Ladies, STOP Doing These 5 Things for Men! [ They’ll Lose Love For You ]

Ladies, stop doing these five things for men because they will lose love for you. I'm excited. Today, me and my lovely wife, Antia, we're going to be presenting to you the secrets around what makes a man pull away, what makes him fall out of love for you, what makes him want to leave a relationship, and how you can understand male psychology to instead draw a man towards you, have him fall deeply in love, and never want to leave your side and. And have the best relationship you could possibly imagine. So, hello, we are Antia. That's Antia and Brody Boyd, and we are love experts with Magnetize youe Man. Welcome. Do you want to say hello, Antia?

Hello, everyone. Super excited to be here. And look, we've been doing this for 20 years combined. Can you. Can you believe it, puppy?

Yeah, it's been a long time. We've spoken on hundreds of stages all over the world. Of course, we have a beautiful family. And this is really our life's work to really bring these teachings to the world to help women to create more loving relationships in the world because of these transformational secrets, because the law of polarity, we only need to help you. And by helping you, you will naturally attract everything you desire from a man. So we're going to go ahead and dive into those five secrets today, and I'll let my wife kick us off here with point number five.

And I love it. It's about stop abandoning yourself for a man. Look, one thing I always tell my women when they come to me is, and when they have abandonment issues, when they have a man who abandoned them, when did the men. When did you start abandoning? Right. You know, the quality of men that you attract into your life is directly proportional to the relationship you have to yourself. Right. Contrary to popular belief, which is the way how you treat other people is how you're going to be treated, which is actually not true.

Yeah. So when you. Typically what happens is when a woman is afraid of being abandoned, she ends up abandoning herself rather than risking losing to risking losing the man. She loses herself in the relationship because she's so afraid of rocking that boat and saying something that might offend him or might him, might cause him to lose interest or pull away or leave. So she puts that all aside, at least temporarily, shoves it under the rug, pretends everything's good. And then what ends up happening is, of course, she starts to build some resentment. She starts to have needs that are going unmet and that starts to eventually start coming out of the rug and into the relationship, and it causes Chaos, it causes issues and the relationship will end up ending anyways and she gets exactly what she feared, which is being abandoned.

So for example, I grew up in an emotionally unavailable household. And because of that, of course I had amandment issues because when I had, you know, when I needed actually achievement, emotional attunement, like a parent validating my emotions. Oh, you feel sad right now or you feel angry right now, of course you have all the right to feel this way. You know, I was of course told, like, who do you think you are? Or do you think you had a better, you have a better childhood than I did, right? So, you know, my mom, for example, was compare. Comparing her horrible childhood to mine, which sometimes parents who have a narcissistic. Narcissistic traits can do, right? And I said, well, why should you have a better now? As a consequence of that, I think I found myself walking on eggshells like Bodhi already alluded to. And I was, you know, people pleasing, right? I was like thinking, well, how can I be the best girlfriend and the best date that I can be to a man? And not speaking up, right? Not saying, well, I noticed that he was not really pulling the chair up. I noticed he wasn't really offering to pay for both of us, right? Or I noticed he wasn't asking me what, what I want to eat or drink or anything like that. I noticed that he was interrupting me a lot in the conversation, right? But I'm not going to say anything, right? Because I want to be liked. And so how with you abandon yourself, it's like you actually think, okay, this is not right, right? Like he just interrupted me and I actually feel disrespected, right? I actually feel, you know, not safe, right? Because I actually don't feel seen, I actually don't feel heard, I actually don't feel listened to, but I'm not going to say that. So that's already where you abandon yourself, right? And then I think, okay, but I get the approval from the man because the men's not going to say, oh, I had such a wonderful date with aunt here, like, I'm going to have another date with her. But you know what the man is actually going to say. And Brody can probably allude to that a little bit more. Well, I don't know. He's like, no, let me think about it, right? You know, know she's cute and very good conversation, but let me think about it, right? And it's because he just kind of feels like something's kind of off, right? Like it's something. There's some lack of transparency, authenticity. I can't put my finger on it. And therefore, the confused mind says no. But I'm sure, Puffy, you have a little bit more to say about that.

