Remember Who The F*ck You Are, This Is The Moment You Reignite Your Spark

Love isn't just soft. Love is actually the most powerful force that there is. It's what drives you to rebuild when life's storms have totally torn your house down. Love says I'm worth the effort, even when it feels impossible. I'm an entrepreneur, an author, a fitness world champion, a network marketer who's made over 18 million doll million. But it has not always been this way for me. I have not made multi millions of dollars per year from my programs or products or network marketing. But even though I have been doing that for the past 14 years, let me tell you what the prior 14 years looked like. I did not graduate high school. I was going from random job to job. I want you to think barista, checkout girl. I was the handyman, AKA daughter of a carpenter. That's what I did for years, you guys. I was the person who just thought I would never do anything with my life. I'm from a really small town. I grew up in a restrictive religion where college was not something that was ever pushed or even thought to be a great thing. It was all about dedicating my life to teaching people about the Bible. And for me, even though that's a great path for so many other people of just dedicating themselves 100% to doing that, I knew that I had a totally different path. So I spent a good 10 years of my life trying to figure out what. What that was, who I am in the world, and starting to change my beliefs that I can do the things that I want to do, despite not having the education, despite coming from a small town, not having the friends, not having the support, not having the money and not having the network. And that's really what I base everything I do off of now, is teaching you that you can go and create all of those things for yourself. So the idea for this podcast came a few weeks ago. It was during the holiday season, and I knew that obviously the new year was coming and it was coming really quickly. And I had started to remember that I wasn't doing the things that used to really light me up. And I decided to book a cycle class because years ago I went to Soul Cycle three times a week. And there's something about moving your body consistently and being able to just take a class or do a long run and let your brain kind of turn off, like, not even turn off. Think your own thoughts. And I booked this cycle class and it just happened to be so much like the cycle classes I had done for, for years when I was really like in my Business, creating a lot of things on a lot of stages, having my live events. And it's not that those things have changed. It's just that I felt different within those things. It was really points in my life where I felt like I was on fire. Do you know what I'm talking about? Like, those points where you're just like, man, that was a good. Like, that was a good run. That was a good chunk of my life. I just. I felt lit up all the time. I felt lit up by what I was doing. I got excited. Like, I got these visions, I got these feelings. I got this fire inside of me that makes me feel like I could run through a wall. And I'm pretty sure that I'm speaking to the majority when I say that. Over the past four years or so, since the pandemic, maybe a little bit before, we felt like we lost our sparkle, we felt like we lost our spark, we felt like we lost our fire. And I just went to this class and had one of those workouts, one of those rides, whether it's a run that you've had, whether it was a long car ride that you had, whether it was a long walk that you've had, where all of a sudden you got that flicker back. And it wasn't just a flicker, because I've had the flickers. I've had it where I'm like, oh, oh, my God, I'm back. I can feel it. It's. It. It's here. Is it going to stay? It was like the fire just lit. Like, it just took off and it was here to stay for a while, at least. And I got in the car after that class and after just, like, getting this flood of thoughts and ideas and emotions and crying on the bike in the dark. If you've been to a class like this, you know what I'm talking about. If you haven't, it just sounds crazy. But I got in the car, I turned on my stories and started talking, and I just had this massive rush of emotion and tears come over me, but the best kind of tears, where it was like, oh, my God. I feel like everyone's feeling this way. Like, you wonder if you're ever going to get that spark back. You're wondering if you're done. You're wondering if the fire has gone out. And that's where this podcast came from. I was like, girlfriend, you are so not done. And you're just getting started. So Rekindle this Bitch is about finding the reasons, the ways, and the thoughts on how you're going to reignite this shit and get back in the game. So let's break this down. First I want to talk about kindling. Right? Rekindle, rekindling means that you once were lit. Yes, babe, you were lit. So kindling is small dry wood typically, right, that you use to get a fire started. It's the foundation. It's a thing that grabs the spark and it ignites something bigger, right? It's not going to be the main thing that's burning. It's the thing that ignites something bigger. And in life, it's these tiny actions, it's these small wins, the daily disciplines that fuel the flame of your biggest wins, of your biggest progress. And the best part is, no matter how you feel right now, you've got got the resources, you've got the wood, you've got the matches, you've got the gasoline. But you're not lighting it, right? You're not putting it all together. Maybe you're not doing it all of the time. Maybe you're not even thinking that you have them and they're stored away in a closet thinking you got nothing to burn. And so I want to talk about self discipline because that's going to be the thing that lights the match. It's