You’re NOT Burned Out, You’re Being Refined

You're not burned out, you're not broken. Some of you who maybe had a rough year last year, you're just aware that the old tactics aren't going to hit the same. That's it. You're aware. And that awareness is power. So if you've been working hard and thinking, okay, something needs to shift, good, you're exactly where you're supposed to be. Because the only consistent thing in the world is change. The season is not asking you to quit. It's asking you just to get more intentional, foreign. Hey, everyone, welcome back to the podcast. It's time for another quickie, because there's always time to fit in. Inspiration and happy New Year. Whether you're listening to this on New Year's Eve, New Year's Day, whatever it is, I am so excited to be going into 2026 with you. This is going to be the year of whatever we believe it's going to be. Because I firmly believe and know that despite all that goes on in the world, we still have the capability, capacity, energy, to be able to create a year that we are absolutely obsessed with. So I wanted to bring some rekindle this bitch energy into the podcast because I really know that if you're listening to this, you are here because you know that you are capable of so much more. And you're not even close to done. In fact, you are just getting started. And everything that you have done that you have learned, that you have won at, that you have failed at, has brought you to this very moment in order to take all of that wisdom, which, by the way, failing creates massive wisdom a lot of times, much more than winning. Take that massive wisdom and apply it to everything that you're going to do in this next year. So you're not burned out, you're not broken. Some of you who maybe had a rough year last year, you're just aware that the old tactics aren't going to hit the same. That's it. You're aware. And that awareness is power. So if you've been working hard and thinking, okay, something needs to shift, good, you're exactly where you're supposed to be. Because the only consistent thing in the world is shift, change. And the more that we can lean into that, the more that we can lean into that and really understand that, the more you are going to have an incredible life. So what I want you to know is that success is not linear. You already know this. It is seasonal. There are seasons where things feel easy and super expansive, and you get that just jolts of energy. And it feels like you're so connected to God. It feels like you're just getting download after download. And. And then there are seasons where it feels a little bit bleak. You're like, hey, hey, God. Knock, knock. Are you up there? Like, I literally don't hear anything. And in these seasons, your faith is asking to get strengthened and your skills are asking to get sharper. So this is not a breakdown time. If you're in this, this is not a breakdown time. It's a refinement year. So every woman I know who's built something extraordinary has had multiple pivots. Not because she failed, but because she outgrew the old version of her for old network and what used to work you guys, because this season is not asking you to quit if it's been challenging. It's asking you to choose more intentionally. And that's what I believe 2026 is asking. It's really saying, what do you really want? What are you really good at? Who do you want to work with and what do you want to do with your life? And let me just tell you, now that I'm in my 40s, I feel like there is this massive, massive, like, message overarching in my life. What do you really want to do? Because it's the first time in my life that I'm like, oh, there's a little bit of a clock. Like, damn, I'm on the second half right now. Like, this is literally mind blowing to me. But it's also so cool because I feel like I'm being wired and refined to not give a shit, which can be very powerful when you are wanting to truly get your message out there and do exactly what you want. Because I believe that the less we can care about opinions, the more our message and our purpose is going to hit and is going to come through even faster for people because it's going to be like, oh, she's for me. Or oh, she sucks, she's absolutely not. Or I don't like that she did that. I don't like that she said that. And it's going to make everybody flee who doesn't like what you're saying. And it's going to make everyone drawn to you, like a freaking magnet. For those of you who are going to say with love, these messages are never about being an online and being like you. This is what I have to say. And everybody else, you know, can do whatever and you don't care. That's not what this is about. This is truly about really standing for what you believe and saying how you feel, but coming from the intention of no, I really, really feel this way. I care about people, but I don't care if you have a differing opinion than me. I can still care for you as a person and hope and wish you well, but I don't have to believe what you believe and I don't have to make you like me. So, again, the season is not asking you to quit. It's asking you just to get more intentional. And I want you to think about how you felt last year. If you felt really tired, you might feel tired not because you're weak, but you might feel tired because you were just truly out of alignment. Meaning you may have done so much of what you don't like and so much of what you're bad at that it makes you feel exhausted even on days where maybe you didn't have a super heavy workload. So in 2026, really looking at what lights you up and trying to spend at least 50% of your time there, I'm not saying 100%, because you're always going to have to do things that you don't love, always. No matter what, you are always going to have to do things that don't light you up. But I just had an incredible podcast and he was talking about your zone of genius, and then your zone of competency. And your zone of genius is the thing that really, really lights you up, and that is the place that you do want to spend 50 or more of your time. Zone of competency is something that you can do and you're decent at it, and you tend to do it all the time. But if you spend most of your time there, you're going to find that your energy is going to start to drain. And then you also have your zone that you are going to not enjoy at all. Right? There's that third zone where it is like, this is the. The place that is just going to drain your energy and you're not going to want to spend time here at all. We are going to have to spend a little time there, but you want to make sure that it's only about 20% of that time in the places that you're actually not good at all or try to eliminate that completely. Because when effort stops working the way it used to, it may not be failure. It might actually just be feedback. And it might be feedback that you need to start upgrading the things that you're doing into those two other zones, right? You want to get in at least into competency more if not your zone of