The Fastest Way to Build a High-Paying Network

I'm having this incredible dinner next Wednesday with the most mind blowing women. That was hard for me to be like, okay, this is like going to be uncomfortable and awkward at first and I have to break through that. And, you know, hopefully people like it and they like me and all the things that can come up around that. Hopefully they have fun. What if they don't have fun? Oh, my God. What if these personalities don't mesh together? Like, it's not the easiest thing to do, but I'm willing to continue to put myself out there. I'm willing to get rejected because I'm willing to force the connection because I want more relationships. Don't wait to be invited. You have to create the table. Hey everyone, welcome back to the podcast. It's time for another quickie because there's always time to fit in. Inspiration. And just so you guys all know, the discount code for glossy in order to get 25% off is going to not fully go away, but it's not going to be 25% for much longer. 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So go and check it out and use code Happy. All right, so today I have been talking and thinking about how much everything that is happening and has happened in my life has come through, through my network. I've been thinking about this a lot because I'm in another angel round fundraise for Glosi so that we can pour rocket fuel into what is working right now. And we're so incredibly excited. We're excited about this new team that we are working with who is just accelerating momentum. And I've been thinking about this from a fundraising standpoint because if I did not spend the time that I have spent working on my network, I would not be able to be in a position right now where I could go and get the cash infusion needed in order to grow at a really fast pace like what we want to be doing right now. And so I'm like sitting in the deepest gratitude for the amazing start to this fundraise and the new people that have come in because we're just so excited about where we're going and the ability to move faster now with more cash. So you guys, with that said, I really want to talk about your network because nobody is coming to save your network. Nobody is going to build this thing for you. So you have to be the person to initiate no matter how unfair that feels, no matter what you think. Other stories for other people have been for getting into networks. It's never what you think. I really believe a network is hard earned and you just need to to know exactly where you want to be investing that time and you need to know what it really looks like and have a real expectation of how long it takes to build a network. Now I don't want to put it into your head that things take a very long time because some things can happen very quickly. A connection can happen extremely fast. I've had some connections in my life where you just meet that equal energy match and you meet that equal person who puts in the same effort as you and you can just fly, you can become incredible friends, you can become incredible business partners. Like, I don't want to put a cap on that, but that doesn't happen all the time. So what does happen though is the work that you can put in to build amazing relationships and networks that take minimum a year. But always you're going to see the fruits of your labor over three years. So I say year two and three is going to be some of your biggest life changing results of a network that you've ever seen. Typically this is year three. So I want to share three points that are going to help you build your own network and not wait for other people to approach you. Because if you are, you're going to be waiting your whole life and you're never going to get anything and you're not going to have the friends that you want and you're going to be in the blame game of putting this on someone else when it's always on us, it's taking wild, massive responsibility for not being where you want to be yet. So we have to get so real and so accountable over the fact that if we. We don't have the friendships and relationships and network that we want yet, we can't blame where we live. Because I did this when I lived in Wisconsin. I did this when I lived in Minnesota. I worked extremely hard to build networks and no, they were not near me. And I have to say, even just all the moves that I've done lately, my networks have not been near me. And I'm making massive effort right now to build one where I am. And it's starting to work. But it has taken me time. And I can tell you that within the last few months, it's where most of my effort has been. So I'm starting to see more of a payoff because I'm actually putting it first now, where I was putting it more like 5 through 10 on the list of what was most important to me at the time. So now that I'm really growing Glosi as well, just like pouring rocket fuel onto it. I'm also really focusing hard on who are the women I'm around, who's going to, you know, show me the way, who are people who are way ahead of me. And so that's really where I'm focusing right now. So, number one, you have to go first, even if it feels unfair. So the strongest relationships are often built when someone decides to give first. That means it could be picking up the tab, it could be making an intro, it could be hosting the dinner yourself and paying for it, or just hosting a dinner. It could be flying somewhere to show up like you guys. I just had somebody who literally came on the podcast and was like, yeah, I'm in California all the time. Let me know when it works. She had no intention of being in California. She absolutely was like, when you say yes, I'm just booking that ticket. I'm going to make sure that I'm there. I'm going to make sure that I do anything I can to go out of my way to be able to do this. Don't wait to be invited. You have to create the table. So many people talk about the way to do this. I know Brendan Burchard talks about this all the time, is leading with generosity. Like, you have to lead with generosity and value. So Chris has stories about when we lived in la, he wanted guy friends and he wanted, you know, people who were higher net worth. He wanted People who were going to be an equal energy exchange, if. If not more like, he really wanted to create this incredible network of men who would be just really helping each other with deal flow and just really being able to bounce ideas off of each other. And in order to do that, he decided to front the bill of a couple of these dinners and be like, look, I'm going to host these dinners. I'm going to pay for them. All you have to do is show up. I'm going to facilitate some great conversations so that everyone can share exactly where they're at and what they need so that it's valuable for everyone. And you're going to invite other people who you think could add value to these people. And of course, he got turned down by plenty of people, but he also got a lot of yeses. And so this was huge for him. This really helped him grow his network and got some great friends and also put him in some circles with people that he wouldn't normally be in if he was like, hey, I want to get a dinner together. You know, like, didn't have something planned, didn't have something that was hosted, but instead he led. All you have to do is show up. I'm gonna