He Can’t Resist You If You Do THIS First

He'll pull closer once you do this. If you're tired of wondering why your man isn't stepping up, why he isn't as devotional as he could be, why he's not making you feel special, like a queen, or that you're not attracting high quality men into your life in general. You're tired of them pulling away, losing interest, or breaking up with you, wasting more years of your life. Well, then we're going to help you with that today. And I'm Brody Boyd, and together with my wife Antja, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to have a loving, long term, committed relationship with the man they want. So let's go ahead and dive in. And today I have my wife joining me to explain this powerful concept.

Hello, everyone. Well, I'm so excited to be here because we are going to break down like, I love this concept because we are actually going to help you to have a massive breakthrough today. And the concept is, to the degree that you're willing to be wrong, is directly correlated to your ability to attract high quality men. So I love this concept because what happens oftentimes is, is when a woman runs on an anxious attachment style is that she wants to be right. Why does she want to be right? Is because she needs self certainty. She needs to be in control. She needs to project as much as possible. She needs to predict as much as possible. Because when she didn't do that when she was a child with her parents, mom or dad, Right. Oftentimes she was either dismissed or she was punished or she was belittled. So she had to make as many assumptions as she possibly could so that she's not being told, don't bother me now. Because of the emotional unavailability from that particular parent, she then became Ms. Independent AK making sure she doesn't need anyone. All right, well, how does she accomplish that? Well, by predicting as much as she can. However, when it comes to dating, nothing could be more devastating because you can only predict what your brain already knows, which is the past. So you're just projecting whatever limiting beliefs you have from your past into the present and even into the future. And so then you delete, you distort, and you generalize reality. And so then what oftentimes happens is that the woman says, I already know how this is going to end. I already know he's a cheater. I already know he's going to abandon me. I already know that he's going to leave me. And I guess what it becomes a Self fulfilling prophecy. Now how does this woman accomplish that? Well, she has delayed communication. She holds resentments and communicates them super late or not at all. Right. She's passive aggressive. She has all those unmet needs that she doesn't communicate so the man can't do anything about us. Or she communicates it when it's the most inconvenient, when a man is like super stressed or is maybe even sick. Then she decides, okay, now I'm going to use feminine communication. But a whole time she didn't. And then it's like it's kind of disassociated, Right. It's also kind of disconnected because instead of actually building rapport with her man who maybe doesn't feel well that day, now she's saying, but I have this need and I need this soft. And you, you need to be there for me.

Yeah, it's a very, very powerful concept. And the other aspect to this is when you're willing to be wrong with yourself, when you're willing to let go of your preconceived notions about who you are and about your old beliefs about men, about your love life, about your specific man that you're with and about yourself, you're able to be born afresh, born anew, which is actually very biblical. You know, one of the most famous quotes we have from Scripture is that pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall. So this is where that famous phrase pride comes before the fall comes from. It's from Proverbs 16:18, which is, you have to let go of being prideful with yourself first and foremost. Where you say, no, I know I'm right. Men are this way, relationships are this way, I am this way. And this is just how it is. It's actually a very prideful approach. For you to believe you're not good enough, or for you to believe that there's no good men out there, or for you to believe that men aren't capable of loving you and cherishing you and committing to you. It's actually very prideful because you're holding on to this belief that you know better than God, that you have all the answers. And by allowing yourself to become humble, you can actually claim the gifts, the fruit that God has for you. You first have to admit it for yourself, to yourself. Another scripture states that you confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. So by confessing to yourself your mistakes, your old beliefs that you held on to that may not have been accurate you allow yourself to start healing, to start becoming who you're meant to be, which is a fully embodied, high value feminine woman. But you have to be willing to let go of the past first. You have to be willing to let go of those false notions. Do you have anything you want to mention on that, Snuggie?

