10 Things A Man Will Do ONLY If He Really Loves You

Ten things a Man Will Do Only if He really loves you if you've been questioning, wondering what's going on with your man, does he love me? Does he love me not? Is he pulling away? Is he pulling close? Does he want to marry me? Or is he just seeing me as a fling or as friends with benefits, then this will open your eyes and reveal all the secrets to you. I'm Brody Boyd with Magnetize youe man. And for over 20 years, combined with my wife Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with the man they desire. So let's go ahead and dive right in. Sign number 10 is that he doesn't threaten the relationship every time something goes wrong. There may be issues in your relationship, there may be deep challenges and arguments that you have occasionally. But if he's threatening to leave the relationship, if he's bringing up the divorce word, if you're in a marriage or if you're in a relationship, he's talking about breaking up, he's talking about seeing other people or opening up the relationship, then that's a sign that he doesn't deeply love you. He's seeing the relationship more as a convenience rather than a commitment. He's not seeing you as somebody to really protect and to protect your heart and not be saying things that would make you feel unsafe in the relationship. For example, him threatening to leave the relationship or constantly questioning if the relationship is the right fit for him or if you're both meant to be together, that's a bad sign that you don't want to hear and it's not a sign that he really loves you. Number nine is that he's interested in growing with you, not just pleasing you. What this means is if a man has deep feelings of love for you, he sees the relationship as a long term potential. He sees the relationship like a castle that he is building, that he's laying down the foundation brick by brick by brick. And he wants to make it strong, he wants to grow it, he wants to improve it, he wants it to last over time, which means he's not always going to do things just to please you, but he's also going to do things that are in the best interest of the relationship long term. For example, bringing up tough subjects, having tough conversations, going into problem areas or things that he foresees could be problem areas for you and him in your relationship, he's willing to address those things such as long term goals or values, alignments or an issue that he sees, for example, with something that you want to have in the relationship that he may feel he's not capable of delivering, or something he wants in the relationship that he feels that you may not be capable of being for him. And so he wants to have those conversations so that you can work it out. He wants to find a solution. He wants to find that win win where both of you can get your needs met. And so the relationship has a foundation of strength long term where neither of you are feeling like your needs are being left out of the relationship, your desires, and that the relationship is serving both of you ultimately. And that doesn't mean it has to be perfect all the time. There can be issues, there can be hiccups, but it means that he's willing to address those things. He wants to uncover them, he wants to work on them, and he wants to put that effort in long term to make sure the relationship sustains. Before we get to our next point, if you haven't yet, I highly recommend taking our free Magnetize youe Man quiz to learn the advanced principles and really customize this for yourself to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man you really desire. By clicking on the link in the description or comments below this video. Or you can go to our website or magnetizeyourman.com to get that now as well. The eighth thing a man will do only if he really loves you, is he will honor and cherish your feminine essence. And what this means is he's valuing your heart, he's valuing your essence as a woman. Because every woman has a feminine core, a feminine instinct, and a man who is connected to his masculine core and his masculine instinct, he's going to cherish that part inside of you. He's going to see it as his polar opposite that's worth protecting. It has all of that juice, all of that energy, all of the essence that he can't provide for himself because you are different than him. Fundamentally. Masculine energy is very different than feminine energy. And that's what creates the attraction, that's what creates the polarity and the love and the devotion long term. So he's going to want to protect that. He's going to actually stop you from becoming another man, from, from becoming another buddy of his, a partner, a roommate. He wants you to be his woman. He wants there to be that difference, that exchange. He doesn't want equality, he wants that difference of energies that creates a dance where he can lead, he can be strong in his masculine energy, he can Feel connected to that core. And you can follow his leadership. You can appreciate and enjoy and relax while he is giving his gifts to you of protection, provision and wanting to be your hero. That's a beautiful dance, which creates a. A relationship that lasts over time because now you're both connected to your essences and you can really enjoy that flow of energy, that connection, that spark and that passion that happens in that dance. Just like a salsa dance, just like a ballroom dance, a West coast swing dance. You