823. This Is Your Invitation To Release The BS

I guarantee you can gift yourself a new relationship that already exists if you let go of the expectation of what you thought it was supposed to be and actually allowed that person to show up in the way that they were meant to in your life. And maybe it was just to teach you a lesson.

Welcome to the Earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of Light Pink, best selling author, three time fitness world champion, and I'm a crazy, multi passionate entrepreneur. My journey has taken me everywhere from being a broke waitress, barista, retails associate and personal trainer with massive anxiety and no belief in myself to later becoming a multimillionaire in love with my life. In 2007, my husband and I lost everything. We found ourselves hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt at rock bottom. We had no ideas and I had no education to fall back on. This is when I found personal development and learned everything I business not by choice, but because I realized no one was coming to save me. The conversations on this podcast are going to let you know that you're not alone and that we all feel like.

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Hey everyone, welcome back to the show. It's time for another quickie because there's always time to fit in inspiration and I'm just sitting here before 2022 strikes and I'm very excited about it, to be honest. I can feel a new energy. I can feel some new life force coming through and I feel like this last year Chris and I have been in a brand new chapter but also kind of really figuring out what we want for this next. I almost feel like it's a whole next segment like next journey in our life Next massive chapter. Like we're in the middle. Like we're in the middle of the book we are in. You know, if there were three parts, we are going into part two and really starting to look at what this part two is going to look like of our life and marriage and legacy. And I know that there are some questions and some things that I want to leave in 2021, and I offer you to take this same invite to leave them behind as well. And one of the things that I want to leave behind is worrying about people's opinions. So with that, the only way to do that is to allow people to misunderstand me. So I am inviting in that it is okay to for people not to understand and for me to voice my opinion on my podcast and for me to come from a place of love in my posts on social media and let it be okay if I cannot give full context and write an entire book around it. Which I promise you, even if you write a book, you still can't write enough context for the people who want to misunderstand you. And that's another thing, is understanding that some people are just wired for conflict. And that's okay. It's okay to let those people not understand you, right? It's okay to be taken the wrong way. It's okay to let those things go. And that is one of the biggest things that if I could let go, I could absolutely move forward with more power and more grace in the world. Less anxiety, less stress, which we all know that when we keep our channel clear of all of the bullshit and the stress and the made up stories, that's when we're going to have most access to our power. This past year, I have hired more incredible people than I have in my entire life. And what I can tell you is that Chris and I have hired dozens and dozens of people through the 12 plus years of entrepreneurship. And one thing that I really wish is that I would have found indeed way sooner. Because hiring in and of itself is a full time job and indeed is a hiring partner that gets you what you really want, which is a short list of quality candidates as fast as possible. Because you can do it all, attract, interview and hire all at indeed. So don't struggle on your own to find quality candidates. Indeed can help you hire the right people, literally right now. And what I see is one of the biggest mistakes is to not hire soon enough and indeed partners you on every step of the hiring process so you can find talent with the skills you need through tools like indeed, instant match assessments and virtual interviews. I love it because it helps you through every single step of the process. And I'm telling you, there is a lot of things involved with finding really good people. And Indeed is going to be the support system that's going to walk you through what you need to find them. Thanks to Indeed's virtual interviews, you can message, schedule and interview top talent seamlessly all in one place with Indeed. So get started right now with a $75 sponsored job credit to upgrade your job post at indeed.comhappy. get a $75 credit at indeed.comslhappy indeed.com.

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Right?

Because I'm a frickin work in progress. I guarantee I'll be working on this for the rest of my life. But the more that we invite it in, the more we focus on it, the better we become and all of a sudden you'll wake up be 2023 and you'll be like damn I set some boundaries for myself. I'm so proud it all right you guys thank you so much for just being here and for staying with me for all of these years or maybe you're new so thank you for showing up and finding the podcast and sharing and doing all of the things because I love to see who listens to the show so that I can think of you when you're on your walks, your runs, in your car, playing with your dog, hopefully whatever it is getting ready for the morning that I get to be a little part of your journey and to me that is the one of the biggest blessings of my life. So here's to a very happy and abundant 2023. I know that's coming for you. Claim it Put your hands up in the air grab it is yours. I will see you next week. Bye everyone. Sam.