Why Doing “Nothing” Makes Men Fall in Love

You've been the strong one for so long, holding it all together, trying so hard to be easy to love, and it's exhausting. Think of it like holding a beach ball underwater. You're using all of your energy to keep it submerged, and that's exhausting, right? Well, the moment you release it, it naturally floats up to the surface, floats up to the sunshine. So here are 9 things the relaxed woman does instead. None of them take more effort. Most of them take less. If you're new here, my name is Brody Boyd with Magnetize Your Man. For over 20 years combined with my wife Antia, we've been helping thousands of women to attract loving, long-term, committed relationships with a man they actually want. So let's dive in. Number 1, she becomes his peace. Now, the idea here is a powerful technique, a powerful principle around becoming his source, his calmness, his peace, which is also a very powerful aspect of feminine energy. This is Being a woman at rest, a woman at peace. Now, historically, when a woman was at rest, that meant for the tribe, it meant for society that things were good. The world was okay. As long as our women are happy, as long as our women are at peace, that must mean that we have a certain degree of economic prosperity, that we must not be under attack from an enemy army. There must not be any plagues going on right now. Things must be pretty good. And also historically, if women were working, if women were striving, they were stressing out, they were freaking out, typically that meant the world was not okay, the world was not safe, things were not good, and thereby people would be freaking out. Men especially would not be feeling content, they would not be happy, they would be rushing and striving to try to get things to be okay, to save the society so that things could be at peace again. This was one of the big drivers behind why men would push to make economic developments, to invent new technologies, to grow their society, to grow their empire so that things could be okay at home. Things could be at rest. Things could be at peace. His wife, his woman could be at home resting, relaxing, enjoying, and being happy. This is one of the fundamental drives that a man has in his life and in his relationship to make his woman happy. And another way of saying that is to make his woman at rest, to make her at peace, because when she's at peace and she's at rest, that means he's good. Everything is good and he is good. He's doing a good job. He's doing okay. He's winning at life, which is a masculine drive, a masculine component, a fundamental element. Number 2, She lets him drive. Imagine you're in a car with a man. There's one steering wheel, one driver's seat, and both of you are trying to grab the steering wheel and trying to drive the car at the same time. What happens? Chaos, fighting, resentment, or a car crash. Eventually someone's getting out of the car either way. Now that's what's happening in your relationship when you're in your masculine energy. You're trying to drive, you're making the plans, you're moving the relationship forward, You're initiating, you're leading, you're solving all the problems, and he's sitting there, sitting back in the passenger seat, and he's thinking, well, I guess she doesn't need me. I guess she's got this all handled. I guess I'll just exit at the next stop. Now, here's what most dating coaches won't tell you. This isn't about playing games or pretending to be helpless. This is about the law of polarity. Genesis tells us that God created them male and female as opposite energies, but complementary energies. Masculine energy gives, feminine energy receives. Masculine energy leads, feminine energy follows. Masculine energy protects, feminine energy trusts. And when you step into the masculine role, you destroy the polarity. And without polarity, there is no attraction, there is no chemistry, there is no passion, there's just no spark. So let me give you a real example of this. One of our clients, Krista, came to us after years of being single. She's an athlete, super independent, always took care of everything herself, provided for herself, made all of her own decisions. And she kept attracting men who were passive, who didn't lead, who let her do everything. And she resented them for it. But here's what she didn't realize. She was actually training them to be passive by being in her masculine. And when she started practicing what we teach in our Magnetize Your Man program, when she started letting men plan the dates, when she started receiving instead of giving, when she started trusting instead of controlling, Everything shifted for her. Within months, she attracted a man who takes care of her when she's sick, a man who plans dates and has a whole list of places he wants to take her, a man who makes her feel like she's in a Hallmark movie. So what really changed? She stopped trying to drive the car. She let him lead, and his masculine energy came alive for her. Number 3, she has infinite patience. Now let's start with a powerful phrase that might surprise you. It goes like this: infinite patience brings immediate results. What does that mean? At first, it sounds like a contradiction, doesn't it? You're thinking, if I'm infinitely patient, then I'll never get results. But here's the paradox. The moment you shift into patience, real grounded patience that comes from self-worth, men feel it immediately and they respond differently immediately. Why? Because most women are rushing the process. They're anxious. They're asking, where's this going? Why hasn't he texted? What does this mean? And men feel that anxiety. They feel the pressure and they sense the impatience. But when you breathe, when you lean back, when you embody trust, it's like your whole energy changes. Suddenly you're not grasping, you're not chasing, you're not needing. And when you shift, he shifts. He leans in. He starts to wonder, what is it about her? Why do I feel this urge to move toward her? That's the power of patience. And when it's infinite, when you've detached from the outcome completely, that's when the results often show up. Let me ask you this. Have you ever sent a man a text, waited 5 minutes, didn't hear back, and then sent another one and