have to have these differences of energy. So he's going to value and cherish and want to honor and protect that part inside of you, that womanly part, that soft, vulnerable side of you that is completely different than him, that is your heart, your vulnerability, your feelings, your presence as a woman, your energy as a woman, the cycles of your emotions that flow through you. He's going to want to honor that and he's going to nurture all those parts inside of you that are girly, that are womanly, that he's going to see that as a treasure that needs to be protected. He'll become like that dragon that's guarding the treasure of the castle, but because you become precious to him and he doesn't want to lose that. He doesn't want the relationship to become depolarized. He doesn't want it to become just buddies or roommates. So he's going to make sure that he stays strong and he keeps his leadership high and that you're enjoying the dance, that he's providing for you, that he's leading you on, on that magic carpet ride. And if you aren't enjoying it, he's willing to listen and make changes and adjust himself on his own, not because you tell him to, but on his own to make things better and make you happy. The seventh thing a man will only do if he really loves you is he will respond positively to your gratitude. He's going to get lit up. He's going to get his sense of masculine value from knowing he's doing a good job as a man, that he's providing that value for you, that he is worthy, that he is respectable, that he is admirable, and that he is being the hero, that he is being that strong knight and shining armor for you. And he knows that his signal that he's doing a good job in the relationship is your appreciation, your gratitude, your respect. He wants to make sure he's earning that consistently and getting that from you, and that you are a woman who is appreciative, who is grateful, who doesn't feel entitled to his gifts and commands him like a slave, but more inspires him like a hero. He wants to know that you value him and you respect him as a man, that you don't need to take it from him. He wants to give it to you, he wants to earn your respect, he wants to earn your admiration. Because ultimately that's his deepest desire as a man is to feel trusted and respected by his woman. And if he feels that you're a woman who can't give that to him either because you're broken or because he simply can't be of service in that way, maybe he's broken, he can't provide that value for you, then ultimately he's going to have his masculine self esteem dip and he's going to start losing his self esteem, he's going to feel more depressed and he's going to start pulling away, arguing with you, or potentially leaving the relationship. So the way you can cure that is make sure you are appreciating him for those things he does for you and showing that gratitude. And then if he's a healthy man and he's not broken, he's going to continue to want to do that more and more for you because now he has a clear path on how to win with you. The sixth thing a man will do only if he really loves you is he will be very interested in claiming you. This means that he wants you to be his woman and he wants to be your man. Just like the song. Cause I'm your lady and you are my man. Like that's what he wants. He wants to claim you in that way where you know he's your man. He's committed to you in all the different ways. He's claimed you and said, I'm going to protect your heart. I'm taking responsibility for you in our relationship. I'm going to make sure that you are happy and I want to protect and provide and be that for you long term. I am claiming my territory and you are my territory. And if you don't like it, then you could always leave. You could always tell me that you don't like it and then hopefully you will want to be a part of that because I want you to be part of my world. That's what he will be saying when he is putting his energetic stake in the ground and saying, yes, I'm your man, I'm claiming you. And typically this will look like him wanting to commit, him wanting to be your boyfriend, him wanting to be your husband, him proposing to you, asking you out, consistently wanting to hang out with you, consistently wanting to protect your heart, wanting to solve problems for you, and ultimately wanting to make you happy. So you have to look for those things. And ultimately seeing that he has interest in claiming you, that's going to show you how much he actually loves you. The fifth thing a man will do only if he really loves you, is he will want to solve problems for you and help you. Masculine energy is about solving problems. Finding feminine energy is about sharing problems. And so when he sees that you have a problem that he can help you with and he solves it for you, that's a sign that he's starting to feel love and devotion for you. He wants to help you, he wants to provide. He wants to be that hero that night in shining armor, helping the damsel in distress. Like he wants you to be his princess, that he can rescue, that he can serve, that he can fight for, that he can make things better for. So that again, he feels his sense of value, he feels a purpose in his life, a sense of mission. Because if a man doesn't feel a sense of purpose and mission in his life, ultimately he's living an unfulfilled life as a man. That is how men feel happiness, which is typically different than women. Men feel happiness by having a sense of