743. The Importance of Switching Up Your Energy to Reach Your Goals & Evolve to the Next Level

If I had to create a chart and 10 was 10 out of 10 highest energy, most deals being done and one was Sleepyville Farm in the middle of 100 acres with no one around then I think I need to be in that 10 several times, but I don't necessarily need to live in it.

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And we're back, babe, with another episode.

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And we're not just back on the podcast, Mike. We're back from Miami. Freshly back from Miami. What have we been home, like 12 hours? Something like that?

I think so. And we probably slept 11 of them.

And it was Napa in Miami with no break in between.

Oh my God, that's right.

Right. Remember? Isn't that funny? We were just on the trip and you forgot that those were back to back.

I did. It felt like a month.

I Felt like we were going a month. We were going 12 days.

I was spazzing, actually, before we went, because I'm growing this company right now, and it just felt, like impossible to get away. But we had this plan since last year to do these trips. And, you know, we had a wedding, so we went to Napa and went to our couples mastermind for an amazing wedding, and then we had a couples mastermind. Why don't you explain the couples mastermind?

Okay. So the couples mastermind. You and I built what we knew we were going to need this year when we were embarking on you growing light pink for the first time ever, doing a company like that, and me growing a couple new companies yet to be announced pretty soon here, plus the, you know, the other companies I already have my hands in, we looked at this year at the end of last year, said, holy crap, we're going to need to make sure we make ourselves a priority. Otherwise you and I will go on the back burner while these other things are front and center. And that. I see that happen to people all the time. And so we created what we needed and we. We got five other couples who fully, transparently paid $100,000 a couple. That's how serious they are about keeping their relationships a priority while they. They build businesses. And we promised them three epic dream date trips where it's almost like being on the Bachelor for four or five days. And every month we get together on Zoom and we literally have these trackers where we're tracking what matters and what's trending up, what's trending down. And those very simple things, when done intentionally, have allowed all six of us couples together to truly keep our relationship on the forefront while we're still focused on building other things at a fast pace. And so all the couples there were super high level, high performance couples. And that trip worked. It shifted us to a next level, and I think it shifted our perspective a lot.

Yeah. And I am so glad that we had it in place. And that's what all of the couples said as well, is because look what happened leading up to it. I was like, I don't know how I'm going to do this. I don't have time for this. I don't know how things are going to run without me.

Like, you, if you're starting a company.

It really made me think, like, you should be able to have people who are so good that you can leave and be able to have it run smoothly if you are, you know, running it as a founder, CEO, and that was really mind blowing to me as well. That I can check in, I can make sure things are going well and that I have the right team. It's, you know, I wouldn't have been able to leave if I would. Would have had the wrong team or tried to maybe save to, you know, on a budget to hire people who don't know what they're doing. So it was just, there was a lot of eye opening. Things that happen, happened for me on this trip and because it was planned, because I wouldn't have gone if it wasn't set in stone and locked in, if I didn't have a responsibility to these other people, I probably would have said, are we crazy right now? I can't leave. And then one year turns into two, turns into three, turns into. Until your company. Until you start another company.

Yeah. And now you haven't left. So there's two punchlines right here that I want to deliver. So everyone gets the, the value out of this punchline. Number one, even when it doesn't feel necessarily convenient, you need to plan in. Whether it's trips or interruptions or moments of enjoyment or things that you know are going to be good for you, that if you don't somehow lock them in with a financial commitment or, or you can't back out of it. Right. If you don't lock it in, then you're not going to show up to it. So point number one, you got to plan ahead. You got to lock some of these things in or they're not going to happen. And boy, are they worth happening. Point number two is you have got to change up your energy. And I think that's the direction we want to take this conversation. I cannot believe how you came back ready for a different pace. I cannot believe how I came back ready for a different pace and ready to do things at a new level. I'm sitting here drinking this fresh green juice thing full of every type of green you could ever imagine blended up in the blender. And that may not sound like a big thing. Millions of people do that. I wasn't drinking this type of thing before I went on this trip and I came back and this is just the tiny symbolism of everything I'm doing now is one step better than before I left for the trip and I'm ready for that commitment to that next level.

