have now that you've turned 40?

So we were talking all about this and saying, you know, I realized like, literally the day I. So on my actual birthday, it was like I was like, oh, my God. I kind of have this like decade right now.

Sweet spot.

A sweet spot from 40 to 50, where I still have all this energy. I'm still really connected to this younger demographic as well, who's excited about, you know, what I'm doing. I'm still like, just in this place of really wanting to build and to grow. But also, like, if I can fast forward to being 50, I don't think I'm gonna wanna like, really be out there starting some grinding, hustling, super new grinding, hustling.

But would you have said that at 30? I'm just curious, do you think at 30 you would've said, you know, when I'm 40, I don't think I'm gonna wanna be out there hustling, grinding, building. No.

I knew I wanted to work well into my 40s.

Yeah.

And it's not that I don't wanna work in my 50s. Cause I actually absolutely do.

You'll always work.

But what I want to do is to get the best big because I would like to be able to start companies easier or start if there's a product I love, have the pathway already be there, have a lot of the network that's already there. So I really know that if I want my 50s to look the way I want them to look, which is more time, more money, more really incredible, high vibing, thinking, earning people. Just because that means that they're in a completely different, like state, vibrational state and mindset. Then I'm gonna have to use these next 10 years the best that I possibly can and enjoy them. Because I certainly don't want to look back like I have on my 30s and been like, wow, I wish I would have been more present for that. Or I wish I would have appreciated the way I looked more, the way that I showed up or the things that I was doing or the accomplishments that I had done. And I also, like, 40 is pretty cool because you start to not care. You have enough wisdom to know what's important. Just when I say wisdom, it's like pure life experience. You can't. Nothing can replace that. Nothing can replace life experience for.

Loving.

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You actually stole. My next question is going to be what is one piece of wisdom that you carry into 40 that you could only gain by, you know, having 40 years of experience?

Just pure.

Like there's, there's universal laws that you don't realize until you've had enough experiences.

Can you name one? Gravity?

Yeah, like if there is, don't worry guys, there's doctors for that. Anti gravity doctors. If you get an idea and you do all that, you can to support it and you get all of the right people in your life, it will be successful. Even if the business isn't successful. You will learn all the lessons that you need to be successful in the next thing. And I just. It's like, I wish I would have known that it just doesn't matter as much. And you can't really fail. Like, you can't fail. It's just. It's a universal law that if you go for it and you go all in and you do all you can, you do it with the best intentions. That even if you screw up or lose people's money or whatever, and you always try to right your wrongs in the best way that you can, you can't fail.

I got a couple more fun ones. Do you mind these? No. Okay. What does one must do in your 40s? You must accomplish. You must do it. You must experience it. You must check it up. List anything.

I'm just so excited about this company. Like, I must launch this company.

And light pink.

Bring it nationwide. Yep.

I love that. Who is one person that you want to meet in your 40s?

I don't have anyone in particular. I want to meet really cool people who feel aligned with where I'm going in my vision and who, like, we can really connect and just have fun.

Really? Nobody. Like literally nobody?

Nope. I used to want to meet Oprah, but I. I don't. It's weird. I don't. That would be amazing. But I just. It's not going to make or break me.

Yeah. I would have been able to rattle off a lot of people. All right.

I want to meet more epic women friends. That's what I want.

Very cool. Last one for you. What would you tell 20something Lori that you can only know now that you're 40?

All the things that you think are wrong with you are exactly what give you drive and are right with you. But you just need to learn how to harness them and manage your anxiety and insecurities.

Wow, that's really good. So you gotta say that again of everything you said. This might be so important for everybody at every age.

Of all the things that you think are wrong with you, it's everything that's right with you and that will make you successful if you learn to harness it.

Holy shit. That's good. That is really, really good. That is really important for everybody at every single age. I love that. That's what came out as this last question here. Okay. Bonus question. How much more do you love me now that you're in your 40s than you did in your 30s.

Boner question, boner question. I've decided in my 40s to bring more of what I actually say in private to the public.

How old do you feel? This is a real question. How old do you actually feel inside?

Well, sometimes I feel more like a 14 year old boy, but for real, inside I feel, I think I feel in my 30s simply because in my 20s that felt really insecure, but I. You feel. I feel habitually in my 30s.

Yeah. I hear people all the time like guys are like, I still feel 16 or I still feel 21 and I don't feel that way at all. I think that, I think they're full of shit. Or maybe they do, I don't know. I genuinely feel, for the record, I'm 43. I genuinely feel like I am between 30 and 31.

Yeah.

It's literally like where my mind is, where my, where I feel like physically, you know, like I just feel like I'm a 30 year old. It's so weird how you.

Yeah.

Don't see internally. You don't feel internally what you see in the mirror or whatever.

No, not at all. What was your question?

What was my question? Yeah, I said, how old do you feel?

No, but before that it was an actual question.

I don't remember.

Oh, I didn't answer it.

No, it's just bonus question. I said how much more do you love me now that you're in your 40s and you turned it into a boner question.

That's right, yeah. Oh, am I supposed to answer that? I mean, I would say I do, I do love you more with every year simply because you, you value more what you value. Like when you realize that you like. I, I think I'm closer to my values. I'm more clear on my values, so I, I value them more. So I do love you more because you're more valuable to me.

I love that. Okay, I know I said last question, but closing statement. Call your shot. Tell the world. In my 40s, I will.

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In my 40s, I will sell my company for hundreds of millions of dollars.

Ooh, you heard it right here. I love that. I know you will. Without a single doubt in my heart, I know that you will. I'm already just so proud of what you've done with this thing. Well, thank you for letting me impromptu interview you on turning 40. I would say that you are a beautiful shining light, a shining example for anybody who is pre 40 or post 40 to look to you and say, that is somebody that I can use as a beautiful example of how to live life and how to be and how to show up. And I love that you're always so vulnerable with everybody in terms of, hey, here's what I'm proud of. Here's what I'm working on, because I feel like that's what makes you really relatable and that's what makes you a powerful leader.

Gracias.

Gracias. Love you, babe. I love you.

Thank you for that.

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