Tricks For Overcoming Public Speaking And Scary Goals!

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This year is the biggest event that she has done yet. I'm super just like, oh my God, proud, proud, freaking happy, excited friend moment. Because when, when you watch your friends thrive and when you watch all of their dreams come true, it is like your own dreams are coming true. I can't even explain it. I don't have kids yet, but I feel like this must be what it feels like to just watch just someone that you adore, just living out their soul's purpose. So I'm spending the night tonight sitting right here in my spray tan. I might pour a glass of wine and I'm going to go over all of my notes and totally picture being on that stage and talking to everyone. And honestly, one of the main things I'm really going to focus on is how I want people to feel. If I've learned anything about giving talks, it's that you can go over your notes all you want, you can go over your slides all you want, but at the end of the day, you're probably going to get up there and everyone's energy is going to tell you something different. You're going to end up saying something different than you thought. You're going to end up wanting to talk about different things. And really the thing that I focus on is visualizing myself on stage and how I want people to feel and what is it that I want them to walk away with. And when I focus on that, I just notice that I get out of my head. I stop worrying about saying the right thing. I stop worrying about what are people thinking? And I really just focus on really believing and praying that somebody gets the message that they needed through me and that God speaks through me that day. And let me tell you, when you just take all the pressure off, like, look, if you change one person's life, then that is freaking amazing. And it just takes all the pressure off of, oh my God, what if someone doesn't like me? What if I say something wrong? Yes, those things could totally happen. You're a human. And anyone who gets up there should literally give themselves this grace because it's going to happen. And it's hard, right? Like getting up there to do, to stand in front of people and share your truth and share your heart. That's not easy. So whenever I see people speak, I am like, oh my gosh. Just the fact that they are up there and pouring their hearts out makes me so happy and excited for them and just so grateful that they're doing it and willing to share their knowledge. So I can't even wait. I can't wait to report back next week. 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So I do all these little stage tricks that I'll share with you guys if you have anything coming up, if you think that you want to speak but maybe you're like, I don't know if I can speak. I'm too nervous. I used to think that as well. I've been to a lot of different speaking coaching events and I've had speaking coaching and I've just essentially practiced. I've just essentially made myself go and do it and get the experience. So a couple things that I've learned is that when you first go out there, number one, first, before you do anything, you're going to want to feel pretty prepared. And also the preparation is so good. The preparation allows you to go and have freedom on stage, but you don't need to be tied to Your notes or your prompter. And this is where we can really mess up. This is where I really could get myself messed up is like thinking, I need to say everything that's in my notes and thinking I need to make sure that I get every single point across. You're gonna find that once you get up there, if you have five points you wanna get across and 10 stories, you'll probably only have time for three stories and maybe three of the points or five of the points and three stories. So be willing to let go of things and make damn sure you're always on time if you wanna get invited back on any stage. People who go over the time typically do not get invited back because it throws off flow of the event. So pay attention to time and understand that you don't need to be attached to your notes. You can throw things out, you can totally skip over things and know that what was said is what needed to be said and what people needed to hear. And the rest was not for that day. And that's really what I live by. If I'm like, oh, I really wanted to say them, like, whoop. Well, it wasn't for that day. And everything I. Everything that I said was exactly what this audience needed at this time. And that is what I trust and that's what I have faith in, that God is just gonna have me say all of the things that need to be said. And if I screw up, I truly believe this is a belief now that you need to, like, wrap your brain around. Even if you hear me say it and you're like, what the. This girl's on crack. This belief is what helps me be successful. I believe that even if I say the wrong thing up there or I think I failed or say something stupid, I believe that somebody needed to see me do that in order to free themselves up. To know that no matter where you are in your career, you're going to make mistakes. And I pray that if I screw up or say something totally wrong, that it gives people the freedom to know that they can do it too. That is my belief and that is what allows me to keep going up there over and over and over. 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Then I start behind the eight ball, and it's like I start with so much anxiety that I've never caught my breath that it's almost like it carries on for the first five minutes where I feel very anxious and, like, I'm gonna pass out because I can't breathe. So with that said, what I do is I tend to ask questions to the audience or have the audience ask each other questions. I'm like, hey, so excited to be here. Like, say a little something. And then I say, I want you to turn to your neighbor, and I want you to get to know them and ask these questions. So if I'm really nervous, you'll know, because I'll turn it to the audience and they'll talk to their neighbors. So it gives me a second to get very grounded on stage and get rooted and planted. And then once I'm up there and back in my physical body, I'm like, okay, I can do this. So have you ever seen me speak? It's probably because if I do that, it's because I'm really nervous and I need a moment. Sometimes I'll do a meditation up there. I'll put people through a meditation. But oftentimes I'll ask the audience a question just to kind of feel out the room and see who I'm talking to and give myself a second. So these are all tips and tricks that you can weave throughout your whole talk, no matter where you're at. Let's say all of a sudden, you get a wave of anxiety in the middle. I'll go and have the audience ask each other questions that I have in my back pocket just so I can turn the attention off of me and I can, like, get back into my body and out of my head. So these are all the tricks that I do on stage. There's quite a few more, but these are some I'm just gonna offer to you right now to be like, hey, I don't know where you're at in the world of wanting to do a big goal that makes you so freaked out or speaking in front of people, or maybe you wanna put together a dinner that's facilitated and that makes you nervous. Maybe you wanna speak on a podcast and that makes you nervous. Maybe you wanna speak on a small stage and that makes you nervous. Maybe you wanna speak on a big stage and that makes you nervous. What I want to let you know is that there are tricks that you can do and there's nothing that beats just getting out there and practicing. Starting on a small stage, starting on someone's podcast. And when the Just say yes and know that no matter what the outcome is, it was for your soul's evolution and you'll recover from it and you'll probably be freaking amazing and you'll be too hard on yourself. But if you can have grace, this is how you're going to get better. It's how the best speakers get better, is knowing that you're not going to be the best every single time and you're going to learn from that. So I'm sending you guys so much love. I would love to have you on my daily text text list. 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