Men Are Hardwired for THIS – Use It to Win His Heart

This inspires his masculine devotion. We're going to be going into some clips today and some special examples for how to activate a man's protector instinct, his provider instinct, his hero instinct. To want to make you happy and to want to make you his woman long term, whether or not he's already pulling away, losing interest or not committing. This will help shift him. I'm Brody Boyd with Magnetize your man. And for over 20 years, combined with my wife Antia, we've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world get a loving, long term, committed relationship. So let's start diving in. I have some clips here and I want to show you the first one now. Okay, so the idea of this clip, it's a woman coming out. She's seeing different examples of women behaving like men behaving from their masculine. So they are rowing. Let's add this examples here we have a woman rowing her man. Look at him, she's giving him the princess treatment right here. Rowing him around the lake. Then we have. What's the other one we got here? Carrying the bags up the hill, no less. And she's even got some muscles, probably from. From doing all the work for them both. We have this other one here. What do we got? Carrying her man. Carrying him to the bedroom and he's like, oh, oh, don't you know? Take me, take me, my darling. It's like the opposite of that scene from Gone with the Wind where he says, oh, man, I gotta pull up that scene as well. Let me see if I can get it. When he just finally takes her up to the bedroom and has his way with her and. Yeah, I love that saying. Also from the, from that movie. You need kissing and you need kissing badly. And by someone who knows how. Let me see here. Rhett Butler, Gone with the Wind, bedroom scene, no stair scene. Let me see if I can find it real quick. He carries her up the stairs. Okay, I might have to share my screen real quick. Okay, here we go. Let's watch this. This is going to be a fun show today. So I'll share this. Hopefully everybody can see it. It's not that easy, Scarlet. You turned me out.

Ronnie Chase, Ashley Wilks when he dreamed of Ashley Wils.

This is one night you're not turning me on. To have his way. I punish her, quote unquote. And then I love this scene afterwards. Watch purring like a kitten. That's how. That's the feminine energy right there. That's the, the feminine essence after being claimed by a masculine man. Purring in bed. Yeah. So classic right there. All right, so anyways, where we're going with this is, are you catering to the man? Are you providing him? So we're gonna. We're gonna put this here as our tip. Avoid masculine behaviors and instead get the princess treatment. So stop rowing the boat for him, stop carrying the luggage, stop opening the doors for him if you're doing any of these things. Paying for the dates, fixing problems for him, solving things around the house, being the strong one or his mommy or his therapist or his nurse or his doctor or his tax preparer or his accountant or chiropractic. There's so many different ways that you could potentially be giving to him, and we want to reverse that so that you can be the princess instead of him. There was a post that I saw on Facebook about a woman who was saying, you know, man, I should pull it up if I could find it. So men. Men need the princess treatment, too. Sometimes it's okay to draw your man a bath and to give him champagne and flowers and things like that. And, yeah, it's okay if you want to reverse polarity and you want to have him being the princess and you becoming the. The hero, I guess. The. The man, the king helping the princess to enjoy and relax into their feminine. So, yeah, of course, this means being caring and kind to your man. You can still be gentle, which is what we teach with feminine polarity. But it doesn't mean that you are trying to meet his needs and making him happy all the time and trying to take care of him so that he likes you and he loves you, which ends up destroying polarity. And you end up in a situation where the guy's pulling away or he's cheating on you or he's dumping you or breaking up. And of course, none of these things are okay, especially the. The cheating piece. But we see that this can happen for men and women when they're in a relationship that's depolarized and they feel like they need to connect to that masculine core elsewhere, that feminine core elsewhere, rather than in your relationship with your man. So I'm just going to see if I could pull up that post real quick. I don't think I still have it. Princess treatment. I have to find where that ended up. Yeah, I'll share that in another video sometime because it's going to take me a while to find it, but yeah. So the basic idea is you have to first stop the masculine behavior, and instead you can move to a different energy where you can attract him Treating you like a princess, which means using all the things we'll teach you here around feminine polarity and magnetic feminine communication to open your heart, be vulnerable, make requests, allow him to solve problems for you, ask him for help, let him be that night shining armor for you. He'll feel good about it, you appreciate him. And now he'll feel great being the one carrying the luggage or carrying you to the bedroom or rowing the boat for you, or making you dinner or paying for expensive experiences and dates, et cetera. That's what you want to activate, and that's what we're helping you to get here. The next principle is to activate his provider instincts. So I'm going to show you another clip here to model what that can look like. Oh. Oh. His provider instincts. Yeah. Here we go. Where do you want it? I know a lot of people think that I'm attracted to Jay because of his money, that they're wrong. I'm attracted to him because he's sexy and he's never been sexier than today. The suit, the carrying of the boxes. No, no, you listen to me. You've had my wife's car four days. Figure out what that screeching noise is or you'll be making one yourself. They're yelling on the phone. Give me that. Really? So much drilling. So this is a. A funny, extreme example of. It can be a little bit. But of a man providing. Right? He's solving the problem. He's making things happen around the house. He's getting it done, even if he's not doing it in the most gentle way. But masculine energy isn't necessarily about being gentle and graceful and soft about how you get things done. That's more of the feminine approach. Right. But he's handling it for her. He's making it happen, even if he has to beat some people up or make them screech like the. The. What was it? The pipes? The car? Yeah, the car was making the screeching noise. So that's what it looks like when a man is wanting to provide for a woman. Right? He's handling it. He's making things happen around the house, around in their life in different scenarios where she doesn't have to handle it. She doesn't have to do it for him. Like the other example we just looked at. He wants to handle it because it feels good to him. It feels like now he has a mission, he has a purpose. He has someone to actually provide for, to give to and to allow to be taken care of and happy. And him getting appreciated for that. Her being turned on by that potentially, maybe even he's being turned on by it because he's in his masculine full capacity. He's in his masculine power in a way, when he's handling things like that and getting it done and solving the problem, which is a huge key of masculine instinct, masculine energy. So you want to activate that in his, in your man. And the way you can do that is by allowing him to handle those things and even asking for him respectfully to solve some of those problems. Babe, would it be okay if you could help me with the car screeching? I don't know what to do. And it's making this noise and it's driving me crazy. Could you help me or. Honey, I noticed the door is falling off the hinges upstairs. Could you please drill it? And then afterwards, could you. Could you drill me? I was going to say, if you're in that stage of a relationship, so you're asking for what you want, you're asking for what your desires are. You're putting it out there, and. And then he will do those things for you. We've had clients who are even very expressive about how much they get turned on by a man fixing things around the house. And there was even a plumber that she was single and that she would contact frequently to have him fix things in her house, because it really turned her on and she was attracted to him. And so there's a basic instinct that's activated within a man and a woman. When a man is providing in this way and he's helping make her life easier, he's helping make her happy, and he's making it so that she can relax into her feminine. And no, she doesn't have to worry about the logistics. She doesn't have to worry about whether the bills are getting paid or the house is going to fall apart, the roof is coming off, like he's going to want to fix it. He may not handle it immediately when you ask for it, but he will get it done. Otherwise, he's not showing care for your heart, and that needs to change, which means you need to use magnetic feminine communication and share your feelings and emotions about it vulnerably. Allow him to understand the problem, give it up to him, and let him then do what he's going to do. You want to be detached from the outcome, but you can look at it and you can observe what he does and how he behaves after you've made your request. And if he's not shifting, if you use everything we teach You. And he's not shifting over 30, 60, 90 days into his healthy masculine to do behaviors like this. I'll show the video again to do behaviors like this one in particular. Let's see. Okay. Carrying the. Carrying the boxes we got. Carrying the boxes we got. What's the other one? Yeah, berating the mechanic and we've got drilling the thing himself. So, yeah, if he's not doing those things, then he's not showing care for your heart. And. And that's probably, unfortunately either a broken man or a man that simply doesn't have enough care for you. And you need to respectfully walk away from that situation because he's not going to be able to meet your needs. He's not giving you the desires of your heart. And that's not a relationship you want to stay in long term. But likely, when you use what we teach you, he will shift over time and he will start showing more care, love and devotion for you like what we're talking about in this video. All right, so the next principle here is to activate his protector instincts. So let's start this off also with an example from a video here. One day you ever change your heart that you don't love my daughter anymore, but please don't just bring her back to me. Give it back to me, okay? It's not gonna happen. Yeah, okay.

