Let Go of Silent Beliefs Holding You Back and Go All-In On Your Dream

We can do all the actionable things in the world. But if you are holding that little unconscious little secret to yourself, conflicting belief, you will be fighting a double uphill battle. It's working on letting that go and figuring out how you can become the person who's all in on the dream. And we're back with another episode of He Said, she Said.

And I love the subject that we're about to get into today, but, you know, I gotta ask you. Glossy tip. Got to keep it going.

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Yeah. So literally, just hit pause real quick if you're going to make over 500 grand in 2025, just hit pause and go to Chrisharder Me Mastermind and click apply. That's Chrisharder Me Mastermind. Go find the apply button and click Apply. And then I'll look through the applications. I'll set an appointment to jump on zoom with you and make sure it's a perfect fit. All right, here's why I love today's subject. You can't want two opposite things at once and think you're going to have a good outcome. And I have done this, like, my whole life. Like, people might outside looking in be like, oh, you guys are a success story. Oh, you guys do so well. Yes. But on different scales. We're nowhere near, nowhere near our dreams. And I'm only going to speak about me. I can't speak about you. I have held us back so many times by wanting opposite things. And I'm going to give you an example and I'll let you weigh in on this.

I'm all ears.

I simultaneously say things like, I don't want a big team. At the same very next breath, I'm like, I wish our brands were three times bigger. You know what I mean? Making three times more money. Those two things can't coexist. Yep. Yet I say them both like they're both truth. And so what does that do? It causes you to be stuck in the middle of the two. And being stuck in the middle is the worst place to be. Either be all the way one way or all the way the other way. That is the only happiness zone. Yeah. Stuck in the middle is the unhappiness zone. You're always wishing you had both things. And you have Neither. So what's one of your examples where you wish for opposite things and it gets you stuck in the middle?

Well, it's not only wishing for opposite things because some of you are going to be like, you may have a clear one. Some of you are like, I don't know. No, I don't have an opposite thing. I really want more money. I really want the big house. I really want that friend group. Right, but unconsciously, yes, you have a conflicting belief that you have to get to the root of. So I'll use a basic one. There's so many people who want to be in an up leveled friend group and you're like, God damn it, why.

Can'T I get in this friend group?

Like, why aren't they letting me in? Why am I not attracting those people? But unconsciously, you know that in order to stay in that friend group and in order to continue to grow and be the version of the person who can add value to that friend group, that maybe you have to stop doing some habits you don't want to be doing, maybe you secretly really like getting shit faced on the weekends. And that won't really apply in this particular group. That's just a random example. Maybe you feel like, oh my God, now I have to be really accountable to these goals. And you know what, honestly, I really love slacking off and partying on the weekends a little bit. Or I really love watching my Netflix and I can't seem to let that go to reach these goals that I'm telling people.

Boy, that makes sense. Like, oh, I really want to be a part of this group. Or why can't I have a group of friends like that? And at the same time you're like, oh, I know they're going to demand more out of me. I know they're going to demand a better me.

They're going to hold you.

And I kind of like, you know, having these party nights. I kind of like having these lazy days or whatever it might be. And listen, there's no right or wrong way to do life. This whole point is you can't want two things that oppose each other because you're just going to get stuck in the middle. And whether that's a subconscious want or a conscious want, because you're right, a lot of this is subconscious.

And I have another example. So for me personally, it's like, you know, I have a goal of what I want to hit with Glossy this year and I have a goal of what we want to hit with our personal brands. And I have an underlying conflicting belief that I've discovered of I already feel exhausted, I'm going to feel too exhausted if I'm going to set those goals. So I secretly have been sabotaging myself without even realizing it because I'm like, yes, I want that, but I've been really afraid to actually commit my soul to it. Like to commit my brain to it a hundred percent. Because I'm so afraid that I'm going to burn, burn out. Like for me, if I don't get some downtime and if I don't get some fun time, I don't get the ideas that can get me to those numbers. So for me, what I'm writing down, what I'm doing to get over this. So if you just found that you have a conflicting belief, what I want you to do first is to write down the things that you want to do. And then I want you to go into the nooks and crannies of your brain and figure out what is a belief that could potentially be holding you back around getting that thing. Like where is it challenging you?

Where did it come from?

Where did it even come from?

What are you afraid of?

I have an example and this can be good for Lori. Just nailed it you guys. You got to dig deep. Like take the time to dig deep. Say where did this story come from? Because all it is is a story.