Oh, 100%. I mean, so. And I love that you talk about this because the pride oftentimes feels like you want to be empowered, right? So it feels like if you look, if you're letting go of your willingness to be right, is that you're kind of losing power, right? Because you kind of have this. This idea that's of course not true is that that you have actually power if you have like a certain vision over a certain outcome, right? And so to give you an example, before I met Brody, I had to give up my right to be, right? Because when I met Brody, he was nothing what I expected. So, you know, in the past, I would have said, oh, you know, he's like a workaholic. He works all the time. And so, like, you know, my brain wants to be right, right? Because the brain wants to say, see, I was right. There you go. And why do I want that? Because while women don't want to look stupid or ignorant or. Or powerless. So if I already knew the outcome that I'm like, die. I already. I'm totally in control. I got this, right? I already saw this coming. So I look very competent and I would look very smart and I look very intelligent, right? And also, I don't feel that it disappointed, right? So it's actually a protection mechanism because if I already predict. Predict disappointment, then I'm not going to get attached to a beautiful hope because I'm already like, oh, you know what? Like, I would have a plan B. I already know if the case this doesn't work out. No biggie. No biggie, Right. And so. So I had to actually let go of my willingness to be right. I'm like, well, I don't know. I don't really know how this guy is going to show up. So I guess we'll see, right? And so that was like one part of it was like actually being willing to date somebody different to do something different. And I remember when I went on my first real date with Brody, I mean, we already had the conversation that day when we met, but I just felt like breathing right? It was just like. It just felt like calm, like sort of like a calm lake. And it was nothing I've ever experienced before. And so my brain was saying, wait, that feels more like. That's not relationship. Because relationship to me was like attractionxiety and being, you know, attached and. And filled with hope, and it never gets met. It's never reciprocated, and there's a lot of heat and there's a lot of fear, there's a lot of attachment. And none of that was the case with Brody. But then it also makes sense to just be friends because I was also attracted to him. It was just a different attraction. Now, we, of course, call that curious chemistry. And again, I said, well, I'm, you know, willing to be wrong, I guess, right? So it kind of felt like a little bit, oh, I've got to do something different, right? I'm kind of slippery eyes here. It's something new. It feels a little like, insecure, right? Because when we try something new, when we're, like, getting. Giving up, like an old pattern, it's like. But it feels a little insecure. Of course it does. Right. Because if you felt so secure and so confident in advocating for what's not working and how a man is always going to show up, you know, I'm always kind of like, visualizing sort of sex in the city, you know, back in the day, you know, like the four girlfriends sitting at the table drinking their martinis or saying, see, I already. I already knew this. You know, all men are. All men are like this. Cheers to that. And it's like sort of almost like finding, like, some human that and finding some, like, camaraderie in that and finding some bonding in that. Right? And it's like real deep, intimate, emotionally intimate friendships being built because of that. Right? Because you have sort of, you. You share this agreement, but we were actually saying, and even the Bible is saying, right, like, get out, come out of agreement with those. With those unconscious and destructive beliefs that are no longer serving you, Right? And I was like, you know, I remember back in the day, my coach was telling me, andrea, I mean, what are you going to do? You have your back against the wall. Like, nothing's. But what. What you've been doing. That was in 2012, right? A year before my Brody, nothing. What you've been doing has been working. So what are you going to do? Right? And, you know, I was going through this one exercise, and I was about to tell him, like, you. You're not doing this, right? And telling him what to do, because I know how to do things and how to navigate things and how to coach me and all that. Right? And then that moment had like this massive breakthrough, which again, actually repeated again in 2020. 20, 202021 with another coach again. Because, you know, sometimes we can have sort of this constitution, this energetic constitution that's based on our childhood wound that has to do it right. And it has to tell other people that they are not doing it right. Because otherwise, by default, you would have to be wrong, wouldn't you? And then that would mean when you're wrong, which in that case, I was in 2012. And in 2020 and 2021, I had to be like, now in the unknown. Oh my. I don't know what to do. I don't know what to say. I don't know how to perform. I have everything set up. I know exactly the sequence, what to say, how to behave, how to show up, how to present myself. If I go into the unknown, it's like free fall. How scary is that? And now, now let's put that cherry on top. Now I can be taken advantage of. Because that is the deepest fear and the deepest trauma of women who hold so much need for control and certainty.

Yeah, totally. It also reminds me of the scripture. Do not conform to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Romans 12:12. And I have a personal experience of this because I've been going through my own spiritual path recently where I realized that my brain, I think we as humans all go through this where our brains get stuck and locked onto certain things, certain ways of being, especially our identities, our identities of seeing ourselves as a low value person, or as a high value person, or as an achiever, or as lazy, or a procrastinator, or an early bird, early bird or a night owl or an introvert or an extrovert. And we get stuck and locked onto these ways of being, these identities, these beliefs. And what happens is it's like a train trying to go through the tracks, but there's like a bunch of trees in the tracks and the trees and the tracks, or maybe the tracks are going through the wrong direction and you can't get off the tracks. So it's like transforming from being, which is literally this verse, transforming from being a train on the tracks to instead being like a car or a motorcycle where now you can go a different direction, you can move, you can maneuver through things. Another analogy would be seeing yourself more as a river than as a stagnant pool that is getting bacteria growing in it and algae and trash buildup. Like, instead of being that being like the river being like water that moves and that transforms from Ice to mist, to clouds, to rain, to the ocean, back into the river and back into the ocean and then back into rain. And so that is what you can do with your own mind as a woman, to be able to transform yourself and renew your mind, to let go of who you thought you were. And so I'm in this process where I have to consciously remind myself what I call being in the pocket, where I may be stuck in a pattern, and I have to get myself out of the pattern and say instead to be in the pocket. So, for example, if I have a habit that every night I have this routine where I have to watch this show that I really like, or I have to read a book in a certain way or a certain type of book, well, what if I was really in the pocket? Is that actually what I want to do? Maybe there's something else I want to try tonight. Maybe I want to try playing a video game, or I want to just meditate, or I want to just go to bed early. So to allow myself the flexibility, to be who I thought, someone different than who I thought I was, and to have that flexibility. And that's what it is, what. That's what it means to renew your mind and to be willing to transform yourselves out of the world, out of what people are telling you, what you need to be, or your parents are telling you that you're not good enough or you're not lovable, or that relationships are hard, or that there's no good men out there, or men can't be trusted, or men are unfaithful, to get out of those old patterns, to be able to break free of a generational curse or a generational pattern, a track, a habit that may be there from your parents or from yourself, just the way you've lived your whole life, to be able to break free and renew and transform into something different, to do something different, which means really, you just have to let go. You have to humble yourself. Just like this other verse I brought up earlier. Humble yourself before the Lord, before God, and he will lift you up. So it's like saying. Sometimes you just have to say, like, God, I don't have all the answers. I don't know why I'm stuck. I don't know how to get out of this. But I'm seeking the answers. I'm open to the answers. Just like you showed up here. You're watching this right now. You're investing into yourself. You're getting new answers. You're getting new possibilities, new elements coming into your. Into Your beingness where now you can make different choices, perhaps you can be something different. Just like here in America, we have Halloween coming up, which, you know, some people have mixed beliefs on whether you should celebrate that or not as a Christian. But the idea of Halloween is very interesting, which is where for one day of the year, we can be somebody totally different. We can put on a costume and we can pretend. We can pretend to be somebody new. But what if you could do that at any time during the year? What if you can just simply choose? Tomorrow you're going to wake up, you're going to be something totally different. You're going to have a totally different outcome and get out of that track. It takes a lot of courage and it takes a willingness to humble yourself and to let go and to let go of the pride from those other verses. Let go of your arrogance, perhaps, or your pride that you need to be the certain way or you need to believe this certain way and instead get wisdom. Get the wisdom that is there awaiting for you. Do you have any thoughts or feelings on that, Shanghi?

