8 High-Value Woman Habits That Drive Guys WILD

It's time to get confident, to become a high value woman that attracts a high value man. How to be confident within yourself, knowing that you deserve to have love, you deserve to be treated like a queen, you deserve to have a man prioritizing you and not treating you like an option. Pulling away, losing interest, seeing you only as friends with benefits, not giving you the care and devotion that you desire in your heart, in your soul. That's what we're going to be covering in this training today. So I'm super excited to have you here listening. I'm Brody Boyd with Magnetize youe man. And for over 20 years, combined with my wife Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man they desire fast. So let's go ahead and dive into these principles of how to become a more confident high value woman that high value masculine men are drawn to like bees to flowers. There's that old saying, bees to honey. It's actually more realistic. Bees to flowers, the flame, the moths to the flame. That's what we're looking for here. So let's start with the first principle here. First principle is vulnerability. Now vulnerability is so important because vulnerability allows you to actually build your confidence through your communication and through your interactions with a man and with people. So you can actually draw him to you and become more confident at the same time. Vulnerability is also the essence of femininity. Being open, being available, showing your heart, revealing your heart. So when you are vulnerable with a man, you allow him in, you allow him to see and feel you and you're naturally building your courage. Because shadows cannot exist in the light. When you reveal to a man what's going on inside of your heart in the right way, you do it respectfully so that you're not penetrating him energetically. But when you share your feelings respectfully, openly, you start to actually take away a lot of your own insecurities and fears and anxieties that might be going on because you've spoken to it. So there's a story I've told a couple times about my wife. When we were dating, about three months into dating, she actually said something to me one day that was very powerful, which she said. She was at my place and she said, a part of me wants to manipulate you right now. And that really impacted me because what was happening in that moment is she was vulnerable with me, with what was going on for her inside of her heart, inside of her system. And she shared something with Me that was probably scary and uncomfortable for her to share. But what it did is it allowed me to be fascinated and to say, wow, that's interesting. Like, why do you want to manipulate me? What's that all about? And she was able to share with me her story behind it around, you know, I wasn't. Didn't feel like I got the attention that I wanted from you earlier today. And I was just noticing that I was going to try to make you feel guilty for that. And I caught myself and I realized I don't want to be that way with you. I don't want to do that with you. And so I decided to just share it with you. And it was really powerful for me because I felt like one. I could connect to this woman. I could understand so much more what was going inside of her, going on inside of her. But then also the fact that she told me built a lot of trust for me. And what it also showed me was that she was a high value, confident woman in the sense that she was able to kind of tell on herself, to reveal herself what was going on. And that takes confidence because she could have been really scared in that moment. She could have been really afraid that I would judge her or that I would start pulling away or that I would try to manipulate her because she was being so real and vulnerable with me. So it took some trust, it took some openness, and it was powerful. It actually, she was building her own confidence in that moment. It showed me she was confident. But also in that moment, she was building her own confidence because she was open with me. So you can start practicing this with basic things like sharing your feelings with a man. May I share something with you? Sure. I feel fear right now, or I feel anxiety, or I feel afraid. Or it could be positive emotions as well. I feel grateful, I feel happy. And then pause and let him feel your heart. Let him feel what's going on for you. And if likely feel scary in that moment, because it feels scary sometimes to let go of the armor, to let the masculine armor fall off, and to be vulnerable in your feminine core. Here I am. This is me. It sounds like a Bryan Adams song. This is what is going on inside of my heart. Take it or leave it. Like you're detached from the outcome in that moment. But that vulnerability, when you. Every time you press into your fear, on the other side of fear is confidence. Confidence is waiting for you. Because regardless of what the outcome is, you've now slayed your own dragon. In a sense, you've gone into an area that was scary for you. You've practiced something that was scary for you, which is being open and vulnerable, by the way. You can do this with all people. You can do this with friends, family, colleagues, guys you're not interested in, potentially so that you're getting comfortable with being vulnerable. So when you're with a man you're interested in, it's going to be much easier for you to be real with him, to share with him how you're feeling and what's going on inside of your heart. So it's a powerful way. When I was learning how to be more confident as a man, I remember studying this training with this man named Dr. Paul Debransky. And he used to say, you know, imagine you put a point system on it for every level of fear you have. Let's say you have a level four fear with sharing that thing. When you actually do or share that thing that you have a level four of fear. Once you're done, you're awarded four points of confidence. So four points of fear equals four points of confidence. Once you've actually done that thing that you're afraid of. That's how you build this confidence inside of yourself. That's how you practice being the queen and being a high value woman is you have to, at the end of the day, be willing to face your fears and to be willing to open up and risk potentially getting hurt again. Or having a man not react well, or having him say something that you don't like or do something that you don't like. But the only. But no matter what happens, you're still going to be awarded those points of confidence within yourself because you face the fear. You did it anyways. You took action. It showed yourself that you're capable. You don't have to hide and cower all the time like, please don't hurt me, please don't let me. I got to protect my heart. I don't want to ever get hurt again. But it's like you showed yourself, like, actually I can have an open heart. Even if I get hurt, I can still have an open heart. I could still risk that. It's called living with an open heart. This is a way of life. And this is how you also detach from the outcome of not being so attached to how a man responds or what happens because of your vulnerability, because of you being in your feminine. That's the feminine practice. So hopefully that's helpful getting that concept. The next one is to get clear on your desires. If you desire it, you deserve it. This is a powerful principle to help you build your confidence and see yourself more as a high value woman. But you have to start. The only way to start being clear on what you want is you have to be clear on what you want. You have to get clear on what are your desires, what kind of relationship do you actually want? What kind of man do you want? What traits do you want him to embody with you? How do you want him to communicate with you? How do you want him to respond to your needs? How do you want him to listen to you? Or what questions do you want him to ask? What things you want him to provide for you? Gifts, acts of service, words of affirmation, Listening, care, devotion? Be clear on what those desires are that you have deep in your heart. The feminine yearning, what is there? Because only once you have gotten clear on your desires can you then get to the next stage, which is believing you deserve those desires. And there's a hack for that, which is this statement I just gave you. If you desire it, you deserve it. Simple as that. The fact that you want it, the fact that you desire it, you yearn for it. That means you already deserve it, it is awaiting you, it is available to you. So it's a powerful principle. I'd recommend getting out a journal, creating a vision board, getting out a journal and actually writing out clearly, what do you desire? And let yourself dream, let yourself be adventurous in your desires, whether it's mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, sexual, or it could be the type of relationship, the type of life that you're living. Try to get clear on what that is. And then immediately afterwards say, I deserve that, I deserve that, I deserve that, I deserve that, I deserve that, I deserve that. And just go down the list. Because I desire it, I deserve it. Ralph Waldo Emerson had a powerful statement, which I'm paraphrasing here, that God so designed the universe and God so designed us as humans, that he wouldn't allow us to have desires if we weren't capable in some way of having those desires, of meeting those desires. So the fact that God is allowing you to feel a certain desire, a craving for something in your life, means that you're naturally already capable of having that. You're capable of creating that. In another sense, you deserve to have that. You're worthy of having that. In the Bible it says, go and take dominion, go and take dominion over the earth. And that is a spiritual calling for every person that you have the right, you have the ability to take dominion over your life, to create the life that you desire and you deserve to have that. In fact, God wills it, the universe wills it. Everything is aligned to help you create that in your life. And so that'll help you. And if you desire it, you deserve it. And the deservingness is where the confidence comes. Your attractiveness goes up. You're being more, in that moment, a high value woman, a woman that knows her worth and knows what she desires and has high standards, starts to raise your standards of what you know you can have and what you desire. And that's very attractive to a man. And then