then another? Well, how did that work out for you? Well, now contrast that with the times when you were genuinely relaxed. Maybe even you forgot to think about him and out of the blue, He reached out. Well, that's the principle in action. Number 4, she lets the silence breathe. This is an easy way where you can become a woman at rest. You can be embracing your feminine presence, your feminine peace, which is in conversations, learn the power of the pause. My wife says a queen holds, which means when you're in conversation, you don't always have to fill it up with something. Sometimes your man may just enjoy being with you. Oftentimes, and there's many studies that have been done on this, I've talked about in other videos, men just want to be with you. They just want that time together where you're not talking, where you're doing things together. You're side by side, shoulder by shoulder, enjoying the sunset or enjoying the dinner or enjoying the activity or the football game or whatever it might be. He's doing an activity with you rather than just talking, talking, talking, or worse, fighting, fighting, fighting. And one way you can implement this in a small way is to simply pause more in conversations. Let there be some space. Even if you're on a first date with a man, let him feel you. Let him feel your heart and let there just be an emptiness there. Let there be a rest. Let there be a pause. Hold space. Hold the tension. You might even say it's okay to hold the tension. And then if anything, let him fill the space. Let him bring up something else. Now, this doesn't mean that you're never going to speak and you do this all the time. Just do it occasionally. Just start pausing more in your conversations and just smiling at him. Just looking at him, just being with him. Remember, feminine energy is about being, masculine energy is about doing. So when you can simply just be and be that peace, be that rest, he gets to rest into you. His heart is starting to rest into you as with his soulmate. He's starting to feel that, oh, I'm enjoying my time with her just simply being. This must be my woman. This must be my peace. This must be my soulmate. I should never lose her. I should keep her in my life forever. Number 5, she forgives so she can receive. Science also backs this up. Psychologists have found that holding grudges keeps your body in fight or flight. That means you're on edge, defensive, waiting for the next attack, even if it never comes. Forgiveness, on the other hand, shifts you into rest and receive mode. It lowers cortisol, it increases oxytocin, the bonding hormone. It literally makes your body feel safer, calmer, and more loving. So forgiveness isn't just spiritual, it's neurological. It transforms your mind, body, and spirit. One of our clients, we'll call her Sarah, was divorced for years. Now, she thought she had moved on, but every man she dated ended up leaving. When we dug deeper, she realized that she had never forgiven her ex. She still carried bitterness, replaying the betrayal over and over. We guided her through a forgiveness practice, and she cried. She let it out. She released him. And here's the miracle. Within months, she met a man who cherished her. He pursued her, committed to her, and they're now married. She told us, the only reason I could receive him was because I finally let go of my ex. Again, sometimes the hardest person to forgive is yourself. Maybe you regret staying too long in a toxic relationship. Maybe you feel ashamed for giving your body to a man who didn't deserve it. Maybe you feel foolish for ignoring red flags. But hear me, you are already forgiven ahead of time. Jesus died so you could walk in freedom. You don't have to earn it. You don't have to punish yourself. You only have to receive it, to let it in. So today, release the shame. Let go of the guilt. Say it out loud: I forgive myself. I was doing the best I knew how, and I am worthy of love. Number 6: When in doubt, she has fun. Now, having fun is like a little trick you can use whenever you're in doubt. What to do with a man, because having fun naturally and almost automatically puts you back into your feminine energy because it puts you into a state of letting go, of not trying to control the outcome, of not trying to control him, of enjoying the process, of relaxing and being in your feminine, receiving, being playful, enjoying. And so all these positive things come when you can get into this mindset of just having fun. Now, the caveat with this is it doesn't mean to have fun all the time with a guy. Because if you're just Miss Positive and Miss I'm Having Fun All the Time and I don't have any problems, don't have any issues, he's not gonna be able to feel the full range of your emotions because the feminine is the full spectrum of emotions, not just being positive and happy all the time. We call this being the Miss Too Cool for School archetype where you're like, ah, I'm too cool for school. Everything's good. I don't have any problems. I don't have any issues. Like, I'm just enjoying my life. I'm just party girl. I'm just having fun. And a man can't really feel your, your, your heart. He can't really feel all the aspects of you. And most importantly, he's not able to provide for you if you're just positive all the time. He's not able to actually give to you and be your hero and solve your problems and give advice. He's not able to step into his masculine hero instinct. So you want to have fun, but you also want to be the queen, which means that when problems and issues come up, that you vulnerably share those with him so so that he can handle them. And then after the issues are handled and addressed, then you can reset back into your natural default, which is being a queen and having fun. So you're having fun, which would be your natural default after any issues have been addressed. So that's a good caveat, and it's a very powerful mindset to use with a man. Number 7, she lets go and lets God. So if you're having a hard time trusting in him, trusting in the process, Try to tap into a higher power. Try to listen to the higher power, God, and say, I give it up to you. Like, I don't know what to do right now. I don't know how to be great in this relationship. I don't know how to handle my presence of mind. I don't know how to not screw this up. I don't know what to do next. I'm giving it up to you. Just take it, please. Take it off my shoulders. I don't wanna deal with it anymore. I surrender. I surrender. 