Yeah. What you just shared really reminded me of one of my mentors. You know, she literally says, like, take the Bible and just kind of say, refresh my mind. You refresh my eyes, you know?

Yeah, she puts it over her head. Yes.

Like, literally, right? Just like, show me.

Show me a different way.

Holy Spirit, you know, wash over me. And, you know, sometimes I have this vision too when I'm like, I go to bed or I take a shower, just like, kind of, oh, gosh, I just watched this all the way, all this, like, preconceived notions and how I was conditioned and how I was programmed and, you know, like, Holy Spirit, give me like a new fresh of a pair of fresh eyes to see. To see something different. And all what that really means is like, looking for new pair of lenses. Right? Remember, we delete and we distort because we are processing two billions of bits of information per second and only 134 consciously. So there's a lot of room. How many more other versions you could consciously process, Right. There's like a massive difference between 2 billions of its information. 134. So very small percentage of that that you actually get to see in terms of your possibility and the gifts that. That God has for you and the blessings that God has for you and the favors he's like, sprinkling in your way in terms of also people, Right? We only see what we expect to see. But the research literally shows that, that you can have something in front of your eyes that you're actually looking for. Right. But they actually desire. But you don't expect to see it because you have, let's say, worthiness issues. And then you're literally not going to see that person. Your brain will delete it because it stands in direct violation to your unconscious belief that you're not worthy. As an example.

Yeah. And I want to start bringing this back also to why this is helping a woman to attract a man, why a man wants this, and why he will be drawn in, drawn closer to you. When you are able to allow yourself to be wrong, to allow yourself to let go of beliefs that may not have been serving you, that maybe there are good men out there, maybe relationships can be simple, fun and easy, that dating can be simple, fun and easy, which is all possible. Of course, we teach you how to do that here. And that it's possible, and we're living examples of that. That also, you can be good enough. You can be valued, you can be cherished, you can be safe. A man you can trust. You can trust the man. There are men out there you can trust that will be loyal to you, will be faithful, will be loving, that will want to take care of you, that will want to protect, especially when you're fully connected to yourself. And so what happens is when you let go of these old preconceived notions, you become a woman who is, in a way, you've left baggage. It's like, you know, that's that that trope that exists that, you know, so many single people out there, especially if they're in their 30s or 40s or they're divorced, they come with a lot of baggage. Well, that doesn't have to be you, because you are transformed by the renewing of your mind. You can let go of that baggage. You can be something fresh. You can be born again, born again, new. That allows you to come to a relationship with a man where he can just feel your pure heart. He can feel your possibility. He can feel your openness, which is your feminine receptivity, and want to fill you up, want to give you all the love, want to make you happy, want to serve you as your hero, because you are this open vessel. And that's not going to happen if you're too attached to holding on to who you were or what it needs to be like or the identity of. Of the past rather than what awaits you in the future. And so that's one big aspect of why it draws a man to you. The other Big aspect is the outer aspects of this, where you are less willing to get into conflicts with men because you're holding on to this old identity or the need to be right. Because here's the thing, when you're so attached to an identity or you have to be right, or you. The way you view the world has to be the way it is. And if. If you're challenged about that, you get into an argument, you get into a fight, then that's masculine energy. Masculine energy is like the rigid structure. It's like a castle, right? The castle is existing, it's strong, it's protecting. What a man doesn't want you to be the castle, he wants to be the castle. He wants to be protecting you. And the feminine is more like the interior of the castle. It is like the curtains, the warm fireplace, the delicious food and drink, the pleasures, the sensuality, the coziness that is the feminine. So that is not rigid, right? That is soft, that is warm, that is openness. And that's what happens when you are in that place of renewing yourself, being willing to humble yourself, being open to possibility and letting him lead, letting him guide, letting him take that role for you, where you can let it go and say, okay, babe, you can figure it out. And he will love to figure it out. He will want to figure it out, and he will start finding the answers. He will start directing and guiding. Just like in a beautiful dance. Do you have anything you want to share on that? Feelings?

