If He Doesn't VALUE You Watch THIS Now

Every day is pleasure, pleasure, pleasure. So what happens is the brain starts to seek pleasure rather than peace. And when men or women, when they meet someone peaceful, they label it as boring. And they're always seeking somebody who gives them some form of pleasure or dopamine. And the best person that gives you dopamine is a toxic attachment. What happens with a toxic attachment is you get preoccupied with that person. You're thinking about them, where are they, why, when they called blah, blah. And then. And that toxic attachment, they mislabel that as love. And it's just preoccupation, so they forget to look for peace.

It's so true. We used to call this attraction anxiety, where you're feeling attraction for someone because you're actually also feeling anxiety. And really what's happening is you're feeling the anxiety because they're not really giving you what you want. They're pulling away. They're an avoidant, attachment style, et cetera. And then you're mis. Ascribing in your brain that that anxiety is actually attraction. It's. It's actually love, this connection that can happen that you start pursuing somebody who's actually pulling away from you, who's not giving you what you want, in the hopes that if you can just pursue them enough that they're going to give you finally everything that you were hoping that you were going to get from them. And then you can heal all the relationships that you had with your parents, the love that you didn't get as a child. And so one fix for that is like, what she's talking about here is to actually train yourself to be okay with peace, to be okay with a relationship where you don't feel anxious, where it feels like it's just calm. And it's like, what's going on? Is something wrong? I need to feel anxious. Well, what if it's actually okay? What if it's beautiful for you to feel calm, peaceful, relaxed in your feminine, in the relationship and have the man chasing and pursuing you and being in his masculine.

Ladies, listen the up. I'm gonna tell you the truth. If a fucking man really wants you, he'll call you, he'll text you, he'll make a fucking effort to see you. He'll spend time with you. No man is too fucking busy not to see you and make effort. A man will treat you exactly how he fucking feels about you. So if he's not giving you that time or he's not making that effort, he doesn't fucking love. Or I want you wake up if.

You want to know if a man is truly devotional to you. You have to look to his actions and look to his effort. If you're the one always having to constantly initiate, call him, do things for him, make things happen, plan, give to him, obviously, the polarity has been reversed. You are in the masculine role, he is in the feminine, passive role, or he simply does not have care for your heart. So you need to be allowing yourself to accept and receive a man's attention. And if you're not getting that, like in the video here, you have to be willing to walk away and be the queen to hold yourself to a higher value that you accept and deserve so much more than that.

Yeah, I know. Oh, my God. I didn't tell you. I saw the sexiest guy at the grocery store the other day. Oh, my gosh. He was, like, so, like, perfect for me. So beautiful physically. Just like everything I've ever wanted. I was like, there you are. That's my man that I will love. I will marry you. And it was so crazy because it was like I would go down the cereal aisle, and then he would go down the cereal aisle, of course, you know, and it was like I would be, like, checking out the eggs, and, like, he would just be coincidentally checking out the eggs. He kept, like, looking over at me, but I was, like, playing hard to get. So hardcore. I was like, I'm sorry, I don't see you. I'm sorry, I don't see you. No, I was like, I could feel him looking, and I would, like, look away. I was like, I can't be bothered. And it was working so well because I went to go check out self checkout, and we were checking out right beside each other. I was like, okay, fate. I see you. I see you. I hear you.

Understood.

This is the love of my life. Got Was so crazy.

Okay, so did you talk to him?

Did you get his number? Well, no, I couldn't because I. I was playing hard to get.

Oh.

So, yeah. So then you just. You just. You just left and you didn't ever talk to him. Yeah.

This video is so great because this is a concept we talk about often in our coaching memberships, about being Ms. Too Cool for school is what I call it, where you're trying to be hard to get. You're trying to be aloof. You don't want him to see that you're interested, which is actually avoiding being vulnerable and actually having a man feel your open heart, your femininity, your vulnerability. So you pretend you're looking away you're not engaging, you're not even. Even making eye contact like she said. Even like making a smile because it feels too vulnerable, right? Or there's a fear of rejection, there's a fear of getting hurt again. There's deeper fears that can be coming.

