He’s Not Telling You This… But Every Man Is Thinking It

Eight Things Men Wish Women Knew. I'm Brody Boyd with Magnetize youe man. And for over 20 years, combined with my wife, Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man they desire. So let's go ahead and dive right in. So the eighth thing that men wish women knew is that doing more for them does not equal them valuing you more. Here's the thing. Masculine energy is about giving. Feminine energy is about receiving. So the more that you are giving to a man, that you are trying to meet his needs, you are trying to make him happy, that you are being his mother, his therapist, his coach, his counselor, his doctor, whatever it might be, that is actually putting him more into the feminine role and putting yourself into the masculine role, which is killing the polarity. You can't have a, a strong attraction, passion or chemistry in a relationship where there is a depolarization, meaning that you are not living from your feminine core, he is not living from his masculine core, and the slack, the tension goes away. It's just like a magnet that has been broken, the poles have been reduced and now the magnets cannot attract to each other. And the law of polarity actually states that masculine energy attracts feminine energy because opposite energies attract. So in order to fix this, if you are finding yourself giving to him, thinking that it's going to make him value you more and make him love and be attracted to you more, then you need to stop that stinking thinking and switch it towards the opposite. When you find yourself in a hole, stop digging, stop the madness and instead switch into your feminine energy by letting him do things for you. How do you activate that within him? Well, an easy way is to start actually asking him for help. Rather than you giving him help, than you trying to make him happy. Start asking for things respectfully, vulnerably and specifically that will make you happy. That will allow him to provide for you and to invest into you. And actually what you'll often find is that is the thing that makes him value you more. Because people tend to value what they invest into. And him putting energy, thought, time, money, potentially into you, into your relationship is going to make him unconsciously believe I am doing this because I must really value her, because she must be worth it, she must deserve it. So I'm going to do more of it. I'm going to be very grateful to have her in my life and to be able to give to her in this way. So it's a very Powerful principle number seven thing that men wish women knew is that men are often less sensitive to subtle emotional cues than women are. So you being in the feminine, being connected to your feminine core, you are deeply connected to your emotions. Your emotions are where your feminine energy levels lives in your body, in your womb, in your gut, in your heart, all the sensations. So you are going to be more connected to your emotional world and the emotional cues in those around you when you are more connected to your feminine core. However, if you are with a more masculine man and all men do have a masculine core at some level, depending on how connected they are to it, he's not going to be as good as that, at that as you are. So he's not going to often realize when you are sad or when you are fearful or when you're upset or when you're in pain or when you are angry. He's not going to often pick that up as easily as you would if he was feeling angry or if he was feeling fearful or he was feeling anxious. So you got to give him a little bit of slack. You got to just understand that for yourself and realize that if you really want him to understand how you're feeling, then you need to use magnetic feminine communication instead. Instead of just pouting or closing up or being like, he should just know that that was not okay, what he said, or he should just know that I'm feeling upset right now or that I'm anxious right now. That's who I am. And that's, you know, obviously I'd be feeling that because of what he said or because of what happened earlier. He doesn't often know that because he's not a mind reader. And men are very single, focused. They tend to focus on what they are focusing on in the moment, and they don't like to be disturbed from their focus. Oftentimes it feels painful for them to be brought out of their focus, whether that's a TV show they're watching, a project they're working on for work, or even just something they're thinking about, some problem they're pondering or some, you know, story they're telling themselves they're imagining. So they are focused on usually solving problems and achieving things for themselves and building status and getting more respect in the world if they're more connected to their masculine core. So you need to use magnetic feminine communication, be willing to be vulnerable, open in a respectful way, which will teach you to actually share what's on your heart, to share what's going on in your feminine core. Using I feel statements. For example, can I share something with you? Sure. I'm feeling some sadness right now. And then pause. Oftentimes you don't need to say more than that. He will ask you. He will want to dig deeper and say why are you feeling sadness? Or what's going on? Or is there? What's the problem? How can I help? He might even offer that right away if he's really connected to his masculine core and has deep feelings of care for you. So that's going to be much more effective for you, much more powerful than simply closing up and just hoping that he's going to figure it out on his own and wondering why he's not and getting even more upset at him and then causing a lot of resentment and a downward spiral likely in your relationship. So before we get to our next point, if you haven't yet, I highly recommend taking our free Magnetize youe Man quiz to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man you desire fast by clicking on the link in the description or the comments below this video. Or you could also go to our website magnetizeyourman.com to get our 90 day challenge to get customized coaching, learn the principles of Magnetic Feminine Polarity, Magnetic feminine Communication and get your relationship on the right track with a man you want right away. The sixth thing that men wish women knew is that men are very attracted to feminine movement. Feminine energy is movement. It's like the weather. It's like the changing tides. It is the universe around you. It is constantly changing. It is constantly evolving, going through cycles, chaos and order. That is what the feminine energy is like. And men are actually deeply attracted to that because they are connected to their masculine energy. Oftentimes if they're a healthy man, which means that is about stillness. That is about purpose. That is about creating order and structure in the world, getting things done that need to get done regardless of the emotions, regardless of how he might be feeling at the time. So the more connected a man is to his masculine core, the more he's going to be drawn to your feminine movement, the changing tide of your emotions, the flow of your body as well the different cycles and just the simple act of moving your hips, the way you walk, the grace, the sway in your arms, the wind through your hair, the wind through your dress, the twirling of your dress. All these things are feminine movement. Feminine energy. It can also be expressed through your voice singing, the change of your voice, the change in vocal tonality based on your emotions. If you're feeling sad how your voice changes if you're feeling happy, how does your voice change? How is your body language changing? And that movement is going to help you get out of rigid patterns that you might be stuck in in your masculine energy that is causing, causing you to repel masculine energy. It's causing you to repel masculine interest. And maybe that's what you want right now. That's fine as long as you're aware of that, to get out of that rigid structure and to start flowing again, to start moving your body, to start expressing yourself, expressing your feelings, whether that's in private, simply dancing naked in front of a mirror, perhaps with your favorite music on, while you're sipping on your favorite drink. That could be an expression of feminine energy. That's a self care practice for yourself. Or it can be with your man when you are walking with him, when you're dancing around him, when you're smiling at him, when you are leaning your head against his shoulder. All these are expressions of feminine movement that are going to activate his masculine core and make him deeply attracted to you. So you don't want to lose that, and you don't want to get too rigid and too stiff in your beingness, which will be masculine energy that is never going to attract that level of passion and devotion that you want from a man that you're interested in. Now, the fifth principle that men wish women knew is that men can feel incompetent when given unsolicited advice. So you want to be very careful whenever you're feeling a desire and inspiration within yourself to give him advice, to tell him what to do, to make suggestions to him, to help him, to create a plan for him. All of these things can put him into feminine energy. And in fact, they can be deeply disrespectful to a man's masculine core. Because the underlying message potentially here can be, you're not capable of figuring this out on your own. You're not a strong enough man, you're not a smart enough man, you're not a capable enough man. So here I am to help you. Here I am, superwoman, coming in to rescue you. You are the damsel in distress. And here I am, the knight in shining armor coming to help you, you little damsel, you little princess, you sunshine. I'm going to help you with all of your problems because I'm a strong, empowered woman. I'm a boss babe, and I got it figured out and you don't. So let me help you to get on track, you stupid little boy child of a Man. That could be the subtle message being communicated potentially. Now, it depends, of course, on how healthy the man is and how triggered he might be by this