we just have to add the femininity piece. And now you're that magnetic combo that every man wants. Every high quality masculine man, he desires to have a high, high value feminine woman receiving his leadership and his care and his devotion. And you will attract a high value masculine man who wants to give you his leadership, his care, his devotion. When you are putting this all together and using these principles we're teaching you here. All right, the next principle here is asking for help. This goes along with vulnerability. But a high value woman, a confident woman, is okay with asking for help and she practices it, especially with men. Hey, could you open this jar for me? Hey, could you get that thing off the shelf for me? Hey, could you help me with my car? It's having an issue. Hey, I can't understand how to put this thing over. Here, fit this together. Do you know how this works? Hey, you're really good with taxes. Would you mind giving me some tips on how I could, like what I should do differently or do you know of someone I can ask or I could talk to? So it's starting to ask for help. Ask for advice. Practice that with men. You can practice that with women too. You can practice it with people because overall you're becoming a high value woman who believes she's worthy of having her desires met. You're a high value woman. So why wouldn't you ask for what you desire? Because you deserve it. You believe you deserve it. So why not ask for it? Why not ask for help? Why not ask for people to give to you, especially men? Ask for them to give to you, ask for them for help. And you can be graceful and feminine with it. So you can say some of those statements that I said like, may I ask, may I ask if you can give me some advice? May I ask you for help? I want you to practice that right now. Say it out loud to yourself, may I ask for some help? Or say, may I ask for your advice? Could I get your advice? Could I get your help. Can you help me with this? Can you help me with that? So you're practicing this. Get it into your system first. What it feels like to actually ask a man for help and to ask for his provision. Because the more comfortable you get with that, the more you're in the actual act of it are raising your value. You're raising your sense of confidence. Because you're telling yourself, you're proving to yourself, I am high value. Because if I'm not high value, if I wasn't high value, I wouldn't even ask. If I wasn't high value, I would just either be silent or. Or I would try to take. I would just try to grab and take what I want. Because I don't believe that I'm actually deserving it. That I'm actually deserving somebody giving it to me and doing it for me. Like, I would just do it myself or I would take it from somebody, or I would try to command them and lead them to give it to me. Or I would not say anything and just be quiet and pretend. I don't have any needs, I don't have any desires. I don't need help. I'm just fine. I'm just whatever. I'm too cool for school. Everything's good in my life. I don't need anybody. I don't need no man. And men want to feel needed. Masculine man needs to feel needed by you and that you want him and that he can provide value in your life. Otherwise, there's nothing for him. There's nothing for him to do. There's nothing for him to provide. And why would he be in a relationship? Like, why not just be friends? Because friends help each other. Friends just hang out sometimes. But friends aren't necessarily. A man's not devoting himself and devoting his life often to a friend the way he would to a woman who needs him and who desires him. Because that's where he gets his sense of meaning and purpose. Like, wow, this woman needs me. I can be the hero for her. Every masculine man deep in his core, he desires to be the hero. He desires to provide and give and be seen even within himself as being the hero. So you can be that for him and say, I need a hero. I want a hero. Could I have some help? Could you help me? Could you give me some advice, please? I appreciate it. Thank you so much. I feel so safe when you hold me like that. I feel so safe when you help me carry my groceries out when it's dark and there's weird people walking around like, thank you so much. Let him help you. Hey, I have a guy coming over to my apartment to pick up a sofa. Would you be. Would you mind swinging by and being there while he's here just so I can feel a little safer? Sure, yeah, I could do that for you. He comes and he helps you, and now he feels like the hero. He helped you to feel safe. He rescued you. He was the knight in shining armor. These are great ways that you activate a man's hero instincts. You activate his devotion. He wants to do more for you. And at the same time, you're proving to him and to yourself that you're a high value woman. Just in the very act of asking, you prove your confidence. So hope you're getting that because it's very powerful. The next principle here is listing the things you love about yourself. This is a great exercise. I've done this before in the past. Everyone can do this. It's great to start to remind yourself of the things that you love and you like about yourself. Just get out a piece of paper and start listing those things. It could be basic things, like, I have a good sense of humor, I'm kind to people, I take care of myself in basic ways, whatever it might be for you, I keep my house clean, relatively, like whatever that is for you. Find things that you can compliment yourself for, basically. Maybe it could also be like things you've been complimented for in the past from other people. Maybe there was something people would comment on when you were growing up about, you have such beautiful eyes, or you have the most gorgeous hair, or you're so outgoing, I want to be more outgoing like you. Or you have such a soothing voice. Try to list those things because those little things you might remember from your childhood or even recently, they, they can help you to get into the sense of reminding yourself that I am a worthy woman, I am a, a great woman, I have value to offer. I am. There are great traits about me. And so that you can start to like yourself again, you can start to like yourself and then start to love yourself, ultimately is what we're going for here. Because a high value woman, she does love herself. She not in the arrogant sense, but she's like, I, I like being with myself. I love being me, I love being around me. I take care of myself. I care for myself because of that. And I see the value that I bring and I see the things that I like about myself and I appreciate being that for other people. Because with a high quality masculine man, you don't really need to do anything. Remember the, the masculine is doing, the feminine is being and receiving. Right? The feminine is giving and doing. The feminine is being. The masculine is giving and doing. The feminine is receiving and being. So you don't have to do much with the masculine man. You receive his gifts, his devotions, you receive it graciously, you honor him, you respect him, you trust him, you admire him, you share those things with him and you let him feel fully received by you. And that's where you're activating his masculine gifts, the polarity. And he wants to give more to you and he feels that chemistry and attraction because you're creating a healthy, polarized relationship. So I have a lot to cover here, so let's get to some more and then maybe we'll have some Q and A after this as well. So the next principle here is surround yourself with high value. So one of the ways you can prove to yourself that you're a high value woman is you start to surround yourself with high value because your environment influences who you become in a lot of ways. So let's start by looking at your friend circle. Are you surrounding yourself with high value friends or are you surrounding yourself with low value friends? And how could you get around more high value people, whatever that might mean to you? People who take care of themselves, who are healthy, who are successful in different areas of their life, who have great relationships or great careers, or they're doing what they love and they're lifting you up in a sense. They are people who you feel better around and you feel like you're getting lifted into a higher level of being when you're around them. And if you don't have friends like that, that's okay. One key is to spend a little less time with the friends who are dragging you down. Because just by doing that, just by getting away from some of the low value people, quote unquote, which, you know, we don't like to ascribe value to people, but let's say people who are bringing you down in some ways, spend less time with them. I know it can be hard sometimes if they're friend like old, you know, high school friends or their family, it can be hard. But you can love them from a distance often and just spend less time. Doesn't mean you don't have to never see them. But just spend a little less time. Especially don't share a lot of things that can cause them to want to tear you down, like talking too much about your romantic life or other areas like Just a little bit less, a little bit more of guardrails, that'll help by itself. And then if you can start to see what kind of groups, activities, experiences, places can you go to that can start to lift you up with some people who actually are taking care of themselves, who are motivated, who are working on improving themselves in their lives, who are successful in different areas, they have happy relationships, they have careers that they love, or they have lifestyles that they love. So it could involve going to meetup.com finding different events to go to, groups to join, or could go involve going to what's the wealthiest area in your city that you can start hanging out at, go to luxury hotel lobbies and just hang out there, maybe get a day pass at a spa and just start hanging out there. Being available, to be approached, to have conversations. This is great if you're single as well. Start meeting some people, but just start to think about that basic question because you'll come up with the answers. But if I give you that basic question, what are some high value people or high value places you can start to go and surround yourself with, you'll probably start to come up with some ideas. And if you don't, leave a comment below or join one of our coaching programs because we give you a clear map on what to start doing to attract