This Might Be The Best F**king Thing You’ve Ever Done!
28 Aug 2025 · 12 min
Lori Harder talks about audacity, fear, and bold action with Chris and Danielle. She shares personal stories about living authentically and promotes her Audacity challenge, pushing listeners to move past judgment and take courageous steps.
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You're not going to change your life unless you drastically change your relationship. With feedback, with data, with failing, with being audacious, with being bold, with being courageous. You have to make these moves and if no one is telling you this, they don't care. They like that you're staying small. They like that you're staying silent. It lets them stay small as well. Everyone, welcome back to the show. It's time for another quickie because there's always time to fit in inspiration. And I literally just got done with my Audacity challenge call. It's a free call, 45 minutes long. Turned it into 90 minutes only. If you want to stay on the first 45 is really all you need. But it was electric. Like I think it was from the common intention of every single person ready to let go of what script is holding them back. And let me tell you, we cried, we laughed, we connected, we made audacious goals, we set them in stone and we're doing them this week. But some of the highlights that I want to share with you are really about the fact that audacity cannot exist without grace for yourself and audacity can't exist with judgment. So if you think of all of the different times in your life that you have judged another person or judged another woman, that is the exact cage that you are putting yourself in. So whatever thoughts you are thinking about someone is the exact place that you were holding yourself back. So if you are getting offended, it is for you. And that's what someone on the call said. They said. One of my biggest takeaways from this call is that if I'm offended, if I'm triggered, it's absolutely happening for me so I can free myself. Because if I free them and let it be okay and say that's okay, you do you boo boo, then you are freeing yourself with every single time you let someone else off the hook for a judgment that you were placing on them. So again, you guys know that I'm on one with this Audacity challenge and honestly I don't think there was anything better for me right now than being on that call with hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of you. And I will tell you that thousands of you have signed up for this challenge, which means we are hitting a vein with the fact that we are so done worrying about what people think and having fear of judgment and having fear of being canceled when we should already have the realization that we have canceled ourselves already and we are in worst case scenario. And if you are not living authentically, if you are not living out your dreams, you have already canceled your life. You have completely canceled yourself. And the people who are out there doing the big things are not better than you. They're not more worthy than you. They don't have a better story than you. They're not better. They are just bolder. And you guys, there's a fear epidemic happening. And the people who can get through the fear and realize that every comment that is negative is for you, the faster we can get over the negative comment, the faster we can get over the fear, the faster we can collect no's, the faster we can get rejected, the faster you're going to be, be successful and experience yourself. And I said on the call, I asked how many people you know, believe in God or a higher power? I'm pretty sure it was unanimous. And every single person that I could see on my screen of the hundreds and hundreds of people, you guys that I was scrolling through quickly raise their hands and I asked, why aren't we living like God? Or your higher power has your back, Then why are we giving every single ounce of power to a troll on the Internet? Why are you acting like that troll or that hater or that family member or that person is bigger than God? Why are we living that way? Why do we believe that we can be taken down by a human? Why don't we have the faith in something higher than us? Why don't we realize that these, you know, gut feelings or these callings or, you know, these visions that we have about our life or these ideas that we have on our life, why don't we truly believe that this was meant for us? Or that they're even future memories, right? Like, that they are actually memories from the future happening now. Like, why wouldn't we believe that we came here to be something? And if you say things like, oh, God has a purpose for your life and you have a call in your life, act like it. Act like it. Because at the end of your life, you're going to have to either be okay with having massive regrets and telling people, you know, I. I let a few Internet trolls win. Oh, I let my sister who didn't believe in me win. Oh, I let this person from high school, an ex high school boyfriend who cheated on me. I decided to believe that I wasn't worthy because he cheated on me. And, you know, I realize now that it was his problem. But I kind of just, you know, didn't deal with it and let them win. And I canceled out my own life because of it. Who are you giving your power to? Who are you giving your power to? Who are you letting decide that that bold, courageous move actually rude or selfish? Who is translating what you do? Who is translating? The only person in that scenario who can have a different outcome on your life is you. Stop giving your power away. Stop blaming, stop complaining, stop justifying. Start taking audacious, bold, courageous action and decide that you did it with love and intentionality. And it's okay if you get rejected. It's okay if people say no. In fact, if you're not doing something audacious every single day, and that can be as small as sending an email to someone for an ask. As small as saying, hey, try my product. I think it's the best. I would love to send some to you. If you're not doing that, you're not doing for your life and you're not moving the needle. So stop fooling yourself into thinking that one action a month is going to change something and being butt hurt and upset that your life isn't changing because of your one tiny little action and then getting upset over it and getting hurt by some AI bot that's not even a real person who's saying something mean to you. You're not going to change your life unless you drastically change your relationship. With feedback, with data, with failing, with being audacious, with being bold, with being courageous. You have to make these moves. And if no one is telling you this, they don't care. They like that you're staying small. They like that you're staying silent. It lets them stay small as well. You need a new friend group if you don't have people saying, hey, I see you're really not doing the things that you said that you wanted to do. I see that you're anxious. I see that you're depressed. And it's probably because you're not living into the woman that you came here to be.