behavior, because some men will blow it off or they will let it happen a couple times before it might start to annoy them. But other men may get triggered right away and say, like, no, don't talk to me like that. I don't want you to tell me what to do. Or, I don't want your advice. I'm good. Like, I don't need it right now. Thank you. I appreciate it, but I don't need it right now. It depends. It depends on what kind of man you're dealing with. But to be aware of that, this could be a potential trigger for a man, just like you may be triggered if a man starts coming to you and sharing all of his problems and making it all your fault. There's different ways that men and women can get triggered in a relationship. Or if a man was to say, here, let me help you become more beautiful, I'm going to go pay for you to get a boob job, or I'm going to go get you help you lose some weight. I'm going to sign you up for a gym membership. That would be similar things. That would be like a masculine version of trying to change a woman or trying to tell her what to do or trying to make her better in some way. I guess not a great way to do it, right? Just like giving a man unsolicited advice or telling him what to do is also not going to be a great way for you to try to change him. And so these things can have different triggers for men and women. So just to be aware of them. So that rather than giving him unsolicited advice, instead you're opening your heart, instead you're being vulnerable and you're sharing your feelings, or you're simply sharing the problem, which we're going to talk about in a little bit. But simply allowing your heart to be open and make it about yourself rather than about him. What are you feeling? What are your desires? What would make your life better? So now he can actually be your hero and he can figure it out himself, rather than needing you to baby him and mother him and lead him like a little puppy on a leash to where he needs to go. We want to avoid that. So the fourth thing that men wish women knew is that men generally prefer women to express a problem or how they feel rather than directly telling them the solution they want, which we just touched on. So you might Feel like you have a solution for him. You may feel like you know exactly what he needs in his life and what to do that'll make everything better, that'll make you happier, that'll make him happier, that'll make him healthier, it'll make him a better man, more respectable, more successful, perhaps. And you have it all figured out for him potentially. Now, if you were to just tell him those things and start leading him or signing him up for a course or buying him books and paying for his therapy sessions, et cetera. Again, that's going to likely make him feel deeply disrespected and feel like a little child that his mommy's signing him up for school to go learn how to be better, how to be more successful, as opposed to if you simply share what the problem is. So the problem is likely you're feeling unloved. For example, you're feeling a lack of love in the relationship and you don't know what to do. Or you're feeling lack of safety in the relationship. You're feeling lack of safety in your life. You're feeling some anxiety, some fear. So those emotions can actually be problems themselves. If it's a negative emotion, quote, unquote, you can share those things with him with magnetic feminine communication. That will teach you because you want to have these deeper conversations in the right way. Otherwise it can potentially become disrespectful and push him away more or cause him to close up or argue with you, rather than coming closer and devoting himself to you and falling deeper in love with you. So sharing the problem. Sometimes the problem can be just the facts. The facts are you said you were going to pick up the car last week, but you didn't, and I don't know what to do. Or can I have some help with that? Or can I have some clarity around that? Or can I ask what you think about that now? You simply told him about the problem. You didn't tell him, babe, you need to go pick up the car because it's already overdue and they're going to charge us more for it. Staying at the shop. No, you're simply saying, there's a problem here. I don't know what to do. Or can I ask what you think would be a good solution here? Or what do you think we should do? You're putting it back onto him to figure out the solution rather than you telling him the solution, like, babe, you need to go pick up the car today. It's already late. They're going to charge us. You're telling him the problem, the car's in the shop. I don't know what to do. That's a great example of you just simply sharing the problem vulnerably. And sometimes it can be framed also as a simple request, like, can I ask for some help? Or can I share a feeling I'm having with you? Or can I be open with you about something that's been on my heart? And then you can go into more details about what your request is or what the problem is. But now you're inviting him in. Now he's getting to witness what the problem is, and he's choosing to step into it on his own, just like Mission Impossible. His mission, if he should choose to accept it, is to solve you, to solve the puzzle that is you and to make you better and to make you a happier woman, which can be endlessly challenging and endlessly enjoyable, also for him, just like a video game, when you present those things to him. Because men want to be your hero, ultimately, deep down, if they care for you and if they're not a broken man. The third thing that most men wish, women knew, healthy men wish, is that men have a profound need to feel adequate. And so a man, if he doesn't feel valuable in his life, if he doesn't feel valuable to you, that he has some service to bring, some offerings, some talent, some ability to serve and make things better in some way to be a hero, he's going to become depressed as a man. Because men need to feel this way to feel valuable as a man. Just like you likely need to feel lovable. You need to feel beautiful to feel fully happy as a woman. If you feel like nobody loves you and nobody thinks you're beautiful, and they just think you're ugly and unlovable, and then you're probably not going to be happy very long as a woman either. Just like a man, he needs to feel that he's valuable, that he's providing some service, that people admire that and appreciate that about him. They want him there, they want his gifts. And if he doesn't feel that, if he feels like people see him as inadequate or as worthless or valueless or unrespectable, he's going to become depressed as a man. And especially in a relationship, he's going to feel, why am I here? You don't need me. I'm not making you happy, so why am I still here? Like, you should be with somebody else, Because I obviously can't make you happy. I'm obviously not good enough. I'm not adequate. I can't make you have the things you need to have in your life or to feel happy in the way you need to feel. So I'm just gonna. I'm just gonna withdraw myself. That's what a healthy man will often do if he actually feels like he can't make you happy. And maybe he's not capable of making you happy. Maybe he is a broken man and he has some deep work he has to do on himself. Well, that's where we have our 90 day challenge that we teach our women, our magnetic feminine 90 day challenge, where you give it a period of time and you implement certain steps that will allow him to start feeling your feminine energy, to awaken his masculine core, to be more of a hero and a provider and a protector for you. And he'll start serving more and more, and you'll be able to reciprocate that with your emotional openness and your appreciation, which will keep the upward spiral happening in your relationship where things start to get better and better and better. Again, assuming he's a healthy man and assuming you're a healthy woman, meaning not deeply broken, there's not deep traumas and wounds that are preventing him from being a hero. That's going to be a different issue, but that will become apparent more readily and quicker when you use the challenge. So I would highly recommend that to you as well. Now, the second principle of what men wish women knew is that men have a strong, often innate desire to function as a guide, protector, and provider for their loved ones. So this is ingrained within every man. Again, it just depends how connected he is to his masculine core, how much he is going to be feeling this desire to be that guide, protector, provider, hero for his loved ones. Not just you, although you can be the major source of that as a woman, as his woman, but also for his family, his children, the children you have together, especially his community and even his country in the world. Like, he's going to have that desire to want to serve in that way and to want to give his masculine gifts. And if he's not able to, he's going to feel lost. He's like a ship without a rudder or a ship without a port, where he's like drifting, he's drifting in his life. He's. And then unfortunately, there's a lot of men like that in our modern times because there's getting less and less opportunity for men to really express their full gifts due to societal changes and the feminist movements and women entering the workplace as well as men not having a lot of places they can really serve because of technology, because of AI, because of robotics, that they're being less and less needed. In some ways, of course, men need to adapt, and they can adapt, and a lot of them have to become valuable in new ways in a new changing society and how they can serve from that place. But it's very important for men, and if they don't have that, they will get depressed and they will oftentimes feel like, why does the world even need me? And which is why we have epidemics of male depression and loneliness and suicide. And it's not good. And we have to find channels where men can express those parts of themselves in a healthy way without just turning to video games or movies or alcohol or drugs, et cetera, to get that sense of personality, purpose or get that sense of meaning. And you, as his healthy woman, that