that into your life and to be in those high value environments and to have high value men around you and approaching you. But that's a good question just to sit with. That'll start helping you. The next key here is to use the right affirmations. So affirmations are words that you say to yourself because your thoughts become things, your thoughts create your reality. And it starts with how you talk to yourself, saying things like I love myself rather than I'm such an idiot, why did I do that again? Or I'm always pushing guys away or why am I? Why do I have to be so needy or dramatic? These are like the negative thoughts, the negative affirmations that you can program yourself with. Or we can do the positive affirmations that you can program yourself with, such as I'll give you some good ones. You might want to write these down or say them out loud as I say them. I'm a high value woman. I deserve to be loved. I like myself. I love myself. I deserve to be happy. I'm feminine and open. I am beautiful. I am desirable, masculine, healthy, high quality. Men love me. I deserve to have a happy, loving, long term relationship. I am worthy. I am good enough. I am the Gift, I am the prize. I am a queen. Any man would be lucky to be with me. So you can start to stretch yourself into these more, let's say extreme beliefs that are even more like, wow, I'm really lifting myself up into this confident, high value, queenly woman. You start to stretch yourself as needed. You can start small with something as basic as I like myself, or even smaller, like, I'm a good person, whatever you have to start with. And then you can start gradually expanding it. You can start to say these affirmations to yourself every morning when you wake up or when you're looking in the mirror or read them off a piece of paper. Or you can do it at night before you go to bed. If you have them on your phone, you can just create a little notepad on your phone and just scroll through them while you're waiting for something. Or you are, yeah, sitting in a lobby somewhere or before you go to an appointment. You start to even just read them. Just to say the words will start to affect your confidence. It will start to affect how you see yourself in subtle ways. And that'll start to shift into becoming more willing to risk vulnerability, willing to be open, willing to take action, willing to take risks that may have been uncomfortable for you in the past. So the right affirmations is also very important. And the next powerful principle we have here is spiritual practice and community. So sometimes you can get stuck trying to believe you have to do everything on your own. And that can cause you to be unconfident. Is that the right word? Unconfident, insecure, low self esteem. When you're believing that you have to do everything on your own, that it's up to you, life is up to you, and you have to be strong and you have to figure everything out. And you have to be in your masculine, rather than practicing surrender in a lot of ways, practicing submission to a higher power, whatever that means for you, that somebody's on your side, right? That somebody's looking after you. Depending on your religious, spiritual beliefs, it could be God, could be your grandmother looking after you, somebody who you care about, who's maybe passed away. Imagine that they're there. Imagine God, that person is there with you, helping you on the journey, guiding your hands, guiding your mouth, guiding your actions, your decisions. And start to try to listen to those voices, listen to that guidance and say, what does God want me to do right now? You know, what does the Holy Spirit want me to do right now? What would my grandma want me to do right now? Whatever that Is for you practice that because that helps you to surrender a bit, which is trust, which becomes confidence that you're not alone, you have support, even if it's just spiritual forces behind you, guiding you, leading you. A powerful question we got from our church is this question of to remember not who you are, but whose you are, whose you are, who's looking after you, who's got your back? Does God have you back? Does God have your back? Or does nobody have your back? Are you doing this alone or do you have friends? Is it a friendly universe? Do you have spiritual guides? So to get clear on what can you surrender to? How can you start to practice that? How can you get around a community also that can support you in that, that, that you're empowered by forces that can actually give you the answers. And so that when you want to be open with a man, when you want to be real with a man, when you want to expand your life, your relationships, expand, your dominion that we talked about earlier, that there's almost like a power, there's a force behind that, that's helping you, that's guiding you and to trust that, to just listen. And it starts with just listening into your body, listening into your intuition, your guidance. Maybe you do have God speak to you, or you have different voices, different voices that you trust, different guidance that comes into your system to start to trust that, so that you can surrender to it in a lot of ways, just like you would surrender in a relationship with a high value masculine man. You starting to practice that now, how can you surrender more? How can you trust that guidance? How can you let go, let go of the fear, let go of the feeling like you have to figure it all out, you have to do it your own way and start to be surrendered more. That's a feminine practice, detaching from the outcome. The masculine is trying to get outcomes. The masculine is trying to make things happen and holding on. The feminine is letting go and letting go of the outcome, enjoying the journey and trusting the process and trusting her man once she attracts a man. Trusting her man to lead, trusting her man to take care of her, trusting her man to devote himself. Because that's who you are, you're a high value woman. So you deserve to have that care. You deserve to have those forces behind you, helping you, caring for you, nurturing you along the way. So that's a powerful principle as well. And then the next one is getting coaching and practicing tough conversations. So one thing that can really help you to actually build your confidence is to practice this Ahead of time. Practice is what really builds competence. And so having a coach or having a guide with you, a mentor to help you have tough conversations. So maybe you have a guy who's not treating you well, maybe he's not committing to you, maybe he's not giving you what you need, maybe he's acting distant, or he's not texting you very often, or he's not wanting to solve problems, or he's not showing care for you. How do you navigate those conversations? Because you do want to have conversations. I recommend that, that there's a lot of advice out there and I even used to give some of this a lot back in the day around, you know, if a guy's not giving you attention, just dump him, leave him, forget him. But what's actually very powerful is to share instead, to actually open up to him and share your feelings. But doing it in the right way, that's the key. Doing in a way that's respectful, that's vulnerable, that's honoring where he comes closer to you rather than being pushed away. Because some women, when they share their feelings, when they share their desires or their needs with a man, they do it in a way that's subtly attacking him, that's subtly blaming him, or subtly trying to control and manipulate him that ends up making him pull away rather than sharing vulnerably your heart that magnetizes him and pulls him closer to you. So getting coaching around that and all these principles and how to build your confidence, how to be a high value woman, as well as practicing these conversations and role plays, which we actually do in our coaching memberships, like I will literally practice these with you and practice these with women on some of our group calls as well. So you can actually see what that looks like to use feminine communication and to magnetize a man and how to actually feel what that feels like. I gave some examples earlier, like saying things like may I have some help? Or sharing your feelings vulnerably or how do you appreciate a man? But what's even more important, this is where it gets more delicate, is how do you share your problems and your needs and your desires with a man in a feminine, open, respectful way. That that's where it can be very valuable to have help and have, like I said, asking for help, getting help. A high value woman believes she deserves to have help. She's willing to invest in having help and letting people guide her, letting her people give her what she needs and show her the way, or give her exactly what she needs, which would be like, what a man does. When you're in a relationship, a man will provide. When you've activated his masculine core, he will provide. He will want to give to you, he will want to devote for himself to you. So those are the principles today with confidence, we're going to open up some Q and A in just a bit. So if you would like to get our help with doing this for you, like I said, where we actually give you specific scripts of what to say with a man to make him want to devote himself to you, to see you as a high value woman, to navigate tough situations that draw him closer to you where he desires you more, he cares for you, he even craves you on a deep masculine level. Then make sure to take our free Love quiz by going to magnetizeyourman.com or you can also get the link in the description or comments below this video or in our bio depending on where you're watching this video. Highly recommend that that'll get you started on the path to really master these principles. Some of the ones we've talked about today, and especially magnetic feminine communication and Magnetic feminine polarity, which are the deep keys that will unlock a man's true heart to you, where he feels deep feelings of love and care and devotion for you and never wants to leave your side. That's what we want to unlock for you. So again, get that for free in the comments below. I'm going to start answering some questions here, so let's see what we have coming in here. So Latasha said, good stuff. Glad this is helpful for you. And if you have any questions by the way, on your dating life or with a specific man you're having issues with, you're having struggles, go ahead and post that in the comments. I may. I'll likely