Up always one person you want to get attached more than anyone else. You can get over this by changing all of your contact names so they're the same as that person's. This desensitizes your brain to the visual cue of getting attacks from them until eventually you don't care anymore and you aren't waiting for it. It also helps you maintain friendships you might otherwise neglect because you have to all the people in your life to figure out who it is.

If you're desperately waiting for a man to text you back, then this is the perfect strategy for you. Now, actually, what's going to be most effective is for you to use some of our magnetic feminine activities. We have a whole list, actually, that we teach around what to do when you're waiting for a man to get back to you or he hasn't been reaching out so that you can manage your anxiety and do fun social activities such as going to a dance class, going out in nature, hanging out with girlfriends, and that fill you up, that help you to build your social life where it also presents you with opportunities to meet new people and potentially even meet new men that may even be a better fit than this man who's breadcrumbing you or not giving you what you truly desire. And ultimately, you need to share your feelings with him if he's consistently not getting back to you and not reaching out to you, not communicating in a way that you need. You need to use magnetic feminine communication and get him to actually feel your heart, feel your emotions, and start stepping up.

So let me get this straight. Men used to go to war and send letters written on paper from Vietnam and World War II in France. Letters. Yet he can't reply to your text.

Message.

Because he's busy.

You know, he's just gets so busy and you know, he's just got stuff going on from war. They sent a letter on pigeon back. He can't type a message. The bar is so low that I can't. I can't even see it. Like, I don't even have to step over it. I just have to glide over it. It's so low.

Now the key here, like I mentioned, is you have to share your feelings and communicate your standards, your desires, openly and vulnerably in a respectful way so that he knows what you need and what you want as far as communication goes. And if he's still not giving you that, if he's still not reaching out and consistently messaging you, you need to be the queen and be willing to set a boundary with yourself and walk away or at least detach from the situation. He could always come back. He can always start pursuing you again and build his case on why you should take him back if you even want to at that point.

The happiest women are the silent women.

Yep.

Their pages are private on social media. You know, they're. They're literally not out and about in the comments.

Nope.

They're not creating blogs. They're literally happy living their lives. So you don't ever hear them, you don't ever see them, you.

Because they don't exist.

Exactly. There's a lot of truth here as well. Social media can be a drain because you can constantly be comparing yourself to other people. Other women be insecure, be looking at who's the guy that you're interested in following, who's he liking, who's he hanging out with this week I've had clients before that are like following guys stories and getting really insecure when they see them out with other friends, especially if there's a female friend and like what's the real situation there? And it takes away your peace. So that's what they're saying here in this video is oftentimes the happiest women are the women that are not even getting involved in that game. Maybe they're checking social media occasionally, but they're bringing the energy back to themselves. You're the queen, you are the prize, you are the gift. You don't need to be looking at what other people are doing. You don't need to be comparing yourself to other women. If he's not ultimately giving you what you need, you're going to speak up about that. You're going to communicate properly. And if he's consistently not giving you what you need, you're going to be willing to move on as well.

How are you supposed to move on from your person when you know that they're your person and for whatever reason you can't be together? But how are you supposed to just make that decision and just be with someone else when you don't want to be with anyone else? You know, like, it's just really difficult.

If they don't know that they are your person, they are not your person. They need to be the one to decide and claim you. If they haven't done that, then they've clearly shown they aren't your person. And so if you're caught in a situation where you feel like you're having to convince a man, you're having to convince a guy to give you what you need, you're obviously not in a healthy situation, in a situation that's going to lead you to ultimately having what you want. So, unfortunately, it's going to be painful, but ultimately, you have to look at, is this person choosing me? And. And if not, I'm going to choose myself. I'm going to live my life, move forward, and if they come around and do choose me, that's always a possibility. But by that point, I probably already found something much better.