9 Things Women Should Never Do For A Man - Women MUST WATCH

If you want a man to actually choose you, chase you, and commit to you for life, there are 9 things that you have to stop doing for him. And you have to stop today because the stuff you think is winning him over, it's likely the exact stuff quietly killing his attraction for you. Stay with me because by the time this video is over, you're going to know what's pushing a good man away and what actually pulls one into you. Stay with me because by the time this video is over, you're going to know what's pushing a good man away and what actually pulls one in. I'm Brody Boyd, and together with my wife Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful women for over 20 years combined to get a loving, long-term, and committed relationship with a man they want fast. And before we jump in, I need you to hold one idea in your head for the rest of this video: a man's attraction to you is not built on what you do for him. It's built on who you are in your feminine energy with him. The second you start hustling to earn him, dropping your essence, trying to buy his love with effort, the polarity between the two of you collapses. And polarity is the entire engine of his desire. So these 9 things aren't random habits. They're 9 ways that polarity is getting quietly flattened. Let's get into it. Number 1, don't manage him. Magnetize him. Reminding him about his appointments, tracking his money, nudging him about his goals, cleaning up after him like he's a grown-up toddler. You think you're being helpful. He feels like his mom just showed up. And no man in the entire history of music has ever written a love song to their woman called "All I Want Is My Mama." Mothering is actually masculine in relation to a child. Mothers are the providers, the protectors, the leaders. That's God's design for a mom and her kids. That's not God's design for you and your man. The second he starts to experience you as a parent, attraction starts saying bye-bye. Now hear me clearly with this. I'm not saying don't be loving to him. Go ahead and cook for him when your heart wants to. Leave him a sweet note if you feel inspired, but do it from overflow, not from obligation. The minute you're running his life like a project manager, You're not magnetizing him. You're onboarding him. And a grown masculine man needs to feel like he's leading his own life. So let him. Managing a man is just fear dressed up as love. Magnetism is the opposite energy. You stay radiant, you stay rooted in you, and he then works to earn your affection. Number 2, don't out-effort a man into love. You cannot work your way into being chosen. Let me say it one more time because this one wrecks relationships. You cannot out-effort a man into loving you. A man doesn't fall in love with the woman who does the most for him. He falls in love with the woman he gets to do the most for. The Bible actually maps this out clearly. Proverbs 18:22 says, he who finds a wife finds a good thing. He finds, not that she convinces him. Not that she auditions for him, not that she sends him the 9th follow-up text. If you're the one always texting first every time, planning every date, driving to him, buying him little gifts, carrying the whole conversation, you're quietly putting yourself into the pursuer seat. You've become the sperm chasing the egg. Biologically, chemically, spiritually, that is backwards. You are the egg. You are the prize. He's the one wired to compete, chase, hunt, and be chosen by you. Your job isn't to work harder. Your job is to be magnetic. He earns you. Effort doesn't create attraction. Essence creates attraction. And if you've been doing 80% of the work to keep this thing alive, this is your sign to breathe, soften, and let him close the gap. And if he doesn't close it, You just found out something very important about him. Number 3, don't lower the bar so he can finally clear it. Now, some of you have dropped your standards so low that a worm could limbo underneath them, and then you're confused when a crawling man shows up for you. He texts back inside of 48 hours and you're treating it like he just parted the Red Sea. I'm not being mean to you. I'm being honest because the man that you have to lower the bar so low for is never the man that is good for your heart in the first place. Your standards aren't cruel. They're clarifying. They tell the wrong men to move along, and then they call the real men up into a higher version of himself. Every healthy man I know, including me, became a better man because of a woman who refused to settle for less. Antje never made it easy to lower her standards. She didn't nag me. She didn't criticize. She just quietly refused to accept what wasn't good for her heart. And that is a big part of the reason why I became the husband that I am today. Raising your bar and keeping it there isn't about being harsh or bitter. This is actually the whole foundation of what we teach inside of our Magnetic Feminine AI Coach course. It's about holding your value with grace. You can be the softest, warmest woman in the room and still be the one who will not stand for less. Never lower the bar. Instead, inspire a man to rise towards it. Number 4, don't beat him to the apology when you did nothing wrong. He says something rude, you bring it up gently, and he gets defensive. 