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Can quadruple glossy and quadruple our personal brand and still not be too busy. So we know these are stories we're making up because there's ways around everything. So I'll give you an example. We were in Costa Rica and I'm not going to name the names, but we're with a couple that we're good friends with. And I'm like, hey man, how's it going? Haven't seen you in a while. And he's like, honestly, not good. And I'm like, oh God, you know what's going on? Why is it not going well? He's like, I just woke up one day and felt like all I do is Manage people. And they had a great big company, it was thriving. And I was expecting him to be like, oh, my God, this is awesome. It's great. This is winning, and that's winning. And it was the first time this very positive person I had ever seen him kind of like, disappointed or dejected or not in a great spot. And he went on to say, he's like, you know, I started out growing this thing by just doing what we love, and we did what we love so well that we started bringing on lots of people to support it. And then our dreams got really big, and then we needed a really big team. He goes, and now I wake up and I'll use hire and fire and manage human issues and be responsible for, like, these 50 people. And that moment stuck with me. I was like, oh, I don't ever want to wake up and say, oh, what happened to the fun days? Now all I do is manage and hire and fire. And so that's always weighed on me. And instead of saying, well, that's one person's version of it, there's different ways to get there. That's where my I don't want a big team yet. I have these big dreams conflict came from.

And I. I feel the same way because I actually do not want a big team in glossy. I want to run it small and tight. And so what I am doing is I'm looking for examples of companies who do have smaller teams and how they're doing that. And I'm not saying that we have to stay small. Like, maybe the number is bigger than I thought, but how are they managing these people? And look for the stories that are the good stories.

Because for as many negative stories as.

There are, there are plenty that are like, we love our team. Like, we're obsessed. We've got someone who's so good at managing team and they love doing it and they love company culture that we don't really even have to do that. And so that's something that I am clinging to. And also this year, it's like, I'm doing a lot of work around getting the help that I need to break through kind of these plateau areas. I'm getting help in social media. I'm getting help with media training, I'm.

Getting help with storytelling.

All of these things that I'm like, no, I don't need help. I should just be good at this. I can go learn on my own. No, I cannot. I need someone to help me. I need someone to kind of create the guidebook for me that I can follow. And I need. Oh, my God, do I need accountability? And that's changing my life because it's dates in the calendar where I meet with the people to get the work done. Because if it's just done on my own, I don't do it.

You know, you just said something. I want to make sure everybody caught it. If step one is identifying where the limiting belief came from, conscious, subconscious, then step two is what Lori said, and that is you need to go find new evidence to support the dream that you do have in the way you want to have it. Because there's always two examples of every single story out there. Always. So, sure, there's plenty of people saying, oh, my team's too big and I'm not having fun managing them. But then for every one of them, there's one or two people saying, actually, I dialed in perfect. I've got the perfect CEO or CEO or perfect chief of staff, and they run everything, and I just do the creative. And there's always a story for both versions. I call it stacking evidence. You have to go out and purposely look for and stack the evidence in your favor for the belief that you want to hold, because the evidence isn't going to fall in your lap. You want to know what falls in your lap. The loudest information falls in your lap. And the loudest information is typically the complainers, always. And so it's not going to fall in your lap. All these good examples, you have to actively say, okay, I'm going to go stack evidence to reinforce the beliefs that I do want to have. And I'm going to look for it. I'm going to look for the founders, I'm going to look for the stories, I'm going to look for the examples, I'm going to look for the relationships. I'm going to look for the whatever so that you can then have enough overwhelming evidence in your conscious and in your subconscious that says, oh, I know how to do this. Let's go, let's drop the sleeves. No more conflicting beliefs. I have one belief, and that is exactly what I want.

I think the biggest work that we can do for the new year is this. Like, of course, actionable things, but we can do all the actionable things in the world. But if you are holding that little unconscious little secret to yourself, conflicting belief, you will be fighting a double uphill battle. It's like we're already trying to get the thing that we want and stay in that energy. But if there is an energy that you are holding that you don't even realize that's actually such a big block. It's working on letting that go and figuring out how you can become the person who's all in on the dream.

I love it. All right, guys, well, listen, if you want other people, like minded people to do this with, remember what I said in the beginning? Sounding things like this out and finding evidence to look how you want it to look means putting yourself into rooms where people are already doing that. And that is our elite level entrepreneur Mastermind. So. So now that we're at the end of this thing, hit stop and go to Chrishard Me Mastermind. Fill out the application. We can't wait to jump on a zoom and see if it's a great fit. Chrishard Me Mastermind. All right, guys, thanks for listening. We always love and appreciate you.

We will see you next week.