7 Phrases That PUSH Men Away (And 7 That PULL Him Back)

Never say these seven things to a man. Say this instead. In this training video, we're going to be talking about the things to avoid saying to a man. And more importantly, I'm going to teach you the specific types of communication that ends up repelling a man, pushing him away, causing him to lose interest and not feel the connection, the passion, the polarity with you and give you instead communication that actually brings a man towards you, that makes him feel a sense of desire, attraction that he's respected, that he's wanted, that he's valued and that he wants to contribute to you and give into the relationship to lead from his masculine so you can have a happy, awesome relationship moving forward. I'm Brody Boyd with Magnetize youe Man. If you don't know me already, and for over 20 years, combined with my wife, Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long term, committed relationship with a man they want fast. So let's go ahead and dive right in to the powerful principles, teachings and scripts I'm going to give you today. So let's start with the first one here, number seven. So instead of complaining by saying something like, babe, we're running late again, like we did last time. Babe, why are we running late? We're always running late. You're doing this again. Why are you always like this? That's the complaining that's going to push him away, that's emasculating communication. That's also not communication that's going to draw him in, that's going to polarize because it's you being in your masculine, basically telling him what to do in a, in a different form. And instead we're going to use a different, more magnetic form of communication to actually draw a man closer to you. And this would be the example of what to use. Instead you would say, may I share something? So being respectful, allowing make sure you're not penetrating him energetically, making sure he's in a receptive space to receive your communication and to be available to it, to actually do something with it, to change, to solve the problem, to be better. So you're going to say, may I share something? Wait for his response. I notice we're running late for the appointment and I'm not sure what to do. So you're being very respectful here. You're not complaining, you're just saying, I'm noticing something. Can I share something? I'm noticing something. I don't know what to do. You're giving it back to him. To solve the problem. So he might not even be aware that you're running late. This is a respectful way you can actually communicate with him. The issue, the problem, what's going on, that you're late. And instead of telling him, like, we need to get going, you need to move, which would be telling him what to do, which would be in your mask, and leading him like in a dance, leading him to get an outcome, rather than him leading you, him leading the relationship, taking charge, leading the dance. And you're giving it up to him. I don't know what to do. So it's an invitation for. For him to take the lead and for him to fix his behavior on his own and to want to make things better and to actually get going and get to the appointment or whatever it might be. So it's a very graceful, feminine way to switch things around in that situation. The next example that we have here is instead of controlling, by saying something like, send me over the plan so I can prepare. Which again, it's controlling him, it's manipulating him, it's telling him what to do, it's giving him clear direction. You're in the leadership position, you're guiding him, you're in your masculine. That would be the controlling behavior that will likely cause a man to pull away. Because realize that whenever you're using masculine communication, it's going to create three outcomes with a man. Either he's going to argue with you and get defensive. He's going to submit to what you say and go into his feminine and say, yes, dear, and likely start to become a shell of a man over time because he's not being true to his masculine core. Or number three is he's going to close up or pull away because he doesn't want to be dealing with that. He doesn't want to be disrespected. He doesn't want to be told what to do. Because every man has a masculine core at his center, and every woman has a feminine core at his center. So every man at her center. So every man will feel some level of discomfort and annoyance when you're using masculine communication with him. It's just a question of how feminine the man already is or how damaged he might be in some ways, mentally, emotionally, physically, that he may be okay with that, or they may argue or that he may pull away. But likely it's going to be one of those three outcomes. So we want to avoid that. So the next example of what you can use instead, this would be an example of a feminine communication script. You can use would be I feel excited. So always sharing your feelings, letting him see your open, vulnerable, feminine heart that's going to magnetize him in. So that statement is always really powerful. I feel, I feel excited about our trip and would love to know more details when you have a moment. May I ask for some help with that? So you're basically saying, I feel excited, I don't have the details. You could even say that I don't know what the plan is or what I should expect. Or I would love to know more details when you have a moment, which is also another form of being respectful, Giving him realizing he may be busy doing something else right then. So you're not penetrating him energetically and say, give me what I want right now. Give it to me now, give it to me now. You're giving him space to give it to you, to come to you. And you're asking for help, which again is one of the greatest things you can do to stretch that masculine feminine polarity, which is the only thing that causes attraction, chemistry, polarity long term. Attraction, chemistry and passion long term. By asking for help where he gets to be the hero, he gets to solve the problem. He's going to give to you. The masculine is giving, the feminine is receiving. So by you asking for help, you're switching the dynamic. You're leading him into his hero instinct. Then now he's giving and providing for and protecting you rather than you having to do those things for him, taking the masculine role away from him. So that's a very powerful script to use as well. Now, the fifth example that we have here of, let's say, masculine communication that's going to likely push him away would be directing him. So instead of directing him by saying something like, you need to take the exit in the next three miles for us to get there. So you're telling him what to do. You're saying, you're going to need to take this exit or we're going to miss our exit or you got to turn left here, you got to turn right here. This is like a driving direction, driving example. Right. But there's so many different ways in a relationship where you may be tempted to be like, we got to go this way or I got to do that, we got to do this, or we need to have this prepared and this needs to be done a certain way. And I'm nervous it's not going to be done right. Well, you're going to try to want to direct him, be the director or the mother telling him what to Do. Right, so we want to switch that around where now we're aspiring him into his masculine, his leadership, where he wants to be a strong leader. Sometimes he may make mistakes, but you're encouraging him into his masculinity, into his hero, so that he's becoming that more and more for you and wanting to actually help and wanting to do the right things and wanting to upgrade himself, whatever that might mean, in order to make you happy, in order to show care for your heart. So a better example of that would be, babe, I feel a bit uncertain that we may need to take the next exit to get to the hotel. May I ask what you think about that? So you're basically just saying, like, I'm feeling uncertain that we may miss the exit or that we may need to take the next exit to get to our hotel or to get to wherever you're going. Let me ask what you think about that. So rather than telling him what to do, you're sharing. You're feeling. You're feeling uncertainty and this is the reason why, again, you're sharing the problem or the issue that might be happening and you're giving it up to him. I don't know what to do. Or could you help me? Or in this case, just ask him. May I ask what you think about that? So you're giving it up to him to start to think about it and say, oh, oh, Actually, I think you're right, babe. Yeah, we are going to. We do need to turn off here. Or you actually could have it wrong and he could be, no, no, that's a good exit, but we should actually take the next one. It's going to be faster. He may know the area better. Maybe he has some other knowledge, we don't know. But you're giving it up to him to now share his side of things. And depending on how much time you have, hopefully you're not going to miss the exit. If you're going to miss the exit, you may just be like, babe, babe, something like that. But assuming you have more time, and this is just an example for a variety