I just got back from speaking at.
A friend's event in Canada, and while we were there, it was the perfect time to Catch up with friends and also meet a bunch of new friends.
That we haven't gotten to spend any time with yet.
So we got to have some amazing experiences. Like you guys listen to this. We got to drive supercars all through the country and Chris got to drive.
His ultimate dream car.
And if you don't know, I'm a huge wake surfer. So we got to do that, which is one of my favorite activities and also my other favorite activity which is catching up over dinners at our friends homes. And the conversations were so incredible. When you meet like minded people, I think that was my favorite part. But when Chris and I are traveling like this for work and making memories, we love the idea of someone else getting to enjoy our properties, to catch up with friends and make their own special memories like the ones that we had while we make a little extra cash. And now Airbnb has a co host network that can help with hosting details for you. With the co host network, you can hire quality local co host to support you with everything from creating your listing to managing reservations, messaging guests and more. Find a co host@airbnb.com host you guys.
You need some new friends who hold you accountable. This is what I have in my life. And if you're intimidated by those friend groups, good. You should be. Because it takes a lot to be incredibly great friends with people who hold you to a high standard. It's scary. It's next level. It doesn't happen overnight. But if you want to come and find some friends who believe the same exact things, you should absolutely join this challenge, which the link is below. We have three calls left. I can't say that I have had that much fun in a very, very long time with a bunch of women who are ready to be unapologetic and do some scary together. And everything together is so much better. So I hope that you guys go and join this group. It's below. You can click on the link or you can go to lorihutter.com forward/audacity. And I have the audacity to tell you that it might be the best thing you've ever done and it could be the catalyst to change your life so that you stop playing small and being scared of fucking everything because you have canceled your own Life. I'm on one because I was just on it for 90 minutes. So if this is fiery, you get a great version, a great Sagittarius fiery version of me, and now you get a little glimpse into another part of my personality. So I'm so grateful for you. I hope that this fired you up to move you into some action, because I want you in this group. I want you on these calls. I want you to start living your life. I want you to stop benching yourself before you even start. I don't want you on your deathbed to say, God, I wish I just would have actually trusted my calling. I wish I would have acted like I believe in a higher power. I wish I would have shown my kids what I'm capable of. I wish I would have broken that fucking family pattern that kept me in prison. Like, you have those opportunities right now every single day. And we're treating every day like it doesn't matter, and every day matters. We don't know how long we're here. This might be the only go round in this physical body. Don't waste it. Don't get to the end of your life and have to say, I let the little Internet trolls who might have just been fake AI bots win. Right? I let that person from high school, when I let that story from sixth grade when she called me fat and say I didn't deserve to live, which actually happened, I did not let her win. Thank you so much, Danielle. I'm not saying your last name, but I will say you guys have the opportunity right now to start taking bold action every day. And it can start with this challenge. So I'm grateful for you, and I'm sending you all of the love. And until next time, earn your happy. Bye, everyone.
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