Stop Being The Cool Girl. Be The Woman He’s Terrified To Lose

Now here's the thing. We actually want a man to have some healthy fear of losing you from his life, because if he doesn't have that fear, that means he simply doesn't value you. We want a man to value you, to prioritize you, and to treat you like a queen, to treasure your heart because you are a treasure. So here are 9 things the woman he's terrified to lose does differently. And not one of them is chasing him. I'm Brody Boyd, if you don't know me already, and for over 20 years combined with my wife, Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long-term, and committed relationship with a man they desire fast. Let's dive in. Number 1, she's not the cool girl. You don't need to be low maintenance. You don't need to try to stuff things under the rug. You don't need to try to be the good girl or the cool girl or the nice girl or Or the easy girl. You want to actually be the woman who is authentic, who is authentic girl, who is real girl, but who is also respectful girl and trusting girl and open and vulnerable girl. You are real. So that means you also communicate your desires. You also communicate your needs, your feelings, your problems, your requests that you may have of him asking for help. You're able to do all these things and communicate all these things with him. So that he sees that you are a worthy woman. You are a worthy woman who is comfortable with sharing her feelings, who is comfortable with speaking up, who is comfortable with being open, raw, and real, and who is also not a bitch, who is also not telling him what to do, pushing him away, trying to control him, trying to accuse him, accusing him of being a bad man, of having bad intentions, or being incompetent or weak or stupid. You're not doing any of those things. You're actually the queen. Which is the best of both worlds. You have the softness combined with this inner value, this inner worth that you have within yourself, that you know your worth. You know that you are an amazing woman. You are a powerful woman. And you're just coming from a more authentic feminine place that is soft and gentle while you are also powerful and real and authentic with a man. That's a very powerful place to be, that perfect balance. And so that's one thing that is going to take some practice. It is going to take some awareness. But when you can do that, a man will authentically start to feel that you are his dream girl, that he is the woman he wants in his life, that he's the woman that's worth prioritizing, that's worth pursuing, that's worth putting in the extra effort for, because he feels that softness within you. He feels that value within you, and he would never want to lose you from his life because ultimately he knows that you as a high-value woman would be willing to walk away if he's not treating you like a queen, if he's not treating you like a dream girl. Number 2, she's a queen, not a doormat. She is self-focused. She does care about herself. She does value herself almost to the extreme, and she's willing to speak up again almost to the extreme where she's actually telling men what to do. She is criticizing them, complaining, blaming them, shaming them, emasculating them. And ultimately, a man will have only 3 choices with a woman like that. He'll have to submit to her leadership, And become a shell of a man. He'll become depressed, likely lose his masculine self-esteem, and also become a shell of a man. Or he will have to fight her and argue with her and be combative. And ultimately, he's going to walk away regardless of those 3 scenarios. Ultimately, he's going to have to walk away unless, again, he— unless he does totally submit and just is okay with being a shell of a man and in his feminine the rest of the relationship. Some men are like that. They're deeply broken. They're traumatized. And some women are like that as well. And those relationships can work to an extent, but they're very toxic and ultimately unhealthy for both parties. So we don't want to be that as well. What we want to be is the queen, which is taking positive aspects of the bitch, positive aspects of the doormat, and combining them. So the self-focus— you are willing to speak up. You are willing to share your feelings, which we will teach you how to do that with Magnetic Feminine Communication, which is the key. To be able to share your feelings, your desires, your needs with a man in a way where he receives it and he wants to meet those needs. He wants to make you happy and he feels your sense of self-value, which makes him want to value you as well. But you're still respectful, open, gentle, warm, radiant, etc. We combine the best of both of those archetypes. Number 3, she makes herself a priority. It's very important that you are prioritizing your own needs because that's one of the biggest things that shows that you are a high value woman. You are a woman who values herself by investing into herself, by looking out for herself, and believing that she deserves to have the love, care, and attention of a man. And that you deserve to have your needs met, that you are worthy of having your needs met, so that you're okay with speaking up about those needs. Like we talked about earlier, sharing your desires from your heart in a respectful way that draws him closer, that makes him actually want to give you those needs. It makes him want to solve those problems, want to make you happy. So you do have to prioritize your own needs rather than prioritizing his needs, wondering too much about what he needs or what he's thinking or what his desires are, which is all masculine energy. That's you moving into mothering energy. That's you moving into therapist energy or buddy energy or man energy, where now you're trying to protect and provide and be his hero. Which is the reverse polarity. So