Men EXPLAINED: The Only Guide You’ll Ever Need

The ultimate guide to understanding men. If you have a man in your life that you're confused by, you want to understand how his mind works, how his heart works so that you can communicate, bridge the gap and have him coming closer to you, have him chasing and pursuing you, rather than pulling away, losing interest or not wanting a relationship, then this will help you immensely. I'm Brody Boyd with Magnetize youe man and forever 2020 years combined with my wife Antia. We've been helping thousands of successful women all over the world to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with a man they desire. So let's go ahead and start this powerful journey for you with the training today. So the fifth key you need to understand with a man. Oh, whoops, that's actually not the right one here. The fifth key you need to understand with a man is that men desire to be respected first and foremost. It is a critical component of masculine energy and at the core of every man. Because every man does have a masculine core and a masculine instinct. And the more connected he is to his masculine core and masculine instinct, the more he's going to value being respected in his life. Not just by you, but by the people around him, by society as a whole. He's going to feel a sense of value, that he is a worthy man, that he is good enough, that he is powerful, that he has some status in the world. When he feels that those closest to him respect him, especially women, and especially you as his woman. If he feels that you respect him, he's going to feel that he has a place in your life, that you look up to him in some way, that he can actually be your leader in some capacity. He can be your hero, he can be your provider, he could be your protector. And if a man ever feels disrespected by his woman or that she does not have those feelings of respect for him, he's going to have a red alert of sorts going off in his mind that either he needs to shift himself in some way or he needs to shift his life, get his life on track, or he needs to shift his relationship and either get out of that relationship and find a woman who does respect him, or maybe a combination of all the above. Either way, his biological system is going to be sending him a warning light. Warning, warning, warning. Will Robinson, you are heading for danger because your woman does not respect you. That means she's probably going to cheat on you. That means she's probably going to leave you. That means you're going to get hurt in some way, that means that you're probably going to get rejected by society. These are irrational thoughts. But these are the kind of thoughts that can go on inside of a man's unconscious when he feels that his woman doesn't respect him or his family doesn't respect him or society as a whole doesn't respect him because his biological, biological, it's based on survival and reproduction. And so conversely, if a man is in a relationship where he feels respected and admired and adored, and even not adored, respected, admired and revered, honored by his woman, he's having a green light go off. It's a green shining light that's like you're doing a good job, good job, sir. Pat yourself on the back. You're a hero. You're, you're a man, you're a provider, you're valued. Continue on your journey. You're doing great, you're doing great, man. And he's going to have his masculine self esteem going up versus going down in a woman where he, in a relationship where he feels like he's being disrespected by his woman. So I've shared this before, but there's a great graph that will help you with this to understand that the more a man feels respected by his woman, the more he's going to feel love and adoration towards her. And if you flip it around, actually, I can't flip it here, but I'm going to do that with the next one. If you were to flip it around, the reverse is also true, where the less respected a man feels by his woman, the less love and adoration and devotion he's going to feel towards her. So respect is such a key to understanding men, how they function, how they work. And if you want to get the relationship that you want with a man, the easy equation is to simply start respecting him, to start showing him that you see his value. You respect him as a man, you respect, respect his masculinity and his abilities as a provider, as a protector, as a hero, as a problem solver, as a leader. And he's going to feel his masculine self esteem start rising and he's going to get turned on by that. There's a quote from the Bible that says, nevertheless, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself. The wife must respect her husband. So this is also a command from God that men are required, really a must to respect to love their women. And women are required, really a must to respect their man. And when you hear that, when I hear that word must, it means unconditionally. So if you can unconditionally respect your man, that is how you can activate within him unconditional love and devotion. Unless of course, you're with a broken man. A broken man will not be capable of giving you real love and devotion. And once those signs are revealed over a course of time, keeping your heart vulnerable and using the things that we teach you, and he doesn't show that love and devotion, then you're probably dealing with a broken man. And unfortunately, you need to be able to walk away from those situations. You give it a period of time like our 90 day challenge that we teach, our magnetic feminine 90 day challenge. And then when you use everything in that challenge and when you take the steps and if your man hasn't shifted, which would be pretty surprising, you may be dealing with a broken man, which is an occasional and common occurrence in some situations. It's about 5 to 15% of the population is broken men and women. There's another quote from the Bible here. Even if your husband does not obey the word, he may be won over by your conduct when he sees your respectful and pure behavior. Now, what this means is even if your man is not behaving well, even if he is, he has lost his track. He's not following the word as a man. He's not respecting his own integrity and his own code of conduct. Men can actually be shifted. And men can be won over through your feminine energy, through your respectful behavior. And your pure behavior can shift a man not because you're trying to change him, but because who you are changes him. He starts to change himself because he's inspired to by you. The next powerful principle to understand around men is that your happiness is his validation. When you are happy, a man unconsciously and automatically believes it's because of him. When his woman is happy again, he has those green lights going off inside of him. You're doing a good job, man. Keep it up. You're winning at life. If his woman is not happy, he's going to have a red light flashing off in his system. Warning, warning, warning. You're not doing a good job. Your woman's going to leave you, probably, or she's going to cheat on you, or she's going to disrespect you continually in some way. And you should either fix your behavior, you should fix your life, you should fix your relationship, or you should leave. You should find a new woman potentially. So you need to watch out for those things and see if a man needs to watch out for those things. And then Based on your happiness and your well being, he's going to get a sense of validation that, yes, I'm on the right track, I'm doing a good job, I'm a good provider, I'm a good hero, I'm a good protector, et cetera. I'm a good man ultimately. And his validation is going to rise and he's going to feel that he's doing a good job. Now, if you are unhappy, he's going to automatically also, in a lot of cases, assume that it's because of him in some way. Now, if you're dealing with a broken man, he's not going to want to take that responsibility and he's going to instead make it your fault that you're the one, you're the reason why you're unhappy, or you're broken, that you're the broken one. And there are situations and unhealthy dynamics in relationships where if you have bad behavior, if you've been doing disrespectful masculine behavior in the past, you might have created unconsciously a downward spiral, a chaotic spiral with your man, where now you're disrespectful towards him, he's unloving towards you, and his unlovingness causes you to be more disrespectful. And you become caught in this negative swirl down until the relationship crumbles. And so you want to clean up your side of the street and own your part too, because of course, he may have contributed to that probably a lot. In some cases, however, you can shift it through your respect and through you showing up actually as happy. Because now he starts to see, oh, I'm doing a good job as a man, I'm valued as a man, I want to do that more and I want to become more loving for her. And then you start to want to be more respectful then, and you actually start to feel happier and you create an upward spiral potentially with your man based on that dynamic. So just to know that if you're chronically unhappy because of other things going on in your life, it can be helpful to find those things that you're grateful for in your relationship with your man, you're grateful for in your life to start to dance and sing and smile, to get your body into a different state. Just like in Disney movies where the princesses are naturally wanting to sing and express their heart and express