you are becoming more and more of that goddess type energy, that magnetic, feminine, queenly energy. I would say by using the principles you're learning here, by becoming more connected to your feminine core, you will wake that up within him and allow him to say, hey, even if I don't have a huge purpose in the rest of my life with other areas, I can still serve my woman. I can still make her happy, I can be the hero for her. And that's going to inspire him to be even better and better who, where he does become more of a leader in the world, he does become more successful, he does become more valuable to the people in his life and other areas because of you, because you've inspired that within him, because of your feminine activation. Now, the first thing that men wish women knew is that men often express apologies or care through actions and gestures rather than solely through verbal apologies. Now, what this means is again, men are less emotionally connected in general, which means they're less likely to just verbalize what they're feeling. They're less likely to open up and say, oh, babe, I'm really sorry for what I said last week. I mean, they may do that, and especially if there was something really bad, they'll probably verbalize that. Of course. I'm really sorry. I apologize. I didn't mean to speak to you like that, or I didn't mean to do that, or even his expressions of love sometimes, like a man's not necessarily always going to open up and say, babe, I love you so much. You're my everything. You're so beautiful. You're precious to me. I would die for you. I would sacrifice everything to make you happy. He's not always going to say that, even though he may be feeling that in his heart. What's more likely to happen, especially with a more masculine man, is he's going to show that to you with his actions. He's going to plan dates, he's going to solve problems for you, he's going to check in with you, he's going to show up in different ways. He's going to be available, he's going to be there, especially when you really need him. He's going to stay consistent with you, he's going to stay loyal to you, he's going to be committed to the relationship to you. And he's going to do some of those traditionally masculine behaviors as well, such as wanting to protect you, protecting your heart, protecting your living environment in the family, wanting to provide for you, to make you happy, to give to you, which is masculine, to make you the happiest woman that he can make. You know, you hear a lot of men say this in weddings and in proposals, like, I want to make you the happiest woman alive. And it's true. That's a big desire that's been activated within that man to say, I'm getting my sense of value, really as a man by knowing you're happy, by knowing I'm doing a good job, and by knowing that you're fulfilled in all the ways. Pleasure, sexual pleasure, physical pleasure, mental pleasure, emotional pleasure, even spiritual. Spiritually, he wants to fulfill you. He wants to go on that journey with you in different ways. And it'll of course, depend on what kind of woman you are and what your needs actually are. Because those can change often. But at the base level, he's going to want to provide you with love. He's going to show you that love through his actions, hoping that you're going to reciprocate that by showing him respect and showing him that you value him and you appreciate him and you admire him. And then he feels fully happy and satisfied as a man. He's like, I don't need to be with anybody else. I don't need any other side chicks or mistresses, because I have you, because you are. You are my source of that fulfillment that he needs. Because happiness is different for a man. A man needs to feel a sense of purpose, to feel happy. Women typically need a sense of love in their life of connection, of feeling adored and cherished to be fully happy. And if men don't have that need and women don't have that need, then oftentimes they're going to become depressed and the relationship is going to become dysfunctional. So this is how we activate that within a man and it's a very powerful process. So I'm going to go ahead and start answering some questions now. So if you have any questions about what I mentioned or your specific situation with your dating or in your love life right now, or just life in general, go ahead and post that in the comments and I'll start answering a couple of those and see how many we can get through before I wrap this up for today. So the first question that came in here, well, actually there's not a whole lot of questions that came in here yet. There's a lot of people saying hello. Hi everyone. Welcome. The Banks pv. Nice. I'm Sinyan from South Africa. Welcome Cindy Ann. Great to have you here. So I'll wait for a couple more questions to trickle in and we'll start diving in. So while we're waiting for those questions, I'll elaborate on a couple other things that we mentioned here. So one thing to understand about men is they're constantly seeking and looking to know where they stand in the world. So I'll add some bonus tips here. Actually, let me pull up a couple of these. So some of the bonus tips is that men are constantly looking for their position in the world. They're much more status oriented than women, which means he wants to know that you see him as a man who is capable, who is valuable, respectable, and is a man of status. Even that he has gifts that he's providing for the world. And to acknowledge him for those things can be a very powerful thing. Let me see, what's another one that I had here? Control breaks down attraction. So another thing to know about men is that when they feel that you're trying to control them, that you're trying to lead them, oftentimes the attraction will go away. He may still love you to some extent as long as that's not continuing over the long term. But attraction and the passion, especially in the moment, will start to grow go away. So you want to watch out for that and you want to watch out for trying to control him. Instead, work on being vulnerable. Every time you want to try to control him. Instead, share those feelings. Usually it's a feeling of anxiety or fear or lack of safety or some uncertainty. Share those feelings with him and ask for help. Especially if there's a specific way and you use our magnetic feminine communication formula that we'll teach you in our courses, in our training and our coaching that will help you to really have those deeper conversations with him so you can fully express yourself. Because we don't want you to just be quiet and not share and not speak up. Because that's not valuing yourself and that's not being a high value woman. You need to speak up, but you want to do so in the right way, in a way that's feminine, that's gentle, that's open, that allows him to really feel your heart and want to help your heart. Because now he's connected to it and he empathizes. All right, we have some more here. Hi, from Canada. And we have our first question here from Karen. And I see some more popping in as well. So Karen said, how to open communication with a man that has pulled away. So if a man has pulled away, it depends to what extent he has pulled away, if he has broken up with you or if he's told you not to contact him, that can be a tougher situation, especially if a man has blocked you. And what I would say is, as long as a man hasn't blocked you, we can help you. We can help you get him back. We do it all the time. And we can help you to draw him back into your world and have that attraction come back, have that polarity come back. So the first thing you need to do if he's pulled away is you need to share your heart with him and you need to open up a conversation. Because really the only way that a relationship is going to reconnect is through a conversation. And that's why I'm not a fan of the no contact rule or no contact in general, because it closes your heart. It causes him not to be able to feel what's really going on in your heart. But if you can reach out to him, asking for help in the right way or asking for what you desire in the right way, you could potentially reactivate that chemistry and that passion and that polarity. Because the main thing is we want him to be able to feel your heart again, your open, vulnerable, respectful heart. Which is key because if you just reach out to him again with more complaints or justification or begging him, that's not going to work. And that's going to make him feel like you're just trying to control him again. You're just trying to lead him or try to change him in some way or try to manipulate him, that's not going to work. So you need to ask for a conversation first off. And so I would recommend that you send a message, a simple message to start that, which is, may I ask for a phone call or may I ask if we can talk and you can add some fluff to it like hope your week's been going well, hope you're having fun. I hope that project is good with work. I would love to hear from you again. Can I ask if you would be open to having a call this week? So that would be a way of adding some fluff and hopefully he will say yes. And then you can get on the phone and you can use a magnetic, you can have a magnetic feminine conversation with him which will help you to be able to share your heart, primarily sharing your feelings, pausing, letting him absorb it, letting him really witness it and feel connected to your heart and then to share whatever problems are coming up for you, that he can help you with the problems around, that you haven't heard from him for a while or that there was something else that happened, being objective about that and maybe some stories that you've been telling yourself, some thoughts that you've had that are not helpful or that have been causing some fear within your system or some emotions coming up. And then to give it up to him, I don't know what to do or asking him what if he could help you or what his thoughts are on that. So we'd have to go into more specifics of what your specific situation is, Karen, which we can coach you on and give you the tools for how to have those conversations with him. Now, if a man's