814. Don’t Be Afraid to Change Direction And Go BIG!

Where have we not been listening to ourselves? What is the thing that you are tolerating right now in your life that you know is not serving you?

Welcome to the Earn youn Happy Podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of Light Pink, best selling author, three time fitness world champion, and I'm a crazy, multi passionate entrepreneur. My journey has taken me everywhere, from being a broke waitress, barista, retails associate and personal trainer with massive anxiety and no belief in myself, to later becoming a multimillionaire in love with my life. In 2007, my husband and I lost everything. We found ourselves hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt at rock bottom. We had no ideas and I had no education to fall back on. This is when I found personal development and learned everything I could about business. Not by choice, but because I realized no one was coming to save me. The conversations on this pod are going.

To let you know that you're not.

Alone and that we all feel like we don't know what we're doing. We're going to give you the tools to help you face your fears, take action, start your business, and grow those massive dreams that are keeping you up at night. It's time to create a life that you can't hide from and put so much on the line that your higher self is forced to come out. You're going to stop waiting for someone to approve of you and you're going to anoint yourself. Because I'm obsessed about building businesses that give women a platform, I want to feature you. So if you text the word podcast to 310-496-8363, you can get your questions answered on our Q and A segment along with a shout out. And if you rate, review and subscribe to this podcast, we're choosing someone every month to get coached and featured on our show. It just might be you.

So.

So let's get started.

