10 Secrets Of DETACHMENT To Get The Man You Want

10 Secrets of Detachment to get the man that you want. In this training, we're going to be going deeper into how you can use the magical power of letting go of detachment in your dating and romantic life and relationships so that you can draw a man to you, have a loving, long term and committed relationship fast without loneliness, frustration, or men losing interest, pulling away or rejecting you. So I'm Brody Boyd with Magnetize youe man, if you don't know me already, and together with my wife Antja, we've been helping so successful women for over 20 years combined to get the love and relationship they want with the man that they want. So let's go ahead and dive right into the content. The first secret of detachment to get the man that you want is letting go of the outcome. So when you're with a man, when you're dating, when you're in a romantic situation, practicing letting go of the outcome means that you let go of caring what may happen as a result of your actions or as a result of the interaction. So you let go of caring whether he calls you back, whether he texts you back, whether he asks you on a second date, whether he proposes to you, whether you get married. So it's letting go of the future anticipation, which helps you to be more in the present. And that's the paradox. By letting go of caring whether he likes you, whether he texts you back, whatever might happen in the interaction, you actually create a situation where now he's intrigued and he actually does the very thing that you were wanting him to do before. And that's the power of letting go. The next secret of detachment to get demand that you want is to commit to the process. So after you've let go of the outcome, now it's about committing to the process. Because where do you put that energy, all that energy that you used to have was anxious about whether he was going to call you back, text you back, if he was going to still be with you, if he was falling in love or not. Now you can release all that energy, let the cards fall where they may, and instead put all of that energy into the process, the process of being the best woman you can, showing up as best as you can, being the best communicator, the best person in a relationship that you can be, improving yourself in all areas. That's where you put the energy into. You put it into improving yourself and improving your process and your skills. And then you let go of caring or letting go of the outcome of what may happen as a result of you committing to that process, and that's where the magic lies. As Wayne Dyer says, commit to the process, detach from the outcome. The next secret of detachment to get the men that you want is to have fun. I remember when I was dating, I used to be really stuck in my head and always wondering what I should say next, does she like me? When should I ask for the phone number, when should I make a move? When I started focusing instead on having fun and enjoying the process, that's when things dramatically shifted for me and I started having much better connections with women. And this is a universal principle of human psychology. When you're having fun, there are neurons in your brain called mirror neurons. And the other people around you, their brains can't help when they observe you, but starting to feel those emotions as well, those emotions of joy, happiness, fun and relaxation. So when you're feeling that yourself and you allow yourself just to have fun in a date, on a date, in a, in an interaction with a man that you're interested in, you're going to make him have more fun, he's going to feel a better sense of connection to you. And you're also going to be less anxious and less likely to be worried about the future, worried about the outcome, or thinking about yourself and being overly self conscious. So it's a very powerful process, it's a very powerful principle to start practicing for yourself regularly. Have fun. The next secret of detachment to get the man that you want is to love yourself first. If you want to get love from somebody else, you have to first create that love within yourself. And this will help you to detach from the outcome. Because when you're focused on self love and improving that relationship that you have with yourself, you're not going to be craving that from somebody else. And as much you're not going to be hoping that he loves you and craving his affection, desire, attention as much. When you're giving all of that to yourself first, rebuilding that one relationship that you're going to have for the rest of your life, which is the relationship with you. And that's going to be one of the most powerful things that will allow you to actually have men fall in love with you. When you fall in truly in love with yourself first, the next secret of detachment to get the man that you want is, is to put away the umbilical cord. Now this was an image that was given to me many years ago when I was learning about dating and relationships. And there was this image of people walking around the planet. Everybody's walking around with their umbilical cord out, trying to plug it into somebody, their emotional umbilical cord. They're looking to who can give me my, get me my needs met? Who can I plug into to get what I want? Now if you instead take that umbilical cord, plug it back into yourself, that's much more powerful because now you, you're getting your own needs met. You're focused on getting your own emotional needs met first. And that is what allows people to then feel safe around you emotionally and they start to naturally give you what you're already giving to yourself. So it's a very powerful principle. Get those needs met back here. The next secret of detachment to get the man that you want is positive self talk. The better you can talk to yourself, the more likely you are to feel more confident within yourself and, and less needy and less clingy to those around you because you're gonna feel better about who you are and the person you're talking with already, which is you. So you have to start saying things to yourself such as, I love myself, I'm awesome, I'm incredible, I can do anything, I'm the gift, I'm the prize, any man would