we have to switch that around to where you start focusing more on yourself, which is feminine energy, self-focus, self-awareness, self-inquiry, mostly listening to your own body, to your heart, to your desires, to the sensations that you feel, and being able to communicate those things in a way that inspires him to want to give those to you and makes him actually value you much more because he says. He says to himself, wow, this is a woman who really values herself. This is a woman who respects herself. I want to make her happy too. I want to make her the happiest woman in the world because she also wants to make herself the happiest woman in the world. Number 4, she does what lights her up. Engage in activities that bring you joy. If you are doing things that fill you up, that fill up your cup and make you feel happy, make you feel good, make you feel good after you've done the activities as well, such as exercise, eating healthy, Drinking lots of water, getting enough sleep, and taking a nap if you need to, and getting out in nature, getting sunlight. But also things that really bring you that joy, like a hobby you have, a favorite book series, or a dance that you love to do. Sometimes it could just be dancing, and maybe you want to dance in front of your man. That could be another form of showing your appreciation with your actions. Your gratitude with your actions is doing a sensual or sexy or just a fun dance. In front of him. I remember when me and my wife were first dating, oftentimes, well, I mean, she still does it to this day, but I would be like working or doing something and she would just come into my office and just start dancing because she was, she was excited about something or she just wanted to be playful. And I love that. I thought it was really fun. And so that's something you can do when you have that, those authentic feelings of joy within you, playfulness, sensuality, sexuality. You can express that through your body and, and do that also activities you can do by yourself, you know, just dancing in your office, dancing in your room. Going out to outdoor hobbies you love— skiing, snowboarding, swimming, sailing. I mean, the list is endless of things that you may find joy in. And if you don't know what that is, you should probably try some more things. You should probably look up meetup.com or go on Google or Facebook events and find things that are going on in your city. Hopefully social events. This is especially powerful if you're single as well, to find those, those activities, those passions that you can do that also involve other people. But look for those things, those crafts, those, those artistic expressions that you can get involved with. Number 5, she isn't bitter about men. It's very apparent when a woman is holding resentment towards men and she's projecting onto new men that she meets her resentment towards her ex, towards her father, towards men in general, that it comes across in her energetic field to a man that is an energy of being closed off. It's a spiky energy. It can come across as being quote unquote bitchy or angry or scowling. That's why they sometimes say women have resting bitch face. I'm sure there's a phrase for that for men as well. But the idea is it's typically coming across from women who've had something bad happen to them in the past. Or have simply been buying into lies from other friends and family that all men are cheaters, all men are assholes, all men are going to abuse you, or they just want sex, or they don't care about your heart or your feelings. And now when you actually come into contact with quality men, they're feeling this closed-off energy from you, this resentment towards men, and they don't want to engage. It causes them to lose that even noticing you, even the energetic attraction. Is dissipated by that. And so the cure for that, the antidote, is to find the examples in your life and in the world of men you appreciate, of actions from men you appreciate, things that they've built, they've invented, they've created, um, music from men that you enjoy, stories you've enjoyed, books, etc. Find things that you can appreciate, especially for the men in your life. So I'm using broad examples, but you can also look for where were times in your life where men were Showing care for you, they were protecting you, they were giving to you, wanting to make you happy. And the more of those examples you can find, the more you will create that in your life. You will start to put out an energy of appreciation and receptivity that quality men will notice, and they will want to continue to give you more things to be appreciative for from them. Number 6, she lets him see all of her. So you need to be able to share your feelings properly through statements such as, I feel. I feel statements are very powerful. Rather than making it about him— you made me feel sad, you made me feel hurt, you need to stop, you need to do this, you need to do that— you're making it about yourself. I feel. I feel sad. I feel anxiety. I feel anger. I feel frustration. I feel confusion. That's about you. That's your openness and your femininity because Here's the other thing: there are no ugly emotions; there are only ugly behaviors. So the emotion itself, whatever you may be feeling with a man, positive or negative, is beautiful. Men want to feel that because that's your femininity. Femininity, your feminine energy, is like the changing ocean; it's like the weather; it's the motion of the universe; it's the cyclical nature of time. And by you showing him that and revealing that to him, he gets to feel. the essence of life, which is your feminine energy, which feels like a life force to him. It feels beautiful. It feels like he's out of the dungeon of boredom and of rigidity that tends to be the masculine man's life of just doing what he needs to