If He Does These 7 Things, NEVER Let Him Go (Most Women Miss #4)

So here you are, treating his red text message receipts like evidence at a crime scene. Your Honor, I have here proof that the defendant was active on WhatsApp at exactly 11:49pm but he did not acknowledge the goodnight text I sent him at exactly 8:43pm There may be a high chance that you're so busy looking for red and yellow flags with your man that you're missing the green ones. And today, I'm about to show you exactly what to look for. And here's a fair warning. Half of you may hate me for this. I'm Brody Boyd with Magnetize youe man. And for over 20 years, combined with my wife, Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful women to attract loving, committed relationships without wasting years on emotionally unavailable men. So let's dive in. Number one, he wants to lead and be your hero. A real man doesn't need you to tell him what restaurant to pick, remind him when to text you, or give him a roadmap for how to love you. He puts in the effort on his own. And here's the part that's going to annoy some women. If you're constantly mothering him, you are not dating him. Instead, you accidentally adopted an adult son, and shockingly, he doesn't want to sleep with his mommy. Remember, the masculine hunts, the feminine gathers and attracts. When Auntie and I go on weekend trips, she typically lets me plan everything. I'll literally sometimes just start driving without knowing exactly where we're going and see where we end up. She follows my lead, and you know what that does? It makes me want to lead her even better and give her the best weekend adventure possible. Ephesians 5:33 says, Husband, husbands, love your wives. Wives, respect your husbands. That respect looks like trust. When you trust his leadership, you activate his desire to protect and provide for you. If he naturally takes charge without needing you to be his life coach, keep him number two. He calls you babe, not boss. If your man calls you dude, bro, or chief, you're in the friend zone wearing a dress. Masculine titles like boss, king, hero, those are what you call him to show respect. Feminine pet names sound like baby, beautiful, sweetheart. Those are what he calls you to show adoration. And here's why this matters. Masculine energy. Wearing a skirt is still masculine energy. If you're being a boss, babe, he's treating you like a boss, not a woman. We teach the advanced version of this in our magnetic feminine courses using honorifics. But here's the basic test. Does his language make you feel feminine or does it make you feel like you're just another one of the guys, another one of the bros? Number three. He asks you how you feel, not just how you think. When you're upset, does he say, what do you think we should do? Or does he say, how are you feeling? There's a huge difference. What do you think is masculine energy, logic, problem solving. The head. How do you feel? Invites your feminine energy, emotions, the heart, your superpower as a woman. If he's regularly asking you how you feel and holding space for your emotions and wants to help you without getting defensive or shutting down, he understands polarity. That's rare, and you should probably keep him. Number four is that he doesn't punish you for having emotions. So your emotions are like the weather. Sunny, stormy, rainy, constantly changing, flowing. A mature, masculine man gets this. And when you're crying or angry or anxious, he doesn't withdraw. He doesn't stonewall. He doesn't make you wrong for how you're feeling. Instead, he holds space for you like a metal fence where the wind just passes through. Early on in our marriage, Auntie and I would do what we called expression sessions. So one of us would lie on the bed and scream into a pillow, get it all out, get it all out, get it all out. And I remember once we were driving, actually we were on a trip, and she was triggered about something. So what I ended up doing is pulling over the car. I got out of the car and I told her, scream it out. Just scream it out. You know, windows closed. So she didn't freak anyone else, scream it out. And she did that. And afterwards, she was released, she was calm, she felt much better. And therefore I also felt much better. That's not being weak. That's called being a container for her feminine expression. Now, I'm not talking about disrespect. If you're criticizing him, blaming him, attacking him, that's not feminine communication. That's just being rude. That's destructive release instead of constructive release. So if you're sharing, I feel sad or I feel anxious. And he could receive that without collapsing or getting defensive. That's a great sign, by the way. We. We teach women in our coaching programs exactly how to share their emotions and navigate tough situations without pushing a man away. It's all about the preparation and the specific delivery you use when you do it. Sign number five is he invests into you before you give him everything. Here's what a lot of women get wrong. You think if you give a man everything, sex, cooking, cleaning, caretaking, he'll suddenly value you. But that's wrong. Investment actually creates the value, not the other way around. Think about it this way. If a man invests his hard earned money into a rental property that he purchases, he ends up investing more in continuing his investment after he owns it. Because he values it. And the more he invests, the more he values it. But here you are, being out there, giving away Costco free samples, hoping that he'll buy the whole 12 pack. You're auditioning for wife when he hasn't even cast you as girlfriend yet. Stephanie, one of our clients, let her man invest first. She received his efforts to. She lit up when he gave to her. He ended up proposing to her within months and they're happily married now. The masculine gives, the feminine receives. But you have to inspire him to give to you. You can't force it from him. If your man is investing time, effort, resources in you first before expecting anything back in return, he already sees you as high value. Number six. He doesn't need you to be his mommy. Here's the blunt truth. Mommy energy kills attraction. Period. If you're doing his laundry, managing his schedule, reminding him about appointments, nagging him about his responsibilities, you're his mommy, not his lover. And you can't be both with him at the same time. You have to pick one. Men don't find caretakers sexy, unless maybe if you're wearing your French maid outfit while you're doing it. So when you're in mommy mode, you've taken the masculine role. You're leading, providing, protecting, which means he has to take the feminine role, and that kills polarity and, and that kills attraction. Proverbs 31 talks about the virtuous woman. It says her husband trusts her. She's not managing him, she's supporting his leadership while being excellent in her own domain. If your man handles his own life without needing you to parent him and he actually wants to take care of you instead, that's a sweet spot. And that's a great sign. Number seven. He'd rather risk losing you than controlling you in a toxic way. So this example is from my own wedding vows with Antia. When we got married, instead of saying, with this ring I do thee wed, we said, with this ring I set you free. We built the foundation of our marriage on freedom. Not on control. Not on manipulation, not on fear. On freedom. See, most relationships are built on fear. Fear of losing the other person, fear of being alone, fear of being manipulated, fear of being controlled, guilt tripped, punished. But 1 Corinthians 13 says love does not insist on its own way. Real love gives freedom. One of our clients has four kids. She thought no man would want to be with her. But her man ended up proposing to her. He knelt down and said to her, I wish you could know how much I love you. And I want you to know that you're always going to be safe with me. Safety. He used the word safe. Not controlled, not caged in. Safe. If your man also gives you freedom to be yourself, express yourself, and loves you because he chooses to every day, not because he has to, that's a man you never want to let go of. Look, if you're still watching right now, that shows me that you are really committed to having the best life and best relationship that you can possibly have and showing up for yourself like you did here. So here's what I want to do for the women who stuck around. Get access to our Magnetize youe Man Love quiz. It'll give you your personalized roadmap to get the relationship you want and apply some of the top principles that you've learned here today. You can go to our website, magnetizeyourman.com or click the link in the description or comments below to get that. Now. Thank you so much for being here. Much love, and I'll see you again very soon.