of different areas in your relationship, you're giving him the space to feel you, feel your heart, feel your, understand what's going on for you, what the issue is, and make the correction himself, do it on his own accord, which is inspiring him into his leadership. Just like in a dance. That's how I want you to think about relationships and what we're teaching you here. It's like a dance. It's like a salsa dance. It's Like a West coast swing dance that was my favorite when I was in college and how I met my first girlfriend, where the masculine is getting to lead you. He's getting to lead the dance forward. He's making decisions, he's planning, he's investing, he's protecting, he's looking out, he's making sure you're happy, making sure you're enjoying the dance and for his pleasure and for your pleasure. And if that's not happening, then likely you're either taking the lead in the relationship or. Or nothing's happening. So we want to avoid either of those outcomes and instead inspire him to want to lead and to want to be a great partner for you, a great dance partner. All right, so then the next example here of more masculine communication would be instead of leading him by saying something like, this would be an example of the masculine communication. Can you please not discuss politics at dinner with my family tonight? So you're basically, like, leading him, telling him what to do. Don't do it again. Please don't do it again. Which is okay. It's not necessarily bad. You're not, like, directly telling him, like, you better not share our politics at dinner tonight. You better not do that, or else I'm gonna leave, or else I'm gonna walk out. You're just giving it kind of like a more open. But it is still masculine because it's very clearly leading him. And you're also not sharing your perspective on things. You're not giving him a chance to see your heart, the reasons why this is a concern for you. And so he's not really feeling inspired. He's feeling like, at the very best, he's feeling like he's being told what to do and treated in a way like a child or like. Like he's. He has to watch out for his behavior. He's going to be punished. Punished by mommy. You better not do that. You better not say something like that to me again. You better not do this again. And now he's like, okay. And then we're starting to create that energy of him starting to pull away, likely. So we want to avoid that. If you. You do want this man in your life, by all means, with everything I'm sharing here, if you do not want the man in your life, if you. If he's not meeting your needs consistently after you've done something like this for a long period of time, communicate in a feminine way. You're used to what we. What we've taught you, and ideally, you've done our magnetize your man 90 day challenge where you're using feminine polarity and feminine communication. And if he hasn't shifted, then you do need to walk away at some point. It doesn't mean you have to stay in a bad situation where a man's not showing care for your heart. He's not leading at some point. If he's not stepping up, you do have to be willing to walk away because that's part of you being a high value and a feminine woman. High value and feminine queen. That has to. You have to show that to yourself, that I'm not going to stay in a bad situation. So that's just a caveat I wanted to add to this. But you really need to make sure you are learning the correct principles and how to actually apply magnetic feminine polarity, magnetic feminine communication. So you're giving the relationship a real shot, which we're going to help you with. All right, so this is the example to use instead. May I share something with you? Wait for his response. I feel a bit anxious about tonight's dinner. Or you could just say I feel anxiety or I feel anxious about tonight's dinner. And I'm telling myself a story that it might be smoother if we avoid discussing politics tonight. It may go smoother if we avoid discussing politics tonight. And so some of these scripts I'm giving you, these are actually a shortened version. Like, you can expand these with a lot of what we teach you, which would make it more powerful. But I'm giving you, like, a shortened version of how you can share what's going on inside of your heart respectfully and vulnerably so that he's magnetized by you. He comes closer and he wants to help, and he wants to be better on his own without you having to tell him what to do. So he's just understanding where you're at. And I would even add to this at the end. I didn't put it here, but you can add something like, may I ask what you think about that? Or may I ask for some help with that and give it up to him to solve the problem for you and to be the masculine and to be the hero. All right, example number three. Instead of mothering him, which we've talked about already a little bit, you're going to by saying something like, I bought you some new jeans. Don't ever buy a man clothes. Don't do anything like that for him. Don't buy him clothes. Don't buy him gifts. Don't buy anything for him, really, unless he's asked you to give those to get those things for him. Unless he's asked you to buy something for him or. Or he said that he really wants it and he's kind of leading you in that direction, like, don't do it, because now you're in the mothering role. Now you're in the giving role. Remember, the masculine is giving, the feminine is receiving. If you're buying things for a man, if you're giving to him, if you're providing things for him, you're in the masculine giving provider role. Just like in sex. In sex, the man is giving to the woman. He's giving her his masculine gifts, and she's receiving those masculine gifts. And if you're giving masculine gifts to him, you're clearly in the masculine. That's going to destroy the polarity. It's going to destroy the attraction, the chemistry, the devotion, and you're not going to have the relationship you want ultimately. So we want to avoid that. So regardless of buying the genes. So then the rest of it would be, say, let's pretend that you're in a different reality where you were in your masculine mothering energy and you bought a man some clothes. So you say, I bought you some new jeans and would love if you could wear them tonight. Oh. Oh, it's very masculine. Very masculine. Don't do this. Please don't do this. It seems like if you're a giving person, this seems like a good thing to do, right? Seems like. Well, I want him to be happy. I want him to look good, like I want to help him. I'm a caring person. I'm a generous person. But again, a mother is generous to her child, right? A mother is caring to her child. Do you want him to be your child? Do you want him to be a little toddler that you're taking care of? Because that's what you're going to create over time. And he's not going to like that. You're not going to like that. But that's the dynamic you're creating when you're giving to a man in this way. You have to stop it. Stop the madness. As Mr. Wonderful says, stop the madness. If you find yourself in a hole, stop digging, stop the masculine behavior. And then now you can start to use what we're teaching you and what we will continue to teach you and help you master. To be in your feminine, to be in your magnetic feminine, to draw him to you. Where he's giving to you, he's providing for you in all different ways, mentally, emotionally, Spiritually, sexually, potentially, if you're an exclusive relationship financially, he's giving to you. He'll start giving to you. He'll be inspired into it because you're becoming open, you're becoming available, and you're becoming respectful and vulnerable that he's going to want to give you those things. Okay, so beyond that, let's give the example of what to say instead. You'd say something like this. You'd say, may I share something with you? Again, very respectful, asking permission, making sure you're not penetrating him energetically. He's available to receive what you have to share. He'll say, sure, babe, what's up? And you say, I feel so attracted to you when you wear fitted jeans. Can I ask what you think about that? So you're just sharing what you're attracted to. You're sharing him, almost appreciation. Like, I feel so attracted to you when you wear fitted dreams. Or if I. I can imagine how attracted I would be to you if you were to wear, like, fitted jeans sometime. And so you're just giving him these hints. You're letting him know what you like and. And then he'll likely get the hint and he'll say, also, can I ask what you. When you're saying, can I ask what you think about that? He'll be like, well, I've never thought about that. You know, I'm not. I'm not big on fashion. I don't really care. But, you know, if you like them, like, yeah, I can get some. I'd be happy to get some for you, babe. Like, let's go shopping. Let's set it up. So he'll likely start wanting to make you happy. Because a masculine man who's activated in his hero instinct, he's going to want to make you happy. That becomes his mission. That becomes his purpose in life, to care for your heart and to make you happy, amongst other purposes. He'll have other purposes in his life as a masculine