I think about this a lot because switching up the energy doesn't feel good in the beginning. It doesn't. It feels like if you are standing at a river and all of a sudden you're looking at this giant river and you're like, okay, I want you to redirect this river to now go. Instead of going straight, I want it to go to the right over here. And what does that feel like? In the beginning, it is like you're actually pushing against everything that you have gotten into the rhythm of. And you are like, it's like all of this force in your life is like it doesn't want to go this way. It just wants to flow in the way that it's always been flowing. And in order to stop it, it's.

Like you have to interrupt it.

You have to completely stop it. And even in the beginning, it's like you're going to build this rock wall and things are going to squirt through and it's not going to feel right and there's nowhere for this water to go. All of a sudden you do that enough and you put enough focus on building this new wall, that water is going to start to redirect. It's just slowly going to find its way and you're going to interrupt the pattern in which it was doing and you're going to end up going in that other direction. And I want this to be a reminder that what is best for you doesn't feel good in the beginning. What is best for you doesn't feel good in the beginning. And a lot of times we can be like, yeah, but I'm in a flow and I'm in a routine. If you're anything like me, I am ruined. Routine driven. But routines can also become a prison. So for me, it's remembering that switching up the energy brings in new ideas, new perspective, new people, new opportunities.

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I I realized something on this trip so and let me frame this for context. I feel like I've been half asleep at the wheel for the past year. This is this month is one year anniversary since my dad died last year unexpectedly and immediately I went into screwed. I don't want to do anything. Then it turned into well I want to do things but I want to do have a lot of space and I want to do them slowly. And now I've got this new energy. Something in this trip unlocked the old me and reminded me I have to be plugged in to the highest of energy and the highest of paces for me to thrive. And so Miami is that spot right now. Miami is what LA was 10 years ago for us where it was in momentum, it was growing, everybody was moving there, all the deals were being made there. All the hype was Miami is what LA was 10 years ago. And I've got some friends who have said the exact same thing who are doing a bunch of deals and starting new companies there. And so no, this is not some announcement that we're moving to Miami. What this is is a reminder that if I had to create A chart in 10 was 10 out of 10 highest energy, most deals being done and one was Sleepyville Farm in the middle of 100 acres with no one around, then I think I need to be in that 10 several times, but I don't necessarily need to live in it. So Scottsdale's probably, let's call it a seven and a half on that scale. There's plenty of great business here. There's plenty of good things being done, but it ain't that 10 out of 10 deal making type of energy that really feeds me and lifts my soul and lifts my spirit. Right. And because I learned I need that because of the dinners we were at, because of the energy we were at, because of some of the meetings I had while I was there, I was reminded that I got to go plug into that 10 out of 10 energy. And it was a great reminder because now I came back with shifting my sights on what I'm expecting on myself, what pace I'm going to go, what are the small changes that I'm going to make that are going to deliver really big results, and how often am I going to appreciate home here, but fly out to go plug into the different energies. It's time for me to start getting back to the events. It's time for me to start speaking on stages again. It's time for me to start putting on dinners around the country. It's time for me to go back to the cities that feed my soul and make some deals. And it literally just changed my entire way of thinking and being in one trip.

Yeah, this is all about switching up the energy and getting intentional about it. So even when we were there, Chris and I booked an extra the couple's experience, and then we had a VIP.

Guest couple that came and spoke at the couple's experience. That's what you're trying to say, right?

No, the couple's experience ended on Friday, and then we booked an extra three days, and we got very intentional within those three days. Now, I had three days where I was like, oh, my God. We just, you know, we. We were working at the Couples Experience, and we were playing, but we were hosting. So I was like, oh, three open days to just relax and recharge. And then we also had this realization that we're in Miami. There are amazing people here we want to connect with. There are incredible couples who we truly want to learn from and grow from. There are people down here that we want to do business with. So we got really intentional and said, okay, you know, as much as we want to recharge, we can do that during the day, and then we can get intentional with Our dinners at night. And the reason I'm telling you this is because that was also a switch up of energy for me, not only to recharge during the day, but it went against what I wanted to do and that was to just recharge all day long. But I also really have a deep desire to connect with these people, learn from them and get in intentional about the relationships. Because as Chris said, there is not as many people and things happening in the Scottsdale area for exactly what we want to be doing specifically. So we need to make sure that when we're in these places that we are getting intentional in connecting with these people. And you know, we do that back here in Scottsdale. We have those connections. So we're like, yes, but we also want these other ones in other cities. So what I'm saying is it's not just about going and switching up the energy by going on a vacation. It's about going on an intentional vacation or intentionally switching up your energy for the day and calling that person or having that lunch meeting or doing that different thing that doesn't feel good necessarily in the moment, but ends up having a big payoff and reward because you did the different thing that has the outcome that you want.