their joy or their longing, even in those moments which tends to magnetize the men to them because that's pure feminine energy. So there's a lot of things you can do to actually shift yourself and get yourself into a happy state that unconsciously and automatically will cause your man to feel that he's doing a good job. Now the other keys with this is self care. Making sure you're taking care of your basics such as sleep, health, eating delicious nutritious foods, drinking clean water, basic supplementation, exercise, getting out in sunlight, and then also activities hanging around people that lift you up, environments that lift you up, activities that make you feel better afterwards, such as hobbies, going out in nature, scuba diving, skiing, swimming, building, crafts, painting, whatever that is for you that will help you also to get your cup full. So then when you're with your man, you're naturally overflowing. He feels that joy coming from you because you start to radiate and he starts to feel that he's doing a great job and he wants to do more of those things that make you happy. And you can create an upward spiral in your relationship. And then through sharing appreciation, when he does do things that make you happy, that's going to help him feel really good that you share how it makes you feel. In particular, thank you babe, so much for picking out the groceries from the car. It makes me feel so cared for when you do that. Or just simple thank you or with your body language, giving him a big smile, giving him a big hug, giving him a big kiss. Whenever he's serving you in some way, he solved some problem. He took the lead, he made a decision, he handled something for you that's going to continue to give him that sense of validation as well that makes him feel I am in the right relationship with the right woman. Before we get to our next point, if you haven't yet, I highly recommend taking our free Magnetize youe Man quiz to get a loving, long term and committed relationship with the man you desire. Especially if you want to master these principles. Especially, especially if you really want the relationship of your dreams and you want to last with a man who has perhaps started pulling away or lost interest or even rejected you and broke up with you. This will help you shift it. We'll give you some customized recommendations and strategies to get you on your journey and potentially get some personal coaching with me or with my wife to get you on the right track and really save and thrive your relationship moving forward. So click the link below to get that or go to our website. Magnetize your man. Very powerful gift. All right, the next principle here is that if a man can't lead you, the music stops. And what this means. If A man is in a relationship with a woman where he feels that she's not receptive to his leadership, that she's constantly resisting him, she's constantly challenging him, she's criticizing him, she's complaining, she's blaming him, she's shaming him. All the masculine energy principles that we teach that are pushing him away, then a man will feel that there's no place for him in this relationship. What is his purpose? Why is he here? If he can't lead you, then there's no dance. The music stops, the dance floor is empty. In order to have a healthy dance, you have to have two partners. And you have to have one partner leading and one partner for following the dance. If you have anything other than that, you don't really have a dance. You can have two people standing next to each other and maybe moving and. But that's more like friends. That's more observing each other as partners, as equals, which does not create passion, it does not create chemistry, because there is no polarity. Polarity is when you get opposites attracting. You get the masculine leadership and the feminine receptivity in communion in a natural, organized dance that moves through time and space on the dance floor to the beat of the music, to the beat of the tempo of your hearts. And letting him set that tempo, letting him make those decisions, letting him guide you, teach you, provide for you in those ways, give to you to make you happy, that's going to help him feel that he has a purpose now in the relationship, which is where a man gets his sense of happiness. And a man doesn't get his sense of happiness from knowing that he's loved and adored. A man gets his sense of happiness knowing that he has a mission, he has a purpose, he has a meaning in the relationship, and that he's respected and admired and trusted for those things. A woman gets a sense of happiness from knowing she's loved, she's adored, she's cherished, she's valued in that. And she's able to receive. She's able to receive from the person in her life who loves her, to give to her, to provide for her, to protect her. This is on a fundamental level, this is talking about feminine core energy and masculine core energy. So that when you are in a dance with a man, for you to be able to enjoy, to follow his leadership, to submit to his direction, assuming it feels good to you. Because if it doesn't feel good to you, that's not healthy. That's compliance. That's being a doormat or a people Pleaser. But to be able to follow a man's lead, to let him provide for you, to let him fill you with his provision, with the gifts that he wants to give you, of happiness, of joy, of making sure things are taken care of in your life, that's going to ultimately feel good to you as well. You're going to enjoy being on that dance floor. You're going to enjoy following his lead. And if he ever steps on your toes, if he's leading you in an uncomfortable way, you need to speak up about that. And you need to be able to share using magnetic feminine communication. That will teach you as well how to actually be in a dance verbally with a man, how to have these conversations where you can share your open heart. You can share your desires, your needs, your concerns, and he can listen to those. He can hear your heart. And he can naturally want to provide and give you those desires of your heart to make you a happy woman. Because again, that's where he's going to get his sense of value. So now you have this dance. Now you have the beautiful dance. You can simply receive, you can enjoy, you can follow, and you're receptive to where he wants to take you. And if at any time it doesn't feel good to you, you're able to speak up about that. So he can make adjustments. He feels good about making those adjustments. Not that he's your slave and that now you're taking the lead and yanking him around and trying to manipulate him, but that he can be inspired within himself to make those adjustments, to want to be a better lead, a better man for you, and lead your life forward together, take you on the journey with you, with each other together on that magic carpet ride, on the dance of your life, moving forward into eternity, where really you will be able to enjoy a life of pleasure, of happiness and of safety, because he's creating it from his masculine capabilities and you're filling it with your feminine energy, with your feminine joy, spirit, fill feelings that allows the space to have that warmth that it wouldn't have if he was just dancing by himself or if he didn't have somebody to lead. So now he has a purpose. And you also have a purpose in a beautiful way that God's designed it, where now you are both ultimately happy, connected to your course, and you have that beautiful polarity. So it's a very important piece to understand about men and understand about relationships for yourself. Moving forward. The next powerful principle is that he feels trusted by your open heart. So whenever you are sharing Your vulnerability with a man, which we know is so important to relationships and to a man, being attracted to a woman, when you show your heart to him, he feels great about that, assuming he's a healthy man, because it shows that you trust him. It's letting down your guard, it's letting off. Taking off the armor to expose something that feels soft and warm and precious to a man, which would be your heart. It's your naked heart, it's your exposed heart, the feelings that are inside, the unique personality that is you, the experiences you've had in your life. But primarily that's where your feminine energy lives, is in your heart, in your feelings, in your body. And to be able to show that to a man and trust a man with that, that's one of the greatest gifts you can give to a man. Because ultimately it shows that you do respect him and that you do trust him and that you do see him as your hero and allowing him to take that lead, to provide and to help your heart, to treasure your heart. Because now he's receiving it as the beautiful gift that it is. Not because you're forcing it on him by telling him what to do or making him responsible for all of your emotions and saying, why don't you fix this? You're making me sad. Or you're making me angry. Instead, to be able to share your heart and simply to be vulnerable in that and. And say, could I share something with you? I'm feeling pretty sad right now. I'm feeling some sadness coming up right now, and I don't know what to do. Now. He wants to help you now. He wants to make you feel better. Just like a little kitten coming out or a cat, when a little cat is purring or a cat is vulnerably looking up at you and wanting some food and saying, meow. Versus a cat who is like, that's going to have a different response from a man. That's what happens when your emotions are used to try to control