the promise to yourself to show up even when it's hard, even when it sucks, even when you're exhausted, even when you're on your period, even when you don't see the fire yet, even when someone was mean to you, even when your freaking post sucked, even when it bombed, even when your launch blew. It's literally building the foundation of showing up when you feel like shit. It's showing up to do something extraordinary, knowing that that is going to happen, even if you don't believe it's going to happen. And let's talk about self love because I think that this gets really, really twisted. People are like, self love a bath, like giving myself space. What does this look like? Yes, it's all of those things. And I just want to clarify that love isn't just soft. Love is actually the most powerful force that there is. It's what drives you to rebuild when life's storms have totally torn your house down. Love says I'm worth the effort. Even when it feels impossible, I'm worth the effort. Even when things look bleak, I'm worth the effort. Even when the world feels like it's crumbling. Self, love says I am worth it. Even when you believe that you're not. Maybe you're listening to the stories of somebody from your past. Maybe it was an ex, maybe it was a friend. Maybe it was someone who really got into your head and you just chose over time to believe it. And let's talk about confidence, because right now you might be thinking, well, I have no confidence in myself anymore. I lost my confidence. But confidence isn't something that you're born with. It is something that you earn. That's literally why I named my podcast Earn your Happy is because so many people think you're just supposed to wake up and be happy. You think you're supposed to wake up and be confident. You think you're supposed to wake up and feel like things are possible. It's absolutely something that we have to earn through the way that we think and the way that we show up. It's stepping into the unknown while you're freaking the fucking out and saying, I'm doing it anyway. And right now, some of you feel totally broken down. You feel like a broken down old shanny with no heat, no roof, no sign of safety. But you have the resources. They're all around you. You're just afraid to rebuild because you're afraid of the next storm. But I have to tell you, life is literally one storm after another. But after every storm, you're stronger and you found even more resources and you get to build bigger and better and more prepared for all of the storms that you know are coming. So that soon you have this beautiful mansion that a storm passes through and you don't even realize it because you've weathered it. You figured it out, You've rebuilt. You've learned from all of the prior storms that have tried to take you down. Storms don't destroy you. They give you the opportunity to build something stronger. And they strip away what didn't serve you and leave space to create something fucking unstoppable. And that's you guys. It hasn't defeated you. It's prepared you. So when you look back on everything in your life, I want you to really think about how none of it has defeated you. It's prepared you for the blessings that are coming. And, you guys, I want to be here to rebuild with you because I am so in another rebuilding phase. While things to the outside might look like everything is great, it's never great. We are constantly in rebuilding season. But it's about what you're rebuilding. It's about who you're becoming. It's about what the journey was. It's about what the process was. And so I have to tell you that throughout life, I have Lost my spark so many times, it's not even funny. And I don't even know if it's about losing the spark necessarily. I think that we're supposed to burn really bright and fizzle and burn bright and fizzle and burn brighter and fizzle and burn even brighter. And I just believe that it's a cyclical process that we learn from. But, my God, when you start to know the tools on how to really get that fire going when you want to get it going, or the fact that you know it's going to go again, and you don't lose faith, even in the seasons when you feel like you've been smothered by life. That's the key. That's the key. You've just forgotten who you are, you guys. So I just need you to channel your inner Lion King and remember who the you are. We want to be Mufasa. Remember? You are just. I'm going to need you to say that mantra to yourself in the mirror, and I hope it makes you laugh, and I hope it makes you feel powerful, because you are you guys. So just remember that it's super normal for you to lose your spark, but the only way to become this new version of yourself that you see, to become this new person, New Year, new you. Right? That's all we're seeing right now, New Year, new me. Except the only way to be new is to push through who you currently are, to push through what your prior limits were, what you think your limits were. Sitting longer in the discomfort, staying longer in the fear, doing something scarier than you thought you could do. Putting yourself in rooms where you don't believe, believe you belong yet. Because the only way for you to be new is to go to new places, meet new people, do new things, push through all of the things that you were. You literally have to feel pain in order to become a new version of you. You have to burn that old version away, right? Like, go into the gym if you're going to grow those muscles. I have to destroy my current muscles. I actually have to tear them down. I have to push through more pain than I've been willing to push through if I want a different result. If I want a six pack, I actually have to do way more than I've done in the past to that muscle if I want those muscles to grow. So New Year, new you. You have to stop doing the same fucking things. It's not just