not even responding back to you with that, which I believe if a man isn't at least getting willing to get on the phone with you or to meet in person, but at least get on the phone with you, then it's probably not going to go anywhere. He's probably lost his connection to you fully. He doesn't have any care in his heart, but you can still do a lot through texting that can reactivate him back to you as well. So we also have one thing we can, we can get you is our seven word relationship revival text. And so that's a text message you can send to a man when he has ghosted you or he has not, he has not responded back to you for a while or he is not that he's blocked you, but he's broken up with you potentially. And that seven word text can get him to come back to you at least to start the conversation. And so that's something I could, I would recommend that you can try and then we also have our love activation phrase that you can use that can cause a man to start Opening up to you again to give you more love. And a lot of it involves owning all the areas where you were disrespectful towards a man. And we also have our big apology process that you can do with a man where you really take account for all the areas that you wear in your masculine energy, where you were trying to mother him or control him or blame him or not trust him or disrespect him. And there's many ways you can do those things, and there's more. And then to really take account for those things and to share them with him and to apologize and ask him for help, ask him for. For his thoughts on that, really, because you're just giving it up to him at that point. You're letting him witness your heart, witness where you're at, your personal growth journey. And then you're giving it up to him to do whatever he's going to do with that. Likely he's going to want to help you. Likely he's going to want to restart the connection, restart your relationship potentially and go from there. But we don't know. It also depends if he's a broken man or not and his level of care for you. But those are some of the things that will get you started to start pulling the relationship back, pulling him back to you, having him feel attraction, love and chemistry and connection to you again. And then you can have a great relationship and get on that upward spiral. But you need all these tools, and you need to practice it to really know how to create that relationship for yourself and have it stay this time where he doesn't pull away again. Karen, because we don't want to get you back in the same situation in another month from now. We want to have you be able to attract him back and have it stay if that's the guy you really want to be with. All right. So Melanie said, how do you react to a man who says he doesn't feel a spark? I would share your feelings about that. So if he tells you. So here's the thing. When you're in your feminine, you're like an open book. Men are doing things. They are saying things. They are. Yeah, sharing. That's really all they can do, is they can do things and they can share things with you. And then you are simply reacting to those things from your feminine, from your heart. What is your feelings? What are the feelings that have been generated within your heart from what he said or did? And then you share that with him using magnetic feminine communication, blah, blah, blah, magnetic feminine Communication so that he can understand how that made you feel, but not by blaming him, but simply by being vulnerable, using I feel statements. So that's what you would do. So what I would first pose to you, Melanie, is when he said that to you, what emotions came up for you? Was it a feeling of sadness? Was it a feeling of fear, frustration, uncertainty? Or maybe a mixture of those? Because likely it was a mixture because the feminine is infinitely complex and. And oftentimes you will be feeling a mixture of emotions at any given time, and it's okay to share that mixture with him. Just like a cocktail that you've brewed up for him, mixed up for him, and you're giving him a sip of that delicious margherita that is your heart and letting him get drunk off of those feelings himself. So that's what you're doing and allowing him to understand that the impact for himself of those feelings without feeling blamed or controlled. And then oftentimes he'll explain more or he'll want to help you, because you're sharing your feminine, vulnerable heart, which is actually in the moment, likely creating a spark. It's creating some kind of chemistry or stirring within him, because you're being in your feminine in that moment. If you're doing it in the right way, if you're doing it authentically and using the tools and the practices that we give you to help you really connect to your feminine core. Because that's the key with all this work. We're not changing who you are. We're not teaching you how to play games. We're helping you become who you really are and connect, reconnect with who you really are. Deep at your core, the version of you that was existing the moment you were born, before you had traumatic experiences and got bad programming from your parents and from society and from the culture, we're reconnecting you back to that authentic, beautiful, pure heart that is within you. And so likely you're activating his chemistry and his attraction for you in that moment. And then if not, he's just going to give you more clarity. He's going to want to help you. And that can start the discussion around why he may not be feeling a spark. Because likely it's because he wasn't feeling your feminine energy. Because remember, really, the only thing that creates a spark, that creates chemistry, passion, attraction, love and devotion long term, is masculine, feminine polarity. Opposite energies attract. That's the law of polarity. Masculine energy attracts feminine energy. So if. If he's not feeling attracted to you, it's because he's not feeling that pull, he's not feeling that chemistry of the two differences in energy. So likely you're in the right place with connecting with us here and hopefully getting more coaching and support with us so that you can reconnect in even deeper levels to that feminine core of yourself and that you will just naturally activate that attraction with men as long as they're not a broken men. Because broken men will still, even if you're the most feminine, high value, queenly woman in the world, a man is still not going to be attracted to you if he's broken because he's going to be focused on other things. Likely he's going to be focused on how could he make it all about himself if he's a narcissist or how can he get just power over you if he's a sociopath or who knows what his issues are. But that could be the only circumstance when a man may not be fully activated because he's broken. But if he's not broken, then what we're looking at here is how can we keep you in that feminine energy, keep you in that practice. And that will get the spark back. And of course, if there are deeper issues, like you were in your masculine, you were disrespectful to him, you were keeping your heart closed. You weren't trusting him fully, you weren't following him, following his lead, you weren't receiving from him fully letting him give to you. You weren't appreciating him or showing him your heart in the moments that he was making you happy, he was doing a good job. Or if you're mothering him and treating him like a child and trying to meet his needs or trying to manage his perception of you and trying to get him to like you by being someone you're not, or putting on a mask or trying to pretend that you're not feeling certain emotions. There's so many different ways that we go into in our courses of how a woman could potentially, potentially be in her masculine rather than in her feminine because oftentimes they're very subtle. And so we want to do an audit for you, Melanie, so that we can look at that he might be aware of it or he might just say like, I don't know, I just don't feel. Just don't feel anything. I just don't feel the connection anymore. I don't know why. It's not you, it's me, I'm broken. You know, guys can say this sometimes to be nice not because they're actually broken, but just like, you know, I have my own things. You know, you're. You're a great woman. You're. You're amazing. It's just. It's just me. It could be, but it also could be him just being nice. But likely it's. There was some dynamic that was going on that was depolarizing that caused him to lose the spark. And so we want to fix that. We can fix it, and we can get it back. And you want to share your feelings to start. And then you can have deeper conversations, like the big apology, potentially the process that will teach you to actually open up your heart in a deeper way that can take account for all the ways you might have been in your masculine energy, and show him that you're aware of those things and to apologize and ask for help. And so that can be a useful practice. And then there's also a tool you can use sometimes with men in different circumstances where you can simply ask and you can say, can you show me? Can you teach me how to be a better partner for you? Can you show or teach me how I can be a better woman for you? And oftentimes guys will actually want to show you or want to teach you, or they'll at least want to talk about it, because that's them being in their masculine. Masculine energy is about leading. It is about guiding. It is about helping and giving. And for you to be open to that and to receive it, to actually encourage him, to request him to lead you. Just like if you're in a dance and you're open and available and you're wanting to dance with the man, you're presenting yourself on the dance floor, and he's able to walk up to you and say, like, I want to lead you. I want to dance with you. Let's have this beautiful dance together. And let me twirl you and take you on a magic carpet ride and of pleasure and of. For your pleasure and for my pleasure, then that's something that you can be open and available to and then allow him to do that. And if at any time it doesn't feel enjoyable for you, you need to speak up about that. But