genius. And that's really what we're going for in 2026 is staying more in that zone of genius. So I want to give you an exercise for the new year that is so basic. I know there's a million different things that you can do right now, but Chris and I have done this a couple years in a row, and I've absolutely loved it. And it's so simple. You may not even have to write it down. But I would love it if you did. But you might even be able to do this in your car. Just say it out loud with me as I'm kind of going through the this practice. So it's really about turning feeling into strategy. So I want you to decide how you want to feel in 2026. All you're going to do is I want you to choose three emotions that you want to consistently feel this year. I know you have 500 of them, whether it's calm, free, focus, powerful, whatever it is. But I want you to pick three main ones. If right away you're like, oh, my gosh, I know exactly what my three are. I really know what my three are. I want to feel productive, I want to feel creative, and I want to feel focused. Those are my three. I want to feel productive, I want to feel creative, and I want to feel focused. And so if I wanted to feel that way, what I'm going to do is I'm going to create things around that. But first, what I want you to do, I want you to think of the three ways that you want to feel. I'll give you some examples. Productive, creative, calm, free, focused, powerful, confident. I want you to pick your top three. All right, now, I want you to rank those feelings, so I want you to rank them in level of importance to you. So whether that's productive as number one, creative is number two, calm is number three. And your number one feeling needs to be protected at all costs. Number two and three are great, and we're really gonna work on those. But that number one feeling that you're like, this feeling is the most important feeling for me to be feeling this year. You need to project it at all costs. And your calendar should reflect your top feeling, not your to do list. Because if you want to feel productive, when I look at your calendar, it should have all the things in there that make you feel productive. If your number one feeling is calm, then I want to see your calendar reflect all of the things that are going to make you feel calm. Okay, so now that you have those ranked at your level of importance. You have your number one that you want to feel, but you also have your 2 and 3. I want you to turn those feelings into a weekly plan. I don't want this to just be inspirational. I really want this to become operational for you guys, because how you feel isn't random. How you feel creates your life, your actions, and your year. So example number one. If I have productivity as number one, for me, feeling productive doesn't necessarily come from doing more. It comes from clarity, and it comes from knowing exactly what I should be doing that week to move the needle. So for me, productivity would look like a weekly planning session every single Sunday, blocking my week before it starts deciding what actually matters instead of reacting. So knowing what moves the needles. And if I don't plan, I don't feel productive, and I feel really scattered. And maybe productivity to me also means that I'm content planning, and I know exactly what I'm doing. I know exactly what content is going out. And so in my calendar, I'm going to write down all of these things that make me feel productive. I'm going to write down three different things that make me feel productive, because this is my number one emotion. I'm going to write those three things down that would make me feel productive every single week, and then I'm going to calendar those in. So, you guys, you should have your three emotions that are most important for you to feel this year. Underneath those three emotions, what I want you to do is I want you to rank the number one emotion, and then what I want you to do is write the three things that you could do each week for that number one emotion that would make you feel that way. And then based off of that, you're going to literally start creating a life that feels that way. Now, you can absolutely do this underneath emotion number two and emotion number three, and put those in your calendar as well. But that's going to be a lot of things in your calendar. So I just want you to know that you can start with that number one emotion, but you could also start working in two and three if you're finding that you're really mastering number one. So this is a really beautiful way to start feeling more of the feelings that you want to feel, right? So if my number two emotion is creativity, it doesn't just happen, right? You do it. You. You have to actually plan it. You have to figure out what creativity means for you. So for me, maybe creativity looks like taking a dance class, and it looks like taking two full days of dedicated content, not squeezing content into leftover hours. Right? Because if creativity matters, content days aren't optional for me. And maybe movement days aren't optional for cause they make me feel really creative. They have to be protected. And then example number three if you had calm on your feelings that you want to feel, maybe that third feeling is calm, grounded and free. One night a week with nothing scheduled is going to be important to you, right? If not more. If not two, if not three, a walk without a podcast might make you feel calm and grounded. A monthly day that completely is not optimized during the week and that makes you feel really calm and grounded. Like you have to start knowing what the things are, what the triggers are, what the actions are that make you feel that way in order for you to actually start feeling that way. Because if I felt productive every day, I know that I would get more energy and I feel like the needle would just naturally move because I just felt better. I'm reading Ask and it's given again for probably the fifth time. And it's such a reminder that our feelings produce our reality. Because our feelings inform our actions and our actions create our daily life. 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So imagine walking in and feeling like you already have a team of people who can look at your content, who can help you with your funnels, who can help you with what's next. We really can help you with so many different things at this strategic point in your business. And all you need are these little tiny dials, these little tiny tweaks and you need someone to kind of bounce ideas, ideas off of through this whole process. And what's so cool about Mentor Collective is that you get on demand answers so you get Everything answered in 24 to 48 hours from our incredible coaches and from Chris and myself. We coach in there as well. Every other week we answer your questions live. There has not been a question yet that we have not been able to get to live. And we absolutely love, love, love doing this with you guys. 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