about your habits. It's who you are, who. Who you're around, what classes you're Going to, what rooms you're in, what podcasts you listen to, what Netflix shows you're listening to, what books you're reading. All of it has to be new. It has to be a different version. And you have to believe that you're worthy of the things. You have to believe that you're worthy and capable of doing the things. And you guys, if you've lost the. That spark, if you feel like your life is boring, it's most likely because you are boring. Whenever I feel bored in my life, it is because I am boring. Doesn't mean that you're not doing some cool things. It just means you're doing the same things all of the time. You're having the same conversations. You're not really learning anything new. You're stuck in mediocre land of staying the same. So you're also probably. If you feel bored like I feel in my life sometimes, or uninteresting or unworthy, it's probably because I'm falling into these mediocre ass habits like scrolling social media, numbing out, binging Netflix shows, consuming, consuming, consuming instead of creating. You guys, I'm a huge, like mindless online shopper. I love to just scroll different clothing sites forever, put stuff in my cart and never check out anybody feel me. And I'm like, the fuck am I doing? Like, you need to go and create something or go for a walk or go do something uncomfortable. Because right now you are doing a lot of self loathing and talking shit to yourself and you're saying you hate the way that you feel will stop doing the things that make you hate, hate yourself. Right? We're giving our power away. Literally giving your power away to social media, to these websites. Maybe you're giving your power away to an ex, to an old story, to some unfairness, to something your parents did, to a past trauma, to a health problem, to some BS narrative that says, this is just how it is. This is how the world is. It sucks. You have no control. Political this, political that, we're not in control. This is why your year is going to suck. This is why you can't have the thing. This is why you can't get the house. This is why you can't get the body. This is why you struggle with men. All men are bad. That is a narrative that's keeping you small. Look, I get it. Some of the things I mentioned, our past, the way we were raised, trauma, you guys, I get it. I get it. Those things are real. They hurt. I have been hurt. I've gone through traumatic experiences. I have lost people. But here's the deal. I don't want to talk to that part of you that has been stuck in the hurt. I see it. I hear you. I hope you talk to someone about it. I hope that you get the therapy that you need. I hope you get the coaching and the help. It deserves healing this year if you haven't healed it yet. But today, for today's purposes, I want to talk to the part of you that knows that there's something fucking huge ahead of you. I want to talk to the part of you that's already lit some fires. I want to talk to the part of you that's ready to burn through all of your excuses and make some seriously magical shit happen. Are you here? Is that part of you present? If you're here and if you're with me, I literally just want you to give me a hell yes right now. Like I want you to feel in your body, I want you to allow yourself to get emotional, like get teary, get excited, get overwhelmed with possibility. Let yourself hope, let yourself dream. Quit fucking benching yourself before the game even begins. Quit not allowing yourself to see yourself with the guy. Quit not allowing yourself to see yourself making $1,000,000. Quit not allowing yourself to see yourself on stage, winning, being a boss in that hot ass outfit with that Birkin bag in that Bentley. Like, stop not allowing yourself to see yourself and as a winner, as her, because you are her. Do you want to know how you know that you're already that girl? Is because when you get a spike of jealousy or desire in your body about anybody else's life, about anything else that you see, it is because it is already yours. It is written in your life's map that it is meant to be yours. Because desire is the thing that gets us started on the path. It's a good thing to desire, you guys. It is a great thing to have desires. It is not a good thing to believe you can't have them. That is when jealousy begins. Desire is beautiful. Believing you can't have the thing that you're desiring is when jealousy ensues and that's when Yang get nothing. So let's talk about some of the problems that we have to this block to the things that we want. So many of the problems that I have and have had is that I've just had no plan. I've had no plan, I've had no boundaries. I'm not a vibrational match. My beliefs, my energy, my attitude, they're all off Another one is that I'm giving way too many shits about everything else that doesn't even deserve one. I'm caring about people's opinions. I'm worrying about my family. I'm worrying about if I get the money or now that I have the money. Is this a bad thing if I have more money than my family? Is it a bad thing if you have more money than your friends? There's so many things to worry about. If I get those millions of followers, does that just mean that I'm more cancelable now? You're leaking energy everywhere you're scrolling. You're worrying. You're replaying your past. You're avoiding this person. You're not having the tough conversation. It's just like sandwich after sandwich of avoidance and bad habits that we're going after over and over again. Look, we're human. This is a normal human cycle. I'm not trying to be a total jerk off right now, calling everybody out. I'm just saying this is how we are. Like, this is the baseline of where most all of us are at. What we want to start doing is just using the tools. Because if we know this is who we are