man, but one of his big ones will be, how can I make you happy? How can I care for your heart? How can I make you the most incredible blossoming woman? You can be like this flower blooming. That's how he's going to feel like he's winning as a man, that he's doing a good job in life, and he's going to want to do more of that. So instead of that, you're going to use, oh, that was the example. So that's what you want to do instead of. All right, example number two, masculine communication. That will likely push him away pretty far or a short distance instead of trying to get an outcome. So the masculine is getting outcomes, the feminine is sharing, sharing vulnerabilities, sharing feelings, sharing problems. And the masculine is solving those problems and achieving goals and getting outcomes and making things happen. So you're just simply sharing as a feminine. You're sharing, you're open, you're receptive, you're available, you're. You're communicating, you're speaking up. And you're giving him this gift of painting desires and things that he can do for you and in his life, things that he may not have thought of before, like, maybe I should get some better jeans. Maybe I should dress and dress nicer because my woman likes it. But here's another example. So you'd say you're trying to get an outcome. You'd say something like, I miss you. Hey, babe, I miss you. Do you miss me? Or sometimes what will happen is you may say something to a man like, I love you, but you're actually saying I love you because you want him to say I love you back. You're like, I love you. I love you, baby. I love you. You're, like, waiting for him to say I love you back. You're trying to get an outcome that's very masculine behavior. Anytime you're saying something, anything, really, like I miss you or I love you, but you're trying to. You're saying it as a way to try to manipulate him to say that back to you, that's in your masculine. That's trying to get an outcome that's leading. So we want to avoid that. This can be done in many different ways. But this is one that I wanted to write here because I think you might have caught yourself potentially in the past doing something like this, because why else would you say I miss you? There's usually a reason why you're saying it, which is to try to get him to do something about it, to try to get him to come closer to you, or to say I miss you back, or to want to set up a date or something else. And there's more powerful ways. I'm not saying this would always go bad when you say this to a man, but he'll likely will still respond okay, or we don't know how he's going to respond because, again, you want to be detached from the outcome. But likely what can happen is that you're planting a little seed in his heart that's like, oh, she's trying to lead me. She's trying to Control me. Like, I don't like that. I don't like it because he has a masculine core. Every man has a masculine core. So at some level, just depending on how masculine he is, he's going to feel like, you know, I don't. It's. It's going to feel slightly disrespectful, slightly like. Like you're treating him like a little. Like a little marionette on a string or the puppet on the string. Like, babe, gonna do what I want you to do? You gotta say, I love you back, or you gotta give me what I want. I'm gonna make you feel guilty if you don't. Or I'm gonna say, I'm gonna try to move you into position to where I want you to be. So we want to avoid that. You have to let go of the outcome. You have to commit to the process, detach from the outcome. That's how we get you into your feminine, your magnetic feminine that draws in a masculine man that wants. That makes him start saying those things to you. Like, I miss you, babe. I want to see you again. I love you. And him wanting to hear you say it back. Like, do you love me? Do you like me? Do you miss me? That'll be the. The kind of energy shift you can create when you switch into your feminine. You reverse these. These dynamics that you may have been in, in the past with a guy or with men in general. So instead of doing that, we're going to say something like this. This would be a feminine communication example. Hey, babe, may I share a feeling I'm having? Sure. What's up? What's going on? I feel. I feel sadness. I feel sad. I'm actually feeling sad right now. Something like that. You're sharing your feeling. The main thing is I feel sad. And then I did. I couldn't fit it in here, but you would actually pause, wait for his response after you say, may I share what I feel, a feeling I'm having? And then also pause after you say, I feel sadness or I feel sad. And these conversations, by the way, these, these kind of conversations are going to be most powerful when you have them in person or over the phone rather than just via text. Because what's really magnetizing him is your heart. And if he can't really feel your heart, it's not going to really make a big impact on him. So it's best to share these kind of things, if you can, over the phone. And you can just ask often by saying, may I ask if we could talk on the Phone or may ask for a phone call and then say, sure. And then you get on the phone and then you can share these things. This would be like a deeper conversation, too. It could lead to a deeper conversation. So then you would say. He would say, why are you feeling sad? And you say, because we haven't seen each other for two weeks. And I'm telling myself. So you're sharing the problem. We haven't seen each other for two weeks. And I'm telling myself a story, which is always helpful. You're telling yourself a story so that you're not accusing him. You're not making it seem like you're blaming him or criticizing him or attacking him, which is just going to likely push him away further because, again, it's another form of control and manipulation. But you're telling yourself a story, which we could always tell ourselves stories. We're telling ourselves stories all the time. It's always going on. There's tracks in our minds. You're just giving him some insight into that. What's going on in your mind, your heart and your mind. So he's gonna say, I'm telling myself a story that we may not be able to see each other for a while, and I'm not sure what to do. Like, I feel sadness. We haven't seen each other for two weeks or whatever it is. And I'm telling myself a story that we may not be able to see each other for. For a while. Or maybe you're telling yourself a story that he doesn't want to see you again, or that he doesn't prioritize your guys's relationship, or he's not prioritizing the connection and you don't know what to do. I don't know what to do. Like, that's how I'm feeling. I'm being vulnerable. So you're not telling him what to do. You're actually asking him. You're actually telling him, I don't know what to do. That also is a guard for yourself to prevent you from trying to tell him what to do. You're just saying, like, I don't know what to do. I don't want to control you right now. I don't want to. I don't know what else to do. Could you help me? It's basically what you're saying, like, I don't know what else to do. Could you help me? You're activating his knight in shining armor instinct to save you, to rescue you from the problem you're having. He feels like a hero. He feels like, oh, yeah, I could help you, babe. Like, I don't want you to feel sad. I don't want you to feel like we're not going to see each other again. Like, I want to see you. Like, let's, let's plan something. Let's put something on the books. Like, how about next week? How does that work for you? Or, you know, maybe we can talk more often because I'm. Maybe he's not able to see you at that time. Maybe it's a long distance relationship or you guys have been a part of some other work thing has come up for him. Like maybe we could talk. Like let's set up a time. We could talk every night or every other day, whatever works for you. Like, I don't want you to feel sad. Like that's a healthy masculine response. That's a sign that he cares for you, that he's wanting to fix it, he's wanting to make it better and he doesn't want you to feel that way. But now he feels your heart, so he actually empathizes. He can feel the impact of the actions or the situation and he wants to do something about it. So hope that helps. And then the next example, example number one of the more masculine behavior you want to avoid is instead of telling him what to do by saying something like, don't ever talk to me like that, or don't do that again. I kind of mentioned this before. It's like trying to set a boundary with him, right? You can't do that. I don't want to have. You can't have sex with me. I don't want you to talk. You're not going to talk to me like that, or you're not going to treat me like that, or you can't just ghost me like that. Whatever it is, it's like you're telling him what to do, right? Don't do this or do this. That's both. They're just both of the same coin. Two sides of the same coin of telling him what to do. Don't do this or do this. That's you guiding, directing, leading him. And it's usually in the form of setting a boundary. And so by all means, I want you to set boundaries. We just want to switch