My precious Daugh.

Nice. Yeah, so this is a beautiful clip here. So for those. If you couldn't read it, he said, if one day you ever change your heart and you don't love my daughter anymore, please don't hurt her. Just bring her back to me and keep. And give her back to me. Okay? My precious daughter is yours. So, yeah, it's a beautiful clip. And the reason I wanted to show it to you is because that is an example of what it looks like when a man has devotion for you, when he cares about you. Yes, this was an example of a man with his daughter. But the same instincts are activated for a man with his children and with anybody he deeply loves, that he is having his sense of protection fully on board where he wants to make sure nobody hurts you. Nothing comes between your happiness and your heart. And so he will take action. He will make preparation. He will do what he can to prevent that. And the reason why a man will often feel these instincts for a woman is because he cares about her heart. He's given to her. He sees her as precious. He sees her as his. He's fully claimed her. He's taken responsibility for her, and he's Getting his sense of purpose and meaning in his life by knowing that she's healthy and happy. So just like this father with his daughter, that's what you can activate within a man as well. And that's why you often see fathers being very protective about who their daughters are dating. And when they do have that transfer through marriage, with that beautiful ritual of the father walking the daughter down the aisle, giving her to her new man, her new protector, her new provider and hero, that there's something really beautiful about that transfer. It's a transfer of responsibility, it's a transfer of care, it's a transfer of love, it's a transfer of devotion. And so fathers want to make sure that their daughter, Daughters are in good hands and that they're in the hands of a man who will devote, who will claim her, who will be responsible for her happiness and their relationship as much as possible. And so you want to look for that. And you can activate that within your man by letting him take that role first and foremost, letting him be your protector, asking him for protection, asking him for help, being vulnerable with him, showing him that softer side of you that needs help, that needs a man in her life, that wants to have a man in her life and desires that and share with him some of the fears you may be having, some of the anxieties, some of the things that bring you bliss and joy so that he can understand your heart more, he can feel your heart more and want to protect it, want to invest into it and continue that. So these are instincts that can be activated within every man, because every man does have a hero instinct, a protector instinct inside, in his masculine core. Now, the only caveat for this is if he's a broken man. There are some broken men out there that have such deep trauma, such deep wounds or mental, emotional, physical disabilities that they're incapable of showing real care and devotion for your heart, which we talked about in our last livestream here. All the signs to look for if your man is broken. But ultimately what we're looking for is, is he showing care for your heart or is he not showing care for your. And if he is showing care for your heart over time, that's good. Continue to date him. And if he's not, that's a sign that you probably want to start using what we teach you and get our coaching, support and learn magnetic feminine polarity, magnetic feminine communication on a deep level so that we can shift him to start showing care for your heart over time, because he often needs to learn the steps as well. Learn the new language of being in his healthy masculine energy. So we give it a period of time with our magnetic feminine 90 day challenge. And it could also be 60 days. If it's a newer man, it could even be 30 days. But we want to give it a period of time, ideally so that he can learn to shift. As long as he's not making you feel physically unsafe or emotionally unsafe in a deep way, then you should just get out right away. But you can typically give him a period of time to really use these principles. Make sure you're in your healthy feminine being, respectful, vulnerable, and all the other principles will teach you in the techniques. And if he's not shifting, then you need to walk away. But likely he will, and likely you will have an amazing, incredible relationship. So that brings us to the next principle here, which is learn feminine etiquette and make him value you. This is another way to inspire his masculine devotion. So I found a interesting video to share with you as well about etiquette. Etiquette in the old times. Etiquette in dating and relationships. So let's go ahead and watch that.

Right now requires budgeting of time and it is much more pleasant if you call on time and are ready when called for. If the man of the hour is not acquainted with your parents, then introductions are of course in order. A few pleasant words before setting out will put you at ease and make things more gracious. One of the young lady's parents or a close family friend should be present whenever she leaves on a date. Take good care of her young man. This means not only big things like driving safely and getting her home at the reasonable hour set, but also little things like opening doors and many other small courtesies that our lady's due. The same principle and consideration for the young lady applies if you are going on the streetcar to the library or out on a very special occasion, Whether it be punch from a crystal bowl or hot dogs at a hayride. The gentleman is responsible for getting refreshments. And it is the young lady's responsibility to be gracious in all her actions to help in keeping up conversation so that everyone is at ease when she goes to the cloakroom. Don't tarry with the stag line. Be nearby to escort her when she comes out. Carry your manners with you at all times. Make them part of you.

All right, so hopefully this was opening some of your eyes, some of your mind, your eyes, your heart to what could be possible. This is again old time chivalry etiquette from the male side and the women's side, how to treat each other with respect basically and create polarity. You know, there's a lot of ancient wisdom and old time wisdom that has been lost through the ages and we're trying to bring some of that back in a healthy way so that you can be owning your feminine in a healthy way and he can be owning his masculine in a healthy way. You're activating his protector instincts, you're activating his provider instincts and his care for you. When you do a lot of these behaviors that you are being the queen, you are being respectful, you're also still being vulnerable, you're allowing him to lead, you're allowing him to provide for you. So let's go through a couple of these tips here. So the first one was it's important to arrive on time for a date. Woman and man be on time for a date. That's just a basic courtesy, basic respect, of course. And then we have the introduction with the parents and we have leaving the house, he's gonna making promises to bring her back on time, safe and sound. Opening the car door, of course, opening doors. It's a easy masculine win to allow a woman to feel that sense of protection over her and she's getting to receive that graciously. He's driving, of course, he's in charge of that, he's leading, he's taking the direction, he's planning the date probably he made the whole plans for this. They're going to the party, he's bringing her drinks, he's providing her food, water, refreshments, whatever she needs. If she's cold, he's bringing her a jacket, Etc, she's receiving that graciously. So they talked about here. He's literally giving to her, which is masculine energy. She's receiving and she's smiling, being gracious with him, talking with him, enjoying his company, enjoying herself. This is a good one. Going to the bathroom, he's waiting there to receive her so he can walk her back safely back to the seat. Or at least so she doesn't feel like she's having to go by herself. And then of course the dance, the traditional masculine feminine energy is on full display here with the dancing. The men leading women, following, receiving, enjoying romance is building, attraction is building, love and devotion is building. And then we have courtship, we have old time courtship. So just to think about that and feel about that for yourself, what if you were to bring back some of this old time grace? You know, there's a great movie called the Age of Adeline and It's a fun movie because the woman in the story, she was like born in the 20s or something. She grew up in the 20s or 30s and then she had an accident. And the accident, basically she got struck by lightning. And what happened was it changed her DNA in some way and she was, she stopped aging. So she stayed at the same age as she was, but she maintained a lot of the same personalities. I can't remember actually if she stayed the same age or she was somehow frozen in time and then she was planted in modern times. But anyways, you see how she brought in that movie. She brings out some of this feminine old time values of etiquette and grace and composure and self, also self respect in a lot of ways. Knowing that she deserves a princess treatment, that she deserves the chivalry from men, that they pay for things. They plan the dates. She gets to receive and appreciate them and acknowledge them and admire them and respect them for doing that. And then they just want to do it more, they want to give more to her, they want to be more respectful, more chivalrous and make her just feel really good. So she understood this from her upbringing and she was able to bring it into modern times. And then the guy was like, wow, this is really different. She's like a very different woman than I'm used to and I like it and I really want her and I value her. And. But then she was very mysterious because she didn't really want him to know that she was actually had this, this disorder where she wasn't aging and she was actually. She's actually over 100 years old even though she looks like she's in her 30s. So it's, it was an interesting idea and concept for a movie, but I'd recommend watching that and just starting to think about this, thinking about what it would be like to live that way, where you know that's what you deserve. You know that men will respect you and value in that way because of who you're being and because of your behavior and owning your feminine value. So highly recommend just feeling into that, meditating on it and then starting to practice it with a lot of that. We teach you in our courses, in our coaching, how to actually implement some of these principles of old time etiquette, but in a modern way that drives men crazy and makes them value you like more than anything else in their life because of who you're being and you're connected to your feminine core. Because ultimately it's not about the treasure that you get, it's about the treasure you become who you're