A short coaching-style monologue advising women on dating dynamics: the speaker rejects the 'low maintenance'/doormat mindset and recommends authenticity and eliciting a man's masculine investment so he pursues and cares for her. The piece contrasts feminine/masculine energy roles and argues that men become more devoted when they are encouraged to invest their masculine energy toward a woman.
Make him chase you down, apologize and obsess. Don't be low maintenance. This is a contradiction that a lot of women don't understand because it's very easy to get this mindset that if you want a man to like you, to love you, to pursue you, that you need to be easy, you need to be enjoyable, to be around. You need to be cool. Cool, calm and collected. We used to use this phrase with some of our clients. Ms. Too Cool for school, where you don't need anything, you're good, everything's good, there's no problems, there's no issues, and let's just have a good time. We're just having fun here. And this is actually what's considered being the doormat archetype, where you're actually setting aside your desires and your needs likely to try to please him, to try to make him happy and meet his needs in some way, which is masculine energy. Anytime you're trying to help him, you're trying to make him happy, you are in your masculine. And actually what reverses the dynamic and makes him become more devoted to you and care more about you and be more attracted to you, is when he starts to invest into you. He starts to give his masculine energy towards you in that beautiful exchange that makes you feel good and makes you happy. And makes him happy because he knows he's doing a good job as a man. So forget about this idea of being low maintenance. It's not necessarily about being high maintenance either, but what it is about is about being authentic.