it. And I'm going to give you this powerful shift right now that may blow your mind if you've never heard this before. But instead of setting a boundary with him, we want to set a boundary with yourself. And I'll show you how to do that. That's going to allow it, to make it feel, allow him to feel that you're not controlling him. You're not telling him what to do or not to do. Instead you're telling yourself what to do or what not to do. And now he feels inspired to change the behavior on his own. And I'll show you how this works. So instead of saying don't ever talk to me like that, you're going to use this example. You're going to say, babe, I'm having a hard time not being triggered in this conversation and I need to get some space. Could we talk about this more tonight? Or maybe you just need space for a long time. You don't even have to say that. Can we talk about. You don't have to say, can we talk about this tonight? You can just say I need to take a break or I need space. You're telling yourself what you need. You're setting a boundary with yourself. I, rather than saying you, you is telling him what to do. Whenever you use that word, you oftentimes if you're not using it in the right context that we teach you when you say you, you're telling him what to do. You're controlling him. You're in your masculine. That's going to make him feel bad on some level and it just depends on how his reaction will be in your guys connection and what kind of man he is. But instead you're setting the boundary with yourself and saying, I can't do this right now. I can't talk right now. I can't, I can't be in the situation right now. I need to leave. I need to, I need to stop myself from being disrespectful. I need to step away. I need to get some water, I need to get some food. I need to go to the bathroom. Whatever it is, whatever your needs are in that moment that are going to be more important than whatever the situation is that's making you feel uncomfortable or angry or upset or hurt or scared that you're going to set that boundary with yourself. I need to get out. I need to move on. I need to get some space. I need to set a boundary with myself. You're moving on. That's what a queen would do. A queen is like, I don't need to tell you what to do because I'm a queen. I'm just going to tell myself what to do. I'm going to, I'm going to guide myself here because ultimately that's all you can control anyways. You can't control other people. If you tell, if you're constantly telling other people what to do, all that's likely going to happen is they're going to become resentful. They're going to become resentful and they're going to start looking for an exit plan. Likely. But instead, if you tell yourself what to do, it's respectful to them, it's giving them space to feel comfortable, coming closer to fixing the issue, to not feeling like they're being told and that it doesn't activate the rebel instinct inside of them where it's like, oh, you can't tell me what to do. I'm going to do the opposite just because you told me to do this thing. So you're not going to wake up that rebel instinct that can exist in everybody, women and men. And so these principles are also very powerful and I want you to start practicing them with everybody, not just men and men that you're interested in the man you're with, but everybody, parents, colleagues, friends, family, men you're not interested in. Potentially to practice to get in the habit of being in your magnetic feminine and using respectful, vulnerable, open, magnetic feminine communications to start to draw men to you and draw people to you, to want to help you, to want to provide, to want to give to you and make you happy. So it's a whole way of life that we're teaching you here, how to really become this queenly woman, this high value and feminine woman that draws people in. Especially high, high value masculine men, draws them in like flowers to bees, like the flame to the moths, like the sun to the planets. You're attracting now, you're attracting. Rather than having to exhaust yourself by constantly having to lead and try to control the situation and grab the steering wheel and tell people what to do and try to control your man, we're going to let go of that. We're going to bring them to you and have you inspire that devotion. So those are the examples I have tonight. 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So without further ado, let's also start getting into some question and answers for tonight. And I know there's been a lot of questions that have been submitted, so I'm going to start answering some of those now. And I'm sure there's some good ones in here. So Kelly said, watching from Alaska. Welcome, Kelly. All right, Siras said. I have been physically and emotionally abused, manipulated, gaslighted and threatened on a daily basis by my narcissistic partner. Recently, I found out he was cheating on me and had a girlfriend. After seeing the text and a picture, I became numb. I've been a faithful wife. I listened to every insult and fight. I never gave up what I knew. Thanks to the cyber heck. Oh my gosh. It's a scammer. This is a scammer. Sorry, guys. Sometimes they trick me because they're really smart. You got to watch out for this. Also when you're online dating, like, they'll present themselves as being this totally normal person who's just asking a question. And then they start to go. As you go down the line and you go to the details, it's like, oh, it's because they Want to sell you a trick to hack into your partner's phone to see who they're talking to. That's the case of these scammers. There's a lot of them out there. Sorry about that. Sometimes I don't always catch them. I got to be better about those. They trick me with their sob stories that I really want to help, but it's a scammer, so watch out for that. All right, well, moving on. It's a good lesson for everybody. Hopefully. Claire said, what if it's the other way around? So what I'm imagining you're saying, Claire, is what if it's the other way around in the sense that he's telling you what to do and probably being disrespectful and trying to control you and do all these things. Yeah. So that's what I'm. I'm imagining you're saying. And if it's, if it's true that your man is disrespecting you, he's not in his healthy masculine. Because here's the thing. A man in his healthy masculine, he's leading you to make you happy. He's leading you for your pleasure. Because that's how he's getting his sense of purpose and meaning in the relationship and in his life. By knowing he's making you happy, by he's making his woman happy. And he's leading. Well, he's being a good man. He's winning the game. Right. Of life and of relationship and of being a man. And so if he's leading you and you don't enjoy it and you're. It's like in a dance. Imagine a man is leading you in a dance, but he's like yanking your arm and he's like, come on, you got to go over here. You got to move faster. And you're like, I don't enjoy this dance. Now here's the thing. If you continue in that dance with a man doing that to you, he's not showing care for your heart. He's telling you what to do, but you don't enjoy it. That's called compliance. That's not submission, that's compliance. That's you complying and you being told what to do in something that is not good for you or not enjoyable for you, then there's a couple of things. For one, I would highly recommend if you're in a long term relationship taking our Magnetize youe Man 90 Day Challenge. And also we call it our magnetic feminine polarity 90 day challenge. And basically this will Give you the tools you need to start making the shifts, to start attracting his devotion to him, wanting to help you, to him wanting to give to you, to him wanting to be respectful and showing care for your heart. And if he's not doing that over time, ultimately the first thing you need to do is you have to be willing to speak up and share your feelings, share how that makes you feel when he's yanking you around or when he's telling you what to do that you don't enjoy. You have to be vulnerable. You have to share your vulnerable open heart. Be feminine, which we're going to help you with. And that is what's going to inspire him likely into his healthy masculine to start to fix things. Because here's the thing, the law of polarity, the law of polarity is the law of the universe. And the law of polarity states that opposite energies attract. So what that means, and the good news for you is we don't have to coach him. All we need to do is coach you and we can help one partner to shift. Because if you can become more feminine, you're going to inspire him to be more masculine. If you're a more high value feminine woman, you're going to inspire your man to be more high value masculine for you. And you also inspire the men around you to be more in their healthy masculine and want to give to you, want to provide. Because you're naturally being that woman, you're being a high value feminine woman. And it's inevitable. It's the law of the universe. So that's the law of polarity. So we have to shift that so that he starts showing care for you. When you're in your magnetic feminine. You're