7 Sex Blunders Men Won't Tell You About (Avoid These Mistakes!)

What men consider horrible sex. Seven mistakes that turn him off. Why do you want to know that? Well, because, of course, you want to avoid those things. If you can avoid those things, then he will want to have sex with you more often because he'll think the sex is great. I'm Kevin Anthony for Magnetize youe Man. I am a certified sexologist, NLP practitioner, and sex love and relationship coach. And for over 10 years, I have been helping men, women, and couples have the relationship of their dreams and the best sex of their lives. Okay, number seven is she's too inebriated. Now, many times when she's inebriated, he's inebriated also, in which case he might not even notice that the sex is bad and he might not actually say anything. But if he's not inebriated or not that inebriated, then he's probably not going to think the sex is particularly good. Now, I know a lot of people who think sex is great when they go out and they get really drunk and then they have wild, passionate sex. And, like, that was so hot, as if they even remember most of it anyway. But if they did, or if they were in their right mind, they would of course realize that the sex is never really that good when you're inebriated for many, many reasons. But just know that he's not gonna consider it great sex if you allow yourself to just get so stupid drunk that you can't be present. You can't. You know, all the things that make sex good aren't actually there. Number six, she is finished too early. Now, I know, I know. A lot of times you're like, wait a minute. What do you mean she's finished too early? He's the one that always finishes too early. And then I don't get to have my orgasm. Well, that is often the case. However, sometimes she finishes too early as well. Now, this can be that she actually had a very quick orgasm and then is done. But it can also mean that maybe she wasn't thinking the sex is that good either. And so she was just like, okay, I'm done. Let's talk about the first case first. So one of the reasons that she is finished too early is because she has, you know, probably a quick clitoral orgasm, and then she's done. Now, I'm not suggesting there's anything wrong with having a quick clitoral orgasm. In fact, many women wish they could have a quick clitoral orgasm. The problem is, though, is that if you just take that very first one, the One that my wife used to call the genital sneeze. The sort of quick, smaller version of the female orgasm. And then you're like, okay, I'm good enough, that's done. You never have an opportunity to build the energy up more. You never get to those deep, deeper levels of orgasm. And for some men, if they have control over their ejaculation and they can last long enough to take you to those places, they'll feel like the sex wasn't really that good, that it was over too quickly, and that they never really had a chance to build up that energy and get to those higher levels. Now, I will admit that in today's day and age, men who can actually perform that fashion and who can take you to those places are fewer and further in between. So chances are he will be the one coming before you do. However, if you find a good one, and I really hope you do, that's what we're trying to help you do on this channel. He's not going to be particularly happy with the sex if you're kind of one and done and out real quick. Okay, number five, she doesn't reciprocate. So, you know, this is often, again, a complaint from women that men don't reciprocate. However, it can happen in the reverse as well. And so sometimes I do hear from men when I coach them that I was trying so hard and I gave her oral sex and I gave her a massage and I was doing this and I was making sure we were in the position she wanted to do, but I didn't really get anything in return from her. Right. And of course, sex is supposed to be a give and take. Now, of course, there are times when maybe one person is really tired and it's like, you know, maybe they're not in their best form and they just need to sort of be a little less performant in that moment. But for the most part, sex should be a give and take. And we should be interested in our partner's pleasure, both of us. So we should be mutually giving to our partner. So, yeah, a man will not consider the sex particularly great if he's constantly doing all the work in it. And she's not really giving back or participating in that particular way. Number four, she just lies there. Now, I know, I know there's a stereotype that any sex is good sex for men. That's really only true for very, very young men who are just happy that they're having sex at all. But older, more experienced men who've been around who've had more sex, who now know what they like and what they don't like and what they want, what they don't want are not going to be particularly happy with a woman who's just kind of laying there, not really doing anything, not making noises, not, you know, really connecting with him, not moving her body, not showing interest. And that's really what it comes down to. As much as we love sex as men and we're pretty happy to get sex pretty much anytime we want to know that our woman is enjoying it, that she wants to be there