be lucky to be with me. I'm relationship material, I'm wife material, I'm a quality partner, I'm a high value partner. All those kind of sayings you can just remind yourself when you catch yourself, the most important thing is when you catch yourself being negative to yourself, beating yourself up, judging your, you have to immediately reframe that and start to say the opposite to yourself. If you said, oh, that was so stupid, say I'm awesome, I'm intelligent, I'm creative, I'm a genius. And that'll start shifting it for you and allow you to become more magnetic and stop repelling people that you were interested in before. The next principle of detachment to get the man you want is to just show up. Woody Allen said 80% of success is just showing up. Now the reason why this is helpful with detachment is because oftentimes when you're going out to a social event, you're going out with your girlfriends, you're going out to meet a man, or you're going out on a date, it can get very easy to start thinking about the outcome and hoping that things go well, that you make a connection, that it's going to be a great night. Instead, focus on, all you have to do is just show up, just get out of the door, get out of your house and arrive. That's all you have to do. As long as you did that, you, you are a success. You had a successful night. That's going to help you to be more in the moment, detach from that outcome, and be magnetic and confident and less needy when you're out, which will draw people to you. The next principle of detachment to get the man you want is an abundance mindset. Now, abundance mindset is the opposite of a scarcity mindset. A scarcity mindset sees that there's only one man for you, that this is the man you want. If it doesn't work out with him, then it's going to be horrible. You. He's so perfect for me. He's the only man I've ever felt this way with. He's the only person I've ever had this kind of connection or our values are all aligning, or it's just an ideal situation. That scarcity mindset is going to cause you to get super attached to this person and super clingy and super needy, even on a subconscious level. So instead you want to reverse it to the abundance mentality, which is there are more than enough amazing quality men to go around for everybody. There's more than enough. That's the basic statement there. There's more than enough men, there's more than enough love, there's more than enough connection. And it's all available to me. It's all coming to me, and I will have it as long as I embrace the fact that there is more than enough in the world for everyone. The next principle of detachment to get the man that you want is to practice letting it all go. Now, this was another powerful affirmation I used to use for myself when I was dating, which was when I noticed myself getting too attached to the outcome, hoping this girl liked me, or hoping it would go somewhere, I started saying to myself, let it all go. Just. Just let it all go. Detach. Let it all go. And you can even imagine the practice of letting go as something as simple as holding something in your hand and just letting it drop. You have to practice that over and over again. It's easy as that. When you do it within yourself to actually let go, just imagine it dropping. Imagine it disappearing. Throw it in the fire. Throw it into space. Get rid of it. Get rid of those anxious thoughts. Get rid of that attachment and just let it drift away, because that's going to allow you to be more present, bring you back to yourself, bring you back into your confidence, which will be magnetic and actually draw that to you, which you were hoping to get before Draw them to you like a magnet. The next principle of detachment to get the man that you want is to be the bachelorette. Now, what this means is creating triangles and creating situations where you can have social proof, where other, many other quality men ideally are interested in you. So imagine the show, the Bachelorette, where the woman shows up on the show and she has all of these suitors that these men who are interested in her, who are all competing and vying for her attention, they're pulling her away, they're fighting with each other, they are seeing her as the prize when before maybe they wouldn't have even really noticed her in a social situation or at a party. But because it's the situation where now all these guys are competing, they all want her, they are all falling in love very quickly. And it's the same with the Bachelor. So you want to create situations where you are the bachelorette, meaning that, that you go to social events, you create a great social life where you have multiple suitors who are pursuing you ideally. So that way you don't have to be just so single, focused on one person. If you don't have enough suitors right now, that means improving yourself, following these principles and creating a social life where you can actually have those people attracted to you. So as you can see, the basic principles of detachment here are often about bringing the energy back to yourself. Stop focusing so much on what you can get. Focusing on the other person. Cultivate the energy within. There's a great visual which is to be the flame and not the moth, to be the sun and not the planets, to be the flower and not the bees. You are drawing this energy towards you. You're becoming the one who is pursued rather than the one who is pursuing. If someone is pursuing you, by definition you can't pursue them. And the reverse is also true. So if you want somebody to chase you, you have to stop chasing them. You have to stop reaching and allow it to come to you. Become the kind of person that will draw it to you instead. And you can do it, starting with these powerful principles. Next, if you haven't yet, make sure to take our free love quiz to get the loving, long term and committed relationship you want with a man you want without loneliness, frustration or wasting more time with emotionally unavailable men by going to getlovequiz.com getlovequiz.com or click on the link in the description or comments below. And I look forward to seeing you there and talk to you more on our next powerful training coming up very soon. Bye bye.