using some of these principles that we've even shown some today around magnetic feminine communication and how to shift and how to speak properly. That's respectful and vulnerable and sharing your feelings and problems so that you're being a queen, you're being high value. Because if you're being low value, you probably wouldn't say anything. You just say, oh, it is what it is. I'm just going to go along with it. I don't want to rock the boat. I don't want to make him unhappy. I don't want to make it, I don't want to cause an argument. So you're not going to say anything, you're just going to go along with it. And that's lowering your value. That's becoming the doormat. We want to avoid that. Because a queen speaks up, she shares her feelings, but she's doing so respectfully, such as through some of the principles we talked about, some today, through asking for permission, sharing your feelings openly and vulnerably. Not making it about him, making it about yourself and your own experience so that he feels inspired to want to fix it. Because now he's feeling empathy. Men feel their hearts through their woman. They're feeling his emote, he's feeling his emotions through you. When you're open and vulnerable in the right way, this respectful that he can receive, he's feeling empathy. He's feeling like, oh, shoot, I don't want you to feel sad, babe. I don't want you to feel anxious. Like, I want to do this better, like, how can I do it better? How can I make you happy? How can I fix this? That's what we want to inspire within him. Now. If he doesn't shift over the course of the next 90 days, using the 90 day challenge that we have for you, which again, you can get access to by taking our free quiz, you can start that journey then you have to be willing to walk away. If he's not shifting over that period of time, he may be broken. There's a percentage of men that are broken, about 5% of men, maybe 5 to 10%, who are just incapable of showing care for a woman's heart, they're narcissists, they're sociopaths, they're broken, they're almost irreconcilably. So avoidant attachment style. And you have to be willing to step away from those type of men because you're never going to get what you want. They're not capable of it. But we want to make sure that we cleaned up your side of the street, that you're being the most high value feminine woman you could be. So then you know without a shadow of doubt that it's him, that he's the broken one, that he's incapable of change and inspiring, being inspired to want to help you. And you have to be willing to walk away, either temporarily getting yourself space, setting a boundary with yourself, stepping away from a bad situation for a period of time, or stepping away from the entire relationship. But likely, if you're using what we teach you and if you let us help you with that especially and coach you and give you the scripts, it's likely going to be where he's going to step up and he's going to start caring for your heart in ways that would shock you, wanting to help you and wanting to be a better man. So Hope that helps you. All right. Sarah said, watching in Connecticut. Welcome, Sarah. Crystal said, hello from the Bahamas. Glad you're watching. Tuning in. And Mercedes said, thanks for sharing all this. It's really useful and simple to apply because you explain with practical examples. Yeah, you're welcome, Mercedes. That's one of the things I really want to do and I aspire to do with my teachings, is how can I boil complex principles down to where you can actually use them and apply them in your romantic life and in your life in general so that you can get results quickly? Because otherwise it's just theory, otherwise it's just a lot of like, oh, that sounds nice and that's interesting, but how do I actually use that and does it actually work? So I want to give you very specific things. And that's why, especially in our courses, we lay it down step by step by step, very detailed. You get the whole map, the whole roadmap of exactly what to do so that you can live this way for the rest of your life and have your forever relationship and be cared for and not even have to think about it anymore. You're just cherished forever because you've mastered the principles and you mastered the techniques and you know how to do it. And it becomes so natural that it's like you've learned how to tango dance, you've learned how to salsa dance, you've learned how to ballroom dance, and now you can just enjoy the dance. You learn the language, you learn the dance. Now you can just enjoy it and have fun and relax and enjoy the journey of having a man cherish you and take care of you and, and be masculine and also someone you're very attracted to and who's sexy and engaged and passionate and, and wanting to be your man and wanting to help you. So that's what we're, what our goal is. And that's what will happen the more you use this. So great to hear, Mercedes, that you're liking that and enjoying that and it's helpful. Tammy said a few months ago, he was really seeing and talking to me. He took me out for my birthday dinner two weeks ago. Now I never see or talk to him. I, I really like him, but I'm so confused. Should I try to talk to him or just see if he talks to me? So, birthday dinner two weeks ago and then he hasn't said anything to you. So, yeah, in a situation like that, you can actually reach out to a man. The key is you want to do it with feminine communication because that cancels out in General, yes. Initiation is more masculine, but if you use feminine communication, it actually cancels out the initiation so that you're still in your feminine. Basically, you can maintain the polarity. So you can send him something like, may I ask if we could talk on the phone and see if he says yes? And then once you're on the phone, ideally you would share your feelings and he would say, say, hey, babe, how's it? Or hey, I don't know if you call him babe. I'm just using that example because a lot of, A lot of women are in relationships where they're at that level where they can call a man babe or he can call her babe. You can just say, hey, hi, how's it going? How's your day? Great. So I was just curious if I could share something with you. I want to. To call this. I want to share something with you. I want to share a feeling I'm having with you. Sure. What is it? I'm feeling actually a bit sad. I'm feeling sad sadness or anxiety. Whatever you're feeling, you want it to be authentic for you, from your heart, from your core. That's what it's really magnetizing him. And say, oh, why are you feeling sad? Because we. I felt like we had such a great birthday date the other week and thanks again so much for inviting me out. And it was. I had a great time and I loved our connection, I loved our talks, and I. I noticed I haven' heard from you for two weeks and I was telling myself a story that you were no longer interested in continuing our relationship or you didn't see our relationship as a priority and thought made me feel sad. And I don't know if that's true or not. It could be completely made up, but I don't. That's what I was thinking. And I don't know what to do. And so now you're inspiring him to want to help, to want to come closer, to want to hear more about it. And ideally, he's going to respond with whatever he's going to respond with. Hopefully it'll be, I'm sorry, I didn't mean to be out of communication. I had a great time as well. I got caught up in work. I got caught up in these situations. My dad is having health issues, whatever it might be he's saying, and hopefully he'll want to make it better. He'll say, why don't we go out this weekend? Why don't we plan a trip together? I want to see you again. And so now you've used your feminine, vulnerable heart. You've shared it so that he can know what's going on for you. He can feel connected to your heart, he can empathize with your heart because he's not feeling attacked, he's not feeling blamed and he's going to want to solve the problem likely. So that's just a quick example of one thing you can do to share with him to start shifting the dynamic back to him caring for you. And hopefully he will and that you guys will continue the relationship. And that's what I recommend for now, Tammy. But if you have more questions about that, definitely take our free quiz in the links or comments below or magnetizeyourman.com because that's going to really help you a lot with understanding this more and knowing what to do next. So by the way, if anyone has any other questions, I have a little bit of time to answer some more questions. I know there's a good amount here, but if I have time, I'll answer a few more. So if you want to submit your questions right now, post them in the comments. I may have time to answer a few others around a situation you're dealing with right now with a man or something. I mentioned in the training earlier that you have questions about and I'd be happy to address that if I have time. So Kelly said, I've been using your teachings and trying to phrase things more for my feminine and oh my goodness, has my guy's hero protector side come out. Loving it. Yeah, I'm so happy to hear that, Kelly. It's a law of the