Yeah. You know what it really reminds me of is when a woman dates and she oftentimes decides she already decided this is the man. Like, he's the man of my dreams. And the reason why it's the man of my dreams is because he is handsome and we have the same values. And she's not willing to be, like, wrong. Like, meaning, like, she's not. She's no longer curious. She already decided, right? So she's already deciding. She's already telling the man through her energy and through her projection who he is. And then, you know, like what he said, like, a man is actually going to feel that. And man, it's like, wait a minute, I don't even know yet who you exactly are. Like, I'm kind of hoping that you are the person that I think you are, but I don't know yet, so. And now you don't give me space to figure that out, but instead you just keep, like, kind of bombarding me with your projections and your expectations and your anxiety because you're projected to. You're Attached to something, someone who you think I am. And the reason why you are attached to someone who you think I am is because you need to be right. You need to predict things as fast as possible. You need to be in control, which puts you into the masculine, right? And then if you're dealing with a masculine man, he's like, you're not telling me who I am. Right. Like I get to decide that I get to choose that who I am. You're not telling me who I am. Right. And you should be wanting to explore, be curious, right? Because you don't know, maybe of all this different energies inside of ourselves, if all these different archetypes inside of ourselves. And so many times I was wrong with the assumptions that I made about Brody. And then the funny part was that it was actually on my behalf. It actually served me to be wrong because I didn't know that, you know, my body told me, I'm the girl. I'm the girl of the story. I thought, like, you know, is he crazy or am I crazy? Because, you know, if I run the paradigm that I'm right, then he must be crazy, right? But if I'm letting go of that, I say, you know, wait a minute. Maybe I'm crazy and I'm wrong, you know, and actually, I'm. I'm getting my happy ending here, but I can't see it, I can't receive it, because it feels foreign. It feels almost like unsafe in a way, right? You know, not unsafe, but it feels like disregulating to my nervous system because my nervous system regulates through codependency and attachment. That's not healthy. And familiarity. You know, just because you feel safe with someone doesn't necessarily mean I'm familiar with someone. Of course, you may have heard that before. Doesn't mean that this is actually healthy pattern that that's actually the man that God has in mind for you.

Yes, totally. And so now I want to start answering some questions that may have came up from this. From our lovely audience here today. Thanks for watching. We're excited that you tuned in. Go ahead and post your question below. We'll start answering some while we have some time. And so our first question is from Lynn, and she says, how do you let it all go? Do you want to start with that one, Snuggie?

I know that's like my. Yeah. I mean, part of it is the curiosity, and part of it is also breaking up with that part of you that needs to have all the answers. So I had to actually break up with my old self that was attached to a hope that the man is going to turn around, right? So how you let it go is literally breaking up with that part inside of you that has you attached to the wrong outcomes, has you believe that you're going to turn a man around, that you don't deserve a man who's, like, already healed, or that the messenger is the healer, which means the man who causes the pain in your nervous system and your wound and triggers that naturally is also the one who's able to heal it, which is absolutely not true. What I have seen over and over again is that you actually have to let that man go. Because the man who is healing your heart is the one who's already healed. Because when I met Brody, he was already healed. He already knew. He told me the first night we met that I'm the girl of a story, right? He already knew. I always said, my man knows. So three words. My man knows, right? Like, not, like, because of this and that. Here's the explanations and justifications and, you know, hopes and dreams. No, just three words. And it was with such a conviction, because God had given me that conviction. And the reason why God had given me that conviction, because I said, listen, you have bought into the lie that I, meaning God, I want to teach you a lesson, and I want you to be more patient, and I want you to teach you that you need to detach more. And I want you to, you know, do all this and go through all this pain, right? But God actually told me, like, no, but hold on one thing, actually. You have authority. Remember, like, David had authority, right? He killed Goliath, you know, for wishful thinking. But he's just like, I have authority, right? You have this internal authority. My internal authority was like, my man knows. So knowing the difference between when you have that authority and you actually claim it, you actually proclaim it, right? So brutally now, we pray over each other. There's no, like, you know, I hope, dear God, you know, maybe at some point, if you don't mind, you know what I mean? If you would send us, you know, a little, you know, a little coin of inspiration, you know what I mean? A little dust, you know? No, right? You're like, you step into your authority. You step into your power. You bring the fire. You speak from conviction. You speak with. With. You speak how God wants you to, you know, proclaim what you want in your life. And that's what I did that day, and that's how I let it go. I mean, after that, like, God Already showed me the promised land. It was crazy. I mean, literally within minutes, I felt a whole different world opening up internally. My inner eye, my inner ear, my inner sense was just, like, revealing. I could feel it. I could feel a man like Brody coming into my life. Like, I could feel it. I felt something had shifted in the heavenly realm that was now just a matter of time for it to manifest here, like. Like to get created here in the earthly realm. Is that helpful for you, Lynn?

Yeah, it was amazing. Luciana also said may cut me off for a little bit here. This sounds like me with the gentleman I've been dating. He has thought me. He has taught me a lot, and I have to humble myself and stop trying to be in control and try to see the outcome. I've been doing a lot of work on myself. He has been a blessing to me, but also has tested my patience. He is quite older than me and very grounded and mentally and emotionally stable and has been so patient with me and gives me space to be and stay in my feminine energy. That's great, Luciana. Thanks for sharing that. And do you have anything. Any thoughts on that? Sneaky.

I was. So much so. I'm just kind of, like, digesting all of that. Hold on.

It's not really a question. It's more of a share. Yeah.