a man, to try to get back at him in some way, or trying to manipulate him in some way versus simply being, I'm open, I'm exposed, and I don't know what to do. I need some help. I would like some help. Can you help me, please? That's a different energy that you'll activate within a man. You'll activate the hero instinct, which will draw him closer to you. So you could even use this analogy here. I've shared this image before of what the same woman can look like with an open, vulnerable, exposed Energy versus a closed off, blocked energy in her masculine. So the left image shows her open. Her face is open, her smile is shining, her eyes are open, she's expressed versus closed off, energetically blocked in her masculine energy. It creates a different response in a man. So what we want to do is help you to be able to open up your heart to a man. You go through a process like our magnetic feminine 90 day challenge, where you start to open your heart to a man, share vulnerable feelings that are coming up within you respectfully so that he wants to hear what's going on in your heart, he wants to help you, and then you see how he responds. You detach from the outcome and observe how he responds. Is he showing care for your heart or is he not showing care for your heart? He may take some time to get to connect to his own masculine energy, his own healthy, powerful energy inside of himself. So that's why we have the 90 days, because you're learning how to actually connect your feminine core. And then you're going to be able to inspire him into his masculine core. So give it some time, but eventually you'll start seeing that he will be stepping more into his masculine energy and serving you and wanting to protect your heart. And if he doesn't, over that period of time, you're likely dealing with a broken man. You need to walk away, unfortunately, because there is a percentage of men who are simply deeply broken or he has no care for you for whatever reason. And you need to get out of a situation like that because that's not healthy for you either. But likely he will start to shift because you are shifting. Masculine energy attracts feminine energy through the law of polarity, which states opposite energies attract. So when you're becoming more feminine, you're naturally going to attract more healthy masculine energy around you from your man and from others. And they're going to want to help you, they're going to want to protect you and make you happy in different ways because they now start to care about your heart, they value your heart. Rather than feeling that they're being attacked by your heart or being controlled by you, that you're trying to lead them, that you're in your masculine energy. That's just going to push men away, especially a masculine man, he's not going to want to be a part of that for very long. So your open heart and your vulnerability will actually bring him in instead. And the first principle here to understand about men is that your feminine energy magnetizes him. So ultimately we can go into so many different Situations and techniques and principles to help you attract a man and understand men, which we do in a lot of our advanced courses, in our coaching and personal coaching that we help women with every day to get the relationships of their dreams and get married and proposed to and married and have kids and families and just live the rest of their lives with the man they want. And one of the biggest keys that really is the umbrella that encompasses everything else is your feminine energy, which means all of the things we've talked about so far. Your feminine energy exists in your core, where your heart is, where your body is, those emotions, those sensations, that openness. And it's combined with your understanding of how to actually be in your feminine, in your behavior and in your words, in your communication with a man, rather than masculine energy. Because here's the thing, at the end of the day, being feminine is mostly about not being masculine. As long as we can get you to stop the masculine behavior out of fear. The parts inside of you that may have tried to control a man, to control a relationship, to give to him, to mother him, to try to make him happy, to try to meet his needs, to try to serve him and protect him, and to be critical, disrespectful of him. That's the main thing that's going to push you into masculine energy is those masculine behaviors that you may not even be aware of because a fish doesn't know that it's wet. And there's so many things that you may be unconscious of that you're like, I had no idea that I was living in the water. I had no idea there was a whole other world out here that I was actually in my masculine with men. So many women, when they first come to me and hear our teachings, they're shocked to learn that giving is masculine, receiving is feminine. So they're like, oh, well, I thought men liked when I cooked them dinners. I thought men liked when I was washing their socks or giving them massages or giving them blowjobs or trying to help them with their different situations, with their family or mental issues he was dealing with or health issues. I thought the more that I helped him, the more that he's going to love me. It's like, well, sorry, but the opposite is actually true, unfortunately, due to the law of polarity, which is a law of the universe, that the more you're giving to him, the more you're trying to make him happy, the more you're solving problems for him. You're the one in the masculine role in that moment. You're pushing him into the feminine role, which is going to feel horrible to his, his masculine core that we talked about before. He's going to feel disrespected, he's going to feel devalued as a man. He's going to feel ultimately like a little child and he's going to lose his masculine sense of self esteem. He may say it's nice in the moment, but over time he's going to start feeling less and less attracted to you, less and less devotional to you, less and less connected to the relationship and he's going to start wanting to pull away. He's like, I don't even know why, but I just don't really want to spend time around her. And I really like spending time around this other woman who I get to actually help her and I give her advice and I'm helping her with projects. I don't know why, but I just. And it's sad because she's so nice. This other woman's so nice. She does so many things to me, but I'm just for me, but I'm just not attracted to her anymore. And it would be similar to you if how you probably feel when you're around a man who is constantly requiring you to be the strong one to take care of things for him. You're going to start feeling devalued as a woman. You're going to start feeling that he doesn't see you as a princess, he doesn't see you as a prize, he doesn't see you as a queen. And he's treating you just like another buddy or like a worker or like a, like another man and saying, hey, do this for me, do that for me. Do this. I need this, I need this from you. Can you pay for the meal? Can you pay for this? And you're like, what, what am I, just a piggy bank to you? And yeah, essentially that's all he's going to see you as because there's nothing else for him to really connect to because you haven't showed him the other side of you because you're so busy being in your masculine energy. So we want to shift all of that. We want to end that so that you can start receiving from men. You can start having them investing into you, them leading you, them giving you advice and help and tips and provision and protection and being your hero, your superhero even. That's going to shift all your dynamics where now you're being cherished, you're being treated like the princess that you are. You're being seen as the gift, and it becomes easy for you. And that's the question I want to pose to you, is what if relationships could be simple, fun and easy? What if dating could be simple, fun and easy? And then ultimately, what if your life could be simple, fun and easy? I want you to sit with that because ultimately it can. It definitely can. We see it every day, and it starts with. With you connecting to who you really are as a woman. Because we're not trying to change you here. We're not trying to make you something different. We're helping you be who you really are at your core and being in your feminine energy, which will then attract all those things to you that men will want to serve you, they will want to give to you, they will want to protect you, they will want to make you happy. Because now they're interacting you from a different with. With you from a different place, from the core of polarity, which means that they're needing to feel your admiration and respect, which means they're going to want to give more and help you more, which is going to make them feel even more like a hero. And you get into this powerful upward spiral rather than just having a neutral relationship with a man or a downward spiral where now he's pulling away and pulling back, and then you become more needy and desperate, which ends up showing up as masculine energy and being disrespectful, and the relationship just tanks. So we want to avoid that as well. So now we're going to be answering some questions that have came in, and I'm going to help you customize this for yourself as well. So start posting those questions here and would love to do that for you. So let's see here. Kiana said, is it inappropriate for my boyfriend's female supervisor to buy him lunch and vice versa? Let's just