7 Dream Girl Qualities That Make Men Obsessed

How to be his dream girl rather than just a placeholder. Now, if you're in a situation with a man where you feel like you're just standing in, you're just another warm body for him. You're just another thing on his list of priorities, his list of things that he could be interacting with, he could be engaging with, but you're not on the top of the list. You're actually somewhere in the middle or at the bottom potentially. Then this video is going to really help you to stop being that placeholder, that option for him and start becoming a priority, start becoming his queen, his dream girl that he will ultimately want to be with and want to commit to, and want to even obsess over long term because of his deep devotion for you. I'm Brody Boyd and for over 20 years, combined with my wife, Auntie, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man they want fast. So let's go ahead and dive deeper into this. So there are a couple of key components to becoming his dream girl and becoming the type of woman that he can't stop thinking about. Now, the first one is to engage in your feminine energy. Engage in the feminine pole, the feminine magnetism. What is feminine energy? Feminine energy is your heart, it is your emotions, it is your feelings, it is your vulnerability. It is the most intimate and most sacred part of yourself, not your body. It has nothing to do with your body, your looks, your physical appearance. It has everything to do with what's going on on in here, what's going on inside of you, at your core. Because every woman has a feminine core and a feminine instinct. Every man has a masculine core and a masculine instinct. And by tapping into your feminine core, you can activate within him his masculine core. And what is the masculine core? It's about leading. It's about devoting himself to you. It's about taking the relationship forward and investing into the relationship, pursuing you, making things happen. It is also about him being your hero, which means he's taking on responsibility for you, for the relationship, and wanting to make it as great as possible. He feels a deep connection to your heart. And his essence as a man is activated by knowing he's able to make you happy. He's able to do something that provides value for you as his woman or as a woman he is interested in. That'll make him feel great, that'll make him feel like he has a mission and he has a purpose in his life and will make him want to continue to see you and to make the relationship better and better over time rather than losing interest, pulling away, or having you on a low rung of his priority list. When he doesn't feel that masculine feminine polarity, he doesn't feel a sense of responsibility. He doesn't feel that protective instinct within him, that care instinct, that devotion instinct that makes him want to treat you like a queen, treat you like his dream girl. So how do you start activating this into your relationship with him where it's. It's going to start with a process of lowering your guards. So in the past, in your relationships and your dating, you may have felt like you had to protect yourself, that you had to put on a mask. You had to pretend to be someone that you thought that he wanted you to be. You had to try to say the right things and do the right things to make him happy, to make him attracted to you, to make him want you. Well, now, today we have to stop all that. We have to let it all go. Let it go, let it go. Because you're not going back anymore. You're not going to do that anymore. Going to be free, and you're going to be empowered in your feminine energy, which means that actually you're allowing him to put on the armor. You're taking off the warrior armor of being the boss babe or being the mommy or being the strong one or being the perfect woman for him. You have to take off that armor and that mask and instead hand it over to him. Let him start to become the hero, the soldier, the warrior, the king. He's going to take on that armor. He's going to take on that ability to be perfect in your eyes, to want to please you, to want to make you happy, to want to take care of and provide for you, solve your problems, rather than you having to solve his problems or lead the relationship forward yourself, which again, is being the mommy. It's being the masculine energy. So you have to let go of that armor. You have to take it off, and you have to be okay with being perfectly imperfect. Whenever you're trying to be too perfect for a man, that means you are in masculine energy. You're trying to put on some kind of performance to make him like you to try to get an outcome. Anytime you're trying to get an outcome that is masculine, anytime you're detached from the outcome, that is feminine energy that's going to draw him to you. So you have to let all that go and instead focus on opening up, being vulnerable. Now imagine this analogy. Imagine if a man was walking home from work and, and when you open the door, you are wearing a suit of armor. You are wearing this like the knight in shining armor, right? You're, you're wearing the, the chain mail and the armor from the, the dark ages. Let's say literally the dark ages. So you're wearing this armor. You're inside, you're covered, you're dark, you're protected, you're safe. You feel safe. That's the illusion of safety. You feel safe. And now you're expecting to attract a man. You're expecting him to want you. You're expecting him to think of you as his dream girl. You're expecting him to want to be with you forever. But he