those are some things to get you started with Melanie, some things to chew on and feel free to share your feelings on that in the chat as well. And then Marion said, my boyfriend has had time spending on me. What could be the problem? He once told me it is best to spend it on my mother. I feel like I have tried talking to him about it, but he hasn't done anything about it. My boyfriend has. So he has a hard time spending money on you and. Because he wants to spend it on his mother. Yeah. So you need to share your feelings about that in a respectful way, in a vulnerable way, using magnetic, feminine communication so he can understand the impact for you. Because he might not think it's a big deal. He might think, like, well, you get it. Like, I want to spend my money on my mother because I love her and I need to take care of her. And, you know, you don't need these kind of things. You don't need me to, like, buy you things and dinners like you're good. Right. And he might be thinking that. And. And you need to share your feelings with him in a respectful way that doesn't cause. It won't cause an argument or won't be like you're pushing him or pressuring him to do it or being upset that he's not doing it, but that you're simply sharing the impact of how that makes you feel. Like, I'm feeling some sadness around that. I'm feeling some anxiety around, some uncertainty around that. Can I ask for some help? And now he can understand more what's going on for you and actually hopefully shift his behavior on his own to realize, oh, shoot, I don't want to make my woman sad. I don't want to do something that's affecting her heart. So, okay, maybe I can give her. Maybe I can also spend some time with her or spend some. Some. Something on her that's not just on my mom. For himself, he'll choose to do that. So that's. That's what I'd recommend, Marion, to get you started with that. Okay, so then the next question we have here is, TSC said men seem complicated. They're really not that complicated. It may seem complicated here because I'm giving you a lot of nuances and sort of advanced principles and ideas around this, but at the end of the day, really, men just want to be respected. You know, men want to be respected, and they want to be valued and admired and appreciated by their women, their woman, or by society in general. And women want to be loved and value. Well, valued in a different way, but loved and adored and cherished. And that's really it. At the end of the day, it's very simple. And by being in his masculine, he's being respectable. By you being in your feminine, you're being loving and lovable and adorable and cherishable and so really being that's how you do it. You just have to enter your feminine energy and he will be activating his masculine energy. You will attract masculine men. So at the end of the day, the fundamental principles are very simple. Feminine energy attracts masculine energy. And so there's just a lot of nuance and there's a lot of ways you can learn this, especially if you're used to being in your masculine in different ways in the past because of bad programming, bad behavior, messages from culture and society or your parents, or wounds that you've had, traumas that you've had. Men have them as well. Men have bad programming as well. And they're getting told things like they're toxic, toxic masculinity. And, you know, you should be more like a woman and you should share your feelings more and you should be. Just listen to women, sit down and just do what the woman tells you and don't be a leader. Don't be. Don't be strong. And so men are also getting messages that are having them have a lot of issues, which is why there's so much content online for men as well, on how to be better men, probably more content for men, actually than there is for women, because I know, because I used to coach men back in the day, and men need a lot of help on their own because they're getting just as much bad programming as women are. As women are being told they need to be a boss, babe, an independent, strong woman. Don't ever rely on a man. You know, don't be vulnerable with men like they need to, they need to, you know, they need to serve you, basically, and they need to just let you be the strong one. And, and ultimately, women and men are unfulfilled by that because it's bad programming and it's, it's. It's from a broken culture and a sick culture, really, a spiritually sick culture that is putting that onto men and women to go against their natural essences. As men have a natural essence of a masculine core, women have a natural essence of a feminine core inside, deep inside. And to deny that is. And to work against that ultimately is just going to cause more pain and suffering because it's like a. It's like a car engine that has sand in it or it's like pushing a rock up the hill rather than letting it roll down the hill where it naturally wants to go. You know, there's a saying that water tends to seek its level. Well, water wants to go to its level. It wants to go back to the ocean. It's not natural for water to be held in a cup when it wants to go. It wants to go down into the river and into the flowing stream. That's like, that's. That's. That's what it means to be with your essence. Now you're. Now it's like you're flowing down the river rather than struggling up the river and trying to fight. And like, no, I. But I'm a strong boss, babe. I want to. I want to have men respect me, and I want to be. I want to be the strong one, and I want to be in charge. It's like you're swimming up the river and then men are doing the same thing when they're like, oh, no. But I want to be. I want to be more vulnerable and I want to be more emotional, and I want to. I want to. I want to just, you know, I want to just follow other people, and I want to just do what the other people tell me to do. But it doesn't feel natural to them at their core, because they're meant to be a leader. Just like in a dance, they're meant to be the leader. They're meant to be strong. They're meant to be a protector, provider, hero for those in their life. And if they're fighting against that, they're ultimately going to be depressed and unhappy, and both people will be. So at the end of the day, it's not complicated. It's about connecting to your essence. Feminine energy, the feminine core that's already within you and that you will activate masculine energy, masculine core around you. Men will want to love and adore you and devote themselves to you, but we're just teaching you all the ways to do that. All the ways, the nuances that will help you get to that place, that will help the water get back to its level, that'll help you to flow down the stream in a beautiful, beautiful boat, beautiful yacht, or your little floaty with the pina colada drink, and you're going to be in the sun and enjoying yourself rather than feeling like you have to constantly fight. And why are relationships so hard? Because here's the thing. Once you're connected to your feminine core, life can become simple, fun, and easy. And I just want you to think about that for a while. What would that look like? What would that feel like to you? If your dating was simple, fun and easy? If your love life as a whole was simple, fun and easy? If relationships could be simple, fun and easy rather than hard, complex, and grueling. Nobody wants that. Nobody Wants doesn't have to be that way. When you're connected to your feminine core, it can 100% be simple, fun and easy for you to have the relationship that you want and just to be in a relationship. It can be fun and easy. And men are just taking care of you. Your man is. And eventually it'll become second nature to you because it is your nature. We're just helping you to get back to that and take some practice because it's like you're learning a new dance. It's like you're learning a new language because there's so much programming, so much you haven't learned around this that we have to teach you that language. So then eventually, once you've learned the steps, once you've learned the phraseology, it's natural to you. It's like you can just enjoy the dance now. You don't have to think about it. You just follow his lead and you share your heart naturally. And you communicate your desires and ask for help naturally. And you're vulnerable and, and permissive and respectable. Respectful, naturally. And then he just wants to cherish and adore you and love you and lead you and protect you and be your hero and solve your problems and make you happy and give you pleasure and plan things and communicate with you frequently and do all the things that you've always wanted him to do because now you're in your core and you're activating him into his core, which is going to feel amazing to him and you're both going to be happier. Now you're in the upward spiral in a relationship rather than the downward spiral someone else asked. Question why do men pursue women planning dates, etc. Even though they are stretching themselves thin? Overly busy with a very demanding schedule, but does actively plan dates, etc. But a lot of time passes in between the dates. So why do men pursue women planning even though they are stretching themselves thin so they're overly busy? Well, it's probably because he really likes you. It's probably because he, he. He feels attraction to you, which is great. He wants to have a relationship with you, but he may be, he may be being unrealistic with himself of what he's actually capable of giving you. So he's maybe realizing he wants to be in a relationship with you or he wants to have you in his life, but that he's not capable of it for some reason because of his work potentially, or family obligations or financial situation that he's in. He feels like he can't be that fully for you right now. But he. He's still trying. And it's not good. Because if a man can't really give you what you need, he should communicate that to you sooner rather than later. He should be clear with you. I can't. I can't. I can't give you what you need right now. I can't make you happy. I wish I could. I really care for you, but I can't. And I want you to know that. And that could be a tough situation because