innately, to go back into a low vibe, to feel bad about things, look for things to feel bad about, look for things that are wrong in the world. You know, we don't like having boundaries because it makes people feel bad and then it makes us feel guilty because to not have plans because that feels like you're on the hook for too much. It feels like too much pressure. Now. There's expectations on you now you might lose money, whatever that looks like. You guys, it's okay to feel these ways, but what we want to do is we want to start giving you the tools and we want to start having the realization around. It doesn't have to be this way. It doesn't have to be this way because when you're leaking energy everywhere, your faith is taking a hit and you're running on fumes. And when you're running on fumes, you're relying on your own strength. And that is when you feel weak. And so we want you to get to a place where you are really feeling like you're strong because you have boundaries, you have time, you have space. You're saying no, you have support in your life. And we also want to get you a place where your faith is solid. You've got a solid faith in whatever you believe. For me, it's God. You have a super solid faith in God, and you Know that something bigger than you has your back. Okay, taking a moment for a rich girl tip for you. If you're somewhere between 500k and a million and trying to scale beyond that and feeling weirdly stuck right now, I'm going to tell you something that no one in your circle is going to ever tell you. You're not stuck. You're just surrounded by people who can't take you where you want to go. So need to be honest. You've outgrown your current circle, you've outgrown the rooms that you're in. And probably a whole lot of the advice that you have been getting is only going to have you regress or keep you stuck exactly where you are. So, rich girl rule number one, proximity is a power move, you guys. You can't scale from asking people who haven't built what you want. And number two, if you're the one mentoring everyone, you are in the wrong room. So trust me, Chris and I have learned this the very expensive way. I have to tell you, this is going to hurt. We once paid 75k each for a mastermind where we were the most successful people in the room. Cute for our ego, terrible for our business and our pocketbooks. That was one of the most expensive, expensive lessons we've ever had to learn. No one was stretching us. No one had the answers that we really needed to scale. No one was playing much bigger than us. And we will never do that again. You guys, everything changed when we finally got into the spaces where people talked investments, systems scale and hiring like CEOs, not just hustling more rooms where conversations literally collapse. Timelines, you guys. And that's why we created the Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind. It is two, three and a half day luxury in person retreats with incredible experiences and it's monthly challenge solving calls. It's direct access to Chris and myself. It's a curated high level network where money moves faster because everyone is thinking so much bigger. Thinking big and making millions of dollars is the baseline in this room. So if you're ready for that type of room that finally matches your ambition, if you're done being the biggest thinker and pouring into everyone in your space and not getting poured into, just go to Instagram and DM me the word apply. Or you can go to show notes and you can click on the link below that says Elite Entrepreneur Mastermind. I will send you all of the details and from there we can book a call if you have more questions. You guys, don't forget about rule number three. Is to not wait for your circle to elevate it. You get in the room, that literally upgrades your entire identity. And we also have the mentor collective mastermind if you have not hit over 500k yet. So go and check that out. And I am so excited to spend time with you in these incredible in person rooms next year. So if your spark has been totally snuffed out and your life isn't what you thought it would be right now, it's okay. It's actually a good thing you're on the most perfect timeline. Because every single horrible moment in my life in deepest of the lowest lows has brought me the biggest blessings ever. And I want to remind you that the fire is not out. It's always just buried. You're going to find it again, but it's always going to look different because maybe our attitude has to shift. Maybe you have to start really wanting the life that you already have and get really grateful so that you can get the life that you dream of. But one thing that is for certain is that you have to rekindle yourself. Nobody else is going to do it. And if you're still blaming your mom, if you're still blaming your friends, if you're still blaming your husband right now for the reason why you can't get started, if you're waiting for someone, if you're mad that your accountability partner, like just totally didn't show up for you, that's going to keep you stuck forever. Everything that we do and everything that we want to do, we can't wait on our partners, we can't wait on our friends. We can't wait till there's a better time in the world. We have to take ownership and we have to do it now. So if you're still with me, it means that you are ready and you're ready to stop believing that the life that you want is reserved for them and not for you. You're ready to stop playing small. You're ready to stop faking fine and feeding your same shitty beliefs and recycling the same thoughts from the small minds around you. You guys, this is all about taking ownership. Because what we have been doing isn't working and we want this to work for you. It's not about dismissing the struggles or the lessons or the growth that you've had