839. How To Find Your "Person"

I really believe that dreams are not a solo endeavor at all. They are given as a gift so that you can enroll others into the dream and bring it to the finish line together. So if you're doing this solo, you're actually doing it wrong. Welcome to the Earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of Light Pink, best selling author, three time fitness world champion, and I'm a crazy, multi passionate entrepreneur. My journey has taken me everywhere. From being a broke waitress, barista, retails associate, and personal trainer with massive anxiety and no belief in myself, to later becoming a multimillionaire in love with my life. In 2007, my husband and I lost everything. We found ourselves hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt. At rock bottom, we had no ideas and I had no education to fall back on. This is when I found personal development and learned everything I could. Not by choice, but because I realized no one was coming to save me. The conversations on this podcast are going to let you know that you're not alone and that we all feel like we don't know what we're doing. We're going to give you the tools to help you face your fears, take action, start your business, and grow those massive dreams that are keeping you up at night. It's time to create a life that you can't hide from and put so much on the line that your higher self is forced to come out. You're going to stop. Stop waiting for someone to approve of you, and you're going to anoint yourself. Because I'm obsessed about building businesses that give women a platform. I want to feature you. So if you text the word podcast to 310-496-8363, you can get your questions answered on our Q and A segment along with a shout out. And if you rate, review and subscribe to this podcast, we're choosing someone every month to get coached and feature on our show. It just might be you. So let's get started. And we're back with another episode of he said, she Said.

So listen, Lori and I were talking about how fortunate we are to have, quote, found our person. And here's what I mean. I don't mean each other. Although, babe, I love you to death and you are definitely my person.

Go on.

And we could do a whole episode around finding your romantic person or your other half and how valuable that is. But in this case, we mean finding your person, as in the missing person to your business. The missing person.

The ying to your yang.

Yeah, the yink, your Yankees skill set.

The integrator the, you know, if you're the visionary, then you need an integrator. If you're an integrator, you need a visionary.

So we do this, you know, walk every single morning as you guys. And on the walk, we do the Power 9 that we introduced you guys last year, where we have to say three things we're grateful for and three things we're excited about, three things we manifest for the day, and then somebody that we wish well for. And every single morning when we do that, it seems like a few key people come up, whether on the gratitude side or on the side that we wish well for. And so many times it's our person. So for me, my person is a guy named Matt, who is my co founder for my new fintech company. Something I know nothing about whatsoever except we are cruising with this app and everyone's like, how's this thing going so well? How's this thing going so fast? And it's because I knew the things that I'm good at, but I also knew what my big, gaping, glaring holes were. And I knew I had to go out and find somebody if I really wanted this to happen and to happen well and happen quickly. I knew I had to find someone who would be able to fill those big, gaping holes.

Yeah, for me, you know, it's been different throughout the years who that person is. And there's been times when that person has been you. There's been times where, you know, I think back to even my fitness career. And I want to use this one as an example, because sometimes your person isn't actually in person. Sometimes you don't even know the person. In the very beginning, and, you know, when I decided that I wanted to do fitness competitions and maybe potentially be on covers of magazines was the big dream. I needed a person. You know, we've been talking a lot on the podcast about it's never a what, it's a who. Who do you need? And at that time, I was reading an Oxygen magazine. I remember I was in the gym. I was doing the stair climber, which I hated. I was probably only on minute number six. And it probably felt like, you know, two hours in. Cause that's how those torture devices are.

You know, I remember this moment is that tiny little gym we'd work out after work in Waukesha, Wisconsin.

Waukesha, Yep. And I'm reading this magazine, I jump off and go run over to Chris, and I'm like, oh, my God, look at this article. This woman helps women get into fitness competitions or get on stage and get into magazines. She has a camp. It's called Kathy Savage Fitness Camp or Savage Camp. And I was like, I have to go now. At this time, I was pretty young. I was probably 20. I think I was 26. And I'd never flown by myself. I'd never been across the country, Never competed in fitness. Never competed in fitness. And I was like, I have to go. And I think it was, like, a few months away or something like that.

