How to Break Out of a “Poor” Mindset

If you're stuck, if you feel yourself wanting to pull back and you just don't even know how in the world you're going to grow or get more income or change something, that's a huge sign that you're probably gripping on your money and in fear you have to put that somewhere that's going to help you grow. And we're back with another episode of He Said, she Said.

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My glossy tip today is just to remember to drink your water. And if you are like me and you're a toddler who needs flavored water, then this is the easiest way to do it. And there's this trend that was going around on TikTok that's called sexy water. And just always trying to make your water work for you. So you drink it, like, flavor it, put a bunch of stuff in it. And it's trending because it's the realization of what we realized with Gloce. Because why would you drink water that doesn't have functions to it, like, functionality?

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Okay, so Lori has this concept, because I'm sure all men are this, you're.

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This is funny because I can open up the fridge and not see what I'm looking for, even though it's in front of my face. Or I can open a cabinet and I'll be like, babe, where's the, I don't know, stapler? And she's like, it's in there. I'm like, it's not. I looked really closely because I was so afraid you're gonna tell me it's in there. And she'll come right over and point right to it. It's like, I can't see what's in front of my face. I heard, like, all guys are the same way. So she's like, I need to invent boob stickers and put them on all the things that are important that you normally go look for. So when you open the fridge, when you open the cabinet, your eyes will be drawn right to the thing that you're normally looking for. And I think it's genius.

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Yeah, babe, you gotta tell them where to go. Go to getglosi.com. use coupon code happy, you get 25% off. All right, so we're having a. You know, we do our daily walk, and this morning's walk, 4.6 miles. Good job, babe. Somehow we got on the topic of it costs too much to be poor. And this is actually a famous saying. So it's not our saying, actually. The real saying is, it's too expensive to remain poor. And what they mean by that is, when you are in a poor state of mind, because that's what poor is. It's actually not a number. It's actually not a dollar amount in the bank account. Contrary to popular belief, when you're in a poor state of mind, then things unfold outside of your favor instead of things happening in your favor. A real simple example is this. If you're at a poor mindset and that has created a situation where you don't have enough money in the bank account for what need, then what happens is now you're forced to maybe have a residence in a neighborhood that's not so great. And because it's not so great, maybe you have to park outside. And because you have to park outside, and it's not a not so great residence. Now maybe somebody comes by and they sideswipe your car. And because they sideswipe your car and because you're in that situation, you can't afford to repair it. So now it just kind of stays that way. And because it stays that way, somebody else comes along and they door ding it. Because they're like, oh, it's kind of that way already. And these things compound. Another great example is like, let's say you got parking tickets. You might get 50 bucks in parking tickets. But if you can't pay them, or if you're in a poor mindset and you're like, oh, I don't want to put the money towards this right now, then that $50 parking ticket turns into 200, 300, 400, and then you Say, oh, look, this happened to me. All of this is a condition of having a poor mindset, not having a certain dollar amount in the bank account.

Okay? I want to give real examples, like my real life examples of this, because I actually brought this up on the walk because I saw a car parked that was in really rough condition. Like, it was missing a door panel, it was missing the gas cap. Like, it was all dinged up. And it reminded me of my car when I was in my. When I was like 20 years old. And I remember when I was looking for an apartment, I was moving into my second apartment and I wanted to save money on the apartment. And I was like, you know what? I. I want to have like a little extra spending money or I want to go cheaper. I want to go as cheap as I can on this apartment. And so I did. That's what I found. I found a decent location, but I went with the cheapest apartment to, quote, unquote, save money. Now this gets comical because in order to save money, I went with an apartment that did not have parking. It had street parking. And I convinced myself that I would find decent street parking. Number one, never ever did I get any street parking. Like I had to park so far away and most of the time illegally, because maybe it would be. I got home late at night. I got home around 9:30 from my job. So all the parking was taken because I lived in a college area. And what would happen is I would think that I could rush out on time and no, I got a ticket. And then, because I only parked on the street because there was no parking in this particular area, trying to save money. Then I would constantly get my car, like, dinged and dented, and then it got broken into twice. So then I had to pay for two windows. I had to pay for repairs on my car. And then my car ended up ultimately getting stolen. And I was, what felt like in debt for me, you guys, I had $800 in parking tickets that were mounting. So me trying to save money ultimately ended up costing me so much money. And I realized this fairly quickly and moved out of the area to a place with parking so that all of that stuff wouldn't continue to happen that.

You could have afforded all along. I could have afforded all along. So this is what we mean by poor is not a dollar amount. Poor is a mindset where you make the choice of, oh, I want to cut back here because I don't want to part with this money. And then it causes you to part with 5 times as much 10 times as much money than if you just made the right abundant choice in the beginning.

I also want to share. I was hanging out with people who also had a very poor mindset about life, about their job, about their perspective on everything. And that was actually, ultimately, I went and drove to their house to hang out and stayed the night over there. And it was a bunch of girlfriend's house, and that's actually where my car got stolen. So it's kind of like all of these decisions, they lived in an even worse area than I did. It's all of these decisions just kept mounting up that I was choosing these poor mindsets and it just kept costing me so much money. And actually the job that I was at, it ended up going out of business. I was at a wireless.