because they've all served you. It's acknowledging them getting super freaking crazy grateful and going into the next step. So, you guys, what does rekindling, what does it mean for us when we're talking about rekindling this bitch. Rekindling isn't for the faint of heart. It's full ownership. It's choosing challenges that force you to evolve and change you. You're going to shoot your shot knowing that you're going to fail. You're going to go back to being a beginner and letting it be okay that you suck and not quitting until you get the result that you want. You're going to take the risks knowing that you're probably going to lose some money, some friends, maybe a family member is going to judge you or be super rude to you, or not invite you to Christmas. And you're going to learn to live with that judgment and criticism knowing that you just got massive blessings on the other side and that those people are no longer for you. And that is okay. You can love them from afar, you can make peace with them. You can bless, release and maybe block if you need to. But pain is inevitable, right? But suffering is not. Suffering is a choice. And suffering is what happens when you start to avoid the challenges. And when you avoid the challenges, that's when life is going to choose the lessons for you instead of you choosing the lessons with the blessings on the other side. And you guys, trust me, life is a savage teacher. It's gonna grab that two by four and hit you over the head with it over and over again until you get the lesson. So this is about starting to learn how to choose challenge. And here's an example. So a lot of us know that we need to be healthy. We wanna be healthy if we want these big lives and these big dreams, and if we wanna be a founder, if we wanna have the business, whatever it is that we need to take care of ourselves, we have to take care of our health. We have to be healthy. That's where energy comes from, is so much of what we're doing, thinking, eating, how we're moving. And so if we avoid working out, you have to sit in the pain of poor health. You have to sit in the pain of zero strength, doing the things you want to do. Maybe you recently got invited on a ski or snowboard trip and you're like, oh my God, I can't even keep up, like I can't even go on the hill. Or maybe you got invited on a hike and you're like, this is so embarrassing, like I can't even keep up with these people. I had to sit at the bottom of the mountain while they hiked. It's going to give you low self worth, right? The pain of low self confidence it's going to give you the pain of a body that you don't like, a body that you can't even trust and rely on. But when you choose to work out right, you choose the pain of working out every day. Do you think I like working out? Like maybe now, but in the beginning or for years? And honestly, I still don't love working out. There's so many days where I hate it. Except now I am programmed to know. I am programmed to know that that pain for one hour a day in the gym is going to keep me from 18 other hours that day or however long I'm awake of pain in my brain, of the low self confidence, of the guilt, of the not feeling good, of the soreness of not being able to do the things that I want, of not aging in a good healthy way, of not feeling connected to myself or my body, whatever it is. So I choose the initial pain where I get the choice. I get to choose. Life's not going to choose some breakdown of my body later. God help us, right, that that doesn't happen to us. But you're limiting that possibility. You're lessening those possibilities. So maybe you're starting to see it, maybe you're starting to feel some of the spark. But of course we all have fears. But I have to tell you that you're already canceled. If you're not doing what you came here to do, you're already broke. If you're living in the feeling of lack and you're already lonely. 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The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly, who errs, who come short again and again because there is no effort without error and shortcoming. But who does actually strive to do the deeds? Who knows great enthusiasms and great devotions, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly. This is the life that you want to choose to live. Let me just tell you guys, I don't want to live any other way. I've lived the other way where I have not done the things that I want to do. And I have believed that I'm not good enough. And I have believed that it's for everyone else except for me. And I Felt like I was already dead. I felt like I was dying inside. I felt like I wasn't even sure why I was here. Did I have any value to give? And showing your value and sharing your value and getting to live in your purpose, it's risky, guys. It's risky business. It's hard. It's scary. But it is not half as hard as choosing the pain of struggle, of choosing to stay in it. And there is a quote that I'm obsessed with. If you've heard me give any talks on stages, I always, always, always bring this quote up because it's like, oh, my God. It's just literally one of those things that you hear that you're like, that's it. That's the whole point of life. And it's the gospel according to Thomas. And it says, if you bring forth what is within you, what you bring forth will save you. If you do not bring forth what is within you, what you do not bring forth will destroy you. What is within you, guys, is your purpose. What is within you is that business. What is within you is that talent. What is within you is that desire. What is within you is that desire for better relationships, better friendships. If you don't bring forth those desires, those desires will consume you whole. And you're here for a reason. Every single one of you is here to not only do amazing, great big things, which