you don't want to hear that. That doesn't feel good to have a man say, I can't give you what you need. But actually it's a gift. It is actually a gift for you if a man is being authentic around that, if he's not lying to you or basically just being nice when it's actually because he's not really interested in you, or he doesn't really have enough care for you, or the polarity's off. But if he's authentic with you that he actually can't give you what you need because of his other obligations, that's a gift for you. That's a good thing. Because then you're not going to waste your time continuing to hope for a man to change when he can't, because he just can't, for whatever reason. And maybe he'll change later on, maybe he'll shift things in his schedule later on to be fully available for you. But in the meantime, you don't want to be sitting around wasting your life hoping and praying that things are going to change when they don't. In the meanwhile, high quality men are drifting past you and going in and out of your life potentially, and you're not able to really give them a full shot because you're still attracted to them and holding on to this hope from this other guy who just can't really give you anything that you need because he's a broken man or because he's just not capable of it. So it's actually a gift for you to break free of those situations, even though it feels painful in the moment. And maybe he'll come back around later. But that's why we teach and we preach the law of detachment. Because when you can detach from things that are not serving you in your life and when you can especially detach from outcomes, that's moving you to feminine energy because you can't control the outcome anyways. You don't want to try to control the outcome because that's going to push you into masculine Energy that's going to push you into trying to lead him, trying to change him, trying to guide him and control him. And then you're going to be going against your essence, and you're going to be ultimately unhappy with that anyways, because you're like, I'm the one having to do all the work here. I'm giving everything to him. I'm trying to move things forward myself, and I'm not getting anything back in return. And now I'm feeling like the man in the relationship. He feels like the woman in the relationship. He's just passive and just enjoying, you know, our hookups or my. My benefits that I'm giving him. But nothing's really coming back to me, and I feel ultimately unfulfilled by that. So we don't want to be caught in a situation like that either. So you want to practice detaching from the outcome, committing to the process, which is who you're becoming, refocusing your energy on yourself like you're doing here, Investing into yourself, really mastering your own heart, your own feminine energy, your feminine communication. And now things will start coming to you naturally, because now you become the flame to the moths, the flower to the honeybees, the sun to the planets, and you don't have to fight anymore for a man that doesn't want you or can't be with you. And that's a tough situation to be in. You don't want to be fighting for something that's not fighting for you. All right, I hope that was helpful. The next question we have here is Karen said, thank you so much. I would like to learn more. Great, Karen. Well, glad you're in the right place and excited to help you more with that. And Tia said, I just divorced a broken man after 35 years of marriage, and I'm starting new relationships, and I want to do it right. Well, again, you're in the right place, Tia. Let's start the foundation from the right place. Understanding fundamental principles of masculine feminine energy. How men are wired differently than women in their cores, in their DNA, and how you're wired differently so that you can actually understand what creates attraction, what creates love, what creates polarity. And you can do it right from the beginning this time, rather than having to learn it the hard way, as you likely did in your marriage, which, sorry to hear that, that's never fun. That when a relationship comes to an end and a marriage comes to an end, especially. But you can use that situation as a learning experience. The gold nuggets of where polarity may have gone off, where you may have moved into your masculine energy, where you may have potentially become disrespectful towards him, not allowing him to be your hero, not calling him into being your hero and letting him give to you, or if you're perhaps mothering him or treating him like a child, or doing things for him, or giving, giving, giving rather than receiving or controlling the outcome too much, being too attached to the outcome, all these things can cause relationships to go off the rails. And so now you can look back and learn those lessons, especially with the awareness you're getting here so that you can realize what went wrong, how you can do it better moving forward and attracting a high value masculine man who will take care of your feminine heart and your feminine core because he wants to and because he gets his sense of purpose from that. So we got you on the track for that now here, and let's keep building on that, Tia And I'm excited for you with that. And Joyce said, amen. Amen. Amen, Brody. Hallelujah. Let's all say hallelujah for that. All right, Rebecca said, if me and I and my guy I'm seeing were really chatty yesterday on the phone and texting initiated by him, do I now reach out today or let him reach out again? It really depends on what you want, Rebecca, because if you're a high value woman, a high value woman operates from her desire. What does she actually want? She's focusing on herself. She's not operating from a place of, oh, what should I do to make him like me? Or what should I do so I don't lose him? Or trying to manage his perception of her, or operating from a place of guilt or shame, but more from a place of your core desire. That's your feminine core. Right? Like, what do you actually want to do? Do you want to text him again? Do you want to have a phone call with him? And if you do now, the key is, okay, great, beautiful, you want to talk to him again, well, then you can ask for that. With feminine communication, you can do it respectfully. So we teach you a couple of tools, some guidelines on how to communicate with men effectively to, to get what you want and to have them want to give it to you. Not that you're trying to pull it from them, but they want to give it to you. And then you can, you can do. You can do that. And so as long as you're not operating in masculine energy and trying to control him or trying to lead him or manage his perceptions of you, or giving to him and trying to make him happy, or if you're overly focused on him rather than yourself, if you're overly focused on his desires rather than your own desires, you're in masculine energy. So we want to shift that and get you back into feminine energy. And then it's really up to you. If you're truly in feminine energy and you're detached from the outcome and you're taking care of yourself and you have, you're creating a life that you enjoy, that you're also filling up your own cup. Self care is such a big piece of feminine energy because again, it's, it's bringing the energy back to yourself. You're investing in yourself just like what you're doing here. You're learning, you're, you're, you're practicing new principles. You are making sure your health is taken care of, your living situation, you're surrounding yourself with people, communities, environments that lift you up rather than pull you down. So that's a big part of self care. When you're operating in that place though overall, where you're in your feminine energy, you could essentially, you can talk to a man whenever you want, you can stay as an open book whenever you want, and you can ask for what you want. You can ask for a phone call and you can say that right now. Can I ask you, we could talk tonight. I would love to hear from you again, for example. Or how's your, May I ask how your day is going so far? I'd love to. I'm curious. Yeah. Just simply that may ask how your day is going so far. You can say something like that too. Are you having fun? You know, so you can say something. You can add some fluff with a lot of these things I give you, you can add a little bit of fluff, like, hey, I hope you're having a great day and things are going well and with the, with your doggie. Can I ask if we can have a call tonight when, Whenever you're free. I'd love to reconnect with you. So there's ways you can add some fluff and make it soft and gentle if you want to, but you could also be more quote, unquote, direct as long as you're respectful in asking for what you want. Which is where we teach you asking permission and permissives is a great way to soften things. So you're not telling him what to do. You're saying, can I ask what time it is? Or may I, may I know what time it is? Rather than saying, tell me what time it is or give that to me or do this. That's telling a man what to do. You want to be respectful. You want to ask him for his gifts because he doesn't owe you his gifts. He doesn't owe you anything. He's his own man. He's free to make his own choices. He has free will, choice, as do you. So he's not your slave. But you can still ask him respectfully for things that you want. And likely he's going to want to give you those desires of your heart, especially because of the way you ask and because of who you're being in that moment and in your feminine. Because, remember, feminine energy is about being masculine. Energy is about doing so, really, you're just being open, you're being vulnerable, you're being respectful. You're being in your feminine core. You're being your unique self in that feminine core, having fun, enjoying yourself and just expressing your desires when they come up. So it's really up to you at that point, Rebecca. But if anytime you're feeling unhappy about something or you're also feeling negative emotions come up, you can also share that with them, too. Ask them for help with those things, as long as it's shared respectfully and vulnerably is the key. And so, yeah, so