7 Irresistible Qualities Men Look For in Women

Do not have sex with him until he has claimed you. Now, what I mean by claiming you is when a man has really chosen you as his woman, he's put his stake in the ground. He said, yes, you are my woman, I'm your man. I'm going to take care of you. I'm going to make you happy for the long haul, energetically. This is very important because ideally you should be having sex with a man until exclusivity, really, until marriage and a real deeply committed relationship. However, marriage is just a piece of paper. And that doesn't necessarily mean that a man has fully claimed you emotionally as well. So what we're looking for here is has a man emotionally claimed you to the point where he's now taking responsibility for the relationship, for your happiness, and he is saying, I'm going to show care for your heart and I'm going to take care of you. And this is really what I'm committed to, what I'm invested into. How do you know if a man has claimed you? Well, you have to look to his actions. Men can say lots of things when the day is long. They can say how much they love you, they can say how much they care about you. You. But until he's actually claimed you with his actions, demonstrating consistently over time that he's showing care for your heart, he's wanting to help you, he's wanting to solve your problems, he's wanting to provide, he's wanting to protect and be your hero, and he ultimately wants to make you happy. He has to demonstrate that with his actions, that he's doing that exclusively for you, that he's making you a priority and not just an option. He's cutting out and then making a decision, which is to cut out the other options in his life and focus on you. Especially as far as romance goes, that is when you know he has claimed you, and that is the only time when you should have sex with him. Otherwise, a man is not going to be able to develop those really deep feelings of love for you, most likely because he's not going to be fully invested yet. It's much harder to negotiate with somebody after the purchase has happened. If you buy a house and then afterwards try to negotiate the price, it's usually not going to work so well. So you kind of have to do that beforehand before you get involved in a situation where now your emotions are involved. And biologically, you're much more likely to see him as the only man that you should be with because your body may feel that you might be pregnant with his child. You have to wait until that is clarified, otherwise he's not going to be that invested in the relationship. Likely he's not going to see it as a long term potential. And so you want to make sure you have been claimed fully first. So. Hi, I'm Brody Boyd with Magnetize youe man. And for over 20 years, combined with my wife Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful, successful women all over the world to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man they desire fast. So let's go ahead and continue with the seven principles of what really makes a man feel deep feelings of love for a woman. Now, the sixth principle is to express gratitude to your man three times per day. Now this is very powerful because what it does is it allows you to look for those things within him that you do appreciate, the those things that you like about him and that you respect and that you admire, and the things that actually make you feel good and make you feel happy. It trains your brain to be focused on those things rather than the things you don't like about him, the things that he's doing wrong, the things that don't make you happy. Because of course he's probably doing some of those things, maybe a lot of those things right now. However, if you can look for those things that he's doing that you like and appreciate and let him know about those things, you're giving him a guidebook, you're giving him a map to do more of those things for you. You help him to feel appreciated, you help him feel valued in the relationship which the masculine needs within every man. He needs to feel valued for him to be able to feel deep feelings of love for you. So once you can give him that, that display of the way that he can win with you, the way that he is doing a good job, he's going to want to do more of that, ideally, and simply just sharing from your heart, vulnerably being detached from the outcome. Because if you're sharing your gratitudes with him to try to get something from him, or to try to change him in some way, it's likely not going to work or be as effective. What's more important is to practice feminine detachment from the outcome. Because the masculine is attached to outcomes, the feminine detaches from outcomes. So feminine energy means, in this situation, simply sharing from your heart the ways that he makes you feel good whenever he does it, even if it was something he did yesterday. Thank you so much for helping me with this. It made Me feel so safe and made me feel so good. Whenever you share those things with him and you're detached from the outcome, that's when it's going to have a powerful impact. Because men are very sensitive to when somebody, especially their woman, is trying to manipulate them and trying to get them to do something or get them to change. So it's very important whenever you use anything