Masculine men need respect and appreciation the way women need to feel loved. Notice small things he does—opening doors, planning dates, remembering details—and he'll be motivated to do more. Criticism and nagging make him shut down and withdraw.
Masculine men need to feel respected and appreciated. It's their deepest emotional need, just like your deepest need is to feel loved and cherished. When you notice and appreciate the little things he does— opening the door for you, taking out the trash, listening to you talk about your day, planning a date, remembering something you mentioned— you feed his masculine soul. You make him feel like a king. And when a man feels appreciated by you, he will move mountains for you. He will want to do more and more to earn that appreciation. But when you criticize, when you point out what he's doing wrong, when you nag or complain, you emasculate him. You make him feel small. And when a man feels emasculated, he shuts down. He pulls away. Appreciation is one of the most powerful feminine tools you have to keep a man devoted to you.