is why I know you're listening to this podcast, but honestly, do you want to know what it really boils down to? Chris and I talk all the time. I'm like, I'm pretty sure God just wants you to enjoy this life. Like, just enjoy your life. Like, it doesn't even have to get that much more crazy or serious than that if you don't want it to. But the key is if you have a desire, if you want to take the dance class, if you want to make the pottery, if you want to plant the garden, if you want to make the goddamn sourdough bread, like, go and do it. Enjoy it. Because it's about using the gifts that we were given. And I know so many of you were given such huge gifts beyond what you even know yet. Because the coolest thing is that when you start tapping into these gifts, you're going to learn that you have even more. Like, the more that you learn and the more that you grow, the more you're like, I'm blowing my own mind because I'm so amazing. And that is waiting for you, but it's only for you. If you're willing to step in the arena and you're willing to get knocked on your ass, you're going to get a little beat up. It's not easy. But I remember when I was going through the pivot with light pink to glossy, and you guys, light pink had started as a non alcoholic rose company and a rose wine spritz, and it turned into glossy, which is now a daily beauty supplement. And when I was going through the pivot after raising $2 million from women that I'm obsessed with, who I know or love or who are mentors, and having the pressure of that $2 million and also having the pressure of sinking a million dollars into a company during the pandemic that I wasn't able to get it to launch. So having to pivot. And I remember going through that point of, like, all of that pain. Like, oh, my God, the fear of disappointing people, the fear of feeling like they were gonna be so mad at me and never want to work with me again, and destroying my career and my friendships. Like, really believing that when I was going through that, I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. And I would say that all the time to my husband. I was like, I wouldn't wish this on anyone. Like, this is the worst pain I can ever remember feeling. Like outside of losing a great love in your life or a family member, that was it for me. That was almost not tolerable. And I felt it for a solid year where it was just harder than I've ever imagined and just felt like a loser every single day because things were not going well and I couldn't get it to the finish. I lost all of my confidence. Everything felt like it was crumbling. Everything felt like it was failing. I felt like I was making wrong decisions every single moment of the day. Felt like I was a bad leader. It wasn't remotely the dream that I had painted in my head about it. I just felt so defeated going through something like that. And I know I'm preaching to the choir talking to you guys right now. Going through something like that completely changes you. It rearranges your whole cellular makeup. Going through that type of pain every day and having to learn new things every single day, and learning through the fire, through the mess ups, through all of the challenges, through the tough conversations, through making yourself do things, show up, say things, get brave, send emails, ask for what you need. Like banging down doors left and right, trying to make this happen like you're different on the other side of that. Like, the small things don't get to me. Anymore. I just feel completely like I really can do anything on the other side of one of the most painful things that I've gone through, and that is because I went through it. So now do you want to know what I say to my husband is I'm like, you know, I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy, what I went through, but I would wish it on my best friend. And it's not like I'm sitting here wishing this on the people that I love. But what I mean by that is that if I really love you, I know that your deepest struggles, your biggest risks, and going through your biggest fears are going to be the biggest blessing on the other side that you have ever experienced in your entire life. You're going to meet a version of you that you fall madly in love with. You will never want to trade your life, no matter who you are, no matter how you look, no matter what size your body is, with anybody else ever again because of the person and the version of you, the resilience and the tolerance and the way that you have learned to find joys even in the deepest, darkest moments of your life. You will not trade that girl for the world. But you have to get in the fire. You have to learn through the fire. You have to learn through the pain. You have to say yes and keep showing up. And you have to remember during it that you're changing. I actually just sent a voice note to my husband today because guess what season he's in? He's in the season that I was in while all of this was going on. And I sent him a voice note, and I said, you know, I know that every day feels hard for you right now. I know that every single day feels like a challenge. And I remember what it feels like to feel like you don't know or, you know, you're not good at what you're doing because everything is just so new, and you're learning new things. And I said, but you can't become new in your old environment, and you can't become new doing the same tasks that you were pretty good at. You can't become new doing the same things that you did every day, and you can't become new feeling the same feelings that you felt. And I said, I want you to remember that you are upping your capacity beyond anything you can imagine. Your brain and body just haven't caught up yet. So imagine taking on what you can take on now, and it won't even be a thing for you. Imagine what your life