purpose and mission. Women tend to feel happiness more by feeling loved, cherished, and adored by those around them. And so that's the difference between feminine energy and masculine energy. And if a man is connected to that and he wants to make you happy, he's going to be compelled to want to make your life easier in some ways, to want to solve those problems and feel that he could be of service, feel that he can be of value for you. The fourth thing a man will do only if he really loves you, is he will want to feel needed by you. Now, needed by you means that he has a fundamental role in your life. Now, a lot of women are out there feeling like it's better for them not to need a man. I don't need no man. I'm strong, independent woman. I'm boss, babe, I got it handled. And what happens then is they actually are longing for a man in their life. They're wanting a relationship. Even though they say everything is good and I'm fine, they want a man in their life, and they're wondering why they can't attract a man. You know why? Because a man doesn't feel like he is needed in that woman's life. He goes on a date with her, he hangs out with her several times and he starts to feel, wow, you got it. You got it handled. You know how to solve your own problems. You're making all your own money. You got all your connections, you got all your things figured out in your house. You have all these people that do these things for you. Why do. Why do you need me? What am I here for? What am I actually able to provide for you that you can't give to yourself already? If a man feels that on a fundamental level that there's not a space for him in your life, a space that he can fill, he's going to feel not needed. And ultimately that's going to cause him not to feel any feelings of love for that woman. He's going to start pulling away, he's going to start losing interest or the polarity will reverse. And that woman becomes a mommy to him, and he becomes the little boy. And she's taking care of him. She's being the strong one. She's being the masculine provider, giving, giving, giving to him, and he just gets to receive and enjoy. But again, he has no feelings of love and devotion for that woman. He might care about her just like a son really cares about his mother, but he doesn't feel strong sexual, romantic, passionate love for her. And that's a difference. That's a difference that will cause him eventually to pull away, most likely, or to end up cheating on that woman, hopefully not. Or finding another woman to be with that he can fill that role with. He can be the hero for he can provide for her in some fundamental ways that he feels needed, valued and wanted in her life, and appreciated and respected for what he can provide. The third thing a man will do only if he really loves you is he will be drawn to your vulnerability. He will love your vulnerability. He will cherish it. He will want to protect it, really. Rather than a man who gets turned off by your vulnerability, who says, no, I don't want to feel that. I don't want you to put your emotions on me. I don't want to hear your emotions. I don't want to hear your feelings. Like, you need to help yourself. You need to take care of yourself. That would be something that a broken man would say. Or a man who clearly has no feelings of care and love for you. That's a man who is not invested into the relationship. So when a man really starts to care about you and love you, he's drawn to your vulnerability. That's his prize that he feels he gets to protect that, that Soft, tender spot inside of you, your feminine core that he gets to protect. Like Super Mario protecting and rescuing Princess Peach from the castle and from Bowser. He's wanting to serve that. It's a similar feeling that people have for a little kitten or a puppy that's lost in the rain and that's needing help, that's needing food. You want to help that puppy. You want to help that kitten because it feels so vulnerable, because it's soft, because it's tender, because it's needing your help. That's what a man feels for your heart when it is open, when it is available. It's like this precious gift that he wants to make sure is happy, is nurtured, and is invested into, because that's where he gets his sense of masculine purpose from. And that's the same reason why a lot of men will take on very dangerous jobs, such as being a firefighter, being a policeman, being a soldier. They'll put their lives on the line because they want to provide for the woman that they love and the family that they care about, and make sure they're safe and also be protecting those who are vulnerable, who need their help. They get a sense of purpose. They get a sense of mission in their lives. And that's willing. That's. That's where they feel willing to put their life on the line, is for that. For that sense of purpose that it gives them. And so that can be activated within every man and for you, when he feels your vulnerability and he wants that even more from you. The second thing a man will do only if he really loves you, is he will love you unconditionally. And this means that even on days when you are not necessarily being on your best behavior, you're not being respectful towards him, you're not trusting him with things. You might even been in your masculine behavior telling him what to do. It's going to turn him off in that moment. It's going to make him pull away, likely in some ways, or want to shut down. But if a man really