811. Are Your Friends Stunting Your Growth?

Who do you need to start hanging around as you start to think about how 2022 is right upon us? Who do you need to start hanging around and being around? And what do you need to start listening to in order to raise that quality of life?

Welcome to the Earn your Happy Podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of Light Pink, bestselling author, three time fitness world champion, and I'm a crazy, multi passionate entrepreneur. My journey has taken me everywhere from being a broke wait barista, retails associate and personal trainer with massive anxiety and no belief in myself, to later becoming a multimillionaire in love with my life. In 2007, my husband and I lost everything. We found ourselves hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt. At rock bottom. We had no ideas and I had no education to fall back on. This is when I found personal development and learned everything I could about business money. Not by choice, but because I realized no one was coming to save me. The conversations on this podcast are going to let you know that you're not alone and that we all feel like we don't know what we're doing. We're going to give you the tools to help you face your fears, take action, start your business, and grow those massive dreams that are keeping you up at night. It's time to create a life that you can't hide from and put so much on the line that your higher self is forced to come out. You're going to stop waiting for someone to approve of you and you're going to anoint yourself. Because I'm obsessed about building businesses that give women a platform, I want to feature you. So if you text the word podcast to 310-496-8363, you can get your questions answered on our Q and A segment along with a shout out. And if you rate, review and subscribe to this podcast, we're choosing someone every month to get coached and featured on our show. It just might be you. So let's get started.

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So when I was wanting to improve health fitness in my life, when I had first started out on my journey, it's not like I could just clear out all of the people in my life, right? But I knew that that was the one thing that I wanted to focus on. So I started to really collect people who could teach me about fitness and I started to hang around more people who could teach me about fitness. So maybe in your life right now you are wanting to, you know, it's not the new year, but you are probably already wanting to improve your health and fitness. I don't know about you, but like after Thanksgiving I'm like, oh my God, I already feel done with the holidays and we have like a whole month or two left. But if that's something that you want to improve on and the current group of friends that you have that you're spending the most time with are absolutely not focused on their health and our bad influences in that area, then you will never rise above in that area of your life, in that aspect of your life, you will never rise above the quality of those friends and the way that they view health and fitness. You'll never go further than their beliefs around it. So if that's something that you want to do, how can you start hanging out with someone or taking walks with someone or spending more time or meeting someone at the gym or creating more health minded friends, right? And it is insane because I promise you, if all of a sudden you started hanging out with people who like to do triathlons or who like to go to fitness classes or who are very health oriented, you will start to notice that your health improves. And I can prove this because we had had a couple of employees at different times who did not have health and wellness on their radar at all. They had always wanted to do it, but they had never, you know, set goals or done anything around it. And on actually three different occasions, we had three different employees come and work for us. And after six months they had all lost anywhere from 10 to 20 pound. And it was because every single day they were spending time in our home and it just rubbed off. It was the majority of what they spent time with was the influence and impact that it had on them. So how crazy that you just need to be in the environment.

And it just so happened that they.

Said, you know, when we had asked like, how did this happen? They were like, well, when we were around you, we just, we didn't want to order the normal food that we ordered, right? If we were door dashing or bringing food into the house and eating at the table, it was like, it just starts to rub off on you. You want to start to put in that healthy order. You want to start to think about your choices. And, you know, they would see us going for walks all the time, and they'd be like, well, you know what, I'm going to go for a walk after work too. And sometimes we would even do walking meetings. So that is proof that no matter what, you just start to become that way. So let's look at it in terms of your business. So if you want to improve in your business, what are the conversations you need to have and who are the people that you need to be around? And I cannot, I cannot stress this enough that just by osmosis and being around these people, you're gonna start hearing and learning about opportunities. You're gonna start learning what a schedule really looks like when you need to get stuff done. You're gonna start learning that it's different questions to ask.

Right?

We just did that podcast about, it's not what you need, it's who do you need? And same goes for this. Who do you need to start hanging around as you start to think about how 2022 is right upon us? Who do you need to start hanging around and being around? And what do you need to start listening to in order to raise that quality of life? Because right back to the quote, your life will never move past the quality of the people that you hang around. So I'm sending you guys so much love, but I really want to implant this and remind you the importance of the conversations that you are having, the people that you are around, and the qual of the things that you're listening to. And I would love to hear from you. As always, let me know what your biggest takeaway was on this. I love when you share and tag share with friends. I so appreciate it. It's how a podcast stays out in the world. And I'm sending you so much love today and during this holiday season. Remember, just take a deep breath. Whenever you're feeling crazy, just remember to take a deep breath, take a pause, and know that today could be as good as it gets. Until next time, earn your happy.