will be when you're able to start just like going through the day but still being able to take on all of the things that you're doing right now and being able to find the joy within it. And I will say he's doing one of the best jobs I've ever seen of still finding the joy throughout the pain experience. And that's something that I really, really, really. This is my prayer as I'm saying this for you, like, this is my biggest, deepest intention for you, is that if you're in a season where your fire is out, if you're in a season where you are just like, I feel so beat up left and right. Things are hitting me, like, this is so overwhelming. When is it going to end? I pray that you can still find the joy. Do some gratitude practices, say some prayers and realize that I believe that the people who have the biggest challenges have the biggest life call put on them, that you have the biggest destiny. And you're only going through this to make you stronger because there is no other way way for you to get strong without it. There's no other way for you to get strong without it. Guys, this is why sometimes we see when people get, you know, when they win the lottery and it's out of the blue and maybe they've never had money before, maybe they hadn't gone through big challenges yet, they can't keep it or it destroys their life. Like they do shows on this all the time. Because you can't get the blessing if you don't know how to hold it right. It's like you're still this tiny little water glass and we're trying to pour all this water from this massive pitcher inside you and you can't even hold it. You're like drowning. You're like, this isn't even great. It's falling everywhere. Like, it's creating a mess. It's sloppy because I don't have the capacity to hold this. And so if you're in that place right now, stay in it, sit in the fire and know that it's burning away the old version of you. It's literally the only way to do it. There's another quote that I love that I wrote in my book, and it's about putting things on the line because this is going to be a risky time of your life. I've never been able to do something really big without feeling some big pressure, some big risk, and that is to put so much on the line that your higher self is forced to come out. For me, that's always been pretty monetary. It's been monetary, but it's also been my word. Because I don't know about you, I'm that person who like disappointing people is my absolute worst nightmare. Especially people that I love or feeling like I'm ruining a reputation or like I'm not following through on my word or I'm not a trustworthy person, like, that feels like death to me. So when I put something on the line, it calls me up. And that's what we want to do. And so many people are setting goals this year. They're like, this is the year I'm doing this or starting that business or finally scaling. Except you're not putting anything on the line. So, of course, when you get tired, of course when you've had a day, of course when shit's going down in the world, you're not going to show up for the thing because there's nothing keeping you there. There's nothing that you put on the line because there is a part of you that wants to let yourself off the hook. And if you're ready to not let yourself off the hook, if you're ready to close the window that you've left cracked open because you know that you want an escape route, if you're ready to burn the boats, right, because it's the only way you're going to take the island or you're going to flee. If you're ready to burn the boats, you need to put something on the line. You need to sign up to the mastermind, whoever's mastermind. You need to do the program and put the money down. You need to put the money down on the venue to do the event. You need to put the money down on the podcast and tell everyone that you're doing it and pay somebody, a coach, to hold you accountable or pay a team who's going to help you launch that podcast. You need to pay that new executive assistant to make sure that you have somebody that you're accountable every single week who knows the goal that you want to hit. If you're not taking this serious and you don't have something that's going to make you do it, you're never going to do it. Because pressure is what you create when you're serious. And pressure is a privilege. And pressure is needed. And there are pressure principles that you have to apply to to every goal or you're never going to get it. Too many people finish their workday feeling frustrated, drained and unfulfilled. I know that. I have experienced that myself. And the good news is, it doesn't have to be this way, and you don't need a new job to fix it. 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And if you don't have that belief quite yet, every single day, I want you to borrow belief from someone else. Because every single day, I'm seeing people of every size, age, and background win. That's the beautiful thing about social media now, right? Like, I'm seeing women in their 60s become famous influencers, women in their 70s, 80s becoming famous influencers. I'm seeing women in their 40s launch their first company. I'm seeing women and mothers in their 30s become mothers for the first time and become millionaires for the first time. I'm seeing women in their 20s who are told they're, you know, too young or inexperienced, start huge, amazing businesses, and they let go of the noise because they find the reasons why they can find a woman who's doing it with your background, with your same excuses, with your same traumas, and you dig into that story and you find out how she did it, and you borrow that story and you borrow that belief and you make it your own. You guys, you can do this. There is nobody out there that I believe can't completely change their life in one year's time. But it's gonna