play this out, okay? If your boyfriend's female supervisor is attracted to your boyfriend, if she wants your boyfriend, she's actually doing the wrong things, right? She's doing the opposite of what we're teaching you here. She's being in her masculine energy. She's trying to court your boyfriend. She's trying to give to him, she's providing for him. So what's going to happen because of that? Likely your boyfriend is going to feel no attraction for her, and he may even at some level, feel disrespected and feel. Feel like he's being treated like a child. Now it's different because she's his boss. So in a sense, she does have Power over him. She does have control over him and she is in the masculine role, so he's in the feminine role in relation to her. But the good thing is that's likely not going to create any attraction or chemistry. And if anything, it's going to eliminate any chance that there will be chemistry and passion in that relationship, especially from your boyfriend's side. Now, should you be concerned about that? Is it inappropriate? It may be. I personally wouldn't be so concerned about that if I were you. I would focus more on increasing your feminine energy, letting your boyfriend do things for you. So let's say your boss is giving your boyfriend a bonus. Well, how would that be? If you're. Let's say if your boyfriend's boss was like, oh, I really like him, I'm going to give him a $500 bonus for Christmas or for his birthday or something. And then he turns around and says, oh, thank you, thank you for giving me a bonus. I'm going to go and give it to Kiana. I'm going to take this bonus. I'm going to go buy Kiana a romantic dinner out. I'm going to give this to my girlfriend because I actually love my girlfriend. I adore my girlfriend. I'm passionate about her because she's in her feminine energy. I feel like a man with her. I feel like I can give to her rather than be receiving like I do with my boss, where I'm in the feminine role. And so imagine what that would be like, that he's taking that, those. Those gifts that the. The boss is giving to him and then giving them straight to you. That's the dynamic I would focus on creating. Where you are receiving from him. You're embracing his provision and encouraging that through your appreciation, through magnetic feminine communication, through your magnetic feminine polarity that draws him in. And now you have a great relationship and you don't ever have to worry then if any other woman are showing. Are showing interest in him, if they're trying to pursue him or chase him in some way, it's like, who cares? Like, I know I'm the prize. You're the feminine. You're the queen, you're the princess. And your man treats you like that every day because of who you're being. And he just keeps giving and giving and giving and you just keep receiving and sharing your appreciation and sharing your respect for him and honoring him and revering him and treating him like a hero and treating him like your man and seeing him as your hero, seeing him as your man. And why Would he leave that? Why would he ever go risk a different situation? Why would he cheat on you with a situation where he's getting all of his needs met as a man? He feels his full purpose with you. So then you don't have to worry, because that's not a fun life if you have to constantly be anxious and uncertain about, does this man really love me? Does he adore me? Is he looking at other women? Is he talking to other women on Instagram? That's not a fun life. You don't want to live that way, so you don't have to live that way. When you use what we teach you, it's a different way of life. Now you're connected to your core. Now you're being the prize. Rather than trying to give men prizes, rather than trying to give them things and, and make them like you, you're just. They're liking you because of who you're being now. Because feminine energy is about being masculine energy is about doing and trying to accomplish things and make some outcome happen. You're simply working on who you are being, connecting your feminine core, which you're doing right now. You're investing in yourself, you're building your education, you're growing, you're learning new principles. It's all focusing back on yourself again. You're receiving, right? You're receiving. And then you get filled up and now you start to radiate. You're like the flower to the. To the honeybees, you're the flame to the moths, you're the sun to the planets. And it's a much easier life to be the sun to the planets rather than having to be the planet constantly orbiting around the sun and constantly having to think about what is the sun doing? What does the sun want? No, you are the sun. Just be it radiate. And that's what we teach you here. So hope that helps. Kiana and the bank said, this is very informative content. Glad you're liking it. Merch said, I really miss this. Glad you're back here. And she said, please make content for women who has no man yet. Yeah. So if you don't have a man that's beautiful in the right place, because what we're teaching you here is fundamental principles of feminine energy, which is actually better for you to start mastering before you're with a man, because then you can come into the relationship already having a foundation of how to actually be in that relationship in a way that draws him in, that makes him stay, that keeps him close to you. So you don't have to get on this roller coaster ride with men. So you're naturally showing up in the relationship having been the queen, being the queen, being the princess for him. And also you're understanding here, what you're learning is fundamental principles of masculine psychology and female psychology, but male psychology, so that you can understand men when you're interacting with them online or in at an event, or if you go on a date with a guy, you understand already male psychology, you understand the principles that we're teaching you here of what men actually want and what activates them so that it's easy for you. You know it, you know how to do it. You know how to be vulnerable, you know how to be respectful, you know how to be appreciative, you know how to communicate your feelings, bring the energy back to yourself and detach from the outcome and all the other powerful principles we teach you here and help you to master. Because ultimately your life is going to be better because that's the ultimate treasure that you're getting here, is who you become rather than what kind of man you're going to attract in your life or what kind of relationship you're going to have. It's all going to come to you because of who you're being. And you don't even have to think about it at that point. It's just a natural byproduct, a natural attraction that comes from who you are, who you are being, which is the most powerful thing. But yes, we also have lots of content and I can go into more on specifics and techniques, on how to build your social life and how to polish up your online dating profiles. We have a whole course that we teach our women called Magnetic Feminine Online Dating, on how to actually show up in your feminine online and how to craft your profile and which photos to choose. Similar to some of those photos we were mentioning before, like these, how to choose the feminine photo rather than the masculine photo. And the masculine and the feminine energy behind the photos is key to what we're looking for as well. So we want to help you embrace the feminine radiance, the feminine energy. And it's again, it's not about makeup, it's not about the actual appearance, it's about the energy behind it. Because you can still wear lots of makeup. I mean, I have, I have an opinion. If you're wearing too much makeup, it does become masculine at some point because it is putting on a shield, it's putting on an armor. You're kind of protecting yourself and you're putting on a performance versus maybe a little less makeup with more radiance, more feminine energy that's going to be much more attractive to a man. And so that's what we teach you here as well. So a lot of principles like that that go into the online dating and as well as how you show up when you're out and building social media, building your social life, going to social activities, events using meetup.com or facebook.com or Google, finding events to go to in your area, hobbies, dance classes and social groups, social gatherings, hiking groups, etc. Where you can be meeting men naturally. And then all these principles can start to come into play when you're interacting with these men. How do you radiate when you show up and when you're having conversations, how do you communicate from your feminine? So we're going to teach all of that as well. And so let's see what other great questions we have here. Janelle said, the guy I've been talking to has been opening up more and I've been implementing these methods. It feels so good. Yeah, you're welcome, Janelle. Because what happens is when you use these principles, you're being very open, you're being very vulnerable. First and foremost, you're being authentic. And of course you're naturally going to wake up his masculine energy and he's going to want to care for you and provide for you and make you happy. And you're also encouraging him to open up in different ways to be more real and authentic with you because of who you're being and because of you using that type of feminine communication, it helps him to feel safe and feel trusting for him to share more of his thoughts around things and be real with you about