have some time now to answer a good amount of comments. We'll see how much we can get to. But any comments or questions you have about what I talked about being a high value woman, using feminine communication, how to draw a man to you, how to have the relationship and life that you want. Post those in the comments. Now we'll start answering some of those and helping you and so you can practice what it feels like to receive help, to ask for help and to receive help, because I want to help you practice that here because that's how we're going to start helping you get the results long term with this especially and there's a lot of regular viewers here. That's good to see. And Doreen said Doreen said, hey, can you come over Here and rub my feet. Well, I. You know, Doreen, the thing is, it's beautiful that you asked for that. It's beautiful to make the request. Now, what I would add in here is just to do it in a slightly more feminine way, in a graceful way. So what you would do with a man, because I know you're probably doing this in jest, which is fine because that's more. The masculine communication is like, hey, come run my feet, or, hey, go make me a sandwich. That's like a masculine tells the feminine asks. So the more feminine way to communicate this with a man would be saying something like, may I ask if you could rub my foot? My foot, or rub my feet? I would really appreciate it. They're really sore. And so what's even better is to actually share your feelings. Not even to make the request, but actually share your feelings. And what the problem is. Hey, babe, could I share something with you? Sure. My feet are just so sore today. I'm feeling a little bit. I'm feeling a little bit down because it was just such a rough day. And, yeah, my feet are just killing me and I don't know what to do. And then let him solve the problem. Let him say, now he feels your heart. He feels what's going on for you and say, oh, do you want me to give you a foot massage? Do you want me to, like, rub or what? Want me to get you something? What could I do? So you're letting him come up with a solution. And if he doesn't come up with a solution, you could then make the request and say, may I ask if you could give me a foot rub, pretty please? You could even add that on or just. I would feel so great. Or that would feel so amazing. Let me ask if you can give me a foot rub and let him say, sure. You know, or being detached from the outcome is also part of the feminine communication where you don't know how he's going to respond. He may say, no. He may say, can I do it later? Can we do it tonight? And that'll be fine as well. But you say, sure, That's. That would be great. Thank you, thank you, babe, or thanks, Hubs or whatever your pet name is for him. Thank you, Daddy. Some people use. That would be. I don't know how I feel about that all the time. But yeah, so that's a good. Whatever that is for you. That's a good way to make a request to a man and do it in a respectful, feminine, open way that allow him to want to do it for you, be inspired and not feel like you're telling him what to do do or being overly demanding or whatever. So that's hopefully helpful for helpful for that. Doreen so not said, hi, welcome Zenat Ludmila. You're welcome. April said, good stuff. Glad you like it. April. Mercedes said, this is great. Awesome. Olga said, perfect timing for your words. Thank you. You're welcome, Olga. Raina said, how do I know if a man is serious with me? You'll know he's serious with you because of his actions and because of him showing care for your devotion. So for your, for your heart through his devotion. So the best test of a man is vulnerability. If you're like, I don't know if he, if he's serious about me, I don't know if he likes me, I don't know what's going on here. Rather than pulling away and testing him and saying, well, I'm going to just close up and I'm going to punish him and see how if he's going to show me that he really cares instead of that you actually open up and you be vulnerable with him and share using magnetic feminine communication an issue that you're having, a problem that you're having a feeling that you're having and seeing how he responds when you're vulnerable, see if he wants to help, if he's activated or if he's pulling away. Now that's one of the reasons why we recommend the magnetic feminine polarity 90 day challenge that we teach in our coaching memberships that we do. When you use the 90 day challenge and you start practicing feminine communication in the way we teach it, as well as being in your magnetic feminine polarity. And you do it over a period of time, like 90 days, you practice these things with him because a man's not going to usually shift overnight. When you start being a high value feminine woman, he's likely not going to shift immediately overnight and start showing you his full care and devotion and masculine leadership. However, he will start making shifts, likely over the first couple days, first couple weeks, he'll start making positive shifts in the right direction. You'll start noticing him treating you differently and he'll start to be more caring, he'll start to be more considerate, he'll start to be more reaching out to you more. And what we're looking for here is progress, not perfection. We're looking for small shifts and that he's making the effort, not that he has to be perfect overnight and he'll start to make those shifts and over the course of those 90 days, you'll be shocked at what the type of man he is now and the type of man he is at the end of those 90 days and how he treats you. So I highly recommend doing that and giving it some time, giving it some time and some space both for you to learn these skills. And let us help you get the exact skills and the exact scripts and things to use to learn to that you'll learn and use with him. And then watch how he responds to it and watch how he starts stepping up and showing his care. Now the other side of that is a man may not step up, he may not care, which would be very surprising. But there are, there is a percentage of men out there who are broken, it's about 5% of men, sometimes a little higher, that are just deeply mentally and emotionally damaged. They're either a narcissist, they're a sociopath, they're deeply avoidant attention, avoidant attachment style, or they have something else going on. They're too feminine, they're feminized, they're emasculated, and they're not capable of showing you care and devotion. So he may be one of those men. And then that will become very apparent when you do the 90 day challenge and you test him, quote, unquote, through your authenticity, through your vulnerability and making requests and sharing your feelings and sharing your problems and sharing appreciation and all the different things will teach you of how to do and when to do it. But there's a chance he may not show any care for you. He may start just be the same or he may respond negatively to it. And over time that will be revealed and that he is just not capable of it. And at that point you may need to unfortunately have to be the queen and be willing to walk away. But hopefully it won't get to that point. But just have to add that caveat that there is a percentage of men that are just broken and they're not capable of giving you what you need and meeting your needs and treating you seriously. And so we'll have to see that. But likely it's not the case because most men are capable of being in their healthy, masculine and devoting to you. And so we're going to shift him there, we're going to get him there. It's just going to take a little bit of time and a little bit of practice. That's how you're going to know if he's serious with you or not, is through that process. So hope that helps. Reyna, your vulnerability is the best test of a man. So then the next question is. Doreen said, godmother. Yeah. Having your fairy godmother guiding you is great. Shalei said, hard sometimes, but very good advice. Yeah. A lot of these principles, becoming a high value woman and becoming more feminine also, they're not necessarily easy. They're simple often, but they're not necessarily easy. That's why it's helpful to have support. It's helpful to be part of a community of accountability sisters like we sort of have here. It gets deeper in our, in our coaching memberships of accountability sisters that are really lifting you up, being in a high value environment with high value information that's surrounding you. So where it becomes inevitable that you become this woman, you become the queen. And that'll make it easier when you practice it, when you're learning it on a deep level so you understand all the principles behind it and the biology behind it of why men are the way they are and why women are the way they are and what the differences between masculinity and femininity. Because the law of polarity states that opposite energies attract. So femininity is naturally going to attract masculine energy and devotion from a man and being a high value feminine woman is going to attract a high value masculine man. He's going to be more in his high value. So it is not always going to be easy, but it's worth it at the end of the day and it may take some investment of your time, your energy, money potentially, if you're getting coaching support or if you're getting communities that you're going to or going to new events, going to activities. But it's going to be worth it in the end because you're going to become a woman that those men want and they want to invest into and that they want to devote into. So it's all worth it in the end. But it's just going to be scary in some points and it's going to be feeling hard and it's going to feel unnatural, like, oh, this doesn't feel like me and I've never done this before. It's like, well, it's like you're learning a new dance, right? If you're learning a swing dance, if you're learning a tango dance, if you're learning a new language, it's going to be strange at first, like, whoa, this is weird. But then eventually once you get the steps, it's going to feel fun and it's going to feel natural and be like why didn't I never do this before? Why was I never like this before? Why couldn't I trust men? Why couldn't I respect them? Why can I be more open and vulnerable? And all the other things we'll teach you. It's just like because you've had armor, because you've had wounds, because you've had things that have happened in your past that have caused you to learn a different