universe. When you are in your magnetic feminine, you're going to inspire your man into his heroic masculine and he's going to want to help you and he's going to want to give and provide and invest and lead and cherish and adore you. When he feels respected and trusted and he feels your feminine, vulnerable heart, he's going his response. With every action there's an equal and opposite reaction. The response is likely going to be him wanting to care for you, wanting to adore you, wanting to cherish you. So continue to practice that, Kelly. It's great to hear and yeah, glad we can help you to continue to master these principles and go deeper into it because there's a whole beautiful life waiting for you. It's all possible, it's all waiting for you. Once you really get this and once you got the right support and the right knowledge and and the right shifts internally so you can be doing this dance and speaking this Language and having it be fun and natural because you're connecting to your core. Because what we're actually teaching you is how to let go of the mask. Like, that's why I gave you these examples at the beginning of the video of, like, what you may have been doing in the past, the masculine behavior, the masculine communication, and then what's the feminine. Because we're letting go of the masculine masks, the armor you may be wearing, protecting yourself, the trust issues, the fear of losing control or having to control him, that if you don't control him, nothing's going to happen, or he's going to take advantage of you or he's going to not want to help. So we're having to let go of a lot of this armor and these masks and this old programming from society, from your parents, from culture around you in our generation, to be in your open, vulnerable, feminine energy from your core. That's the most natural and authentic you possible. And that's why I also sometimes call this the no games method, because this is actually the most authentic you can be with a man by really revealing your. Your vulnerable, feminine open heart and who you really are and the real thoughts you have, the problems you have, but doing so respectfully, doing so, so that it doesn't feel like an attack, so that it doesn't feel like you're putting it onto him, that it doesn't feel like you're energetically penetrating him, which would be masculine. So there's some slight shifts that we get you into so that you can be fully open. And we just got to teach you that dance. We got to teach you how to do the dance so that you can just dance and have fun and then enjoy the process and be like, why did I never do this before? Why. Why did it take me so long to learn this? Hey, none of us were taught these things in school. I wasn't taught the healthy masculine principles in school. You likely weren't taught the healthy feminine principles in school. And for various reasons. And now it's your responsibility. With great. With awareness, with great power comes great responsibility. Now you have this knowledge. You're aware. You've gotten your eyes opened, you've seen past the veil of the Matrix. Now you have the responsibility to let some of those things go and to start practicing a different way. Otherwise you're just consciously choosing to have bad relationships and to have a situation where the man isn't showing care for you and not devoting. And men in general aren't. So now you have the awareness, and now it's a choice, but we gotta, you gotta get support, you gotta learn these things, you gotta practice these things like Kelly in order to actually get the shift. So that's what we're gonna help you with here. But it is a choice at this point. It's like, yes, I'm, I'm not gonna do the old way anymore, cuz it hasn't been working. And I don't want another failed relationship, I don't want another divorce, I don't want another man ghosting me. So that's what we're gonna shift you out of. And it just starts with that decision. All right, Claire said, watching from Ireland. Welcome, Claire. Mercedes again said, I am so masculine, but learning. Thanks a lot. Yeah, you're welcome, Mercedes. A first step of change is awareness. That's the first step. So as long as you're aware and you see where you're being masculine now, you can actually start to change it. I think Albert Einstein said, a problem well defined is already half solved. We just have to define the problem first. We have to define what's going on and understand what the problem is so that we can then have any chance of fixing it and doing something new. So really pat yourself on the back and celebrate. Anytime you actually become aware of where you were being masculine in the past, where you were doing something that was potentially sabotaging a relationship or pushing a man away, so now you can make the decision, no more. No more. I'm only going to be my feminine. I'm going to be my magnetic feminine and I'm going to get support around that. I'm going to practice it and. Because if nothing changes, nothing changes. It'll just continue the same path over and over and over again. All right, awesome. And then we have a question from mj. She said, I'm learning so much right now. Whew. This is very helpful. I need to learn more feminine communication. Awesome. You're welcome, mj. I'm glad this is helpful. And yes, this is just the tip of the iceberg of what we're talking about on this video. There's a whole. You can imagine a whole dictionary existing, a whole new language that exists, a whole new world of possibilities that are awaiting you. A whole new world on the other side of this magic carpet that we're on right now. The magic carpet video that's helping you see the new world that's available. You just have to step on it, you know? Do you trust me? Do you trust me? You have to step on that carpet so that we can Go there. So I love the Disney references. It's great. All right. So Sandra said, my volume is up as far as possible. I'm still having a problem hearing you. Sorry about that, Sandra. I did make some slight adjustments to my microphone, and I can't really change it now, unfortunately, or it might ruin the audio for the recording. But hopefully in the recording, you may be able to hear everything. Let me know if anyone else is having that issue, too. Mercedes said, setting this own boundaries. Do we need to say what we feel or why or just leaving? Yeah, like, that's the process of setting a boundary with yourself. The first thing I'd recommend is sharing how you feel, sharing your feelings respectfully, vulnerably asking permission, and then when he asks, telling him the reasons why, and then letting him solve the problem if he doesn't, then you need to set that boundary with yourself. I need to. I can't be in this situation anymore. I can't be with somebody who's not showing care from my heart. I can't do it anymore. I'm a queen. You don't need to necessarily say that you're a queen, but believing for yourself and knowing I am a queen, I can't do this anymore. Like, I need to move on. And you have to be willing to set that boundary if he hasn't shifted. But that's why you use what we teach you. First. You do the 90 day challenge, ideally the magnetic feminine 90 day challenge. And if he doesn't shift, then it's clear you need to walk away. So that. That's the path. That's what I recommend. All right. And then Karen said, watching from Dallas, what's the healthiest way to set boundaries? Is it okay to tell him that you'll leave or he won't see you again? If he's entertaining other women? Yeah. So I wouldn't make an ultimatum like that. That's more trying to control him and that's trying to tell him what to do. If you're saying, like, if you don't stop talking to those other women, if you don't stop going out, I'm gonna leave you. Like, that's. That's an ultimatum. That's just gonna make him. He's probably gonna just rebel and say, like, okay, whatever, enjoy, leave then. Because he's not going to want to be told what to do. However, if you want to draw him close, you want to use some of the principles we're talking. We've been talking about here in this training tonight around sharing your feelings. First Share the problem. I was just sharing this with Mercedes. Share your feelings, share the problem, and then let him be inspired. So the feelings would be, I feel sad, I feel anxious. Why do you feel that way? Because I've, you know, I keep seeing that you're entertaining these other women. I keep noticing that you're entertaining these other women. And I'm telling myself a story that you don't respect me or you don't value our relationship or it's not important to you. And that thought made me feel really sad and I don't know what to do. And give it up to him to solve the problem. Now he understands what's going on for you. Because men aren't mind readers also. So what we're teaching you here is how to actually let a man know what's actually going on for you in a way that he gets it, he understands it, message received, and now I can do something about it. But he may not actually know what's going on for you. And if you've been more on the doormat side in the past where you don't share anything, you just swallow it up, you don't want to rock the boat, you don't