A coach explains how reframing men as heroes instead of villains can shift how you treat them, which then shapes how they behave. She argues that recognizing masculine drives for service and protection encourages men to live into that identity.
Shift from focusing on the villain to focusing on the hero. Now what this means is every man you can have a certain view of, you can either see him as a villain for you, or you can see him as a hero for you. Now here's the thing. How you see a man will often affect how you treat a man and how you react and respond to him. And if you treat him like a villain, a man is going to respond in a certain way. That likely continuing to treat you like a villain. To be critical, to be hurtful, to be pulling away, to not be being a good partner for you. However, if you start seeing a man or seeing your man as a hero, what if he could be your superhero? Oftentimes he's going to start behaving and living into that identity of becoming your hero. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Often how you see men and how you see a man or your man in he will tend to become that way because men tend to want to live up to your expectations. The fundamental drive from the masculine energy is to be of service, of value and to want to make his woman happy and the people around him happier that he is providing some sort of purpose in his life to others. He's making a difference. It's the big reason why men will often go to war or they will build empires or they will take on really tough jobs is because they want to make their family happ happy, they want to make their woman happy, they want to provide, they want to protect.
