Women often give to please men, making coffee or gifts without asking, which can feel like mothering and kill attraction. The fix: ask first and let him choose to receive. Giving is masculine energy; receiving is feminine.
So I want to talk about a.
Dynamic that's a bit uncomfortable between men and women. And what this dynamic is, is a lot of women feel that they want to please their man. They want to give to him, they want to make him happy.
And oftentimes a man will accept her gifts.
Let's say a woman wants to make him coffee every morning or wants to do things, buy him a gift.
Now, what happens is the man will accept it, and oftentimes it'll feel good to him. Sometimes it won't. Sometimes it'll feel a little bit off.
Like he's being mothered, like he's being.
Treated like a child, potentially. Then not every man will feel this way. And it also depends on how masculine the man is and different factors. But what will happen if a man feels this way is he often won't speak up.
He won't say anything to her because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings.
He doesn't want her to feel that.
She'S unappreciated or that he doesn't like that she's wanting to give to him or that she's wanting to help him in some way.
So he'll feel a little off about it, but he won't say anything. Now, sometimes a man will say something.
He'll get upset, or he'll say, no, thanks, or he'll say, you don't need to do these things for me.
And then again, the woman will feel upset and sad and rejected. So a man gets put in a position where sometimes he can't win because you're giving to him. And he either has to accept it and feel weird, or he says something and you get hurt. You get your hurt feelings.
A woman gets hurt feelings.
And so there's a solution for this. However, the first solution is to realize this dynamic could be going on. And that's why we say never give to a man unless he asks you. And because giving is actually masculine energy, receiving is feminine energy. So if you feel the compulsion to want to give to a man, to want to make him happy, to want to do things for him, cook for him, et cetera, please him, that's fine. But what I recommend is that you ask him first. That's the only thing that you really need to do, is simply ask him.
Would you like me to blank.
Would you like me to make you.
Some coffee this morning?
Would you like me to get this for you?
Would you like me to do this?
Now, he has leadership ability. He has the ability to say yes or no. He's guiding in a way, just like in a dance he's leading. And now you're back in harmony. You're back in polarity with a man. Because a lot of women have a man pulling away. They have a man who's upset. They have a man who's not feeling the passion or the chemistry anymore, and.
They don't know why. Well, oftentimes this could be the very reason why the relationship isn't working.
So hope this helps.
Let me know your thoughts in the comments.