take faith and something that I love. I was listening to David Guillam and just recently had him on my podcast, and he said, faith beyond logic. And we talked about this. I said on the podcast, I said, oh, my God, that resonates more than I can possibly tell you. Faith beyond logic. I want to get that as a Tattoo. Like, I literally. Maybe by the time this comes out, I'll have this as a tattoo. I don't even know that's how much it hit me. Because what faith beyond logic means to me is that you believe in God so faithfully or in whatever you believe in. I believe in God so faithfully that I'm willing to take that big dream that I have that big risk. And even though I don't yet have the resources or skill set that I believe can make this thing happen, that my faith is going to bridge the gap between all of the things I don't believe are possible and what is possible. It's going to bring me all the things, it's going to bring me all the people. It's going to bring me all the ways to learn, all the people who know how to do the things, and it is going to make it happen. Faith beyond logic is going to be the bridge between all of the things you can't see right now, and it's going to make it happen. It's believing in something extraordinary, something so far beyond your own strength that it could only be God. It could only be God that is bridging that gap to make it happen. And, you guys, faith says, I don't have all the answers, but I'm showing up anyway. It says, I don't know how, but I know it's happening. It says, I don't need anyone's permission because I am backed by something so much bigger than me. And this kind of faith, you guys, doesn't just light a spark. It matches a whole goddamn wild fire, and it's stepping into your dreams while you're having the panic attack. Yes, you guys, not just shaky hands. This is full on panic attack stuff that I'm talking about. I'm talking about the leap that you know that you are about to take that's going to cause a very similar feeling to a heart attack, to dying, to feeling like, oh, my God, what on earth did I just do? Right? But you know it. You know in your heart that it's already yours. It's just that you need to strengthen that faith. You need to put something on the line. You need to put pressure behind those goals. And you need to start operating with faith beyond logic and stop waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect resources, someone else's validation, someone else's permission. You have to just get up and move and trust that the universe is always going to meet you halfway. God's always going to meet you halfway. You just have to go to the Half. And the problem is you haven't even been going there. You have to to meet half way. And here's the truth. Your dreams with that type of faith are inevitable. If you keep showing up and you refuse to stop believing even when it feels impossible, a version of your dreams, or more likely even better than you planned, are going to happen. And the goal isn't just to believe in yourself. It's to believe in the life that you're meant to live and trust that you wouldn't be given a vision that isn't yours and you can't fulfill. If you feel like I was speaking directly to you in this podcast, it does not have to end here. This can be your life. It's going to have to be that you are going to make the choices to be around the people that light you up, to do the things that light you up, to make sure that you have the habits and the self discipline to continue on down the path with the things that light you up. So I don't want it to end here and I want to offer you some resources. We are starting a totally free challenge on January 6th, you guys. Natalie Ellis, who is my co founder in Glocee, we are doing a five day free challenge. It's essentially like Operation Rekindle this but for your body and for your mindset as well. So Natalie is doing five days of manifesting meditations along with manifesting journal prompts. And I'm going to be doing your workout. So if you want to work out with me, if you want to be doing those manifesting meditations, we also give you a meal guide with that that you can follow if you want. And of course we're going to have Glossy involved in the challenge. So you'll be doing your two sticks a day, which is what I do every single day. You can go to getglosi.com to grab that. But if you want to join that totally free challenge, you just have to go to the Show Notes and click on the link below and join us. I'm so excited to have you along with that journey and also if you're ready to launch, scale or grow your business, if you're somebody who is making 500k or more this year, then Chris and I would love to have you in our elite entrepreneurship mastermind. And you're going to spend one year with myself, with Chris and with 40 other people who are ready to just take their business and their life to the next level. This mastermind has been around for about seven years and it has been so incredible. The success, the transformations, the amount of people who have grown their business to seven figures and way beyond. We have some eight figure people in this Mastermind is so incredible and that does not happen alone. That happens because you're putting your time, your effort, your money, your attention into this business. So if you guys are ready for that, we would also love to have you in the Mastermind. You can click on that link below. And I will be doing this podcast as a limited series so I will be adding another episode episode to it very soon and I'm excited to have a spot where I get to practice being an even bigger, more authentic version of myself. So I hope that this was a place for you that you felt seen, that you felt called out, that you felt called up because I really love you guys so much and see you for what you are meant to be out in the world.