No, I think you covered it. So let's actually get to our next piece here, which is to stop trying to save him. So if you have a man who you feel you want to help him, you want to give to him, you want to make him happy, because secretly you're hoping that he's going to love you more, he's going to like you more, he's never going to want to leave you. Well, that is another example of where your good intentions ends up typically backfiring in your face because of the law of polarity, which states that masculine energy attracts feminine, feminine energy. If you're trying to save him, he has no space to save you. You are in the masculine role. You are being his hero. You are being his provider. You are being, quote, unquote, the man by trying to save him, by trying to make him happy, by trying to fix his issues. So in order to solve that, you have to stop. Stop the madness, and you have to stop digging a hole. If you find yourself in a hole, the first. First thing to do is stop digging, stop making it worse. So stop trying to save him. Stop trying to fix him. And by stopping, you're creating space, you're creating an opening, just like that hole analogy. Now you're no longer digging the hole. Well, now you could actually climb out of the hole. And now he could actually start filling up the hole, and he could say, like, hey, now, let's stop this. Let's. Let me actually build a house for you. Let me build a garden for you. Let's put this. Let's create a foundation in this hole. Let's build a house together. Let's build a great life together. Let's build. Because you stopped doing it, you stopped the madness, and now there's going to be somebody that has to step in. I also love the analogy. When you're driving a car, there could only be one driver at a time. If you're the one in the driver's seat, you need to get out. You need to pull the car to the side, go inside Starbucks and get your drink, and then come back and sit in the backseat of the car. And now the only option that's left is either you're going to just sit there, or he's going to have to get in the front seat and start driving you and Start taking care of you and leading the relationship forward from his healthy, masculine energy. So don't get caught in these complexes that can happen where you feel that in order for you to have the relationship you want, you have to be the fixer. You have to find men who are damaged or broken, and then you have to build them up, fix them up, change them, and that's how you feel. You're going to be loved finally, and you're going to have the relationship that lasts. Because who would want to ever leave you if you gave so much to them? Well, that's not how it works. You giving is killing the attraction. It's killing the polarity. He needs to give to you. He needs to save you. He needs to be your knight in shining armor. So that's what we have to create by getting you into your feminine energy.

Yeah. And, you know, and to add on to what Brody shared, Right. You know, where is this actually coming from? So if you take, for example, my life experience where I could literally not save my mom, you know, she was suffering a lot, and she was, you know, more like a covert narcissist, meaning she had covert narcissistic traits, meaning like she was collapsing more into the victim archetype. And because of that, I was constantly trying to save her, you know, trying to save her from her suffering, you know, or from having migraine every other weekend, you name it. Now, because of course, I couldn't do that because I don't have the resources for that. And this is something that. That a woman has to work through and actually heal from, that she can't heal the person. Like, she actually needs to let the hope die that the parent is going to change, right? But because I didn't do that, like, guess what? I projected the helplessness, the powerlessness onto the man. Because another thing you're going to do is, like, if somebody needs saving, then you're actually saying the man is helpless, right? The man is powerless. So you're actually communicating in that helpless and powerless part inside of him. And then, guess what? You magnify more of it. Why is that? Well, because we're actually stepping into the unconscious expectation of our partner, right? Our partner becomes our environment, and our environment trumps willpower. So even if a man says, you know, I'm powerful, but if I have a partner who constantly speaks into my powerlessness, then I have no choice than to either, when I stay with her, to continue to act from a powerless and helpless place, you know, and so. And then you build resentment, right? And so the only way how you can actually stop that is saying, well, guess what, you know what? I actually need to save myself, right? You know, and that's like the hardest thing. It's like why women get stuck with men who have like drug addictions, you know, like, you know, alcoholics, things like that, right? Is because there's so much like in that collapsed lover energy, right? Like the Brie talks a lot about the shadow lover energy, right? Because the woman is trying, enables him, you know, by saying, oh, let me help you and I'm going to fix the problem for you, right? Which is saying, you know what, I'm going to save myself. I'm saving my own little girl inside of myself, right? We have like different energies inside of ourselves and one is the little girl and you get to save yourself, right? But I can't save you, you know, and that's a grief that then the woman has to go through, you know, of course, with support of an expert.