that we teach you that you're doing it from a detached place of simply feminine vulnerability. And if over time, a man isn't meeting those needs and he's not stepping into being more of that hero for you, ultimately you may have to walk away, unfortunately, because he's a man that's not capable of showing that care for your heart. Now, the fifth thing that men deeply love in a woman is when you don't give him unsolicited advice. If you find yourself giving him advice, trying to encourage him in a certain direction, trying to help him, trying to solve his problems, trying to make him happy, that's ultimately going to push him away. Because you are in the masculine. You are in your masculine energy trying to manipulate him, mother himself, tell him what to do, lead him, guide him, et cetera. It's going to feel disrespectful to a man. And that's the ultimate thing that will push a man away out of a relationship, is when he feels disrespected. Because the deepest need for the masculine is to feel trusted and respected. It's huge for men. Just like being loved and desired and adored is important for you in a relationship, for a man, it's different. And he needs trust and respect. So by telling him what to do or giving him advice or trying to solve problems for him, that's going to ultimately make him feel that he's in the feminine energy, that he's in the feminine role, which most guys are not going to want to submit into the feminine role, into the feminine energy, unless they're naturally a more feminine guy. However, every man has at his core a masculine core. And so at some level it's going to feel bad to him. And usually when it feels bad to a man, he's going to start pulling away, or he's going to get combative and defensive and actually argue with you or become resentful. So either way, it's not going to create a good scenario. Now, there is one opportunity that you have where you can give him advice, and that is when he has asked you for it. If he has asked you for help, if he has asked you for a Specific opinion or advice on something. Of course you can give it to him if it feels good to you. If it doesn't feel good to you, then you want to share your feelings with him around that, using magnetic feminine communication that will teach you. And then you can give it to him and it's going to feel good to you and it's going to feel good to him. Now the other opportunity beyond that is, is you can actually ask him permission to give advice to him. And you could say, could I? Is it okay with you if I share a tip that I have for you around that or is it okay if I give you some advice around that that may be helpful. Now you got to be careful with this because it still be can be leaning a little bit into the mothering realm and the telling him what to do realm. But if you ask respectfully and you ask for that permission, he has the opportunity to say yes or no. So you're giving him back that leadership, that masculine leadership, just like in a dance, in a tango. And he can say yes, I would like that advice from you, or no thanks, I'm good and leave it up to him. And you want to be detached from the outcome. Whatever he says, be okay with that because that's how you can maintain your feminine energy in that relationship and help maintain the polarity which is the only thing that creates long term chemistry, attraction, desire in a romantic relationship, those opposite energies attracting of the masculine and the feminine. So it's very important to avoid that. Now before we get into our next point, I highly recommend also taking our free quiz to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man you desire fast with a customization for your specific situation by clicking the link in the description below or going to our website magnetizeyourman.com, which will really help you with integrating these principles into the advanced levels for your unique situation. Now, the fourth thing that men love, the principle that men love with women who follow it, is to be happy. A man wants to feel like he's winning. He wants to feel like he's doing a good job and he wants to be with a woman who is happy. Because here's the thing, if a man is with you and you're unhappy in the relationship, if you're just an unhappy person, or if you're going through a tough period in your life or you have some negative emotions in your system, he's going to feel somewhat responsible for that, whether or not he is. Maybe you're just upset because of something that happened at Work, something going on with your family or a health condition or financial situation, Whatever might be happening in your world, if you're with your man and you're feeling down and depressed and unhappy and angry or sad, whatever might be going on, he's going to feel responsible for that, which is actually okay. Because the more that man is in his healthy masculine and in his hero instinct, he's going to want to take on that responsibility. He's going to want to make you happy. However, if he's doing everything in his power to try to make you happy and you're still not happy, and you have so much other things going on that just are not allowing you to be feeling joy, eventually he's going to feel like he's doing a bad job and that he can't win. It's very important for a man to feel like he can win. It's a fundamental