his maybe some of his desires and his goals and his plans and how he views the relationship. So men are much more likely to be real with you because you're starting by being real with them, even if it feels scary, because real vulnerability will feel scary. Otherwise it wouldn't be vulnerability. It would be just doing your day, going about your day. Because we don't tend to feel very vulnerable when we're just having a normal conversation around the weather, for example. But if you're starting to talk about your feelings and being real about that or some deeper topics or your past or some issues, you've been having problems that you're having, but you share it respectfully so that he can understand your problems and actually want to help you with your problems, which is masculine sharing problems is feminine solving problems is masculine. So when you share those problems with him in the right way, respectfully using our feminine communication principles, it allows him to. To now want to help, to empathize with you. Stephen Covey had a great saying which is, seek first to understand before seeking to understand, to be understood. Seek first to understand before seeking to be understood. And what you're doing here is you're first understanding yourself, really understanding yourself of what are you actually feeling in your body, what's going on, what are the sensations? And then how can you actually share that with a man? How can you open up and share that with him so that he can understand you as well and want to help? And Janelle also said, should you be talking to just one guy at a time? I don't recommend that unless that guy is your boyfriend or your husband. If he's not your boyfriend or your husband, by all means talk to as many men as you want to. I encourage that because you don't know which guy is going to be your husband and you only need one. But you have to open up. You have to open up the potentials, open up the floodgates. You have to be that flower to the honeybees, you have to be that sun to the planets, you have to be that flame to the moths in order to know which one is going to be right for you, which one is going to come in that you're attracted to and interested in, and who is also devotional towards you and who is chasing you, pursuing you, making you feel like a woman, making you happy in different ways, wanting to make you happy. Because at the end of the day, the only thing that matters is, is a man showing care for your heart or is he not showing care for your heart? We don't want to complicate this too much. And you might be in a situation with a man as well where you're like, well, you know, but he has a lot of issues with his mom right now and he's really busy at work. And, you know, he has a bad history of alcoholism in his family. And so he's very sensitive around emotional topics. Well, it's kind of just excuses, blah, blah, blah. That's kind of how I look at it. It's all excuses for him, really. Because at the end of the day all that matters is is he showing care for your heart or is he not showing care for your heart? It almost doesn't really matter. Why? Because you don't want to get caught in those excuses or whether he really likes you or doesn't like you, you have to look to his behavior, you have to detach from all that, detach from the outcome and look towards his behavior. How does he actually treat you? He may not be treating you really well right now. That's okay. We're going to help you with that. We're going to help teach you the principles. We're going to give you the 90 day challenge. We're going to walk you through step by step and customize exactly what to say and do with him. That will cause him to shift and will cause him to be in his healthy masculine and want to help you, want to make you happy and devote to you. And you just have to take the steps. You have to connect to your feminine core. You have to learn how to be respectful to a man. You have to learn how to be appreciative. You have to learn how to be vulnerable in the right way. And that's going to cause him to shift over time. He may not shift right right away because he's also potentially not fully connected to his masculine core. So he needs a little bit of time to shift because he's. It's like you're learning a new dance here and you're learning a new language. And he also needs to learn that dance to some extent. He needs to learn that language to some extent. He'll learn it from you. He'll learn it by observing you, by learning how to actually treat a woman, a real woman, a woman who's being connected to her feminine core and who's being authentic in her expression. That's going to inspire him into his natural masculine because he knows what to do. Every man has the fundamental wiring deep inside of them, even deeply broken men, even a deeply broken man deep inside, he has the ability to be a hero for a woman, for you. Now, that pain may take a while for him to heal those wounds inside of him. Those issues may take a while for him to heal. And you don't also want to wait around for a guy that's never shifting. So if a man does reveal himself to be a broken man, you do need to be willing to walk away. But likely he's going to shift in a healthy way and he's going to start showing you that care and devotion and then you're going to have an amazing relationship. But you need to give it some time. You need to get the right tools, you need to get some practice, you need to get some coaching so that ultimately it becomes easy. Once you've learned the dance, then you can just enjoy the dance. Then you could just be on the dance floor being, like, looking at those shows. Dancing with the stars. You can be on the dance floor. Dancing with the stars, dancing in the stars, dancing around the stars. You'll simply be dancing. That's the important thing. And enjoying your life and enjoying your relationship, because then it's easy. You've learned the principles, you master the principles. You've gotten coaching just like the best dancers in the world. They've worked with coaches, they've gotten training, they've gone to classes, they've learned how to do it so then they can just relax and then they can just enjoy. So it may be a little bit of effort in the beginning. You have to practice these things. You have to learn these things. You need a little tweaks, and there's things you may be doing you're not even aware of that are sabotaging your relationships or sabotaging your connection with him, because he feels disrespected in different ways. And you didn't even realize that was the disrespectful. And once we can shift those things and become aware of them and move into the feminine opposite of those things, now you. You just flow. Now it becomes easy. It's. It's the natural flow of your feminine currency, your feminine frequency. And you can just enjoy at that point. So that's where we want to get you to the bank. Said being feminine is a beautiful gift. Yep. It's so true. And it's really the only gift you need to give a man. You don't need to buy him anything for Christmas. You don't need to buy him anything for Valentine's Day. You don't need to solve his problems. You don't need to introduce him to important people. All you need to do is be in your feminine. And that's the greatest gift you'll give him. Because now you've given him the gift of having a purpose. It given him the gift of knowing that he's valuable for somebody, that he's a hero for somebody, and he's seen and. And valued for being that hero. Why would he want to lose that? Why would he want anything else in his life? That's the core for a man. And that's why men will go to die on the battlefield and they'll build companies and they'll do all these crazy things because ultimately they just want to feel that they have a purpose, that there's a meaning to their life and that somebody's life is better because of them. And that could be you. That you could be that woman that he feels it's all worth it, all the work, all the sacrifice. It was all worth it because of you, because he gets to have you in your life, in his life, wrapped up with a little bow. That's what he ultimately wants. Salson said, I want to plan a surprise activity for my boyfriend since it's his birthday coming up. Speaking of birthdays, was just going to be a simple boat cruise around New York. Is this bad? Is this me being in the masculine role? Technically, yes. Technically, anytime you're planning things, especially without his input, it is in the masculine energy. It is the masculine role, especially if you're giving it to him, if you're paying for it, if you're creating that experience for him to try to make him happy. So this is a. This is a sensitive topic, and I know a lot of people have different opinions on that, and this may be shocking for you to hear, but ultimately, the reason why is a masculine man does not want that. A masculine man does not value that. It may be nice, but it's not giving him what he ultimately wants, which is to feel respected and to feel that he can be a hero for you. Because he can't really be a hero if you're the one providing for him, if you're the one planning all these amazing experiences and he just gets to enjoy and receive. Now he's in the feminine energy. He's in the feminine role. Now, I'm not saying you can't ever plan things like this, but you want to do it conjunction with him. So ideally, I would, rather than do this as a surprise party, I would actually co. Co plan it with him. So what I would do, if I was in your situation, I would have a conversation with