697. Your Dream Will Eat You Alive If You Don't Go for It

Don't worry so much about building this huge following as it is like really engaging your current following. Right, Because a thousand good followers is worth its weight in gold.

Welcome to the Earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of Light Pink, bestselling author, three time fitness world champion, and I'm a crazy, multi passionate entrepreneur. My journey has taken me everywhere from being a broke waitress, barista, retails associate and personal trainer with massive anxiety and no belief in myself, to later becoming a multimillionaire in love with my life. In 2007, my husband and I lost everything. We found ourselves hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt at rock bottom. We had no ideas and I had no education to fall back on. This is when I found personal development and learned everything I could about business. Not by choice, but because I real was coming to save me. The conversations on this podcast are going to let you know that you're not alone and that we all feel like we don't know what we're doing. We're going to give you the tools to help you face your fears, take action, start your business, and grow those massive dreams that are keeping you up at night. It's time to create a life that you can't hide from and put so much on the line that your higher self is forced to come out. You're going to stop waiting for someone to approve of you, and you're going to anoint yourself. Because I'm obsessed about building businesses that give women a platform, I want to feature you. So if you text the word podcast to 310-496-8363, you can get your questions answered on our Q and A segment along with a shout out. And if you rate, review and subscribe to this podcast, we're choosing someone every month to get coached and featured on our show. It just might be you. So let's get started.

Welcome back to the podcast. It's time for another quickie because there's always time to fit in inspiration. And I just put a post out right now talking about how we should no longer apologize for prioritizing our big purpose. And I put one of my favorite quotes up. You guys have probably heard it before. If not, this might just rock your world and change your life like it did for me. And it is by the Gospel of Thomas and it says if you bring forth what is within you, what is within you will save you. If you don't bring forth what is within you, what is within you will destroy you. And I know that you feel this. This is why you listen to this podcast is because there's something big inside of you. Don't. You may not even know what it is, you may not even be able to name it yet, but it is waking you up at night. It is bringing you lessons that you either are learning from or you are not learning from. Right? I always tell you this, that Elizabeth Gilbert says you can either live that nudge life or that two by four life, right? Because the nudge life is when it kind of taps you on the shoulder and says, hey, I'm your purpose. You should listen. Hey, this thing that you want to do or you're curious about, you really need to do it. And if you keep ignoring it, if you keep shoving it down, if you keep going and doing those things that are numbing you out, even if that's social media, you guys, I'm talking to myself right now, even if that's social media that you are gonna start getting some tough lessons, it's gonna start to turn into that two by four that is gonna smack you across the face and try to wake you up sometimes. This comes in some really, really tough forms. And if we don't get it, that's the kind of life that we're gonna live. And I know that you guys have people in your life that it's like everything is a problem and a challenge and it's hard. And you just see how they are not waking up to their purpose. And we don't have to live this way. We don't have to have that B.S. if we start listening to those calls and wa. And it's really important to start prioritizing that purpose and putting it first. But here's the thing. A lot of us get really lost in the actual strategy in how to bring that forward. So what does that look like? If you are kind of in the inertia of the day to day and you are starting to feel like life is just kind of driving and you're not driving this mission anymore, even though you've really tried to put it first and prioritize it, maybe you've read the books and you're listening to the podcast and you're doing the masterminds and you're fear is just taking over or you just don't know where to start or begin. It's because we don't have a clear enough project list or a clear enough strategy on what we want to do. Because when you guys get so consumed in the action and you have a clear target and you know what you're doing, you won't even feel the fear as much like, yes, you'll feel it, but you'll actually have to do lists every single week that are really actionable, that keep you consumed in the activity. So a lot of times if you are not hitting those or if you're, if you're feeling really freaked out, if you're feeling like you don't know where to go, it's probably because you don't have clear targets to hit. Every single day, different things that you can do is write down each week what is the one thing for that week that you need to focus on. So let's just say that you need to get more people into your email list and in order to do that, you need to figure out a really good opt in. You guys, if you've never heard of an opt in, it's that thing, that lead magnet that brings people into your list that says, hey, sign up here to get my five five key things that a female entrepreneur needs to know in order to explode or scale her business. Right? It's something like that and it's a huge value add to people that are going to make or want to make people opt in. Here's the thing is that we are like so oversaturated right now with things that you do have to give a really, really good value add in order for people to want to join that thing that you are growing. Just like social media, it's like if you feel anemic right now, it's because maybe we're not adding enough value. Don't get me wrong, it is a slow build right now, but people are going to follow you and they're going to engage with you. And don't worry so much about getting new people as much as. And of course we want you to worry about that. But don't worry so much about building this huge following as it is like really engaging your current following. Right? Because a thousand good followers is worth its weight in gold. So I want you to really think about that if you really engage those people. So let's say that's your task for the week. What do you need to do and what do you need to prioritize and what do you need to work on every day? So work backwards like, okay, so next week, because it's Friday today and it's not Friday for you guys, but it's gonna be soon. So let's just say next week, what are the priority priorities that you need in your business? And don't overwhelm yourself. I can tell you if you followed me around each week, you'd be like, wait, you actually only do this much each week. But if I do it consistently, I move that needle forward, you guys. And don't get me wrong, some weeks, I have some crazy weeks where it's like, holy crap, how did I even do that? But other weeks, it's kind of a slow chipping away. And it's very consistent because I say, what is the top priority that needs to get done this week? And then I work backwards every day and program that into my calendar, into the times where I have the most energy. So if you stay in the action, you'll stay out of the anxiety. Let's say that again. If you stay in the action, you'll stay out of the anxiety.

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And don't put too much action into your week, right? Like, let's be really realistic with how we are able to get stuff done. And some people are like, holy, holy crap. You have so much willpower. You're like a superhuman. You can get so much done. No, I just know when my hours are that I can work effectively and I really, really put less on my plate. Like, I'm learning to say no even more. And that is the hard part, right? I think willpower comes from being able to say no, like, really working on your no muscle. Because willpower to me just means that I've created enough space to work on the things that I'm prior prioritizing the most, right? Willpower just means you have said no enough to create space and prioritize your priorities. So, you guys, I hope that this helps you today. Like, stay in the action and stay out of the anxiety. Because if you're in the anxiety, it's because you haven't given yourself a clear action plan for the week. I love you guys so much. We need whatever it is that is locked inside of you. We absolutely have to have it. Because your dream includes other people. And we know that your dream is not big enough unless it includes other people. So you guys get to it. Like, people are desperate to be a part of your vision. And truly, I believe my friend Catherine Gray when she says, fund women, save the world. Like, it's the same with your dreams. Like, get your dreams out there and we can make some huge changes, right? Because when, when you make crazy money, we know that part of that money is going to go to other women and other dreams and other people who need it as well. So take care of yourself, prioritize your dreams and watch how once you have all of those things that you know that you are meant for that all you can think of is know you are spilling over with blessings and you want to bless other people. So you guys, until next time, earn your happy. I would love to see what you took away from this. What your you know, if you had an aha moment, just give me a tag so that I can reshare. Okay? I love you guys. Until next time, earn your happy. Bye. Bye. Sam.