And when you came up and shared it with me, like, you know, mid workout, you had such certainty. It was like a weird knowing that this is what you had to do.

Well, I had never seen it. And I was like, if I've learned one thing, which, at the time, I was pretty green. I was like, you have to go and get help from the people who have done this before. So, you guys, I went with a sea of women to go to this camp and get trained and learn all these different things. And then what ended up happening is she remembered me. But when I asked her, you know, when just talking about memories at this camp, she was like, yeah, I mean, I remember you. But it wasn't like she was directly really helping me. Throughout the whole weekend, there was, like, I don't even know 50 to 100 women there. And what ended up happening is when I was there, I found a girl who lived near me in Wisconsin, and she was like, let's just be accountability partners and do this fitness competition coming up in Wisconsin. And this little. I don't remember what town it was in. And so I was like, okay, I'm totally committed. And because I had her to commit to, I ended up doing the fitness competition. Then, like, I don't know if it was a month before or what, but she ended up saying she wasn't gonna do it. She's like, I just can't do it. I can't do this. It's, like, too much. And I was like, well, shit, I'm already this far in. I'm gonna do it. But look at that story of if I wouldn't have found this person from afar, shown up for this camp, and then gone there and found another person that I committed to because we both knew we wouldn't do it if we didn't have that accountability, then that's kind of how it all started. And I had proof right there that you're never gonna do it alone. You're always gonna find somebody. And throughout all of the different things that I've done, whether it was, oh, my goodness, I Wanna write a book. I need to find an editor. And I go and I put out online who can help me edit, who can help me find these different people and things. And that's kind of like you're constantly finding your person who's either gonn or hold you accountable or a lot of times you go to the teacher or you go to the mentor and what happens is the other students there are going to be your accountability partner. Now I'll fast forward because I've had a lot of those people, I've had a lot of mats, just like you are having right now. And for light pink, I knew that I needed somebody to build this with. I didn't know what that was going to look like. And I know that I am a visionary and I absolutely needed an integrator. But the first thing that I did hire was I needed an assistant. So I hired this incredible woman, totally mind blowing, just like was crushing everything as an assistant. And I started giving her other tasks that were not just getting done, they were getting done far better than I could do. And so I was kind of trying this out and having her integrate different things and her skill set is just crazy. Incredible. Project manager, just the most brilliant woman I feel like I've ever gotten to work with, especially in the integration and operations side. And what ended up happening is that I promoted my assistant to my chief of staff. And there's definitely things that I believe in the future are going to be on her path because that is absolutely my person for light pink and she's the one that helps me show up every single day.

