Episode 43: QUICKIE! Throw Out Your Big Goal!

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Welcome to the Earn your happy podcast. I'm Lori Harder, founder of The Bliss Project, 3 Time Fitness World champion, fitness expert and cover model, turned self love junkie, lifestyle entrepreneur and author.

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Or a thought that will help you bust through your fears, connect to your soul and get focused and clear so you can elevate your life, business and relationships. We don't wait until we're ready for someone to tell us we're good enough. We take what we want and we anoint ourselves. Get ready to earn, own, and unapologetically rock your happiness every single day. Are you with me? Here we go. Welcome back to the earn your happy podcast. And it is time for another quickie, because there's always time to fit in inspiration. So I have to tell you, sometimes these quickies come to me all the time in my head when I'm going around about my day. And when it comes to sitting down and recording them, I feel so much resistance because I like to talk in the moment that I get inspiration. Sometimes it's hard for me to be like, yes, that's what I was gonna talk about and then come up here and I'm like, just totally drawing a blank. But tonight I got some big inspiration and came in the form of a friend. So this morning, our morning started off with an awesome soul cycle. So if you don't know me, me and my husband actually love to go to soul cycle together. It's like super high energy, like a dance club in the dark, sweaty, with candles, loud music, and the instructor is always just pumping like these amazing messages to. So it's super motivational, inspirational while you're getting your sweat on and hollering. And it's pretty awesome, actually. One of my friends, Danette, calls it inspired hell. So not everybody loves it, but I think even when she's done, she truly does love it because she's like, who wants to be trapped in this room like this, like a foot from someone else and all sweating together? So anyway, our day started off like that and we have some friends visiting from Australia and Mara and Ben came with us to the soul cycle class this morning. And Ben didn't really enjoy it as much as the rest of us did, and he ended up popping over this evening. So we had a really great chat and he was talking, we were, we were talking about goals and how goals are so important and they're so vital. But if you live for your goal or if you think that you're going to be living when your goal happens, you'll be feeling like you have the biggest. It's the biggest letdown of your life. Or maybe you'll be excited for five minutes, literally. Or however long your celebration dinner or party lasts or however long that moment is. And I hate to tell you, but it's usually really short. So he said, you know, you take your goal and you look at it, and then you completely throw it out. And I was like, what do you mean you completely throw it out? He's like, well, you take your goal, and what you do is you just work backwards. So you look at all of the things that you have to do to get there, and you look at the things that you have to do tomorrow to get there. So then those new actions that you have planned out for tomorrow and the next day and the next day and all of the mundane actions that must be done every single day, those are now the goal. So you no longer even think. Think of your goal. Hardly ever. Because he's like, if I thought of my goal, I'd feel like every day was a failure because I'm not getting there right. So the action now becomes your goal. So tomorrow you wake up if you have a goal of getting your summer body right, or getting your dream body or becoming healthier, becoming. Finally becoming fit, making it a habit. And your goal is just to work out. You let go of the body. You let go of the thought of, oh, my gosh, whatever, I'm not getting anywhere, or this is so hard, or why am I doing this? And your goal for the day to make yourself happy is just to get to the gym or make one better choice with your food, and that is it. And you don't think about the big one, and you don't think if you failed or not. And you don't worry if you're gonna make it or not. And you just say, my goal for the day is just to move. My goal for the day is just to move. Or we were talking about this because he's in our network marketing company, and a lot of that, we were talking about how I've never done a call before where I haven't felt resistance before. My call where I have not wanted to get on the phone because I am really. I'm like an extroverted introvert. And if it were up to me, I probably wouldn't call anyone. I probably wouldn't be meeting a ton of people, but that wouldn't make me happy. I have to force myself to do it, and then I'm happy. So in network Marketing, your goal is just to make contacts, right? So it's not, oh, I want to make X amount of dollars by month sales, six or by year one, because you'd get super frustrated and overwhelmed. So my goal every day is just to talk to people about it, just to reach out. And some people like to say, you know, the power of 10. So connect with 10 people and tell them about your message or tell them about your business or tell them about why you're excited. And that is just the goal. That's just the one goal. So it's letting go of that big picture and saying, okay, what do I need to do today? What do I need to do today? What do I need to do today? And I highly recommend that you plan it out the week before or the night before. And those few actions, maybe it's just one, you guys, just one thing. That's it. Stop thinking about the big picture and how long it's gonna take and that you're gonna get there. Because honestly, it is all about what you're doing that day, because it's all that we have. And it's finding the joy in the fact that you are making yourself do something and you're accomplishing something. Those simple actions done day in and day out are going to be the only thing that get you there. There is nothing that I can tell you that has gotten me to my success besides just deciding to do one thing a day. That's it. I mean, same thing with coming up here the night before. You guys, it is 9 o' clock before 9 o' clock at night. I am traveling again tomorrow. I have only been home for four, four days. I have done six podcasts. I have a quickie, I have to record three intros. I really do need to do another quickie. There was so much massive resistance about coming up here tonight when I still have to pack and I'm going to wake up at 6am tomorrow to go do a soul cycle before I get on an airplane. So it's not that I want to be doing things or it's not that it's not ever hard because you know what it is. But I just say, okay, if this is the life that you want, if you want to feel happy with yourself, if you, if you, you know, I always look at, I feel so blessed to be able to do these things because a lot of people wake up and they don't necessarily have a job to go to, or they don't have the opportunity to go move their legs, or they don't have the capability to produce something that they love in their lives. And you know what? A lot of us do. So if you do, do not take it for granted. So, you guys, I just wanted to remind you, it's done one thing at a time. There is no magic form besides that. Besides putting one foot in front of the other. If I pointed to a spot a mile away, we'd get there the same exact way. You have to just put one foot in front of the other. So some days, even when you feel like they are tiny baby steps or you drop to your hands and knees and you crawl, guess what? That's how a lot of it looks. That's how a lot of it looks for me. I'm crawling. I'm like, this week I was so. I just felt really exhausted. And to be honest with you, I just felt like eating a lot of food this week. And I was like, you know, in the past, I would have just beaten myself up over the fact that I feel like I'm eating a lot and I'm tired and I'm dragging and, you know, but this week, I'm fully aware that I just need a little more love. I've been traveling a little bit. Like, go easy on yourself. Have some grace. You're still putting one foot in front of the other one. It might be crawling, but you're still moving forward. Or it might feel like you're trudging through mud, but you're still doing.

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You guys just know that it's all done in the exact same way. And we all started somewhere. So whether you feel like you are a beginner in something, or whether you feel like you're not good enough for something, or whether you feel like you are crawling. Welcome. Welcome to the party. That's how we always feel when we start something new. And that's the best part. It's like the part before the excitement, right? Because one day you're going to look back and be like, oh, I'm in the mundane of my goal. Like, you're doing it. But now it's boring and you have to create a new goal, so. Or now it's not as fulfilling. So now you have to create a new goal. So just remember, everybody is a beginner. Everybody starts with just one thing. So don't get overwhelmed thinking you need to do it all at once, all in one day. Just one thing. Gonna say it again? Just one thing.

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