do, the day-to-day, if he is a very masculine man. And so when you come into his life, when you come into his world as the feminine, which is all of the colors, rather than his world, which is more black and white, It's it's like he's gone from black and white TV to color TV. It's a totally different experience and amazing experience for him. Number seven, she knows her heart matters. A high value woman believes that her heart matters, that her feelings are important, that her requests are valuable, that she's worth a man wanting to help, provide for, give to. Be the hero for. So when you're actually behaving like a high-value woman through what we teach you, you're proving to yourself first and foremost that you are a high-value woman. And then he gets to see you as a high-value woman. He gets to interact with and experience you as a high-value woman. He says, shoot, I didn't know this is actually a high-value woman. Oh my gosh, look at what she's doing. Look at how she's speaking. Like, she's high value. I need to respect her more. I need, I need to be more on my high-value masculine Or else I could risk losing her. I need to be on my A-game because I don't want to lose her from my life. I don't want to lose a high-value woman from my life. And on top of that, I'm more attracted to her now and I want her. So I don't want to lose a woman that I want and that I'm attracted to and that I desire. So I got to be on my A-game. I'm not going to screw this up. So that's what you— that's the response that you're going to inspire within a man when you are doing this properly and when you actually activate that within him. That you will shift his energy and draw him to you. Number 8, she'll walk away. Now here's the thing. Men fall in love with women who do this because it shows that you have self-respect, you have self-value, you are a worthy woman. Because only an unworthy woman would be willing to accept any bad behavior from men without speaking up, without sharing. That's what we call the doormat archetype. The doormat archetype simply just complies and goes along with whatever the man does and doesn't speak up because she doesn't want to rock the boat. Or she's so terrified of losing him or of being alone that she'll accept all this bad behavior. And, um, and she's miserable also. So she's miserable staying in the relationship, or she's miserable getting out of the relationship. So we want to help you get out of that cycle and become the queen where you can speak up, you can share your feelings respectfully, you can share your problems, needs, and desires, and allow him to help you from that place and give to you, which you would be shocked by. How much he will give to you, likely when you use what we teach you in our advanced principles. But if he doesn't, then you have to be willing to walk away. There's an old saying in sales and negotiation that the person with the most power is the person who is most willing to walk away. And if you're willing to walk away, oftentimes you'll find that's when the man will start changing. That's when the man will start giving you what you want, unfortunately. But it has to be authentic and it has to be real. And ideally, you should have communicated properly before that period so that you give him opportunities to shift naturally within himself. But if he doesn't, then you have to have that ability, and that's oftentimes what will cause him to shift. And if not, then it's not a loss. You're actually winning because you moved on from an unhealthy situation. Number 9, she expects the best. So how do you do this? Often you have to start by really visualizing what it would look like if he was devoting himself to you, if he was treating you well, if he was checking in with you regularly, and if he was treating you like a queen. If any man was treating you like a queen, what would that look like? What would that feel like? And then from that place, you can interact with him as if that's who he is and as if that's what he's going to do in the, in the future. So I'll give you some examples with that. So let's say your man, we'll just use a classic example. Let's say your man isn't washing the dishes. Let's say you live together, he's not washing the dishes. And then, so you see, you notice the, uh, the dishwasher is starting to pile up and you're expecting him not to do the dishes. So you're like getting upset with him or you're just, um, not saying anything and doing the dishes yourself. And you're resentful, you're angry. However, in another situation where you expect him to treat you well, you're likely to come to him and say something respectful to him like, hey babe, I'm feeling a bit concerned because I'm noticing the dishes are piling up again and I would love it if you could help me with that, or would you be able to help me with that? And he'll likely say yes to that. If you had it— if you said it respectfully with actually expecting that he's going to want to help you, then he's going to be much more likely to actually follow through and do this with you. Now, this is just a small example of the idea of starting to actually proactively ask him for help in a respectful way and expecting that he's going to say yes, because why wouldn't he? If you're a worthy woman, a worthy woman believes that men want to help her. Men want to give to her. Men want to treat her well and invest and commit to her because she's amazing. She's awesome. Why wouldn't he? Why wouldn't any man be lucky to be with you? That's who you are. At the end of the day, understand we're all learning and growing. Give yourself grace in this process, but also give yourself standards. You're not being too needy because you want someone who's consistent, kind, respectful, and emotionally available. Those are completely valid needs. 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