'Cause surrender's a big piece of this. So really it's like the ultimate surrender, right? Trusting in God, trusting in, anything else other than yourself. It's like, I surrender, because that's what the masculine energy is desiring. The masculine energy is like wanting you to surrender to him. So masculine energy craves being trusted and respected, that you trust and respect him to lead you, to lead the relationship forward. And for you to do that, you have to surrender and you have to trust. And so this is a good practice you can do on a daily basis. Even doesn't have to do with relationships all the time. You could just say like, I don't know what the answer is right now. I'm just going to give it up to God. I trust you, God. Thank you. Thank you for taking off my shoulders. Lead me, guide me, show me what to do. And maybe just give me peace. Maybe that could be your prayer. Like, God, give me— just please give me some— you don't say please. Say, God, grant me peace. What's the Serenity Prayer, right? Um, grant me the wisdom to know what I should do. I should actually pull that up. Sometimes I forget, forget that prayer. Serenity Prayer. Let's all, let's all recite it together. It's a great prayer to help you get back into your feminine. It says, God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. It's a very powerful prayer. It's a very feminine prayer. It's a prayer of surrender, really, and that's why they call it Serenity, because feminine energy is about peace, it's about surrender, and it's about letting go. Number eight, she lets love be easy. At the end of the day, it's not complicated. It's about connecting to your essence, feminine energy, the feminine core that's already within you, and then you will activate masculine energy, masculine core around you. Men will want to love and adore you and devote themselves to you. But we're just teaching you all the ways to do that, all the ways, the nuances that will help you get to that place, that will help the water get back to its level, that'll help you to flow down the stream in a beautiful. A beautiful boat, a beautiful yacht, or your little floaty with the piña colada drink, and you're going to be in the sun and enjoying yourself rather than feeling like you have to constantly fight. And why are relationships so hard? Because here's the thing, once you're connected to your feminine core, life can become simple, fun, and easy. And I just want you to think about that for a while. What would that look like? What would that feel like to you if you're dating? Was simple, fun, and easy. If your love life as a whole was simple, fun, and easy. If relationships could be simple, fun, and easy rather than hard, complex, and grueling. Nobody wants that. Nobody wants it. It doesn't have to be that way when you're connected to your feminine core. It can 100% be simple, fun, and easy for you to have the relationship that you want and just to be in a relationship. It can be fun and easy, and men are just taking care of you. Your man is. And eventually it'll become second nature to you because it is your nature. We're just helping you to get back to that and take some practice because it's like you're learning a new dance. It's like you're learning a new language because there's so much programming, so much you haven't learned around this that we have to teach you that language. So then eventually, once you've learned the steps, once you've learned the phraseology, it's natural to you. It's like you can just enjoy the dance now. You don't have to think about it. You just follow his lead and you share your heart naturally. Number 9, she stops being the woman who does it all. This is not about changing your behavior. This is about changing your identity. Because if you see yourself as a woman who has to do it all, as the woman who has to be strong, as the woman who has to prove she can handle it, as the woman who has to earn love and has to earn her worthiness, you will keep over-functioning. But if you can shift your identity to a woman who receives, a woman who signals, a woman who trusts, Then everything changes. So I want you to start seeing yourself as a queen. A queen does not chase. A queen does not beg. A queen does not over-function. A queen simply is. A queen opens her heart. A queen shares her truth. A queen asks for what she needs, and a queen receives what she has asked for. And when a man shows up, she lets him. And when a man does not show up, she moves on. Because a queen knows her worth. And that is the identity shift. You are not the woman who does it all. You are the woman who receives it all. And when you step into that, everything shifts. The right man will start showing up, the wrong men will start fading, and you will finally feel what it's like to be cherished, adored, and pursued. Okay, so let me bring this home. The art of receiving is not about being passive. The art of receiving is not about playing games. The art of receiving is about being in your feminine. It is about trusting and being true to your own heart. It's about signaling. It's about letting him lead. And when you do that, you give him the space to step up. You give him the space to be your hero. You give him the space to win you over. At the end of the day, understand we're all learning and growing. Give yourself grace in this process, but also give yourself standards. You're not being too needy because you want someone who's consistent, kind, respectful, and emotionally available. Those are completely valid needs. And if you want personalized guidance on exactly what to do with the specific man you have in mind right now, I invite you to take our free love quiz. In just a few minutes, you'll get your personalized top recommendation for getting the relationship you desire. Just head over to our website, magnetizeyourman.com, or click the link in the description or comments below to get that now. Thank you so much for watching and subscribing. We're praying for you to get the relationship that you most desire with this, and I'll talk to you more very soon.