becoming on this journey and having it be the journey rather than the destination. Because feminine energy is about what you're being. Masculine energy is about doing. It's about trying to accomplish things and doing it perfectly and doing it right. So we want to avoid that and actually just focus more in on who you're being and who you're becoming. Which is the most magnetic, feminine, high value, queenly version of yourself possible that any man would love to have in his life and cherish and devote himself to long term. So before we start answering some questions, if you haven't yet and you'd like to take this to the next level, learn our master principles for having a loving, long term, committed relationship in your life. Magnetic Feminine Polarity Magnetic Feminine Communication make sure to take our free Love quiz by clicking the link in the description or the comments or in our bio wherever you're watching this. Or you can go to our website magnetizeyourman.com and you can get that gift there as well. So I'm going to look at some of the comments today and if you have a question or share and want help around your dating situation relationship, go ahead and post it now and I'll get to through as many as I can here while we're still live. So girl plus Kingdom said, hey Brody, you're the real deal and my love life is better because of your teachings. Great to hear. Love to hear that. Because from my masculine, that's how I feel like I'm making a difference and living my purpose, knowing that I can provide answers, service, new techniques, new technologies to make your love life better. And really what we're focusing on here is making your whole life better. Like you're saying it's it's going to affect your whole life because it's who you're being, it's you connected to your core. It's going to affect your relationships with your family, with your friends, with your colleagues. And they're all just going to want to show more care for you. They're going to want to help you more, they're going to want to value you more, prioritize you more and make your life easier. Because what if your life could be simple, faster, fun and easy? What if dating could be simple, fun and easy? What if relationships could be simple, fun and easy rather than complicated, grueling and hard, or complicated, miserable and hard? We want to avoid that and instead make it simple, fun and easy. And that'll all come to fruition within yourself when you are connected to your feminine core. And when you're living from these principles because it changes how the world approaches you. It's you connecting back to your essence before all the programming or the wounds or the trauma may have happened in your life. We're helping you get back to your roots of who you actually are. Not. We're not changing who you are. We're bringing you back to who you really are beyond all these other programming from society and the wounds. So it's a, it's a powerful to understand that so that you don't freak out and think that you have to put on a mask or be somebody different. It's a much deeper journey than that. Sara said, frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn. That's great. Yes, it's a great scene from that, from that movie and it's a great movie to watch again talking about old time principles and dating and relationships. There's a lot to learn from that movie, Gone with the Wind. I might do a breakdown of some of those scenes and some clips from a masculine feminine polarity standpoint. But there was a lot of mistakes that character Scarlet, Scarlett o' Hara made in that movie with Rhett Butler and also some of the other men because she was actually highly disrespectful in a lot of ways. She was in her masculine energy and she was resisting submitting in some ways submitting to a healthy man's leadership, relaxing into her feminine, letting him take the lead. And instead she thought she could be the one in control. She thought she was going to be the one in power and she was smarter and she was going to figure it out and she was going to use men to get what she wanted rather than allowing men to give them. Give her what they wanted to give her anyways. And so there was a lot that she had to learn in that movie. Unfortunately, she didn't learn it till the end of the movie when that famous quote came into play. Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn anymore. You've been in your masculine energy for so long. I'm done. I'm over it and I'm moving on. It's too late, baby. Oh, it's too late. Though we really did try to make it. You know, they should have that song actually at the end of the movie, they should just be playing that song because that's, that's kind of encapsulating what happened in that movie. Which is funny. I remember all this because I haven't seen that movie for probably 10 years. I should probably Watch it again. Caroline said, hey. Yeah. Welcome, Caroline. Suzanne said, welcome. Or so she said. Just found you. I'm wearing my favorite sweatshirt. Faith over fear on the front. Awesome. Glad you found one of those as well. Yes, faith is important because faith is also a key component of feminine energy, which is why I often wear this hat. It's partly also because I don't always want to fix my hair. It's kind of a process. I have to do a lot to get it to look. Look decent, in my opinion. Don't want to be all ragged for everybody. But, yeah, the faith part is about trust. It's about openness. It's about availability. It's about trusting the process and detaching from the outcome. Because fear is what will drive you to want to cling and to want to become needy and desperate. Where you're saying, I can't lose you from my life. I can't lose this guy, or, I can't. I'm afraid I'm gonna say the wrong thing or step on his toes or push him away. Well, what if instead, you had faith that when you connect your feminine core, he's gonna value and love you? And then you can let go of the fear that he's gonna walk away. Because if he does end up walking away from what we teach you, it's probably because he's a deeply broken man and that it's actually doing you a huge favor that you avoid future pain. And sometimes, for women, the way I recommend looking at this is if you were to look at your relationship with your guy for the last three months, and now this is for women who haven't, like, joined our programs or gotten any deeper coaching. But if you look for your relationship with a guy for the last three months or six months, and you say, okay, the way things have been for the last six months, if nothing were to change, would I be okay with that? And if the answer is yes, then that's great. But if the answer is no, you want to be very careful, because you can end up making excuses for him and you can end up justifying and hoping that he's going to shift, rather than being real and authentic with the situation and saying, he's probably not going to change at all. Are you okay with that? Now, what I would recommend is, before you leave him, that you join our magnetic feminine 90 day challenge. And you use that, and you get this coaching support. You get specific recommendations, and you learn these principles on a deeper level so that you can have magnetic feminine conversations with him and share your feelings and be open and vulnerable and allow him to shift over a period of time, over the next 30 days, 60 days, 90 days. Ideally, if you really care about a guy, give it a chance to change, because he has to also learn the principles. And if he doesn't change, then you have to be willing to walk away. And so that's where the detachment from the outcome and the faith comes from is ultimately, I'm a queen. That's what you say to yourself. Ultimately, you're a queen. You're high value, and you deserve to be treated well. And if he can't meet you in that, assuming that you've used everything we teach you, you're connected to your feminine core, you're open, vulnerable, and respectful, then you need to move on. So you need to be available to a man who will show you that care and devotion, because that's ultimately what you likely want in your life long term. And if he can't provide that for you, you don't want to waste another year, five years, 10 years hoping and waiting and praying with. Without anything really shifting. There's an old saying, if nothing changes, nothing changes. So you have to change if you want your results to change. Robin said, you still have no closed captions. How rude. I don't think you can get closed captions with a live stream like this, but if you watch the recording, there should be closed captions afterwards. Hopefully it's not because I have an accent or something that you can't understand it, but I know some people have English as a second language, and so it sometimes is helpful to have those captions. But, yeah, I would say watch the recording. You can catch up on those that way. So Nassar said, I love that stuff. Contractors, brick layers, tile roofing. Well, there's a fundamental masculine energy. It's one of the reasons why so many women fantasize about, you know, firemen, police officers, carpenters, you know, the plumber. You see this in a lot of romance novels and erotica sometimes, that women are fantasizing about these highly masculine roles. And it's the same reason what men do. Men will fantasize about highly feminine women. You know, French maids, cheerleaders. I mean, the list can just go on and on about the type of archetypes of women that men will fantasize about as well. So there's a fundamental drive within you and within men to seek your opposite, to seek that opposite energy that's from your core. So every woman has a feminine core, so you're naturally going to be drawn to at some level, a man who's connected to his masculine core, who knows how to protect, provide, be hero, take care of things, handle, be strong, lead you claim you want to make you happy. And a lot of these romance novels, which. I've read a lot of romance novels in my time because I wanted to learn about female psychology and male psychology. And I studied really a lot on both sides because I used to coach men as well back in the day. But one thing you learn from romance novels is this fundamental desire that women have to tame the wild beast, to turn the beast into a handsome prince. And what is the beast? Well, in the movie the Beauty and the Beast or the story, the beast is. He is the essence of masculine energy. He is wildness. He is untamed. He is, in some ways, he's a brute, he's uncaring, he's rude. Somebody called me rude earlier. So he's rude. And. And. But there's something attractive to that at a fundamental level for a woman, because that's that untamed, wild essence of a man. That's like the. Like the beast inside. Now, women, it's. It can be scary because the wild beasts can be dangerous. And so the. The female fantasy is to take the wild beast and to tame him and to turn him into Prince Charming, who still has that edge, who still has the wildness within him. And the reason I'm sharing with this for you is because there's also. There could be a masculine fantasy related to