masculine drive. That's why men will run to the touchdown zone and celebrate that. It's why men will fight battles, will build empires, will play video games because they want to feel that they can win at something, that they're good, that they are good enough, that they are capable, that they are respectable again, admirable, valuable. And if he can't feel that with you, if he feels that no matter what he does, you're just an unhappy person, ultimately he's going to have to leave that relationship because he's going to get depressed and he's going to feel like less of a man, like a failure himself, because he just simply can't make you happy. So what's the solution here? There's two solutions. The first solution is that you need to cultivate within yourself all the activities, mindsets, and environments that make you feel happy, that lift you up, activities that you enjoy, that are fun for you, such as dancing, going out in nature, hobbies, social groups, social activities, things that make you feel. There's unlimited amounts of different things that can make you feel good. Maybe just reading a book that you love or watching a certain television show or movie. You want to watch it with those things, though, because that can become also an addiction and you can get caught into negative social media, et cetera. However, certain things that lift you up, that make you feel good, and also activities that make you feel good after the fact, such as exercise, eating healthy, drinking lots of water, taking care of yourself, putting yourself into beautiful environments and environments that are healthy and make you feel safe. That's going to make you feel better on a baseline, as well as managing your thoughts and Your emotions within yourself, managing thoughts of and like we talked about earlier, focusing on the positive within yourself, within your life, developing your relationship with yourself, loving yourself, taking care of yourself, talking well to yourself. These are going to help make you have a baseline of happiness and joy within your system. Now, beyond that, there's still going to be situations that come up in your relationship with him and things that he can help you with. Maybe you have some anxiety about something he said, or he's pulling away, or he did something that hurt you in some way, or you felt hurt. Now that's where magnetic feminine communication comes into play, which we teach our clients in our coaching courses and advanced materials on how to actually communicate with a man. Communicate your problems, communicate your desires and your needs in a way that he receives it, that he feels respected, that he feels honored, that he feels your beautiful heart. Because here's the thing, there's no ugly emotions, there's only ugly behaviors. So once you learn to communicate your emotions in a beautiful way and not an ugly way, he actually wants to hear them, he wants to receive them. So instead of saying like, you made me feel bad and you hurt me and you're a bad man and you need to fix yourself, you're able to communicate your emotions in a way where he empathizes and wants to come closer. It's very important that you learn magnetic feminine communication because it's going to be one of the most important steps for you to really have an incredible, loving, committed relationship with a man you want long term and pull him back to you. Now, the third principle that men fall deeply in love with is when you do not try to change him. Anytime you're trying to change a man, you're unconsciously telling him that he's broken or he's a bad man in some way, he's not good enough in some way. And men can feel that Men energetically sense when a woman is trying to control, manipulate, lead or change them. And it feels like it feels bad to him, it feels disrespectful, it feels dishonoring. And he'll want to pull away at some level. He'll want to resist, he'll want to rebel. Because every man has within him sometimes very deep inside, a masculine core. Even if he's a pretty feminine man, every, even feminine men have a masculine core deep inside. Because every man does. And he's going to feel bad about that at some level. He's going to feel like, what? Why are you trying to change me? You don't like me? Who I Am. You don't think I'm good enough, you don't think I'm respectful enough, you don't think I'm successful enough, etc, which he may not be. He may have lots of issues, he may have lots of problems, and we'll talk about how to deal with that. But if a man feels like you're trying to change him, manipulate him, lead him, etc. He's going to feel bad about that on some level and he's going to start rebelling and he's not going to like it. And so he's going to start pulling away from that relationship if it's done long enough. And so there's much better alternatives to that. Now, the first thing you want to do is fully accept your man for who he is. You can't change him. And the only person that's going to change him is him. Nobody else is going to do it. He has to make that decision. He has to take that leap. And so accepting him fully for who he is can lead to some challenging situations where, number one, you may have to decide if this is actually the right man for you, if this is the man you actually want to be with. If nothing were to change and if he was not to