And I think one thing I want to set about, like, the idea of testing, because sometimes women can feel like that testing happens quite consciously. But I actually feel like with Bry and me, for example, or also the women that we see all the time, we test unconsciously. Right. We're not like, saying, oh, today I'm going to test this person. Because that's more like what a narcissistic lead traded person would do. Right. Like, somebody who was, like, has control issues. But for the most part, we're testing unconsciously. How do we test is by just being ourselves and just seeing how does the person respond to that, you know? So, for example, I tried to, you know, test Brody's patience or how much I can get Brody distracted when he was waiting, working from nine to five in Hawaii. And when I was not able to do that, I realized, oh, wow, I'm dealing with real man here. He has real. What we call king Tequity. And I, I. I really grew in respect to him, even though I was annoyed. You know, it's sometimes a good thing when we women get annoyed because, like, we're, like, seeing. Okay, we're not just. We can't just, like, pull this guy around left and right. He's not just like going like the waves with the wind, but he can actually hold a solid container. And he's also not, like, needy of, like, our approval because he can't get emotionally easily manipulated because he's on purpose. You see a man who's on purpose, he's going to set boundaries. He's going to be like, look, I'm on purpose. God has given me this mission to get this vision that he has for me. And you're not going to interrupt that, right? Because in the Bible, the wife is the helper, is the helper to the husband, right? And that doesn't mean, like, she's like, less than him or she's somehow just. No, but it means, like, she's on her side. She's not competing with his vision. So sometimes men will test in that way or women will test in that way. Right? Do you feel that too, my king?

Yeah, definitely. Yeah. Being the helper, it's. It's also not being his therapist. It's not being his coach. It is not being his teacher. The helper is really about being his compliment in a way. His feminine compliment, where you are, in a way, if anything, you're not his coach, you're his cheerleader. Right? A cheerleader is still quote, unquote, helping. She's cheering her man on, but she's not coaching him. She's not telling him what to do. And yeah, I love what, what you also shared with that Luciana, that it will test your patience. Oftentimes you will have to embrace being patient just like that Corinthians scripture. Love is patient, right? Love is patient, love is kind. And your patience is like a muscle that you can work. It's just like your feminine muscle. You might see it as a muscle. Sometimes it's like, it's weird to call your feminine muscle, but it's like stretching yourself into the ability to hold more, to receive more, which oftentimes means being like a container where you can have patience. You can be open to let your man initiate, to let him lead, to let him give to you without you having to step in and constantly fill the space with your leadership or you trying to control him. Are you trying to guide him? Are you trying to give to him or mother him and try to make him happy and meet his needs. It's like, no, that's his job. It's his job from the masculine to take care of you. Like what Auntie said, to be your king, to provide, to protect and for you to receive and to appreciate him and to Value him for that. And to share your feelings and to share your requests when they come up, that is the greatest gift and really the only gift you need to give him. So is there anything else you wanted to mention on. On that topic or anything else you wanted to share on that today?

Well, one thing that my mentor back in the day said, mind we're talking 2010 or so, is infinite patience causes immediate results. Now, where does infinite patience actually come from? What actually comes from the fact that. So we always talk about the different energies that we have that women have inside of themselves, that men have inside of themselves. And so usually we're acting from a certain archetype when we get attached to, let's say, the man calling you back or the man, you know, proposing to you. Maybe he's calling you, but he's not moving the train forward, girlfriend. You know what I mean? He's not fully committing. He's not asking you for exclusivity, right? It's then actually saying, why? You know, just like, out of curiosity, just totally curious, you know, why would I attract a man like this, right? So if I was sort of like a narrator perspective, and I would look at you, I look at the man like, so why, just out of curiosity, you know, why would this be happening? Why would God send a man like this into my life? It'd be like, oh, maybe it helps me to strengthen my relationship with God more. So maybe I haven't really fostered this muscle that I have, the relationship that I have of God, you know, the archetype that's connected to, like, your spiritual gifts and your spiritual vision and your faith. And maybe that's very much needed. Because when you come together with your man or when your man commits to you or whatever it is, that's actually part of your mission to have God at the center. That means you need to already independently have a really powerful and consistent relationship with God. That's, like, unapologetic. That's. That's intimate. That's between you and God, right? Maybe that's what needs to be there, because that's what really helped me. And then all of a sudden, what's kind of funny, because I was patient for 10 years. Nothing happened. And then I. I shifted, and I'm like, I'm gonna focus on actually creating a relationship with God, like, really authentically. I mean, Brody and I literally met at a spiritual discussion group. So it doesn't get any more, like, committed to God, right? And then like, within 10 days of me devoting myself to that Journey. I met Brody 10 years, 10 days. You know, in God, there's no time, space. It's just actually shifting a perspective, right? This is actually a miracle. It's the shift in perspective, the shift in focus. And now, of course, God could, quote, unquote, surprise me. Because when we get attached, we can't get surprised because we expect it every day. Every day, every day, every day, every day. And if you think about it, if you had a friend or child or anyone like that, and they're constantly expecting, right? They're constantly like, oh, Mom, I. I know you want to get the ice cream today. Oh, Mom, I know you're gonna get me that doll today. Or, God, I know you're gonna get me that new iPhone today. Then you would be like, no, I don't feel inspired, right? But if, like, just like totally in that joy doing something, maybe even doing something for you or not, right? But just like a totally different. Then you're like, today is the day. I'm so excited. I'm totally going to surprise them. They totally don't see it coming. And that's what gives God so much joy, right? It's like when he can actually, like, surprise you because you get to actually be obedient. You get to actually be grateful and not say, oh, already I knew this. Oh, there's my harvest. There's my harvest. Oh, yeah, great story. It's for another life card live stream about a couple was not grateful and entitled when it came to the harvest conversation. Right? But God doesn't want that. So God is like, actually making sure that you're grateful and not entitled.