doing it. I tell you, I hear this from a lot of men, especially as they start to get older, you know, maybe mid-30s, ish on, you know, they get to that point where they're like, you know, if she's not really wanting to be there, you know, having sex with me, then I'm not all that interested. I'd rather be with somebody who actually does want to have sex with me. So if she's just kind of lying there, not really being very active or vocal or connected, it feels like she doesn't really want to be there. And that's, that's a major turn off. And by the way, if you are interested in learning more about why maybe the sex in your relationship just isn't, isn't quite working the way that it should, then go to polarityquiz.com and take the free polarity quiz and that will help you figure out whether or not the polarity in your relationship is where it needs to be. Also, while you're at it, go check out my website@kevanandsaline.com linkinbio because if you like the type of advice I'm giving you here, you can go to my website and find a whole lot more. You can find my YouTube videos, my podcast, my coaching programs, my free vault of information to help you have better relationships and sex. It's all right there@kevanandseline.com link in bio. All right, number three is she tries to control everything that's happening. Most men, especially if they're in their masculine, if you've got a relationship where there is some polarity there and he's in his masculine, are going to want to at least have some control over what's happening in the moment. And so when a woman is constantly trying to control too much and like, no, do it this way. No, I need you to do this and no, no, no, like I want this and that and the, it's just a major, major turn off for Men. Now, I'm not saying that you can't ask for what you want. In fact, you should be asking for what you want. I'm not saying that you can't speak up. I'm not saying that you can't make suggestions. But remember, this is a give and take. So there should be a nice balance of, you know, asking for what you want and speaking up versus allowing him to take a little control, right. And create something together. You just don't want to be in that space of trying to sort of micromanage and control the entire. All right, number two, she complains that he's doing it wrong. There is no bigger turn off than when she is complaining during sex, especially if she's complaining about something that he's doing. Now, again, again, I don't mean that you can't speak up if something's not right, you should speak up. You don't have to tolerate something that's not working for you. But the difference is, do you complain about it or do you simply ask for what you want? So, for instance, if something he's doing feels a little uncomfortable and maybe it doesn't feel good to you, rather than complaining like, ow, what you're doing is hurting me, right? Rather than doing something like that, what you want to say is, you know, that position or that movement just doesn't feel good for me today. How about we try this? Or, you know, that, you know, that's not feeling that good for me today. But I really love it when you do this, right? So that way you can still speak up, you can still ask for what you want, but you're not doing it in a way where you're complaining or potentially criticizing his technique. Because if you do that, he's probably going to take that personally. It's going to hurt his confidence. It's going to be a major turn off. It might even cause him to lose his erection. So don't approach it from that place. Approach it from the place of. That's not working for me today. Here's what I would really love, okay? And number one is she's just not into it. Now. I know that's kind of like she just lies there, which was, you know, one of the earlier ones I talked about. Just lying there can potentially signal to us that she's not interested, but not necessarily. She might be interested. She just might not be interested in doing anything other than lying there. In this case, what I'm talking about is she's really just not interested at all. Now you might be asking yourself, if she's not interested at all, why is she having sex with him? Well, that is a good question. But unfortunately it happens. There are of course, many reasons for that. You know, she doesn't want to say no because she doesn't want to hurt his feelings. Or maybe she was into it, but she's not anymore. Whatever it is, if you're actually having sex and you're just really not into it, you're just wishing that you were somewhere else, you're, you know, fantasizing about something else or whatever's going on, it's just not going to be good sex. And you know, honestly, if you are speaking up, if you are acting in good judgment when choosing partners and things like that, you should never be in a position where you're having sex and you're not into it. But if for some reason you do end up in that place, just realize that, okay, you're not into it, so it's not good for you, but it's also not good for him. So it's kind of a lose lose in that scenario. So I would suggest, of course, not allowing yourself to get into that situation. But again, if you find yourself in that, just know it's not going to be good for him either.