that as well, where men, they have a fantasy about taking a woman. And so what would be the opposite for a man? It would be taking a woman who is. Oh, it's kind of like Gone with the Wind, actually. So the male fantasy would be taking a woman who's like a spitfire or who's a firecracker or who is in some ways like a. Or masculine and then turning her into a soft seductress or a. What would be the term for that? Like a. I don't know. His. His. His goddess, I guess you might say, or his. His bedroom. Bedroom. Bedroom princess. I don't know. I can't come up with the term for that. I'll think of it in a little bit. But yeah, he's basically wanting to transform her into her feminine essence in a deeper way where she still may keep some of her personality, some of that, the authenticity that she has value for herself, that she speaks up for herself, but that she also submits to him, she respects him, she admires him, and she allows him to claim her and allows him to be her man. Like that is, that is a male fantasy as well, of like taming the wild feminine in a way. And so that's why we teach our women how to be the perfect balance, the perfect balance between. On one side you have the doormat archetype, which is a woman who doesn't speak up, who just does whatever she's told to do, who is compliant and is a people pleaser in different ways and does things for others because she wants them to like her. And then on the other extreme we have like the bitch archetype. Part of my French, but I think that's the best word to use. I guess we could call it a witch, but that also has different, different connotations. But it's the woman who's very self focused, who's very aggressive, sort of the Scarlett o' Hara in the movie Gone with the Wind and independent firecracker, etc. And I don't need no man. And men, men don't want either of these energies long term, especially men don't want either of these energies in their life because it's, it's draining. And he can't really respect this one. And on this side he can't really, he can't tolerate this one. It's hard to tolerate the, the bitch and it's hard to respect the doormat. And we're talking about archetypes here. Sorry if anyone takes offense at that, but it helps you to get an idea of what those archetypes are like and, and maybe trigger something for you which is good so that you can avoid getting too much into either of these extremes. Because what we're teaching you is how to take the principles of both of these, integrate them in a healthy way. Where now you're the queen. The queen is a woman who takes the best from the doormat. She takes the feminine submission, the grace, the warmth, the respect, the respect, respectfulness and the kindness. But she's also, he's all. She's also taking some of the self focus, the authenticity, the self valuing and the ability to speak up and share her mind and share her personality from the. So there's positive aspects of actually both of these energies. Once they're integrated, you become the perfect fantasy, really the male fantasy, which is a woman who's feminine and graceful and open and vulnerable and gentle. And also she values herself, she's authentic, she's willing to speak up, she has a unique personality and she can be really a life partner for him in different ways. Like they can still achieve things together and build life goals. And so she's not just completely compliant. And some people might get triggered. I've used this word a couple times of submission. Submission is actually a healthy. You might think of it as like following, following submission. There may be some other terms I could think of for that, but it's like in a dance, when you're following a man's lead in a dance. Now, submission is actually. Can be healthy, enjoyable, fun thing for a woman to do with the right man when it's in a healthy, polarized relationship and the man is showing care and devotion for your heart like we showed before. But it can become dangerous when it becomes compliance. Well, it's actually, it was on this side because that's more the doormat side. When you're just following his lead, you're doing what he tells you to do, but it doesn't feel good to you. That's not okay because that's you sacrificing yourself. Now you want him to lead, but if he's not leading you, well, if you're on a dance floor and he's stepping on your toes or he's yanking you around or forcing you to dance when you don't really want to dance, that's not okay. And you need to speak up about that. We're bringing some energy from the bitch side here. So you need to speak, speak up about that and share with him your feelings using magnetic feminine communication. That will teach you how to have magnetic feminine conversations and share problems, share your desires, share your needs, ask for help, ask, make other requests respectfully so that then you can just relax. Once he gets it, he understands, he empathizes what's going on for you. Then he, then you can relax and just enjoy his leadership. And it feels good for him and it feels good for you. Like, that's a healthy submission, not an unhealthy compliance. So I want to bring that up because it is a fundamental feminine energy principle that some people kind of dance around, but it, it's important to understand. And then Sandy said, hi, I'm watching from Germany. Love your advices. Thank you very much. Glad. Glad you're liking it, Sandy. Glad it's helpful for you. HA said, how do you get someone to love you again after they felt not respected, appreciated and valued? Yeah. So there's a process we recommend Ha. I call it the big apology. We have a process in our, in our courses and in our communities that we, we teach women, especially after a man has broken up with you, if he's broken up or the relationship is really on the rocks or he's pulled away in a big way and you re. You recognize that you were perhaps you hadn't learned some of these things that I'm teaching you here. You hadn't learned feminine masculine principles and how to really apply them in your relationship. And so you were kind of flying blind. You didn't know what you didn't know, and so you were kind of lost. No. I'm going to show you a graph here, actually. This is important. It's called the stages of knowledge. Don't know what you don't know. I may have to bring it up later. Ah, here we go. Yes. Yeah, this is good. Okay, let me, let me save this real quick and I'm going to pull it up on the screen. So the idea here is that you are learning all the things that you didn't know that you didn't know that you might have done wrong in the relationship with him. And you're getting awareness around that and then you're able to share that with him. So here we go. Going to pull this banner down here. I'll find a faster way to do this in the future. Okay. So in your life, there are certain areas where you have things that you know that you know. There's also things that you know that you don't know. Like, for example, you know that you know how to tie your shoe or you know that you know how to, you know, put on, put on a dress. I'm just coming to the basic clothing examples. But you don't know, you know that you don't know how to program in JavaScript perhaps, or you know that you don't know how to make a pineapple sauerkraut casserole. So you don't know how to do that. But then there's also things that you don't know that you don't know. Those are your blind spots. And this is the area where a lot of women fall into, where they get caught in masculine energy and potentially ruining relationships is they don't even know about some of these principles we're teaching you here. They don't even know that they don't know about magnetic feminine communication. And why that's so important for them to know. They don't know that they don't know magnetic feminine polarity and all the different ways they can be in their feminine in a relationship and draw a man closer rather than pushing him away. And so what happens is they end up operating out of masculine energy by default because that's what their wounds want them to do. And that's also what society's coaxing them to do. You don't need no man. Just tell them what you think and just be yourself. But being themselves means operating from their wounds and being who they've been in the past. Relationships which didn't go well, and so that doesn't work, and so they don't even know how to do it better. It's like the fish that doesn't know that it's wet. The fish that's swimming in water and has no idea. So what you're doing here, if you want to save your relationship, is you want to show your man all these areas that you don't know, that you don't know, that you're now starting to know that you know. And we're. We're expanding the graph here. We're making more green here, or at least more yellow, and getting rid of some of this red so that you can come to the relationship as a more aware woman, a more healed woman, and show him that he can trust you and that it's worth giving it another shot. So, for example, let me pull this down again or pull this off the screen. So what that would mean is doing a process we call the big apology, where you make an audit. Like some of the things you were saying here that you notice, you were being disrespectful, and you were not really appreciating him for the things he was doing for you. And perhaps you weren't really valuing him for what he was bringing to the table. And you were trying to change him or control him or mother him or meet his needs, treat him like a child. And now you're becoming aware of those behaviors that you might have done. The things that you didn't know, that you didn't know, but now you know that you didn't know them. And then pretty soon you're going to know that you know them, and you're going to be able to communicate that with him and share that with him over a phone call or in person the things you've learned about yourself and how you were in the last relationship. And I have a whole script for how to reach out to him and set up the phone call or the meeting, and then also how to have the meaning. If he's open to it, hopefully he will be open to at least have a phone call with you, especially when you use the script that I'll give you. And then you share some of these things with him, and that's mostly for yourself, helping you to own these things for yourself and to share it with him as a way of kind of owning it and revealing it and being vulnerable and practicing that. And then he's going to learn, he's going to witness it and he's going to do whatever he's going to do. You have to detach from the outcome, but likely. Oh, because after you share what you become aware of, you're going to apologize for those things. You're going to apologize for the areas that you were disrespectful or that you were in your masculine. You were trying to lead him or control him or criticize him, etc, and then it's. Then you give it up to him. And it's up to him to then decide what he wants to do with that information. We've had men that will cry or he'll say he's sorry or sometimes he may not respond. He may not respond for you for a couple