Totally. We had another great question come in here from Marianne, which she said, what if he needs to be guided? Well, if he needs to be guided, Marianne, he needs to guide himself. That's ultimately how your man is going to be empowered in his masculine is. He has to find that capability. He has to find that navigation system that exists within him, which every man does. Because remember, every man has a masculine core deep inside. Every woman has a feminine core. God created them, male and female. The masculine core inside has a guidance system that guides a man towards his mission, which we talked about before I mentioned, I put that on the screen. That submission means supporting his mission, which is your man has a mission inside. It's not your job to guide him into his mission and what to do in his mission. What you do is you can support him in his mission. Like we said, being the helper, being the cheerleader means supporting him to find that within himself that kingly energy within himself and for him to be inspired into that. So you don't guide him into that. What you do is you inspire him into that through your feminine energy. Because the law of polarity states feminine energy attracts masculine energy, opposite energies attract. So the more feminine you become, the more masculine energy you're going to attract within him and within men around you that they're going to start stepping in more into their healthy leadership to want to provide, to want to take care, to want to protect, to want to serve, etc, and so that's all you have to do, and that's all you should do. Because as soon as you start trying to guide him in a certain direction or trying to change him, being his teacher or his therapist or his mommy, the more likely he's actually going to submit to you and fall more into his feminine energy, detach from his masculine energy and become like a child. And that's where a lot of women get into places where they're coming to us because their man is not stepping up, he's not taking care of them, he's not committing, and he is like a child because they've become the mommy, they've created an unhealthy dynamic. Now there is another aspect to this where when you're in your feminine, you will inspire him into his masculine. You will inspire masculine energy around you. There is a caveat, which is unless a man is broken, and there's a spectrum of brokenness. But if your man is deeply broken, meaning he has deep trauma, deep psychological issues, wounds from childhood that he just can't get over, addictions, narcissism, sociopath tendencies, abusive tendencies. Like if a man is deeply broken, which is about 10 to 15% of the population of men and women, it's slightly higher for men, then he's not going to be able to do it no matter what you do. But if you use our magnetic feminine 90 day challenge, you're going to inspire him more and more into his healthy masculine. And if he doesn't over that 90 days, which I would be surprised by, because it's pretty rare that a man won't step into that healthy masculine, assuming you use what we teach you and you connect your authentic feminine core, then he's deeply broken. And you have to be willing to move on. You have to be willing to walk away rather than going into the mothering, therapist, coach, teacher energy, because that's only going to make him more depressed, make him feel more disrespected, pull away even more over time, and it's Also going to make you unhappy. You're going to feel like you're carrying all the weight, you're not being taken care of. You're doing everything for him, he's doing not much for you. And you're going to waste time, waste years potentially on a man who's broken. And that's not good for you, that's not healthy for you. It's also not healthy for him. So you have to get out of that situation and then there's a possibility that he will change on his own. Sometimes people don't tend to change until they really come to terms with what they're, what they stand to lose if they don't change. And once he actually realizes he could lose you over, if that 90 day period ends and he's, he hasn't changed, only then maybe he really takes it seriously and gets the help he needs to get on track and become a healthy man to take care of you and show you that devotion. But it's not your job and you have to detach from that outcome. All you can do is commit to the process, showing up as the most feminine, high value, queenly woman you can be and let the cards fall where they may, but observe those cards and see exactly what he does. So hope that was helpful to you. Marion, we have another question here from mw. She said, guys in my life tell me my, tell me my guy of interest is leading by giving me lots of green lights, but he's waiting for me to ask him out. Well, it's, it's possible, it's possible. So that's a lot of interpretation either from you or from your friends that he's giving quote unquote green lights. You know, what does that mean? Does he smile at you? Is he friendly with you? That could just mean he's a friendly person. It could just mean he's an outgoing person. And no guy, no healthy masculine man is waiting for a woman to ask him out. If he really likes you and if he's at all connected to his masculine core, he's going to get over any kind of fears or whatever indecision he has and he's going to go for it. He's going to at least approach you and likely start inviting you to things, asking you out, asking you for, for your phone number. And that's how you know a guy is actually serious. And again, if he can't get over that, if he can't get to himself to the point of actually initiating and asking you out, is that really a man you want to Be with. Because if he can't do that, how a relationship starts is generally how it will continue. And if he can't do that in the very beginning, how's he supposed to lead you in the rest of the relationship? How's he supposed to initiate with anything? Oh, once he realizes that you like him too, and now all of a sudden, he's, like, stepping into his masculine, and he's providing and he's being your hero. Probably not. So it's likely a sign of either two things. Either he's in his feminine energy. He's not as connected to his masculine core. He's. He's a potentially a broken man, number two. So it's actually three things. He's potentially a deeply broken man, and he's not capable of it. Or number three, which is he's just not that into you. And he's not. He's not into you, at least enough to actually take the next step. And. And so be very cautious of your interpretations of his interest or your friend's interpretations of his interest, when really the only thing that matters at the end of the day is his actions. And is he actually stepping up or is he being the passive boy that he may be potentially, or is he just not into you? That's the reality of it. So hope that helps. Do you have anything you want to share on that, Snuggie?