Yes. And so before we get to our next point, if you haven't yet and you really want to take this to the next level and understand the principles of magnetic feminine polarity, magnetic feminine communication fully, we highly recommend taking our free love quiz to get a loving, long term, committed relationship with a man you want fast by clicking the link in the description below. Or you can go to the comments and or go to our bio, wherever you're watching this at, or to our website magnetizeyourman.com right now to pick that up for free as our gift to you. All right, so let's get to the next point here. And also if you have any questions or comments on anything that we're sharing here, go ahead and start posting them because we're going to be answering some questions and comments to help you with your specific situation as well as we continue on this journey tonight. So the next point, point number three is to stop making excuses for him. And so what this is all about is understanding that it's very easy to tell yourself a story about your relationship that justifies the situation that you're in. So we as humans, we tend to act on emotion and we justify with logic. So if you really like this guy and you really care about him, you love him, you're attached to him, probably because you've already slept together. Unfortunately that creates a lot of biological bonding that happens with that, then you're going to be much more likely to start justifying it to yourself and making up logical reasons of why he's a good man, why it's a good Fit why this is a good relationship. Even when your girlfriends, your family, other people may be telling you, look, this isn't a good situation, this guy isn't really caring about you. He's not really showing you the love and affection you desire and deserve. And then those stories will come up. Well, you know, but he's making changes and he's working on himself and, you know, he's going through a hard time, and his dog just got diagnosed with diabetes, and he's trying to understand why his childhood was the way it was. So he's. He's doing all these things or not doing all these things, or things are going on and you're just making up stories. And these stories could be true or they could be not true. Likely a lot of them are not true because the emotional wiring is what's actually compelling you to keep being in the relationship with him. So the way out of that is to, first off recognize that you may be telling yourself these stories and see them as stories that they're made up. You don't know what his true intentions are. You don't know what's going on. All you know, you could really go off of is the facts. The facts of his actions and his words. And really his actions are key. What is he actually doing? How does he treat you? How often is he checking in with you? What action steps has he taken? Is he leading? Is he planning? Is he committing to you? Those are real actions that show his love for you. And by the way, a more masculine man is not going to show his love typically as much through his words as his actions. Like, if he's a real healthy masculine man, he's going to be showing you he loves you through his actions by showing up for you, by protecting you, by checking in with you, by solving problems for you, by wanting to be the leader in the relationship and making those decisions and making your lives great together. So those are real actions. And so you want to catch yourself and avoid getting caught in excuses and stories and letting yourself slip into becoming a doormat potentially and not getting real help with this. And that's why it is so important to work with an expert, because they can help unlock what are the stories here versus the facts and what can we actually do to get the relationship you want with him.