shift at all, is this okay with you? Is that the man you want? Because if you don't feel that way at a fundamental level, there's just critical things about him that if they don't change, you can't, you're not going to be happy, then you probably are going to have to look at that option of walking away. However, there's the second piece of this, which is now that you've accepted him fully for who he is, you can share your experience of him from your own feminine being. So feminine energy is about being and masculine energy is about doing. But as being, you're like the flower. Feminine energy is like this beautiful flower opening up and signaling to the honeybee that you're available and that this is what's going on for you. So you can open your heart to a man. You can be vulnerable and exposed where he can feel that golden light that is your beautiful, gorgeous feminine energy and want to help, want to provide and be the hero. So if there's something about him or something that he's doing regularly that is a concern to you, you can share your emotions around that using magnetic feminine communication and letting him know that you feel sad, or that you feel anxiety, or that you feel anger, or that you feel confusion or frustration, and you make it about yourself that's how you know you're not trying to control him is when your language is about yourself using things, statements like I feel or my experience is, or the story I'm telling myself is rather than saying, you, you, you need to change, you are doing this, that, this thing that's really hurting me, or you said something very hurtful, or you need to give me this, or you need to do something differently, or you're not providing enough in whatever way that might be for you. But you're making it about him. That's accusatory. That's telling him what to do. That's manipulation. That's you and your masculine trying to control the outcome. It's like you going into a tango dance and saying, here, come here, I'm going to show you how to dance. You're not doing it the right way. Come here, I'm going to lead you. Now you're in the masculine role and you're putting him into the feminine role. It's going to feel disrespectful and he's going to want to pull away. However, if you make it about yourself and you simply share your heart vulnerably, he's going to be able to empathize with that and feel it and actually want to help and change on his own. He'll be inspired within himself to want to fix it, to want to make you happy. And that's when you actually will have the best chance of getting what you want. And then you have to observe him, which is why we recommend to our clients doing our magnetic feminine 90 day challenge. Because you give yourself a period of 90 days with a specific man, whether he's already broken up with you or he's pulled away, or he's just not giving you what you want. You have a period of 90 days that will walk you through where you can actually implement magnetic feminine polarity principles and magnetic feminine communication techniques. And we'll give you exact scripts of what to use with him as well and how to do it so that he can change. And you observe his behavior over that period of 90 days. Sometimes it could be shorter, it could be 60 days, it could be 30 days, sometimes it can be longer. But you give him a period of time to shift. And if he doesn't shift at that point, you likely will have to walk away, unfortunately. But as we typically see with our clients, he will start shifting into becoming the man you always wanted him to be for you. Now, the second principle is to be willing to walk away. Like we talked about before, if A man can't or won't give you what you need. Ultimately, he has to be providing for you. He has to be making you happy in some way in the relationship and meeting those needs as the masculine. Because the masculine is about providing, protecting, being the hero. The feminine is about receiving, sharing problems, sharing feelings, being vulnerable, being open and receiving him. And if he's not doing a good job in his masculine in the relationship, and you find yourself having to take the masculine role yourself, tell him what to do, mother him, and it's not changing over the period of 90 days that we give you with the challenge, then unfortunately, you'll likely have to walk away. Now, here's the thing. Men fall in love with women who do this because. Because it shows that you have self respect, you have self value, you are a worthy woman. Because only an unworthy woman would be willing to accept any bad behavior from men without speaking up, without sharing. That's what we call the doormat archetype. The doormat archetype simply just complies and goes along with whatever the man does and doesn't speak up because she doesn't want to rock the boat, or she's so terrified of losing him or of being alone that she'll accept all this bad behavior and. And she's miserable also. So she's miserable staying in the relationship or she's miserable getting out of the relationship. So we want to help you get out of that cycle and become the queen where you can speak up, you can share your feelings respectfully, you can share your problems, needs and desires and allow him to help you from that place and give to you, which you would be shocked by how much he will give to you, likely