opens the door and he just sees this suit of armor. It looks like another man. It feels like another man. It feels like he has to now get out his sword and protect himself. Because you're wearing this armor. You're getting into an argument with him. You are not being vulnerable. You are not trusting him. You are not respecting him. And now he feels a block. He feels, why am I here? Why am I needed? You got this handled. You're. You're protecting yourself. You have the house protected. You are the powerful boss, babe, independent woman. I don't need no man. So I'm just going to move on. I'm going to. I'm going to leave. I'm going to lose interest because I don't want you to. I want you to be happy. And it seems like you're happy without me. It seems like you're already good, you're protected. However, imagine another situation where the man comes home and instead you are wearing sexy lingerie and you have litten some candles and the mood lighting is on and you're very seductively just like pulling him in to the bedroom. That's a totally different response that it's going to produce in a man because. Not because of the sexiness, but I'm using an analogy here, but because of the vulnerability, because of the openness. Now he gets to put away his armor and take off his shield and put away his sword from the day or from his normal life. And he gets to be with you, which he is now entering the threshold of a world of pleasure, a world of seduction, a world of bliss and joy and sexuality and sensuality. The softness, the warmth that is you in your feminine. And primarily this is an analogy for you and how you may be using your heart with a man. Your heart. A lot of women are out there with their hearts full of armor and full of spikiness and full of them being, being this strong, independent woman themselves and not needing a man and not wanting to open up and not trusting and not respecting him. Which is fine because likely this has happened over a period of time because of fear, because of past hurts, traumas that may have happened, which is very unfortunate. However, if that armor is continued to be worn, you're going to have a very difficult time attracting a man and drawing him in and making him see you as his dream girl. So the solution is to think about that and think about your heart being the naked, vulnerable, open woman rather than the woman wearing the armor and wearing the shield and having her sword out. And that's where vulnerability comes into place. And that's where sharing your emotions and sharing your feelings and being open to having a man be your hero and trusting him to do that, respecting him enough to do that and giving him that chance, that's when you can actually have the dynamic shift. You can have the energy shift to now, have him coming close, now have him wanting to devote himself to you and be your superhero. So we have to let that go. Now there are some specific principles and techniques you can use to help you along this journey as well, so you don't have to do it alone. And that's actually one of the first steps, is to actually get support with this. Because the more you are doing this on your own, the more you are trying to, to be perfect for him and trying to figure it out, that is you still being in masculine energy. Because that's what happens when a woman becomes a strong, independent woman and she feels, I don't need no man, I don't need any help, I can do this on my own, I can figure it out on my own. And if a man wants me, he's going to force me out of my shell or he's going to rip the armor off of me, or he's going to be masculine enough to dominate me. That show me that I can finally submit and I can finally relax into my feminine or. Well, likely that's not going to happen because most men are not going to go through that effort for something they don't even feel valued in doing that. They don't feel that they are actually wanted and valued for being the masculine with you. So why would they continue to push, push, push into that if they feel like that's not even what you want? So you have to go first. And the beauty of this is through the law of polarity, when you Shift first. You will cause the man to shift because the more feminine you are, the more you will attract masculine energy. High value feminine energy attracts high value masculine energy. So you have to go first. You can go first. You have an opportunity to go first and that can shift him into his masculine. So that's the first step. And then secondly, you need to practice using magnetic feminine communication, which is one of the biggest things that we teach in our courses and our, and for our clients and our coaching on how to actually communicate with a man in a way that is vulnerable, that is trusting, that is respecting, that is permissive. So that a man can want to engage with you and not feel like he's being controlled, criticized, blamed, led, manipulated, pressured, mothered, etc. There's so many different ways that you can go into masculine energy and push away a man, but through feminine communication and being open and vulnerable, you can draw him in, such as through sharing your feelings. Your feelings and your emotions are the core of you as a woman. Remember that. Write that down. So the more you can share your feelings in the right way, in a way that's respectful, the more a man can feel your heart, feel your feminine energy and start to feel that attraction, feel that polarity and become closer to you, become drawn in, become obsessed with you, even because he feels your heart. That's the essence