This goes a little bit back to the codependent pattern, right, and that I was falling into as well. And so, you know, like, we really want to adopt more a pattern of, you know, so what now? What? Because look what. Guess what? I bet with you anything that you don't give yourself excuses, right? Why is that? Well, because you're holding yourself accountable. You, you know, you're saying like, you know what, like, the kids need to be fed, you know, I need to get going. Yes, I had, you know, sexual abuse. Yes, I had, you know, a drug addicted ex husband. Right? But the show must go on. So it's interesting that then, like, why don't you hold the man accountable to the same standard, right? And I can tell you why that is. Because you learned in your childhood to say, well, I'm not holding my parents accountable, right? So we always have two parts in the relationship to our parents, right? We have the compassionate part that's saying, look, they didn't have the resources that didn't have that level of consciousness. They had an abuse of childhood while you didn't, by the way. Right? And then there's the other part that's like, well, we don't want to blame them, right? But that's actually what you need to heal that. You need to find that part inside of yourself to also hold the other person accountable, right? And again, you're already holding yourself accountable, right? You're, you're cutting, you don't cut yourself some slack. You know, if you would like, you would be actually much more compassionate to yourself and you would not be here, you know, and so you would actually stop making excuses for him. But just to add on to what Brody said, it's really saying you're anticipating his reality way more than your own. You know, when women come to me and I was like the same way, right? I knew everything about the man. You. I knew like what was going on with his aunt, and I knew what happened in his childhood. And I knew what his ex, you know, life, what I was like, and how many kids he has and what prompts they have. And, and then I say, wait a minute, what about yourself? Like, what prompts do you have? You know what I mean? What are you dealing with that you're overcoming every day? But that's what women don't focus on. So again, it's really like learning to focus on yourself.

That is exactly our next point. So look at that number two, stop focusing on him rather than yourself. Because here's the thing. Masculine energy is about outer focus. It's about problems, the world, protection. What threats do I have to look out for? What opportunities do I look out for? And how can I get the outcome that I want? That's masculine energy. Feminine energy is about inward focus. Feminine feeling into yourself. How Am I feeling right now? What do I want? What do I want to do today? Am I, am I feeling into my body? Do I feel my feet on the ground? Am I feeling my breath? And all the inner stories and thoughts and feelings that you are having about yourself, that's the feminine energy. So similar to the way our anatomies are designed as men, our genitalia are outer focus. Women's genitalia are inner focused, right? Receptivity versus penetration. So you want to adopt a feminine energy if you want to attract a masculine love and care and devotion. So that means stop focusing on him, stop thinking about what he wants, stop thinking about if he likes you or not. Instead, focus on yourself. How are you feeling? What do you want? What are your needs? And then how can you communicate that to him? Opening your heart to him to let him have a glimpse. Similar to a flower opening its petals, being readily available for the honeybees to come and get some nectar. You are like that, exposing that vulnerability within yourself that a man can then feel you, he can understand you and then he is coming to you, he's wanting to help you. And that's where feminine communication comes into play. Because if you don't understand feminine communication in the way that we teach it with our clients and our coaching memberships, you're going to have a hard time being able to properly bridge the gap between you and him. Men are wired differently. Men aren't as emotionally wired as you are. Men are typically more outer focused than you are if they're in their healthy masculine. And so for them to fully empathize with you and understand, they're going to need a clear bridge where you can show that to them without them feeling penetrated, attacked, blamed, emasculated judge, etc. Like you're trying to control them or lead them. So it's a delicate balance with feminine energy and with feminine polarity and communication to have that channel open up where a man is like, yes, I understand her, I get it, I feel for her and I want to help her, I want to make her feel good. Because if he has any level of care for you, his new mission becomes how can I make my woman feel happy? How can I make her feel good? Because that's how I know I'm doing a good job as a man. If he's a healthy man and not a broken man. Do you have any, anything to share with that Antia?