days. He may just say, okay, I hear you. And then he'll get back to you a couple days later. He has to process it. Or maybe he doesn't like it. Maybe he doesn't want to talk to you. Maybe it's already too, too far gone. We don't know. But we'll have to see how he responds. And then likely he's going to feel more trust towards you. He's going to feel like it's safe for him to also be somewhat vulnerable with you and potentially move the relationship forward. Start over fresh. And he may own some things on his end where he was also disrespectful or unloving or uncaring towards you. And now you guys can both have a deeper awareness of those things together and hopefully give it another shot if you want to. So that's a process I would recommend and that will help you in that journey. And Ha also said, how do I get my husband to contact me and love me again? He felt disrespected. Yeah. So it's the same basic, basic question. So I would recommend that process that's going to really help you, HA and we'll help you also craft that and customize it. But that's the basic idea is. And it's really for yourself to become a more open, magnetically feminine woman. All right. And then Ha said, I wish I found your videos before when I was going through problems in my marriage, but I found your videos after. Me and my husband are separated and he refuses to be with me and speak with me. Yeah. So that's another tough thing. If he's not even willing to speak with you, that's, that's going to be hard because how are we supposed to use magnetic feminine communication if he's blocked you, etc. Now you can use magnetic feminine polarity still. And energetically, you could potentially draw him back to you just through who you're being, increasing your self care, developing your social life, rebuilding your social life, putting yourself out there, making yourself available for other men to potentially date and meet, at least to make friends potentially. And then oftentimes I believe men have a sixth sense that they can tell, they can notice energetically when you're really moving into your feminine energy and, and that can bring them back into your world and allow them to at least be open to a conversation. So we just have to kind of open the door. We might have to just open it up energetically before he's able to have a phone call with you and open it up in a bigger way and then we can start to really go to work and with the feminine communication and sharing your heart and your feelings with him in a respectful, vulnerable way. And now you could potentially salvage the relationship. But we have to start small and we have to focus it back on you. Because feminine energy is about self focus. Masculine energy is about thinking about the external, thinking about him, thinking about the relationship, thinking about what he's up to, what he's doing if he likes you, if he doesn't like you, what his needs are, what his wounds are. That's all masculine energy. That's you trying to manage him and you trying to subtly control him and manipulate him. So we got to bring the energy back to yourself because men will feel that as well and it'll cause them to start pulling away. Got to bring the energy back to you. And that's when you become magnetic. That's when you become like the flower to the honeybees, the radiant flower to the honeybees, or the sun to the planet, or the flame to the moths. That's almost dangerously magnetic. So we have to make it about you. And you need to start investing into yourself, which is like what you're doing here. You're starting on the process of bringing that energy back to you. Self investment, getting support, getting coaching. So pat yourself on the back for even being here and learning this information and going through this because that's the start of a beautiful journey of transformation and coming back to your core as a woman. So you're doing great in that sense. Ha. And we're here for you. And I'm going to help, help hopefully support you to get what you want, hopefully with him. But if not, it'll be an even better relationship. Let's stay focused on the relationship you want and allow him to step into that and fill that role if, if he will and if not, it's going to be a better man. That's kind of, that's a good approach, that's a more detached approach, a feminine approach to have to it as well. Sandy said, can I ask a man to show me how I can trust him? Because I'm sick of disappointments. I am very aware of my behavior. No chasing, no criticizing, no controlling. But the result is always to be dumped. It can be disrespectful to ask a man to show you how you can trust him because in a way it's, it's kind of saying to him, are you really trustworthy? Like, how do I know I can trust you? Can you show me how I can trust you? Like why I should trust you? It's all, it's basically asking that. I don't know if that's your intention with that, but that can be what it sounds like from a man's point of view. If you were to ask a man to show you how you can trust him, it's already coming from a place of not trusting him because if you already trusted him, you wouldn't have to ask that question. So it's showing him that you don't trust him now, which will feel bad to his masculine core. It is good in the sense that you're asking for help, you're asking him for clarity, you're asking for help. So that's good. That's coming from your feminine. However, there's better ways to approach that conversation, to use instead magnetic feminine communication and to share your feelings, to share your fears that you might have, your anxieties that you might have. Like what are some of the blocks for you internally from trusting him or trusting any man? Again, you always want to bring it back to yourself. That's feminine energy. Bring it back to yourself. How are you feeling? What's going on for you? And how could you be open and share that with him in a way that he can receive it and not feel criticized, blame, controlled, shamed, emasculated, etc, so that he doesn't close up and he doesn't start getting defensive or fighting with you, arguing or pulling away. So that's where magnetic feminine communication comes into play and that will open him up to want to help you rather than feeling like he's being attacked or criticized. So. And it's beautiful that you are noticing some of these emotions within yourself, such as disappointment and also the fact that you were chasing, you were criticizing, you were controlling. All change begins with awareness. Just becoming aware of these things. It's the first step. Take the first step of a thousand miles, a thousand steps begins with a single step. So that's the first step is awareness. You can't change a problem and let. You can't solve a problem unless you first define what that problem is. The problem is masculine energy. You were in your masculine energy in the relationship before, and you don't want to be that way anymore. And you're looking for a better way to approach your relationships from your feminine core. That's what we're helping you with. And that's, that's the key. That's, that's how you can now really step into it, because now you're clear on what the, what the process is for yourself. So. So as far as trust goes, the last thing I'll say is sometimes with trust, you have to just trust but verify or you trust until proven otherwise. So with a man, unless he's given you a reason not to trust him, I would recommend starting with trust. Starting with assuming he's a healthy and powerful man who wants to help you, who wants to be your hero, who wants to protect you, who wants to protect your heart, and who wants to make you happy. Like, what would your relationships be like if you started from that place of assuming he wants to help you? Because that's what you're used to, that's your new normal. So in the past, you might have been disappointed by men, you might have been hurt by men. But what if your new future is men take care of you, men protect your heart, you, you can trust men. It's simple, fun and easy. They want to give to you, they want to be trustworthy with you and show you all the ways on their own that they are trustworthy. Now you have to trust your gut a little bit with this process because sometimes guys can put up a nice front, but actually you get a sense that they're not trustworthy if it's coming from an authentic place, not from your wounds, not from past relationships, but simply a noticing, a feminine noticing that something doesn't feel right, then that's something you can have a conversation around. Or you may need to pull away from the relationship because we want you to be safe and not put yourself into situations where you could be with an abusive man or A man who does take advantage of you in some way or hurts you in some way, physically, emotionally, mentally. So you have to use some discernment and you have to trust your intuition. And with that you can also practice the principles we're teaching you here of how to be open, trusting, respectful, feminine with a man and give him a chance to feel your heart, to feel that you trust him, to feel that you respect him and admire him and appreciate him and want him to lead, want him to be your hero and then see how he responds. That's where we have the 90 day challenge or the 30 day or the 60 day challenge. You give a man a period of time where you're using the principles we teach you here and watch how he behaves. Observe if he's showing an upward trajectory of showing care for your heart, or if he's just not showing care for your heart, or even if he's getting really defensive over time and he's not changing. He's probably a broken man and you probably need to step away and look at why are you attracting so many broken men? That's another conversation. And that's probably because of the mindset, the beliefs that you may have been carrying on from your past that are coming into your new relationships and levels of distrust and belief that you're not good enough, that you don't deserve to be cared for in that way. You don't deserve to be happy, or you don't deserve a man's love and devotion. We have to look at those things because when we can heal them, then you can become your most magnetic self. And then you'll start attracting different behaviors from it. You'll attract healthy masculine energy because you'll be more in your healthy feminine. You'll attract men wanting to help you, men wanting to open doors for you, buy you things, compliment you, handle things ahead of time, plan for the future. That's what you'll attract when you're you're more healed, coming from a more healed place within yourself. So hope that was helpful, Sandy and elevated Veracity said. That's a cool name. Elated Veracity said. Hi Brody. My guy has stepped up by calling more, but I'm missing the texting during the day too. How do I get more without seeming needy? Well, for one, you want to appreciate him for the fact that he is calling more. I'm assuming you've already done that. But appreciation is such an important feminine communication principle and a feminine polarity principle, because a man needs to