20 minutes later, somehow you're the one apologizing to him. This happened because somewhere in your life you learned that the fastest way to keep the peace is to throw your own truth and authenticity into the trash can. So you rush back in with, I'm sorry I brought it up, I'm sorry I'm too sensitive, I'm sorry I made you feel bad for being mean to me. Just Stop. A chronic over-apologizer teaches a man that he never has to take responsibility for anything. Nothing collapses his respect for you faster than that pattern. Of course, there are likely moments when you said or did something disrespectful to a man from masculine energy that you should apologize for, but we want to make sure that you're also in a healthy balance here. Jesus never apologized for telling the truth. Instead, he flipped the tables. You You don't need to flip the tables, but you do need to stop handing out your dignity like free samples at Costco. You're out here giving away apologies like Oprah giving away cars. You get an apology, you get an apology, everybody gets an apology. No, girlfriend. If he was careless with you, he owes you a repair, not the other way around. Wait for it. Hold the silence. A masculine man who actually loves you will step up and meet that space. You could also share your feelings with him using feminine communication that we'll teach you. And if he doesn't meet you there, welcome to more great information about him. And that's not rejection, that's just data. Number 5, don't swallow your truth to keep the peace. This next one, if you let it in, can change your entire relationship. Ecclesiastes says that there's a time to be silent and a time to speak. Many women who come to us have gotten really good at the silent part. Bottling up resentment, smiling when they secretly are keeping score, telling yourself that it's not worth a fight. And then 3 months later, you're crying or yelling in your car over something your man didn't even know was building up. Let me tell you something real here. When Auntie and I had just started dating back in Hawaii, there was a night the two of us were sitting in a hot tub and I asked her what her deepest fears were. She didn't polish the answer. She didn't perform. She actually opened up to me. She cried a little bit, and then she told me. And for a second, it was intense. But the truth is that it made me bond to her even more because her willingness to actually feel her feelings in front of me is one of the most magnetic things that she's ever done with me. Your feminine truth is not a weapon. It's actually a gift. And here's how that sounds in practice. Not saying, "You never listen to me. You always do this." That's in your masculine. That's actually an attack. Instead, it sounds more like this. "Could I share a feeling I'm having with you? I'm feeling some sadness tonight, and I think it's because I've been missing you this week. May I ask if we can spend some time together, just the two of us, this weekend?" And then you wait. You let him lead into your feelings. You let him be the hero. That is feminine communication. That is what we go so much deeper into inside of our Advanced Magnetic Feminine Communication course, and it transforms the conversations that used to end in a screaming match into conversations that end in actual closeness and constructiveness. If you hide your truth to keep the peace, you don't save anything. You just start a silent battle inside of yourself that he's going to feel anyways. So speak up. Softly, warmly, but fully. The right man moves toward your truth when it's shared respectfully and vulnerably. He doesn't run away from it. Number 6, and this one is very important: don't reward bad behavior with good sex. Now, I'm about to say something that a lot of relationship coaches won't. Are you ready for it? Never sleep with a man that isn't behaving as a good husband would towards you, because every single time you give a man the thing his body is most wired to want, while he's doing the thing that you most need him to stop doing, you just paid him to keep doing it. Your body is not a vending machine for emotional unavailability. It's not a McDonald's drive-through where he can pull up half committed, mumble half an order, and still leave with a full Happy Meal. Your body is not a reward program for confusion, neglect, or, "Babe, I'm just not ready for a title yet." The Song of Solomon 2:7 says, "Do not awaken love until it's time." That verse is thousands of years old and it is surgical. When you hand a man the full wife experience without the full husband commitment, you rob yourself of your own magnetic pole. He has no reason to step up because the top shelf is already his with a heavy discount added on. Now, I'm not here to shame you. I'm here to wake you up. Withholding is not punishment. Withholding is discernment. Do not throw your pearls before swine. A man who actually wants you will not disappear because you have a standard. he will value you more for it. And that value is the soil that every loving long-term relationship grows in. Number 7, don't love him louder than you love yourself. If the volume of your love for him is louder than the volume of your love for you, the relationship has a leak in it, no matter how good the two of you look on the outside, because a man can't love a woman more than she loves herself. He's not wired to overvalue a woman who's undervaluing her own heart. You will often get the exact level of treatment that you are willing to accept and that you believe is normal and deserved for you. Tom Cruise lied to a whole generation of women when he stood there in Jerry Maguire and said, "You complete me," because no man will ever