A dating coach argues that focusing inward on your feelings and needs, rather than trying to control or chase him, attracts masculine partners. She calls this shift from outward to inward attention the difference between masculine and feminine energy.
Make him chase you down, apologize and obsess, turn your attention back to yourself. So masculine energy is about focusing on him. It's about wondering what other people are thinking, what they want, how you can make them happy, what they need, if they like you or not, if they love you or not. That is all masculine energy. That's you focused on the outer world. You trying to control the outer world to make people happy, to make them like you and love you so, so that you can feel fulfilled as a woman. However, masculine energy, if you put out masculine energy, you're going to repel masculine men. Yes, you will attract feminine men who are looking for a mommy and who are looking for somebody to take care of them, but you're not going to attract a masculine protector, provider, hero for yourself. You're going to repel that kind of man from you. When you are putting out masculine energy, however, if you bring the attention back to yourself, which is feminine, feminine energy is internal focus about what you are thinking, what you are feeling, most importantly, what. What's going on in your body, what your needs and desires are, and all the things that are related to your bubble, your world. That is the feminine that's going to draw him in. Because when you focus on yourself, likely you are going to attract a man's focus onto you as well. When you can show him that you value yourself, that you care about yourself, and that you are aware of yourself, of your body, your emotions, and in fact, take it to the next level where you can actually share that with him and communicate with him in a vulnerable and respectful way that makes him understand what's going on inside of you.