way, which would be more of the masculine approach or the trying to do it my own approach or being a people pleaser or trying to manage other people's needs and give to mental health rather than having men give to you being in your feminine rather than your masculine. So yes, hope that helps. It's simple, but not always easy. But it's worth it. That's the key, is it's worth it. Monet said one of the sayings I gave last week in our livestream, which was God's rejection is God's protection. Exactly. So sometimes things are not working out, but it's actually because something so much better is waiting for you on the other side and it's going to feel sad sometimes to go through it. Just like a snake has to shed its skin in order to grow, sometimes you have to shed the old layers of protection of old relationships, unhealthy patterns, toxic ways of being. You have to shed those things in order for the new you to be born and to rise from the ashes and to be the phoenix rising. And Joanne has a good question here. She said, how do you have your gentleman unfriend, his ex girlfriend since it's a uncomfortable for you? Yeah, so it's a great question, Joanne. And part of it is we can't ultimately control him. And that's what you really want to get into your cells is you cannot control a man, nor do you want to try to control a man because ultimately we cannot control him. He's his own person. All you can control is yourself and being a high value feminine woman. So the way you get him to do those behaviors is by you shifting your energy into being a high value feminine woman that wants that, that he will be activated into wanting to be the best man he can be for you. Now of course you still want to share your desires with him. You want to share your feelings around that so that he understands that it is making you uncomfortable. He might not know that you have to communicate clearly because men aren't mind readers, but you want to do it respectfully, you want to do it in a way that honors him. That's not telling him what to do, that's not criticizing him. That inspires him to come closer and to want to help and that lets him feel your heart so that he wants to care for it. So you would use a conversation, for example, where you are open and vulnerable and you share something like, may I share a feeling I'm having with you? Sure. I feel discomfort. Why are you feeling discomfort? Because I've noticed that you're still friends with your ex girlfriend on Facebook. Somehow I saw that. Hopefully you're not stalking him on social media. I would avoid that as well. If you're doing that, just let it go. Let him do what he's going to do. All that really matters is he's showing his devotion to you. Is he giving you what you need? If you did see it, somehow you can share that with him. I noticed on social media I saw that you're still friends with your ex and that made me feel some feelings of discomfort. I'm telling myself a story that that may mean that you are still attached to her, you still want to date her potentially. And it made me feel sad and I don't know what to do. So you give it up to him as a problem to then solve, to be stepped into his masculine, to want to help you with that and want to make it better potentially. But you have to be detached from the outcome. But he's just like an example of a conversation you could have. There's many different ways we could do this conversation. We could actually practice it together potentially. Because these conversations are really good to practice with a coach, to role play it out like as if I'm him, so that you can really get it into yourselves what it feels like to really be authentically vulnerable and how I can feel if you're still coming from an energy of trying to control him, trying to manipulate him, which will push him away. So we want to see if you're really coming from that feminine place, being connected to your feminine core of openness, vulnerability. I need help. I want help. Can I have your help? I need a hero. I need a hero. I'm holding out for a hero. And so you can activate his hero instinct to want to help in that sense. And rather than feeling attacked and blamed and like you're trying to control him, which is not going to draw him out, not going to make him want to be a hero for you. So it's all about how you communicate that properly and coming from the right place with it. Because now he knows how you feel and now, likely he'll want to help or he'll at least explain it more, or he'll be open about it and he may not shift it right away. He may not say, I'm going to unfriend her, but he'll at least tell you more. And you'll likely plant a seed. Well, then he'll be like, maybe a couple days later. Hey, just want to let you know I appreciate the conversation we had the other day. I don't want you to feel uncomfortable with that. He and I deleted her off my friends list. Just want you to know about that. Like, I'm totally done with that. Because he still may have feelings for her. It may be a fresh relationship. I don't know the whole situation with you both. That doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't have stronger feelings for you or that he's not more committed to you, but there may still be something there that he's working through. And that's okay. Give him the space to work through. That doesn't mean he doesn't love you. It doesn't mean he doesn't want to shift, but he just might be going through a process, as you've probably gone through similar processes in your past. Getting over an example. I know I have. Many people have. Sometimes it takes time. Sometimes it's a forgiveness and a removing process. But he will likely get there if he has devotion for you. Hope that helps. Joanne. Henrietta said, I have the problem. I don't ask in a good. I have that problem. I don't ask in the good way. Yeah. So oftentimes what can happen is you're asking in a way that's actually more commanding. It's more telling him what to do. Like, hey, come over here. Hey, can we go meet up? Hey, can we go on a date? I want to see you. I miss you. And that's like telling him what to do. It's like more commanding and directing him. You're on your masculine leadership, leading him rather than him taking the lead and leading you. You could still make requests, but you want to do it in a respectful feminine way so that now he then can take the leadership and take. Take action from there. Just like asking him a question like, may I ask if we can talk on the phone? Or may ask if we could talk or may ask if I could share something with you? And these kind of ways of asking permission allows him to then step into his masculinity and say, sure, yes, let's do it. Yes, I allow you. I will do that thing. For you or I'll let you share whatever you want to share. And now he's kind of given his leadership and his okay to now let you proceed with whatever your request was, whatever your share was. And so it's a, it's a way that you can show him respect. And it's also a way that you show yourself respect, that you're being a high value woman that, remember a queenly woman, she's going to ask for what she wants and a woman who doesn't have high confidence, she's going to try to tell people what to do because she doesn't believe that she's actually worth them just giving it to her on their own. Or she's not going to say anything, she's just going to be quiet. So you're being, you're being high value in that moment when you're asking, when you're asking him for what you want, but you're doing in a respectful, open way that allows him to then take the lead and to give to you and to be in his masculine. So there's just little distinctions around that that will shift everything for you. Once you have it locked in and you have it right in your system that you can then operate fully from your feminine. Teresa said, how do we become a high value woman with masculine women? Some examples are my mother and my boss. Yeah. So you want to use the same principles that we're sharing with you here on how to be a high value woman, high value feminine woman with a man. Meaning that you still want to be respectful to them and you can share your feelings vulnerably, but you're also willing to set a boundary with yourself and get out of unhealthy situations. So if a woman is being more masculine or aggressive with you that you may need to say something like, may I share something with you? Sure. I'm feeling a bit triggered right now. I'm feeling a bit uncomfortable discomfort right now. And I think I need to talk to you later. I think it'd be better if we talked more about this later. I think I need to go now. I think I need to end the conversation now. So you're willing to exit yourself from the situation and if that disrespect continues or if that aggressiveness continues, that you may have to end the relationship. In a sense that we're like, I have to protect myself. It's more setting a boundary with yourself that I'm a high value woman. I have standards that I'm not going to allow someone to just dump on me and abuse me or tell me what to do or try to control me. And so eventually I have to step away. I'm going to do so respectfully as the queen. I'm not going to also then get aggressive and masculine with them because I'm still valuing myself. I'm going to be soft, I'm going to be feminine. But I also have boundaries with myself. I also have standards, and I also value myself that I'm not going to be putting myself in a situation that long that's not healthy or good for me. So I'm willing to walk away. That's how you really prove your value, ultimately, is you have to have a willingness to walk away. You know, in negotiations, they say the one who cares the least holds all the power. Well, really, what that means is just that you have a willingness to walk away at some point. You're not going to endlessly cling on to a bad relationship just because you're so afraid of being by yourself or losing that person that that just diminishes and continues to diminish and diminish and diminish your value. You have to at least be willing to walk away and leave a bad situation or a bad relationship at some point. It doesn't mean you have to. You're going to communicate properly before that. You're going to use magnetic, feminine communication. Let them feel your feelings, your vulnerability, respectfully, the problems that you have, sharing it in a way where they are inspired to want to help and to solve the problem. And if they don't, you have to be willing to step away in that