Your Next Level Is Waiting! Here's How To Run Toward It
27 Apr 2023 · 10 min
Lori Harder talks about speaking at Brendon Burchard's Growth Day event and the intense nerves that came with it. She describes using prayer and surrender to push through fear, arguing that real growth happens when you show up despite being terrified. The key: growth requires walking into the fire.
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It's not that you're going to die if you don't do this. It's not that you're going to die if you don't go for your dreams. But you just won't ever live. You just won't ever become the person that you came here to be.
Hey, everyone.
Welcome back to the show. It's time for another quickie because there's always time to fit an inspiration. And I am literally, quite literally freaking out right now. I have a couple things, couple reasons, which is always exciting. In a good way. In a good way, you guys. So I just got back from the Growth Day event. If you guys did not see it, it is a event put on by Brendon Burchard and he has an app called Growth Day that I teach into every single month. I do a keynote in there along with some of the most incredible human beings that I have ever met in my life. Ed Mylett speaks into there. Jamie Kern Lima spoken into there. Trent Shelton, Anthony Trucks, Jenna Kutcher has a lot of things in there. You name it. Any teacher that you can think of is probably in there. And not just that, but he has a lot of different coaches and teachers, a lot of whom I named, who actually speak every single week. Brennan also speaks into this app, and if you guys don't exactly know what the app is, it is an app where all of your personal development is in there. Like, all of it. Whatever you could need, like your journal, your master classes of any sort that you want to look, your daily fire that Brendon Burchard does. So a daily podcast, keynotes from people on different things every single month, like connecting, team management, time management, how to scale your business, like, mind blowing things, all in this app that I use every single day to journal. So he also just had a live event, you guys. It was 2000 people from all over the world on day one, Ed Mylett spoke. Day two was Jamie Kern Lima and Anthony Trucks. Day three was Trent Shelton and myself. Day four was Brennan Burchard and our amazing friend Mel Abraham. You guys, I had a moment. I had about 15,000 moments while I was there going, how did I get here? And the reason that I wanted to come on and talk to you today is to tell you that that when you wake up in a daydream, it doesn't always feel good. Now, it's not that I wasn't insanely grateful, and let me tell you that nobody could have traded anything for my discomfort that day. Meaning no one could have given me. There wasn't a cost that you could put on my discomfort to take it away from me. Because I knew what was gonna be on the other side of me feeling all of those feels. I mean, you can imagine what you feel like, right? I mean, Ed Mylett is arguably one of the best speakers in the world. Brendon Burchard is one of the best speakers, coaches, most incredible people in the motivation industry, authors, oh my God, you name it and then I'm speaking how. And so the self work that you have to go through and thank God that you do to get up to that point, I really believe opportunities won't come for you until you're ready for them. Because even if this happened two or three years ago, I don't know if I actually would have been equipped to handle the pressure that can come with sitting there for three days watching everyone else speak before you do and not getting in your head. And it's not that I didn't get in my head because there was one day where I was like, I don't even know if I can handle this. Like, I feel like I can't eat. Like, yes, I'm enjoying the speakers and I'm getting so much value, but I'm like freaking out, man. I want to deliver, I want to move people. I want them to feel like they are ready to go to their next level after they hear me speak. But you have to remove all of that. You have to remove all of that and say prayers and say, let me be the vehicle, God, let me be the vehicle to give these people exactly what they need. And sometimes it doesn't mean that you get to be your absolute best that day. And not that I don't feel like I did amazing, I feel like I did an incredible job. But what I wanna share with you is in different moments, in different times in my life, and that you feel like you can always do better. But the thing is, I believe that you do exactly what you're meant to do, especially if you say a prayer before and asking to be the vessel in the channel. Whatever you believe, you guys, if you pray to God, if you pray to the universe, whatever. But for me, it's God and I pray and I say whatever you need me to do or say. So I take that as not, I need to be perfect for this to be delivered. It's whatever you need me to do or say to create a breakthrough for them. Like, just use me and let me be fun, let me be concise. Whatever you want, whatever you want to feel up there, that's what you're meant to feel, right? Whatever you want to feel. Up there, I heard the most beautiful quote, and it says, God gives all of us gifts, but our gift back to him is to use it. Is to use it, right? Actually use those gifts. So just by you showing up and being willing to use them, I promise you it's gonna turn out amaz. But here is the thing that I want to share. When you say those prayers, to do that or be that, it doesn't mean you're not gonna fall on your face. Because if I'm being honest, someone in the audience might need to see that you can still deliver a talk even after tripping up the stairs or after screwing something up or after forgetting your line and then recovering, right? People in the audience need to see these things and to be able to say, oh, you don't have to be perfect in order to do that. And so these are the thoughts that get me through. These are the things that I lean on so hard. And I just absolute faith in knowing that whatever happens up there was meant to happen for someone to see, to get the breakthrough that they needed. This is what you have to believe for your courses when you launch them. This is what you have to believe for your business. This is what you have to believe for your podcast when you're doing or saying anything, that even if you screw up, someone needed to see that so they know that they can be imperfect as well. So I'll tell you that when you show up in a daydream, because this was an absolute daydream. This is bucket list, you guys. This is on my vision board with these names, with these exact people that it wasn't like I showed up to this event and I was like, I'm ready, let's go. I have all the confidence in the world. No, no. I was in the fire. I was in the fire for three days. I was saying prayers really, really hard. Like, let me stay out of my head. Let me just be a vehicle. God, please help me just to calm these nerves down, okay? I have butterflies. Help them to fly in formation. Like, before I went out on stage, I did end up getting a kind of, like, beautiful calm. But let me tell you that I didn't speak until three in the afternoon on day three. And that morning, the nerves got so intense that I literally laid on the bed and just started crying because I was like, I feel like running right now. Like, my fight or flight, like, my flight was like, on so hard. It was like, run, just run, just run. Just run, just don't, don't like there's the fire. Don't run toward it, right? But I was like this. This is how you become the person you came here to be. This is how your next evolution is going to be reached. This fire is the exact thing you need to burn away the old you to prove to yourself that you can.