I mean, I feel like I need to reinforce what you're saying and say it with even more energy because I watch you guys work and I know how you tick. This thing would not be moving forward without your other half, AKA Lauren. Right? And so listen, I want everyone to kind of grasp what we're saying here. If you feel stuck, you might just be missing your person. If you haven't even started yet and you're not taking the first step, you might just be missing your person. If you are going way too slow, even though you're working your tail off, you might just be missing your person. And there's three ways that you can get your person right. Number one, you can pay them. For example, Lori pays Lauren. And Lauren is a perfect other half for Lori to go grow light pink. So example one, you can pay them. Example two, you can groom them. You know, our missing person that we found and made all of our coaching programs, all of our Events, all of our everything take off was Nick, right? Nick was an integrator and Nick became our COO and ran the teams and brought all of our crazy ideas to life. And so, so in that case, we groomed them. Nick just started on a part time agreement that he would help you figure out your first bliss project because he was a production coordinator for the show Extreme Makeover. And so it was like a handshake deal, like, hey, we'll give you a little bit of money if you come help coordinate the production of this very first event that we've never done before. And it went so well and we saw his ability to learn quickly. Wait, could you also learn this? And wait, could you also learn this? And here we are 10 years later or whatever it is, and he, we groomed him, right? We found someone to grow into the role. So number one, you can pay them. Number two, you can groom them and they can grow into the role. Or number three, you can sell them. That's what I did with Matt. You know, Matt just sold his tech company for a great big giant liquid nine figures exit. And as part of that exit, this is really neat, shows you the character of this guy. They wanted his technology, they wanted his customers, they wanted the company. But they didn't need any of his employees because they already had them, right? They were redundant. So Matt said to all of his executive team, he said, listen, I'm going to put you on salary, I'm going to keep your salaries for the next two years. And if a project finds us, awesome, we all know that we work well together and already took something across the finish line. And if something doesn't find us in two years, then at least you know, you have plenty of time to go find something else. Well, who, what project comes along and finds them? Me. Right? And in that case, I sold them. I had to sell Matt on the vision of, listen, here's my vision, here's what it's going to be, here's why it's going to change the world, here's why you're a perfect fit. And before you know it, he was totally enrolled and now he's like as excited as I am and he's my 5050 partner in bringing this thing to life. So those are your three options. You can pay them, you can groom them, or if they're your perfect fit, you have to go sell them on why they need to be a part of this. But whether you're stuck, whether you haven't started, whether you're going too slow, you're just missing your person. Very likely.

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Except when you actually look at the facts, you're kind of like, I am missing a massive piece of the puzzle. Maybe you're missing 3/4 or more of the puzzle and the news flashes. You should be. Your vision is not big enough if it only takes you to fulfill it. And I really believe that dreams are not a solo endeavor at all. They are given as a gift so that you can enroll others into the dream and bring it to the finish line together. Especially if you are a creative or a visionary, which most likely you probably are if you're listening to this. And what happens with that is you are the person who is meant to go enroll people in your vision. So if you're doing this solo, you're actually doing it it wrong. Because as the visionary and the creator, you are meant to go out and get the people to fill the gaps of your skill set. 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Guys, listen, if you're hearing all this, you're like, okay, sounds great. Maybe I'm missing my person. Or I already knew that. But I can't find them or I don't know where they are. That is not a valid excuse. Remember I said you can pay them, groom them, or sell them. So if you don't have money, it's not an excuse. If you don't know who they are right now, it's not an excuse. You have to go find them. Like I literally found Matt in a mastermind two years ago, formed a friendship, and then who was there for me when I needed someone to bring this app to life? Matt. So you don't even know who it's going to be, but it is your job to get your tail off the couch, stop pouting, and go find this person, whether you're going to pay them Groom them or sell them on your vision. And by the way, speaking of which, the fact I found them at a mastermind, I don't know if you guys have heard the great news, but we sold our fast foundations mastermind, which was made for people who are making less than $400,000 a year in their business. Right. We call it early stage to mid stage entrepreneurs. And the people that bought it were coaches in the program. They literally freaking said, we can't let this thing die after all these years. It's way too important. They came to us and they made an offer and bought the entire business from us. And it's better than ever because they're bringing it back in person. It's not just virtual anymore. So listen, if you're craving a entry to mid level entrepreneur mastermind that has our stamp of approval all over it that we are still teaching at even though we don't own it anymore, and that is run by the very coaches that made it very special because they bought it.

Not just coaches. They were students in the beginning and have incredible businesses.

Isn't that a great story?

Then they were coaches and then it was. They were there from the beginning, which was a long. Was that four or five years ago?

Yeah, five years ago.

Wow.

It's just such a cool story. It's such a cool story. We have to tell that on a separate episode. Anyhow, if you want to be a part of that thing and if you want a very, very special Kris and Lori Price, do me a favor. Text me the word fast to 310-421-0416. I'm not kidding. Now that it's in person, way less people get to do it so quickly. Text me the word fast to 310-421-0416 and join us in person. I love that it's back in person. I'm so excited that they bought this thing.

You guys, thank you so much for listening and we will see you next week.

Thanks for listening.