sense. So hope that helps. Therese, just some basics on that, but that's how I'd recommend handling it, the same as how you would handle it with a man. But it sounds like to me that those women are also being somewhat likely disrespectful or aggressive towards you. And so you just need to be willing to hold your value. Be respectful, but also. Yeah, be respectful, but also high value, basically. Okay, let's see what we have here. Diane said, how do you ask, or do you ask if a guy is actually interested in you when you think he is, but you're not? 100%. Yeah. How do you ask if a guy is interested in you? The best thing to do is to actually share your feelings and see how he responds. So what I would recommend, there's two ways to do it. It's always more effective if you can share your feelings first. So the first thing I'd recommend is sharing with him. Your feelings, and you're like, wow, that's scary. I don't want to be that vulnerable or that real with him. But, I mean, what do you have to risk? You don't really have much to risk. If he's not really stepping up or giving you what you want or initiating any kind of romance, there's not really much to risk, except maybe losing a mediocre friendship, probably. If there is a friendship there, or whatever the connection is, I don't know. Or if you're in a. If you're in a workplace environment that could be a little different. You may want to just keep it professional until he really takes that step. But you could share in a way that's respectful and open and vulnerable. So you'd say something like, may I share something with you? Sure. I feel a mixture of anxiety and excitement. Why do you feel anxiety and excitement? Or why are you feeling that way? Well, because I'm starting to notice that I really enjoy spending time with you, and I feel a strong connection with you, and it's exciting. But I'm also anxious because I'm telling myself a story that you might not feel that way, or that that's not appropriate, or that you're not seeing our connection that way. And I don't know what to do. And so you're really real with him. Right. You're really vulnerable and honest with how you're feeling. You've done it so in a graceful way that's shown him kind of where you stand and then let him act from there. We don't know how he's going to react. You said, I don't know what to do. Now it's up to him. He's likely inspired. He's likely starting to feel that even if he wasn't feeling attraction, he's likely starting to feel something because you've revealed your feminine core to him. He's starting to feel some attraction, some polarity on some level, and he's likely going to want to help. He's likely going to want to talk about it or say, oh, yeah, I feel very connected to you as well. Or I do feel that there's something there, too. And I didn't know if you were interested in. Maybe we should explore that more. Maybe we should hang out more. We don't know what he's going to say. Or he could say, yeah, I do just see this as a friendship. But I. I appreciate you like sharing that with me and, you know, maybe there's someone I could connect you to or whatever. So we don't know what he's going to respond. It's like, that's part of the feminine practice of being detached from the outcome. Because whatever he responds, you can always end with appreciation and say, yeah, thank you so much for listening, and I appreciate you, you know, hearing. Listening to me and being willing to, you know, talk about that. And I felt a little scared or uncomfortable sharing, but I just. I wanted to kind of put that out there just to kind of see, let you know, kind of what I. What was going on for me in case you were, like, maybe wondering or something. But the main thing is you could always end with appreciation. You can always just let him say, thank you for listening. I appreciate it. You know, you can. We can have these conversations and totally get it that, you know, whatever the situation is, if it's not romance, that's fine. And, you know, hey, if you know of anyone, I'm looking to meet some people right now. I'm looking to find a man. If you know of anyone, I would appreciate the introduction. We have some. We have some clients who have done that, too. And they've, like, had people like their gym trainer or somebody they worked with or somebody they were friends with, and they ended up making them introductions and bringing them to events, and they could talk about dating, their dating life. And it opened up this whole different dimension of their relationship that was actually really helpful to them to start actually making new connections. So we don't know what's going to happen with that. Now, the other approach that I'll give you is you could be a little bit more direct with him, and you can say something like asking permission, may I ask how you feel about me? You can say, may I ask how you see our connection, how you see our relationship? And it depends on what context that is. It might be in the context of, like, a conversation you're already having. Say, you know, I was really curious. I was just wondering if I could ask you, like, how you see our connection or why you haven't asked me out yet or what you see our relationship as being. It's just. It's a good way. You can be a little more direct and get some clarity if you. It depends on the context, but hopefully that gives you some options of things you can do with him. That's what I'd recommend. Because otherwise you may just be confused for a while. And if you've been getting, like, very unclear signals for a while, it's maybe better to just have. Finally get that out there and have that conversation than just Continuing to hopefully and maybe setting aside other opportunities that you could be exploring because you're waiting to see what things develop with him and that could just cause you to waste more time. So it could be good to definitely have those conversations. But if you're using magnetic feminine polarity and magnetic feminine communication in general in the way we teach, you're likely going to have men become very clear that they're interested in you or not. They're going to be either activated and they're going to be talking to you more, they're going to be asking you out, they're going to be giving you things, doing things for you, or they're going to be neutral, totally neutral, or and indifferent. But likely they're going to be more activated into their masculine devotion because of you being in your femininity. And that'll just mostly depend on if they're available, if they already have a relationship that they're in, if they're broken, if they're emasculated, if they are just have no interest, no care for you because they're just. You're not clearly not their type or whatever. We don't know. So yeah, that's the best way. The best way to actually figure this out is to be fully in your magnetic feminine polarity and using magnetic feminine can communication in general so that all the men who are interested around you, it just becomes very clear and they are activated to pursue you. So hope that helps. Let's get some other questions here. Okay. Amy said, I discovered you. I want to sign up for your coaching. I took the quiz and reluctant to submit my email address. I don't want to get spammed. Yeah, don't worry about it. Amy, when you sign up for any of our coaching memberships that we have where we're teaching you these things on a different level, like we're not going to spam you emails. Like the only things we're going to send you is we help you to get onboarded. Like how do you actually start submitting your questions to us, booking your coaching sessions, engaging with the community, accessing your courses. Like our Magnetic Feminine Polarity course, our Magnetic Feminine Communication course, our Magnetic Feminine Online dating course, the 90 day challenge, like all of those things, we just give you the emails to know how to fully access that so you can get the most value out of it. That's all we're going to send you. We do have a book that we'll send you as well if you want us to ship that to you, but that's optional. So just want to let you know that. Great to have you in the program, excited that you're joining and would love to. Yeah, continue to go deeper with you and help you in that group. So if you're also curious about joining again since Amy asked that question, go to magnetizeyourman.com or click the link in the description or comments or in our bio to take our free quiz. Our free quiz is going to already teach you so many principles and concepts around magnetic feminine polarity and magnetic feminine communication. And then if you want to do more coaching with us, we also have options for that available as well. But either way, the quiz in itself is highly educational, highly valuable. I highly recommend doing it. And we are not going to spam you with a bunch of promotional emails. Usually what the only things we'll send beyond after you join or even if you're just on our list are just going to be more of like these kind of videos. And we send a lot of free resources as well. So I highly recommend taking that because we want ultimately we want to help you and we want to shift the culture. We want to create more happy couples in the world. We want to heal the challenges that men and women have been having for so long, especially in our modern dating culture and relationships culture and why the divorce rate is so high. We want to solve these problems and I want to create a better future for myself, for my children. And that's why we're really passionate about this work ultimately. So we want to help. We want to do as much as we can to shift things. That's why I'm doing these videos and the coaching, the deeper coaching we do for the people, the women who do want to do deeper coaching and really master that with us, helping you more directly and personally, doreen said. Appreciate you. You're welcome, Doreen. Glad this is helpful. Latosha had another question. She said, how common is it for a guy to withdraw, pull away due to being overwhelmed with family issues, financial, etc. He's been open about his finances not being where he wants them to be. Yeah. So a masculine man will primarily feel his sense of value externally from his status, his wealth, his career, his success, his recognition from others. So if a man's not successful or he's not succeeding up to his standards financially or in his career, he is going to feel like less of a man. He's going to feel less like a hero