Men have a fundamental drive to feel like they're winning, tied to their masculine identity. When a man is with an unhappy woman, he feels responsible for her mood. If his efforts don't improve her happiness, he sees himself as failing and loses his sense of winning.
A man wants to feel like he's winning. He wants to feel like he's doing a good job, and he wants to be with a woman who is happy. Because here's the thing: if a man is with you and you're unhappy in the relationship, if you're just an unhappy person, or if you're going through a tough period in your life, or you have some negative emotions in your system, he's going to feel somewhat responsible for that, whether or not he is. Maybe you're just upset because of something that happened at work, something going on with your family, or a health condition or financial situation, whatever might be happening in your world, if you're with your man and you're feeling down and depressed and unhappy and angry or sad, whatever might be going on, he's going to feel responsible for that, which is actually okay because the more that man is in his healthy masculine and in his hero instinct, he's going to want to take on that responsibility. He's going to want to make you happy. However, If he's doing everything in his power to try to make you happy and you're still not happy, and you, and you have so much other things going on that just are not allowing you to be feeling joy, eventually he's going to feel like he's doing a bad job and that he can't win. It's very important for a man to feel like he can win. It's a fundamental masculine drive. That's why men will run to the touchdown zone and celebrate that. It's why men will fight battles, will build empires, will, uh, play video games because they want to feel that they can win at something, that they're good, that they are good enough, that they are capable, that they are respectable, again, admirable, valuable.