feel that he's doing a good job for him to feel valued and valuable from his masculine core. And if he feels like he just keeps failing over and over again, assuming he's a healthy man, if he can't make you happy, he's going to start looking elsewhere and start finding a place where he can be valued and he can have a purpose where he feels a sense of meaning because he's being rewarded for his, his gifts and who he is just through appreciation, just through admiration and respect of what he's trying to do for you. So you have to appreciate him for those things if you want to see more of those behaviors and other ways that he's going to care for you and show devotion. So thank him and let him know how it makes you feel when he's calling you more, if it makes you feel happy, makes you feel safe, protected, cared for, loved, relaxed. So share those emotions with him. That's the most powerful way to share appreciation. And then, yeah, so, so then you need to also share the other desires you have, which you can share with him, you should share with him. Be authentic with that and more to share your feelings around it. So everything with feminine communication, feminine polarity, starts with tapping into your feelings. How do you feel as a woman? That's your feminine core. That's where your emotions are living your vulnerability, your open heart, your sensations in your body, your gut, your womb, everything that is in your body really, it's, it's embodied femininity. That's where you want to start. What are the emotions? And then share those with him. So if you're feeling some anxiety, if you're feeling some loneliness, then you can share that with him. And then when he asks why, you can tell him it's because you know, you're really appreciating him calling more and you're noticing that you're, you're missing having those texts during the day as well. And it felt really good to have those texts and you don't know what to do or you're asking for help with that now the other option is you can actually just make a straight out request and just say, hey babe, I love hearing from you during the day as well. Can I ask if you could check in with me sometimes? It makes me feel really cared for. When you do, would that be okay with you? Or could you help me with that? Could you, would you be up to providing that for me? And he'll probably say, yeah. He'll probably say, sure, of course, yeah, I could do that. I'm happy to do it. It's not that hard for him. I mean, it just means a little extra time, a little extra thought, but it can make a big difference for you. Now, the last thing I'll say with this is you want to be aware of surface level issues versus deep issues. So this could be a surface level issue where actually you're like, why doesn't he text me more during the day? But then actually the deeper issue is you don't feel that he's really prioritizing you, or you're not really feeling that he's present with you when you spend time together, or he's not really saying things that are kind and caring to you as much as you would like, so you're not feeling his love. That can be a deeper issue, which would be better to have a conversation about that using. Having a magnetic, feminine conversation, which will help you with. To share those things with him and make some progress, to have him really feel your heart and your vulnerability rather than just talking about that he's not doing the dishes, or he's not taking the trash out, or he's not texting you enough, or he's not dressing the way you want him to dress. He's not wearing the right colors that you like on him. Those are all surface level issues. And we want to try to go deeper so you can really make some progress in your relationship and have him understand you from a deeper level as well. Nassar said, I love old movies. Yeah, they're great. If you want to learn some of these principles like we showed earlier here, just watch some of those old movies. Watch some of those 1950s movies. I'm gonna pull up another one here that I really like. Sure. Some of you have seen this or seen these clips. I actually have not seen this whole movie. Wait, what was it called? Okay, I actually have to find out which movie this is from, but I'm going to show this clip here. This is more of a different archetype. This is more of the. It is actually the queen archetype, but it's a different form of it. It's. It's the little girl energy, playful, childlike energy, combined with the seductress, combined with the queen. And I'm going to show you what that looks like right here. So let me share my screen and we'll do that. All right, let's watch it. And it just repeats. Man, I. I knew what it was. I thought it was Some Like It Hot, but I don't know if that's the movie iconic scene. I'll have to look up what that movie was. It's like on the tip of my tongue. Jane Russell was in it. Marilyn Monroe and Jane Russell movie. Oh, Seven Year Itch. I think it was the Seven Year Itch. That may be the name of the movie. Yeah, watch some of those movies because Marilyn Monroe, man, I should do a whole video just commenting about her, some of those scenes because, wow, there's a lot to learn there, A lot to learn around feminine energy. I mean, you can see when you watch her, when you watch her walk, how connected she was to her body and her movements and the flow of her hips and the glancing and kind of the openness, the open body language, the availability. But then also in the movies there was like this childlike nature about her that was innocent, that was pure, that was vulnerable, that was open and receptive and even playful in some ways. I mean, even her voice was like this, almost like this really soft, innocent voice. And so it's really an extreme example of feminine energy that what she was embodying. Now we don't know how she was in her real relationships. I mean, I do know because I've read some of her biographies or at least parts of them, and her relationships were kind of a shit show because she wasn't able to integrate some of the other principles that we teach here as far as the self valuing and self respect, self care. And so she ended up being treated like a doormat in a lot of ways because she wasn't able to really back up some of these energies with a healthy balance of the others to be a true queen. But again, I haven't studied in depth her, her, her biographies. I just have a little, little glimpses. But you want to be able to integrate that because there was a lot that she did right, especially with her first appearance and how she showed up. And then there was a lot that she needed to integrate to have had happier relationships because ultimately, as we know, she ended up committing suicide. So that was a sign that she wasn't really a fully integrated, fully embodied woman. It was more performative. It was coming from a place like an actress pretending to be feminine, pretending to be high value feminine, but not really owning it. And of course, she also had a lot of bad people around her. Being in Hollywood, very corrupted. But. And that's often what happens with some of these starlets and movie stars. They get around these very, some evil, sick people oftentimes, you know, in Hollywood, and then they end up, you know, again, being around a lot of broken men and they have a lot of Abuse and sexual abuse and all these weird stuff that happens. So that's a. That's a good point as far as being in healthy environments and setting boundaries with yourself to get out of. Out of bad situations. So, anyways, that's why I'm saying I should go into a deeper video about her just as a character and just as a person and all the things to learn about her. But you can watch some of these old movies and learn so much about feminine energy and grace and elegance and etiquette and respecting a man and admiring a man. And you can see sometimes how Marilyn Monroe would look at guys, and you can just see this sort of feminine, like, innocence combined with like a. Like a respect and admiration for the guy she was interested in. And it just made men melt and obsess over her. So you can bring that in as well. Some of these principles, which is what we teach in our courses, in our. In our programs, we go very deep into how to apply these things in a modern day and in a modern time with your relationship with your man so that you can have the best of both worlds be feminine and be valued for who you are as a woman on a deep level. Okay, so we're going to answer a couple more here, and then we're gonna call it a day. Soon. Carolyn said, how can I receive help from my man when I am stubborn? So the stubbornness is probably an issue. So when you're saying stubborn, what I'm hearing is masculine energy that you're blocked in some way, that you're resisting him in some way, you're resisting his leadership. Now, of course, it doesn't mean accepting bad behavior from a man, but what are the ways that you may be subtly trying to resist him that is causing issues in your relationship where he doesn't even want to help you anymore because he feels every time he helps you, it's not good enough, or you're not reciprocating in some way by showing him respect or showing him admiration or letting him lead in other ways. And so he's like, throwing his hands up like, what am I doing here? Why am I. Why? Why? What's the purpose of me being a devotional knight in shining armor for you when you're basically treating me like a shrew or like a stubborn child that's just throwing a tantrum or rebelling every time, you know, when I ask you to do something or ask us to. To lead our relationship forward in some way or make plans in some way, and I'm just constantly being criticized and blamed or shamed or not followed in the way I want to be. So you want to look for that and just take a self audit, a masculine energy audit. Of all the ways you may be in your masculine energy, that is causing issues because that's going to block him from wanting to give you help in the first place. Because there's, it's like imagine a man is like wanting to serve you dinner and you're just sitting with your arms crossed and your legs crossed and he wants to give you like the dinner, but you can't. You're not grabbing it. You're not letting him help you because you're stubborn. Because you're saying, they're like, no, no, no, I don't want it anymore. No, you didn't do it the right way. No, it's not my favorite pasta. I want balign. I didn't want. I don't want pesto chicken. No, that's my, that's not my favorite. You're like, you're like the stubborn child blocking him, right? And that's not going to make him want to give you more. I'm using extreme examples here because it can help you to start to notice another woman noticing here who are on where you might do the similar behavior, where you might be subtly, energetically blocking a man or resisting him because he's not doing it perfectly. But you want to start looking for the things he's doing so that he's making progress. You want to start appreciating him for progress. And that's going to help you. Even if you have this stubborn nature, which is actually okay, you could