and so it'll be harder for him to devote in some ways. Now the caveat with that, even if a Man isn't doing so well financially or he feels like, I don't know if I could really provide. There's other ways that he can still be your hero. You can help give him that sense of meaning in your relationship, that he can still be a giver, a provider, a hero for you. When you activate that within him and wake up his masculine instinct, he's going to want to help you, he's going to want to give to you and he's going to get a new sense of meaning and purpose from your relationship. So you want to use a lot of the same things we're teaching you here, how to actually call him into his masculine, call him into want to, giving, to give to you, to want to be a hero and give him problems he can solve for you, but in a respectful, open, vulnerable way. Asking him for advice, asking him for help, sharing your feelings, sharing issues that you're having, letting him step up. And then most importantly with that is appreciating him when he's doing those things for you that you like, when he is making you feel happy, joyful, safe, provided for, letting him know that he's doing a good job, that he gets a sense of value for you. And then less likely he will be much less likely to pull away from regardless of what other issues are going on in his life. Of course you can still have compassion for him around that and you can share your feelings with him around that, but, and give him some space as needed and show him like, you know, care and your compassion for what he's going through. But ultimately you can still be a gift for him in all that, that he can still feel like he's winning with you. He may be feeling like he's failing in his family, he's failing in his career, he's failing with his health or whatever else. But if he feels like he's winning with you, that can give him that boost of self esteem that he needs to feel like, okay, I'm doing, I'm doing an okay job in my life. At least, at least she's happy. At least I'm able to provide for her. At least I'm able to give her what she needs. Now there are some men that will use this as an excuse that he hasn't been activated by your feminine, your high value feminine polarity. He doesn't feel that sense of devotion, so he's just using that as an excuse of why he's pulling away. Oh, you know, I got other things going on in my life, in my career and my Finances, but really it's just because he's not feeling that sense of devotion or care for you, which, again, the answer for that will be using more of the same things we're teaching you here. And if consistently over the using the 90 day challenge that we'll teach you, if you're using the Magnetize youe Man 90 Day Challenge and he's not stepping up over the next 30 days, 60 days, 90 days, then it becomes very clear that he's a broken man, he's not capable of it, and you're going to have to be willing to walk away at some point. Likely that won't get to that place. And then either way, if you've gone through the full 90 day challenge by the end of it, you're going to be such a more high value woman. You're going to be so much more in your healthy feminine polarity that you're going to quickly and easily attract high value masculine men to you right after that. That will be drawn to you and you'll notice the shifts while you're doing it. We have women sharing all the time in our coaching memberships of how impressed they are that men are just starting to do things for them more, they're noticing them more, they're stepping up in ways that are shocking to them because their hero instincts are being activated. Every man has within him a masculine core, which is where the hero instinct comes from. And every woman has within her a feminine core that is receptive, open, and we just have to get you more in touch with that and that'll bring out the masculine within him and other men around you, that they will want to care for you, they will want to devote, they will want to be a hero for you and provide for you. We just have to get you there. So hopefully that helps Latasha and you're in the right place and you're on the right path and we just need to continue with that. So let's see. Lucy said, what does it mean when a man always says, I'm the queen of his heart? I mean, that's a great thing for a man to say. That's beautiful. That means that he's starting to feel that you're high value, that he cares about you, that he's devoted to you. Now, the caveat I would add on to that is, is he meeting that also with his actions? Is he not just saying those things? You're the queen of my heart. You're my. You're my woman, you're my princess, you're my Babe, whatever. But is he also saying, doing those things with his actions? Is he showing you that he sees you as the queen of his heart through solving problems for you, giving to you, providing for you, wanting to make you happy, asking you how you're feeling, caring about how you're feeling, caring about your heart, leading you, leading the relationship forward, making decisions, being your man. That's what we want to look for ultimately, that he's really claiming you with his actions and claiming you with that devotion, not just through his words, because words are nice, but as we know, words are easy, words are elusive. Often we want to look for the actions as well that are backing up his words. So I hope that helps. Lucy. And then Marie said, how would you ask a man to take some time off work and come spend time with you? You want to share your feelings. So if I was coaching you now, I would ask you, Marie, how does that make you feel? That he's not taking time off work and coming to spend it with you, or that you're not getting the time that you want? How does it make you feel the emotion? Right, so it's probably either sadness, anxiety, fear, lonely, loneliness, uncertainty. Maybe that's what you want to share with him. You want to share the feelings first. You want to do it respectfully so that you're not saying, you make me feel lonely, you make me feel sad. That's attacking him, that's putting him into the defensive, where now he's going to pull back, likely, because whenever you're in your masculine, whether it's through attack, criticizing him, judging him, telling him what to do, men only have three options. They're either going to fight you and become combative and defensive, or they're going to submit to you and do what you say, but it's not going to feel good to them at some level because every man has a masculine core and he's eventually going to lose his self esteem and likely leave the relationship later on, or he's going to just pull away. In that moment, he's going to pull away and close off. So either way it's not going to be good. So you want to share your feelings, you want to do so respectfully, and he's going to ask why you're feeling that way and then you're going to share why you're feeling that way. Because I would love to spend more time with you and spend more time and see if you can take time off, but I'm telling myself a story that maybe you're not able to, or you don't want to right now. And that thought made me feel sad and I don't know what to do. So you give it up to him to solve the problem and if needed, you can ask things like may I have some help with that? Or may I ask what you think about that? And then he'll be activated again to want to dive into it more with you and help and hopefully solve the problem and make some time for you. Because now he feels like you're honoring him, you're respectful, you're not penetrating him energetically, you're not putting it onto him and you're showing him your vulnerability and you're letting him come up with a solution. You're not saying, you know, could you rearrange your schedule and could you do this and that and then we can maybe spend more time together. You're just saying what the problem is, how you feel and then let him come up with the solution. The feminine is sharing problems, the masculine is solving problems. So let him solve it for you and provide and give. All you have to do is share and be open and be vulnerable and appreciate when he is solving those problems and then he'll do more of that and you get into this nice dance together like a tango dance, like a swing dance I used to do, west coast swing or salsa dance or whatever partner dance you like or have done before or seen where now you're in healthy polarity. He's leading. He's leading for your pleasure and his pleasure, he's giving to you and you're following, you're appreciating, you're sharing and you have a great relationship. So that's what I'd recommend to you, Marie. And of course we go much deeper into that. That's just an example of one way you can communicate that to him. And I'm sure there's other things going on that will help you with related to that. But yeah, we'd love to help you and go deeper with that as well. Hope that gives you some tips. Amy said after watching your videos, I see what I've been doing wrong in relationships and I'm trying to meet someone. Oh, and in trying to meet someone. Yeah, just. It's good to see Amy, but just don't beat yourself up, don't beat yourself up about it. Just notice when you've been in your masculine or your low value behavior in the past and just say, okay, I forgive myself. That's who I was. It's not who I am now, it's who I was. I didn't know better. I was operating from the wounds that I had from my childhood for, from my parents or from the way I was taught, from the culture, from society, from schooling. And now I want to embrace a better way. I want to be high value and I want to be feminine and open and I want to have a healthy relationship with a high value masculine man who wants to give to me, who wants to lead, who wants to devote. And you're going to do it a better way and you're going to learn the new skills, you're going to commit to that and you're going to practice it and it's going to be a process. But have some grace with yourself. Forgive yourself and now just take the right action steps forward and you will create what you want. So it's not your fault, you just weren't taught these things in the past. And now you have a responsibility though, learning these things. You have a responsibility to start to make some shifts if this is what you want. If you want to have a healthy, polarized relationship with a high value masculine man, you're going to have to start making some of these shifts and practicing some of these things and getting support around