those were some great questions here. And let's see what else we have here. She said, the thing is, he normally doesn't initiate. He did yesterday and it was awesome. So now I feel good and want to talk to him again. Just wondering if I should give space. Now, the other thing, Rebecca, is men do sometimes need space. And so if you feel that you want to give them space, that's generally fine too, of course, because men need time to go in their bear cave as well. And typically they're getting more drained than you are by having long conversations and emotional talk and connection. In that way, they'll need some time to kind of replenish their own tank out in nature or just by themselves. And they're home playing some video games or watching a show or browsing YouTube or whatever it might be. So you can give him some space. But that's where it's also key. You'll naturally be giving a man space if you're also giving yourself space, meaning you're making time for yourself. You're doing things for yourself that you love and enjoy and that take care of you and that nurture you. That's very important to remember so that you're naturally not needing to talk to him 24 7. Because there's a lot of things that he can do for you, but there's a lot of things also you should do for yourself. Like he can't sleep for you, he can't make you eat, he can't breathe for you. So there's a lot of things you need to do for yourself to take care of yourself and make sure you're meeting your own needs in other ways. And then there's some things of course he can give to you. A lot of things he can still give to you as well and make you happy. Give him, give you his attention, his care, his love, his provision, his problem solving abilities, his leadership. All those things he can give to you as well to make you happy. So you gotta, it's gonna, it's important to know that balance as well. So you're not just codependent with him. Like you do want to be dependent on him to some extent because that's how he's going to feel valued. Like he knows that you, you, you desire not, I wouldn't even use that word, dependent. But there are things that you really quote unquote need from him. Like you need his masculine care and love and protection, that you desire that so much and that it's almost a need, even though it's not really a need. But, but he does want to feel needed by you. He does want to feel that you really value him and appreciate and admire him and that there are things a lot of you need while you also are able to take care of those basic things for yourself too. So it is not full on codependency. All right, so Deanna said, what are some safe websites to find a gentleman? Please advice. How about I create a website called safegentleman.com and you'll be able to go on the website and we will only find filter men in there who can give us their full dating history and their full criminal background. And we're going to do psychoanalysis analysis of them and we're also going to train them. So we're going to have them come to our courses and our classes and we're going to train them how to be safe gentlemen. So make a note, women. You heard ladies, you heard it here first. Safegentleman.com I'm going to create it someday. Maybe. We'll see. But until we do, yes, where's a good site to find those safe gentlemen? You know what I would say, Deanna, the deeper question here is how can you attract safe gentlemen regardless if you meet them? Online or in person. And that's using a lot of the principles we're teaching you here. So if you are, for one, valuing yourself, you're listening to your own feelings, you're trusting your instincts, and with men you are. So you're in your feminine, basically. You're in your feminine and you're high value in that you're respectful, you're vulnerable, you ask men for help, you ask for care and you speak up about things. You're not just throwing things under the rug because you don't want to rock the boat, you don't want to make him unhappy. So if you're speaking up, you're being vulnerable and respectful. You're going and you're in your feminine fully. You're going to attract healthy masculine men into your life. Cause that's the law of polarity. Remember, the law of polarity states feminine energy attracts masculine energy. And also high value feminine energy attracts high value masculine energy. Which means if you're a high value feminine woman, which means you're using everything that we're gonna teach you in our courses and our training and our coaching and what you're learning here, you're going to attract more and more. And the more you are, the more you're going to attract high value masculine men into your life because they're going to be drawn to you. Just like the bees to the honey or the bees to the flowers, because not bees make honey. I don't like that saying, it's stupid. Bees make honey. Bees are attracted to flowers, they're attracted to your nectar. So your nectar is attracting him. And, and the more we can make that pure nectar and beautiful fragrant nectar, that more he's going to be even more attracted to it and more high quality men are going to be attracted to it. But then you're the filter, you're the gatekeeper. And you get to say which kind of men you also want to keep dating and you want to keep allowing into your life. And so that's what we have these courses that we have and the training that we have here is to help you to attract high, high value men who will protect you and will make you safe and will care for your heart and want to make you happy. Now the caveat here is of course there's broken men out there. And so when you use what we teach you, you're also going to be revealing what kind of man you're dealing with. Very quickly it'll become apparent because the healthy masculine men are going to start showing care for Your heart, you're going to share your heart, which is the only way you're going to know if they're going to show care for your heart and they're going to want to help you with your heart. They're going to want to make things better, they're going to want to make your heart happy. And if it's a broken man or a not safe man, you're going to share your heart with that kind of man. And he's going to close up, or he's going to argue with you, or he's going to make it all about himself, or he's going to blame you for your feelings or criticize you for your feelings. Like we have a whole training that we did about how to identify a broken man. But those are some of the things you will start to notice and you'll pick up from him. And then you could, of course, trust your intuition as well. Sometimes your intuition will tell you before he even is uncaring towards you or is not showing care for your heart. And then, then to be able to set boundaries with yourself and remove yourself from those situations or those men, that's important as well. And that's a huge component of holding your value as a woman is being willing to walk away. Being willing to walk away from bad men, bad situations, or just things that don't serve you. So you need to be able to do that as well. And you're going to attract more and more men into your life that will be safe with you and who will treat you safely. And now the other component, of course, Diana, if you're just going on websites, there are a lot of scammers out there and you got to be aware of that as well. And I know that's maybe part of your question here, how to avoid scammers and whatnot. So I may make a training on that at some point too. But for now, I would say, yeah, actually take our Magnetic feminine online dating course and start sharing your heart and getting on phone calls with men, asking them for phone calls. And that way you will be able to use magnetic feminine communication and identify that they're real men and that they're showing care of your heart sooner before you go on a date with them. So there's a filtering process. And ideally you're also having zoom calls rather than just phone calls. You're having FaceTime or Zoom because that's harder for them to fake potentially with AI tools and different things. So you want to have real phone calls and real voice and video calls. If you can to identify these men and then you'll, you'll be more likely to not be continuing to message bad men or scammers or whatever it might be. And you'll actually then filter them out and have high quality men only coming into your life. But remember to balance it out with your social life as well. It's very important as a woman that you're cultivating a good social life, that you're going out to events and activities and groups and things with friends and family going on meetup.com to find events in activities in your area or Facebook events or Eventbrite or Google dance classes, other classes, things you can do, hiking groups. That's important part also that will allow you to be meeting men offline and so you're not just relying on online dating and who knows, you only need to meet one man. You only need to meet one man. So allow him to come in and all these different ways can be a great, great decision on your part and very important. So hope that was helpful. Diane Deanna and then Ann has a good question here. Interesting question. She said, do you think a man can verbally deny his love for you, especially if he is self conscious about his, the age gap between you and he wants the best for you? Can he verbally deny his love for you? Of course, a man can verbally do anything and most men will. Most men can just say whatever they think you want to hear. So you got to watch out for that too. You got to look for his actions. And remember, the more masculine a man is, the more he's going to show you his love with his actions, not just his words. So yeah, he can definitely deny his love for you even though he may feel love for you. He can do a lot of things. So I guess your question may be does he really love me even though he says he doesn't love me? And yeah, that's possible. But if he, if a man is saying he doesn't love you, then you have to follow his lead on that really. I mean you want to follow his leadership and he's saying basically like I don't love you even if he does really like you have to look to