actually do that in a playful way. You can actually just be like, no, but do it like in a playful way and kind of smile with it. And then he actually could find that endearing. Because there are, there are ways that children can be stubborn. That's still like endearing to the parent where it's like, that was kind of cute. You know, I'm mad. But that was also kind of like when a child is pouting like this, it's like, it's stubborn, but it's also kind of cute. And so that's, that can be okay in a relationship. That can make it to where he's still like, okay, come here, give me a hug, I want to help you. But if you're just pure out stubborn and resisting him and being disrespectful, that's going to just push him away over time, more and more. So that's how you get out of it. Start appreciating him for the things he's already doing for you. Start to let him help you in the ways he wants to help you, even if it's not perfect. Look for progress rather than perfection and appreciate him for that progress that he's making, making gradual improvements he's putting effort in. And then work on relaxing your stubbornness, whatever that is. Try to do some inquiry, get some coaching support. We could really help you to heal some of that and open up into your feminine core much more on an advanced level if you do some of our courses and get some of our coaching. But let yourself start to receive that. That's feminine energy. Let yourself start to receive a man's provision when it feels good to you. And if you don't enjoy it, you can still be respectful and have a conversation about it and let him know your feelings without becoming disrespectful in your masculine energy. That's just going to end up causing a fight, causing him to pull away, or causing a breakup potentially to an extreme. So we want to work on that. But it's okay to have still desires and want things and also if you need to set boundaries with yourself. But we want to avoid the masculine disrespectful behavior because that's going to. That's simply going to lead your relationship down a bad path, likely long term. All right, so let's see here. Deanna said, are there other guys out there like you? Yes, Deanna, there actually is a lot of guys out there. I would say most guys. Most guys are connected. They, they do have a healthy masculine energy inside of them. There is a percentage of men, probably 10 to 20% in some cases, depending on the population you're looking at. Some studies that have been done, about 15% of the population of men are very broken. They're deeply broken men. They're wounded, they're traumatized, they have insecure attachment styles. They're narcissists, potentially sociopaths. And those guys, they'll probably never be able to show you healthy masculine care. They just won't. And you have to understand, you have to recognize when you're dealing with one of those men again, check out the last livestream I did to learn more about that. But most men have a healthy masculine core. Every man does have a masculine core deep inside. And when you are in your feminine energy, your magnetic feminine core connected to it, and you're using what we teach you here, you will start attracting more masculine men into your life and you'll start attracting the men that you're interested being more in their healthy masculine with you. Over time, they may not shift immediately because they also have to get used to interacting with you from your feminine and what it means for them to be a healthy masculine and leading and making decisions and showing care for you and protection. But they'll start learning. They'll start learning the dance, likely, if they're not a broken man, and learning the new language of how to show care for your heart. Because the law of polarity states the opposite. Energy attracts. So we just have to shift you into your healthy feminine, and you'll start attracting healthy masculine from men around you. You'll attract more and more of them. And if you're not attracting healthy men, it's probably a sign that you're not yet in your healthy, healthy feminine, which is good to be aware of it. Don't beat yourself up about it. It's just awareness, recognizing it, and now starting to make steps to improve, to move things forward so that you can shift, that you can heal, you can master this. And it's a lifelong journey of coming to your feminine core. Coming to your true self and who you're becoming is the ultimate treasure that we want to embrace so that you can have a life that's easy, moving forward without having to constantly come to me asking questions about why he stopped texting you, or he pulled away or he's talking to another woman or he said something not nice to you, like, that'll become less and less the more you're stepping in your healthy masculine. That's how we know it. And you will attract those other men out there who are connected to their masculine core as well in a healthy way. So hope that helps. Deanna and Sir Key said, with a man who knows how to lead effectively, submission comes more naturally. Yeah. So again, think of it as like a dance. If you're on the dance floor with a guy and he's not leading you well, he's stepping on your toes, he's yanking you around. I talked about this before. It's really hard to submit to a man like that. Right. You don't feel safe, you don't feel cared for. You don't feel like he's observant or aware enough to really protect you and give you a good experience. And so what you do is you'll close up or you will pull away or you will put up with it even though you don't enjoy it and not say anything because you don't want to rock the boat. We want to avoid that. And that's being the doormat energy, the doormat archetype. So you want to be a queen. You want to speak up and share your feelings around that and encourage a man to be in his healthy masculine. And once he is, once he's leading well, and you can trust him more and you can respect and admire him more and you enjoy it now, it's going to be much easier for you to really relax into your feminine and have a healthy submission, a healthy following his lead so that it feels good to you. And now it just feels like you're getting the princess treatment. Like the opposite of some of these videos we watched before where the woman was rowing the man in the boat. It's like, no, he's going to row you in the boat, he's going to give you champagne and flowers and you just relax and like, why would I live any other way? I don't want to lead, I don't want to take that role. I don't want to be the man. Because this is so much more fun. You know why it's more fun is because you have a feminine core deep inside. And when you connect to that, you won't want a relationship that's any other way. You don't want a relationship where you can't submit because you don't feel safe or you don't feel comfortable with it, or you feel like you have to take charge and you have to control everything. Like, your standard is going to increase where you're not going to accept that anymore because you've gotten a taste of what it feels like to be in that healthy dance, be in that polarized dance with a guy that you can admire and respect. And sometimes what can help? Because again, men need to also learn some of these principles. They need to shift into their healthy masculine you by being in your feminine and using what would teach you especially magnetic feminine communication will cause these men to start shifting and then, and then they will be leading you well. So in that in between space where they're learning, you may have to err a little bit more on the side of trusting him first, relaxing first. Even if you don't feel necessarily that, like he's that great of a lead, just go ahead and trust him. Let him start to take as long as you feel like a basic level of safety. You feel like this is a man in your gut that's not going to try to abuse you in some way or hurt you. Like, if you have a basic level of safety with him, like, start to trust him more with making Decisions with planning things, with managing financial decisions. Potentially, if you're in a marriage, of course, but even with, you know where you should eat, what you should do, how ask him for advice with things, Trust his advice, like let him start to make decisions and do things that then can show you that he is capable of leading. Because sometimes he just needs a chance, sometimes man needs a shot to see that you fully trust him and that you respect him for him to step into his hero and actually feel comfortable to take that lead. Because some men don't take that lead because they feel like you don't want it, they feel that you don't trust them. So then they feel, oh, maybe I, I'm not trust, maybe I'm not trustable. So I'm not going to do it, I'm not going to do anything, I'm not going to text her, I'm not going to call her, I'm not going to lead things forward because I don't feel like, I feel like she's about to reject me or I feel like she's has sort of a distrust towards me or a suspicion towards me. And so I'm not even going to try. So you may have to give a little bit of that first. See how he responds and give him a chance to learn. Give him a chance to learn what it's like to interact with a healthy, feminine, high value, queenly woman and that he may be even a little intimidated at first. Like, wow, she's really trusting me now. I don't want to screw it up, I don't want to disappoint her. And so he may be a little nervous, he may start making some little mistakes, but as long as the trajectory is good and he's showing more and more care for your heart over time, you can keep giving him that chance. And if he's not, then after the 90 days, it's time to walk away and open yourself up to a man who does show care for your heart because that's ultimately what you want. But you can give him that chance and sometimes you have to go first and trust and respect him first, which is the deepest desires of the masculine so that he can then give you more love and adoration, which is the deepest desires of the feminine. So hope that was helpful. Circi and Bloom said how much transparency and vulnerability is good at all. Shouldn't we keep some personal issues to ourselves to keep healthy boundaries? Yeah, I mean if you were totally transparent, you would just be walking around naked and you know, whenever you're going to the bathroom. You would leave the bathroom door open and you would be talking about every thought that you had on your mind and share people like, oh, you look a little overweight, right? You look a little overweight today. Or, wow, you're 30 years old. You look like you're 40 years old to me. And you would just be sharing things like that. That's like extreme vulnerability, right? Extreme transparency. I don't even know if I'd call that vulnerability, but that would be like, extreme transparency. And I want to give you that example because, yes, there can be a limit to how authentic you want to be, how transparent you want to be, how vulnerable you want to be. And you can trust your intuition around that. Like, you don't need to tell a man every thought that you