Go to this next level and be.
This person who can connect and deliver in a powerful way to these people even when you don't feel like you can. What I want you to see is that you need, need these moments in order to break through to the other side. You have to have these do or die moments, these fight or flight moments, these I don't think I'm going to be able to do it moments in order to break through. And if you're not creating these moments for yourself and putting yourself in line for these moments and putting yourself out there and saying yes and asking for these moments and praying for these moments and taking these moments when they come. Even when you don't feel ready, you don't get to become the person that you came here to be.
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It's not that you're going to die if you don't do this. It's not that you're going to die if you don't go for your dreams, but you just won't ever live. You just won't ever become the person that you came here to be. And that's something that literally came out of my mouth on stage and I didn't even know where it came from. We know where it came from, right? When you ask to be the vessel, you get to become the vessel. You get to say things that you're like, why a second? I don't know if I'm smart enough to come up with that. So thank you for allowing me to be the vessel today. I promise you, this is what happens when you say yes. When you say yes and you do the prep work, right? And you, you ask for the support around you. And before this, you guys, it's not like I Just went up there and told people, oh, I feel great. Like, I texted probably 15 friends that moment morning. And I said, pray for me. Pray for me that I feel calm. I can deliver the message. I can be the vessel. And pray for me that I'm extra funny. I am. I am not even shitting you. That is what I said. And that is my relationship with God. We're funny sometimes. I can swear in the same sentence as I'm. As I'm praying, you guys. This is just how it works for me. And it works, right? Your relationship is personal with whatever it is that you're connecting to. But I believe that you have to connect to something higher. I believe that you have to believe that there is something bigger than you that is helping you through this life. Because we feel weak when we are relying on our own strength. That is a quote from A Course in Miracles. We feel weak when we are relying on our own strength. Rely on people. Rely on God. Rely on source. Rely on energy. Rely on something bigger than you to pull you through. And I'm telling you, there was a point where I was like, I don't know how I'm gonna do this. I actually feel like I'm gonna throw up and cry at the same time. But I'm giving it up to you, God. Like, I'm doing this. I'm doing this. Cause I trust you. You gave me these gifts. Now I'm gonna use them as that gift back to you. So when you are in it, when you are in it, it's not going to feel like rainbows and sunshine. It feels scary. It feels like hell. It feels like you want to cry and heaven is on the other side. So remember, if you're going through it right now, if you're in the middle of a tough relationship, if you're in the middle of a tough conversation, if you're in the middle of tough employees, if you're in the middle of a failed launch, if you're in the middle of. Before you launch, if this is. This is pre launch, and you're just like, I don't know how this is gonna work. I don't know if I can handle this. I just launched and no one's coming through. I'm trying to do this thing and nothing's happening. Keep going, keep going, keep going. This is what it feels like. This is exactly the path. And nobody shows this part. Nobody shows this part. And I believe in you. You can do this. If this is on your heart, it is meant to be. Dreams and visions are your future memories. Dreams and visions are just future memories. If we can flashback, we can flash forward. You guys, I love you so much. If this helped you at all, text it to a friend right now. Who's in it. Share it on stories. Share it with the link. It means the world to me. It's how podcasts get out there. And I just want you to know that your moment, your next level moment, is here right now. It's here right now and it's waiting for you. It's waiting for you to either keep going, it's waiting for you to say yes, it's waiting for you to take the big leap. Do it today. Send the email, do the thing, set the date. Put the money down. I believe in you. I love you. Until next time, earn your happy. Bye, everyone. Sam.
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