when you use what we teach you in our advanced principles. But if he doesn't, then you have to be willing to walk away. There's an old saying in sales and negotiation that the person with the most power is the person who is most willing to walk away. And if you're willing to walk away, oftentimes you'll find that's when the man will start changing. That's when the man will start giving you what you want, unfortunately. But it has to be authentic and it has to be real. And ideally, you should have communicated properly before that period so that you give him opportunities to shift naturally within himself. But if he doesn't, then you have to have that ability, and that's oftentimes what will cause him to shift. And if not, then it's not a loss. You're actually winning because you moved on from an unhealthy situation. Now, the first principle here that makes man fall in love is to expect the best from him. This means instead of looking at all the things he's doing wrong, like we talked about before, and expecting him to continue those things and expecting him to be treating you poorly and not investing and not committing and not treating you like a queen, then he's likely going to step into that, that role. He's going to become a self fulfilling prophecy for you and he's going to do more of those things that you don't like and more of those things that let you down, that disappoint you, that make you unhappy. So instead we have to reverse that and start creating a self fulfilling prophecy with him that's positive. Where you see all the good things about him that you love about him, the things that he does for you, the things that he is, that he's going to do for you, that you expect him to actually treat you well, that you expect him to actually be respectful and loving and adoring and cherishing of you, valuing you, that you see that vision within your mind first. So how do you do this? Often you have to start by really visualizing what it would look like if he was devoting himself to you, if he was treating you well, if he was checking in with you regularly, and if he was treating you like a queen, if any man was treating you like a queen, what would that look like? What would that feel like? And then from that place, you can interact with him as if that's who he is and as if that's what he's going to do in the, in the future. So I'll give you some examples with that. So let's say your man, we'll just use a classic example. Let's say your man isn't washing the dishes. Let's say you live together, he's not washing the dishes. And then, so you see, you notice the, the dishwasher is starting to pile up and you're expecting him not to do the dishes. So you're like getting upset with him or you're just not saying anything and doing the dishes yourself and you're, you're resentful, you're angry. However, in another situation where you expect him to treat you well, you're likely to come to him and say something respectful to him like, hey babe, I'm feeling a bit concerned because I'm noticing the dishes are piling up again and I would love it if you could help me with that. Or would you be able to help me with that? And he'll likely say yes to that. If you said it respectfully. With actually expecting that he's going to want to help you, then he's going to be much more likely to actually follow through and do this with you. Now, this is just a small example of the idea of starting to actually proactively ask him for help in a respectful way and expecting that he's going to say yes. Because why wouldn't he? If you're a worthy woman, A worthy woman believes that men want to help her, men want to give to her, men want to treat her well and invest and commit to her because she's amazing, she's awesome. Why wouldn't he. Why wouldn't any man be lucky to be with you? That's who you are. And if you start believing that about yourself, you're going to be much more likely to actually put your feelings out there and respectfully ask for help from men. With all kinds of men. Maybe you're at the grocery store and you can't reach something, so you're asking men for help. You're asking a man to help you with your groceries. We had a client who shared this recently where she started. Just every time she goes to the grocery store, she'll ask one of the guys to work there. If she could help, he could help her load the groceries into her car. And. And every guy has said yes. And they enjoy it and they like it and they feel good about it afterwards and they're happy to do it. And that's just a little example, a little practice of how you can start asking men for help in your life, especially the man you're interested in, in small ways and in bigger ways, especially ways that you know he can help you, such as if he's really good at working with cars, helping him with asking him for help with an issue with your car, asking him advice for stuff with your taxes, if you know he's really good with finances and math. But that's a great way you can start expecting the best of him and being surprised, actually not surprised anymore. It'll just be the usual now when you actually see him doing those things that before you couldn't even imagine that he would be wanting to do for you. So hope this is helpful. Much love and I look forward to talking to you again in our next trainings very soon. Bye bye.