Well, and of course the origin of that comes from again, you know, when you had a childhood where you, that you didn't get the attention necessary, right? Like particular in a second developmental stage, getting your needs met consistently, right? So you cry for milk, you cry for attention, you actually get it. But to actually being communicated, you know, again, you know, I'm more important. I don't have time for you, or the world doesn't have time for you, right? It is what it is, you know, and you really learn. Or maybe you had a parent who was a caretaking case early on, maybe got sick, you know, maybe you had siphon so many siblings that your parents could focus on you. I mean, there's many different reasons, right? Of course. Emotional unavailability in parents as well. And so you feel like, okay, you know what if I make my parents happy, then maybe at least someone will be happy, right? So you really say, like, you know what? Like my parents are God, you know, so I must be doing something wrong, so my parents are upset at me. But if my parents are depressed or my parent is sad, then that must be my fault, you see, because like, little kids that totally overestimate the influence and impact that they have on their parents. Emotional, quote, unquote, well, being in the world, right? And so why is that? Well, because the child needs to convince herself that she has the power to change it, because that gives her the will to survive. That gives her the will, and she stays motivated to take action, right? Otherwise she would just end up in depression and apathy, right? Like, what's the point? You know what I mean? And so of course that's like really, really unsafe for a child. And so therefore she needs to convince herself I can do something about it, you know? And that means I become of the focus. I just save everyone. I help everyone. I become the helper, which is my I such a pet peeve about that. So if you're a parent, make sure you don't train your child to be like the little helper. And unless she wants to be, or he wants to be, right? But to not train that person to be other focused, right? Or, you know, you have to be kind, you know, and you have to, like, let other people overstep your boundaries, right? Because you don't want to offend anyone and so on and so on. So the programming just goes on and preschool, kindergarten and elementary school and so on, right? But instead you actually want to break through that mold, that programming and actually say, you know what? Like, I'm willing to be called selfish, you know, I'm willing to be called inconsiderate.

Right?

Right. I'm willing to be called Ruthless. Because it's important to me to be true to myself because then I'm going to attract that same in reflection to myself.

Yeah, totally. And so before we get to our next point that we have here, I want to remind you, if you have any questions or comments that you would like to get support with today, go ahead and post them in the comments right now. And we will be answering a few questions after this so you can get some help with your situation. So make sure to do that now so you'll be in line to get some of those when we open it up to get some of that support. All right, so the number one way to the thing to stop doing for a man or else you risk losing his love is obviously to stop giving him money. And you'd be surprised how often this comes to our plate as coaches and the women coming to us who need help when we hear all crazy kinds of crazy stories of women paying for guys rent and trips and dinners and all kinds of things. Because again, goes back to the principles of she's trying to earn his love, she's focused on him, she's trying to manipulate him, she's trying to get things from him. So she's doing this as a way of providing for him, hoping that he's going to love her. And actually the opposite ends up being true. Yes, he might appreciate it in the moment as a, as like a little boy, thank you, mommy. Thank you for paying my rent. I appreciate it. This is amazing. But he's not feeling love and devotion, deep love, passion and devotion for his mommy or for someone who's being his protector and provider. That's a different kind of affection. That's if anything, him just falling more into his feminine energy actually and starting to now fear and respect you, but not love and adore you. Because you are in the masculine role, you're in the masculine energy. So as with giving, you have to stop it. Even if a man is asking you to give him some money or give him something, you have to feel into yourself first and see if that actually feels good to you or not. And then even beyond that, you have to look at the overall relationship dynamic and say to your seat for yourself, overall, are you giving more to him or is he giving more to you? And if you're giving more to him, you need to stop it right now because that's going to continue the dynamic. It's going to continue the polarity and the passion diminishing and eliminating. And that's your only hope, to actually have him come back to you and have a relationship that works with a healthy, polarized dynamic where he's in his healthy masculine energy, you're in your healthy feminine energy. You both feel passion and love and devotion for each other, but especially him for you. The only way you're going to get there is you first have to stop the menace and stop doing these things for him. And then you can start to encourage him and inspire him to do these things for you, to actually give you money. Attract wealth and abundance from men from the world, because you can attract a lot of wealth and abundance by using the principles that we teach you. Connecting to your feminine energy because it's naturally magnetic. It's magnetic to men, it's magnetic to people, and it's magnetic to intangible energies like money and like wealth. You are the flower. You are attracting the honeybees, you are the flame. You are attracting the moths. You are the planet. You are having the. You are the sun. You're having the planets orbit around you because of your feminine core, because of the beauty of that. Just like a amazing, beautiful, cute little kitten is naturally magnetizing people who want to take care of it and want to love it and want to get it, all kinds of things, because it's just so adorable. It's just so cute. It's so precious. You want a man to think of your heart as precious. You want a man to think of you as adorable because that means he's adoring you, he's cherishing you. That's what you want. And so you have to take off the armor. You have to take off the I'm an independent boss babe, and I got it all handled. And I can take care of myself and I can pay for myself and I could even do this for you. He doesn't want that. Not a healthy masculine man. Yeah, a broken man may appreciate that, but he's not going to respect you for that. He's not going to really adore you for that. He's going to say thank you. And I'm going to go spend time with this other woman who I can actually be of service to her. And I could be the hero for her because that feels better to me from my masculine core. Because every man has a masculine core deep inside. Do you have any thoughts on that?