I mean, you know, so oftentimes, like, men can kind of want to get some appetite, like, outside, you know, and then, you know, eat at home, so to say. Right. And so it's so many different ways. Men just want, you know, there's men who just want significance, want to feel, like, a sense of connection, a sense of, you know, just, like, approval. Oh, this woman looked at me, too. Okay, great. I get to go home now. And so it doesn't necessarily mean that, you know, again, I was, like, cringing inside when. When it said, like, he's waiting for me to ask him out. And of course, the first question I ask myself, oh, the guys in your life, are they also feminine? Because that means that your guys are actually projecting because they would want to be asked out. Right. So it's like also saying, I have a hard time believing that guys who are not masculine would tell you that a guy who's not asking you out is wanting you to ask the man out. Right. Like, they're just. I wouldn't encourage that. Right. Because that would be like, you know what? Like, the right man is gonna ask you out. Right. And I love that because I Actually learned something from Brody way back when he was still coaching men, which is this whole concept of a man and breaking through approach anxiety when he's committed, when he's like enough of like a fire from the wild man, it's like one of the archetypes inside of himself and probably purpose and just really desire, like, he'll break through that, like, sound barrier, if you will, or that resistance or that fear or whatever it is to approach you. Right? And if he's not capable of doing that, and either his desire is not strong enough or his masculinity is not strong enough, which is certainly means that he can't hold a container for you. Because if he can't even hold a container for himself and encourage himself and break through his own fears of. Well, Brody explained it to me that for men, it can sometimes feel like death when they overcome their approach anxiety. Because if back in the day, right, like, if you approach the wrong female in the tribe and the female was maybe like, you know, the. The tribal leaders, the alpha, you know what I mean? The other, you know, that was meant, like, death for you, right? Or maybe if you got rejected, maybe it meant that for you too. I don't know. Brody will be able to shine some light and light us in that one. But I thought that was a really interesting concept because that convinced me even more than a man is very capable when he is connected to his wild. And I highly, highly, highly encourage to only date men who are committed to their wild man, because those are like the ones who are grunting their masculine.

Yeah. The other thing I will say is you're wondering if, if. If you. You think he's giving you green lights and your friends are telling you they think he's giving you green lights to ask him out. But I would say, are you giving him green lights to ask you out? So don't worry so much about his green lights or red lights because that's you taking the masculine role now. You're like the man. You're the hunter looking for the prey to go, you know, take your action and make it happen. It's like, no, you are the feminine. You are the signal. You are the stoplight. You are the source of the green light, the red light or the yellow light. And so are you putting off green lights? If you're actually interested in this guy, are you making eye contact? Are you smiling at him? Are you. When he engages you in conversation, are you showing interest? You're giving him your full attention. You're bringing out some feminine. Wows, perhaps like playing with your hair or stroking yourself or, you know, facing your body fully towards him. And. Yeah, and then it's, it's his prerogative to ask God. And you got to trust that you're a high value, high enough value woman that if a man is interested, he will ask you out. You have to believe that. That's what we talked about in this whole video of renewing your mind and starting to let go of your need to be right, of whether or not men have to do the approach or, you know, it's a modern day and time, you know, we have to wait. We have to take action ourselves. I'm a, I'm an independent boss, babe. I don't need man. I don't need to wait around and wait for a man to approach me. Well, if you have that mindset, then that's going to become your reality that you will have to approach because no man's going to want to approach you because you're putting off masculine energy. So if you want a man to approach you and to take that initiative, you have to embrace your feminine core. Bring it out through magnetic feminine polarity, magnetic feminine communication. That will teach you. And then a man will start approaching you. And then all you have to do is put out that signal. You just put out that openness. You're like the flower opening up to the honeybees. You're like the flame to the moths, the sun to the planets. And he will be attracted, he will be drawn to you. The topic of our video, how to pull a man to you, you will pull him to you when you are that way. So I hope that's helpful and, and makes sense. And let's see here. So, Yeah, we also had a comment from Instagram. She said, I'm just going to see what this one is because I can't really read it here. She said, I am living in a silent divorce relationship and he has female friend and they are very close. I don't know how, what I should do about it. A silent divorce, I don't know exactly what that means. You're divorced and you're not communicating. That's what I would imagine that means. And so what I would ask you is if, if you're already divorced and you're not communicating with him, then why do you care if he has a female friend or not? And it's not even someone he's dating, it's a female friend. So I assume you're wanting to get back together with him. Likely, but that's there's a lot of assumptions here because I don't have all the information, but that's what I'm guessing. And if that's the case, then what we really need to work on with you likely is letting go. Letting go. Forgiving, forgiving yourself, forgiving him and being willing to set some boundaries with yourself and move on, move forward. And that's going to be the best way also to attract him back to you, if that's what you want, is you have to stop caring about that. You have to stop caring whether or not he has a female friend or if he's dating somebody else because he doesn't owe you anything. You guys are divorced, it's over, it's done. But there is always a possibility of reconciliation. But you can't hold on to hope for that because that's just going to keep you stuck in the past. What you have to focus on is yourself now in the present, which is what feminine energy is all about. What are you doing now? You're investing in yourself now here, which is amazing. You're learning, you're. You're getting the self care improved. You're connecting more to your feminine core. You're learning powerful principles, magnetic feminine clarity, Magnetic feminine communication that'll transform your life and transform your relationship. And then the man becomes like a bonus. He's the bonus. He's the icing on the cake if he does start communicating with you again, if he reaches out to you, if he's open to connecting. And we have many tools for how you can approach that as well that I'd highly recommend getting, such as our big apology. And you can get all that by taking our free quiz that can reconcile a relationship and actually restart the romance. But you can't depend on that because that's a big if and it's a big unknown. So that's why I'd recommend it on that for now. But I would recommend getting some coaching so we can really help you with the next steps. And then you said there was. We probably can answer one more question here. And that was from. Did you say Marianne? No.