You might feel scared to lay the money out for that event and to leave your kids behind. I'm telling you, pull the trigger and do it anyways. You might feel intimidated paying for that mastermind and saying, oh my God, I'm gonna be gone three times a year. I don't even know where I'm gonna fit that in. I'm telling you, pull the trigger and do it anyway. You might feel really uneasy about booking a destination in a town full of people that you want to get to know and then inviting those people to a dinner that you're putting on. Maybe you've never done that before, but I'm telling you, pull the trigger and do it anyways. What you don't know, you don't know until you experience it. And then you realize, how have I not been doing this all along? Or how did I take a year off from doing this? And I think I'm talking to a lot of people. Two camps, Camp number one. You've never done these things. Here's your wake up call. It's time to start getting way outside your box, outside your town, outside your circle, and go plug into brand new ways of being temporarily, once in a while, consistently, or you're not going to change your life. I'm just being that direct. That's camp Number one camp number two, you used to do this. The pandemic came along, you got cozy, you got comfortable, you got lazy, you got whatever over the past year and you haven't plugged back in. It's time to plug back in. It's time to go plug back into the energy, into the meetings, into the cities, into the people, into the circles, into the events that will light your soul on fire again, give you that, that boost you simply cannot give yourself. And it's time to recommit to being that person again who goes to those things.

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That we heard when we were sitting around with all of the couples is that it just opened their eyes to a bigger vision and dream to get excited about. And I think that human beings are always looking just for that next thing to be excited about. Now this is not to say that these people aren't already amazing and successful and content and present and all of the things, but I think there is a beauty in being content and present in your life while also looking for progress, while also looking for that next vision of what you want. And that is what I believe makes a good life, is to be so deeply grateful for what you have and also hungry and dreaming for the next level. And I think that mix of content with hope and dreaming is really if that resonates with you, then you have to make sure that both fronts, both areas of your life are being satisfied.

Yeah, I can't. It changed everything for me. I can see that it's changed everything for you getting back from this trip. This is our wake up call to you guys. So do us a favor, send us a DM like tag us in this episode, let us know what you're the very next event you're going to go to, the very next thing you're going to say yes to, the very next place you're going to travel to in order to go plug back into the energy that's going to fill you up. That's going to change the flow that, yeah, you might be enjoying it right now, but it's not the best flow for your future.

Just put it in the calendar. I think if I can tell you one thing today from this, what you put in the calendar, like, you will make massive progress if you just say on this date, I want to go here and do this. And this is my intention. This is what I would like to get out of it. Just get it in the calendar. If it's not in the calendar, it's not happening.

Yeah, couldn't agree more. By the way, I can help you out a little bit too. One of the exciting ways that I'm up leveling everything is I've decided that I'm sending out a money mantra or a business mantra every single morning for free, no strings attached, via text. And so if you want to wake up to whatever business mantra I thought of that day, whatever money mantra I thought of for me that day, I'm texting it out to those of you that want it every single morning. So you can kind of use it, borrow it for your mantra that day as well. Get inspired. It's like the, the easiest way to be a part of a higher energy, right, because there's thousands of people are going to get this text every single morning if you know the ones that say yes. So listen, if you want it, you can text me the word daily, right? As in, I'm gonna send it to you daily. Text me the word daily. 2310-421-0416. Totally free, no strings attached, not charging you a penny for it. This is a way to hold me accountable to having my morning mantras and changing them up each day for what I need and sending it out to anyone else who needs it too. So just text me the word daily to 310-421-0416.

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