When a man asks "What do you want?" he's showing he cares and wants to make you happy. Tell him clearly what you need, without commanding or nagging. Appreciate the specific things he does right, so he knows how to be your hero.
The next thing a man will say if he deeply loves you is, what do you want? What do you want? When a man deeply cares about you, he's going to ask you, what do you want? Because he's going to want to start providing that for you. Ideally, he's going to be at least curious to hear, what do you want? Especially when you're not happy, when things aren't going well. Maybe you're having sadness, anger, frustration at him or in the relationship. A simple question that hopefully he's going to ask at some point is just like, What do you want? What can I do? Like, what will make you happy? Please give me the answer. I want to know what's going to make you happy. Because he wants to win the game with you. If you don't tell him the rules of how to win the game, how's he supposed to win the game? He needs to know the rules. What makes you happy? What makes you unhappy? Men aren't good mind readers, so he can't often know what makes you happy or what do you want. You have to tell him. He will hopefully ask for that information. If he doesn't ask for it, you can gently tell him. You don't want to command him because that can sound like nagging and it can sound like criticism. But you can say something like, you know, I love it when you plan the date. I love it when you are taking care of me in whatever way you love to be taken care of. Let him know those things so he can be your hero in that way. It's a powerful sign to look for.