cares about you, he's still going to lean in, he's still going to want to come back to you and. And talk about it, fix it, because he loves you unconditionally. He's going to make those. Those efforts to give it another shot, to let you redeem yourself in a way, to become respectful, to become appreciative, to be coming back to your feminine core. Now, of course, if you're consistently abusive towards a man and you're constantly disrespectful towards him, or starting arguments or complaining or criticizing him, or shaming him, or trying to change him or control him, or lead him, or treat him like a child. Yes, eventually a healthy man will walk away from that relationship because he's not going to put up with bad behavior indefinitely. But I would say for the most part, if a man really cares about you, he's going to give you a lot of grace. He's going to give you a lot of time to learn how to be respectful, how to be caring, how to be vulnerable and feminine. And he's going to even try to lead you towards that. He's going to try to help you so that you can feel safe, so that you can feel respectful towards him, so that you can feel appreciative and that you will stop doing some of those behaviors that may have pushed him away in the past, or may have pushed away other men in the past, but because he really cares about you. And if he's a man who's connected to his masculine core, which he will be more and more that you use what we teach you here and that you start to get coaching and support around this to really master these principles and connect to who you really are as a woman, he's going to feel activated in his masculine core more and more. And you're going to eventually get onto an upward spiral where you naturally want to show him more respect and he wants to show you more love. And you get into a positive upward spiral rather than a downward spiral where you're showing him disrespect and then he's pulling away his love for you and maybe distancing himself or closing up. And now you're in the negative spiral. So we want to avoid that. And a man who cares about you will help avoid that situation as well and make sure that that he gives you that love to get you back into a healthy place in your relationship together. And the first thing a man will do only if he really loves you, is he will want to make you happy. And he will look for the rule books on how to do that. So what this means again is a man is getting his gauge as a man as his ability to provide and be of service and be a hero by how happy his woman is. If you're happy in your life, he's going to automatically and unconsciously believe that was because of him and it's going to feel really good to him. So it is also important for you to continue to embrace your self care and your social life and connecting to your feminine energy and looking inward and getting support and learning like you are here. And so that you're naturally coming to the relationship with more of a full cup. In fact, your cup may be overflowing so that he's going to feel like his job is easier as a man to make you happy because you're already a naturally happy woman. But then when things are off and when there are problems, as there will be, which is normal in a relationship, he's going to want to fix it and he's going to look towards the rule books. What are your rule books? What are your requirements? In a way, what are the things that makes you happy as a woman? And it may be different than other women. Every woman is slightly different. But some of the core things that are going to make you happy, he's going to look for and he's going to look to how he can provide those things, such as giving you more attention or giving you more love and devotion, or listening to you or asking you questions, or checking in with your feelings, or wanting to help make you feel safe in the relationship by not pulling away, by not withdrawing his love for you or saying hurtful things to you. And he's going to adjust those things on his own because he naturally wants to make you happy, not because you're telling him what to do and you're complaining constantly and you're criticizing him and forcing him to make you happy, like he doesn't owe you anything, he's not obligated to make you happy, but he's going to naturally want to do that because of a lot of the other things we already mentioned, such as your vulnerability, such as your respectfulness, such as your ability to allow him to feel needed in your life and feel grateful for what he can provide for you and giving him opportunities to serve you, giving him things that he can help you with, asking him for advice, asking him for tips, sharing with him in the right way your vulnerable, respectful problems that he can solve. Whether it's problems in the relationship, it's problems with your health, with your career, with your family, with your friends, there's a lot of different problems that he can help solve for you. And if he does solve those things for you, especially knowing what his skill set is and he does a good job when you appreciate him for that and you let him know how it made you feel and that he did do a good job, his self esteem is going to rise as a man, his testosterone is going to go up and the polarity is going to increase in your relationship. And it's going to continue to get better and better and better. Hope this was helpful. Much love and I look forward to talking you more on our next powerful training very soon.