of that attraction for a man. When he can feel your soft, vulnerable, open heart. Wanting a hero. Just like that song I need a hero. I need, I need a hero. Letting a man come in and feeling that so that you can actually have that hero in your life. So you need to be able to share your feelings properly through statements such as I feel, I feel. Statements are very powerful. Rather than making it about him. You made me feel sad. You made me feel hurt. You need to stop. You need to do this, you need to do that. You're making it about yourself. I feel. I feel sad, I feel anxiety, I feel anger, I feel frustration, I feel confusion. That's about you. That's your openness and your femininity. Because here's the other thing. There are no ugly emotions. There are only ugly behaviors. So the emotion itself, whatever you may be feeling with a man, positive or negative, is beautiful. Men want to feel that because that's your feminine femininity. Your feminine energy is like the changing ocean. It's like the weather, it's the motion of the universe. It's a cyclical nature of time. And by you showing him that and revealing that to him, he gets to feel the essence of life. Which is your feminine energy, which feels like a life force to him. It feels beautiful. It feels like he's out of the dungeon of boredom and of rigidity. That tends to be the masculine man's life of just doing what he needs to do the day to day, if he is very masculine man. And so when you come into his life, when you come into his world as the feminine, which is all of the colors rather than his world, which is more black and white, it's like he's gone from black and white TV to color tv. It's a totally different experience and amazing experience for him. So you do that through your feelings, through your emotions. You don't need to be low maintenance. You don't need to try to stuff things under the rug. You don't need to try to be the good girl or the cool girl or the nice girl or the easy girl. You want to actually be the woman who is authentic, who is authentic girl, who is real girl, but who is also respectful girl and trusting girl and open and vulnerable girl. You are real. So that means you also communicate your desires, you also communicate your needs, your feelings, your problems, your requests that you may have of him asking for help. You're able to do all these things and communicate all these things with him so that he sees that you are a worthy woman. You are a worthy woman who is comfortable with sharing her feelings, who is comfortable with speaking up, who is comfortable with being open, raw and real, and who is also not a bitch, who is also not telling him what to do, pushing him away, trying to control him, trying to accuse him, accusing him of being a bad man, of having bad intentions or being incompetent or weak or stupid. You're not doing any of those things. You're actually the queen, which is the best of both worlds. You have the softness combined with this inner value, this inner worth that you have within yourself, that you know your worth. You know that you are amazing woman. You are a powerful woman. And you're just coming from a more authentic feminine place that is soft and gentle, while you are also powerful and real and authentic with a man. That's a very powerful place to be, that perfect balance. And so that's one thing that is going to take some practice. It is going to take some awareness. But when you can do that, a man will authentically start to feel that you are his dream girl, that he is the woman he wants in his life, that he is the woman that's worth prioritizing, that's worth pursuing, that's worth Putting in the extra effort for. Because he feels that softness within you, he feels that value within you. And he would never want to lose you from his life because ultimately he knows that you, as a high value woman, would be willing to walk away if he's not treating you like a queen, if he's not treating you like a dream girl. And so to have that ability to walk away as well and to be able to leave an unhealthy situation, to leave a bad situation, that's going to be very important. Now, it doesn't mean that you can't still give him a chance and give him a period of time, which is what we help our clients with in our courses, with our 90 day challenge. You give him 90 days using what we'll teach you and how to go through this process of sharing your feelings and being in your magnetic feminine polarity with him in all the different ways so that you draw him close, you make him desire you, you make him feel deep devotion and attraction and love for you. And if he doesn't step up and become that superhero for you and start treating you like that over that period of nine days, then you have to be willing to walk away. But generally what we see is that he's going to come closer, he's going to want to pursue you, he's going to want to do those things. Because most men want to be a hero. They want to have a woman that they can really treat well and who they can adore and love and cherish because they're going to feel like they have a purpose and a meaning in doing so. And so you just have to give him that chance. But there are a percentage of men who are broken and that will become very apparent pretty quickly if he's one of those broken men. But likely it's not going to be the case. Likely he's going to start shifting and you can have that full love and empowering, amazing relationship that's polarized that you've always wanted so much love. Hope this was helpful and I look forward to talking to you again very soon. Bye bye.