want to scare him into leaving or something like that, then he doesn't understand what's going on for you. He can adjust his behaviors. And he also is not seeing your value because you're not speaking up. Only a queen, a woman who values herself, is willing to speak up and share her feelings because she believes they're important and they're worth being heard and they're worth being acknowledged. And her problems as well, that her problems are worth being solved and help getting help with. She's deserving a man's help. She's deserving a man's care. That's what a queen would do. So you're showing your value in that moment when you do speak up. And so that's what I would do first. And then again, yeah, you will likely then leave. If he doesn't want to make things better, if he's not making effort, if he's not making positive changes and trying, then you're going to have to step away. Likely, because that's also what a queen would do. A queen wouldn't stay in a situation where a man's not showing care for her heart. Even though you've used the 90 day challenge and you've communicated honestly and openly with him and vulnerably and respectfully and he's not shifting, you got to be able to leave at some point if that's not the case, so that you value yourself, so that you'll likely, either way you'll win. Because when you're using what we teach you and you're practicing it and you're detached from the outcome, you're either going to win because your man's going to be inspired to give you the care and devotion that you so crave, or you're going to win because you're going to get out of an unhealthy situation that is with a man who's either broken or just has zero care for you. And you're going to be much more in your high value feminine after that, so that you're very quickly going to attract in a high value masculine man who is going to show you that care and devotion and he's going to want to be your hero for the rest of your life. And you're going to be in a healthier place as well, likely within yourself to where now you see the value of having a healthy masculine man who you're also attracted to and you're excited about and he's showing care for you because you're healing some of your attachment style in this process and you're healing some of your, your wounds and your traumas from the past by bringing things into light and being willing to share them openly and vulnerably. You're the, the shadows cannot exist in the light, right? The shame goes away, the guilt goes away. All these traumas start to go away when you're able to share them and share vulnerably and be respectful and you're healing yourself so that you're becoming more and more. You get in this positive loop of becoming more and more high value feminine woman as you go. So Kay said, I've always been the giver and provider. After my car accident, now my husband has to take care on the providing role. But he's struggling. What should I do? So the biggest thing you can do with a man, like in a situation like this especially is first off to show appreciation. So that's how you let him know that you're, that he's winning, that he's doing a good job, just even the small things. He may be not doing a good job with providing right now. He may be struggling, he may be failing in some ways. However, there's likely some things he's doing that you like and appreciate, even if it's just the effort, even just the fact that he's working hard. Maybe he hasn't got the fruit yet, but he's working hard or he's trying to work hard, or he's solving some problems. Like, acknowledge him for that. Appreciate him for that, and say, babe, I just want to say I feel so grateful that you're putting in this effort for us, and I know you're gonna do great with this. I just want to share. Like, it makes me feel so happy to know that you're. You're wanting to. To solve this, and you're wanting to provide and be our hero. And it just makes me feel great, and it makes me feel like you are my hero. So that would be like an example. That's like an extended example of, like, sharing appreciation with a man. You can do it in shorter ways or different ways. The idea is you're sharing your feelings. You're sharing the positive impact he has on you. Because I'm not just teaching you just how to always share bad things with a man, like problems that you're having and hard feelings that you're having. But that's very important, and that's also what a man wants, because there's actually no ugly emotions. There's only ugly behaviors. So we want to avoid the ugly behaviors, but the emotions themselves are beautiful. The man wants to feel your heart. He wants to feel connected to your heart. So sharing that appreciation inspires him. It lets him know he's doing a good job, that he's still winning with you, and he's going to want to do that more. You're giving him some positive reinforcement that he wants to do that more. He wants to keep trying. He wants to keep working on it. Hopefully, that'll be how he responds to it. And then if he doesn't, you can also share the other side of it. You can share the. The scary emotions that are coming up as well. Like, I feel fear. Why do you feel fear? Because I know you're. You're really wanting to provide for us, and you're working really hard. And I'm telling myself a story that it's really hard for you and that you're struggling, and. And it made me feel sad, and I don't know what to do. And then let him come to you with, like, first off, he'll say he'll feel your heart and be like, oh, babe, like, I don't want you to be afraid. I don't want you to feel sadness or fear. Like, I. I know I'm not maybe doing the best right now with it, but I. I wanted to learn. I wanted to do better. And I'm. I'm I'm gonna keep at it. I'm gonna keep at it, babe. I'm gonna make this happen for us. Like, I. I'm committed. I'm committed. And so you're giving him a chance to respond from his healthy king, his kingly energy to start shifting and, and wanting to be a better man for you, be a better provider. And then you could even say like, could you help me with that? Or may ask what you think about that. So you're inspiring him to help to be in that hero. Even if he's not making a lot of money, he could still be your hero in small ways, potentially at the house fixing things while he's working on making more money or the other aspects he may be trying to. To provide for you with. So that's what I'd recommend to you with that K. Eunuch said, thanks for pointing out that there is a percentage of men who are just toxic. Yeah, definitely. There are some men that are just broken. So you got to be somewhat wary of them. But vulnerability is the best test. When you're vulnerable in the way we're teaching, using magnetic feminine communication and magnetic feminine polarity, you'll very quickly know if you're dealing with one of those types of men because it'll just become very obvious that he has no ability to really empathize or to show care for your heart or to want to fix things or to want to be your hero. You still want to give it a little bit of time. I would say at least give it a couple, you know, vulnerable shares. And if he's just his reaction is very toxic or he's trying to turn it against you or gaslight you in some way or he's not showing care, basically he's not showing care for your heart and wanting to help, then he is probably one of those broken men. And you are going to have to set a boundary to be healthy with yourself and to be a high value woman for yourself. And you have to be willing to walk away at that point. And then my man said, are you an infj? I believe I am. I haven't taken that test for a while, my man, but I believe that sounds, from what I can remember, that sounds about right. It was like an intuitive feeler judger, something like that. I have to look it up. I haven't done the Myers Briggs for a while. It's funny because your name actually sort of sounds like Myers Briggs. Momanda Bugs. All right. Eunuch said, and thank you for sharing these principles. I keep them in mind as and as things are, I recently met someone, and I guess I'll see what happens. Oh, congrats. Great to hear it. And, yeah, keep us posted on how that develops and what does happen. Use it as practice. It's a great feminine mindset practice, because then you're less attached from the outcome. You're less trying to. To make something happen. You're just. Hey, it's just practice. I'm gonna practice being in my feminine. I'm gonna practice using feminine communication, and we'll see how this. How this goes. It's a. It's a very powerful magnetic frame of mind to be in. Jacqueline said, I went on five dates with a guy who contacted me from high school. I'm 44 and he is 45. Amazing dates and fun. Now, we were intimate on the fifth date with no established relationship. Yeah, I would be careful about that in general because that can definitely lead to some tricky situations. We talked after that once on FaceTime, and I have heard nothing in over a week. What should I do? Yeah, so with a situation like this, I would reach out and say, may ask for a phone call or may ask if we can talk on the phone. Vulnerable request. And once you're on the phone, hopefully he'll say yes once