him, ideally so that you can have this relationship that you want in your life and not continuing down the same path that you've been. The same failed relationship after the same failed relationship, or a man who's not devoting himself to you, or a more feminine, emasculated man, or an avoidant man who's not giving you what you need. We want to stop that pattern and get to an upward spiral of having high quality masculine men want to devote themselves to you. That's what we're creating for you, so hope that helps. Amy. Wow, there's a lot of questions in here. I don't know if I'll be able to get to them. We're going to start wrapping up pretty soon. I'll do a, maybe a rapid fire of some, some of these last questions here. Let's see if I'll try to answer someone who hasn't submitted a question yet. The peace coach said from Australia here, may I ask, if a man is long distance and he no longer talks to me, do you leave it or reach out? I did reach out, but he did not reply. Is it actions over words? Yeah. So I would recommend reaching out. You want to do it several times if he's not getting back to you because you did reach out and I don't know what you sent to him, but we want to make sure we're sending something that is feminine, respectful and excites him to reach back out and activates him reaching back out. So what I would recommend actually to you is we have two things that we teach in our coaching membership, which is the first one is called the seven word relationship reactivation text. So it's a seven word text message that you can send to a man if he hasn't responded your last one, but he sends it to him. And it's a fun but also feminine and respectful text that will likely activate him reaching back out to you, even being apologetic potentially that he wasn't getting back to you and wanting to continue the relationship, wanting to talk to you, engage you again. And so that's what I'd recommend sending first. And if that doesn't work, we have another text message that you can send that's called the appreciation bomb text where basically you're using appreciation, you're sharing some of the things that you appreciate with him the most, but doing it in the right way that will also help him to feel good, feel like he's winning with you and feeling like he wants to give more of those things to you that you are appreciating and activating his masculine. And so there's a very specific way you want to communicate those things to him so he's not seeing it as like you're trying to manipulate him in some way or get him to do something, but just that you're sharing from your heart and that can compel him to come back. And if he doesn't come back after those things, there's really nothing else you can do. Those are the most powerful things I've ever seen to reactivate a man's devotion and have him start texting you more coming back to you. If that doesn't work, I'd be very shocked. And if, and then likely you do, you do have to move on at that point because there's nothing you can really do after that. So, yeah, in short, I would say yes, reach out. You do do it maybe two or three times and then I would let it go. That's really, you've given it your all, it's done. You have to move on. You have to be the queen and be willing to attract new high quality masculine men in your life and using what we're teaching you to become magnetic, feminine and have everything that you desire. So yeah, someone else said, hey, they have the same situation. She reached out, he didn't reply. He's an avoidant. Yeah. So if he doesn't Reply again, it depends on how you're reaching out, but if those things don't work, I would be surprised. And then you really have to move on. Latasha said. Why do, why do guys feel like some women are too good to be true? I've experienced this a few times. Kind of like they're waiting for the other shoe to drop. Yeah. If a man is insecure or if he's had bad issues with relationships and with women in the past, his trust has been broken, or women weren't loyal to him or they were abusing him in some way or taking advantage in some way, he just may have some issues that he has to work on, he's healing from. And that's up to him. You're not his therapist, you're not his mommy. You don't have to solve problems for him. You don't have to fix him. He has to fix himself. But what you can do is be a high value feminine woman that inspires him to fix himself and to want to get better and want to move past those things so that he's not saying things like, oh, you're too good to be true, but he's just like. Because you could share with him how that makes you feel when he makes that statement. Like some makes you feel anxious or insecure or uncomfortable in some way, discomfort. And you can share that with him and then he could say, oh, I'm sorry, I didn't mean for you to feel uncomfortable with that or just anxious about that. Like, I just, I'm just afraid of having this happen to me again what happened in my last relationship. And I just working on that. And you know, I don't want you to feel that way and I do want you in my life. So it depends you'll activate him into wanting to help you rather than being like, oh, I have all these issues and I can't do this and I do that. I need your help. Like, no, you don't want to go there. You're the queen. You're high value. You don't want to go into helping a man and being his therapist. So you have to just instead communicate properly and leave it up to him to solve the problem. Okay, let's see. Any other final questions here? I'm going to answer someone who I haven't talked to yet. Okay, I think this will be the last one tonight. Candice said, how do you know a guy you like is will shift into how you wish to be loved after you have asked him in a feminine way you wish to be Loved. And he has responded well, but has still not shifted. How do you know if he will shift? Well, it's going to take some practice. And that's why you want to use the 90 day challenge, the Magnetize youe Man 90 day challenge that we teach so that you give him some space to shift. It's not going to be perfect overnight. When you use these principles you want to look for is he making effort and is he making progress? If he's taking action, if he's making effort, he's making progress. That's good. You're on an upward spiral. You want to continue that, it's likely going to become exponential where he's going to start making small shifts, small shifts, small shifts, and then it's like, boom, he starts to really devote himself to you and really, really start stepping up because he's just getting used to you being in your feminine. You're calling him into his mascul through the law of polarity. The more feminine you become, the more masculine he's going to become and he's going to be in his devotion. That's why we don't need to really coach him. I mean, it would be great if he was here listening and we can coach him as well. But as long as we can coach one of you right now, we can coach you. As long as we can get you to shift into your high value feminine, we can shift him into his high value masculine and to get him to start shifting for you. So when is he going to shift? We don't know. We have to give it some time. We have to wait. We have to make sure you're doing all the right things in how you're showing up authentically, vulnerably, openly, respectfully trusting him. Because remember, the masculine's greatest desire is to be trusted and respected. The feminine's deepest desire is to be adored and cherished. So if you're showing him the respect and the trust and using the things we're teaching you and how to communicate properly and be a high value feminine woman, it's just going to take a little time for him to shift and hopefully he'll start shifting and giving you what you want. And we're just going to have to wait and continue to get coaching. Support, support, continue to ask these questions because then I could help you to make sure we have your side of the street cleaned up, so to speak, so that you're really fully in your feminine magnetism and not doing anything subtly that's trying to lead, control, manipulate him or pushing him away through emasculation or control or trying to compete with him or judging him. We want to look out for those things because that'll cause him to stay kind of in his whatever, wherever he's been at his kind of neutral zone where he's not really shifting yet. But it is good he's, he's responded well and we just have to like continue to give him that chance to start shifting his actions as well to meet that and meet your desires and meet your needs from his side. So hope this was helpful today. Again, if you haven't yet, highly recommend taking our free quiz or free Magnetize youe Man quiz by clicking the link in the description or comments below this video or in our bio where you can activate a man's care, his desire, his devotion for you. Or you can also go to magnetizeyourman.com where we will really help you with this. We'll give you the teachings and we'll do this for you. We will do this for you. Let us help you from your feminine. Let us help you. Let me help you from the masculine here, helping you to become this woman and giving you the scripts, giving you the exact steps and words to use to communicate with him from your respectful, open, vulnerable feminine so that he will shift. You'll do the 90 day challenge. You'll get the relationship you desire, you'll have the love you crave and it will get there. Hopefully it will be with this man. He's likely going to shift into being the devoted man for you. And if he doesn't, there'll be a lot of men waiting at the end of that period. There'll be a lot of high quality men waiting and available to you because you've increased your level and you're just going to be a happier woman in general. You're going to be happier, you're going to be healthier, you're going to have a much better life, less anxious and things are just going to flow to you and people are just going to start wanting to give to you more. You'll be shocked at how much men will want to provide for you mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, even financially. They'll just want to give to you, give to you because now you're their queen and you're receiving their gifts and they feel received by you. They feel honored by you, trusted by you, respected by you, and they'll just continue that. So again, pick that up. Much love. Hope this was helpful and I look forward to talking to you again very soon. Take care. Bye bye.