Hey everyone, welcome back to the show. It's time for another quickie because there's always time to fit in inspiration. And man, I have been on a whirlwind ride lately. We sold our Arizona home. We were getting some gut hits that it was not the place we were meant to be. Full time for ourselves, for our souls, for our business. One of the first things that I can tell you about myself is that if I want to feel like myself, I need to place myself near some water. And that's one of the first ways that I'm going to tap into hearing my soul feeling connected to God and putting myself in the desert for an entire year. I felt like a crazy human. But I will tell you, I will probably be podcasting a lot about the messages that I got from the desert in the valley of life and how much you can learn in the valleys, and that it's a lot more lessons coming in faster, coming in hot, no pun intended, in the desert and in the valley than from the peaks of your life. And while I don't have a lot of those lessons completely sorted out in my brain yet, there were so many good things that happened while we lived there full time. There are so many people and reasons why I moved there, and it's so clear to see that. But I was starting to get a knocking about. I know you guys know what I'm talking about. That knocking, that waking up in the middle of the night where I was like, this is not right. This is not it. This is not a place I can be. I felt stir crazy. I felt literally like I couldn't hear myself no matter how hard I tried. And that's what this quickie is about, is where do you need to be? Who do you need to be around? And exactly what do you need to be doing in order to feel like you? And I want to take some inventory right now. Maybe you're driving, maybe you're running, maybe you're sitting or getting ready or making your protein drink for the morning. Whatever you're doing, whatever ritual you're in right now, I want you to just take a deep breath, maybe put your hand on your heart or your stomach, whatever it is for you that you feel into, like, where's the space for you that you really feel your emotion? For me, it's my solar plexus, it's my heart, but mainly my solar plexus. And I can tell you that when I'm in my head, I actually feel heady. Like, I can actually feel the thoughts and choices coming from my head. And a lot of times when I'm in my head, I feel fearful. When I'm in my gut, I feel a lot more clear, I feel a lot more sure. And I want you to just ask yourself, what are the things that you need in order to feel like you, in order to feel connected to your higher power, in order to feel energy in your life, in order to feel excited? For some of you, that's going to mean retreating. It's going to mean going to the mountains. Maybe it's going to mean living in the mountains. I definitely have friends who are obsessed with the mountains or obsessed with the desert. And for me, I can't hear myself there full time. For me, I can immediately connect into my soul. When I'm by the water, by the beach, when I even just feel water nearby, even within five miles, I can absolutely feel that I'm still in an area where there's water. For me, it means I need to be outside. I need to be reading good books, I need to be learning. I can always tell when I'm not learning because I feel a void. I feel a void of things to talk about, to think on to. Just for me, it's. I'm a Sagittarius, so I'm a bit of like. I love to just analyze and really think on big topics and break them down and wonder. I love to be in wonder. And nature helps me be in that. When I'm not doing these things, I feel lost, I feel frustrated. Frustration is my default response when I am out of alignment with the things that I need to be doing to feel like myself. So what are those things that you need to be doing to feel like yourself? Just name two of them. Just name one of them. And if you start putting that into your life, even if you can't go and move, you guys, that's not what this podcast is about. If you're like, shit, I'm in the wrong area in my life. Oh, my God, she just moved. I need to move. Okay, well, I knew on, like, week three of being in the desert, it wasn't for me, and I stayed there for a year. Some of you are going to have to stay there for a year. Some of you are going to have to extract the lessons for two years. But how can you implement something right now that's gonna help you? Because for me, even though I knew it wasn't the right area, I did think the other things that made me feel really good. I hung out with friends, I went for runs, I traveled a bit to watery areas so that I could go and connect and go listen to myself there and take those lessons back for myself. But I really want you to think of something, one thing that is gonna make you feel more like you now. What is that thing that's gonna make you feel more like you now? And how can you get that into your life now? This is gonna be huge for you because it's going to bring you the answers that you've been looking for. And trust me, this takes time. But where have we not been listening to ourselves? What is the thing that you're tolerating right now? That's an interesting question to ask. It's Kind of a scary question to ask, isn't it? What is the thing that you are tolerating right now in your life that you know is not serving you? All right, It's a crazy time of year. You're busy, you're making yourself busier with the holidays on top of a crazy schedule that feels insane. I know, because I'm in the same schedule spot as you, and you'll find me walking around my house talking to myself saying, lori, go drink water. Take care of you. If you don't feel good, it's probably because you haven't had enough water and it's cold out, you guys. That means we're probably dehydrated, and one of the first signs of dehydration is hunger and fatigue. So go drink your water right now. Put a stick of liquid IV in because it contains five essential vitamins, more vitamin C than an orange and as much potassium as a banana, and it has the optimal ratio of glucose, sodium, and potassium. Delivers water and nutrients into your bloodstream. It's the perfect balance to help you hydrate more quickly and effectively than water alone. So go grab your favorite Liquid IV flavors nationwide at Walmart. Or you can get 25% off when you go to liquidiv.com and use code happy at checkout. That's 25% off anything you order when you get better hydration. Today using promo code happy@liquidiv.com go drink your water. I promise you you're gonna feel better. Put a stick of liquid IV in there. You're gonna thank me because it tastes better and it's gonna make you drink more. Let's get back to the show. I know for me, I have just. Especially with all of this travel and I'm living in Airbnbs, and sometimes I'm not taking the time to go to grocery stores or pick up the little things that make my life better or drink water. Oh, my gosh. It's as simple as drinking water sometimes. I'm definitely not taking care of my health as much as I would like to right now. Especially I'm on the verge of another birthday. So My birthday is December 6th, and I definitely start to look at this time of really wanting to take it to the next level with my health, because that's going to support the vision, that's going to support your dream, that's gonna support your ideas. A lot of you, your conduit is rusty. Our conduit is all messed up and stuck up with gunk, and we're not getting the downloads and we're not channeling the divine inspiration. We're not feeling connected to God or our friends or our family because we just. Our vessel is all clogged up. So what is it being clogged with? Is it people's crappy energy? Is it shitty Netflix shows? Is it crappy ass food? Are you drinking every single day? Like, what is it that's blocking you from feeling good? And you guys know I'm all about balance. I mean, come on, I have an alcohol company. But where are you doing too much of something that is blocking your downloads, that's blocking your energy, that's blocking the next big divine idea, that's blocking your connection to friends, that's making you lean more into fear and disbelief. What's the thing? Is it too much news? Because I gotta tell you, you are frickin made for anything and everything that you want. An idea is for you. It is from God. It is meant for you to go and chase it and get it. That is your purpose. It wasn't meant for someone else. It wasn't out of your scope. You're smart enough to do it. You have enough to do it. You can create the network, you can create the funds. This is coming from someone who's never fundraised before and raised $2 million. Took me a year. A lot of tears, a lot of pain, but I did it. And so can you. I can't stress this enough. I am a small town girl from Marquette, Michigan who didn't graduate high school, who is in a completely restrictive religion. I wasn't allowed to hang out with people outside of my congregation. You guys, you can do this too.

With the holidays and the new year coming, you probably are looking around your house thinking that you would love to.

Upgrade and freshen up your environment.

And there is no easier way to do that than with your window treatments. Nobody covers windows better than Blinds.com. blinds.com brings your space to life. In your way, they have free design help. Other retailers may claim to have experts, but blinds.com has spent nearly 30 years building an award winning team of over 100 design consultants that are ready to help you create your dream space. Always convenient, always tailored to you. Three ways to shop 1.

Perfect fit.

Whether you want a DIY, have it all done for you or you're somewhere in between. Choose what works for you and rest easy knowing the fit is guaranteed. So the holidays come fast, you guys, and you can freshen up your window treatments fast as well. And unlike some competitors, the price you see is the price you pay. No hidden fees and there's zero pressure from blackout in motorized options to classic shutters. Blinds.com has window treatments for every room, style and budget, even shades for your outdoor space. The Black Friday deals@blinds.com are going strong all month long, so don't miss your chance to save big. And as always, our listeners still get $50 off when you spend $500. Just use code earn at checkout. Limited time offer rules and restrictions apply. See blinds.com for details. 2026 is the year that you launch your business. It's the year that you've become the boss. You become the leader. That idea that you have that has been eating at you forever that just will not leave you alone is going to come to life. Maybe it's something that someone tells you you should always sell or a store you've already designed in your head. And with Shopify, 2026 is when you find finally make it happen. Shopify gives you everything you need to sell online and in person. Millions of entrepreneurs have already made this leap from household name to first time business owners. Just getting started you guys. I use Shopify for glossy and I remember when they sent me my little shopping bag celebrating my 10,000 sales and I literally cried because I was so scared to take the leap. And I'm so glad that I did.