you're on the phone to share your feelings. Hey, how's it going? Good. May I share something with you, or may I share a feeling I'm having with you? Sure. I'm feeling a little anxious. I'm feeling a little sad. Why are you feeling anxious or sad? I'm usually teaching you also, by the way, how to share core emotions. That's why it's. It often ends up sounding the same, because then we're getting to the core of what's really going on in your heart, which is often emotions like sadness, anxiety, fear, joy, peace. They're like some very core emotions. If you can look up a feelings wheel, you can kind of see which we have a very advanced one in our. In our course, in our membership coaching memberships. But that'll really help you to get clear on what's actually going on in your own body and the feelings and sensations you have. So, anyways, I'm feeling sadness. And why are you feeling sad? It's because I feel like we had some great dates. I loved our last date, and I noticed I haven't heard from you for a while since our last FaceTime, and. And it's kind of been interspersed since then. And I'm telling myself a story that maybe after we had sex, you Lost interest or you no longer wanted to continue our connection, or you're not prioritizing it in some way. And that thought made me feel sad and I don't know what to do. Could you help? Could you help me or could may ask for some help? You can ask. So that's a very vulnerable request to say, may I ask for some help? You've basically given up to him as like you're being open, you're being vulnerable, you're being feminine. You're inspiring him to want to fix it, to want to help you, whatever the situation might be. I had an example of this earlier. You might have heard or not. But now likely he's going to. He may just make an excuse. He may say things, whatever he might say. But what we're looking for is that does his effort changed. And now that you've showed your heart, you're exposed your vulnerable, feminine, open heart to him. How does he change? How does he shift his orientation to you? Likely he'll start building a case to why he wants to continue or why he wants to come closer to you or set up a date. But you want to be detached from the outcome. He may not and he may just have not any care for you, or he may be damaged like one of these other like we were talking about. One of some men may be.5% of men may be completely damaged and incapable of being a hero. So you, you have to see what his reaction is. Vulnerability is the best test of a man, and it's also really the best test of a relationship to see what is the state of the relationship, where are we? What does he want? What is he gonna do? Is he really interested? Is he not interested? Does he have care for my heart? Does he not have care for my heart? That's the best test. And you can do this. You can use the 90 day challenge that we have over several times. You can share these things with him and be open and use some of the other principles we'll teach you and scripts that we can give you. And if he doesn't shift, then likely you're gonna need to step away because he's just not capable. He doesn't have the care for you. But hopefully he will respond to that and you guys can get on the phone and talk and have some real talk. Or if he doesn't respond, you can also just say, may I share something with you here or may I share something I'm feeling? And you could still have the conversation over text. It's not ideal, but if a man isn't willing to get on the phone with you for whatever reason. In my opinion, if a man's not even willing to talk on the phone with you, it's pretty much done. It's like there's very little care left for him that he's not even willing to get on the phone with you. But you can still have this conversation over text. And if he's not able to get on the phone or if he just says like I'm too busy, like just tell me here what's up and you can tell him you can have this conversation over text. And then that could shift things hopefully. And if it doesn't, then you clearly have to walk away at that point. But. And we do have some other tools you can use. Like we have our appreciation bomb text that we can teach you that you can use with certain guys, a way to share appreciation in the right way that can bring them back to you, like revive a relationship. And we also have, that's actually our other text. We have a seven word relationship revival text message that will teach you as well. That can bring back a guy who's completely ghosted on you, maybe even an ex. Can bring him back to where he now is coming back into your life. He's wanting to show care and devotion to you. Even if he was upset in the past, even if he wasn't being a good man in the past, that can, it can really turn things around to where he's coming closer to you and wanting to help. So that's very powerful as well. I'd recommend getting that if you haven't. If, if he isn't really responding to the first message is what I would say. Or if this is for other women too. If you have a man who've been, who's been out of contact for a long period of time, these messages that we have can really turn things around too. We've seen that a lot that those are very effective with the women who use it. And so let's see here. I'm going to answer just a couple questions and we're going to wrap this up here. Iwa said this is probably okay. So Iwa said, I asked him a few times if he could give me a call. No answer. And I saw him running away when he saw me leaving the church. He's afraid of talking with me. Okay, got it. Iwa, sorry to hear that. I don't know what the situation is or the background with you guys, but it sounds like probably a relationship that went source and a man who's clearly not showing care for your heart and not even wanting to talk on the phone like I like I just mentioned before, who knows what the history is. There may have been too much bad blood, but if you I in that case I would recommend for someone like you, I'd Recommend using our 7 word relationship revival text to hopefully get him coming back to you. And you could also try that if he doesn't respond to that, which I would be surprised. You can also use our appreciation bomb text to really shift the dynamic in the relationship and activate his masculine to start coming to you also. And that's really all you can do. If he doesn't shift from those things, you really have to let him go because either there's just been too much damage or he's a broken man like we talked about, he's too much in his feminine or he's not able to show care for a woman's heart. He could be a narcissist, a sociopath, we don't know. But I'm sure we could go into the details and you could elaborate with me and I'm sure we'd uncover a lot of things that we can help you with which we also do in our coaching memberships. I really go deep with the women who are in there that we have to help you with your specific situation because usually there is a lot of details, there's a lot of background. We need to get into that, we need to unpack it so we can give you exactly the right scripts, exactly the right strategy so that you will have the relationship you want with him in 90 days. That's our goal and that's our guarantee with any of the coaching that we do around that. So speaking of that, we are wrapping up for today and if you haven't yet, I highly recommend taking our free Magnetize youe Man quiz which goes much deeper into all these principles, gives you options for how to actually implement this in your life and get the coaching support you want and get the principles, get the techniques and let us do this for you to create this relationship, the dream relationship where a man is showing devotion for you, he is showing care and he's not pulling away, losing interest or rejecting you. We're going to avoid that. We're going to bring a man close rather than pushing him away. So again, to get that, all you have to do is click the link in the description or the comments below this video or in our bio, depending on where you're watching this video at. In one of those places you can get the quiz. Or you can just open up your browser after this and go to magnetizeyourman.com which is our main website, magnetizeyourman.com and you can get that free quiz there. And we're excited to help you. I'm excited to really help you master this. Learn the dance, learn the language, because you're just getting the little itty bitty tip of the iceberg here of what's possible. And all the principles that you're going to master and your life is going to be completely different, especially your relationships, completely different. After this, you'll be shocked how much your man, a man that you're interested in especially, will start shifting his energy towards you and stepping up when you've really implemented these principles properly and the right communication, the right scripts, the right ways of being with him, where everything will just totally be different, a totally different relationship, it's revived because you're being revived. You're connecting to your core. You're being a different woman. So much love. Hope this was helpful. Take care and I'll talk to you again very soon. Bye bye.