fully complete you. The right man only ever compliments a woman who is already whole at a basic level. Picture a candle, if you will. A tall, fully lit candle can light up a whole room for hours. A candle that's burned down to the nub It flickers, it smokes, and then eventually goes out, leaving the room darker than before it was lit. And if you're a nub right now trying to light up his entire life, what feels romantic today will feel like burnout by next spring. So light your own life first. Light yourself first. Like they say in the airplanes, put on your own mask first. Your friendships, your faith, your morning walks, your time with God, your creative life, your sleep, your hobbies, your joy that has absolutely nothing to do with him. That's not selfish. That is the most romantic thing you can do for your future marriage. This is one key thing that we walk women through inside of our private coaching with me and Antia, because rebuilding that inner well is the whole foundation. A real man wants to marry the woman who already loves herself. He does not want to marry the woman who's begging him to do that job for her. Number 8, don't override your body's no for his wanting. Lady Gaga had her song "Bad Romance" and a whole generation of women treated it like a guidebook instead of a warning label. In real life, "I want your ugly, I want your disease" is not romance. That's a 911 call with a chorus. Real love isn't messy, painful, or chaotic. Real love is a man who values your no, just as much as your yes. A key principle that we actually coach our women in our Magnetic Feminine AI Coach 90-day challenge is, "I'll do whatever you ask as long as it feels good and/or is good for me." That's a whole woman. That's healthy submission. That's not cold. That's not withholding. That's a woman who knows her yes is only sacred when her no is also allowed to be real. Every single time you override your body's no to give him a yes that he didn't earn, you lose a little piece of yourself. And what's worse is that he feels it. He might not have a name for it, but the attraction starts dropping. The feminine no, which is about saying no to yourself, setting a boundary with yourself, isn't about rejecting him. It's a reverence for you, and it's one of the things that keeps him reaching for you. Number 9: Don't be the rest stop on his way to his wife. Now, this next one may sting, and I have enough love for you to say it anyways. If a man has been stringing you along for a year or two or five with no ring, no plan, no clarity, and you're still parked there, you are not his girlfriend. You are actually his rest stop. You're where he fuels up, takes a nap, uses the bathroom, and pulls back onto the road when his actual destination finally shows up. Beyoncé tried to tell you back in 2008, "If you liked it, then you should have put a ring on it." Now, that wasn't just a pop song. That was a sermon with good dancing. If a man has been liking the whole experience for 2, 3, 5 years and there's still no ring on anything, you already have your answer, girlfriend. There's a woman who went through our program named Gloria, and she told us that she'd been through every expert, every course, every kind of therapy for years. And her relationship with a high-value masculine man was still stuck in turmoil. Two weeks after she came to us and actually learned to communicate the real issues as an embodied feminine woman instead of fighting him or swallowing it, her man started showing up completely different. Not because he changed first. It's because she came back to who she truly was. You can cry about him not proposing, or you can become the woman a man cannot help but propose to. Pick one, please, because nothing ages a woman faster than waiting on a man who's already decided that she's not it. And now for my extra secret bonus point: don't split the bill on the first date to look cool and modern. The first time you meet a man for dinner and you reach for your wallet to split the bill so you look chill and not like one of those high maintenance girls, understand this: you just told a masculine man to treat you like a coworker. Not a woman. This isn't two college roommates Venmoing each other for tacos. This is the very first imprint that he's taking of how he gets to be a man around you. Masculine men want to provide. It's not sexist. It's not outdated. It's hardwired into them. So sit there, smile expectantly, and let him treat you. A simple "thank you" with a warm smile when he does is infinitely more feminine than 6 months of you working to earn his affection. And if he can't pay or won't pay on the very first date, you don't need to argue about it. You just quietly learned who he is, which, by the way, is the whole point of a first date. So here's the truth sitting underneath all of these points, and it's the one that most women will never hear out loud: you were never designed to earn a good man. The masculine was designed to earn you. And if you'd like to discover the number one thing that's specifically keeping the man you want from stepping up for you the way your heart desperately wants, make sure to also take our free love quiz to get your personalized top recommendation for a loving, long-term, and committed relationship with a man you desire fast. Go to our website, magnetizeyourman.com, or click on the link in our bio or in the description or comments below to get that now. Hope you enjoyed the content and it was helpful for you. Much love, and I'll see you in the next video.