And that I use Shopify.

It gives you all the tools and to easily build your dream store. You can choose from hundreds of beautiful templates that you can customize to match. Your brand setup is fast with Shopify's built in AI tools that write product.

Descriptions and headlines and help you edit photos.

So marketing is built in too. You can create email and social campaigns that reach customers wherever they scroll. So as you grow, Shopify grows with you. You can handle more orders, expand to new markets and do it all from the same dashboard. In 2026, stop waiting and start selling with Shopify. Sign up for your $1 per month trial and start selling today at shopify.com happy. Go to shopify.com happy that's shopify.com happy. Hear your first cha ching this new year with Shopify by your side.

I don't have any special superpowers. I struggle all the time. I struggle with enoughness. I struggle with my belief. But there is no way to not get there if you surround yourself with with incredible humans. And that's gonna be the hard part cause you're not gonna believe that you are worthy of this group. I still feel this way. I still don't feel worthy of so many Things. So many people in so many rooms that I'm in. But you better believe that I forced my ass into those rooms no matter what. Maybe I go home and cry about it. Maybe I go home and worry about what stupid thing I said, but I still do it. And that's what this journey looks like. It looks like a whole lot of courageous moments followed by, why did I say that? Oh, my gosh, am I enough? Do these people actually like me? And then you follow it with another courageous moment. And you do this day in and you do this day out, and all of a sudden you wake up and your life starts to look like the life you were actually meant to be in. Trust me. Trust me. It feels crazy. Doesn't feel like it's gonna happen. And then all of a sudden, a little thing happens, and I call those breadcrumbs. Those are the things that keep you on the trail, going towards your destination. Sometimes they're tiny, but it is a breadcrumb that it's like a little flicker of. I got this. I did this. Oh, my God, that happened. For me, it may not even be a great thing. It might just even be a possibility, a breadcrumb of possibility. And that's what is gonna keep you on that path. So if you're getting breadcrumbs of possibilities, I believe that that is from go. Hey, this may not even be a thing that turns out, but it's a thing that's gonna inspire you enough and give you enough energy for the day to make one more plan, get in one more room, make one more reach out, accept 10 more no's today and keep you going on the path. And this is really what the journey looks like. And if you think it looks any different, I have talked to so many successful people. It doesn't look any different. You guys. Everybody doubts themselves. Everybody feels like this is painful. And then you get these moments where it's fricking awesome, and it is better in any of the pain that you've gone through. Trust me, as much as I talk about the pain and the reality of the journey, it's always worth it. Because your only other choice is regression. Your only other choice is to sit in regret. Your only other choice is to look at your life and wish for something more or something different. And that is the worst spot to be, because I'm telling you, at least when you're in progress, you feel proud of yourself. At least when you're facing your fears, you can have some pride and not feel sad, ashamed, like you're Going backwards. I'm telling you. Courage is the thing that is going to make you feel like you are content in your life. Having courage, making progress equals contentment. And if you're not feeling content, it's because you're not doing things that stretch you. So say a prayer, muster up a.

Little bit of courage.

Cause that's all you need. You don't need anything huge, right? Mel Robbins always uses 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, do the thing. I use it all the time. Whether it's to do send an email or whether it's to get my ass up out of bed some days. Because it's hard, right? It's tough to get beat down over and over and get so many no's. But that is where pride comes from. That is where contentment comes from, is knowing that you are a person that can do hard things. So I'm sending you guys so much love and if you have not gone to the show notes and downloaded our Light Pink holiday guide, that would be one of the biggest favors you could do for me is to download it, share it with a friend. Because this is how we are going to launch Light Pink is by getting this guide out there, collecting these incredible emails so that we can launch to a large group of people who love what we are about. So if you want to support me, that would mean the world to me, that would be the biggest way that you can support me right now is to go download that holiday guide, get all of the goodies in there, the free three month membership to Powerhouse Women, get all of the exclusive discounts to so many of my favorite things. It's going to help you shop this winter or this holiday season. You guys, this is the biggest way that you could support the 54 female investors who showed up for me monetarily to support myself to support this mission which is to give back to female entrepreneurs just like you. So please go take a minute, download the guide and share it with as many friends as possible. That would mean the world to me. Thank you guys so much and until next time, earn your happy. Sam.