Expect the best from him and he becomes it. When you focus on a man's flaws, you create a negative cycle that keeps him disappointing you. Instead, visualize him treating you like a queen, checking in regularly and cherishing you, then interact with him as if that future is already real.
Now, the first principle here that makes a man fall in love is to expect the best from him. This means instead of looking at all the things he's doing wrong, like we talked about before, and expecting him to continue those things and expecting him to be treating you poorly and not investing and not committing and not treating you like a queen, then he's likely going to step into that, that role. He's going to become a self-fulfilling prophecy for you, and he's going to do more of those things that you don't like. And more of those things that let you down, that disappoint you, that make you unhappy. So instead, we have to reverse that and start creating a self-fulfilling prophecy with him that's positive, where you see all the good things about him that you love about him, the things that he does for you, the things that he is, um, that he's going to do for you, that you expect him to actually treat you well, that you expect him to actually be respectful and loving and adoring and cherishing of you. valuing you, that you see that vision within your mind first. So how do you do this? Often you have to start by really visualizing what it would look like if he was devoting himself to you, if he was treating you well, if he was checking in with you regularly, and if he was treating you like a queen. If any man was treating you like a queen, what would that look like? What would that feel like? And then from that place, you can interact with him as if that's who he is and as if that's what he's going to do in the, in the future.