Yeah. Because a man will not measure you based on what you can do for him. And I think, you know, the unconscious programming here is again. Right. Like, I'm not worthy until I give. Right. And so when women are, like, really good, when they have a Very strong work ethic. They can still make a lot of money. That doesn't mean that they have healed their insecurities and their worthiness unconsciously. Right. You know, and I know that's like contrary to other beliefs that are out there, but brilliant. Have you seen so many women who have tons of insecurities and are super, super abundant, Right? Because guess what? How they play out insecurities is that take all the money that they have and use it as a tool. You know, the tool is again, to get the approval, you know, so you have to really see, like, what do you do with the money and then the other pieces. The woman can't hold the money, right. Because she feels like as soon as she has the money, she needs to give it away. You know, I see that with women a lot, like out of the suddenness, like a family member also who, you know, you know, benefits from her having all this money because. Why is that? Well, because she's very weak boundaries. Right. She doesn't want to be considered rude. You know, she doesn't want to be considered selfish. And again, it's that lack of shadow work that she. That she's like going through. Right? So, yeah, it's really. And we've heard stories. I mean, women changing their will, taking their own kids out of the will, writing over houses. And so that's why we had to really address this, because this is so serious, you guys. I mean, Bo and I've heard so many cases, you. You can't even make this up.

We should write a book about it as, like a warning. Like, every woman when she turns 18 will get this warning book. It says, like, listen to these stories and don't do these things ever. Yeah, because we'll have a lot more happy relationships if that were the case, which is what we're trying to do here. So share this video with some girlfriends so that they can avoid the future pain that may be coming if they're on the wrong track with all this. So now we're going to start answering some questions. So again, if you have questions on anything we mentioned or for your dating and a situation, a situation with a man, go ahead and post it in the chat right now. We'll answer a couple of them and see how many we can get through before we wrap this up for tonight. So Beatrice said, thank you so much for the update. You're welcome, Beatrice. Glad it's helping. Sadie said, claiming harmonious twin flame union in Jesus name. Yes, Amen for that. We'll support you. That Sadie. God made you a promise that is true. You will get the desires of your heart. And then Lisa said, you make a lot of sense, Brody. I've been enjoying your videos and appreciate what you do. Keep up the good work. Glad you're enjoying that, Lisa. Great to hear. She said, also your analogies are spot on. And Susie said, appreciate all your knowledge. I wish I learned a lot sooner. Life changing. Thank you, Susie. Glad it helps. And Bushi said, thanks a million. God bless. All right, so now we're getting to our first question here. So Lisa said, how important is it to most men that a woman has achieved some sort of career success? Granted, everyone is different, but in your opinion in general. So here's what I'd say about that, Lisa, and then like to hear your opinion on it as well. Nike, which is what I call her. So men typically don't care about your career success. A healthy masculine man, I'll say, does not care about your career success. What's more important to them is are you, can they feel your heart? Can they feel you? Can they sense that you value yourself, that you're taking care of yourself at some basic level? So rather than like you're some high achieving career woman, a man will value that you can at least take care of yourself to some level, that you're that he doesn't need to spoon feed you or he doesn't need to force you to go to sleep on time and things like that. But there's some things that a man can do for you and there's other things you need to do for yourself. So if you're single, it's good as a basic practice to at least be able to support yourself in some fashion in our modern age. And now, however, beyond that, a man doesn't really care. And there's this story, this analogy that goes around that's kind of funny money. But they've done studies where men.