Julianne.

Julianne, where's that question? Can you bring it on the screen if you see it?

Yeah, let's see if it shows here.

All right, here we go. Yeah, I was looking too far down. Julianne said, I feel like I'm in survival mode. I've been doing everything alone for the last seven years after a divorce. Overworked, take care of everything and burned out. First baby step to get into feminine energy. Do you Want to take that one, Snuggie?

Yeah. I mean, the first thought is like breathing. Because when somebody is in survival mode, that means you stop breathing. I mean, I literally mean like you stop breathing. You know, it's just like, ah. And then even like when you just do like a deep breath like that, there's already tears starting to, you know, you already start feeling like you want to scream, right? So whatever emotion is going to start to come through. Maybe you want to break down. Like I feel even when we're overwork, we need to take care of things, we need to push through. I feel there's still moments where we can increase our capacity, right, for embodiment and for presence and for space, even if it's just five minutes. But I've had women that I work with who worked 80 hour weeks and were like moms and all the things. So that's like number one. It's like actually like saying yes to whatever is emotionally presenting itself and not being afraid of that, not overriding it, not like not belittling it, right? But actually going full on into the emotional expression of it. Because that's actually embodiment. And embodiment and of itself is feminine. You know, when you're connected to your feminine, to your body, you are naturally in your feminine. You know another way how you can easily just, you know, baby steps, right? Just talking baby steps is music. You know, music also activates your body, it activates your nervous system response as well. You know, that's binaural beats meditation. It's like so many things that you can do to just get slowly warming up your nervous system, I will call it, right, like to step slowly into sort of your feminine. And even if you're just saying like, I'm safe, right? I'm safe. While you're listening to the music. And this can just be a few minutes. This can be just while you're in traffic at a red light. It could be while you're standing in line at the grocery store. So I know you're like super busy and take care of everything right now, but it just kind of slows down and calms your mind for a moment and has you really again, like let you feel, let your breathe, lets you like even like your emotions. Let's let your emotions speak and just become a little bit more present.

Yeah, that's beautiful. Yeah, that's the baby step. That's a great baby step, Julianne. Of course being here is the next great step you're taking. And I would highly also recommend joining Our coaching groups, our magnetic feminine coaching groups, where you can get access to all of our advanced courses and have us give you the whole plan of action for how to step in your feminine, because there's so many different aspects to it connecting your feminine core, especially magnetic feminine communication. But all the different aspects of understanding yourself as a woman, the archetypes inside of you, and understanding men on a deeper level, that's really going to open your eyes to becoming that fully embodied woman and getting out of survival mode. Getting out of survival and into thrival thriving. That's what we want for you. Because when you're truly in your feminine, you start to thrive, you start to have. You become the source and you start to receive from people around you, people start to give to you and you become more comfortable with making requests, asking for help from men, from people in your everyday life, asking for advice, asking for tips, and appreciating them when they do. And then the men around you, they just want to do it more. They get drawn to you, they feel good when they're around you and they're drawn in from your energy as well as how you show up in the connections. And one thing I did want to mention also is MW said she did add some context that the guy she was interested in is at. It's at work. So, yeah, if a guy's not asking you out at work because he may be cautious about wanting to break any of the rules of dating in the workplace, which is something definitely to be cautious of, especially for a man. One thing you can do that I recommend is you can start to next time you have a conversation with him, if you do, ask him what he likes to do for fun. So treat it more as a social conversation, like he's just a friend, just a person you talk to. Ask him what he likes to do for fun or ask him what he what if he has any fun plans for the weekend. When you ask these kind of questions, a man starts to reveal to you some of his hobbies, his events that he's going to outside the work workplace. There may be some things you both connect on, but also it gives him an easy way to invite you to something. Because if he, if you asked him if he has any fun plans for the weekend and he told you he's going on this hike or doing this thing, and then you sound interested in that, you're like, oh, that sounds really fun. And then he, it's easy for him. And then say, oh, why don't you join us? Or why don't you come along and then there's your invite. You made it easy for him. It's a social context so he doesn't have to feel like it's a fully romantic context. That's one bridge you can build to make it even easier for him to to take that next step. So we got to get going today, but hope this was helpful again. If you want to take this to the next level and really get the Advanced Strategies Magnetic Feminine Polarity Magnetic Feminine Communication to get a loving, long term committed relationship with a man you desire, a high quality man, the man you want, then I'd highly recommend taking our free Magnetize youe Man quiz by clicking the link in the description or the comments below this video or in our bio. You can get that or go to our website magnetizeyourman.com to get that now. And you also get our customized personalized strategies, recommendation and coaching for you based on that. And get you into the support that you need so that you don't have to do it all your own. You don't have to be like Julianne was saying, stuck in your masculine for seven years and being the independent boss babe and not getting the support you need because that's what feminine energy is all about. It's investing in yourself, it's letting support come in. So much love. Take care and we look forward to talking to you again very soon. Bye bye.