him such as, hey, babe, could I share something with you? Sure. Well, I was actually feeling that would be really fun to do something special for your birthday, and I wanted to see how you feel about that and just see what he says. Because he may say, oh, no, babe, I don't. I don't want to do anything for my birthday. I mean, if we could just hang out, that's enough for me. And he may be really authentic with that. Like, I don't want to do any elaborate stuff, like, I just want to hang out with you. Let's go out to eat somewhere. And you say, can I offer a suggestion? Or can I offer an idea I have? And you say, sure, what is it? And say, well, I was thinking what could be really fun is we could. I was feeling. You always Want to say I was feeling rather than I was thinking I was feeling. It could be really fun to go on a boat ride. Can I ask if you have any thoughts about that? And then let him see. See what he says. And he may actually say, yeah, that sounds great. Let's do it. I'll book the tickets today and let him handle it. Let him set it up. Now he's doing it for you. Really. He doesn't really want it, but now he knows that you want it, that it sounds fun for you. And he's like, I want to do this for you. I want to. I want to set this up for you and make you happy. Not that you're making me happy, because now I feel like a little boy. Now I feel like a child that you're planning all these. These parties for me and giving all these things to me and. But where's my purpose there? Now I'm just in the feminine receiving role, and I don't really get to contribute and nor did I even really want this thing. And now I feel that maybe I owe you something now or now. Now I'm obligated to give. Give you an amazing experience or whatever, you know, so you can just get into these tough conversations here. The ultimate gift you need to give him is ultimately you. You are the gift. If you were to give him something else, because we get this question a lot from women. What do I give my man for his birthday? Or what do I give him for Christmas or Valentine's Day? If you're going to give him something. If you need to give him something, write him a letter. Write him a letter. Put it in a card if you want to. You can buy a card, it's fine. And then just share in that letter all the things you respect about him, all the things you admire about him, all the things you appreciate about him. That's a much more powerful gift to him than if you were to buy him something. Because ultimately it's about you. Ultimately, we're bringing the energy back to you, and you're simply being vulnerable with him, and you're sharing your heart and expressing to him all the ways that you see him as a hero. That's going to be much more powerful for your relationship than if you were to plan some surprise party or some getaway or give him. Buy him a new watch or something. It's not going to do anything for him unless he is. He could be a more feminine man. You know, if he's a more feminine man, then he's gonna be like Yay. A surprise birthday. I'm gonna go on a boat. This is amazing. Honey. Thanks for giving me the princess treatment. But that's if he's a more feminine guy or if he's a broken man. He may also prefer that because he's like, oh, this is another way you just get to give me things. And okay, that's great, but I'm gonna go. Also, I'm still gonna cheat on you. I'm still gonna be abusive in some way or I'm still going to be talking to these other women. That's if he's a broken man. Hopefully he's not broken. You probably wouldn't feel the desire to do this great experience for him if he wasn't. If he was a broken man. But you want to watch out for that too, because sometimes there's a Stockholm syndrome. And some women get caught in these abusive situations and they still keep giving to a guy even though he's giving nothing back to them. And in fact, he's giving them nothing but pain and hurt and abuse. And they still give to him because they're still hoping he's going to change. And they still, oh, but I love him. Well, that's dangerous. And we want to watch out for that. So I don't think you're in that situation either. But Salson. But I wanted to mention that too, because that's important. Hope that was helpful. Mary Said, my partner, who I've been with for three years, still talks on the phone with his ex girlfriend from 15 years ago. They broke up. Isn't this wrong? There's not really any right or wrong, Mary. What's more important is bringing it back to yourself. Feminine is about internal focus. The masculine energy is about external focus. It's about, well, what is he doing? Who's he talking to? Why is he talking to her? Does he like her more than she. He likes me. Does he still love her? That's you being in your masculine. You're focused on him. We want to bring the energy back to you. How are you feeling about the situation? What emotions are coming up for you and your body? That's your feminine core. That's where your feminine energy lives. And once you. You can't do anything. You can't do anything with your feminine communication unless you first tapped into your body, because that's where your feminine energy lives. So how are you supposed to communicate in a feminine way if you don't even know how you're feeling or what you're feeling? So we do a lot of exercises with our women, in our courses, in our coaching to help them connect to their feminine core and get clear on what emotions are actually there, present in your body. Because some women aren't even used to that because they've been living in their masculine for so long, up in their heads, thinking about everything and worrying and being anxious and psychoanalyzing their men. That's not healthy. And that's not, that's not going to be good for you long term because you're in your masculine energy, which you as a woman have a feminine core, which means you're going against your own natural design. It's friction. It's like somebody threw sand in the engine. Your engine is getting beat up because you're not functioning the way God designed you, which is from your feminine core. So we need to get you back into your feminine, feel what you're feeling, connect to that and then to share that with him. How does that make you feel when he's still talking to his ex from 15 years ago? And then once you're clear on that, you can have a conversation with him. I call it a magnetic feminine conversation that we can help you script out, but basically we customize it for you because this is a delicate conversation often and it's a very critical, important piece to know how to share these things in your relationship or otherwise they can get caught off and derailed very easily. But you need to be able to then share with him what are you feeling in a respectful way, in a way that's not penetrating him energetically, that's not making him wrong, that's not blaming him, that's not even making it about him at all. Again, you're making about yourself, how are you feeling? And you're sharing that respectfully through things like asking permission and being vulnerable and pausing and a lot of the other principles that we teach that you can then share that experience for you in a way where he understands it. He understands what the real problem is. He can empathize with the problem and, and then let him solve it. Then ask him for help, Give him the space to now take the leadership role and be the hero for you to make it better. It doesn't matter how he makes it better. All that matters is there's a problem and he needs to fix it. You would like him to fix it. He doesn't need to fix it because that's controlling him. You would like him to fix it. And let's say if he doesn't fix it over time, if you've shared vulnerably you've used everything we've taught you. You've done the 90 day challenge, and he's still acting like this. He's still doing those behaviors that he knows causes you to feel a certain way. Then he's not showing care for your heart. And he may be a broken man. He may not really care about you. And you need to be willing to walk away if that's the case. But we're going to give him a chance. We're going to give your relationship a shot to actually shift it so that you can have all the desires of your heart. You can feel safe. You don't have to worry about him talking to other women. He'll reassure you in some way or he'll stop talking to her on his own because he wants you to feel better. He wants you to feel secure in the relationship, and he wants to make you happy. So he'll make the shift on his own. You won't have to force him into it. You won't have to manipulate him into it, or you won't have to constantly be trying to look at his phone to see if he's still sending messages to her. You just trust that he's caring about your heart. He's got you. You're in the dance together, and now you can just relax and enjoy. And if it does come up again, you share your feelings around that. You have another magnetic feminine conversation. And hopefully he'll shift then. And if he continues doing these things that are hurtful to you, then you have to probably be willing to walk away, unfortunately. But hopefully it won't get to that point. I don't think it will, but that would be the process for that, Mary. So I hope that's, that's helpful. And the next question here is from Karen. Karen said, I'm practicing being in my feminine. Everything is great. He is always trying to please me, but is never interested in intimacy. What is wrong? So there could be a couple things going on here, Karen. The first thing I would say is