his actions and his actions are saying he's not showing care for your heart. And so I wouldn't, I wouldn't waste a lot of time with a man like that. Now the caveat I would give you here is because you may not have all the tools before that you're learning here and that we teach and the advanced tools and coaching that we give in our memberships and our coaching programs as well. I would highly recommend taking our magnetic feminine 90 day challenge, like doing the challenge in our groups. And that will potentially shift him a lot because he may just be feeling concerned about the age gap. Like you're saying, maybe there's some tough conversations that you both need to navigate together for him to feel really fully on board, to feel activated in his masculine, to want to make you happy. Because regardless of that, if he feels that polarity is there, he feels attraction to you and devotion to you. Even if there's a huge age gap for whatever way it is going, or there's other potential issues like children are involved or family situation doesn't work for him, or maybe you're not aligned fully with religious beliefs or beliefs or political stuff like that. Those. There can be issues, there can be issues to navigate. But if you're able to have conversations around that, you're able to share your heart, to allow him to empathize and if he has a lot of care for you, typically a man will figure it out. If he's in his masculine, he really cares for you and there's strong polarity. He will figure it out. He will solve the problem. And whether that's him just coming to a decision that it's gonna. It's not a problem for him that he's okay with the age difference, or maybe he'll get some support from a friend or talk to some people about it or read some books or watch some videos, or he'll find other ways that he'll make it work in the relationship. And again, this is just an example of a problem. But that's masculine energy. Masculine energy is about solving problems. Feminine energy is about sharing problems. So by you sharing the problem, which is your feelings around it, and having a magnetic feminine conversation and doing this over a period of time in different ways and ideally getting coaching support that will help you with on how to do that and what to say with him and how to respond when he says different things and things come up. You can shift the relationship. You can get it into an upward spiral where he starts showing that care and devotion for you. And you guys can both have a great relationship potentially. But we have to give it that time and we have to give it that process so you can, you can get there. So hope that was helpful. And Reno said, great to catch you. Live. Glad you're here. Live Reno. Reneo. Glad to have you on. And Rebecca said yes, said, I think I'm thinking too much into It. Yeah. So again, masculine energy. Well, I didn't say that really, this. This training. But masculine energy is about being in your head. It's about thinking, logic, solving problems, strategy, planning. And so if you're up here thinking about your man, you're masculine in two ways, really. You're thinking about him, which is external focus, and wondering what he's thinking, what he wants. That's masculine. External focus is masculine. Internal focus is focusing on yourself and what do you think and what do you want? And then moving from your head into your heart and your body. So getting out of. Well, what do I think I should say next? And what's the right thing to do? And is this okay, Moving into your heart, your feminine, and asking yourself this question, how do I feel about it? That'll help you get out of your head into your heart. What emotions am I feeling right now? What do I feel like I want to do? What feels good to me? What would be fun? How can I enjoy myself in this moment? Those are great questions to get you into your body. Sometimes you can even ask more direct questions, like, what am I feeling in my body right now? Do I feel my feet on the ground? Maybe take some breaths, do some exercise, go on a walk, take a bath, take a shower. Something to get you out of your head and into your body so you can get back into your feminine energy and then operate from that place. From that place. What feels right to you, what do you want to do? And trying not to operate from old patterns and anxieties. But if you are feeling anxiety in your body, perhaps that's something you can share with him when you have a phone call next. Or you can share that over text if he's not wanting to have a phone call. Or if you guys are already talking about something like that and you can use our scripts that we have to help you with that. But whatever you're feeling in your body, really, that can become something you can share with him and create a good connection. And then JJ said, I love that. Detach from the outcome. Focus on the process. I recently retat. Retracted my. Re retracted my request for him to let me know by a certain deadline if he was open to the idea of marriage. He was shocked. Yeah, well, that could be. That could be helpful. And again, it's not about. You're not sacrificing your own desires or needs because you want to stay open about your feelings. You can detach from the outcome but still have feelings, and you can still communicate your feelings and be open about them without it having to have a certain result where he now has to act a certain way or do something specific because he may not right away, especially when he's learning how to step into his masculine energy through your 90 day challenge and your 90 day process by you being in your feminine energy that he'll start to learn as well how to show care for you. But he may need some time to really learn that and to also build that devotion for you. And then he's going to start giving you what you want on his own without you having to set an ultimatum or set a deadline or tell him what to do. He's just going to naturally want to do it because he's feeling that connection to your heart and he knows your feelings around it and he wants to make you happy. So that's what you said. He knows what I want. I'm leaving it up to him to step up. But I don't want to wait indefinitely. Yeah. So I would still also set a. Set a debt, set a. So you can set a deadline for yourself. I would not set a deadline with him. I would not say, okay, this is the deadline. By this date you need to have married me or else I'm out. But you can set a deadline with yourself. You don't even need to tell him about it, but you can set a deadline with yourself, which is if things haven't progressed dramatically in the next 30 days or 60 days or 90 days, whatever that deadline is, which is really a big part of our 90 day challenge, then I'm going to have to step away from this relationship because it's not. He's not able to give me the needs that I really have, that he's not able to show care from my heart in the need, the ways that I need and this relationship isn't serving me. Now, of course, the way you can communicate that to him is through sharing your feelings consistently about if there are other problems in the relationship or feelings that you're having, you can still be open with him about those in the process detach from the outcome. But ultimately you observe his behaviors, you can still observe him and you can observe the relationship. And if it's not working for you at that point, then you can step away. And you probably should step away. Because if a man isn't showing care for your heart on a deep level, and if you're not fulfilled by the relationship on a significant way and there's not improvements at least and a trajectory upwards, then you should likely step away from that relationship, assuming that you're using everything we're teaching you. And you've gotten the advanced trainings as well. You really know what you're doing and you're not still operating from masculine energy, but you really are in your full feminine energy. Then I would say that's why we have our 90 day challenge, because then you can walk away with your head held high knowing you gave it your all. You really invested everything you can into the relationship to make it work. And then he just wasn't capable of it. And then he should know exactly why. At that point, he will know because you've shared your feelings along the journey and it just wasn't the right fit. But hopefully it won't get to that point and you'll actually have a great relationship with him. All right, I'm just seeing if there's anything else logistical in the chat here. These are great tips, Brody. Thank you. You're welcome. Jj, glad that's helpful. Courtney said really love the examples of what would offend women. Makes it more relatable. Yeah, you're welcome, Courtney. Glad you like that. And yeah, I think those were most of the questions I can get into for today, so hope this was helpful. Much love. Again, if you want to take this to the next level, get our 90 day challenge, our advanced principles, our coaching, even my personal training for you, my suggestions, my coaching on how to get the relationship of your dreams and really the life of your dreams, living from your core, personalized for your specific situation. Take our free quiz. That's where it all starts going to our website, magnetizeyourman.com or you can click the link in the description or comments below this video to get access to that now as well. Would highly recommend so much love. Take care. Hope you have a great rest of the day. Sending you so much love and that you're attracting an incredible relationship. We're here for you. I'm here for you. I believe in you. I'm proud of you for being on this journey and I really am hopeful for your heart that it's going to be feeling fully loved and adored the way it deserves because. Yeah, because you're alive. Because you're a human. Really, you don't need a reason for that other than you have a beautiful feminine core inside of you since the moment you're born. And now it's time to have it fully cherished the way it needs to be. That's what's going to light you up as a woman. So I'm here for you to help you with that. So much love. Take care and I'll talk to you again very soon. Bye. Bye.