have on your mind or every feeling that comes up for you in the moment. It's good for you to stretch into that because a lot of. A lot of you here, the one you listening likely has been, have been more in your masculine, where it's actually you have. You have a harder time being vulnerable, really vulnerable. So you may need to stretch and do that. Like, what would it feel like to actually walk around naked in public? I just want to give you that visual because that would be like, extreme vulnerability, right? You're out in public and you're completely naked, just walking around like, it's a beautiful day. It's a beautiful day to be enjoying the sun on your skin. Like, I'm open and vulnerable and available to the world. Like, that would be interesting. That would be an interesting social experiment. We'll see how long that one lasts for before cops are pulling up, probably depending on which area you live in. But that would be like, what you can do with your heart. So maybe you're not walking around naked, but you can walk around with your heart being naked, your heart being open, your heart being vulnerable. And that's a feminine approach. So there's different areas and different ways you can stretch yourself into vulnerability and transparency. That may not be telling him everything and showing everything right away. And so there can be a dance with that. There can be an opening up the layers of the onion being unpeeled. But what I would recommend to you is start to stretch yourself towards more transparency and more vulnerability. That may feel uncomfortable to you at a level, but the more you do it, the more it'll feel good to you. Because if it wasn't vulnerable, it would just feel comfortable, it would feel normal. So the fact that something may feel vulnerable to share, it may feel Uncomfortable to share, that means it is vulnerable. That means you are going into an area that's a little bit more exposed, it's a little bit more sensitive, such as sharing your feelings, sharing your heart, talking about a sensitive topic that may come up about your past, about where you're at in your life right now, but doing so in a respectful way, and asking permission, which is a big key to magnetic feminine communication, to make sure you're not penetrating him energetically. So to ask and say something like, can I share something with you? Or is it okay if I share something more personal with you? Or is it okay if I share something more vulnerable with you? Or is it okay if I. Or may I share a feeling that I'm having right now? And that way it gives him the space to make sure he's ready to receive it. He's ready to receive your. Your naked, open, vulnerable heart without being shocked or being unprepared, where he's like, wow, I wasn't expecting that, or I wasn't ready for that. But make sure he's ready. Make sure he's. He can receive it, because he may not be. He may say, well, I'm actually, I got to get going in five minutes and I can't really pay attention right now. Can we talk about it later? That way you don't feel rejected. If he has to end the interaction prematurely, you can feel that he's able to hold space for you and it feels good to you. So hope that was helpful. And then. Dory said, men are creatures of habit. If they room, they will always. If they roam, they will always roam. If they look, they always look. If they are lazy, rest assured they are not going to wake up one day and start cleaning the house. Yeah, men. I would. I would even say humans. Humans are creatures of habits, men and women. And the key here is to not expect a man to change. If you expect a man to change from his lazy ways or his roaming ways or his unkind, uncaring ways, then, yes, he's probably not going to change. He's probably not going to shift. Especially. Especially not if you try to change him. If you try to shift him yourself. The more you try to change a man oftentimes, the more he's going to rebel and do the opposite of what you want unconsciously, because it feels disrespectful to his masculine core to feel that you're trying to control him or trying to change him. And so a male response could be rebelling against you. Not all the times it could be or it could be pulling away or fighting with you or becoming passive aggressive. It depends on what kind of man he is. But typically it's not going to get a positive response. So you want to accept him for who he is, accept him for who he is fully as a man with all of his flaws and all of his character traits. And then within that you bring it back to yourself, which really acceptance is also something you're doing for yourself. It's like I'm no longer going to push against him. I'm no longer going to try to have, have a, a manipulative tactic I'm using with him to try to shift him. I'm going to bring the energy back to myself. You're bringing it back to yourself, which is feminine. And then you're going to let him do what he does. Now the next level beyond that is using what we teach, magnetic feminine polarity, magnetic feminine communication where you're able to share your heart with him, you're able to be vulnerable, you're able to be in your feminine energy in different ways. You're increasing your self care and then you're having magnetic feminine conversations with him so that he can understand the impact of how what he's doing makes you feel. But again, you're bringing it back to yourself. It's how you feel. Using I statements. I feel I noticed I'm telling myself a story I observed. And asking permission before you do that is even better because now it makes sure he's in a place where he actually can receive you. Sharing your feelings and sharing your desires and your problems and your needs with him. But you need to communicate to him because it's not okay. I'm not teaching you here just to accept that and say okay, I guess I'm just going to be in a marriage where we don't have sex or I'm going to be in a marriage where he doesn't take care of me. Or I'm going to be in a relationship where we just see each other once a month. No, that's not okay. And you need to share your feelings around that. You need to have enough standards and boundaries and courage to actually speak up about those things, but doing so in a respectful, vulnerable way. So now in a detached way, detached from the outcome. But now he has the opportunity to understand how you're feeling, understand the impact for himself and his mission, if he chooses to accept it, is to become your hero and to make it better, to want to become better on his own, to want to get support or help or change things on his own, but not because you told him to or you tried to change him. All you did is speak about yourself. You spoke about how you're feeling and detach from the outcome. He can do with that what he wants, but if he doesn't shift it, ultimately you're going to have to move on because that's not a good situation for you. And this is also not about giving him an ultimatum, because ultimatums can be very masculine because essentially they're telling him what to do, but it's simply making your feelings and desires and needs clear to him in a respectful way. And then if things don't shift at some point, you're going to decide to set a boundary with yourself. Probably at the end of the 90 day challenge, if he doesn't shift and you're going to move on, you're going to, you're going to. You're going to move forward in your life and probably attract somebody better who is going to show care for your heart. But once he feels that he's probably going to really shift because he's not going to want to lose you. Just hopefully it won't be too late by that point. Then he'll start to make changes earlier because you're communicating in the way we teach you that he now wants to change on his own and not because you're, you're making him change or trying to influence him to change. All right, I'm just going to read a couple last things here that might be valuable. So Ruby said, I feel like he's falling in love with me when we are together. That's great. Great to hear. Ruby Peaceful Noggin said, I love this. Thank you, Brody. You're welcome. Judy said, so true. Those examples are all around and I'm like, what? Not sure what examples you're talking about. Maybe the examples of women doing things for guys. Oh, yeah. He said, no. Why? There's a couple videos I'll have to review on here too, of women proposing to men. I don't know if those are real or not. I still have my doubts that they're not skits. But there are some videos at least existing of women proposing to men. And I hope they're not real, but if they are, that would be like the extreme example of some of those videos we were watching earlier. Sadie said, self focus. Yes. Bloom said, thanks, Brody, for your efforts to respond to these lives. Very helpful. You're welcome. And more here. Yeah, I think that's about. There's like some conversations happening in the Chat. I love to see the conversation. There's so many I'm scrolling through here, so many I can't get to. But we'll hopefully get to them later and in other lives as well if needed. And then Michelle said, I love your program. Great, Michelle, great to have you in our program and our courses, they're really helpful. We really go into advanced principles there and customize it for your specific situation so that ultimately you can get the relationship you want with your guy quickly and effectively in a way that lasts because it's about who you're becoming, who you're being, which is a lifelong journey. Getting to that feminine core and staying in that feminine core, which there's a lot of principles involved with that, a lot of techniques, a lot of awareness that can come. And then the community supporting you is also so powerful to make sure you stay in that place and have an amazing life that you love with your guy moving forward that you would never want to lose because it just becomes like night and day. For what you might have experienced in the past, to have a man really cherish and devote himself to you will feel very fulfilling to your feminine core as a woman deep inside. So if you'd like to do that and if you'd like to take this deeper, hope you got value today. Again, highly recommend taking our free quiz. You can get that by clicking the link in the description or comments below to get customized recommendation for what to do in your specific situation and what I'd recommend as far as coaching or resources to help you on your journey. In our groups and our programs and our 90 day challenge and everything else we talked about here. It all starts with the free quiz and then we'll recommend to you what the best next step will be moving forward to have the relationship you want and get the support you actually need to have loving, long term commitment. So much love. Take care. Hope this is valuable and I appreciate you for taking the effort, taking the time to invest in yourself, bringing the energy and awareness back to yourself and your feminine core so that you can live a more radiant life moving forward for yourself. So take care. Much love and I'll talk to you later. Bye bye.