pay for this beautiful dinner at this beautiful restaurant, and this is what we're gonna do. So I'm not saying if you don't have the money to do this, but I am saying if it's a stretch, I have done it. When it's a stretch, I have done things like this. Host something at your house. Host something at a coffee shop and buy coffee for everyone. Host a walk, my friend, does girlfriend's walks where you can just say, hey, this is where we're all meeting. And then, you know, we're all gonna walk together. And then we can meet at a juice shop or a coffee shop at the end. Maybe buy everyone a coffee or don't buy them a coffee. But it always better if you can kind of lead with something in the beginning that makes it easy for people and makes them say, wow, that was really cool that they did this for us, that she bought all of us coffees at the end. And whether there's three people, five people, or 20 people, like, I want you to start thinking of, how can you add value and be the person who steps up? Lead with generosity, people remember that. So, number two, push through the awkward. You're going to just have to, you know, when we're young and we connect with people, when we think about the relationships that we have in our life, it's typically because we're forced into things that we are doing in our daily life. So let's say when you think about college, maybe you shared a dorm room or you were on the same floor so you saw each other all of the time. Or maybe in high school you were in team sports, so you were forced together through some common ground or an activity. So, you know, as an adult, we're not forced into anything anymore. And that's why we tend to lose a lot of our friends, is because we don't have a weekly or bi weekly or even monthly touch point to get to know, know that person and get through the awkward. So what happens is if you're on a team with someone, or you're playing sports with someone, or there's a book club with someone, what's going to happen is the first time you guys meet, maybe your energy doesn't totally vibe. In fact, some of my best friends, I didn't fully vibe with them right away. I was like, nah, I don't know, maybe they're for me, maybe they're not. And then by the second, third, fourth or maybe sometimes it takes a lot, right? Like maybe by that fifth or sixth time you've hung out or have been forced together in, in sports or in that particular book club or whatever it is that you've joined that you have to be on, you're like, whoa, we just struck common ground. Wow. I just like really understood how their skill set compliment mine. And you're not going to know that unless you're in it for the long game. So networking is not about showing up once, it's about following up. It's about checking in. It's about investing emotionally before you ever need anything. So your network, truly, especially when I think of this in terms of growing your business too, your network is your net worth. It's always like, you're building this network not with the intention of like, oh, you guys are going to give me all this money later. You're going to connect me to people with money. But I will tell you that this is how it happens. If you ask any business person who's successful, you can find that they've created such amazing relationships and they have been such a generous giver that people want to help you. And so this is what's happened to Chris and I. We lead with value first, with zero attachment or intention around. They have to give us something in return. We're like, these are people we would love to be around. These are really, really valuable people to us who Maybe we've gotten to learn from or we see out in the world who are doing amazing, incredible things or we see that they have the same core values as us and we're like, I love what they're doing. I want to support them, no strings attached. And this is how you build a beautiful network. 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And while there is a big part of me that's like, yes, that would be awesome, there's a bigger part of me that's like, I love my home, I love my dogs, I love my couch, I love my husband. I can like, sit and find things to do and be the happiest little clam ever. So I have to force myself, like, out. I'm having this incredible dinner next Wednesday with the most mind blowing women. That was hard for me to be like, like, okay, this is like gonna be uncomfortable and awkward at first and I have to break through that. And, you know, hopefully people like it and they like me and all the things that can come up around that. Hopefully they have fun. What if they don't have fun? Oh, my God, what if these personalities don't mesh together? Like, it's not the easiest thing to do, but I'm willing to continue to put myself out there. I'm willing to get rejected. I was willing to get the women who turned me down or who haven't even remotely answered the DMs that I sent or the texts that I sent. That's okay because I'm willing to force the connection because want more relationships in my area like this. I want people who saw the value in me reaching out and me following up and saying, yes, I see you. I want these relationships too. I want to show up. You know, I want to give my energy equally to these women because this is what I want to. So I trust that if people say no, they weren't meant for this anyway and they probably would not have been a generous giver like the intention that we are all showing up in. So you have to put yourself out there and you have to force that connection. So, you know, there's a bunch of research that talks about most deals, referrals and game changing opportunities don't come from weak ties. They literally come from the relationships that you nurture. You have to push for proximity and you have to make yourself unforgettable by adding value or asking how you can add value. Become undeniable by your undeniable generosity. And that's what I'm doing, that's what I have done, that's what I will continue to do. And so I hope that this inspired you to go and do something. Do something quarterly minimum. Do something quarterly, do that. Walk quarterly, do that. Coffee meetup quarterly, do that. Dinner at your house, quarterly. Like if you want to be put on the map for being the person who gets a network together and being someone who's generous, you got to put yourself out there. It's going to be like another part time job, but it will be something that will take away so much effort later in your life and it will also take away your loneliness. Community helps with anxiety. Community helps with depression. Community helps with longevity. Community is literally everything in this life. So you gotta build it. No one's coming to save you and no one is gonna build this network for you. So I'm sending you guys so much love. I would love to hear from you in the DMs what you're going to do. I want you to take action. This podcast is all about taking action. So let me know in the DMS what action you're gonna take and I cannot wait to hear. I'm so grateful for you. Send this to a friend who you know has been struggling so that she can actually set her expectation on what she should be doing if she wants to. Those dream life or that dream life and relationships. So I'm sending you guys so much love and until next time, earn your happy. Bye everyone.