there's not enough passion yet. You may be starting to become in your feminine being, in your feminine energy, which is great. And he's starting to be in his masculine. But we haven't, we haven't reached the critical threshold yet. Because again, with the law of polarity, if you guys are like this, if, if you're neutral, you're like, sort of in your feminine energy and he's sort of in his masculine, it still may not be enough passion for you both to, for him to want to have sex. With you, to feel that, that chemistry and that passion, to even want to bridge that gap in a relationship. But if you start to become even more feminine, even more vulnerable, respectful, and all the other things that we teach you, how to connect your feminine core and share your feelings, etc. Ask him for help, share appreciation. And he then is going to shift more into his masculine energy. Now the passion's really high. Now you have extreme polarity where he feels like the man, you feel like the princess. He's just wanting to serve you, he's wanting to lead, he's wanting to give you his gifts and penetrate you energetically. First before physically. And now you're, now it's on. Now the game is on and the passion will ramp up. And if it doesn't, if you really ramped up your feminine energy and he's still not really chasing you, pursuing you, moving into his masculine energy. You got to give it some time. Again, you got to give it some time because he may not do it right away. You got to have at least depends on how long you've known him for, how long you've been together. You got to do the 90 day challenge. You could do it as a 60 day challenge or a 30 day challenge, but you have to give it that period of time and then give it a chance to shift that way. And if he still doesn't shift over that period of time, using what we teach you and really going deep into it, getting the advanced principles, really mastering this area of your life, because it's going to make all of your relationships better in your life, not just your relationship with him. Your whole life's going to improve once you really start this journey. And if he still doesn't shift, he may be a broken man. He may be a broken man. Maybe he can't, maybe he can't get it up. I mean, he's got to work on that. That's for him to fix, not for you to fix. But he can't get it up. Maybe he's, there's, there could be so many different ways somebody can be broken. You know, he may have deep trauma, maybe he was sexually abused as a child, maybe he's confused about his own sexuality. There could be a lot of issues that a man could be dealing with and that's not up for you to fix. At the end of the day, all that matters is is a man showing care for your heart or is he not showing care for your heart? And if you're in a committed relationship and you want sex with your partner, which is natural and beautiful. And he's not able to give you that for whatever reason, either because he doesn't want to or because he doesn't feel the passion and attraction or because he's broken in some way. You got to be willing to walk away because you want to be in a relationship where a man cares for your heart. And that can involve all the different ways that. That. That you want to be happy, that you can. You will feel happy with a man. And if he can't provide that for you, you have to value yourself enough to get into a situation where you can be fully provided for by a man. Now, if. The other thing I'll mention is that if before you walk away, you want to make it very clear why you're walking away, you have to have these conversations with him, or we'll help you with this. How to have these magnetic, feminine conversations. Because it's a sensitive topic, to share your desires with him, to share how you're feeling around this topic with him so that he understands, so he doesn't feel shamed, he doesn't feel blamed, he doesn't feel emasculated, but he feels like, I understand where you're at, babe. I want to help. I want to. I want to make you happy. Like, let's. Let's work on this. Or I'm going to work on this. Or I'm going to get some. Get some help. Or let's maybe let's go. Go do something together. Let's take a class together. Maybe get some counseling. Even though I'm not a big fan of counseling, that typically doesn't shift things a lot because they don't address the fundamental polarity, which means we need to address you getting to your feminine core. That's going to inspire him into his masculine core. Unless he's a broken man, but we need to get that he's going to try to fix it. In short, if he really cares for you and if he's a healthy man, connect to his masculine core, he's going to want to shift it. Especially once you've done the process and once you've communicated this to him in the right way. And if he doesn't shift, he may not be. It may not be right. So. Yeah, you said as in he never initiates. Oh, you said as in he never initiates intimacy. Yeah, well, that's still part of it, but I would share your. Your feelings around that. That's a big piece. It's basically the same thing. You need to share your feelings around that. And have that conversation with him using feminine communication so that he understands and that he wants to help you. That's just something he can start working on and be your hero with rather than being passive and maybe in the feminine. All right, so let's see. I'll answer a couple more here. The water goddess said, my child's father started to only come around for sex. I stopped this form of our connection and told him, I'm dating for marriage and I don't want to be a booty call. And I went silent, but he did, too. Did I make the right choice? And how do I make him switch out of that energy? It sounds like your conversation you had with him may have been a little bit masculine. It almost sounds like an ultimatum. So there's different ways to have that conversation with him that will help him to feel good about it and not to feel like you are giving him an ultimatum. Like, hey, either you marry me or there's no sex. Like, I'm looking for marriage. Either you marry me or I can't. I'm not having sex with you anymore. And then he now feels like you're trying to control him. He feels like you're trying to lead him and manipulate him. And that's not going to feel good to him. So. But there's other ways to have that conversation. Sharing your feelings around it, being vulnerable, asking for help respectfully, that allows him to now understand what you're dealing with and want to help on his own and set a boundary with himself. But yeah, if a man still isn't shifting, you need to set a boundary at some point. Like if a man is not treating you with care, you need to set a boundary with yourself. You need to either need to temporarily distance yourself from the relationship or you need to step away from the relationship. So that's correct what you did in that sense, because that's the feminine way of setting a boundary, is you set a boundary with yourself. Like, I can't be in a situation like this. I don't feel like this is good for me. This isn't good for my heart to continue like this. And I need to get some space or I need to take a break. That would be a feminine way of doing it that makes him understand and not feel like you're actually commanding him. What to do? Like, you need to stop or you can't approach me like this, or you got to stop trying to have sex with me or else I'm going to get very angry with you. That's not going to typically help him to want to give you what you desire. So hope that helps, but you are. So you were mostly on the right track with that water goddess. You may just need to shift how you communicate that with him, but the action is okay. You know, if a man isn't shifting over time, you use the 90 day challenge, then you, you should walk away because he's not showing care for your heart. But I would recommend going back. If you've already gone through our 90 day challenge, go back through it if you're really serious about this guy again. To get that, you can take our free quiz, click the link in the description below or go to our website, magnetizeyourman.com get that. Start the path, take this seriously. Begin the journey for yourself. And then hopefully that will shift your relationship and you'll get everything you desire. But you need to go back to basics with that. If a guy's not really showing you that care and if he doesn't, somebody else will ultimately, because you're becoming the prize through that process, through the steps that will lead you through. So just said, oh, well, first I'll share. Mitch Mc said, God bless you and your family. Thank you, Mick. I appreciate that. And just said, what could the guy's thought process be when he's an ex and asks you how you view the relationship that you two had? Could he be considering getting back together? Yeah, it's possible. I'd say anytime an ex is asking you about your relationship together, he's probably inquiring. He's testing the waters. To me, that's what it is, just testing the waters to see, are you still interested? In what capacity? Are you still interested? Could it, could it be a good fit again? Could we try this again? Should we try it again? So he may be sort of trying that out. It's not really fair to you because it could sort of be a tease if you really do want to get back together with him, that you're like wondering, oh, does he want to get back together now? Well, he's not really asking me out. He's just asking me these questions over text. And I don't know what that's all about. So what I would say