I worked at a cell phone place.

And it went out of business. And the only people that I hung around who had a better mindset were the people who ended up being able to connect me to somebody to get me another job right away. When I went to my other friends like, hey, is anything hiring? Do you know of anyone they knew of nobody. They knew of nothing that could help me. They didn't have money that they could help me with. It was like a desperate situation. And so the importance of up leveling your mindset and up leveling the people that you're around to not have a poor mindset as well.

Yep. And this, by the way, is at every economic class. So I want to be very clear. This is not two people that have a bunch of money that are sitting here saying, oh, poor is a mindset. It's not a situation. Poor is a mindset at every single economic class. I have friends and acquaintances that have, let's say, $100,000 extra in the bank, and yet they're afraid to make that investment or to hire that coach. I have friends that have over a million dollars extra in the bank and they're afraid to make that investment or to join this thing. I've got friends that have $10 million in, you know, liquid investable assets, and they're afraid that all their money is going to go away, so they hoard it instead of putting it where it needs to be so it never goes away just because it's a certain dollar amount in the bank. And that's the point we're trying to make. Poor is a mindset, not a target. There's never a number where you're like, ah, now I've got a wealthy mindset. Ah, now I've got an abundant mindset. You can have $0 in the bank. Hell, you can have $0 in the bank. You can be overdrawn and have $20,000 in credit card debt and have just lost your job. And. And you can still have an abundant mindset where you have the mindset of, I'm going to find that next opportunity and I'm going to find the money to invest in this next way to start my business. I'm going to find the next person who has my answer. That's the difference between a poor mindset of everything's happening to me or I can't get out of this or an abundant mindset of I'm going to find, I'm going to create. No matter what, this is going to happen for me.

You know, if you look at. If you guys read any books on, like, the spiritual laws of money, one of them is that money wants to circulate and it wants to grow, but it can't grow when you're really in fear over, like, I gotta keep it, I gotta hold it, I gotta grip it. It's never gonna come to me, I gotta save it, I gotta cut back. And I know that that feels really counterintuitive because when you don't have money, it doesn't feel like that's the thing that you should do is go and spend it.

Yes, babe. Like, I don't mean to jump in, but this is exactly what I'm saying. So a poor mindset is I'm not going to spend it because that seems like the wrong thing to do. An abundant mindset is I'm going to spend it in the wisest place I can. That's the difference. A poor mindset is I'm not going to part with this. An abundant mindset is I'm going to part with this in a very smart way that gives me the highest chances of getting a nice ROI on it.

You know, this reminds me of yesterday. We brought somebody into our planning session and so many people. And we've had this mindset in the past. Either we don't, you know, oh, we don't need someone. We can have a planning day on our own, but we do want to improve this course that we want to do or we want to improve this program, but we're not necessarily the people who are going to be able to improve it because we're in it, right? Like, there's so often we're just in our lives, we're in our business, and all we do when we go, like, plan for next year is do more of the same. So you're just more exhausted doing more of the same. Exact thing. When a certain smart investment is, go get somebody who maybe works in a lot of other people's businesses, who gets to see what's working and what's not, and invest. Invest in someone else's time. Invest in growing, Invest in yourself. Invest in a mastermind. If you're stuck, if you feel yourself wanting to pull back and you just don't even know how in the world you're going to grow or get more income or change something, that's a huge sign that you're probably gripping on your money and in fear. And that's just like the spiritual law of money. It's not going to grow if you're gripping it and afraid. You have to put that somewhere that's going to help you grow.

This is something fun you just brought up, you know, the person that we hired to come in and give us new insights on our programs and our products and the investment that we made to do that. Here's what's really cool, Lori and I. You may look and be like, oh, you're at the perfect financial situation, but we want to transcend to our next level as well. So a couple weekends ago, we had a friend in town and we got onto this topic and we were touring this awesome $20 million house. And we're like, wait a minute, let's all commit to doing everything extra to change our money mindset to an entirely new level by the end of the year. So we committed that every day we will take some kind of positive propaganda action, like we have to listen to a book on money or money mindset or something like that. Every week we will go put ourselves into an aspiring situation. So we've been choos like these epic, epic open houses to go through each week. We've been popping into them on a weekend. And then we decided that we're going to start getting back to meditating and getting back to visualization and not missing a day. And we've stuck to it ever since we committed to that a couple weeks ago. And already it gives us such an exciting, positive outlook on how easy it can be to. To go from where we are right now to that next level that we want to be at. So you could even say that we have a poor mindset if we're just staying the same. To have an abundant mindset would be to demand more out of yourself and do the actions, to back up, to normalize what that would feel like, to demand more out of yourself. And it doesn't mean more work, it doesn't mean more hustle, it doesn't mean more more action. For some of you it might. But in our case it's if we have the situation where we each have startups in front of us and we have a limited amount of time to also make money at the same time because we don't pay ourselves anything out of our startups for three years. Absolutely not a penny out of our startups.

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Yes, I am loving it. And we have an opportunity for you to put yourself in an up leveled situation as well.

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That we do and we'll talk to you next week.