is if X is asking those questions and it feels good to you, then go ahead and answer them for him. Have a conversation about that for him. And. And then you guys can talk about that. So. And then you could also have questions as well. So you can ask him this question. You can say, could I have some clarity on something? And he would say, sure. And say, May I ask if you're asking me these questions because you're wanting to get back together, or I would even just say could ask what the reason is why you want to talk about that. And that's fine to ask a guy. It's respectful. I'm a big fan of always regularly asking a man for clarity on things. So everyone here, you should be asking men regularly. Can I ask for some clarity on that? Or can I ask what you meant by this? Or may I. May I. May I have some more. May I hear more of your thoughts on what you meant by this? Whenever a guy says something, so that way you don't have to ask me these questions all the time, you can actually ask him. If you do it in the right way, you got to do it respectfully and ask permission first. So that way he feels good about giving it to you again, masculine provision, and then you can receive it, and then he'll give you that clarity, hopefully, that you want. What is his reason for asking that? Why? You can ask. You can ask him that, and then he'll tell you. Men will typically be pretty honest with you. And then, of course, whatever he says, you still want to look at his behavior over time. Is he showing care for your heart or is he not showing care for your heart? And you could also ask him other questions as well. You can ask him for help with things, ask for his advice, ask for his tips, ask for whatever you want, because that's encouraging his masculine giving from his hero instinct. As long as you do it respectfully and as long as you're doing it vulnerably with the right energy, you can essentially ask a man for anything. And we've had women ask guys for all kinds of stuff, and you'd be surprised what guys will actually say yes to and want to give these women who ask respectfully because it feels good for both parties. It's just like a little child. So I have a daughter, and she constantly will ask for things, but she doesn't always ask nicely. Sometimes she'll say, I want it, I want a drink, Or I want this cookie, Or I want this, I want that, I want this. And then I'm training her feminine communication, saying, can you ask nicely? Say, can I have. Can I have a cookie, please? Or can I have this? Or can you help me with this? And then I want to give it to her. Then it's exciting to me to give it to her from my masculine core rather than feeling like I'm being told what to do by the high chair. Tyrant of like, do this for me, Daddy, do that, do this to do that. And like, now I'm her slave, right? I don't want to be her slave. I want to be her father. And that means that there's a give and take, just like within a relationship. There's an exchange of requests, asking for help, sharing desires, and then me wanting to give her the desires of her heart, wanting to make her happy. And it's the same dynamic in relationships, because it's a parent child dynamic is very similar to a masculine, feminine dynamic in some ways, which is you're letting him protect you, you're letting him lead you, you're letting him provide for you, and you're being open and vulnerable. There's some similar aspects to that, but it's really more of a like a leader and a follower type of energy. But that can help you get some ideas around this, to think about how these dynamics play out. Because a lot of you listening here, you've probably had children in your life or known children, and you've understood some of these dynamics, but you've never applied them, some of these principles to your relationships, especially to a relationship with a man, because you're like, well, I don't want a man to treat me like a child. Well, there's a difference between being childlike and childish. Being childlike can actually be very attractive and magnetic because it's open, it's vulnerable, it's playful in a lot of ways, it's respectful. Oftentimes, childish is complaining, shouting, throwing tantrums, making about him getting angry, making about the other person being immature. So we don't want that. That's actually a lot of masculine energy. So these are little distinctions to help wrap your mind around how to actually embrace that open, pure side inside it, part inside of you that is naturally vulnerable and respectful, rather than trying to just manipulate him and change him and complain to him and criticize him, get in these arguments and get into these spats. We can shift that so you never have an argument with him again, essentially. And these principles are very powerful in that sense. But I hope that was helpful for you, Jess. Let me just see if there's any other final questions here. I mean, there's a lot, but I'm gonna see if there's any logistical stuff I can answer. Assassin said, wow, so helpful. Thank you so much. You're welcome. The Durber said, is it okay to say I feel insecure when. Partly, yes, partly. That's a good statement. It's almost feminine communication. However, what's more important is to simply sit a little bit longer with the insecurity piece, because it's very easy to go from, I feel insecure when you, when you are doing this, when you're doing that. Now you're making it back about him. So you had it almost right. You're making about yourself for a little bit, but then you immediately turn it back on to him. And what he's doing now, he's more likely to feel blamed and criticized and judged. So instead, when you simply say, I know I'm feeling insecurity right now. And it's always. It's only about yourself. It's not about him. Now that now you're in your feminine now, that's magnetic. So typically you would say something like, could I share a feeling I'm having with you? Or may I share something with you? And he would say, sure. And then you say, I notice I'm feeling some insecurity right now. And then just pause, put the duct tape on your mouth, close it. And then let him feel that. Let him feel the insecurity inside of you. Now it's vulnerable. Now it's. Now you're simply in the vulnerability. I'm feeling insecure right now. You could even say something like, I'm feeling insecure right now. I'm feeling some insecurity right now, and I don't know what to do. So you could just let it sit. That's it. But now he's getting to feel you. And now he's feeling your. Your open heart. And now he wants to help you from that place rather than feeling. Rather than something like. Which is almost what it would sound like, you're making me feel insecure. Now you're blaming him. Now you're. You're trying to criticize and control him. You need to stop that. You're making me feel insecure, which is also putting you into the victim role, and it's putting him into the perpetrator role, which isn't going to create polarity. Exactly. But then when he asks you about it, when he says, why are you feeling insecure right now? Then of course you can share more of what the problem is. But you want to be objective about it. Try to make it about yourself as much as possible. And so you could share with him the facts. Well, when you said yesterday that you didn't want to. You didn't want me to be around you and your parents because you weren't ready for that yet, which is a fact. He can't argue with exactly what he said, that's what he said. And then you can add on your judgments around it. And I'm telling myself a story that that may mean that you don't really see us as a long term potential or you don't really. You don't really see me being part of your family at any time or that I'm maybe not good enough for your family and I don't know what to do or can I ask what you think about that? And now you've brought it back to yourself, but you've made it clear what the problem is. You shared it with him objectively and now he's much more likely to understand and to want to help you with that than when before he was feeling like you're judging him. I feel insecure when you, when you don't bring me around your parents. I feel insecure when you don't bring about. It's not horrible, but it's also not really feminine. It's still, there's some judgment, there's some blame in there and there's some attempts at leading him. So we want to shift that. You almost got it, Gerber. You're on the right track. We're going to help you get to all the distinctions here, but it's a process. It's like learning a new language. Once you learn a new language, it's fluent and it just flows out of you and it's easy and it's natural and you just want to do it. Tia said yes. Plus it's good training. Politeness. Yes, basic politeness goes a long way. Why? Because it's respectful. And remember, the deepest need of a man is to feel respected. So being polite with a man, which is mostly just not telling him what to do, and none of the masculine behaviors that we teach you, not criticizing, blaming, shaming him, etc, trying to mother him, it goes a long way. And that could be some of the only things you need to do for a man to feel like, wow, this is my woman I could see myself being with the rest of my life. It's just easy with her. I feel good when I'm with her. It's natural. Just said thank you and invest in yourselves. Yes. So true. Thank you for the Clarity. You're welcome. Karen, 25 years married. Congratulations. That's amazing. All right, we're going to wrap it up for today again. 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